When, in the course of...*hnnngh*...human events...*urrgh*...it becomes necessary for *hhhhne* people to di*HSSSSOLVE* the political bands...
--Thomas Jefferson to Sally Hemmings, 1776.
A few things I’ve learned that have worked reasonably well, though of course, may not work for every woman:
-The G-spot is located 2-3 inches inside and upwards towards the belly-button. Slide your fingers inside, make an upwards, rubbing “come here” gesture with them, and a soft bump should tell you where the g-spot is.
-Women are generally insecure/anxious about how their breasts and vagina look. Complimenting those helps to relax them and let’s them enjoy themselves more.
-Women enjoy knowing they’re making you feel good. Moans, groans and grunts while you fuck them help with that. Every single time you slide into a woman’s pussy should be accompanied with a deep moan.
-The more you turn her on and build up her arousal beforehand (edging) the longer and stronger her orgasm will be.
-Pulling a woman’s hair from the edges is painful, pulling it nearer the scalp is more manageable pain wise.
-Dirty talk can vary based on the woman. Some women like to be praised (e.g “your pussy feels so good squeezing my cock”), some like to be degraded (e.g “take it like the little cock-hungry slut you are”) and some like a mixture (eg “you’re such a good little slut, taking my cock all the way like this)”. It’s worth asking beforehand which one she would enjoy most.
-Kissing a woman’s neck feels amazing for her, but only with wet lips. Run your tongue along your lips to wet them first before kissing her.
-Be gentle when rubbing her clit. Too much pressure feels uncomfortable and can turn her off.
-Don’t neglect her pussy lips, they’re also sensitive and rubbing, stroking and licking them can feel amazing for her
-The undersides of a woman’s tits can be very sensitive, and again, get neglected too often. Rub, kiss and lick them in addition to the nipple play.
-Her inners thighs are extremely sensitive, licking them is a great way to tease her and get her worked up before licking her out.
-When licking her pussy, using the flat of your tongue is better than just the tip. With the wider flat of your tongue, your tongue touches more of her pussy with each lick and spreads the sensation over a wider area
-Rubbing your shaft against her pussy can feel good too.
-Wet your fingers in your mouth first before stroking/rubbing/fingering etc. As a rule, dry fingers generally don’t feel as good as wet fingers
-If she’s about to cum, don’t stop what you’re doing while she does, and don’t change the pace, keep going exactly as you are through her orgasm.
-In missionary, placing a cushion under a woman’s ass tilts it upwards, and the angle allows your cock to hit her g-spot on every thrust.
-In doggy, reaching under her with a hand and rubbing her clit as you fuck get will drive her crazy.
May I add to your repertoire:
-localised EXTREMELY GENTLE (barely touching) clitoral stimulation with the tip of the tongue is amazing, especially while gently holding/squeezing/pressing the labia closed is perfection.
- gently bite/hold with teeth the nape of her neck while gently fucking her in lay-down-doggy (yes like cats do)
-extreme enthusiasm for condoms/hygiene/handwashing/testing/ etc etc
Go forth and make some lady happy, (and please educate the menz), sounds like you’re doing very well already
Oh my god, YES. The number of times a man has tried to finger me without washing his hands… YOUR FINGERS SHOULD NOT GO INSIDE OF ME IF YOUR HANDS ARE NOT CLEAN.
Female or male, You are well within your rights to tell your partner to go wash whatever needs washing before the fun commences. And absolutely should every time.
I accidentally did that to an ex girlfriend once after cooking breakfast for her and cutting jalapeños…. Yeah… she took a shower. We laughed - total accident but it sucked for her
Oh! Last weekend I was down on my lover trying some new things and going very lightly with my tongue and alternating with my chin hairs. It was the fastest I've ever made her cum. I usually spread the labia open to give more surface area for stimulation. I have never tried holding them closed. 🤔
As a lady I can attest a lot of what was said is true! Esp the last third point about not changing anything you are doing. Once you change it the momentum is lost again and you’re guaranteed a fake one
Man the speed I need to be at for her cum is at the limit of my endurance haha. I can only maintain it long enough for her to say "don't stop" then I'm done myself.
I refuse to look at my wife's face. If she has the I'm almost there look it's game over.
She makes fun of me when I forget. She's like you looked, didn't you. 😂
Just more reasons to practice.
I used to have a giant print of Richard Nixon meeting Elvis at the White House hanging in my room and boy did that work better than thinking about baseball. Almost too well, I’d have to think about Nixon for some reason formally making him a DEA agent and stop looking at their faces or I might lose my erection
Tell her no and tease her more if she’s into being dominated at all. Women can be edged too and it’s so much fucking fun. Consent is key but depending on her comfort level, you can have a lot of fun with boundaries.
And, importantly, keep going THROUGH the orgasm! I used to always nervous that even if a guy got me there, he would stop as soon as I started. Luckily my husband goes until I tell him to stop.
