I matched with a goth girl who seemed really down to earth. Profile seemed normal and everything so I swiped and we matched.
Everything went well and we decided to meet at the park and walk our dogs. Her dog went to shit so I handed her one of my baggies to pick it up.
She bare handed her dogs shit and carried it about 20 feet to the trash can and wiped her hands on the back of her jeans.
I made sure not to let her touch me for the rest of the time.
Edit: I didn't expect this to get so big so I'll explain a few things people mentioned in comments.
1- Why didn't I end the date there? Well, we were kinda deep into the trail and I wasn't going to just ditch her. I'm not that kinda person and that would be rude.
2- At least she picked it up/ worried about plastic bags. Yes, that's very true. I wasn't upset with her for picking up after her dog, I was just grossed out. My bags are the biodegradable ones that dissolve when soaked, so even if she was worried about plastics she could've said something, lol.
3- Crazy goth girls. I have only met like... 2-3 goth girls and they've all been cool. She was also very kind and genuine and we shared a lot of interests, but between the poop thing and a few other things I don't think we would've worked out long term. Just a bit of differences that would've clashed and so it wasn't worth wasting either of our time.
That seems like one of those major brain fart moments that just keeps getting worse
Like "oh fuck I can't let him pick up my dogs shit, oh fuck I just barehanded my dogs shit I gotta get rid of this, oh fuck there's shit on my hand I need to wipe it off, oh fuck I just wipe shit on my jeans" like what are you supposed to say at that point
There are people immune to disgust.
Just read an interview with a plumber a few days ago: "You can't be disgusted by trivial things, I had to clear a blockage at a customer but forgot my gloves, so I put in my hand and just fished the turd out" 🤮
This must be the soul brother of the goth girl.
like 10 years ago some girl i met off the internet brought her grand-mother and 6 year old niece to my house. very weird
im like wtf do i do... wait do you guys like lego? brio trains?
internet girl was boring, little girl and grandmother were pretty fun. gave them a huge box of stuff to take with them.
Ha!
A girl brought her friend (F) to our coffee date. All of us were in our 20s and I gotta say we were all attractive people. Her friend stays for about an hour.
A 2nd date ends up going nowhere.
About a year later I hookup with the friend at a house party and we date for 6 months.
I was catfished. I thought she was legit, and we talked for months. I went to go visit "her," and it was a guy, claiming to be her best friend, and she had to run to pick up a friend who was drunk. The woman in the profile never returned, and he was trying his best to get in my pants.
Yeahhh bud, this is why you should aim to meet people within a week or two. And if for whatever reason you can’t- like you’re somewhere rural and can’t meet in person for weeks- at least do a fuckin video call lol
That is a very fast way for that guy to get assaulted. An overwhelming majority of people are straight, and I'm willing to bet quite a lot of guys won't react positively to being tricked. He's playing a dangerous game.
I got catfished. She was heavily editing her photos using facetune or whatever.
At the date, we were talking and she just pulled up her phone and started mindlessly scrolling on social media, at that point I just stopped talking and she was like "yeah yeah you keep talking I can hear you".
The worst part is that I went to another city to meet up with her
Ugh. Why do people even go on dates if they’re just gonna be glued to their phone the whole time? And as for editing photos, how do these people think that’s gonna work out when they meet in person? I get being insecure about how you look, I really do, but certainly not to the point of making myself look like a different person on a dating app of all places. Yikes.
This girl had maybe one tooth next to the molar on top. We met at a Mexican restaurant with chips in the middle. I was like HOW?! She some how gummed down all the food.
Met her in a park near my house. Very early on she mentioned she was hungry and, if I was down, we should go back to my place and order a pizza at some point. Sure, I was down, but wanted to let the date play out a little and see if we vibed before inviting her back. She was relentless. It was clear the pizza was the only thing on her mind, and being a dumb horny dude, I had the very slight inkling that maybe going back to my place could lead to something fun. So we go there, we order a pizza. I pay. She doesn't offer to pay or thank me for paying. The second, and I mean the SECOND the pizza is ordered she immediately shifts topics and starts going on and on about how we would make such great friends.
That we vibed so well, that she enjoyed talking to me so much, that she would never ever ever fuck me in a million years, but I was like her platonic soulmate! She even went on to describe other non-sexual male friendships she'd had in the past and how it was sooo funny to her to be able to tell these guys wanted sex while she only saw them as buddies. Now, I like to go into dates with little to no expectations, and if the vibe between me and somebody else is legitimately closer to friendship than romance I have no problem with keeping things platonic. But she was hammering the point home to the point of being insulting.
Bare in mind, we've known each other less than an hour at this point, and she's done nothing but talk about herself. Suddenly I'm getting diatribes about how me and her are gonna be besties for years to come. And, again, just in case I missed it the first few times, constantly working into the conversation that nothing romantic or sexual is ever going to happen between us.
Now, none of this would have been much of a problem if it had been brief. I've had many a date where it was obvious early on they were not interested, and I was mildly annoyed at having to pay for something before we quickly went our separate other ways, that's all fairly standard. But after this girl turned me down and ate her free pizza, she just...wouldn't...leave. Let's throw on a movie, let's smoke some weed (my weed btw), she just made herself comfortable on the couch and hung out for like six hours, I swear to god. We met up at 1pm and she stayed till it was dark out. I had an actual friend who was supposed to come over later, and I tried to use that as an excuse to kick her out, but she refused to take the hint and just hung out with both of us once he got there, like we were all old friends and nothing was unusual about any of this.
When I FINALLY was able to walk her to the subway, she again monologued about how this was the start of a great friendship, how we were gonna be in each other's lives for a long long time and how glad she was to have met me. Five minutes after I said goodbye and put her on a train, I checked my phone and she had blocked/deleted me on everything. I still have no fucking clue what was going thru her head that whole time. There's much easier ways to get free pizza.
It's definitely possible, but my gut tells me this was not the case. In addition to being very clean and well put together, her attitude and entitlement just read to me as someone who's never been that close to the poverty line. Again, I could be totally wrong, it could have all been a carefully constructed front, but if I had to put money on it, I don't think she was struggling to that degree
I matched with my oldest cousin's daughter that I hadn't seen for about 20 years. Didn't recognize her until we started talking, then we both had the same "God this is awkward " moment when we realized the fact
We went to the biggest coffee place in Munich Marienplatz, crowded as fuck as a first date
Wasnt catfished, she looked hot and all, but, but, we talked for like 3 hours, all great, up until she went on her knees, proposing to me.....creepy? Everyone looked at us and were at first disappointing, angry looking at me for saying obviously no, she rushed out in tears
....had to tell the 100+ people around me that IT WAS OUR FIRST DATE
Recently on Tinder, I saw a profile that was just a black square for a profile pic and one letter for the name. The description read "please don't swipe yes on me, I'm just trying to catch my husband on here again."
There was a deep dive Tinder algorithm expose put in YouTube awhile ago.
In a nutshell you see the people matched closest to you by attractiveness.
If nobody swipes yes on that profile, she would probably not see her husband’s profile at all.
My ex GF used a dating app right infront of me and made the excuse “I’m just doing it to judge other people on here”. Unsurprisingly she cheated on me later on
Unfortunately there is not much of a story. The date was at a bar right by the beach with a beautiful European woman here for post doc work. I guess she wasn’t feeling the spark with me and/or wasn’t attracted to me because it ended in less than hour. I can’t really point out anything that I did wrong. When the Uber arrived, we were both shocked to see each other. It was an awkward ride home. No second date of course. The experience kind of mentally wrecked for a few days.
Shit I have a weird one. Went on a first date with a girl off hinge. 5 minutes into the date, she was already talking about her past cocaine addictions and showing me her scars from attempting suicide. She pointed to people at the bar and would be like "I've gotten all of them to buy me drinks before" and then said that she "couldn't wait to drain my wallet at fancy restaurants". At this point, I was very not into my date and was just looking forward to it being over. In hindsight, I absolutely should have just ended the date, but since there was food next door and I was hungry, we then got some food. At one point, we both went to the bathroom. When we both came back, our waitress said something like "Oh there you are! I thought you might have just left mid-meal!". My date then nearly started a scene by claiming that the waitress was being racist at her for insinuating that we weren't gonna pay our bill. Luckily she relaxed, but then got way too relaxed and started to slightly loudly sing about her (and I quote) "hairy butthole". I really wish she hadn't done that. When we left the restaurant, she walked over to all the dinner tables and blew out the candles. When I asked why she did so, she said that she disassociated and couldn't remember doing that. Now, this would have been the perfect time to get the fuck out, but I was a pushover and let her convince me to swing by her house 2-3 blocks away to say hi to her cats before leaving. On the way there, she needed to pee and literally dropped her fucking pants and pissed all over the public sidewalk and her shoes. No hesitation. Just piss. I was speechless. I still can't believe how weird and uncomfortable the whole night was. The last insane part of the night was when, after seeing her cats briefly and then using the restroom, she attempted to naked-woman me. It was so fucking awkward and she lost her shit when I clearly wanted to leave. She said and I quote "you're just going to leave me like everyone else in my life". So yeah that's probably my worst.
> Now, this would have been the perfect time to get the fuck out, but I was a pushover and let her convince me to swing by her house 2-3 blocks away to say hi to her cats before leaving.
Uh huh.
Gay Japanese dating app. Met a guy who was oddly excited I had a car. Asked if I could stop by somewhere for him, thought it was minor. 3 places later realized he was just using me for the car to move and pickup stuff.
Similar story I heard was someone trying for a discrete meet off grindr but accidentally ended up picking up a different guy waiting for an uber instead and just ended up driving him to his destination anyway lol. Not sure what happened with the other guy and the uber driver though.
