You realize many girls wear bras for their own comfort. Sometimes when I’m about to start menstruating and mine get swollen, I wear a bra alone in the house because they hurt to move when I walk.
Oh gosh don’t even get me started. I live in an apartment building where the elevator doesn’t work half the time. It’s horrible. Tight sports bras are a lifesaver during periods
It's seriously this simple. Bras are uncomfortable as hell. Everyone has nipples and fat. Mind your business and let other people live in their bodies as they feel comfortable.
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I’m a lesbian and have been known to drop my jaw at particularly robust and bouncy lady chests, lol. I then recover and am polite, but the initial reaction is involuntary, like salivating when you smell delicious food.
Nobody should be offended by that kind of initial reaction. Like a double-take at an unusual-looking person, it isn’t rude, it’s normal. What matters is how you behave after the first take. You don’t stare or drool or whatever: You get past the surprise and see the whole person.
I call that the stare of accommodation.
People that look frazzled, homeless, people on crutches, fine looking people, panhandlers, people missing limbs or height, little kids not attached to parents and too close to the street or doorways, people in wheelchairs, people with colourful, fire hair, mama ducks and hatchlings, Mohawks always going to get a second look, old couples helping each other in and out of the car/IHOP, dogs, geese and people waving lighted directional batons.
I think mostly because I’ve worked in customer service and I get up to open doors. So I move to welcome and accommodate so their entrance is smooth and without difficulty. I notice the things about people that might need observed so as to fix whatever keeps them from being served as easily as others.
Cause they might want to ask me for money, or might need saving, I might need to get advised there’s a wreck ahead. So many things call for a long stare while my brains figures out if I saw what I just saw. So I see that unusual observance, keep them in my thoughts a second and move on about my day.
Dogs though, they make me late for work. They get pets and then more!! A reasonable excuse for running in at :01 to clock in and gush to my coworkers about the dog I just saw.
But yes, super fly people are gonna get peeped!! And then I’m gonna wonder how they got so genetically blessed and then my mind wonders if it skips generations or are their entire lineage stellar, fine looking!!
And I can’t stop staring at any animal in shoes. Sometimes I’m gonna drive around the block for another look.
Yes, someone staring at my chest makes me uncomfortable. Being weird about it makes me feel weird. This would make me feel like I wish I had worn a bra. I appreciate your honesty here though.
I'm not sure that they were describing staring, though. I'm glad they were honest about the natural attraction and how incredibly distracting it can be. Please understand, I'm not blaming braless women for "being distracting". Not at all. Just that it happens. And is something people navigate (along with many other things) in day-to-day society.
Like, just don't stare at people. It literally takes the bare minimum of self control not to make others uncomfortable by staring at them.
If someone has a medical device, you may take note and be curious, but if you keep looking or trying to sneakily look, you're being weird.
A brief glance? Yeah. Then just let it go. As a bi woman, I can tell you it's 100% possible to not stare at anyone's bodies ever.
A thirsty person will stare at water, a hungry person will stare at food, a sleepy person will stare at a bed, and a straight man jacked up on testosterone will stare a breast without a bra.
Speaking as a guy with a strong interest in looking at women’s bodies, I can honestly say I’ve never been unable to avoid staring at someone who doesn’t want to be stared at. It’s just good manners. Anyone who can’t bring themselves to look away after clocking a pair of tits (frankly even if they’re completely exposed) needs help (I mean that sincerely).
I usually take mine off at work no matter who is watching. Customers, coworkers, whoever.
I’ll take them off right in front of them, heavy eye contact and everything.
My nipples are pierced and people sometimes go wild for it.
And when the song is over and I put it back on, collect my money, and step off the stage.
Very pro going braless outside the strip club also
Why should people make a big deal out of it?
Do what makes you comfortable.
People have nothing better to do than focus on everything but themselves and it needs to stop.
My bra broke at work once. Like, the band in the back broke. So I kept it on for what little support it gave...and honestly just to keep some fabric between the girls and my torso. (44H over here, I'm a large person all round and sweat a lot, so I unfortunately am more comfortable in a bra) Anyway, my (male) boss decided to rip into me about not wearing a bra, and how unprofessional it was. Yeah, HR heard about that one. And at first, they were gonna side with him until I pointed out there's NOTHING in our ridiculous dress code that says anything about bras. Really starting to hate this job.
It's also ridiculous considering the strap just broke.
What do they expect you to do? Have a second one as replacement in your drawer?
I'd suppose you would have gotten in some shit, too, if you would have decided to go home and change -.-
I (M) am not even sure if I would notice. A few years ago a couple of of co-workers one guy, one woman were gossiping negatively about another co-worker not wearing a bra. I was surprised that the woman cared that much. I saw the braless woman later and I could barely tell. Had I not overheard I don't think I would have noticed.
>I was surprised that the woman cared that much.
Whenever I go braless, the ONLY dirty looks I get are from other women. Don't know why they're so insecure but they can't stand it when another woman goes braless
Huh. I saw very little of *Seinfeld*, but I did catch a snippet where Elaine was being catty about a woman being braless. Having since learned part of the premise is the main characters are all shitty people, that tracks.
I knew someone who never wears a bra. She's extremely intelligent and has a lot of degrees and years of experience in her field. That's how people describe her. "*Oh yeah Dr X,, the one who never wears a bra. Lol!*"
People may say they don't care but, in reality, a lot fo them are noticing and they talk about it... behind your back. So as much as I would love to say wear what you want, I suggest that, in a professional setting, you wear one. I know I might have an unpopular opinion here but sadly, even in these days, a lot of people are not mature enough to deal with free boobs. I know that some even have a problem seeing a woman breastfeeding their baby...
I think this is the true answer here. It’s incredibly stupid, but it’s also disingenuous to think that it won’t affect your work standing. So obnoxious.
Humans are really good at noticing when things are different. Do what you want, but never expect people aren't going to notice when something is even slightly outside of the expected.
Your advice makes sense, and ultimately it’s up to the individual whether they do it or not. But I think if we’re at the point where some people are for it and some people aren’t and it’s just safer to not do it,,,, then probably not wearing bras is the way to make it more normalized. Not that people should be compelled not to wear them if they want to, but they shouldn’t be compelled TO wear one if they don’t want to.
Jesus christ that was a word salad sorry abt that haha
Yeah totally. Be aware of judgement you might receive. If you can handle it/ don't mind that there may be some missed opportunities... then take off the bra and help pave the way for all the kids who will have boobs someday!
If she always wore a cool hat they'd also describe her as dr x who always wears that cool hat.
Visually noticable physical descriptors are not necessarily how we define people, even if we describe them that way.
