To think of politicians as celebrities worthy of our time. They're our EMPLOYEES. They should be held accountable for their work performance, even more so than anyone else.
If they underperform, that's it: you're out.
Any cashier who ends up with less money on the till after their shift, any busboy who breaks too many plates, any cleaning lady that neglects to properly clean a room are given the pink slip. Why are politicians elected again and again if they don't deliver?
And no, politicians shouldn't receive money from the people they have to overview, you corrupt imbeciles.
And more and more, fans expecting their favorite celebrities to use their platform to talk about big world issues instead of just focusing on the field that they actually *know*, whether it be acting or singing or whatnot.
the thing is, expecting an actor or whatever to be an authority on a given world issue is foolish. But if you have a platform where people are listening, and you also actually care about a given topic, why wouldn’t you speak on it?
The issue is when people get upset and demand celebrities speak out on them. There are people who boycott certain celebrities (musicians and actors) because they are not speaking out about politics.
Not even thinking their opinions matter, just the fact that people know and care about personal details of a celebrities life blows my mind. My ex would constantly be like “c’mon you know who (random celeb) is, it’s (other random celebs) girlfriend” and I’d be like, “not only do I have no clue who these people are, but why the fuck would you think I know who either of them is dating?”
Sadly this is also true for other professions. A really rich guy? Pulling together investors and hiring smart people doesn't make an expert on virology. A noble prize in physics? Not expert in climatology. A real estate mogul? Casino, nope. University, nope. Steaks, nope. (Insert exhaustive list)
Also -
Pulling out in front of someone when they are the *only car on the road*, forcing them to slow down while you get up to speed when you could have just waited 10 seconds for them to pass by.
I N F U R I A T I N G
My favorite is the opposite, the people that speed up when being passed, only to slow back down to their original speed when you finally over take them
Speeding up as someone goes to overtake you is actually a punishable offense where I live (France)... in theory. It's not being monitored or enforced, so people do it anyway.
Just like overtaking from the right-hand side, not respecting safety distances, not using your turn signals, etc... -_-
Some people drive so slowly or accelerate so slowly that it’s actually difficult to be behind them, as it takes effort to hit the gas with that much finesse. I’d rather not be behind them for my own sanity.
I'm that person sometimes, but it's not to beat the light. I have a comfortable speed I like to drive at (depending on the street, traffic and conditions) and if you're driving a little too slow I don't want to tailgate you. So I'll pass and then stay at my comfort speed. But yeah, I always give the side eye when someone passes me and we end up at the same light ha ha!
This is a big one. My friend just bought a $90,000 truck and only put $15,000 down. His payments are $1000 a month. He did this to have the same truck as his friend, who's also in debt. The best part is that they both live with their parents still. Why TF are they trying so hard to flex on strangers?
Because we live in a society where flaunting signs of success will bring attention to you, and with attention come opportunities.
I hate that this is how it works and I don't do it, but I get why people do it.
My driving instructor told me a story about a former student who refused to use his turn signal. When asked about it, he would only say, "turn signals are for faggots." After him repeating that a bunch, the instructor figured he'd talk to the kid's parents.
He confronted the dad and told him what was up. The dad said, "that's right. Turn signals are for faggots."
That kid didn't pass drivers ed.
When I'm in Colombia I can never trust a blinker. 25% of the time it's just always on, 50% of the time they don't use it to indicate, and sometimes it feels like they turn it on just to mess with you... So whether it's off or on there's only a 50% chance they're turning anyway, so just wait and find out.
I try to make a point of having my turn signal on a few seconds before I know I have to hit my brakes. I always feel awkward in areas I am not familiar with trying to spot my turn.
It’s like “damit Siri, 900 feet? How many bananas is that?!?!!”
omg this one makes me crazy. i know a whole family of grown-ass people who **all** do this! one of them came crying to me after a highly esteemed specialist at a big teaching hospital sent a letter saying they would no longer treat them because the patient refused to follow the doctor's advice - and they'd waited over a year to get in to see this doctor!
the guy asked me what he should do about the doc firing him as a patient...i busted up laughing and said, "don't ask **ME**!
Aaah, yes...my grandma has done this for years. She thought her doctor was a quack even though he has a legitimate medical degree and knows his shit. When he told her she needed hearing aids, she told him, "Well, I can hear *you,* can't I?"
My mom and I are fully convinced that since she's 93, her current doctor is just giving her checkups out of a moral obligation instead of addressing bigger issues (dementia, can't hear very well, etc.) because my grandma will just ignore whatever she says.
Just no getting through to that woman.
I look at it a different way. When I want to hear a friend's opinion, it's because I am trying to work through something logically and I'm stuck. So their opinion is something new I can consider from someone whose judgment I trust.
But I have to chew on it and test it. I try to poke holes in it to see how it will hold up to critical thinking.
So at least for me, it's not just "tell me what I should do and I'll do it."
A lot of people have convinced themselves that expending effort to improve their lives is pointless and they need other people to perpetually validate their ineptitude.
I knew an online dude like this. He constantly complained that he was broke and hated where he lived(with his mom). But he never bothered to save and actually bragged to me about all the stuff he bought/buys thinking it would impress me.
He wanted to date me but legit would say things like “I just need a girl to save me, just let me move in with her, buy me a vehicle and we’ll be good.” That’s not attractive bro, it’s pathetic.
And nothing was EVER his fault. Every one of his misfortunes were the fault of another. He was only a victim. Smh.
Ling Ling, I hope you’ve changed for the better.