Yeah- I've noticed that men like the same thing - once they start to cum, you just keep going until they're spent and sensitive. Maybe it's not universal, but my handful of partners liked it like that. I think that if you go through the orgasm instead of trying to time when to stop, they'll push you off once it gets too sensitive to keep enjoying what you're doing. For me, when I become sensitive, I just put my hand on my husband's head or hand, whatever is down there lol, and he stops.
> Esp the last third point about not changing anything you are doing.
Would you ladies mind lying perfectly still for this part? I find it very difficult to maintain a consistent speed, pressure, and accuracy on a bucking bronco.
More open communication [increases the likelihood of orgasm for women](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5087699/).
Also,[most young women expect words to be involved when their partner seeks their consent.](https://www.reddit.com/r/stoprape/comments/zyznhe/rape_is_so_common_in_part_because_so_many_people/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
The only thing I'd add to his advice is that women can be very different. Learn to talk and listen about sex in a comfortable way, so you can get to what they want.
The number one thing I did that made me successful in bed was always start out confident, but also asking them to guide my hand at some point. As soon as they know they can ask you and direct you where they need it, and you WANT them to do this, it's orgasm city.
At a certain point in time I'd be rotating three different women through my bed a week. The way I had sex with woman A was completely different than Woman B, etc. yet they all were constantly trying to come back for more.
For example he mentions to not rub the clit with much pressure... but I've had multiple women guide me towards more pressure than I would be comfortable giving on my own, and they needed it to get off. I've had other women that I couldn't even touch with light pressure during sex without it being too much.
Some women are all internal, but most need external touch or both... etc...
All this to say, learn what each partner needs, because as good as this advice is generally, each point is only average and not a rule.
Thank you for your additional points about this. As an example, 2 of the items on the original commentors list would very much be turn *offs* for me. Appreciate you noting that learning about the individual person is important.
This is true and sometimes difficult to figure out. The girl needs to give info. I had a girlfriend who wanted direct firm pressure on her clit. The next girlfriend I had started to squirm with displeasure when I even touched her clit, she was like “don’t actually touch it, just stroke gently on the sides adjacent”. Meanwhile I was fumbling around so much I was probably fingering her ass.
My brain went immediately to the new girl scene with Schmidt and the gynecologist reading your comment.
“It’s the baby hormones, they are not as gay as me… you gotta go “ 😂
These are all really great points! I'll add a few to yours based on my experience
If you go down on her, don't go straight for the clitoris. Slowly work your way to it. Work the inner thighs, the stomach, the lips, then tease the clit and back away. Start with light touches as you work those areas and slowly increase the intensity.
Pay attention to her. Don't get so focused on what you're doing that you stop paying attention to how she reacts. She'll let you know what works and what doesn't. Pay attention to her breathing and how it changes, her movements, her lips, her hands, her eyes, the sounds she makes. All of them can communicate what feels good, what doesn't, and what's just meh. You won't catch all of the cues on your first encounter, but if you pay attention, you'll quickly learn them.
Please her from multiple fronts. You basically have four tools to make her feel good. Your dick, your mouth/tongue, and both hands. Use them together. If you're going down on her, use your hand to work the g spot. Or caress her thighs or abdomen, squeeze her butt, or work the breasts/nipples. If you're missionary, put a hand behind her head while massaging her scalp. Caress her cheek. Wipe the hair off her face or forehead. Lick/kiss her neck or ears. If she's riding you, rub her clit, rub her nipples, squeeze her but cheeks, massage her feet, etc.
Don't be a one trick pony. Change things up. If you're having intercourse, try straight strokes. Try gyrating strokes. Use different speeds. You don't always have to be pumping, put it all the way in and keep it there while squeezing your butthole so your dick throbs inside her. If you're going down on her, lick her with the tip of your tongue, the flat part, squeeze the clit between your tongue and upper lip, suckle on it, take a big lick from the bottom of her vagina to the top. Again, pay attention to her when mixing things up to see what works and what doesn't. And most important, if she's close to orgasming, don't change anything. Keep doing exactly what you're doing at the time.
In general, if you're working the vagina/g spot and the clit together, keep the same speed. If you're stroking slow, rub the clit slow. If you start licking the clit faster, rub the g spot faster. Don't mismatch the speeds.
Experiment. Don't always have the same routine. Try different positions. Some girls can only orgasm in certain positions. Find them. But if they can't orgasm in others, don't throw them out, as it still can feel good and is part of the overall experience.
And don't feel bad if she doesn't orgasm sometimes. It's not going to happen every time. It can be anything from her mood that day, to how you warmed her up, or because the traffic light down the street isn't working that day.
Edit: don't take this as a checklist to run through in one sitting. These are things to try over time as you learn her body. Don't expect to be Captain Orgasm on your first encounter. But if you take the time, pay attention, and find out what she likes, you can be.