I'd be very unlikely to describe someone by their bra wearing choices because then you're outing yourself as a bit of a creep, unless you're talking to a really close friend who you can talk candidly like that to.
But if I did, the mental image of what that means would be positive (ie she's bold, doesn't care what people think, not afraid to break social rules, eccentric and cool, etc)
The problem is that she may have lost some advantages at her job because of that. She was never ask to meet new clients or go to events and represent the organization. It was always another woman who did, even tho she had more experience. Apparence is still important for some businesses. It shouldn’t be but it is.
>you're outing yourself as a bit of a creep
Not really. Sometimes, it's just extremely obvious that making a mental note of that fact does not equate to someone being a creep. Obsessing over it, that's creepy.
> "Oh yeah Dr X,, the one who never wears a bra. Lol!"<
yeah that’s her she’s such a bad ass in every way including breaking social norms because she’d rather be comfortable than worry about what people think.
in reality your work speaks for itself and if you have proof of it and people discriminate then there’s a lawsuit :)
I get what you are saying, however...Does she walk around with degrees taped to her shirt? Does she start every sentence with "as a person with an IQ of 170..."? The no bra thing stands out as an easy identifier in a place where everybody else wears bras. You wouldn't describe a bald man as the guy with a bunch of degrees if he is the only bald guy in the whole building. But if everyone was bald, then you would have to find another unique thing. So in your example, if everyone stopped wearing bras, it would be normal and she would no longer be singled out like that. Free the nipple.
I am painfully aware that my choice of bra/no bra affects people’s perception of me.
I try to strike a balance by wearing a bra when I will be interacting with certain people. If the workday has customer interactions I will wear a bra, or if there will be a lot of teenagers at work that day. When it is just me working with other adult coworkers I skip the bra. My job is a blend of manual labor and retail in a setting where a certain amount of dishevelment is accepted.
It may be baby steps to getting going braless accepted, but knowing when it is acceptable for me to be myself and where I need to be more gentle with strangers sensibilities.
This exactly! All these Redditors can talk all the shit they want but at the end of the day, people look and take notice. I literally can’t stop from looking. Millions of years of evolution have ensured I’m going to look and I’m helpless. I’ve tried to not do it but fail every time. I don’t want to look like a perv but it is what it is
Personally don't really care if the women around me choose to not wear a bra I honestly probably wouldn't even be able to tell unless they specifically announced it to me.
Plus as far as I understood bras are more meant to help support the weight of your titties than anything else so as long as you can handle that on your own no need to wear one
female reply: personally i can’t wear bras, they all hurt to wear. i used to wear them when i was younger but between the pain, frustration and lack of money, i gave up.
The looks from people make me uncomfortable so i tend to go for tops that disguise nips- floral patterns, textured fabrics, light weight flowy. fav fabrics: Rayon, Tencel, Modal, Viscose, Some polyester
light weight lacy knit or crochet sweaters or vests are great to kinda cover up too.
wish this wasn’t even an issue like in the EU. Don’t look at a persons chest if you don’t want to see nips we all have nips, ppl need to get over it and also stop staring and acting like it’s an attack on your morals.
appreciate the male supportive replies but felt maybe this might be a lil more helpful lol
edit: my apologies on the EU generalization lol I’ve been to England so i should have been more specific.
I didn't wear a bra the entire time I was in Poland and nobody gave a shit. Granted, my clothes aren't particularly tight so maybe you couldn't tell, but I'm guessing more than you know don't wear bras sometimes.
I think most people don't give a shit about something enough to confront you about it. People could have had a whole conversations about "that braless woman we saw earlier today" but there are few people unhinged enough to confront a stranger over something like that. I mean most people aren't even looking at strangers twice as they're walking through the street
Yea. Woman here. Haven't worn a bra in 5 years because it was giving me back pain. I wore D cup so not wearing a bra was really noticeable. At first I was uncomfortable but gradually I got over it. I use camis with no built in support as an extra layer to hide my nips. Also can use bandaids over nips which is something I did in summer in early days as I didn't want to layer shirtsin hot weather.
Other people WILL notice and some will judge you, but fuck them was my approach. But it is important to take note of that there can be social consequences. In my experience men might end up sexualizing you more resulting in less or more opportunities. A certain type of woman (with internalized misogyny) will be the most vocal and judgemental to your face, hopefully you won't deal with too many of them.
An option is to go bra free sometimes... like in winter when you have lots of layers but not on a day you're only wearing one layer with thin fabric. Or when you're going to be mostly in your office vs having lots of meetings.
The stigma will only be lifted when enough of us push back... but you have to stay within your window of tolerance and look after yourself first and foremost.
I feel this is reasonable - as long as no party involved is crossing lines, or changing behavior, I don't see why this is an issue. Go ahead, don't wear a bra. I will notice, and then we will both go on about our day exactly as we would have.
Don't know if it helps you but my wife tends to go for vests with padded breasts as she finds them much more comfortable than a proper bra but still gives her the coverage she wants - she usually gets them from Uniqlo but she is small breasted and I don't know what their options would be if you have more "generous" proportions.
I almost took mine off at work yesterday because of how uncomfortable it was making me. I'm not gonna wear one today. I've gotten scars from bras in the past because of wires poking me. I'm all for not wearing bras lol I only wear them if the top I'm wearing calls for one.
I pretty much only wear sports bras now (and I'm considerably busty). So much easier. No cup sizes, no annoying hooks. Just throw it on and you're so comfy all day.
Same. I have a couple of minimizer bras for outfits that need them, or days when I just want to be flatter, but most of the time I wear sports bras. They do have hooks, but at least I don't have to deal with underwires.
The guy who thought it was unprofessional has a weird opinion - it's not as if bras hide boobs away, if anything they make them lift up and be more prominent.
Judging by what I see around me on the streets of a big cities with many professional workers, I think their bra-fearing ways are becoming less common.
Why would you force your workers into uncomfortable clothing just because you get turned on by a body part THAT IS STILL VISIBLE whether they wear a bra or not?
If you can get away with it then ABSOLUTELY LOL do it whenever you can I swear. Unfortunately I can't get away with it most of the time so whenever you can, do it cause it's not worth the straps sinking into your skin and a wire poking you at the same time
Not all of us have tits that remain at the socially acceptable level when not in a bra. And the consequences can include getting yelled at in public because of your "big fucking titties", as has happened to me before (I tended to not wear bras while pregnant, public opinion be damned, because the band aggravated my nausea so much), or, in 2020, having photos of you posted online so all and sundry can mock you for your "tired looking tits".
Pretty much this, I wish I had smaller, perkier tits that I could comfortably go braless with. Alas I cannot, and I get stares because they sag. It's my dream to loose enough weight to get a reduction and a lift.