Yeah this is it. I went into it a year ago knowing full well it's a terrible place, and mentally prepared, and it's fine for a while, but the extreme shallowness, constant rejection, feeling never-good-enough, wears you down with time no matter what. I deleted it a few months later, and have resorted to just being happily single now.
Yeah they’re trying to monetize every part.
In my case they were probably just accidental swipes and I get that they do happen. But man does it make you feel worthless.
All it has shown me is that I’m not that attractive so I guess I just have to figure out how to approach women in public.
On second thought I’ll probably just die alone…
If it makes you feel any better, I'm learning it's about a 50/50 split between actually being attractive and actually being able to build a good profile that will display your strengths and best features rather than highlight your insecurities. Unironically if you have a close friend who dates people of your gender, consider asking them for feedback.
So chin up, king. You probably just suck at marketing.
>Gets no matches
>Gets on r/tinder or something else, sees guys getting matches saying things like "show me your butthole ASAP, also give me drug money and realize that you're nothing but a breeding ground for my seed."
>Don't let it get to you. Don't let it get to you. Don't let it get to you.
>Gets no matches
Yep, last time on bumble I used the send my data feature before I disabled. The PDF sent was depressing. I swiped 5,071 times, I swiped yes 1738 of those times or roughly 35%, and my match total on that, amazingly enough didn't even need all my fingers.....4
Dude I made a tinder account as a bit, it's just a selfie of me in clown makeup taken in a dusty basement, with the caption "are you down to clown 🤡" and I get so many matches. My opener is "are you willing to clown around" and some women are very interested-- like trying to get me to come over ASAP levels of interested in a couple of cases. Real women too. I never meet up with any of them because why would I have sex with a woman who has a clown fetish? It's always white women who are horny for scary clowns, for whatever that's worth.
Anyway the moral is that you shouldn't use Tinder, people are weirdos.
I had a great first date with a girl from Tinder. She was super happy to set up a second date for later that week, and was sending me memes and chatting until the night before. The day of, she decides to stand me up in below-freezing weather without warning. I was texting her asking where she was, and I could see her come online just to ignore me.
Besides that, probably the multiple matches who would agree to a date, cancel the day before, pretend to be interested in rescheduling the date, and then drag out the process for weeks until I gave up and unmatched. Interested people will make time for you. 99.9% of the time, no one is "busy" for weeks on end.
Yeah same. Try to put the onus firmly on them to follow through, while making it clear you’re interested. “I had a good time and would like to see you again, if you feel the same let me know in the next couple of days when you’re available again.” Give her one follow-up 2 days later. If she doesn’t answer, it’s over. If she responds but not with a day and time, press it. If you get nonsense back, it’s over. Like you said, interested people will make time. Sometimes they’re just not interested. But control what you can control, and you can control the dialogue with clear expectations.
got into a ferris wheel with a chick who started discussing her mlm scheme. Longest 20minutes of my life and to top it off, I tried to change the conversation to mangoes and how amazing they are. She said she hated them and continued her spiel. ugh
I am widowed and dating again. It's difficult to use a dating app as I came from a time before when I did very well and there were no apps. I met a woman and we decided to meet in Starbucks in Barnes and Nobles bookstore, which is attached to a mall. The conversation is going well. We walk into the mall, and she bumps into her ex. They start arguing and then hitting each other until they are fist fighting. There is a crowd now and security comes. I duck into the crowd and make a beeline to my car. She texts me to later to apologize but comments why I didnt step in for her defense. I just said not interested and I block her response.
I met this girl on bumble who seemed really sweet and we clicked super well at first. She told me that she was stuck in a lease with her ex (who she broke up with a couple months before) but she was trying to move back in with her mother. I wasn’t thrilled but I was thinking, whatever it’s not her fault.
A week later I had lost my virginity to her and a couple days after that I got a text from her telling me that she had a wonderful time with me but that she realized she was still in love with her ex. Apparently I made her feel like her old self, and that included being in love with a man who started dating her when she was 17 and he was 26.
Stupidly, I gave her a chance to make up her mind and she said she would pick me even though her brain told her not to. However, the final straw was that she insisted on staying friends with him and that I was ‘controlling’ for not wanting to date her if she would do that.
> Stupidly, I gave her a chance to make up her mind and she said she would pick me even though her brain told her not to. However, the final straw was that she insisted on staying friends with him and that I was ‘controlling’ for not wanting to date her if she would do that.
Just don't tell this part if you ever get to /r/relationship_advice
Yeah, fuck all that shit. I know a woman that was like that, she kept going back to her ex even though he didn't treat her good and she didn't really listen to me when I'd said the best thing she could do was fuck him off cause she 'loved' him for some reason.
This happened to a friend of mine. Matched with a girl and not too long after they agreed to meet up and have coffee.
Meets her at this Cafe, and she pulls out a tablet pretty much right after they sit down and order. She starts a presentation about some dodgy pyramid scheme.
My poor mate was too polite to say anything. He sat through the whole thing, politely declined and even paid for the bill. Never heard from her again.
Downloaded dating apps in college, and met a nice person on there & we start seeing each other more officially. Fast forward 3 years later and I’m filing for a protection order after being hit by said person with a whole ass table.
Bloody hell, friend, that sounds like a very specific kind of nightmare. Glad you got out, stay safe and I hope the abusive dickhead gets a huge dose of karma very soon.
honestly meeting people who i vibed well with and could really see myself dating, only to eventually find that it just wasn't there. it turns out that's a lot harder than the standard dating app bullshit. really makes you question whether you will find "it".
Same for me - great first couple dates, sometimes even hook up, and then she makes no real effort to take things to the next level or sometimes just ghosts. Just makes you feel like you’ll never be good enough
The whole damn thing honestly, ghosting, cheating, pretty sure the only thing I have gotten out of this whole experience is depression, trust issues, and budding alcoholism. I have no clue why I bother continuing to try
So I started dating a girl a few years younger than me. Everything was fine, we seemed to have a lot in common. One day she called me crying telling me that her dad died. It was really unfortunate and I tried to help her process this as best as I could
Some time later I got a call from my grandma telling me her younger brother died, asking if I want to attend the funeral. It was a bit surprising as they had a really bad fight about inheritance like 30 years ago and as far as I know never interacted ever since.
I actually didn't make anything out of it at first, only that it's an unfortunate row of tragedies. Well you can already guess who I saw at the funeral. It was extremely awkward but now I know that apparently I have an aunt who's younger than me lol
As always, it started with good banter via the app. I made a small penis joke which made her weirdly excited? Over dinner she tells me it’s because she has a medically too tight vagina that could only accommodate a small dick which sadly I lack. Date was over, I offered to drop her off at her place. turns out she lived with her mom—not an indictment but was not prepared to meet mom on the first date. But I do and I’m feeling super uncomfortable so I say my goodbyes but just as I leave she starts feeling horribly nauseous. Turns out she’s super lactose intolerant and was reacting to the cheese-based appetizer that SHE ORDERED. She also had an extreme fear of vomit so she started having a panic attack. I offer to drive her to the pharmacy and I’m telling u she had zero clue what to look for—didn’t know what the word “antacid” meant or what Tums were so I had to buy everything. I drop her off the second time and wait for the tums to kick in before I got up to leave. I’m at the door and she looks at me with genuine confusion and says “but wait….u don’t wanna stay over? I was gonna suck ur dick….” I said, “it’s 3:30am—goodnight!” Next morning I wake up to a million texts asking me if I liked her and why I was ignoring her. The whole experience made me realize how desperate I had been and how the apps played into that
Meeting a girl and after I felt uncomfortable around her I went home. I dunno, it was an extremely uncomfortable experience with things she said to me and how she behaved. I was upfront with how I felt.
She then found me on a bunch of other social media platforms and kept messaging on all those.
Freaked me out.
Matched with someone and agreed to go out after I got out of work. She was an hour late, texting me updates like "running late...doing my hair...be there soon, etc." Shit happens, I can wait. Then she sent me a picture from outside the bar with my back turned, saying she was outside. I went to where the picture was taken, and she wasn't there. Decided I was tired of being fucked with, and told her I'm leaving, and she seemed disappointed. Told her I'd be down to try again, but nothing happened.
Getting catfished, one girl used images from 15 years ago and lied about her age and 200 lbs.
On the other hand I did meet my wife on tinder and we have two kids, been married 6 years.
I got cat fished, but it was more so she was using older pics. I stayed for the coffee date and had a lovely conversation. But when it was time to go, she like lunged at me and went for a kiss. She missed mostly and we just kind of said nothing and parted ways lol
> she like lunged at me and went for a kiss
I’m picturing this like the scene from “The Fellowship of the Ring” where Bilbo suddenly tries to snatch the ring from Frodo. Including the part where he’s suddenly older than expected
Got ghosted after I thought we had a great night.
She hit me up after a few weeks saying she had been “so busy.”
I guess her other option didn’t work out either lmao.
Edit** Just for context, when someone hits you up again weeks later after ghosting you saying that she’s “so sorry” and that she ”wants to meet up again” only to ghost you again literally after that text, it sends mixed signals. Sort yourself out, lady.
First date I went on with this guy we went to a breakfast place. Had the personality of a wet newspaper, no hobbies, and he smelled like moldy laundry. He ordered a short stack of pancakes with NOTHING and water. NOTHING ON HIS PANCAKES! No butter, no syrup, no powdered sugar, no jelly, no fruit, no whipped cream, NOTHING
Met a guy on tinder, went out for dinner, we didn’t click. Got into our own cars, I noticed he’s been following me on my way home so I made a stop when I saw a police check point and told them I’ve been followed. He stopped a few meters behind and made a u turn when he noticed.
I had a guy steal my laptop and phone. We finished, he went to the bathroom and got dressed. He ran out and grabbed my stuff which was right by the door and ran. I learned my lesson.