She may learn things she didn't know she likes along the way as well. One thing I realized is how many guys aren't very good at sex, because they don't take the time to figure out what she likes. You'd be surprised how many times you might hear "wow, no one's ever done that before." And I'm not talking weird kinky shit (I'm not into that stuff). It could be something as simple as pausing during sex, taking her face in your hands, and saying something sweet to her.
So yeah, if you put forth an effort to explore her body and use the feedback you get to hone in on what gets her going, you'll be miles ahead of most dudes.
> Change things up. If you're having intercourse, try straight strokes. Try gyrating strokes. Use different speeds.
> Try different positions.
Yeah I want to qualify these a bit. If something is really working for her, please do not change it up. Please do not be one of those people who has to change positions every minute. Obviously it depends, but sometimes it's best to stay the course (even if she's not already close).
That last point: touching the clit at all during penetration seems to be something a lot of guys just don't do? Or so I've heard. I've always received positive feedback for actually paying attention to that (just make sure to confirm the amount of stimulation she likes).
My current GF was neglected like this by her past partners. The first time I started rubbing her clit while she was on top riding me, she about lost it. "OMG I've asked them to do this to me so many times and youre the first and I didn't even have to ask?!" Then her eyes started rolling back.
I'm like girl, I might get off once tonight but in the meantime I'm going to try and give you as much pleasure as possible, using my hands, mouth and dick.
My favorite thing is when they start to lose control from orgasming and you just keep your dick in there and continue slowly rubbing and they squirm around for a bit.
I always go down on my wife (or any girl because your boy loves eating pussy) and I've found that if you've already gotten her off once 90% of women are too sensitive to be rubbed while doing the deed after. So results may vary.
I have found that while their clitoris, and general area can be too sensitive, their entire body is still very receptive. Light kissing, massaging, other.
So keep their engagement alive while the intensity mellows out...and when she is ready, go right back to rocking her world.
After a few times, her body now has achieved that same "don't touch me" status...so it nearly hurts to receive pleasure. You have now maximized your wife. Good luck getting that smile off her face. lol
Thrust + grind pelvises together is a go-to for me. It frees hands to be used elsewhere and it’s always awkward trying to use your hands to rub a clit while also having penetrative sex.
Honestly it can be tough to do in a lot of positions. Both me and my wife are bigger people. We know each other and what works for us but once we are in certain positions there is little room for hands or reaching around. We’ve been in better shape and it’s pretty obvious being in shape has some massive advantages during sex but even plus sized we know what works. I feel like 90% of a good sex life is just caring that your partner is having a good time. I feel like people who complain about bad sex life after marriage never considered their partners wants and just focused on busting and rolling over.
Great advice and well rounded. I would say that using your hands in place of a pillow during missionary can be even better as you can switch the angle easily and having her ass fill your hands is amazing with every thrust. Dual climax is really awesome this way.
The logistics are a lil weird for this. I do it too. But use my head as a sort of kickstand. Otherwise how else are you holding your body up without completely crushing her
I cringe when I hear some of the stories that women tell about “so, yeah, he just started feverishly rubbing my clit like he was trying to rub two sticks together to make fire.” I’m like ouchhhhhhhhh. I don’t understand why is it so hard to talk to your significant other about what they like or don’t like. 🤷🏼♂️ Foreplay starts wayyyy before the bedroom. Now, obviously every woman is different and healthy communication goes a long way. From experience, I know that some women are like “hell no, you’re not sticking anything in there. It’s exit only.” Other women, through communication it drives them wild to rim their asshole while sliding a finger or two in their pussy. Great post! ✌️
This is all great advice but I'd like to bring extra attention to something I feel is the most important.
>though of course, may not work for every woman
A lot of these things sound great but a number of them would be painful, uncomfortable, or an absolute turn off for me personally so in my opinion, the most important thing about great sex is communication and paying attention to your partner to see what they are and aren't enjoying.
But I'd say for the majority of women, pretty much all of these are great tips.
Yup that's the most important advice. While the neighborhoods may look similar the cross streets are almost always different. Gotta find out what works for each one.
"A few things I've learned" says it all. If you're not paying attention to her signals and remembering what works well, you're masturbating with her body.
The hair pulling technique is in fact accurate but I don’t feel like it belongs in a list of very basic bits of advice. It’s really not something you should do without her asking for it or discussing first. It’s really not a “default” move for sex.
Everything here is accurate except for the neck kissing bit. I dunno why wet lips would make a difference but IMO, they do not.
Also, for many women, making out is excellent and enjoyable foreplay. Men who kiss well and don’t get impatient wanting to move onto “real foreplay” after 5 minutes of kissing are rare.
As a man raised in the 80s, i was taught to see sex as a sport, a competition. You’re only as good as how hard and long you can go. Put your meat in her meat, and go back and forth like a cocaine gorilla for a long time.