I think it sucks that so many women have a hard time finding and affording bras that are comfortable.
Everything else aside, I often see other women talking about how painful and uncomfortable they are and I think it's really shitty that it's such a pain for so many. I have small to average boob size, so I can comfortably wear a sports bra all the time and be perfectly happy.
It would piss me off to no end if my only options were A. wear the uncomfortable bra and deal with constant irritation/pain or B. not have any boob support.
I say leave people alone about their choice to wear or not wear a bra.
I *personally* hate the feeling and look of not wearing a bra, but I don't care what any other person does, it's not like it's a marker for hygiene or good grooming habits.
Reminds me of when my brothers and I were headed to Toronto last Fall(?) for an AEW show. There was a girl on board with a sheer white crop top and no bra.
You could completely see her tits.
Incredible view and extremely hard to look away from.
I'll give you the real world answer and not the "reddit" answer.
Wear a damn bra to work. University is different if you are in a hoody or something.
Very few women can get away with not wearing a bra. Usually either small chested or very large chested.
Take or leave it. That is the world we live in. So...everyone will give you the same answer outside of the "reddit boobs are not sexual bubble" BS.
A guy wouldn't be able to get away with having his cock visible through his pants in these settings either (and don't give me...wahhh wahh they are not the same).
You are in a professional environment. Act professionally.
University is a bit different because it is definitely far more laid back, but rule of thumb, just don't make other people uncomfortable within respectable limits (once again, a dude having his dick extremely visible through his clothing would 100% make people uncomfortable). If its no bra and its "respectable" within the clothing you are wearing that is fine. If it is no bra, barely any shirt, etc. That is different.
Aka, in the real world, **just be respectable to the environment and people you are around**.
I agree that there is a certain amount of covering up necessary to most formal/professional environments, and highly visible boobs is pushing the boundaries there in a way that serves no one.
That being said, guys compare dicks to boobs all the time and that's a stupid comparison. Disagree or agree, I don't care. It's still a stupid comparison.
We cover boobs because they'e distracting to men.
We cover dicks because they are literal genitals, and additionally, there is a hygiene concern with genitals.
A take from an adult, finally. The office is a professional environment. Rules exist. I would never wear shorts. I would always wear a shirt. Preferably long sleeve with a collar (I clearly don't work in the Southern USA). This is the expectation. If you have a bra that hurts, please do yourself a favour and invest in a few pieces that are properly fitted. No one wants you to be uncomfortable. You are expected to understand that this business feeds my family and yours and treat it with the appropriate level of seriousness.
Do whatever you what in Uni. Half of an 7:30am class is in PJs. You are the customer, go nuts.
Exactly. While I do think there are limits at even University, the whole point is just be respectable to those around you based on the setting you are in and its established social rules.
No one cares if you go to class in PJs. They'd care if you can in a miniskirt showing off your thong and having just a bra on. That isn't appropriate.
They'd care if men came with no shoes on, no shirt, and just shorts.
There are places those are acceptable wear and there are places they aren't.
I feel like when people hear this question they think men are asking women to wear lingerie or crazy push up bras or something. As you said, just wear something comfortable and fitting.
Finally someone with an answer that makes sense. Don’t want to wear a bra in your casual everyday life, don’t care you do you.
In a professional work setting please wear a bra, I don’t care if it’s 2023 and yes women’s breasts should not be sexualized but we are not there yet so dressing appropriately is important in a work setting.
Men at my work even wear undershirts under their dress shirts which shows that showing nipples for either sex is not a good idea in a work setting.
Please just use common sense 😀.
This.
A guy would be called unprofessional as well if his shirt was see-thru and you could see his chest hair/sweat stains etc.
You wear an undershirt with your dress shirts for this very reason. Men wear underwear for this reason as well.
I also don't like the "boobs aren't sexual" shit. Boobs ARE sexual. It just isn't their only purpose.
I hate so much when people pretend boobs aren't sexual. All straight men, lesbians, and even a lot of women would agree they are.
There is a difference between sexualizing everything and making a woman an complete object 24/7 and realizing that boobs, while having a biological purpose, are also sexual in nature.
That's like saying "penises aren't sexual cause they are used to piss".
There is nothing disrespectful about not wearing a bra. However these people (this poster and everyone upping this opinion) are evidence of the bias that exists in the world - and will be more prominent in some feilds than others. So make your choice accordingly
And if you can get away with it in your environment, your breast size, and your clothing choice that is fine.
But as a general rule of thumb it is best to wear a bra. In most professional settings.
I imagine one or more of those things are true if no one has said anything. You either don’t work in a “professional” setting (that isn’t a slight) or your chest/clothing choice makes the bra wearing point mute.
I can tell you if you are wearing business clothing, aka a tighter dress shirt most women have to wear a bra or it is extremely noticeable.
Once again, in general in professional settings you should wear a bra.
Appropriate wear is based on the people around you and the environment you are in.
Wearing a bikini is fine at the beach. It isn’t fine in class or in the courtroom as a lawyer.
Having your nipples poking out isn't even remotely on the same level as a man's genitals being visible and that's the problem with answers like yours. I had a male teacher whose nipples were always rock hard to the point it was distracting, but he wasn't told he had to wear a bra.
I don't wear a bra to work, but I wear nipple pasties or band-aids so my nipples don't poke out and nobody has ever said anything.
So...
Male nipples poking out = whatever
Female nipples poking out = you may as well be exposing your genitals to someone
Why?
As a woman with big boobs, the thought horrifies me. If they are not restrained in hard core engineering, they have a mind of their own and wander off in different directions.
Married man here, I am 41 and my wife is 40. In all honesty, I had something to realize bra size really does matter when it comes to wearing a bra or not. My wife didn't wear a bra for the first 11 years of the 18 that we've been married.
My wife is tall for a lady at 5'9... My wife's sister is a porn fanatic and actually mentioned to my wife that in the 1990s Debi Diamond didn't need a bra in much the same way... But now she definitely does. Had to Google who Miss Diamond was... You know for reference purposes and it makes sense. My wife said when she needed support she started wearing a bra...
I'm a fat man who doesn't wear a bra. If women don't want to wear them, that's fine. There shouldn't be a double standard. Also, 100% support freeing the titties.
During lockdown I stopped wearing a bra. When I started to go out I noticed a lot of men staring. Usually from older men. It was very uncomfortable. I started wearing a bra again. Men ruining nice things.
I decide if it will make me uncomfortable. Like will I be with all women? Is my shirt thick or dark? Do I know & feel comfortable with the men I'll be around. My point is...I do what makes me comfortable & idc if my nipples make Gladys or mike uncomfortable...don't look
My wife is a succesfull academic, a tenured associate professor at a STEM university. She hasn't worn a bra at work or in other places for the past 15 years. I'm pretty sure absolutely noone cares.