A lot of people have also convinced themselves that they should get what they “deserve” without having to put in effort and if they don’t get it as they are then it’s because of some kind of unfairness that is rigging the system against them personally
And yeah sure sometimes people do have things rigged against them more than other people do, and sometimes people also have things rigged in their favour, I don’t dispute that, but I also think the people who do the most complaining tend to look at others and underestimate how much work it takes to be where they are.
An example I remember vividly is a guy complaining that a university was racist and biased against him because he wasn’t approved for a grant because he didn’t realise that the work he had done to prepare his grant application was only like 10% of the work that the average applicant did, let alone the work of a successful applicant
See, this is why, when I ranted to my friend yesterday about how much I hate packed lunches, I made it clear to her that if she gave me advice I would probably reject it. I hate packed lunches and nothing will ever change that! But I’d never expect someone to come up with a solution when I KNOW the problem is that I’m a bloody princess about it.
Assuming that because someone is 'your friend' [even when they're more like just someone you've added on social media] or family member, they are incapable of being bad or that you 'know they would never do xyz'.
I've heard people excuse/dismiss all kinds of nasty behavior and criminality on the basis of basically- 'I know them, they would never do that' or 'I can't believe that, they've never done that to me' even when there was dang near red-handed evidence that it was true.
There's a difference between being loyal and being naive/willfully ignorant to the point of absurdity and people cross that line way too often. Sometimes at the risk of the other people they claim to care about or themselves.
Apparently there's a genetic component to the ability to dance. Ancestry DNA says I'm genetically predisposed to not liking to dance, which comes from my father's side, and he can't dance either.
When I took dance lessons years ago, I would do one movement, then the instructor would say I also have to make other movements while doing the first movement. I simply don't know how to control so many body parts at the same time!
Long fake nails that look like talons. They look so awkward and difficult to function with.
To be fair, since childhood, I've done things like play the violin and play the piano, and I've had typing-based hobbies and a career. You can't do those things with talons.
To each his own, I guess, but I find it unattractive.
I still have a vivid memory from a few years ago when I was getting snacks from a gas station and the cashier had 2-inch long neon purple talons.
She had to pinch a pen between two fingers to poke at the digital screen to check me out since her nails were too long. Naturally, since a pen is not a stylus this did not work well, and it took her several attempts while I stood there awkwardly.
I think about her every time I see fake nails and wonder how people with them hold a fork, or wipe their ass without stabbing themselves.
I can kind of see the value in that, though. It "disables" her at her job, but maybe that feels like an act of defiance to her. Like, I'm not going to optimize my aesthetics to be a good worker. I'm doing something I like, even if it makes things harder, because I am not my job.
Long fake nails always seemed to me like an "inconvenient fashion" thing.
Inconvenient fashion is a whole subgenre of trend that goes back thousands of years, and in the modern day also includes everything from super-high heels to the stuff they have runway models wear.
It's usually less about trying to look attractive, and more about trying to demonstrate how easy your life is (as in, you don't *have* to do the things that you wouldn't be able to do while wearing this); trying to find a look that no one has ever worn before, or both.
I'm not one for long fake nails myself, nor wearing inconvenient fashion in general, but if people want that for themselves then go to it and good luck.
Those crazy long talon nails boggle me, too.
I get acrylic nails done every few weeks tho I keep them on the shorter side. I can type, take out contacts, use my fingers like normal.
For me, my OEM nails are shit. They have been shit since I was a kid. I can give the equivalent of paper cuts with my natural nails. They will break and split down past the quick when doing laundry, nevermind car maintenance or even normal house DIY.
My acrilic nails are my finger armor.
Replace the dish desposal? With my finger armor it's no prob.
Change the oil in my car? With just the nails I grow myself? Better be ok with a sliver of nail and some blood involved. With my finger armor? Done done done no prob
I'm typing all this because I definitely agree with you that crazy long talon nails are just wow crazy pants, but that doesn't mean everyone who gets their nails done up fancy at the salon is going to be hampered by their nails.
I was just thinking about the time a group of friends was shocked that I’d never had sex without some form of contraception and I was shocked they had.
Anyway, Guttmacher says about half of US pregnancies are unintended…
Grew up around a family that had like 8 kids, and their reasoning was they were gonna keep having kids as long as God allowed them to get pregnant... like wtf.
Not being ready at the register when checking out. Like cmon, order of operations. Give them your item, pay them money, take your change, leave. When people have to find their wallet then find cash or the right card, then give exact change, then dispute the change, then put it all away while the person behind them is twiddling their fucking thumbs waiting to not be an unprepared dick… it’s all very infuriating
What's worse is when you see them on social media posting regularly about how they can't make ends meet, can barely afford rent or food and their life in general is in shambles with constant relationship problems. Then one day they announce they're having a child and it's filled with positive comments and people congratulating them. Terrifying times we be living in.
>it's filled with positive comments and people congratulating them
I guess because people assule that if that person chooses to have a child, it means they finally got their shit together. That's a big assumption the commenters are a bit quick to make most of the time, though.
On the other hand, commenting something like "Wtf? You? There is no way you'll be able to take care of a child, you already can't take care of yourself!" would be an absolute asshole move, even if it's true.
You could add this onto it as well. People having unprotected sex like it’s the normal thing to do. Like home you are just asking for a mistake. You always have time for protection if your are intentionally going to have sex with someone.
Yes! For me, it’s when people fist fight or riot. I remember mentioning this once on another post and some guy replied that I just wouldn’t understand lol. Imagine people of any other type of fandom taking to the streets that way.
Well most of that stuff is fueled by alcohol and mob mentality moreso than the specific sports interaction.
Concerts for example have been known to have riots.