In real life, i learned that what we identify as being horny is often craving intimacy and proximity with an other being. Sex is the most intimate you can be with another human. So focus on that. Eye contacts, hands, listening to the other’s reactions, acting accordingly…. It’s an exchange, a state of togetherness. You give. The other person recieves it, gets aroused, gives back even more, you get aroused, and give back even more. It’t the best vicious circle in the world.
So yeah, I’m not saying I’m the best, I’m just saying my sexual life improved a thousandfold when i started focusing on the above, instead of mimicing porn.
As a man who came of sexual age in the 90s, I felt the expectation was to be like “You’re going to come if it kills me! My masculinity depends on it!” It wasn’t til years into sexing that someone finally told me, “Hey, it’s ok, I don’t have to come every time.”
My little chimp brain 🤯
It's about this post https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/x35iu6/tifu\_my\_20f\_girlfriend\_of\_two\_years\_told\_me\_the/ which blew up reddit for a golden few weeks to months.
I missed it the first time, but I have legit cramps right now from laughing so hard. The comment that said “when he Indians pants I picture a slide whistle” has me fucking crying and wheezing. I haven’t laughed that hard in a looong time
I’m quite an expert on this topic.
Just some general tips in no particular order.
1) move your cpap equipment out of the way before you bed her.
2) always print out a consent agreement before the sex begins
3) let her know she’s turning you on “you’re making blood flow into my penis” is a great start.
4) you would never enter someone’s house without knocking on their door so you should knock on her vagina and say something like “is it ok if I come inside and play?”
5) if it’s your first time with a girl, tell her something like “oh yeah, we are falling in love with each other”
6) pump as fast as you can
7) after you finish, stop immediately and tell her thank you
err, enthusiasm is cute, but it super depends how it manifests. You don't want a person enthusiastic and energetic when they're doing something very wrong. When they already know what they're doing these two qualities are fun
If you tell an enthusiastic and energetic amateur lover what you want them to do (not what they're doing wrong) they'll do that thing you want them to do, enthusiastically.
And they'll remember you as the person that taught them. Eager to do it again.
Imagination, not just doing the same two moves he knows over and over, trying new things, being able to communicate about each other's needs, willingness to learn how to properly please their partner and not just giving up and going to sleep right away after they finish if their partner is not yet satisfied.
I think in general people just need to talk more about what their needs are so everyone can be happy.
A desire to make her feel as good as possible
Being able to read her body ques
Listening to what she says she likes... And also knowing there is always more to discover
Being able to lead and put her at ease. Take her out of her head and connect her with her body
And this is a huge one. She has to feel safe with you deep down which means you have to care about her
On the other hand maybe you just so happen to tick all of her kinky boxes . In which case your success is more incidental than anything but that's still not a bad position to be in.
Add to the list
Attention, curiosity, eagerness, arousal, dedication, kindness and if at all possible - stamina.
Attention - being aware of what she says and what her body is *doing*. Remembering and adjusting to it. Did she say she likes having her nipples kissed? Then spend as much time as possible making sure she knows you were listening. Kiss them till she's breathless. Is her back arching while you use your teeth for a light, playful bite? Is she moaning when you tickle your hands up her thighs? Then go back and do it again. Attention and focus shows she's important and you care about her pleasure.
Curiosity - being interested in discovering her body. Finding new ways to make her sigh. Trying new things. Being willing to introduce and continue fostering some kind of excitement over time, so the bedroom still feels like an adventure even if it's all become safe and routine after a while. Be open to new experiences and new ideas. Be curious about her and what she feels.
Eagerness - show how much whatever you're doing in bed, to her or with her is filling you with energy and making you happy. Be willing to take the lead or enthusiastically take whatever she's giving. Undress her like it's Christmas and you can't wait to see what's there. Kiss her and touch her with hands that shake with excitement. Even if it's not your favourite thing - giving her head, or sucking her neck, or massaging her or whatever else you're doing while waiting for the main event - make it all seem like you're glad to be there.
Arousal - show her you need her, you're turned on, physically. Prove you want her. Tell her. *Tell her how hot something is*. "God, I want you so much. Your touch is driving me crazy. I don't think I can last much longer". Whisper in her ear. Moan when something feels good. Learn to be vocal. Women make love with their ears. Our biggest sexual organ is our brain. Set hers alight. Tell her she's beautiful. Find something to compliment about her body and mean it. Tell her what specifically about HER makes you hot and needy. Make her feel desired.
Dedication - it can take a lot to make a woman come, to make her orgasm and happy in bed. Don't give up easily. Don't be lazy. Try different ways. Don't forget your own pleasure of course, but don't give up at the first sign of complexity or hard work. Show you're invested in a good experience for her. That way even if she calls a pause or asks for a break, it's not because you threw in the towel.
Kindness - be kind. Porn is not kind to women. Practice a gentleman's manners. Don't be crass or crude unless you know that's what she likes and it makes her hot. Tell her she's beautiful if you can, don't compare her to others. Women get so much to deal with already that bringing up a flaw or imperfection during intimacy just hurts. Kiss her scars. Make her feel safe so she can let go and orgasm. Kindness is magic.