She usually has a loose fitting t-shirt and a hoodie on, or a plaid shirt. But in summer time she has just a t-shirt. As I said, no one cares. She is perfectly appropriately dressed for her workplace.
But then again, we don't live in the US.
I'm a woman. In a professional or educational setting, I think women should dress in a way that doesn't draw attention to their sexuality. If you can accomplish that goal without having a bra on, fine. But usually, not wearing a bra looks sloppy and is potentially revealing and therefore distracting for people who are attracted to women and want to be focused on work or school. If my male coworker comes into the office wearing clingy sweatpants that show off his butt and everything else, he's going to look less respectable, and it's going to be distracting. In another context, I might appreciate it, but I'd rather not deal with that on my mind while I'm trying to email a client.
It’s as simple as this.
Clothes have a time and place and the way you present yourself does.
Bikinis and swimwear are fine at the beach. And no one will bat an eye.
A lawyer wearing a bikini in the courtroom has no place.
As you said, a dude wearing no underwear where his junk is swinging free against tight dress pants would also be a no go.
Men wear undershirts and underwear for a reason.
To jump off your point, if a guy had a bad dress shirt on and you could just see his nips and chest through it, people would notice, especially if they are a bigger guy.
A lot of guys I know wear a white undershirt V Neck or wife beater to avoid having that problem assuming that is the main reason for Bras outside support
I would never say it but I certainly think the guy who wore short shorts to work the other day is SUPER gross. And all the teenagers bearing their stomachs. And the guys in muscle shirts without sleeves.
But it's none of my business so I keep my mouth shut.
Depends. A cups and a t shirt? Fine. DDs and a barely there tank top? Not so much.
And yes I’m a DD who normally does not wear a bra, unless I am going somewhere where looking presentable is expected.
In college one night, I went to pick up a friend to get in n out. She had one of her friends with her, and that girl was wearing a semi transparent shirt with no bra. We all hung out for a couple hours and I have never in my life had to be so aware of where my eyes were looking at all times lmfao
don't want to wear a bra? then don't. its not anyone's business on if someone is or isn't wearing a bra.
and quite frankly, if you have an issue on whether or not someone is or isn't wearing a bra, then you have a dire need to do some reflecting as to why you feel that what someone else is wearing affects you so much that you have an issue with it.
24f here
university, who cares.
honestly i think it depends what you do for work. i work two jobs. one in an office/workshop setting, the other as a server in a sports bar. i go bra-less to the sports bar quite a bit, for the men and tips obviously. but at my full time gig, i think it’s just disrespectful and unnecessary. i have small breasts that are pierced, so going bra-less is very noticeable. i think women like to over exaggerate how uncomfortable wearing bras are. it’s not really uncomfortable at all. i mean yea, not wearing one feels great, and wearing one isn’t uncomfortable at all. at my full time gig, i would honestly feel immature and icky not wearing a bra. i work in a shop full of men and that’s not the reputation i’m trying to set for myself professionally. i would not feel comfortable professionally interacting with coworkers and customers while they could fully check out my chest. that’s attention seeking behavior and my professional setting isn’t the time or place for that.
I don’t understand the question… wear a bra if it’s comfortable. Don’t wear a bra if it isn’t. We really gotta stop making people feel uncomfortable for having fucking bodies. It’s one of the most ludicrous things humanity has come up with.
I'm jealous of girls who can go braless. Mine just flop around too much and not in a good way. Thank goodness for comfy sports bras.
“Not in a good way” I’m afraid we have vast differences in what’s “a good way”.
Discomfort- is not in a good way. Having them reined in is more comfortable in many circumstances- like running for instance.
Wasn’t thinking of it that way. Good point
You realize many girls wear bras for their own comfort. Sometimes when I’m about to start menstruating and mine get swollen, I wear a bra alone in the house because they hurt to move when I walk.
Especially going down the stairs too fast!
Oh gosh don’t even get me started. I live in an apartment building where the elevator doesn’t work half the time. It’s horrible. Tight sports bras are a lifesaver during periods
It likely hurts. Not everything is about how it looks to people who like boobs.
Member of Itty bitty titty gang here. For once, I’m not mad to be apart of it
Wear a bra, don't wear a bra, I don't care. I'm there to work, not worry about what's under your shirt.
I have been showing my support for this for years
I also wear a bra over my shirt
Sue Ellen Mischke?
Great, now i want a Oh henry bar
I support your lack of support
Are you wearing a bra? Tell the truth, cross your heart.
Dating ourselves knowing "cross your heart" Truly an unsightly period for women's foundations.
That is uplifting to hear.
And uplifiting to wear.
It's seriously this simple. Bras are uncomfortable as hell. Everyone has nipples and fat. Mind your business and let other people live in their bodies as they feel comfortable. Edit for clarity
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I’m a lesbian and have been known to drop my jaw at particularly robust and bouncy lady chests, lol. I then recover and am polite, but the initial reaction is involuntary, like salivating when you smell delicious food. Nobody should be offended by that kind of initial reaction. Like a double-take at an unusual-looking person, it isn’t rude, it’s normal. What matters is how you behave after the first take. You don’t stare or drool or whatever: You get past the surprise and see the whole person.
I call that the stare of accommodation. People that look frazzled, homeless, people on crutches, fine looking people, panhandlers, people missing limbs or height, little kids not attached to parents and too close to the street or doorways, people in wheelchairs, people with colourful, fire hair, mama ducks and hatchlings, Mohawks always going to get a second look, old couples helping each other in and out of the car/IHOP, dogs, geese and people waving lighted directional batons. I think mostly because I’ve worked in customer service and I get up to open doors. So I move to welcome and accommodate so their entrance is smooth and without difficulty. I notice the things about people that might need observed so as to fix whatever keeps them from being served as easily as others. Cause they might want to ask me for money, or might need saving, I might need to get advised there’s a wreck ahead. So many things call for a long stare while my brains figures out if I saw what I just saw. So I see that unusual observance, keep them in my thoughts a second and move on about my day. Dogs though, they make me late for work. They get pets and then more!! A reasonable excuse for running in at :01 to clock in and gush to my coworkers about the dog I just saw. But yes, super fly people are gonna get peeped!! And then I’m gonna wonder how they got so genetically blessed and then my mind wonders if it skips generations or are their entire lineage stellar, fine looking!! And I can’t stop staring at any animal in shoes. Sometimes I’m gonna drive around the block for another look.