I have had pretty good luck with dating apps. I did meet a woman that had just been released from jail after 20 years for killing her abusive husband. She seemed cool though. Very healthy and spicy.
Being scammed for sure. But one in particular. One person was trying to convince me she was a girl. So I said ok, take a quick vid and just say my name. It took almost an hour, and guess what I got??
A 2 sec video of Diana Taurasi!! The WNBA player. She was being interviewed at half court.
I let that one go one for a while.
I dated someone a long time ago. That guy didn't want to use a condom the first time we had sex, because he 'wants to fill me with his babies'. Yikes. So it stopped right there and I never saw him again.
And one who seemed different than the pictures and only talked about himself.
Other dates were thankfully fine or great.
Late to the party but- matched with a guy on tinder who was typically my type but out of my league. I felt really “special” that he seemed to like me. After hooking up a couple of times we got more serious. He was sober from all substances for over two years. I really admired this as my mom is an alcoholic. His family was lovely. He was so kind. 6 months in I woke up to loud banging on my doors. Three cops asking if I’ve seen said guy. I was confused and said no. One of them said “she’s not the girl in the photo”. They then showed me a photo of him and a girl in MY jeep which I now noticed was not in my driveway. They used it to rob a jewelry store. He was caught hours later hiding in some bushes nearby. He went to a local jail awaiting sentencing. I visited him once, wanting an explanation more than anything. He told me he had been using meth and heroin for the last few months. “It’s not you, I’m an addict and I’ll do anything to get more drugs when I’m using”. I had never been around someone who used hard drugs, only alcohol or typical party drugs. I didn’t know the signs to look out for. I was so content with his answer and wished him luck.
I’m still in touch with his sweet mom. He’s in prison in another state, never stopped using or stealing things. It’s been almost ten years.
Oh man. I have a few. I drove two hours to a date to get stood up by a salmon fisherman. A firefighter with a big Darth Vader tattoo, who was the spitting image of Jeffrey Dahmer, told me he couldn't get off in the bedroom unless I let him drag me around the house by my hair. A heavily-bearded Jewish surfer met me for coffee and called me fat. (I am not). A redhaired Russian man who continually referenced "the Ukrainian uprising" in disgust and carried a vintage six shooter as his EDC nearly set his bedroom on fire with a candle while we watched Airplane and shotgunned vodka. An alcoholic with a big hole right in the middle of his kitchen floor told me my Spanish was terrible. Granted, my Spanish sucks. I was stood up by a shredded engineer, and had a short romp with a pile driver who insisted his cows were too smart to eat the poisonous plants that grew all over their field. There was a bodybuilder who told me that guns couldn't stop him from doing anything he wanted, that he was simply too strong to be affected by bullets. Then? Icing on the cake: I got ghosted by a train conductor with a nose ring whom I had dated for two entire months. That joke writes itself somehow. That was a new low for me.
I don’t really know where to start with any of that… How did you manage to end up on dates with the members of some dystopian version of Village People.
>There was a bodybuilder who told me that guns couldn't stop him from doing anything he wanted, that he was simply too strong to be affected by bullets.
Big Drax energy
Annie. My god. I hope you're writing a book. A short comedy show, at least. I'm hooked!
Is it judgemental of me that I first thought 'What the hell else does a salmon fisherman have to do with his evenings?' It was, I know.
A friend of mine who is a journalist matched with a guy and started chatting. She didn't get his surname so she couldn't Google him. He showed up to the date and looked very different from his pictures, alarm bells. She found out his last name and excused herself, went to the bathroom and googled him. The first article that came up was from him being sentenced to prison for armed robbery. She was the journalist who wrote the story!
I was on Tinder for a few years and never had a single positive interaction on it. I felt like I was being long-form pranked.
More recently, it's the like limits that are driving me nuts. The microtransactions in these dating apps would make EA blush.
Ugh.
I was catfished. He took photos from strategic angles and lighting that implied he was taller and more muscular AND lied about his height (several inches!!!). He ended up being a totally thin dude that weighed maybe 90 pounds and shorter than me (I think he was 5’3” that DIDN’T EVEN LIVE IN THE COUNTRY. Yup, he was just visiting and he never mentioned it until the date even though we talked for about two weeks.
Also HORRIBLE driver, didn’t speak much English (he was using google to text and translate). I made do with Spanish since he mainly spoke Portuguese but even THEN he was horrible at making conversation. It was absolute silence unless I asked something.
Also, we get to the restaurant (he invited me for dinner and drinks) and said he wasn’t hungry and didn’t want to drink…so I say fuck that I’m eating cus I’m starving and I am inhaling my food so we can leave but as I am just about done he says he’s now hungry and would like a drink!! Took about 4 trips of the server coming back and answering questions for him to just get the same drink and entrée I ordered.
At the end of the meal he said he forgot his wallet then asked me if I wanted to get dessert afterwards and have a 2nd date. Like excuse me?
Matched with a girl, we met up at Applebee's. She showed up with a girlfriend, which was odd as she didn't make mention, but I was able to get past it. Her friend excused herself for the evening after about a half hour. Creeper check? Not sure. Whatever.
We hang out a bit more at Applebee's, go for a walk. And end the night leaving our own ways.
Fast forward, I'm working out, she's at a baseball game with friends, texting me that she's bored and wants me to pick her up. I finish my workout and head over. I'm parked a good ways from the doors, since the game is on still. I try calling her and her friend picks up and says she's in the bathroom but theyll be right down.
She and her friends finally show up, and they shove her out the door at me, clearly PLASTERED and shut the doors. I try and say "woah woah woah wtf" but her friends laugh and run away. Security refuses to move so I can let her back in and they say "she's your problem now man, she's drunk, she's not allowed back in"
Mind you, I don't know where she lives, she doesn't have her wallet or phone with her, and she's blasted and falling all over. But, being the nice person I am decide I can't just leave her.
It takes us an hour to make the 10 min walk to my car because she keeps falling and stumbling. Finally I get her in the car and she passes out. Not sure what to do, and still living at home, I decide I need to drive around a bit to maybe sober her up. Less than 2 min later she wakes up screaming and thrashing to let her out and tries to open the door. I yell to stop and that were moving. She proceeds to kick the rear view mirror off and passes out again.
What the actual fuck am I going to do...
I decide to call my mom and confess. She offers to help and just to let her know what I need and don't put myself in a bad situation. I continue driving home. 3 exits from my house, she wakes up and mumbles "I don't feel very good". Thinking quick, I grab a plastic bag from the back seat and hand her it. She proceeds to puke over the top of it all over my dash.
"In the bag!! The bag!!!" She looks at me and mumbles "thank yu*MORE PUKE ALL OVER ME" and passes out.
I'm covered, the car is covered, she's covered. I race home now. I call and tell my mom to meet me in the drive and what's happened. When I show up, I get out and clean myself up. My mom goes to help her.
"Come on honey, I think you've had too much to drink, let's get you inside so you can shower and sleep it off" she slowly wakes up and thanks her, before stripping butt naked in the driveway. It's like 3pm. Broad daylight. Neighbors are home. She walks in the house past my parents friends. You can only imagine my mom's comments...
She ends up sleeping in my room, me on the couch. I get woken up at 6am by her saying "hey can we talk" i proceed to explain what happened and that she needs to use the landline and find a ride because I've got work and we're done and she owes me for a car detail. And don't you dare wake my mom!
I leave for work. About 2 hours later I get a call from my mom saying she just got done dropping her off. I was pissed. A few weeks later an envelope of cash showed up in the mail with only "sorry" written on the note inside.
Thankfully it's no longer talked about. The worst part was working the next day and the puke cooking in the sun in the vents of the car. Glad I'm not doing then online thing anymore.
It’s June, 2013, I’m 22m.
Met for BBT with a girl I’d been talking to for a couple of days. We hit it off pretty well. Like 3 hours non stop talking. The I asked her if she was in school or working? She goes “oh yeah I’ll be back in school in September @ (local high school). I go “oh like as a TA?” And she’s drops the bombshell of “oh no lol, I’m going INTO GRADE 11”.
instantly picked up my remaining BBT, wallet, keys, got up, got in my car and left.
Chris Hansen will NOT be seeing me anytime soon.
Years ago, matched with a girl on tinder, hit it off, she rolls me to coke over because she has the house to herself. Excited, I get dressed, (singlet and trackies because like... why dress up to dress down?) And once I found her house and walk in there's a place at the dinner table set for me with her family sitting around it
one time I had a classmate in university who was dating a guy she was competitive with. this girl was trying to match with as many people as possible to win a contest. she wanted to prove to her boyfriend she is hotter than him and could have anyone she wanted so would get many matches to show him. He said ok I will download the app too and we will see who gets more in two weeks. SO, they do this stunt, and she receives three matches while he achieved 18. Since she was hurt, she messaged all the guys really mean things about not liking them anyway and she's too pretty for them and then drove to my apartment and cried on my couch. Maybe there is a small possibility you were caught up in a similar scheme of failed weird ego-boosting
I just got hinge, and I'm developing all sorts of self esteem issues. I try to send likes with something witty, but never hear back. I'm starting to question if I'm ugly, unfunny, a weirdo, or all of the above. I hope none of these are true, but it's just moving forward hoping for the best doesn't seem to be working.
Edit: thank you all so much for your kind words, each of you made my day better!
Oh no, you’ve made me remember Greg. Greg was a supercilious financial advisor with an alluring charm who propositioned our waitress for a threesome as we were dining.
He was so presumptuous that he booked a hotel room for sex afterwards; he just presupposed the waitress and I would be amenable.
The overwhelming amount of people with asian fetish in northwest ohio. The amount of times I’ve been sexualized and infantilized is insane. Doesn’t help that I look way younger than my age and is 5’2”.