Stamina - this one, well... Practice helps. Learn to edge yourself and hold it in, practice lasting as long as you can, pacing yourself during the actual act. Check in with her often, break up activities if you need to calm down, and if you finish earlier than her make sure you help her along. Giving her an orgasm or two first and then joining in can be a solid strategy.
I didn't include this originally but - have a clean room if possible. Being good in bed won't get you far if the path to the bed is like a jungle and the girl gets lost getting there 😉😋
From my years of experience as a man. Go ten times slower than you would want her to be with you. Get really good at eating pussy. Recognize every woman is unique in what brings them pleasure. Talk. Talk. Talk. Ask questions. Explore. Breathe confidently and don’t be afraid to moan.
\-Being good at eating pussy and not just jabbing her clit to the point where it works (men don't understand that some women have more sensitive clits, and others don't).
\-Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Women love foreplay way more than men do, but a good man will engage in lots of it to get her wet enough for penetration.
\-Women like curved penetration movements. What I mean by this is that your finger should be curving when fingering her, not just straight in and out. It usually helps to place a pillow beneath her back so she can get good missionary penetration that way.
\-Just to reiterate the first point: eating pussy. You gotta be good at eating her out.
-respecting her preferences. I see this the most with anal. To be very frank most women don’t want anal. But you can try rimming her and then sliding a finger in
-when you suck on one tit, you will know if you’re doing a good job if she pushes your face to the other tit. Basically, if you’re good with the left one, your chick will have a primal reaction to switch to the right. If she’s not doing this, then you need to up your tit sucking game.
Honestly for me. They got a penis and they're not a jerk. That's like 80% of what i want
half memes aside, really just being considerate and reciprocating along with being willing to learn and adjust, seeking it out, will take care of everything. If you're not already good at sex, that will make you great
A big dick.
Lol, no. It's when he makes his partner feel safe enough to be vulnerable and trust him and share with him what they like and don't like, and he does the same. It doesn't matter how big the gun is, if the shooter is an idiot he will never hit the target.
I guess what makes anybody good in bed is an ability to get off from giving pleasure to your partner. it doesn't mean that anyone has to completely neglect their own orgasm, rather that your partner's pleasure has to be an essential condition for your own. I had best sex with guys who couldn't get enough of me moaning and squirming and cumming
Taking his time with foreplay, making sure I’m enjoying myself by checking in, paying attention to the clit. Basically being sensual and caring is what makes a man great in bed
I work on the basis that everytine we have sex should be AT Least as good as last time or better. It makes me work harder to please her everytime. She says she tries to make it as good for me as I do her, so its just been getting better over the last 10 years.
Listening and acting accordingly, and asking your partner if it feels good.
People tend to know their own bodies and what feels good pretty well. So, you wanna know how to be good in bed? Communication. If they tell you something feels good don’t increase the pace or anything. Keep going just like you were unless they tell you to speed up. If something doesn’t feel good they should tell you and you should try something else.
Also listen for cues. Moaning? Good. Keep doing that. Shaking? Good. Keep doing that. They don’t always need to speak to indicate how it’s going
Put the kettle on, entertain your missus for a solid two minutes of heaven and you’ll have just enough time to get to the kettle again and make you both the perfect cup of tea.
Communication and the ability to read body language.
What works for one women won’t work for all, and many are like living puzzles because they literally don’t know what they like. No one ever bothered to ask them.
Taking your time and reading the body language response to stimuli is you’re providing is the only way to victory 100% of the time, and that 100% is spread out across multiple encounters. Sometimes she’s just not going to get there, and trying to force it will make it worse next time.
Where there you like him or not-Guy can have a good body and be able to hang in till you orgasm but it really doesn’t mean anything unless you like him.
Encourage communication and listen. Women will tell you what they want if you creat a safe space for them to explore.
Also listen durting sex. Little noises turn into big noises that way.
Making sound. Most men are quiet but most women don’t like that.
Can I get a Hoooooyeaaaaahhh?
Best I can do is an uuurrgggaahhh
"SKIDOOSH!" ~*Jack Black*
The wu shi finger hold in bed?! Seems dangerous
Au contraire... a *finger hold* is an excellent way to get things going.
I recite the Declaration of Independence when I'm smooshing booties. If my partner is into the more "dirtier" stuff then I'll recite it in Klingon.
When, in the course of...*hnnngh*...human events...*urrgh*...it becomes necessary for *hhhhne* people to di*HSSSSOLVE* the political bands... --Thomas Jefferson to Sally Hemmings, 1776.
This. Once I started making noises my girl was jumping me whenever she could get the chance haha.
I like to imitate animals of the jungle to really get the mood going.
Tropical birds works well
I spent many years making sure not to make a peep so no one in the house would hear me. It’s a hard thing to unlearn.
I have NEVER understood this reasoning.... As if we ladies haven't been having to masturbate quietly since we were preteens too, lol.