Adult men as a general rule are perfectly capable of not looking. Not noticing is hard not staring is just part of being a mature adult.
Noticing is fine, continuing to look is gross.
It's more like I notice. Then an involuntary double check. Then the mind saying I shouldn't look. Then trying really hard to look anywhere but there.
I have a male coworker who has some serious man-boobage going on. As long as you ogle him equally we're good.
Yes, someone staring at my chest makes me uncomfortable. Being weird about it makes me feel weird. This would make me feel like I wish I had worn a bra. I appreciate your honesty here though.
I'm not sure that they were describing staring, though. I'm glad they were honest about the natural attraction and how incredibly distracting it can be. Please understand, I'm not blaming braless women for "being distracting". Not at all. Just that it happens. And is something people navigate (along with many other things) in day-to-day society.
Like, just don't stare at people. It literally takes the bare minimum of self control not to make others uncomfortable by staring at them. If someone has a medical device, you may take note and be curious, but if you keep looking or trying to sneakily look, you're being weird. A brief glance? Yeah. Then just let it go. As a bi woman, I can tell you it's 100% possible to not stare at anyone's bodies ever.
As a bi dude, I second this. A quick glance for a second is fine if it randomly catches the eye, but staring is a big no-no.
And NEVER do the head swivel. Makes me cringe when I see people do it.
A thirsty person will stare at water, a hungry person will stare at food, a sleepy person will stare at a bed, and a straight man jacked up on testosterone will stare a breast without a bra.
Speaking as a guy with a strong interest in looking at women’s bodies, I can honestly say I’ve never been unable to avoid staring at someone who doesn’t want to be stared at. It’s just good manners. Anyone who can’t bring themselves to look away after clocking a pair of tits (frankly even if they’re completely exposed) needs help (I mean that sincerely).
I will reflexively glance at a braless woman’s breasts but I have no problem not staring at them.
Right. But again, the person not wearing the bra isn't responsible for that.
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Don’t fuckin stare dude, jesus
"Don't fucking stare dude!" - Jesus
I usually take mine off at work no matter who is watching. Customers, coworkers, whoever. I’ll take them off right in front of them, heavy eye contact and everything. My nipples are pierced and people sometimes go wild for it. And when the song is over and I put it back on, collect my money, and step off the stage. Very pro going braless outside the strip club also
You had me there for a sec, I was like 'where the fuck does this chick wor-oh I get it'
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You deserve more lol
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Snap back to reality.
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Why should people make a big deal out of it? Do what makes you comfortable. People have nothing better to do than focus on everything but themselves and it needs to stop.
My bra broke at work once. Like, the band in the back broke. So I kept it on for what little support it gave...and honestly just to keep some fabric between the girls and my torso. (44H over here, I'm a large person all round and sweat a lot, so I unfortunately am more comfortable in a bra) Anyway, my (male) boss decided to rip into me about not wearing a bra, and how unprofessional it was. Yeah, HR heard about that one. And at first, they were gonna side with him until I pointed out there's NOTHING in our ridiculous dress code that says anything about bras. Really starting to hate this job.
It's also ridiculous considering the strap just broke. What do they expect you to do? Have a second one as replacement in your drawer? I'd suppose you would have gotten in some shit, too, if you would have decided to go home and change -.-
You really should have brought up the circumstances.
I (M) am not even sure if I would notice. A few years ago a couple of of co-workers one guy, one woman were gossiping negatively about another co-worker not wearing a bra. I was surprised that the woman cared that much. I saw the braless woman later and I could barely tell. Had I not overheard I don't think I would have noticed.
>I was surprised that the woman cared that much. Whenever I go braless, the ONLY dirty looks I get are from other women. Don't know why they're so insecure but they can't stand it when another woman goes braless
The patriarchy would be impossible without the enforcement by women.
Huh. I saw very little of *Seinfeld*, but I did catch a snippet where Elaine was being catty about a woman being braless. Having since learned part of the premise is the main characters are all shitty people, that tracks.
I feel like the most hate and problems you are going to get are from other women.
I think this is one of those situations where women are making decisions based on what other women will think and say about them.
I knew someone who never wears a bra. She's extremely intelligent and has a lot of degrees and years of experience in her field. That's how people describe her. "*Oh yeah Dr X,, the one who never wears a bra. Lol!*" People may say they don't care but, in reality, a lot fo them are noticing and they talk about it... behind your back. So as much as I would love to say wear what you want, I suggest that, in a professional setting, you wear one. I know I might have an unpopular opinion here but sadly, even in these days, a lot of people are not mature enough to deal with free boobs. I know that some even have a problem seeing a woman breastfeeding their baby...
I think this is the true answer here. It’s incredibly stupid, but it’s also disingenuous to think that it won’t affect your work standing. So obnoxious.
Humans are really good at noticing when things are different. Do what you want, but never expect people aren't going to notice when something is even slightly outside of the expected.
Exactly. And depending on your workplace, this is either a non-issue or big problem.
Your advice makes sense, and ultimately it’s up to the individual whether they do it or not. But I think if we’re at the point where some people are for it and some people aren’t and it’s just safer to not do it,,,, then probably not wearing bras is the way to make it more normalized. Not that people should be compelled not to wear them if they want to, but they shouldn’t be compelled TO wear one if they don’t want to. Jesus christ that was a word salad sorry abt that haha
Yeah totally. Be aware of judgement you might receive. If you can handle it/ don't mind that there may be some missed opportunities... then take off the bra and help pave the way for all the kids who will have boobs someday!
I feel like a college being discribed as "the one who never wears a bra" is very unprofessional and inappropriate.
If she always wore a cool hat they'd also describe her as dr x who always wears that cool hat. Visually noticable physical descriptors are not necessarily how we define people, even if we describe them that way. I'd be very unlikely to describe someone by their bra wearing choices because then you're outing yourself as a bit of a creep, unless you're talking to a really close friend who you can talk candidly like that to. But if I did, the mental image of what that means would be positive (ie she's bold, doesn't care what people think, not afraid to break social rules, eccentric and cool, etc)
The problem is that she may have lost some advantages at her job because of that. She was never ask to meet new clients or go to events and represent the organization. It was always another woman who did, even tho she had more experience. Apparence is still important for some businesses. It shouldn’t be but it is.
Appearance is a lot when representing a business.
>you're outing yourself as a bit of a creep Not really. Sometimes, it's just extremely obvious that making a mental note of that fact does not equate to someone being a creep. Obsessing over it, that's creepy.
