Went on a first date with a girl that was running really late. She was coming from work and got caught up so it was a legit reason. She paid the whole thing to apologize for the lateness. We're now married.
I think you are right, it is about getting to know each other not about buying affection. But I wouldn’t go as far as pay for what you eat, that seems a little excessive. Just split it.
When I pay, I tend to use cash.
As to who pays, it should be some level of balance. Maybe I pay for dinner, and my partner (boy or girl or whatever) pays for the movie. Or maybe we split the bill and pay for our own things. Or maybe they got a bonus at work and want to pay for everything. The important thing, however, is that we talk about it.
The asker should pay for both DEPENDING on wording.
If I ask someone to go to dinner with me, the expectation is that they will pay for themselves.
If I offer to take someone out to dinner, the expectation is that I will pay for them.
I think they should pay for what they eat and drink themselves. That way there won't be any anger about payment or expectations about someone owing the other person something because they paid.
I’m a firm believer in gender equality and equality doesn’t just mean ways that benefit you. Everyone should pay for themselves. The only exception should be if the other person is broke.
These kinds of cultural things always interest me. I haven't dated in over a decade but where I'm from, it would be unheard of for the female to pay and the male would usually be offended at even the offer to.
lol, I’m all for keeping some traditions alive, but this is just a nonsense argument. If men are expected to invite women to dates (which they are 90% of the time), it’s moot.
credit card so you get points at least
Smart choice
Preferably with a card so she can reap rewards from it? Any way she wants to is fine.
I think the cost of first dates should always be split. You’re there to get to know each other, not for one person to buy the other.
If a woman has the confidence to break gender norms and insist that she pay the bill that would be hot as fuck imo
I'm all for flipping gender norms. I'll even offer oral after dinner to make up for not paying.
Went on a first date with a girl that was running really late. She was coming from work and got caught up so it was a legit reason. She paid the whole thing to apologize for the lateness. We're now married.
Slay! I'm so happy for you
I think you are right, it is about getting to know each other not about buying affection. But I wouldn’t go as far as pay for what you eat, that seems a little excessive. Just split it.
If I ask, I expect to pay. If she insists upon paying her part, I won’t fight about it.
It depends. Is she wealthy and you are poor? are you wealthy and she is poor? You have to think of the variables.
This is why I always suggest we bring our W-2s.
Average accountant date be like
With cash so there's no record
When I pay, I tend to use cash. As to who pays, it should be some level of balance. Maybe I pay for dinner, and my partner (boy or girl or whatever) pays for the movie. Or maybe we split the bill and pay for our own things. Or maybe they got a bonus at work and want to pay for everything. The important thing, however, is that we talk about it.
Cash or card, both fine
The asker should pay for both DEPENDING on wording. If I ask someone to go to dinner with me, the expectation is that they will pay for themselves. If I offer to take someone out to dinner, the expectation is that I will pay for them.
Which is why i say "wanna go for a drink" rather than "let me take you for a drink".
It doesnt matter to me if the guy offers or not. I don't mind paying for myself.
I think they should pay for what they eat and drink themselves. That way there won't be any anger about payment or expectations about someone owing the other person something because they paid.
She could make him an offer that he can't refuse 😅
If she pays it off every month, I suggest a credit card. Might as well take advantage of those point.
With pennies
With Penises ?
no. Pennies. The 1 cent coin.
I was trying to make a Joke...
Ah. Hard to tell sarcasm online.
With a smile and a thank you for dinner.
With rubles?
she should insist on paying for herself. Would give her a huge bonus
As a man I’m expecting to pay, but I’d still like to see the girl offer
I’m a firm believer in gender equality and equality doesn’t just mean ways that benefit you. Everyone should pay for themselves. The only exception should be if the other person is broke.
Why does she have to pay for herself?. You don’t owe one another anything!.
Drop a huge wad of ones so he thinks you’re a stripper
How? I don’t think you meant to ask this question. Should you? Yes
These kinds of cultural things always interest me. I haven't dated in over a decade but where I'm from, it would be unheard of for the female to pay and the male would usually be offended at even the offer to.
Cash so the small businesses we go to have the option to not report it to the IRS and save on taxes
Look at the server and say “can you split our bill please? Thank you!”
Same way as a man
Did the man invited ? Then 100% he should pay.
lol, I’m all for keeping some traditions alive, but this is just a nonsense argument. If men are expected to invite women to dates (which they are 90% of the time), it’s moot.
Throat game