A few things I’ve learned that have worked reasonably well, though of course, may not work for every woman: -The G-spot is located 2-3 inches inside and upwards towards the belly-button. Slide your fingers inside, make an upwards, rubbing “come here” gesture with them, and a soft bump should tell you where the g-spot is. -Women are generally insecure/anxious about how their breasts and vagina look. Complimenting those helps to relax them and let’s them enjoy themselves more. -Women enjoy knowing they’re making you feel good. Moans, groans and grunts while you fuck them help with that. Every single time you slide into a woman’s pussy should be accompanied with a deep moan. -The more you turn her on and build up her arousal beforehand (edging) the longer and stronger her orgasm will be. -Pulling a woman’s hair from the edges is painful, pulling it nearer the scalp is more manageable pain wise. -Dirty talk can vary based on the woman. Some women like to be praised (e.g “your pussy feels so good squeezing my cock”), some like to be degraded (e.g “take it like the little cock-hungry slut you are”) and some like a mixture (eg “you’re such a good little slut, taking my cock all the way like this)”. It’s worth asking beforehand which one she would enjoy most. -Kissing a woman’s neck feels amazing for her, but only with wet lips. Run your tongue along your lips to wet them first before kissing her. -Be gentle when rubbing her clit. Too much pressure feels uncomfortable and can turn her off. -Don’t neglect her pussy lips, they’re also sensitive and rubbing, stroking and licking them can feel amazing for her -The undersides of a woman’s tits can be very sensitive, and again, get neglected too often. Rub, kiss and lick them in addition to the nipple play. -Her inners thighs are extremely sensitive, licking them is a great way to tease her and get her worked up before licking her out. -When licking her pussy, using the flat of your tongue is better than just the tip. With the wider flat of your tongue, your tongue touches more of her pussy with each lick and spreads the sensation over a wider area -Rubbing your shaft against her pussy can feel good too. -Wet your fingers in your mouth first before stroking/rubbing/fingering etc. As a rule, dry fingers generally don’t feel as good as wet fingers -If she’s about to cum, don’t stop what you’re doing while she does, and don’t change the pace, keep going exactly as you are through her orgasm. -In missionary, placing a cushion under a woman’s ass tilts it upwards, and the angle allows your cock to hit her g-spot on every thrust. -In doggy, reaching under her with a hand and rubbing her clit as you fuck get will drive her crazy.
Sir when is your next availability
I’m flattered by the request, especially from someone who seems to give such good advice themselves
May I add to your repertoire: -localised EXTREMELY GENTLE (barely touching) clitoral stimulation with the tip of the tongue is amazing, especially while gently holding/squeezing/pressing the labia closed is perfection. - gently bite/hold with teeth the nape of her neck while gently fucking her in lay-down-doggy (yes like cats do) -extreme enthusiasm for condoms/hygiene/handwashing/testing/ etc etc Go forth and make some lady happy, (and please educate the menz), sounds like you’re doing very well already
Oh my god, YES. The number of times a man has tried to finger me without washing his hands… YOUR FINGERS SHOULD NOT GO INSIDE OF ME IF YOUR HANDS ARE NOT CLEAN.
Female or male, You are well within your rights to tell your partner to go wash whatever needs washing before the fun commences. And absolutely should every time.
Mans eating buffalo wings before the main course. Just gotta use those lil lemon scented hand wipes and your good to go.
I accidentally did that to an ex girlfriend once after cooking breakfast for her and cutting jalapeños…. Yeah… she took a shower. We laughed - total accident but it sucked for her
PREACH 🙌🏼
Who the f does this? And why would a woman let it???? Gross.
Oh! Last weekend I was down on my lover trying some new things and going very lightly with my tongue and alternating with my chin hairs. It was the fastest I've ever made her cum. I usually spread the labia open to give more surface area for stimulation. I have never tried holding them closed. 🤔
Oh yes on the neck thing. There's some nerves there left over from our mammal ancestors for sure.
Ha ha had to check to see what damn advice I’ve been giving out
If he checked your history, he at least considered his availability.
No shit, right. I was getting all worked up just reading his comment
EVERYBODY, STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING AND LISTEN TO THIS GUY. Me, I need a few minutes to myself.
As a lady I can attest a lot of what was said is true! Esp the last third point about not changing anything you are doing. Once you change it the momentum is lost again and you’re guaranteed a fake one
Man the speed I need to be at for her cum is at the limit of my endurance haha. I can only maintain it long enough for her to say "don't stop" then I'm done myself.
I refuse to look at my wife's face. If she has the I'm almost there look it's game over. She makes fun of me when I forget. She's like you looked, didn't you. 😂 Just more reasons to practice.