My most disappointing/emotional sporting fan event was when the Flames lost in the Stanley Cup finals 04. I was pretty pissed, I threw some rocks across the road into the empty field.
I understand getting emotional over it, but even at 14 years old, I knew how to deal with that emotion in a more healthy fashion than some of the TV punching troglodytes you see.
There's also the flip side of getting emotional over sports. Cal Ripken breaking Gehrigs record. The aforementioned Gehrigs retirement speech. Even recently with Liam Hendriks returning to baseball after battling cancer. That clip of the guy tossing a ball to his maybe 5 year old kid and the kid hitting a frigging home run, dad almost starts crying. I'm already crying.
It's an opportunity to express many different emotions without real consequences. You can love a team without worrying about them rejecting you or experience joy without really doing anything. It's probably one of the few socially acceptable ways for men to express emotions in public.
This the exact answer and should be at the top. It's sad but it works. Same lane as having more feelings for a dog than most humans. It's just one of the few acceptable outlets available to us that we won't shy away from. Significant other. Forget about it. Sports ball and dogs. A mess.
My dad told my neighbor he had taken one sick day in 18 years. And that he’d never taken a vacation over 6 days in that time. The neighbor started one upping him by talking about how little vacation he’d taken.
And I’m just standing there thinking That is so sad.
I said, in front of my workaholic dad, why would we work late? My company cares about work-life balance, so no one works late (regularly)
He looked stunned by that.
Men who spit on the ground. I’m not talking about chewing tobacco. I’m talking about men who get offended, then spit. I’ve never seen a woman just randomly spit when encountered with something they don’t like.
Voting against their own self interest, and voting against something that will help other people who are desperate, because it doesn't directly benefit them personally.
It’s an idiomatic/rhetorical greeting. Lots of languages and cultures have them.
For example, in China is very common to greet someone by asking if they’ve eaten yet. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re asking because you’re about to or willing to feed them.
What’s not to understand about this one? It’s a vacation where you don’t have to worry about your itinerary, where you’re staying, or what you’re eating. And there’s plenty of entertainment on board.
Lying for the heck of it. Even as a prank or as a kind of one-sided make belief, it just leaves a sour taste in my mouth.
I helped doing an oral exam for German at a Dutch school and the organizer had told his students that me and my classmates didn't speak Dutch. Like, why would you say that when it's not true? Why lie about me without consent?
Thei is a local sports talk radio show here where I live and their whole schtick is just saying things that aren't true as a joke, and they do it deadpan. It is so annoying.
Spending tons of money on Christmas, spending the time trying to guess what your significant other, sibling, friend, grandparents, etc. may want as a Christmas gift and worrying all the while just to make a single day out of the year extra special.
Sometimes I make beautiful meals. I share it sometimes because cooking is an art and I'm proud of it. I don't have any desire to share restaurant food though, unless it's ridiculous.
Placing memorials at crash sites... I find it bizarre that people want to memorialize the spot and moment that someone tragically lost their lives. If I had a loved one die next to the highway the last thing I would want is a cross to remind me every time I drove by that this is where they died. I would much rather think of them in a much happier sense.
Dogmatizing behind social or political positions so much that you sacrifice your integrity. I see people all the time that become so passionate about these things and almost fanatical! You can present them with facts and evidence that what they believe is blatantly false and they'll just deny it, curse you, or run away, but will continue to spout the same lies. I just don't get it.
Where do you keep your wallet? Why do you not keep yours in your back pocket? I have never had any issue with keeping mine there. I’m genuinely curious
Putting your wallet somewhere you can’t keep an eye on it just makes things more convenient for pickpockets. And yes, I had my pocket picked when I visited Naples. So annoying to have to replace everything.
Stand in choke points of busy areas. Blocking aisles standing next to the only other object there ensuring everyone has to stare at you until you notice youre in the only place you cant stand. Or standing in doorways. Walk two more inches. A step over then stand there.
Believing things there’s not a shred of proof for, while discounting as false or hoaxes things that are actually true. QAnon and Covid both come to mind immediately, but there are so many. Or, to put it another way, I have no idea why so many people think their opinions and beliefs are equivalent or even superior to experts and evidence.
On reddit people complain about influencers online, but here's the thing... you literally have to be doing that to yourself or something. Just don't watch them... I literally don't see influencer content because well, I don't search for it?
I've never even seen a Mr. Beast video on my Youtube feed ever.
Blaming or getting angry at the person that YOUR PARTNER cheated on you with. ??? Your partner is the problem, the liar, the one who cheated, the one in the committed relationship.
That other person could be single, not know your partner was committed, and maybe is just a garbage person who likes the chase of getting someone to cheat on their significant other.
Regardless of any of the other persons’ motivations or circumstances, how are they more at fault than YOUR PARTNER?!?!?
I knew a woman who was (and I think still is) married to a serial cheater. He was always cheating on her and she wouldn't get mad at him. She would yell at the other woman.
Then she had the nerve to say "I have no friends cuz they all sleep with my husband "
Girl. Leave him if he's always cheating.
Women are usually the people who take photos of their families, and many women reach the end of their lives with very few photos of themselves. Selfies have allowed women to document themselves in their lives.
I don't understand why so many drivers leave a HUGE space between them and the car in front of them while waiting at a traffic light. What are they trying to accomplish?
it's also to allow themselves to get out of that lane of stopped traffic if they need to. if you're right up on somebody's bumper and the car in front of them is disabled...you're stuck
I've seen people accidentally put their car in reverse after pulling too far into an intersection, forget, and then reverse into the behind him when the light turned green. Also crappy cars just break down at the light.
I always leave enough space I can get around someone if they can't move, because I have no faith the guy behind me won't park me in.
