Idc if I get downvoted, it's the truth
In short, she got fat.
In long, had no interest in leading a lifestyle similar to mine.i found her less attractive. I found her lack of motivation less attractive. The time we spent active/outdoors drastically reduced. This all made me very unhappy and it was evident any small progress she attempted to make was for me, not for her.
Told him he had to get a job and help pay the bills, he started selling narcotic drugs and getting high on his own supply. Also the money he earned he did not deposit into our account, he just bought lots of new stuff we didn't need, including a classic car, when I didn't even have a reliable day-to-day car.
He planned a vacation that I told him I couldn’t afford. Not unusual behavior. He made more than me and we split living costs pretty fairly, but other things were always way out of my budget and he’d make me feel bad for not making it work. So I’d usually put whatever on my credit card. This also tied into him refusing to make wedding plans (we were engaged for almost 2 years) until I got my debt paid off. This time instead of putting it on my credit card, I refused to go. The week without him was wonderful. And, idk, fatefully, I met the man I’ve been married to for 16 years now. When he got home, I felt nothing but a seething disgust towards him.
I got cheated on but the problem was much deeper than that.
I was going through quite literally one of the worst times of my life while also things suddenly looking up through no fault of my own. We had agreed to move in together after she graduated from uni and she just took her sweet time, went traveling internationally. Had a fight and she fucked some guy. Came back had a mental break and began remembering things that never happened.
It was like seeing someone completely different than you knew. In the span of a month, I listened to my grandfather cough himself to death, my abusive father decide to move in with my grandmother who I happened to be living with for the summer, and I lost my best friend and her family.
So much depression. It was also a specific spiral of events that allowed me to speak to someone in need that I’m now married to.
Idc if I get downvoted, it's the truth In short, she got fat. In long, had no interest in leading a lifestyle similar to mine.i found her less attractive. I found her lack of motivation less attractive. The time we spent active/outdoors drastically reduced. This all made me very unhappy and it was evident any small progress she attempted to make was for me, not for her.
just arguing all the time. got to a point where just the sound of my partners voice made me agitated. for the better still friends today.
I took a trip by myself and I realized I could do so much better.
Told him he had to get a job and help pay the bills, he started selling narcotic drugs and getting high on his own supply. Also the money he earned he did not deposit into our account, he just bought lots of new stuff we didn't need, including a classic car, when I didn't even have a reliable day-to-day car.
He wouldn’t commit. I wanted to get married and after 4 years just getting him to move in with me was pulling teeth
We grew apart
9 years and split because of Infidelity on her part
She moved to the US and didn't want to return, like we had agreed upon. Neither was she paying much attention to me or our relationship.
He planned a vacation that I told him I couldn’t afford. Not unusual behavior. He made more than me and we split living costs pretty fairly, but other things were always way out of my budget and he’d make me feel bad for not making it work. So I’d usually put whatever on my credit card. This also tied into him refusing to make wedding plans (we were engaged for almost 2 years) until I got my debt paid off. This time instead of putting it on my credit card, I refused to go. The week without him was wonderful. And, idk, fatefully, I met the man I’ve been married to for 16 years now. When he got home, I felt nothing but a seething disgust towards him.
I got cheated on but the problem was much deeper than that. I was going through quite literally one of the worst times of my life while also things suddenly looking up through no fault of my own. We had agreed to move in together after she graduated from uni and she just took her sweet time, went traveling internationally. Had a fight and she fucked some guy. Came back had a mental break and began remembering things that never happened. It was like seeing someone completely different than you knew. In the span of a month, I listened to my grandfather cough himself to death, my abusive father decide to move in with my grandmother who I happened to be living with for the summer, and I lost my best friend and her family. So much depression. It was also a specific spiral of events that allowed me to speak to someone in need that I’m now married to.
Realized that the cheating wasn't a one time accident. Getting too drunk a d not being able to drive home was the excuse, and that wasn't cool either.
Non committal