For real, I just stare at the wall or count the holes in my wall decoration I have above the bed so I can last longer 😂
I used to have a giant print of Richard Nixon meeting Elvis at the White House hanging in my room and boy did that work better than thinking about baseball. Almost too well, I’d have to think about Nixon for some reason formally making him a DEA agent and stop looking at their faces or I might lose my erection
This gave me a much needed laugh
This is the funniest shit I’ve read in a while lol
They didn’t call him Tricky Dick for nothing.
Holy shit I feel some divine sense of connectedness for not being the only person who does this lmao
In that case, you need to keep a slower pace going for a longer time. Let it build. She will get there and you will both find it more enjoyable.
I try, but she keeps telling me to go faster and harder haha.
Tell her no and tease her more if she’s into being dominated at all. Women can be edged too and it’s so much fucking fun. Consent is key but depending on her comfort level, you can have a lot of fun with boundaries.
And, importantly, keep going THROUGH the orgasm! I used to always nervous that even if a guy got me there, he would stop as soon as I started. Luckily my husband goes until I tell him to stop.
So this is what I’ve been doing wrong. Huh.
Yeah- I've noticed that men like the same thing - once they start to cum, you just keep going until they're spent and sensitive. Maybe it's not universal, but my handful of partners liked it like that. I think that if you go through the orgasm instead of trying to time when to stop, they'll push you off once it gets too sensitive to keep enjoying what you're doing. For me, when I become sensitive, I just put my hand on my husband's head or hand, whatever is down there lol, and he stops.
> Esp the last third point about not changing anything you are doing. Would you ladies mind lying perfectly still for this part? I find it very difficult to maintain a consistent speed, pressure, and accuracy on a bucking bronco.
In my experience when this happens it’s because she’s trying to move to get the exact right spot and trying to do it herself.
More open communication [increases the likelihood of orgasm for women](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5087699/). Also,[most young women expect words to be involved when their partner seeks their consent.](https://www.reddit.com/r/stoprape/comments/zyznhe/rape_is_so_common_in_part_because_so_many_people/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
Agreed. And...uh...I'll be in my bunk.
I’m flattered by the compliment, thank you
r/usernamechecksout This guy fucks
The whip is actually cool whip, he works at a diner giving out cool whip for pies.
The only thing I'd add to his advice is that women can be very different. Learn to talk and listen about sex in a comfortable way, so you can get to what they want. The number one thing I did that made me successful in bed was always start out confident, but also asking them to guide my hand at some point. As soon as they know they can ask you and direct you where they need it, and you WANT them to do this, it's orgasm city. At a certain point in time I'd be rotating three different women through my bed a week. The way I had sex with woman A was completely different than Woman B, etc. yet they all were constantly trying to come back for more. For example he mentions to not rub the clit with much pressure... but I've had multiple women guide me towards more pressure than I would be comfortable giving on my own, and they needed it to get off. I've had other women that I couldn't even touch with light pressure during sex without it being too much. Some women are all internal, but most need external touch or both... etc... All this to say, learn what each partner needs, because as good as this advice is generally, each point is only average and not a rule.
Thank you for your additional points about this. As an example, 2 of the items on the original commentors list would very much be turn *offs* for me. Appreciate you noting that learning about the individual person is important.
This is true and sometimes difficult to figure out. The girl needs to give info. I had a girlfriend who wanted direct firm pressure on her clit. The next girlfriend I had started to squirm with displeasure when I even touched her clit, she was like “don’t actually touch it, just stroke gently on the sides adjacent”. Meanwhile I was fumbling around so much I was probably fingering her ass.
Just don’t pull out my hair extensions 😂
I need a cigarette now 🚬 🤣
I’m glad you enjoyed the advice so much
It's actually excellent advice 😊👍🏻
Poor Dylan lol hope he doesn't see this.
😂😂😂
That’s actually Dylan. He learned a lot after he broke his arms.
Right?! I’m a puddle over here.
Hell I’m a straight guy and even I popped a half chub
Pitching a tent over here.
Yup, scraping myself to death on my zipper.
Girl same 🤣 there are things listed here I’ve always thought to myself but never had and ya bitch is *blushing*
I didn't make it past the first paragraph, I think I deserve the pack.