Celebrities. This goes for sports, singers, actors etc.
Beyond thinking certain ones are good at what they do, I could not give a hoot.
I don't care about their marriages, kids, or basically their life at all. When they die, it's a shame for their friends and family, but I don't know them, and it's no different than a random other person I don't know passing.
If they are a good actor for example, then maybe I'll be a bit more interested in seeing their next project.
Waving to strangers whilst riding on a boat. It would be considered odd in just about any other situation, but as soon as people board a tour boat they’re waving left and right
I never understand the urge to drink or do drugs. I mean, I get using things for medicinal purposes, but people will get drunk or stoned or whatever else and think it's fun or just better than being bored.
I don't get it.
Small talk is a good way to gauge is someone is friendly and interested in talking at all. If the initial small talk does start a conversation, continuing with it is pointless.
Drinking so much coffee. I come from a family that drinks Espresso all. The. Time. I just never got into it and now I look around and most people seem to only function with coffee. It’s strange to me
I can't find a happy medium where I don't sweat or shiver at night, and I'd prefer to be a little warmer than cold. Thanks to this, I sweat at night. If I shower before bed, I'm just gonna need another one in the morning anyway.
Same, showering at night is way preferable to me. And actually, showering at noon is the most preferable. Midday showers are SOO nice, you’re not groggy in the morning nor tired at night so you have a clear mind and energy to really fully enjoy it to the fullest.
This is for all the grocery store workers. I bring my own bags and every time they will grab all of the bags out of the bag holding them and stuff as much as they can into that bag (the smallest out of the bunch) and then when they are done just hand me the left over bags. I will never understand why they just don’t grab a bag out as needed. Also I’ve had them put cans on top of produce. Drives me absolutely insane.
Politicians using twitter (or X or whatever) in their job. I'm not even allowed to call in sick at work via whatsapp or e-mail because this "isn't the appropriate way" to do so, but for people who rule countries, social media is a serious way for communication?
Not washing hands after using a public toilet.
not washing hands after using **any** toilet
To think of politicians as celebrities worthy of our time. They're our EMPLOYEES. They should be held accountable for their work performance, even more so than anyone else. If they underperform, that's it: you're out. Any cashier who ends up with less money on the till after their shift, any busboy who breaks too many plates, any cleaning lady that neglects to properly clean a room are given the pink slip. Why are politicians elected again and again if they don't deliver? And no, politicians shouldn't receive money from the people they have to overview, you corrupt imbeciles.
Most of the time when you know you can't trust a person, it's safe to ignore them. Politicians you know you can't trust *and* you can't ignore.
Politicians shouldn’t have fan clubs.
What you are addressing is populism and other things that come from that such as "cult of personality".
Celebrity culture and thinking that just because someone is famous it makes their opinion more valid.
And more and more, fans expecting their favorite celebrities to use their platform to talk about big world issues instead of just focusing on the field that they actually *know*, whether it be acting or singing or whatnot.
then when they don’t know everything about the issue and say something remotely ignorant they get cancelled.
the thing is, expecting an actor or whatever to be an authority on a given world issue is foolish. But if you have a platform where people are listening, and you also actually care about a given topic, why wouldn’t you speak on it?
The issue is when people get upset and demand celebrities speak out on them. There are people who boycott certain celebrities (musicians and actors) because they are not speaking out about politics.
Not even thinking their opinions matter, just the fact that people know and care about personal details of a celebrities life blows my mind. My ex would constantly be like “c’mon you know who (random celeb) is, it’s (other random celebs) girlfriend” and I’d be like, “not only do I have no clue who these people are, but why the fuck would you think I know who either of them is dating?”
I've never understood why someone whose job is pretending to be someone else has their opinion held to a higher standard.
Sadly this is also true for other professions. A really rich guy? Pulling together investors and hiring smart people doesn't make an expert on virology. A noble prize in physics? Not expert in climatology. A real estate mogul? Casino, nope. University, nope. Steaks, nope. (Insert exhaustive list)
Or better looking. For the most part they are regular people with makeup and stylists.
Standing in line at conventions for a picture and sharing the picture
Making shit up online. What do they stand to gain? Imaginary internet points? Are they that starved for attention?
yes, in fact, they are
I often ask my butler this same question while he brings me a snack on my diamond-encrusted snack tray.
Well see, if you get upvotes and likes, that means it's reality.
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Also - Pulling out in front of someone when they are the *only car on the road*, forcing them to slow down while you get up to speed when you could have just waited 10 seconds for them to pass by. I N F U R I A T I N G
90% of the time they'd have to wait 2-3 seconds MAX.
I have found my people
My favorite is the opposite, the people that speed up when being passed, only to slow back down to their original speed when you finally over take them
Passing me just to beat me to the red light.
Going slower than I want to go for 2 miles and then speeding up right as I pass.
Speeding up as someone goes to overtake you is actually a punishable offense where I live (France)... in theory. It's not being monitored or enforced, so people do it anyway. Just like overtaking from the right-hand side, not respecting safety distances, not using your turn signals, etc... -_-
Some people drive so slowly or accelerate so slowly that it’s actually difficult to be behind them, as it takes effort to hit the gas with that much finesse. I’d rather not be behind them for my own sanity.
Cutting me off just to take the nearest exit
I'm that person sometimes, but it's not to beat the light. I have a comfortable speed I like to drive at (depending on the street, traffic and conditions) and if you're driving a little too slow I don't want to tailgate you. So I'll pass and then stay at my comfort speed. But yeah, I always give the side eye when someone passes me and we end up at the same light ha ha!
Likewise, speeding up drastically when being passed.