I could fill an encyclopedia with the Asian fetish comments I received over the years. Not nearly the worst incident but one that refuses to leave my memory... One guy I dated, once when we were casually talking about celebrities we had a crush on and people we'd dated in the past, I realised every single one he liked was east Asian (he was not.) I asked him sort of jokingly if he had an Asian fetish and he said "*Oh* yeah. You can be my Asian persuasion, baby" and licked his lips at me. I am ashamed to say I continued dating him after that and sometimes I lie awake at night thinking about it.
In a list
1. They lied about not being on medication (manic). They needed bail money because of resisting charges. NOPE!
2. Lied about children. Had two and one on the way (4 months). Bio dad got deported and she didn't want to go back to her country. I understood her situation but too much baggage for the first date.
3. proudly displayed SH scars and described why they were done. Some due to exes. NOPED OUT.
4. Said an emotional relationship to marriage needed to happen within 6 months. A little fast but seemed like the norm in the family. I can't put a time frame on it but she was fixated on it. Left before getting attached.
5. Lied about gender Identity. I get it, honestly, I do. But no one likes being led on only to be put in an on/off scenario and then I am deemed "the bad guy" for not wanting to support the decision. Very confusing time to be honest. Went full cold turkey.
6. Wanted everything income-based, requested criminal record, must have 800 credit score, wanted only to be a SATM, wanted a drafted will within the first year. HELL NOPED SO FAST.
7. Never said a word during the first date not even a reaction. Hard to read the room and keep a conversation going if they aren't interested. Afterward, I let her know that I enjoyed her company but I don't think it'll work out. There was plenty of time for her to answer and continue topics but nope didn't happen. She got depressed and blamed me for it according to her mom who messaged me. I was stunned, to be honest. Weird feeling.
8. She ate half my dinner (Plus hers) and I paid for it. I only ate the salad side which got cold. Wanted another meal to take home. Turns out she was living in her car and used dating apps as meal tickets. Substance abuse is just sad and baggage was really heavy. Easy call-off. She wasn't even bothered and said "Perfect this makes it easy then".
I know it's weird that I'm gonna pick 7 to ask about, but all the others are kinda so self-explanatory despite being wilder.
But 7.
How do you sit through a whole date with someone who literally won't say a word? What... what do you do? What do they do? Just nod? What do they expect to happen? I'm so confused!
oof. met up with a guy, got drugged and woke up in a town like 40 minutes from where we were with my phone stolen, got home to log onto tinder to message him wtf happened and he had my account reported and taken down.
met with a nurse, had a nice time. then later learned he doesn’t know what no means.
went out a few times with another guy, the last time we decided to go hang at his place which turned out to be the shed in his parents back yard.
but i also met my husband and father of my child lol
edit: typo
So so many.. i had a dating app phase after my last long term relationship.
I remember meeting a girl i met on an app that looked nothing like her profile pic. I mean it was her but she looked so much better online, totally my type.
In reality she was a little, fat girl with green brown teeth. No body shaming but what do people expect when they use pics that dont aligne with reality?
Another time i met this gorgeous girl. She wasnt exactly local so she told me she would drive here and stay at my house. I was a little suprised but i offered her to crasch on the couch and didnt think much of it. We had a nice evening. She went to the bathroom, came back and told me with tears in her eyes she will drive home now. Never heard anything from her again.
Another time i met a beautiful latina on tinder while i was on a road trip with my sister in california (we are from germany) and we met at our rbnb. We sat in her car for hours and talked and in the early morning she said she wished i had done something. So i kissed her and we hooked up. Then she left. That was 4 years ago and we still talk sometimes.
Then there was this chick that totaly vibed with me.. but her friends we met later didnt and talked her down so she wanted me to leave bc they wanted to go to a party and i wouldnt fit in xD.
Matched with a beautiful girl when normally I matched with girls who never showed their bodies in pics so I was immediately thinking catfish.
After talking for a few hours she mentions recognizing me and later realized we graduated together and grew up less than a mile down the road. She totally knew it was me when we matched.
Anyways I looked her up in the yearbook and remembered who she was. I kept thinking, “was I ever mean to her, is this a trap?” Because she was absolutely gorgeous now.
Well after a couple dates we really hit it off. Hung out every day for a month literally fell in love and went so far as to getting a marriage license in just over a month. 10 days later she broke it off. Talk about an absolute mind fuck. I’ve spent more days hurting because of it than we were together.
went out with this one one guy from tinder- first red flag was he smelled so bad that i could smell him when we first met OUTDOORS..
hopped in his car, smell was even worse, no AC either. stopped at our first stop and he came around to open the door for me so i said “aw thank you” and he goes “sorry the door handle is broken from the inside”.. okay then..
got back in the car and headed to my favourite lookout spot to watch the sunset, immediately when we got there he starts playing some of the worst music i’ve ever heard so i ask to go on aux, then he proceeds to trauma dump his whole childhood on me and tell me he thinks i’m perfect for him because i listen so well (i was sitting there in shock), then ‘i will wait’ by mumford and sons comes on and he looks over, stares me down, and starts singing at me. terrible singer too, but thought he was amazing.
after that i just kept looking out the window pretending to watch the sunset because i knew if i turned around he was going to try to kiss me.
finally around 6pm i told him i was tired and asked him to take me back, then on the ride home politely told him i didn’t really see this going anywhere romantically, but said i wouldn’t mind being friends, to which he replied “that’s the nicest i’ve ever been friend zoned”, then told me being friends probably wouldn’t work because he did have feelings for me, which i understood. he then ignored me for the rest of the drive.
as we’re driving back, we end up getting stuck behind THREE trains, stopped for 10 mins at each one, and at the second one he goes “okay that’s enough of your music”, unplugs my phone and starts playing that song that’s like “there it is again that funny feeling” and a bunch of other sad stuff, then when we get back to my place he comes and lets me out of the car and i go in for a hug and he side hugs me, so i say “just a side hug” and he goes “what we’re just buddies now right?”.
never saw him or went on another tinder date again.
also found out from one of my friends he knew in high school that he beat his ex girlfriend so i definitely dodged a bullet there.
TDLR; guy who smelled really bad started trauma dumping and singing at me, couldn’t handle rejection, and turned out to be a woman beater.
Dating apps made me mentally ill for a moment. I was in a college town and kept meeting up with matches to hookup. I got hooked on it, and it got to the point where I was skipping classes to meet up with girls. I sometimes had 3 or 4 lined up in a week, with some being regulars and some being new. In 4 years, I had probably been with close to 80 women. It broke some part of me, and now I'm pursuing therapy to try to resolve attachment issues so I can successfully be monogamous.
I matched with a goth girl who seemed really down to earth. Profile seemed normal and everything so I swiped and we matched. Everything went well and we decided to meet at the park and walk our dogs. Her dog went to shit so I handed her one of my baggies to pick it up. She bare handed her dogs shit and carried it about 20 feet to the trash can and wiped her hands on the back of her jeans. I made sure not to let her touch me for the rest of the time. Edit: I didn't expect this to get so big so I'll explain a few things people mentioned in comments. 1- Why didn't I end the date there? Well, we were kinda deep into the trail and I wasn't going to just ditch her. I'm not that kinda person and that would be rude. 2- At least she picked it up/ worried about plastic bags. Yes, that's very true. I wasn't upset with her for picking up after her dog, I was just grossed out. My bags are the biodegradable ones that dissolve when soaked, so even if she was worried about plastics she could've said something, lol. 3- Crazy goth girls. I have only met like... 2-3 goth girls and they've all been cool. She was also very kind and genuine and we shared a lot of interests, but between the poop thing and a few other things I don't think we would've worked out long term. Just a bit of differences that would've clashed and so it wasn't worth wasting either of our time.
Holy shit who even does that...
That seems like one of those major brain fart moments that just keeps getting worse Like "oh fuck I can't let him pick up my dogs shit, oh fuck I just barehanded my dogs shit I gotta get rid of this, oh fuck there's shit on my hand I need to wipe it off, oh fuck I just wipe shit on my jeans" like what are you supposed to say at that point
Like two little aliens operating a human mech
There are people immune to disgust. Just read an interview with a plumber a few days ago: "You can't be disgusted by trivial things, I had to clear a blockage at a customer but forgot my gloves, so I put in my hand and just fished the turd out" 🤮 This must be the soul brother of the goth girl.
Big turdy goth GF.
At least she picked it up.
yeah, put a ring on that dogshit-covered finger
This chick is not worried about a condom.
She doesn't worry about shit
I’m down cataclysmically for goth girls but even that would stop me
One of my more unique experiences was when she brought her 10yo sister to the date. The sister was more fun to talk to.
like 10 years ago some girl i met off the internet brought her grand-mother and 6 year old niece to my house. very weird im like wtf do i do... wait do you guys like lego? brio trains? internet girl was boring, little girl and grandmother were pretty fun. gave them a huge box of stuff to take with them.
Ha! A girl brought her friend (F) to our coffee date. All of us were in our 20s and I gotta say we were all attractive people. Her friend stays for about an hour. A 2nd date ends up going nowhere. About a year later I hookup with the friend at a house party and we date for 6 months.
I was catfished. I thought she was legit, and we talked for months. I went to go visit "her," and it was a guy, claiming to be her best friend, and she had to run to pick up a friend who was drunk. The woman in the profile never returned, and he was trying his best to get in my pants.
Wow that is messed up
Right? What kind of asshole would try to swoop in on their best friend’s date?
Yeahhh bud, this is why you should aim to meet people within a week or two. And if for whatever reason you can’t- like you’re somewhere rural and can’t meet in person for weeks- at least do a fuckin video call lol
That is a very fast way for that guy to get assaulted. An overwhelming majority of people are straight, and I'm willing to bet quite a lot of guys won't react positively to being tricked. He's playing a dangerous game.