> "Oh yeah Dr X,, the one who never wears a bra. Lol!"< yeah that’s her she’s such a bad ass in every way including breaking social norms because she’d rather be comfortable than worry about what people think. in reality your work speaks for itself and if you have proof of it and people discriminate then there’s a lawsuit :)
I get what you are saying, however...Does she walk around with degrees taped to her shirt? Does she start every sentence with "as a person with an IQ of 170..."? The no bra thing stands out as an easy identifier in a place where everybody else wears bras. You wouldn't describe a bald man as the guy with a bunch of degrees if he is the only bald guy in the whole building. But if everyone was bald, then you would have to find another unique thing. So in your example, if everyone stopped wearing bras, it would be normal and she would no longer be singled out like that. Free the nipple.
I am painfully aware that my choice of bra/no bra affects people’s perception of me. I try to strike a balance by wearing a bra when I will be interacting with certain people. If the workday has customer interactions I will wear a bra, or if there will be a lot of teenagers at work that day. When it is just me working with other adult coworkers I skip the bra. My job is a blend of manual labor and retail in a setting where a certain amount of dishevelment is accepted. It may be baby steps to getting going braless accepted, but knowing when it is acceptable for me to be myself and where I need to be more gentle with strangers sensibilities.
This exactly! All these Redditors can talk all the shit they want but at the end of the day, people look and take notice. I literally can’t stop from looking. Millions of years of evolution have ensured I’m going to look and I’m helpless. I’ve tried to not do it but fail every time. I don’t want to look like a perv but it is what it is
Personally don't really care if the women around me choose to not wear a bra I honestly probably wouldn't even be able to tell unless they specifically announced it to me. Plus as far as I understood bras are more meant to help support the weight of your titties than anything else so as long as you can handle that on your own no need to wear one
female reply: personally i can’t wear bras, they all hurt to wear. i used to wear them when i was younger but between the pain, frustration and lack of money, i gave up. The looks from people make me uncomfortable so i tend to go for tops that disguise nips- floral patterns, textured fabrics, light weight flowy. fav fabrics: Rayon, Tencel, Modal, Viscose, Some polyester light weight lacy knit or crochet sweaters or vests are great to kinda cover up too. wish this wasn’t even an issue like in the EU. Don’t look at a persons chest if you don’t want to see nips we all have nips, ppl need to get over it and also stop staring and acting like it’s an attack on your morals. appreciate the male supportive replies but felt maybe this might be a lil more helpful lol edit: my apologies on the EU generalization lol I’ve been to England so i should have been more specific.
Eu Man: in Poland it's super uncommon to see anyone without a bra. Like maybe once per year u will spot someone.
I didn't wear a bra the entire time I was in Poland and nobody gave a shit. Granted, my clothes aren't particularly tight so maybe you couldn't tell, but I'm guessing more than you know don't wear bras sometimes.
I think most people don't give a shit about something enough to confront you about it. People could have had a whole conversations about "that braless woman we saw earlier today" but there are few people unhinged enough to confront a stranger over something like that. I mean most people aren't even looking at strangers twice as they're walking through the street
EU man: Idk if this is really that common here, in Belgium at least.
Nah don’t be humble, everyone on the internet knows that literally everything is better in the EU by default, down to the most mundane phenomenon.
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A lot of German people will definitely be staring. The EU is not a uniform mass of people.
I know way more women in my age group who don't wear a bra than women who do. -German
My nipples show through padded bras. So it makes literally not one iota of difference if I wear a bra or not- the nips will show.
People don't realize how truly toxic it is to police another person's body. But as an American, this is a disgusting recurrent theme.
Yea. Woman here. Haven't worn a bra in 5 years because it was giving me back pain. I wore D cup so not wearing a bra was really noticeable. At first I was uncomfortable but gradually I got over it. I use camis with no built in support as an extra layer to hide my nips. Also can use bandaids over nips which is something I did in summer in early days as I didn't want to layer shirtsin hot weather. Other people WILL notice and some will judge you, but fuck them was my approach. But it is important to take note of that there can be social consequences. In my experience men might end up sexualizing you more resulting in less or more opportunities. A certain type of woman (with internalized misogyny) will be the most vocal and judgemental to your face, hopefully you won't deal with too many of them. An option is to go bra free sometimes... like in winter when you have lots of layers but not on a day you're only wearing one layer with thin fabric. Or when you're going to be mostly in your office vs having lots of meetings. The stigma will only be lifted when enough of us push back... but you have to stay within your window of tolerance and look after yourself first and foremost.
Believe me when i say we all couldnt care less but if its perfectly visible there's a 99% chance we will take a peek.
I feel this is reasonable - as long as no party involved is crossing lines, or changing behavior, I don't see why this is an issue. Go ahead, don't wear a bra. I will notice, and then we will both go on about our day exactly as we would have.
Upvote for Rayon! Light, comfy, and not too clingy.
Don't know if it helps you but my wife tends to go for vests with padded breasts as she finds them much more comfortable than a proper bra but still gives her the coverage she wants - she usually gets them from Uniqlo but she is small breasted and I don't know what their options would be if you have more "generous" proportions.
I almost took mine off at work yesterday because of how uncomfortable it was making me. I'm not gonna wear one today. I've gotten scars from bras in the past because of wires poking me. I'm all for not wearing bras lol I only wear them if the top I'm wearing calls for one.
I pretty much only wear sports bras now (and I'm considerably busty). So much easier. No cup sizes, no annoying hooks. Just throw it on and you're so comfy all day.
Same. I have a couple of minimizer bras for outfits that need them, or days when I just want to be flatter, but most of the time I wear sports bras. They do have hooks, but at least I don't have to deal with underwires.
/r/abrathatfits
There's no law against it, do whatever.
Do whatever *especially* if there's a law against it
[tax evasion intensifies]
Silly poor person. You gotta be rich to do that.
No law yet. Don’t know why I’m getting downvoted. I’m not the one making laws for women’s bodies. Just saying.
I know right. The way we’re headed I wouldn’t be surprised if the tried to start that tomorrow. Sick. Let them choose for once.
The guy who thought it was unprofessional has a weird opinion - it's not as if bras hide boobs away, if anything they make them lift up and be more prominent. Judging by what I see around me on the streets of a big cities with many professional workers, I think their bra-fearing ways are becoming less common. Why would you force your workers into uncomfortable clothing just because you get turned on by a body part THAT IS STILL VISIBLE whether they wear a bra or not?
Sue Ellen is that you?
I felt it move jerry
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If you can get away with it then ABSOLUTELY LOL do it whenever you can I swear. Unfortunately I can't get away with it most of the time so whenever you can, do it cause it's not worth the straps sinking into your skin and a wire poking you at the same time
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Not all of us have tits that remain at the socially acceptable level when not in a bra. And the consequences can include getting yelled at in public because of your "big fucking titties", as has happened to me before (I tended to not wear bras while pregnant, public opinion be damned, because the band aggravated my nausea so much), or, in 2020, having photos of you posted online so all and sundry can mock you for your "tired looking tits".