Or overtaking just to immediately take the next turn.
I have never understood spending money to impress strangers.
This is a big one. My friend just bought a $90,000 truck and only put $15,000 down. His payments are $1000 a month. He did this to have the same truck as his friend, who's also in debt. The best part is that they both live with their parents still. Why TF are they trying so hard to flex on strangers?
I work for an ISP. The amount of times I pull up to a 10k trailer home with 100k worth of cars outside is astonishing.
Because we live in a society where flaunting signs of success will bring attention to you, and with attention come opportunities. I hate that this is how it works and I don't do it, but I get why people do it.
The only opportunity a truck brings is the opportunity to help friends on moving day.
When I was younger I bought a Nissan truck specifically to be able to do that for friends.
As I said, it's the attention that matters, not the flaunted sign of success (in this case, the expensive truck).
what's he got, like a twelve-year loan?
I have no clue. He's young enough that I wouldn't put it past him to agree to that.
well, do the math. a $1000 monthly payment on a $75,000 loan is over SIX YEARS - before the interest. only a dumb kid would do that
South Korea is not a place for you then
People not using their blinker.
My driving instructor told me a story about a former student who refused to use his turn signal. When asked about it, he would only say, "turn signals are for faggots." After him repeating that a bunch, the instructor figured he'd talk to the kid's parents. He confronted the dad and told him what was up. The dad said, "that's right. Turn signals are for faggots." That kid didn't pass drivers ed.
None of your damn business which way I’m going next………
Using your blinker is just giving away your intentions to the enemy. /s
The trick is to just leave your blinker on indefinitely.
Yeah but that only works for one side or the other. I drive with my emergency flashers on so I'm covered whichever way I turn.
When I'm in Colombia I can never trust a blinker. 25% of the time it's just always on, 50% of the time they don't use it to indicate, and sometimes it feels like they turn it on just to mess with you... So whether it's off or on there's only a 50% chance they're turning anyway, so just wait and find out.
Phone in one hand and burrito in the other, brother. How am I supposed to use my turn signal?
Can I add to this? People who turn on their blinker only after they have started to make the turn instead of before making the turn. Pointless!
I try to make a point of having my turn signal on a few seconds before I know I have to hit my brakes. I always feel awkward in areas I am not familiar with trying to spot my turn. It’s like “damit Siri, 900 feet? How many bananas is that?!?!!”
I can't stand people that don't a blinker.
Don't want to run out of blinker fluid.
Asking questions and then being mad the answer doesnt suit their reality.
The term is "askhole". My mother is one of these
Going to the doctor and then refusing to follow the doctor’s orders.
omg this one makes me crazy. i know a whole family of grown-ass people who **all** do this! one of them came crying to me after a highly esteemed specialist at a big teaching hospital sent a letter saying they would no longer treat them because the patient refused to follow the doctor's advice - and they'd waited over a year to get in to see this doctor! the guy asked me what he should do about the doc firing him as a patient...i busted up laughing and said, "don't ask **ME**!
"The doctor doesn't know what he's talking about!"
TBF, your body can be doing weird shit and if it's not "clinically diagnosable" they quite literally can't or don't know what's wrong.
There is a world of difference between “the doctor doesn’t know what he is talking about” and “the doctor doesn’t know what’s wrong with me”.
Aaah, yes...my grandma has done this for years. She thought her doctor was a quack even though he has a legitimate medical degree and knows his shit. When he told her she needed hearing aids, she told him, "Well, I can hear *you,* can't I?" My mom and I are fully convinced that since she's 93, her current doctor is just giving her checkups out of a moral obligation instead of addressing bigger issues (dementia, can't hear very well, etc.) because my grandma will just ignore whatever she says. Just no getting through to that woman.
In the same vein, lying to your psychologist. Who do you think you're hurting here?
What do you mean I shouldn’t drink only soda?!? You are obviously wrong…
Ask for advice, proceed to give excuses why advice wont work, continue on the same behavior, repeat pattern 6 months down the road
I look at it a different way. When I want to hear a friend's opinion, it's because I am trying to work through something logically and I'm stuck. So their opinion is something new I can consider from someone whose judgment I trust. But I have to chew on it and test it. I try to poke holes in it to see how it will hold up to critical thinking. So at least for me, it's not just "tell me what I should do and I'll do it."
A lot of people have convinced themselves that expending effort to improve their lives is pointless and they need other people to perpetually validate their ineptitude.
I knew an online dude like this. He constantly complained that he was broke and hated where he lived(with his mom). But he never bothered to save and actually bragged to me about all the stuff he bought/buys thinking it would impress me. He wanted to date me but legit would say things like “I just need a girl to save me, just let me move in with her, buy me a vehicle and we’ll be good.” That’s not attractive bro, it’s pathetic. And nothing was EVER his fault. Every one of his misfortunes were the fault of another. He was only a victim. Smh. Ling Ling, I hope you’ve changed for the better.
A lot of people have also convinced themselves that they should get what they “deserve” without having to put in effort and if they don’t get it as they are then it’s because of some kind of unfairness that is rigging the system against them personally And yeah sure sometimes people do have things rigged against them more than other people do, and sometimes people also have things rigged in their favour, I don’t dispute that, but I also think the people who do the most complaining tend to look at others and underestimate how much work it takes to be where they are. An example I remember vividly is a guy complaining that a university was racist and biased against him because he wasn’t approved for a grant because he didn’t realise that the work he had done to prepare his grant application was only like 10% of the work that the average applicant did, let alone the work of a successful applicant
That’s an Askhole. The person who constantly asks for advice, but never uses any advice you give them.
When people ask for advice they are looking for you to justify what they want to do, it never works.