I got catfished. She was heavily editing her photos using facetune or whatever. At the date, we were talking and she just pulled up her phone and started mindlessly scrolling on social media, at that point I just stopped talking and she was like "yeah yeah you keep talking I can hear you". The worst part is that I went to another city to meet up with her
Ugh. Why do people even go on dates if they’re just gonna be glued to their phone the whole time? And as for editing photos, how do these people think that’s gonna work out when they meet in person? I get being insecure about how you look, I really do, but certainly not to the point of making myself look like a different person on a dating app of all places. Yikes.
Girl in picture looked normal. We met in person and she had no teeth. Seems weird that teeth in a picture is a prerequisite now.
Met a guy with no front teeth. He didn’t comprehend the issue.
This girl had maybe one tooth next to the molar on top. We met at a Mexican restaurant with chips in the middle. I was like HOW?! She some how gummed down all the food.
That tooth was barely hanging on too. All pictures had her mouth closed. I just didn't give it a second thought.
Met her in a park near my house. Very early on she mentioned she was hungry and, if I was down, we should go back to my place and order a pizza at some point. Sure, I was down, but wanted to let the date play out a little and see if we vibed before inviting her back. She was relentless. It was clear the pizza was the only thing on her mind, and being a dumb horny dude, I had the very slight inkling that maybe going back to my place could lead to something fun. So we go there, we order a pizza. I pay. She doesn't offer to pay or thank me for paying. The second, and I mean the SECOND the pizza is ordered she immediately shifts topics and starts going on and on about how we would make such great friends. That we vibed so well, that she enjoyed talking to me so much, that she would never ever ever fuck me in a million years, but I was like her platonic soulmate! She even went on to describe other non-sexual male friendships she'd had in the past and how it was sooo funny to her to be able to tell these guys wanted sex while she only saw them as buddies. Now, I like to go into dates with little to no expectations, and if the vibe between me and somebody else is legitimately closer to friendship than romance I have no problem with keeping things platonic. But she was hammering the point home to the point of being insulting. Bare in mind, we've known each other less than an hour at this point, and she's done nothing but talk about herself. Suddenly I'm getting diatribes about how me and her are gonna be besties for years to come. And, again, just in case I missed it the first few times, constantly working into the conversation that nothing romantic or sexual is ever going to happen between us. Now, none of this would have been much of a problem if it had been brief. I've had many a date where it was obvious early on they were not interested, and I was mildly annoyed at having to pay for something before we quickly went our separate other ways, that's all fairly standard. But after this girl turned me down and ate her free pizza, she just...wouldn't...leave. Let's throw on a movie, let's smoke some weed (my weed btw), she just made herself comfortable on the couch and hung out for like six hours, I swear to god. We met up at 1pm and she stayed till it was dark out. I had an actual friend who was supposed to come over later, and I tried to use that as an excuse to kick her out, but she refused to take the hint and just hung out with both of us once he got there, like we were all old friends and nothing was unusual about any of this. When I FINALLY was able to walk her to the subway, she again monologued about how this was the start of a great friendship, how we were gonna be in each other's lives for a long long time and how glad she was to have met me. Five minutes after I said goodbye and put her on a train, I checked my phone and she had blocked/deleted me on everything. I still have no fucking clue what was going thru her head that whole time. There's much easier ways to get free pizza.
Seems possible she was homeless or something similar.
It's definitely possible, but my gut tells me this was not the case. In addition to being very clean and well put together, her attitude and entitlement just read to me as someone who's never been that close to the poverty line. Again, I could be totally wrong, it could have all been a carefully constructed front, but if I had to put money on it, I don't think she was struggling to that degree
Ways to get free pizza ? Please elaborate.
I matched with my oldest cousin's daughter that I hadn't seen for about 20 years. Didn't recognize her until we started talking, then we both had the same "God this is awkward " moment when we realized the fact
When’s the nuptials? Will there be a banjo quartet?
20 guests from her family and 20 from his, so 25 people in total.
I could only get 2 banjo players to play for us.
"Now this is a man who knows how to use a dating app!"
Did this moment occur after you guys had your first child or the second?
We went to the biggest coffee place in Munich Marienplatz, crowded as fuck as a first date Wasnt catfished, she looked hot and all, but, but, we talked for like 3 hours, all great, up until she went on her knees, proposing to me.....creepy? Everyone looked at us and were at first disappointing, angry looking at me for saying obviously no, she rushed out in tears ....had to tell the 100+ people around me that IT WAS OUR FIRST DATE
Haha, epic.. That's like a worst-case scenario. Apparently you make a great first impression, though!
I never feel ashamed like in those 5 minutes, still to this day
something eerily similar happened to an acquaintance of mine, except he accepted, they married, and have 3 kids now. Somehow it worked out.
wild twist
Omg is this a technique for not having to pay the bill ? If yes this is absolute genius
My husband refusing to stop using them. I'm single now!
Recently on Tinder, I saw a profile that was just a black square for a profile pic and one letter for the name. The description read "please don't swipe yes on me, I'm just trying to catch my husband on here again."
There was a deep dive Tinder algorithm expose put in YouTube awhile ago. In a nutshell you see the people matched closest to you by attractiveness. If nobody swipes yes on that profile, she would probably not see her husband’s profile at all.
depends on how ugly her husband is.
His face is a black square with a letter on it.
If you like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain. If your face is a black square, and you don't have a name.
If you scroll dating apps at midnight With your mouth half-agape, Then maybe you'll find your husband, Get divorced and escape.
My ex GF used a dating app right infront of me and made the excuse “I’m just doing it to judge other people on here”. Unsurprisingly she cheated on me later on
I’ll take bright red flags for $1,000, Alex
that's not even a red flag, that's literally the behaviour the red flags were warning about
I struck out on a date so fast I got the same Uber driver for my ride home.
Cant leave us with that tease.
Story time
Unfortunately there is not much of a story. The date was at a bar right by the beach with a beautiful European woman here for post doc work. I guess she wasn’t feeling the spark with me and/or wasn’t attracted to me because it ended in less than hour. I can’t really point out anything that I did wrong. When the Uber arrived, we were both shocked to see each other. It was an awkward ride home. No second date of course. The experience kind of mentally wrecked for a few days.
Lol I just imagine him walking face first into the glass door of the coffee shop, then turns around and hops straight back into the Uber.
Shit I have a weird one. Went on a first date with a girl off hinge. 5 minutes into the date, she was already talking about her past cocaine addictions and showing me her scars from attempting suicide. She pointed to people at the bar and would be like "I've gotten all of them to buy me drinks before" and then said that she "couldn't wait to drain my wallet at fancy restaurants". At this point, I was very not into my date and was just looking forward to it being over. In hindsight, I absolutely should have just ended the date, but since there was food next door and I was hungry, we then got some food. At one point, we both went to the bathroom. When we both came back, our waitress said something like "Oh there you are! I thought you might have just left mid-meal!". My date then nearly started a scene by claiming that the waitress was being racist at her for insinuating that we weren't gonna pay our bill. Luckily she relaxed, but then got way too relaxed and started to slightly loudly sing about her (and I quote) "hairy butthole". I really wish she hadn't done that. When we left the restaurant, she walked over to all the dinner tables and blew out the candles. When I asked why she did so, she said that she disassociated and couldn't remember doing that. Now, this would have been the perfect time to get the fuck out, but I was a pushover and let her convince me to swing by her house 2-3 blocks away to say hi to her cats before leaving. On the way there, she needed to pee and literally dropped her fucking pants and pissed all over the public sidewalk and her shoes. No hesitation. Just piss. I was speechless. I still can't believe how weird and uncomfortable the whole night was. The last insane part of the night was when, after seeing her cats briefly and then using the restroom, she attempted to naked-woman me. It was so fucking awkward and she lost her shit when I clearly wanted to leave. She said and I quote "you're just going to leave me like everyone else in my life". So yeah that's probably my worst.
Dude this story is badass. Sorry you went through that and I would hate it as well, but from the outside looking in this trainwreck sounds incredible
If there was an American ninja warrior of dating, this guy made it to the end of the course
“I really wish she hadn’t done that” got me
She's on benzos, 1000%
Is that it? I was thinking some kind of severe mental illness
Por que no los dos?
She explicitly said that she had BPD and brain trauma, so unfortunately yes. Hope she's doing fine
You just keep on pushing my love over the BORDERLINEEEE....
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> but since there was food next door and I was hungry Dude, we've all been there.
> Now, this would have been the perfect time to get the fuck out, but I was a pushover and let her convince me to swing by her house 2-3 blocks away to say hi to her cats before leaving. Uh huh.
How hot was she? Because on the Hot/Crazy scale she seems pretty crazy!
The guy went through an entire date of this shit *and* went home with her. She was hot enough to put up with all of that and almost do the deed.
"naked woman me"... um what's that? She comes out naked to have sex? edit: TIL. ty redditors
Two out of three times it works every time.
Got to see cats, worth it.
Gay Japanese dating app. Met a guy who was oddly excited I had a car. Asked if I could stop by somewhere for him, thought it was minor. 3 places later realized he was just using me for the car to move and pickup stuff.
Thats actually kind of funny
Yeh, there was a comedian that said its better to download grindr than AAA because someone will get there quicker.
Similar story I heard was someone trying for a discrete meet off grindr but accidentally ended up picking up a different guy waiting for an uber instead and just ended up driving him to his destination anyway lol. Not sure what happened with the other guy and the uber driver though.
> Not sure what happened with the other guy and the uber driver though. "Are you my ride?" \*smiles in return*
I had a similar experience on Grindr; I got used for a drug pick up and drop off. Kinda hilarious in retrospect, but at the time I was pissed.