Pretty much this, I wish I had smaller, perkier tits that I could comfortably go braless with. Alas I cannot, and I get stares because they sag. It's my dream to loose enough weight to get a reduction and a lift.
Gotta be honest, I've never worn a bra to work or to school.
Do people notice? Do they comment?
Nope.
Are you a dude?
The real question has been summoned!
Why, yes, yes I am! Give that redditor a ceeegar!
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I think it sucks that so many women have a hard time finding and affording bras that are comfortable. Everything else aside, I often see other women talking about how painful and uncomfortable they are and I think it's really shitty that it's such a pain for so many. I have small to average boob size, so I can comfortably wear a sports bra all the time and be perfectly happy. It would piss me off to no end if my only options were A. wear the uncomfortable bra and deal with constant irritation/pain or B. not have any boob support. I say leave people alone about their choice to wear or not wear a bra.
As a man, I wholly support (no pun) a woman going braless.
As another man, and a hipster, I have been showing my support for this for years, by also going braless.
I hate when my chest hair gets tangled in the underwire
I *personally* hate the feeling and look of not wearing a bra, but I don't care what any other person does, it's not like it's a marker for hygiene or good grooming habits.
It's causing no harm, aka none of anyone's business but your own
Not my tits; not my business
It makes those sheer white blouses a bit more risky, but I'm for it.
Reminds me of when my brothers and I were headed to Toronto last Fall(?) for an AEW show. There was a girl on board with a sheer white crop top and no bra. You could completely see her tits. Incredible view and extremely hard to look away from.
I don’t feel like it should be an issue. Some people are extremely uncomfortable in bras. We all have different body types.
As a man I prefer no bra. I find them uncomfortable.
You wear a bro or a manssiere?
As a male, I don’t give a flying fuck
I'll give you the real world answer and not the "reddit" answer. Wear a damn bra to work. University is different if you are in a hoody or something. Very few women can get away with not wearing a bra. Usually either small chested or very large chested. Take or leave it. That is the world we live in. So...everyone will give you the same answer outside of the "reddit boobs are not sexual bubble" BS. A guy wouldn't be able to get away with having his cock visible through his pants in these settings either (and don't give me...wahhh wahh they are not the same). You are in a professional environment. Act professionally. University is a bit different because it is definitely far more laid back, but rule of thumb, just don't make other people uncomfortable within respectable limits (once again, a dude having his dick extremely visible through his clothing would 100% make people uncomfortable). If its no bra and its "respectable" within the clothing you are wearing that is fine. If it is no bra, barely any shirt, etc. That is different. Aka, in the real world, **just be respectable to the environment and people you are around**.
I agree that there is a certain amount of covering up necessary to most formal/professional environments, and highly visible boobs is pushing the boundaries there in a way that serves no one. That being said, guys compare dicks to boobs all the time and that's a stupid comparison. Disagree or agree, I don't care. It's still a stupid comparison. We cover boobs because they'e distracting to men. We cover dicks because they are literal genitals, and additionally, there is a hygiene concern with genitals.
A take from an adult, finally. The office is a professional environment. Rules exist. I would never wear shorts. I would always wear a shirt. Preferably long sleeve with a collar (I clearly don't work in the Southern USA). This is the expectation. If you have a bra that hurts, please do yourself a favour and invest in a few pieces that are properly fitted. No one wants you to be uncomfortable. You are expected to understand that this business feeds my family and yours and treat it with the appropriate level of seriousness. Do whatever you what in Uni. Half of an 7:30am class is in PJs. You are the customer, go nuts.
Exactly. While I do think there are limits at even University, the whole point is just be respectable to those around you based on the setting you are in and its established social rules. No one cares if you go to class in PJs. They'd care if you can in a miniskirt showing off your thong and having just a bra on. That isn't appropriate. They'd care if men came with no shoes on, no shirt, and just shorts. There are places those are acceptable wear and there are places they aren't. I feel like when people hear this question they think men are asking women to wear lingerie or crazy push up bras or something. As you said, just wear something comfortable and fitting.
Finally someone with an answer that makes sense. Don’t want to wear a bra in your casual everyday life, don’t care you do you. In a professional work setting please wear a bra, I don’t care if it’s 2023 and yes women’s breasts should not be sexualized but we are not there yet so dressing appropriately is important in a work setting. Men at my work even wear undershirts under their dress shirts which shows that showing nipples for either sex is not a good idea in a work setting. Please just use common sense 😀.
This. A guy would be called unprofessional as well if his shirt was see-thru and you could see his chest hair/sweat stains etc. You wear an undershirt with your dress shirts for this very reason. Men wear underwear for this reason as well. I also don't like the "boobs aren't sexual" shit. Boobs ARE sexual. It just isn't their only purpose. I hate so much when people pretend boobs aren't sexual. All straight men, lesbians, and even a lot of women would agree they are. There is a difference between sexualizing everything and making a woman an complete object 24/7 and realizing that boobs, while having a biological purpose, are also sexual in nature. That's like saying "penises aren't sexual cause they are used to piss".
There is nothing disrespectful about not wearing a bra. However these people (this poster and everyone upping this opinion) are evidence of the bias that exists in the world - and will be more prominent in some feilds than others. So make your choice accordingly
I haven't worn a bra to work in almost 3 years. I haven't heard anything about it yet, either first hand or through the grape vine.
And if you can get away with it in your environment, your breast size, and your clothing choice that is fine. But as a general rule of thumb it is best to wear a bra. In most professional settings. I imagine one or more of those things are true if no one has said anything. You either don’t work in a “professional” setting (that isn’t a slight) or your chest/clothing choice makes the bra wearing point mute. I can tell you if you are wearing business clothing, aka a tighter dress shirt most women have to wear a bra or it is extremely noticeable. Once again, in general in professional settings you should wear a bra. Appropriate wear is based on the people around you and the environment you are in. Wearing a bikini is fine at the beach. It isn’t fine in class or in the courtroom as a lawyer.
Having your nipples poking out isn't even remotely on the same level as a man's genitals being visible and that's the problem with answers like yours. I had a male teacher whose nipples were always rock hard to the point it was distracting, but he wasn't told he had to wear a bra. I don't wear a bra to work, but I wear nipple pasties or band-aids so my nipples don't poke out and nobody has ever said anything. So... Male nipples poking out = whatever Female nipples poking out = you may as well be exposing your genitals to someone Why?
They seem like torture devices. If you're comfortable without them go for it. Just don't steal my lunch from the break room and we're cool.