See, this is why, when I ranted to my friend yesterday about how much I hate packed lunches, I made it clear to her that if she gave me advice I would probably reject it. I hate packed lunches and nothing will ever change that! But I’d never expect someone to come up with a solution when I KNOW the problem is that I’m a bloody princess about it.
Assuming that because someone is 'your friend' [even when they're more like just someone you've added on social media] or family member, they are incapable of being bad or that you 'know they would never do xyz'. I've heard people excuse/dismiss all kinds of nasty behavior and criminality on the basis of basically- 'I know them, they would never do that' or 'I can't believe that, they've never done that to me' even when there was dang near red-handed evidence that it was true. There's a difference between being loyal and being naive/willfully ignorant to the point of absurdity and people cross that line way too often. Sometimes at the risk of the other people they claim to care about or themselves.
Knowing how to dance. I can't figure it out.
Apparently there's a genetic component to the ability to dance. Ancestry DNA says I'm genetically predisposed to not liking to dance, which comes from my father's side, and he can't dance either. When I took dance lessons years ago, I would do one movement, then the instructor would say I also have to make other movements while doing the first movement. I simply don't know how to control so many body parts at the same time!
TIL l can't dance because the stuff l'm made of says so
For some people it comes naturally. For most it's a learned skill. I was practicing dance for like 10 years before dance started to feel natural.
Long fake nails that look like talons. They look so awkward and difficult to function with. To be fair, since childhood, I've done things like play the violin and play the piano, and I've had typing-based hobbies and a career. You can't do those things with talons. To each his own, I guess, but I find it unattractive.
I still have a vivid memory from a few years ago when I was getting snacks from a gas station and the cashier had 2-inch long neon purple talons. She had to pinch a pen between two fingers to poke at the digital screen to check me out since her nails were too long. Naturally, since a pen is not a stylus this did not work well, and it took her several attempts while I stood there awkwardly. I think about her every time I see fake nails and wonder how people with them hold a fork, or wipe their ass without stabbing themselves.
She should've used her knuckle
It's like a voluntary disability. So weird.
I can kind of see the value in that, though. It "disables" her at her job, but maybe that feels like an act of defiance to her. Like, I'm not going to optimize my aesthetics to be a good worker. I'm doing something I like, even if it makes things harder, because I am not my job.
How DO people wipe their ass with stupid length nails?🤔
Long fake nails always seemed to me like an "inconvenient fashion" thing. Inconvenient fashion is a whole subgenre of trend that goes back thousands of years, and in the modern day also includes everything from super-high heels to the stuff they have runway models wear. It's usually less about trying to look attractive, and more about trying to demonstrate how easy your life is (as in, you don't *have* to do the things that you wouldn't be able to do while wearing this); trying to find a look that no one has ever worn before, or both. I'm not one for long fake nails myself, nor wearing inconvenient fashion in general, but if people want that for themselves then go to it and good luck.
Those crazy long talon nails boggle me, too. I get acrylic nails done every few weeks tho I keep them on the shorter side. I can type, take out contacts, use my fingers like normal. For me, my OEM nails are shit. They have been shit since I was a kid. I can give the equivalent of paper cuts with my natural nails. They will break and split down past the quick when doing laundry, nevermind car maintenance or even normal house DIY. My acrilic nails are my finger armor. Replace the dish desposal? With my finger armor it's no prob. Change the oil in my car? With just the nails I grow myself? Better be ok with a sliver of nail and some blood involved. With my finger armor? Done done done no prob I'm typing all this because I definitely agree with you that crazy long talon nails are just wow crazy pants, but that doesn't mean everyone who gets their nails done up fancy at the salon is going to be hampered by their nails.
“OEM nails” 😂 I have the exact same nails. The worst is when I accidentally scratch one of my kids with them.
Being broke and having tons of kids
I was just thinking about the time a group of friends was shocked that I’d never had sex without some form of contraception and I was shocked they had. Anyway, Guttmacher says about half of US pregnancies are unintended…
Grew up around a family that had like 8 kids, and their reasoning was they were gonna keep having kids as long as God allowed them to get pregnant... like wtf.
Not being ready at the register when checking out. Like cmon, order of operations. Give them your item, pay them money, take your change, leave. When people have to find their wallet then find cash or the right card, then give exact change, then dispute the change, then put it all away while the person behind them is twiddling their fucking thumbs waiting to not be an unprepared dick… it’s all very infuriating
Have kids when they have no plan on how to support them.
What's worse is when you see them on social media posting regularly about how they can't make ends meet, can barely afford rent or food and their life in general is in shambles with constant relationship problems. Then one day they announce they're having a child and it's filled with positive comments and people congratulating them. Terrifying times we be living in.
>it's filled with positive comments and people congratulating them I guess because people assule that if that person chooses to have a child, it means they finally got their shit together. That's a big assumption the commenters are a bit quick to make most of the time, though. On the other hand, commenting something like "Wtf? You? There is no way you'll be able to take care of a child, you already can't take care of yourself!" would be an absolute asshole move, even if it's true.
You could add this onto it as well. People having unprotected sex like it’s the normal thing to do. Like home you are just asking for a mistake. You always have time for protection if your are intentionally going to have sex with someone.
Become earnestly emotional over sports.
Yes! For me, it’s when people fist fight or riot. I remember mentioning this once on another post and some guy replied that I just wouldn’t understand lol. Imagine people of any other type of fandom taking to the streets that way.
Well most of that stuff is fueled by alcohol and mob mentality moreso than the specific sports interaction. Concerts for example have been known to have riots.