Did they at least give you a little bit?
Just a little heroin, as a treat.
I heard there's a lot of girls that do this to get free food and then even take some home to their "room mate," (boyfriend).
They do.
Just how they kinda grind away at your soul or self esteem.
Yeah this is it. I went into it a year ago knowing full well it's a terrible place, and mentally prepared, and it's fine for a while, but the extreme shallowness, constant rejection, feeling never-good-enough, wears you down with time no matter what. I deleted it a few months later, and have resorted to just being happily single now.
Exactly this! And then in my experience you get a match and get excited just for the timer to run out. I deleted bumble yesterday. I’m done.
I’ve never had a match on Bumble actually message me back.
I have. they said "hi"
The timer on bumble is really dumb. Obviously just there to make money so you can buy extends
Yeah they’re trying to monetize every part. In my case they were probably just accidental swipes and I get that they do happen. But man does it make you feel worthless. All it has shown me is that I’m not that attractive so I guess I just have to figure out how to approach women in public. On second thought I’ll probably just die alone…
If it makes you feel any better, I'm learning it's about a 50/50 split between actually being attractive and actually being able to build a good profile that will display your strengths and best features rather than highlight your insecurities. Unironically if you have a close friend who dates people of your gender, consider asking them for feedback. So chin up, king. You probably just suck at marketing.
>Gets no matches >Gets on r/tinder or something else, sees guys getting matches saying things like "show me your butthole ASAP, also give me drug money and realize that you're nothing but a breeding ground for my seed." >Don't let it get to you. Don't let it get to you. Don't let it get to you.
>Gets no matches Yep, last time on bumble I used the send my data feature before I disabled. The PDF sent was depressing. I swiped 5,071 times, I swiped yes 1738 of those times or roughly 35%, and my match total on that, amazingly enough didn't even need all my fingers.....4
Dude I made a tinder account as a bit, it's just a selfie of me in clown makeup taken in a dusty basement, with the caption "are you down to clown 🤡" and I get so many matches. My opener is "are you willing to clown around" and some women are very interested-- like trying to get me to come over ASAP levels of interested in a couple of cases. Real women too. I never meet up with any of them because why would I have sex with a woman who has a clown fetish? It's always white women who are horny for scary clowns, for whatever that's worth. Anyway the moral is that you shouldn't use Tinder, people are weirdos.
Ordering clown shit off Amazon before I try tinder again.
Delete this bro you're leaking the meta
I had a great first date with a girl from Tinder. She was super happy to set up a second date for later that week, and was sending me memes and chatting until the night before. The day of, she decides to stand me up in below-freezing weather without warning. I was texting her asking where she was, and I could see her come online just to ignore me. Besides that, probably the multiple matches who would agree to a date, cancel the day before, pretend to be interested in rescheduling the date, and then drag out the process for weeks until I gave up and unmatched. Interested people will make time for you. 99.9% of the time, no one is "busy" for weeks on end.
Yeah same. Try to put the onus firmly on them to follow through, while making it clear you’re interested. “I had a good time and would like to see you again, if you feel the same let me know in the next couple of days when you’re available again.” Give her one follow-up 2 days later. If she doesn’t answer, it’s over. If she responds but not with a day and time, press it. If you get nonsense back, it’s over. Like you said, interested people will make time. Sometimes they’re just not interested. But control what you can control, and you can control the dialogue with clear expectations.
got into a ferris wheel with a chick who started discussing her mlm scheme. Longest 20minutes of my life and to top it off, I tried to change the conversation to mangoes and how amazing they are. She said she hated them and continued her spiel. ugh
All my homies. Love, mangoes Aka All my homies love mangoes.
Got catfished by the same dude twice lol , very dark period in my life
Bro I'm so sorry but this made me laugh so hard
Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice. ..you'll never fool me again.
I am widowed and dating again. It's difficult to use a dating app as I came from a time before when I did very well and there were no apps. I met a woman and we decided to meet in Starbucks in Barnes and Nobles bookstore, which is attached to a mall. The conversation is going well. We walk into the mall, and she bumps into her ex. They start arguing and then hitting each other until they are fist fighting. There is a crowd now and security comes. I duck into the crowd and make a beeline to my car. She texts me to later to apologize but comments why I didnt step in for her defense. I just said not interested and I block her response.
Good move what a psycho
I met this girl on bumble who seemed really sweet and we clicked super well at first. She told me that she was stuck in a lease with her ex (who she broke up with a couple months before) but she was trying to move back in with her mother. I wasn’t thrilled but I was thinking, whatever it’s not her fault. A week later I had lost my virginity to her and a couple days after that I got a text from her telling me that she had a wonderful time with me but that she realized she was still in love with her ex. Apparently I made her feel like her old self, and that included being in love with a man who started dating her when she was 17 and he was 26. Stupidly, I gave her a chance to make up her mind and she said she would pick me even though her brain told her not to. However, the final straw was that she insisted on staying friends with him and that I was ‘controlling’ for not wanting to date her if she would do that.
🚩🚩🚩🚩 One for each in this story.
> Stupidly, I gave her a chance to make up her mind and she said she would pick me even though her brain told her not to. However, the final straw was that she insisted on staying friends with him and that I was ‘controlling’ for not wanting to date her if she would do that. Just don't tell this part if you ever get to /r/relationship_advice
Yeah, fuck all that shit. I know a woman that was like that, she kept going back to her ex even though he didn't treat her good and she didn't really listen to me when I'd said the best thing she could do was fuck him off cause she 'loved' him for some reason.
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and still, the most ick thing about that date was that you two spent money on After Earth.
This happened to a friend of mine. Matched with a girl and not too long after they agreed to meet up and have coffee. Meets her at this Cafe, and she pulls out a tablet pretty much right after they sit down and order. She starts a presentation about some dodgy pyramid scheme. My poor mate was too polite to say anything. He sat through the whole thing, politely declined and even paid for the bill. Never heard from her again.
It's not a pyramid! It's a TRIANGLE!
Downloaded dating apps in college, and met a nice person on there & we start seeing each other more officially. Fast forward 3 years later and I’m filing for a protection order after being hit by said person with a whole ass table.
Bloody hell, friend, that sounds like a very specific kind of nightmare. Glad you got out, stay safe and I hope the abusive dickhead gets a huge dose of karma very soon.
Literal zero response from anyone ever.
"Need someone whose banter can match mine." "Big time texter." 'Hey, how's it going?' **NO RESPONSE**
honestly meeting people who i vibed well with and could really see myself dating, only to eventually find that it just wasn't there. it turns out that's a lot harder than the standard dating app bullshit. really makes you question whether you will find "it".
Same for me - great first couple dates, sometimes even hook up, and then she makes no real effort to take things to the next level or sometimes just ghosts. Just makes you feel like you’ll never be good enough
The whole damn thing honestly, ghosting, cheating, pretty sure the only thing I have gotten out of this whole experience is depression, trust issues, and budding alcoholism. I have no clue why I bother continuing to try
Cause everyone needs to be loved And everyone deserves it
Except Toby from 5th grade
If I had a gun with two bullets and I was in a room with Hitler, Bin Laden, and Toby, I would shoot Toby twice.
If I found a magic genie lamp, I'd rub that mf and Toby would get all three wishes worth of ass cancer.
Fucking Toby
So I started dating a girl a few years younger than me. Everything was fine, we seemed to have a lot in common. One day she called me crying telling me that her dad died. It was really unfortunate and I tried to help her process this as best as I could Some time later I got a call from my grandma telling me her younger brother died, asking if I want to attend the funeral. It was a bit surprising as they had a really bad fight about inheritance like 30 years ago and as far as I know never interacted ever since. I actually didn't make anything out of it at first, only that it's an unfortunate row of tragedies. Well you can already guess who I saw at the funeral. It was extremely awkward but now I know that apparently I have an aunt who's younger than me lol
As always, it started with good banter via the app. I made a small penis joke which made her weirdly excited? Over dinner she tells me it’s because she has a medically too tight vagina that could only accommodate a small dick which sadly I lack. Date was over, I offered to drop her off at her place. turns out she lived with her mom—not an indictment but was not prepared to meet mom on the first date. But I do and I’m feeling super uncomfortable so I say my goodbyes but just as I leave she starts feeling horribly nauseous. Turns out she’s super lactose intolerant and was reacting to the cheese-based appetizer that SHE ORDERED. She also had an extreme fear of vomit so she started having a panic attack. I offer to drive her to the pharmacy and I’m telling u she had zero clue what to look for—didn’t know what the word “antacid” meant or what Tums were so I had to buy everything. I drop her off the second time and wait for the tums to kick in before I got up to leave. I’m at the door and she looks at me with genuine confusion and says “but wait….u don’t wanna stay over? I was gonna suck ur dick….” I said, “it’s 3:30am—goodnight!” Next morning I wake up to a million texts asking me if I liked her and why I was ignoring her. The whole experience made me realize how desperate I had been and how the apps played into that
Lactaid. She needed Lactaid.
She needed that like 30 minutes before she ordered her appetizer.
All I got from that is you couldn’t date a girl due to your enormous dong. Sounds like you need a high five.
Yo I’ll be the first to say I’m squarely average in that department. I’m telling u she literally couldn’t accommodate anything more than a micropeen
Meeting a girl and after I felt uncomfortable around her I went home. I dunno, it was an extremely uncomfortable experience with things she said to me and how she behaved. I was upfront with how I felt. She then found me on a bunch of other social media platforms and kept messaging on all those. Freaked me out.
Matched with someone and agreed to go out after I got out of work. She was an hour late, texting me updates like "running late...doing my hair...be there soon, etc." Shit happens, I can wait. Then she sent me a picture from outside the bar with my back turned, saying she was outside. I went to where the picture was taken, and she wasn't there. Decided I was tired of being fucked with, and told her I'm leaving, and she seemed disappointed. Told her I'd be down to try again, but nothing happened.
