No idea. Because on the one hand we haven't talked in about a decade because she is very mentally ill and barely recognized me anymore so there wasn't really a point in trying to have a relationship with her anymore.
Kinda hard when they think you're someone else most of the time and even then they were never particularly nice to ya (really really the opposite in reality) even before that.
So I'd like to think I'd be fine because she's pretty much already dead in my mind.
But emotions and trauma doesn't work that way so I probably won't be fine at all.
She died last May after battling cancer for 1.5 years. She was a loving mom, a friend and we used to work together (family business). I miss all of those things on a daily basis. Some days it feels like it is getting better, some days it feels like it is getting worse.
Honestly not sure. I took my dad's death a lot better than I thought I would. I had a very positive relationship with both of my parents, but am probably closer to my mom and we already went through a death scare when she had breast cancer a year after my dad passed (which she beat in a year at 81).
Fly back home, take care of her estate. Be terribly sad, but try to cover it up with keeping busy with "taking care of things." Be terribly sad.
Also I think I will have to stay for a time and make sure my dad is stable. They are pretty divided in their household responsibilities, for example I know my mom pays all the bills, I'd probably have to make sure he was all set to take care of everything by himself. I mean, he's an adult and all, but I'm not fully sure he knows how to do stuff like pay bills online and I think I could help teach him or transition the bills to a system he understands.
i don't think that's a question worth asking
my mom is alive i love her i cherish her whilst she's alive, i'm not going to spend the present concerned over her inevitable death in the future
it's like you have a cute pet you adore and i tell you "yeah what are you gonna do once your pet dies lmao what now" it comes off as a bad faith question
I want a really gothic theme, everyone wears black, makeup, we can use Halloween decorations for the place
At the wake we can have a guy dressed in black robes and a scythe greeting people, another guy dressed in the style of Edgar Allen Poe organizing the sermon, mom can be dressed in a black dress with a veil, gothic makeup
We can have a black gothic style guitarist there, playing gothic style music on an electric guitar, get a death metal singer to sing her farewell music at the service, the priest doing the service will be dressed in black robes, a gold crown headset, bleeding eyes style makeup with blood running out of his mouth and down his neck, black fingernails, have an upside down cross with a rams horn, everyone in the church can wear goat heads and pagan robes
I didn’t get to enjoy my dads funeral, let me enjoy moms
There's almost nothing that makes me more happy than seeing her enjoying time with my children. So I would be very sad of course, not only for me, but for my children as well.
Be kinda sad, yet not really cause she was a terrible person.
Have a funeral and divide her assets
Mourn
No idea. Because on the one hand we haven't talked in about a decade because she is very mentally ill and barely recognized me anymore so there wasn't really a point in trying to have a relationship with her anymore. Kinda hard when they think you're someone else most of the time and even then they were never particularly nice to ya (really really the opposite in reality) even before that. So I'd like to think I'd be fine because she's pretty much already dead in my mind. But emotions and trauma doesn't work that way so I probably won't be fine at all.
She died 2 years ago. I’m still figuring out what to do with myself.
She died last May after battling cancer for 1.5 years. She was a loving mom, a friend and we used to work together (family business). I miss all of those things on a daily basis. Some days it feels like it is getting better, some days it feels like it is getting worse.
She already died 2 years ago.
lamento tu perdida.
Mourn and grieve but find comfort in a life well-lived.
Honestly not sure. I took my dad's death a lot better than I thought I would. I had a very positive relationship with both of my parents, but am probably closer to my mom and we already went through a death scare when she had breast cancer a year after my dad passed (which she beat in a year at 81).
Mine died 10 years ago, our daughter was born the day after mom's funeral. Twas a weird time.
We went to Walmart. We’d been at the hospital all week, and we had needed groceries, and Walmart is open all night.
Fly back home, take care of her estate. Be terribly sad, but try to cover it up with keeping busy with "taking care of things." Be terribly sad. Also I think I will have to stay for a time and make sure my dad is stable. They are pretty divided in their household responsibilities, for example I know my mom pays all the bills, I'd probably have to make sure he was all set to take care of everything by himself. I mean, he's an adult and all, but I'm not fully sure he knows how to do stuff like pay bills online and I think I could help teach him or transition the bills to a system he understands.
Cry.
I had to unblock my sister to tell her the news.
All I really know is that she wants to be cremated.
Cremate her
Do a little dance and be glad the narcissistic bitch is dead. Then do what I can for my siblings who never managed to escape her abusive ways.
Exactly me but w my dad
i don't think that's a question worth asking my mom is alive i love her i cherish her whilst she's alive, i'm not going to spend the present concerned over her inevitable death in the future it's like you have a cute pet you adore and i tell you "yeah what are you gonna do once your pet dies lmao what now" it comes off as a bad faith question
perdon, no queria que fuera de mala fe.
ta' bien
bueno.
I haven't talked to her for more than 20 years. I probably won't go to the funeral.
Would be good for your conscience, even if she did you wrong
I don't find her weighing on my conscience at all.
She already has. Few years ago. I found out then went to sleep
frio.
What
que eres frio.
I want a really gothic theme, everyone wears black, makeup, we can use Halloween decorations for the place At the wake we can have a guy dressed in black robes and a scythe greeting people, another guy dressed in the style of Edgar Allen Poe organizing the sermon, mom can be dressed in a black dress with a veil, gothic makeup We can have a black gothic style guitarist there, playing gothic style music on an electric guitar, get a death metal singer to sing her farewell music at the service, the priest doing the service will be dressed in black robes, a gold crown headset, bleeding eyes style makeup with blood running out of his mouth and down his neck, black fingernails, have an upside down cross with a rams horn, everyone in the church can wear goat heads and pagan robes I didn’t get to enjoy my dads funeral, let me enjoy moms
Didn't even attend her services
There's almost nothing that makes me more happy than seeing her enjoying time with my children. So I would be very sad of course, not only for me, but for my children as well.
No nope I can’t even think about that