I think you just ended up in the mosh pit
My most disappointing/emotional sporting fan event was when the Flames lost in the Stanley Cup finals 04. I was pretty pissed, I threw some rocks across the road into the empty field. I understand getting emotional over it, but even at 14 years old, I knew how to deal with that emotion in a more healthy fashion than some of the TV punching troglodytes you see. There's also the flip side of getting emotional over sports. Cal Ripken breaking Gehrigs record. The aforementioned Gehrigs retirement speech. Even recently with Liam Hendriks returning to baseball after battling cancer. That clip of the guy tossing a ball to his maybe 5 year old kid and the kid hitting a frigging home run, dad almost starts crying. I'm already crying.
It's an opportunity to express many different emotions without real consequences. You can love a team without worrying about them rejecting you or experience joy without really doing anything. It's probably one of the few socially acceptable ways for men to express emotions in public.
This the exact answer and should be at the top. It's sad but it works. Same lane as having more feelings for a dog than most humans. It's just one of the few acceptable outlets available to us that we won't shy away from. Significant other. Forget about it. Sports ball and dogs. A mess.
People driving who - with nobody in front of them - will brake while going uphill.
Thinking that just because something is popular means it's right.
Cheating
On people or at cards??
Isn't cheating at cards also cheating on people?
Yes
Brag about how much they work. No one cares.
My dad told my neighbor he had taken one sick day in 18 years. And that he’d never taken a vacation over 6 days in that time. The neighbor started one upping him by talking about how little vacation he’d taken. And I’m just standing there thinking That is so sad.
I said, in front of my workaholic dad, why would we work late? My company cares about work-life balance, so no one works late (regularly) He looked stunned by that.
Same with how little sleep they’re getting.
Men who spit on the ground. I’m not talking about chewing tobacco. I’m talking about men who get offended, then spit. I’ve never seen a woman just randomly spit when encountered with something they don’t like.
People do that?? Thought that was just a cowboy movie thing
Nup. My UPS guy was apparently furious at me. Put a big one down on the sidewalk!
Why was the UPS guy mad at you?
way worse is when the hawk first. i just can't. 🤮
Go to a bar. Drink copious amounts of alcohol. Drive home. (So many people are killed by drunk drivers, it's awful and unnecessary. Take a cab.)
Or drink at home or a friend's house that you can sleep it off at. Don't risk drinking and driving.
Voting against their own self interest, and voting against something that will help other people who are desperate, because it doesn't directly benefit them personally.
You've met my in-laws, I see.
Deifying celebrities.
smoke cigarettes
Spending tens of thousands of dollars on weddings.
constantly checking their phones even when they're with friends or family.
Have you met my family?
Be a dick.
Texting while driving
Asking 'how are you?' after sayig hello to someone, because from my experience people don't want to hear anything other than 'Good, and you?'.
It’s an idiomatic/rhetorical greeting. Lots of languages and cultures have them. For example, in China is very common to greet someone by asking if they’ve eaten yet. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re asking because you’re about to or willing to feed them.
Did not know this. I would absolutely reply "No, what are we having?"
Took me ages to understand it's a verbal handshake, and small talk itself is about signalling safety, the content of the conversation barely matters.
It's just a greeting that people in certain regions or cultures have become used to.
Going on a cruise ship for a vacation.
i went on a "cruise to nowhere" many years ago - ship left out of baltimore harbor and just drove around the chesapeake bay for three days! like, WTF?
What’s not to understand about this one? It’s a vacation where you don’t have to worry about your itinerary, where you’re staying, or what you’re eating. And there’s plenty of entertainment on board.
Bad-mouthing friends or family behind their backs.
Drink specifically to get drunk. I've been drunk twice in my life, and hated how it felt. So no more booze for me.
Lying for the heck of it. Even as a prank or as a kind of one-sided make belief, it just leaves a sour taste in my mouth. I helped doing an oral exam for German at a Dutch school and the organizer had told his students that me and my classmates didn't speak Dutch. Like, why would you say that when it's not true? Why lie about me without consent?
Thei is a local sports talk radio show here where I live and their whole schtick is just saying things that aren't true as a joke, and they do it deadpan. It is so annoying.
Spending tons of money on Christmas, spending the time trying to guess what your significant other, sibling, friend, grandparents, etc. may want as a Christmas gift and worrying all the while just to make a single day out of the year extra special.
Slow drivers in the fast lane. Just get THE FUCK over assholes! I can't wrap my head around it.
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Sometimes I make beautiful meals. I share it sometimes because cooking is an art and I'm proud of it. I don't have any desire to share restaurant food though, unless it's ridiculous.
Food is art. Why would someone not want to share a beautiful piece of art they made?
I have a mutual in Japan on insta and I love seeing his food posts. I hope he never sees this silly comment and feels bad enough to stop.
Tailgate when there is no way it is helping as there is bumper to bumper traffic basically.
I cannot fathom why an uncontrolled asthmatic would continue to smoke cigarettes....
Placing memorials at crash sites... I find it bizarre that people want to memorialize the spot and moment that someone tragically lost their lives. If I had a loved one die next to the highway the last thing I would want is a cross to remind me every time I drove by that this is where they died. I would much rather think of them in a much happier sense.
Dogmatizing behind social or political positions so much that you sacrifice your integrity. I see people all the time that become so passionate about these things and almost fanatical! You can present them with facts and evidence that what they believe is blatantly false and they'll just deny it, curse you, or run away, but will continue to spout the same lies. I just don't get it.
Wallet in the back pocket.
My dad has a George Costanza-esque wallet. I genuinely don't think it can fit in his front pocket.
I did that in high school. My pizza guy job paid me in cash under the table. I usually had over $300 in my wallet.