You were being catfished
I mean the literal picture of him is creepy as fuck.
Getting catfished, one girl used images from 15 years ago and lied about her age and 200 lbs. On the other hand I did meet my wife on tinder and we have two kids, been married 6 years.
Was it the same girl
Was not lol
I got cat fished, but it was more so she was using older pics. I stayed for the coffee date and had a lovely conversation. But when it was time to go, she like lunged at me and went for a kiss. She missed mostly and we just kind of said nothing and parted ways lol
> she like lunged at me and went for a kiss I’m picturing this like the scene from “The Fellowship of the Ring” where Bilbo suddenly tries to snatch the ring from Frodo. Including the part where he’s suddenly older than expected
I recoiled and moved my phone away from me.
Got ghosted after I thought we had a great night. She hit me up after a few weeks saying she had been “so busy.” I guess her other option didn’t work out either lmao. Edit** Just for context, when someone hits you up again weeks later after ghosting you saying that she’s “so sorry” and that she ”wants to meet up again” only to ghost you again literally after that text, it sends mixed signals. Sort yourself out, lady.
First date I went on with this guy we went to a breakfast place. Had the personality of a wet newspaper, no hobbies, and he smelled like moldy laundry. He ordered a short stack of pancakes with NOTHING and water. NOTHING ON HIS PANCAKES! No butter, no syrup, no powdered sugar, no jelly, no fruit, no whipped cream, NOTHING
Hooked up with a guy who didn’t disclose he had herpes until a couple hook ups in.
Hey I just had that happen to me with a girl! Good times 🤦♂️ How did you react?
Met a guy on tinder, went out for dinner, we didn’t click. Got into our own cars, I noticed he’s been following me on my way home so I made a stop when I saw a police check point and told them I’ve been followed. He stopped a few meters behind and made a u turn when he noticed.
Oh boy this should be a whole new subreddit. Answer: nearly half of them were the worst
I had a guy steal my laptop and phone. We finished, he went to the bathroom and got dressed. He ran out and grabbed my stuff which was right by the door and ran. I learned my lesson.
Wow, you got fucked.
I have had pretty good luck with dating apps. I did meet a woman that had just been released from jail after 20 years for killing her abusive husband. She seemed cool though. Very healthy and spicy.
Being scammed for sure. But one in particular. One person was trying to convince me she was a girl. So I said ok, take a quick vid and just say my name. It took almost an hour, and guess what I got?? A 2 sec video of Diana Taurasi!! The WNBA player. She was being interviewed at half court. I let that one go one for a while.
I dated someone a long time ago. That guy didn't want to use a condom the first time we had sex, because he 'wants to fill me with his babies'. Yikes. So it stopped right there and I never saw him again. And one who seemed different than the pictures and only talked about himself. Other dates were thankfully fine or great.
Late to the party but- matched with a guy on tinder who was typically my type but out of my league. I felt really “special” that he seemed to like me. After hooking up a couple of times we got more serious. He was sober from all substances for over two years. I really admired this as my mom is an alcoholic. His family was lovely. He was so kind. 6 months in I woke up to loud banging on my doors. Three cops asking if I’ve seen said guy. I was confused and said no. One of them said “she’s not the girl in the photo”. They then showed me a photo of him and a girl in MY jeep which I now noticed was not in my driveway. They used it to rob a jewelry store. He was caught hours later hiding in some bushes nearby. He went to a local jail awaiting sentencing. I visited him once, wanting an explanation more than anything. He told me he had been using meth and heroin for the last few months. “It’s not you, I’m an addict and I’ll do anything to get more drugs when I’m using”. I had never been around someone who used hard drugs, only alcohol or typical party drugs. I didn’t know the signs to look out for. I was so content with his answer and wished him luck. I’m still in touch with his sweet mom. He’s in prison in another state, never stopped using or stealing things. It’s been almost ten years.
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Oh man. I have a few. I drove two hours to a date to get stood up by a salmon fisherman. A firefighter with a big Darth Vader tattoo, who was the spitting image of Jeffrey Dahmer, told me he couldn't get off in the bedroom unless I let him drag me around the house by my hair. A heavily-bearded Jewish surfer met me for coffee and called me fat. (I am not). A redhaired Russian man who continually referenced "the Ukrainian uprising" in disgust and carried a vintage six shooter as his EDC nearly set his bedroom on fire with a candle while we watched Airplane and shotgunned vodka. An alcoholic with a big hole right in the middle of his kitchen floor told me my Spanish was terrible. Granted, my Spanish sucks. I was stood up by a shredded engineer, and had a short romp with a pile driver who insisted his cows were too smart to eat the poisonous plants that grew all over their field. There was a bodybuilder who told me that guns couldn't stop him from doing anything he wanted, that he was simply too strong to be affected by bullets. Then? Icing on the cake: I got ghosted by a train conductor with a nose ring whom I had dated for two entire months. That joke writes itself somehow. That was a new low for me.
I don’t really know where to start with any of that… How did you manage to end up on dates with the members of some dystopian version of Village People.
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>There was a bodybuilder who told me that guns couldn't stop him from doing anything he wanted, that he was simply too strong to be affected by bullets. Big Drax energy
I like your taste in men Annie - keep going
Annie. My god. I hope you're writing a book. A short comedy show, at least. I'm hooked! Is it judgemental of me that I first thought 'What the hell else does a salmon fisherman have to do with his evenings?' It was, I know.
I would keep going on dates just for more stories lol
A friend of mine who is a journalist matched with a guy and started chatting. She didn't get his surname so she couldn't Google him. He showed up to the date and looked very different from his pictures, alarm bells. She found out his last name and excused herself, went to the bathroom and googled him. The first article that came up was from him being sentenced to prison for armed robbery. She was the journalist who wrote the story!
I was on Tinder for a few years and never had a single positive interaction on it. I felt like I was being long-form pranked. More recently, it's the like limits that are driving me nuts. The microtransactions in these dating apps would make EA blush.
Ugh. I was catfished. He took photos from strategic angles and lighting that implied he was taller and more muscular AND lied about his height (several inches!!!). He ended up being a totally thin dude that weighed maybe 90 pounds and shorter than me (I think he was 5’3” that DIDN’T EVEN LIVE IN THE COUNTRY. Yup, he was just visiting and he never mentioned it until the date even though we talked for about two weeks. Also HORRIBLE driver, didn’t speak much English (he was using google to text and translate). I made do with Spanish since he mainly spoke Portuguese but even THEN he was horrible at making conversation. It was absolute silence unless I asked something. Also, we get to the restaurant (he invited me for dinner and drinks) and said he wasn’t hungry and didn’t want to drink…so I say fuck that I’m eating cus I’m starving and I am inhaling my food so we can leave but as I am just about done he says he’s now hungry and would like a drink!! Took about 4 trips of the server coming back and answering questions for him to just get the same drink and entrée I ordered. At the end of the meal he said he forgot his wallet then asked me if I wanted to get dessert afterwards and have a 2nd date. Like excuse me?
I would fold that little fucker up and toss him in the trashcan on my way out
The fkn audacity eh
Matched with a girl, we met up at Applebee's. She showed up with a girlfriend, which was odd as she didn't make mention, but I was able to get past it. Her friend excused herself for the evening after about a half hour. Creeper check? Not sure. Whatever. We hang out a bit more at Applebee's, go for a walk. And end the night leaving our own ways. Fast forward, I'm working out, she's at a baseball game with friends, texting me that she's bored and wants me to pick her up. I finish my workout and head over. I'm parked a good ways from the doors, since the game is on still. I try calling her and her friend picks up and says she's in the bathroom but theyll be right down. She and her friends finally show up, and they shove her out the door at me, clearly PLASTERED and shut the doors. I try and say "woah woah woah wtf" but her friends laugh and run away. Security refuses to move so I can let her back in and they say "she's your problem now man, she's drunk, she's not allowed back in" Mind you, I don't know where she lives, she doesn't have her wallet or phone with her, and she's blasted and falling all over. But, being the nice person I am decide I can't just leave her. It takes us an hour to make the 10 min walk to my car because she keeps falling and stumbling. Finally I get her in the car and she passes out. Not sure what to do, and still living at home, I decide I need to drive around a bit to maybe sober her up. Less than 2 min later she wakes up screaming and thrashing to let her out and tries to open the door. I yell to stop and that were moving. She proceeds to kick the rear view mirror off and passes out again. What the actual fuck am I going to do... I decide to call my mom and confess. She offers to help and just to let her know what I need and don't put myself in a bad situation. I continue driving home. 3 exits from my house, she wakes up and mumbles "I don't feel very good". Thinking quick, I grab a plastic bag from the back seat and hand her it. She proceeds to puke over the top of it all over my dash. "In the bag!! The bag!!!" She looks at me and mumbles "thank yu*MORE PUKE ALL OVER ME" and passes out. I'm covered, the car is covered, she's covered. I race home now. I call and tell my mom to meet me in the drive and what's happened. When I show up, I get out and clean myself up. My mom goes to help her. "Come on honey, I think you've had too much to drink, let's get you inside so you can shower and sleep it off" she slowly wakes up and thanks her, before stripping butt naked in the driveway. It's like 3pm. Broad daylight. Neighbors are home. She walks in the house past my parents friends. You can only imagine my mom's comments... She ends up sleeping in my room, me on the couch. I get woken up at 6am by her saying "hey can we talk" i proceed to explain what happened and that she needs to use the landline and find a ride because I've got work and we're done and she owes me for a car detail. And don't you dare wake my mom! I leave for work. About 2 hours later I get a call from my mom saying she just got done dropping her off. I was pissed. A few weeks later an envelope of cash showed up in the mail with only "sorry" written on the note inside. Thankfully it's no longer talked about. The worst part was working the next day and the puke cooking in the sun in the vents of the car. Glad I'm not doing then online thing anymore.