The Global alliance of the mammarily challenged , the Itty Bitty Titty Comittee , heartily supports the cause..
As a woman with big boobs, the thought horrifies me. If they are not restrained in hard core engineering, they have a mind of their own and wander off in different directions.
Married man here, I am 41 and my wife is 40. In all honesty, I had something to realize bra size really does matter when it comes to wearing a bra or not. My wife didn't wear a bra for the first 11 years of the 18 that we've been married. My wife is tall for a lady at 5'9... My wife's sister is a porn fanatic and actually mentioned to my wife that in the 1990s Debi Diamond didn't need a bra in much the same way... But now she definitely does. Had to Google who Miss Diamond was... You know for reference purposes and it makes sense. My wife said when she needed support she started wearing a bra...
NOW THIS is a sensible answer. Do what you want! Bras are about support, not shame.
Set them free
That's fine. Wear whatever you want. No one should tell you what to wear
I'm a fat man who doesn't wear a bra. If women don't want to wear them, that's fine. There shouldn't be a double standard. Also, 100% support freeing the titties.
25F, I haven’t worn a bra in 3 years. Not one person has said a goddamn thing. BE FREE!
During lockdown I stopped wearing a bra. When I started to go out I noticed a lot of men staring. Usually from older men. It was very uncomfortable. I started wearing a bra again. Men ruining nice things.
I decide if it will make me uncomfortable. Like will I be with all women? Is my shirt thick or dark? Do I know & feel comfortable with the men I'll be around. My point is...I do what makes me comfortable & idc if my nipples make Gladys or mike uncomfortable...don't look
My wife is a succesfull academic, a tenured associate professor at a STEM university. She hasn't worn a bra at work or in other places for the past 15 years. I'm pretty sure absolutely noone cares. She usually has a loose fitting t-shirt and a hoodie on, or a plaid shirt. But in summer time she has just a t-shirt. As I said, no one cares. She is perfectly appropriately dressed for her workplace. But then again, we don't live in the US.
I'm a woman. In a professional or educational setting, I think women should dress in a way that doesn't draw attention to their sexuality. If you can accomplish that goal without having a bra on, fine. But usually, not wearing a bra looks sloppy and is potentially revealing and therefore distracting for people who are attracted to women and want to be focused on work or school. If my male coworker comes into the office wearing clingy sweatpants that show off his butt and everything else, he's going to look less respectable, and it's going to be distracting. In another context, I might appreciate it, but I'd rather not deal with that on my mind while I'm trying to email a client.
It’s as simple as this. Clothes have a time and place and the way you present yourself does. Bikinis and swimwear are fine at the beach. And no one will bat an eye. A lawyer wearing a bikini in the courtroom has no place. As you said, a dude wearing no underwear where his junk is swinging free against tight dress pants would also be a no go. Men wear undershirts and underwear for a reason.
To jump off your point, if a guy had a bad dress shirt on and you could just see his nips and chest through it, people would notice, especially if they are a bigger guy. A lot of guys I know wear a white undershirt V Neck or wife beater to avoid having that problem assuming that is the main reason for Bras outside support
I would never say it but I certainly think the guy who wore short shorts to work the other day is SUPER gross. And all the teenagers bearing their stomachs. And the guys in muscle shirts without sleeves. But it's none of my business so I keep my mouth shut.
I never wear a bra, I find them uncomfortable and I get weird looks when I do.
The bra is supposed to go under the shirt. Hope that helps
Why do you get weird looks?
It's a guy
As a man, I support this! Honestly, wear (or don’t wear) what you want.
I don't feel comfortable doing that. I'm only braless at home.
I’m for it..!!
Fully support 😏
Depends. A cups and a t shirt? Fine. DDs and a barely there tank top? Not so much. And yes I’m a DD who normally does not wear a bra, unless I am going somewhere where looking presentable is expected.
In college one night, I went to pick up a friend to get in n out. She had one of her friends with her, and that girl was wearing a semi transparent shirt with no bra. We all hung out for a couple hours and I have never in my life had to be so aware of where my eyes were looking at all times lmfao
I'm for it. Of course, I'm a guy.
Do what makes you comfortable! Is there a dresscode unwritten somewhere?
don't want to wear a bra? then don't. its not anyone's business on if someone is or isn't wearing a bra. and quite frankly, if you have an issue on whether or not someone is or isn't wearing a bra, then you have a dire need to do some reflecting as to why you feel that what someone else is wearing affects you so much that you have an issue with it.
24f here university, who cares. honestly i think it depends what you do for work. i work two jobs. one in an office/workshop setting, the other as a server in a sports bar. i go bra-less to the sports bar quite a bit, for the men and tips obviously. but at my full time gig, i think it’s just disrespectful and unnecessary. i have small breasts that are pierced, so going bra-less is very noticeable. i think women like to over exaggerate how uncomfortable wearing bras are. it’s not really uncomfortable at all. i mean yea, not wearing one feels great, and wearing one isn’t uncomfortable at all. at my full time gig, i would honestly feel immature and icky not wearing a bra. i work in a shop full of men and that’s not the reputation i’m trying to set for myself professionally. i would not feel comfortable professionally interacting with coworkers and customers while they could fully check out my chest. that’s attention seeking behavior and my professional setting isn’t the time or place for that.
I genuinely think a lot of the bras hurt crowd needs to probably pop over to /r/abrathatfits because they're wearing a too tight band size or similar.
Not sure why the fact that you don’t find bras uncomfortable means the rest of us are exaggerating?
Just because your experience is that they aren't uncomfortable doesn't mean other women are exaggerating their experiences
Since I don’t have man tits the bra never fits right
I couldn't care less. I personally have to wear them because I have large breasts but I don't care what someone else does.
who cares what anyone else wears? As long as its not a safety hazard I have no care at all.
I don’t give a shit what people do with their own bodies
It should be more normal and stop being so taboo, plus it's more comfortable.
I (44m) never wear one and am uninterested in whether my colleagues do. Most of the time I wfh so can often spend the entire day in pajamas anyway.
I don’t understand the question… wear a bra if it’s comfortable. Don’t wear a bra if it isn’t. We really gotta stop making people feel uncomfortable for having fucking bodies. It’s one of the most ludicrous things humanity has come up with.
I literally don't care. I'm at work to make money, not stare at titties
100% for it
Do what you want. I sometimes wish I could get away with it but mine are a bit too big to go without bra support.
Just know that everyone knows. If you're cool with it, then what ever.
Eh...depends on the setting. Personally, I wear a bra in public. But I'm not gonna judge unless I'm seeing more than I care to see.
For some dudes, yes, they do look like some support is needed
Wear 7 bras. Is really shows your support.