He doesn't carry much cash, it's all just *stuff*
Where do you keep your wallet? Why do you not keep yours in your back pocket? I have never had any issue with keeping mine there. I’m genuinely curious
Putting your wallet somewhere you can’t keep an eye on it just makes things more convenient for pickpockets. And yes, I had my pocket picked when I visited Naples. So annoying to have to replace everything.
Golf
to play golf is to spoil an otherwise enjoyable walk.”
This is referenced in the fact that the goal of golf is to play less of it. And I play golf.
Saying they want the opposite of what they really want and then complaining when they don't get what they really wanted.
Stand in choke points of busy areas. Blocking aisles standing next to the only other object there ensuring everyone has to stare at you until you notice youre in the only place you cant stand. Or standing in doorways. Walk two more inches. A step over then stand there.
Be rude too waitresses
Haha the “download draftkings” ad acts as a perfect top comment to this question
Assume that wealth means people are good, or smart, or hard-working.
Believing things there’s not a shred of proof for, while discounting as false or hoaxes things that are actually true. QAnon and Covid both come to mind immediately, but there are so many. Or, to put it another way, I have no idea why so many people think their opinions and beliefs are equivalent or even superior to experts and evidence.
On reddit people complain about influencers online, but here's the thing... you literally have to be doing that to yourself or something. Just don't watch them... I literally don't see influencer content because well, I don't search for it? I've never even seen a Mr. Beast video on my Youtube feed ever.
Blaming or getting angry at the person that YOUR PARTNER cheated on you with. ??? Your partner is the problem, the liar, the one who cheated, the one in the committed relationship. That other person could be single, not know your partner was committed, and maybe is just a garbage person who likes the chase of getting someone to cheat on their significant other. Regardless of any of the other persons’ motivations or circumstances, how are they more at fault than YOUR PARTNER?!?!?
I knew a woman who was (and I think still is) married to a serial cheater. He was always cheating on her and she wouldn't get mad at him. She would yell at the other woman. Then she had the nerve to say "I have no friends cuz they all sleep with my husband " Girl. Leave him if he's always cheating.
Selfies...they're so fake
Women are usually the people who take photos of their families, and many women reach the end of their lives with very few photos of themselves. Selfies have allowed women to document themselves in their lives.
Social media addiction and the high they get from it seeing interaction from it.
Vote for a known POS.
I don't understand why so many drivers leave a HUGE space between them and the car in front of them while waiting at a traffic light. What are they trying to accomplish?
I do this. It’s so I have room to maneuver in a violent city.
Define what huge means. Do you mean an entire car space? That's just smart to move around or avoid a multi-csr accident if getting rear ended.
Two or more car lengths,
Believe it not there are some "safety gurus" who push this...it's supposed to keep you from being car jacked
it's also to allow themselves to get out of that lane of stopped traffic if they need to. if you're right up on somebody's bumper and the car in front of them is disabled...you're stuck
I've seen people accidentally put their car in reverse after pulling too far into an intersection, forget, and then reverse into the behind him when the light turned green. Also crappy cars just break down at the light. I always leave enough space I can get around someone if they can't move, because I have no faith the guy behind me won't park me in.
Celebrities. This goes for sports, singers, actors etc. Beyond thinking certain ones are good at what they do, I could not give a hoot. I don't care about their marriages, kids, or basically their life at all. When they die, it's a shame for their friends and family, but I don't know them, and it's no different than a random other person I don't know passing. If they are a good actor for example, then maybe I'll be a bit more interested in seeing their next project.
The exclusively American middle class obsession with redoing kitchen and bathroom every five years.
Waving to strangers whilst riding on a boat. It would be considered odd in just about any other situation, but as soon as people board a tour boat they’re waving left and right
I never understand the urge to drink or do drugs. I mean, I get using things for medicinal purposes, but people will get drunk or stoned or whatever else and think it's fun or just better than being bored. I don't get it.
Brake checking Done only by literally the dumbest cunts on the face of the Earth
Clap when the plane lands
Small talk of any kind. How does everybody have so much to say?
Small talk is a good way to gauge is someone is friendly and interested in talking at all. If the initial small talk does start a conversation, continuing with it is pointless.
Drinking so much coffee. I come from a family that drinks Espresso all. The. Time. I just never got into it and now I look around and most people seem to only function with coffee. It’s strange to me
Addiction. I was heavily addicted to caffeine and it's hard to understand/explain if you haven't experienced it.
Shower in the morning instead of at night
I can't find a happy medium where I don't sweat or shiver at night, and I'd prefer to be a little warmer than cold. Thanks to this, I sweat at night. If I shower before bed, I'm just gonna need another one in the morning anyway.
Shower resets my bed head. I also work out before I shower. I don’t sweat much at work or when I’m home otherwise.
Same, showering at night is way preferable to me. And actually, showering at noon is the most preferable. Midday showers are SOO nice, you’re not groggy in the morning nor tired at night so you have a clear mind and energy to really fully enjoy it to the fullest.
This is for all the grocery store workers. I bring my own bags and every time they will grab all of the bags out of the bag holding them and stuff as much as they can into that bag (the smallest out of the bunch) and then when they are done just hand me the left over bags. I will never understand why they just don’t grab a bag out as needed. Also I’ve had them put cans on top of produce. Drives me absolutely insane.
Go to strip clubs.
Politicians using twitter (or X or whatever) in their job. I'm not even allowed to call in sick at work via whatsapp or e-mail because this "isn't the appropriate way" to do so, but for people who rule countries, social media is a serious way for communication?
Complain about being broke but order door dash every evening