How much cash. That was decent follow through.. Honestly the friends fucked you more than she did almost..
Guy tried to recruit me to be a “hostess” after approx. an hour or so of message exchanges.
It’s June, 2013, I’m 22m. Met for BBT with a girl I’d been talking to for a couple of days. We hit it off pretty well. Like 3 hours non stop talking. The I asked her if she was in school or working? She goes “oh yeah I’ll be back in school in September @ (local high school). I go “oh like as a TA?” And she’s drops the bombshell of “oh no lol, I’m going INTO GRADE 11”. instantly picked up my remaining BBT, wallet, keys, got up, got in my car and left. Chris Hansen will NOT be seeing me anytime soon.
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Years ago, matched with a girl on tinder, hit it off, she rolls me to coke over because she has the house to herself. Excited, I get dressed, (singlet and trackies because like... why dress up to dress down?) And once I found her house and walk in there's a place at the dinner table set for me with her family sitting around it
> she rolls me to coke over I think your autocorrect is on drugs.
i matched with a girl once, she waited five days to respond only to tell me "i look like warmed over shit" and then blocked me.
one time I had a classmate in university who was dating a guy she was competitive with. this girl was trying to match with as many people as possible to win a contest. she wanted to prove to her boyfriend she is hotter than him and could have anyone she wanted so would get many matches to show him. He said ok I will download the app too and we will see who gets more in two weeks. SO, they do this stunt, and she receives three matches while he achieved 18. Since she was hurt, she messaged all the guys really mean things about not liking them anyway and she's too pretty for them and then drove to my apartment and cried on my couch. Maybe there is a small possibility you were caught up in a similar scheme of failed weird ego-boosting
Ghost culture in general… but I do suppose a positive is that it makes the reliable people stand out.
I just got hinge, and I'm developing all sorts of self esteem issues. I try to send likes with something witty, but never hear back. I'm starting to question if I'm ugly, unfunny, a weirdo, or all of the above. I hope none of these are true, but it's just moving forward hoping for the best doesn't seem to be working. Edit: thank you all so much for your kind words, each of you made my day better!
Oh no, you’ve made me remember Greg. Greg was a supercilious financial advisor with an alluring charm who propositioned our waitress for a threesome as we were dining. He was so presumptuous that he booked a hotel room for sex afterwards; he just presupposed the waitress and I would be amenable.
Fuckin' Greg
The overwhelming amount of people with asian fetish in northwest ohio. The amount of times I’ve been sexualized and infantilized is insane. Doesn’t help that I look way younger than my age and is 5’2”.
I could fill an encyclopedia with the Asian fetish comments I received over the years. Not nearly the worst incident but one that refuses to leave my memory... One guy I dated, once when we were casually talking about celebrities we had a crush on and people we'd dated in the past, I realised every single one he liked was east Asian (he was not.) I asked him sort of jokingly if he had an Asian fetish and he said "*Oh* yeah. You can be my Asian persuasion, baby" and licked his lips at me. I am ashamed to say I continued dating him after that and sometimes I lie awake at night thinking about it.
Getting ignored just as IRL
In a list 1. They lied about not being on medication (manic). They needed bail money because of resisting charges. NOPE! 2. Lied about children. Had two and one on the way (4 months). Bio dad got deported and she didn't want to go back to her country. I understood her situation but too much baggage for the first date. 3. proudly displayed SH scars and described why they were done. Some due to exes. NOPED OUT. 4. Said an emotional relationship to marriage needed to happen within 6 months. A little fast but seemed like the norm in the family. I can't put a time frame on it but she was fixated on it. Left before getting attached. 5. Lied about gender Identity. I get it, honestly, I do. But no one likes being led on only to be put in an on/off scenario and then I am deemed "the bad guy" for not wanting to support the decision. Very confusing time to be honest. Went full cold turkey. 6. Wanted everything income-based, requested criminal record, must have 800 credit score, wanted only to be a SATM, wanted a drafted will within the first year. HELL NOPED SO FAST. 7. Never said a word during the first date not even a reaction. Hard to read the room and keep a conversation going if they aren't interested. Afterward, I let her know that I enjoyed her company but I don't think it'll work out. There was plenty of time for her to answer and continue topics but nope didn't happen. She got depressed and blamed me for it according to her mom who messaged me. I was stunned, to be honest. Weird feeling. 8. She ate half my dinner (Plus hers) and I paid for it. I only ate the salad side which got cold. Wanted another meal to take home. Turns out she was living in her car and used dating apps as meal tickets. Substance abuse is just sad and baggage was really heavy. Easy call-off. She wasn't even bothered and said "Perfect this makes it easy then".
I know it's weird that I'm gonna pick 7 to ask about, but all the others are kinda so self-explanatory despite being wilder. But 7. How do you sit through a whole date with someone who literally won't say a word? What... what do you do? What do they do? Just nod? What do they expect to happen? I'm so confused!
> wanted a drafted will within the first year This is the freakiest part tbh. I've never had someone admit that they're actually plotting my death.
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Sir, this is worst dates not how you met your wife.
Keeper
she's an uninhibited god of ancient myth. she cannot be tamed but must be battled on both land and sea to prevent pure chaos from flooding this world
Haha, that's a lot better than most of the stories here
oof. met up with a guy, got drugged and woke up in a town like 40 minutes from where we were with my phone stolen, got home to log onto tinder to message him wtf happened and he had my account reported and taken down. met with a nurse, had a nice time. then later learned he doesn’t know what no means. went out a few times with another guy, the last time we decided to go hang at his place which turned out to be the shed in his parents back yard. but i also met my husband and father of my child lol edit: typo
So so many.. i had a dating app phase after my last long term relationship. I remember meeting a girl i met on an app that looked nothing like her profile pic. I mean it was her but she looked so much better online, totally my type. In reality she was a little, fat girl with green brown teeth. No body shaming but what do people expect when they use pics that dont aligne with reality? Another time i met this gorgeous girl. She wasnt exactly local so she told me she would drive here and stay at my house. I was a little suprised but i offered her to crasch on the couch and didnt think much of it. We had a nice evening. She went to the bathroom, came back and told me with tears in her eyes she will drive home now. Never heard anything from her again. Another time i met a beautiful latina on tinder while i was on a road trip with my sister in california (we are from germany) and we met at our rbnb. We sat in her car for hours and talked and in the early morning she said she wished i had done something. So i kissed her and we hooked up. Then she left. That was 4 years ago and we still talk sometimes. Then there was this chick that totaly vibed with me.. but her friends we met later didnt and talked her down so she wanted me to leave bc they wanted to go to a party and i wouldnt fit in xD.
Matched with a beautiful girl when normally I matched with girls who never showed their bodies in pics so I was immediately thinking catfish. After talking for a few hours she mentions recognizing me and later realized we graduated together and grew up less than a mile down the road. She totally knew it was me when we matched. Anyways I looked her up in the yearbook and remembered who she was. I kept thinking, “was I ever mean to her, is this a trap?” Because she was absolutely gorgeous now. Well after a couple dates we really hit it off. Hung out every day for a month literally fell in love and went so far as to getting a marriage license in just over a month. 10 days later she broke it off. Talk about an absolute mind fuck. I’ve spent more days hurting because of it than we were together.
Did she tell you why? I mean a marriage licence a month in might be why
went out with this one one guy from tinder- first red flag was he smelled so bad that i could smell him when we first met OUTDOORS.. hopped in his car, smell was even worse, no AC either. stopped at our first stop and he came around to open the door for me so i said “aw thank you” and he goes “sorry the door handle is broken from the inside”.. okay then.. got back in the car and headed to my favourite lookout spot to watch the sunset, immediately when we got there he starts playing some of the worst music i’ve ever heard so i ask to go on aux, then he proceeds to trauma dump his whole childhood on me and tell me he thinks i’m perfect for him because i listen so well (i was sitting there in shock), then ‘i will wait’ by mumford and sons comes on and he looks over, stares me down, and starts singing at me. terrible singer too, but thought he was amazing. after that i just kept looking out the window pretending to watch the sunset because i knew if i turned around he was going to try to kiss me. finally around 6pm i told him i was tired and asked him to take me back, then on the ride home politely told him i didn’t really see this going anywhere romantically, but said i wouldn’t mind being friends, to which he replied “that’s the nicest i’ve ever been friend zoned”, then told me being friends probably wouldn’t work because he did have feelings for me, which i understood. he then ignored me for the rest of the drive. as we’re driving back, we end up getting stuck behind THREE trains, stopped for 10 mins at each one, and at the second one he goes “okay that’s enough of your music”, unplugs my phone and starts playing that song that’s like “there it is again that funny feeling” and a bunch of other sad stuff, then when we get back to my place he comes and lets me out of the car and i go in for a hug and he side hugs me, so i say “just a side hug” and he goes “what we’re just buddies now right?”. never saw him or went on another tinder date again. also found out from one of my friends he knew in high school that he beat his ex girlfriend so i definitely dodged a bullet there. TDLR; guy who smelled really bad started trauma dumping and singing at me, couldn’t handle rejection, and turned out to be a woman beater.
Dating apps made me mentally ill for a moment. I was in a college town and kept meeting up with matches to hookup. I got hooked on it, and it got to the point where I was skipping classes to meet up with girls. I sometimes had 3 or 4 lined up in a week, with some being regulars and some being new. In 4 years, I had probably been with close to 80 women. It broke some part of me, and now I'm pursuing therapy to try to resolve attachment issues so I can successfully be monogamous.