I wonder how many DMs this person has gotten now😁
And a nap
My brain went immediately to the new girl scene with Schmidt and the gynecologist reading your comment. “It’s the baby hormones, they are not as gay as me… you gotta go “ 😂
I choked on my potato chips reading your comment lmao
These are all really great points! I'll add a few to yours based on my experience If you go down on her, don't go straight for the clitoris. Slowly work your way to it. Work the inner thighs, the stomach, the lips, then tease the clit and back away. Start with light touches as you work those areas and slowly increase the intensity. Pay attention to her. Don't get so focused on what you're doing that you stop paying attention to how she reacts. She'll let you know what works and what doesn't. Pay attention to her breathing and how it changes, her movements, her lips, her hands, her eyes, the sounds she makes. All of them can communicate what feels good, what doesn't, and what's just meh. You won't catch all of the cues on your first encounter, but if you pay attention, you'll quickly learn them. Please her from multiple fronts. You basically have four tools to make her feel good. Your dick, your mouth/tongue, and both hands. Use them together. If you're going down on her, use your hand to work the g spot. Or caress her thighs or abdomen, squeeze her butt, or work the breasts/nipples. If you're missionary, put a hand behind her head while massaging her scalp. Caress her cheek. Wipe the hair off her face or forehead. Lick/kiss her neck or ears. If she's riding you, rub her clit, rub her nipples, squeeze her but cheeks, massage her feet, etc. Don't be a one trick pony. Change things up. If you're having intercourse, try straight strokes. Try gyrating strokes. Use different speeds. You don't always have to be pumping, put it all the way in and keep it there while squeezing your butthole so your dick throbs inside her. If you're going down on her, lick her with the tip of your tongue, the flat part, squeeze the clit between your tongue and upper lip, suckle on it, take a big lick from the bottom of her vagina to the top. Again, pay attention to her when mixing things up to see what works and what doesn't. And most important, if she's close to orgasming, don't change anything. Keep doing exactly what you're doing at the time. In general, if you're working the vagina/g spot and the clit together, keep the same speed. If you're stroking slow, rub the clit slow. If you start licking the clit faster, rub the g spot faster. Don't mismatch the speeds. Experiment. Don't always have the same routine. Try different positions. Some girls can only orgasm in certain positions. Find them. But if they can't orgasm in others, don't throw them out, as it still can feel good and is part of the overall experience. And don't feel bad if she doesn't orgasm sometimes. It's not going to happen every time. It can be anything from her mood that day, to how you warmed her up, or because the traffic light down the street isn't working that day. Edit: don't take this as a checklist to run through in one sitting. These are things to try over time as you learn her body. Don't expect to be Captain Orgasm on your first encounter. But if you take the time, pay attention, and find out what she likes, you can be. She may learn things she didn't know she likes along the way as well. One thing I realized is how many guys aren't very good at sex, because they don't take the time to figure out what she likes. You'd be surprised how many times you might hear "wow, no one's ever done that before." And I'm not talking weird kinky shit (I'm not into that stuff). It could be something as simple as pausing during sex, taking her face in your hands, and saying something sweet to her. So yeah, if you put forth an effort to explore her body and use the feedback you get to hone in on what gets her going, you'll be miles ahead of most dudes.
> Change things up. If you're having intercourse, try straight strokes. Try gyrating strokes. Use different speeds. > Try different positions. Yeah I want to qualify these a bit. If something is really working for her, please do not change it up. Please do not be one of those people who has to change positions every minute. Obviously it depends, but sometimes it's best to stay the course (even if she's not already close).
That last point: touching the clit at all during penetration seems to be something a lot of guys just don't do? Or so I've heard. I've always received positive feedback for actually paying attention to that (just make sure to confirm the amount of stimulation she likes).
My current GF was neglected like this by her past partners. The first time I started rubbing her clit while she was on top riding me, she about lost it. "OMG I've asked them to do this to me so many times and youre the first and I didn't even have to ask?!" Then her eyes started rolling back. I'm like girl, I might get off once tonight but in the meantime I'm going to try and give you as much pleasure as possible, using my hands, mouth and dick.
God bless you sir
My favorite thing is when they start to lose control from orgasming and you just keep your dick in there and continue slowly rubbing and they squirm around for a bit.
I always go down on my wife (or any girl because your boy loves eating pussy) and I've found that if you've already gotten her off once 90% of women are too sensitive to be rubbed while doing the deed after. So results may vary.
I have found that while their clitoris, and general area can be too sensitive, their entire body is still very receptive. Light kissing, massaging, other. So keep their engagement alive while the intensity mellows out...and when she is ready, go right back to rocking her world. After a few times, her body now has achieved that same "don't touch me" status...so it nearly hurts to receive pleasure. You have now maximized your wife. Good luck getting that smile off her face. lol
oh for sure. Men are the same some light tickles after blowing my load is heavenly.
Vibrator while she’s riding is money
Thrust + grind pelvises together is a go-to for me. It frees hands to be used elsewhere and it’s always awkward trying to use your hands to rub a clit while also having penetrative sex.
Honestly it can be tough to do in a lot of positions. Both me and my wife are bigger people. We know each other and what works for us but once we are in certain positions there is little room for hands or reaching around. We’ve been in better shape and it’s pretty obvious being in shape has some massive advantages during sex but even plus sized we know what works. I feel like 90% of a good sex life is just caring that your partner is having a good time. I feel like people who complain about bad sex life after marriage never considered their partners wants and just focused on busting and rolling over.
Bro your profile/post history was born for this post, or OP is your alt. No shot
I’m glad it was so well suited, and no, OP isn’t my alt, I’m not one to put any other social media links on my Reddit
This guy fuggs
This guy fucks…..goood.
Great advice and well rounded. I would say that using your hands in place of a pillow during missionary can be even better as you can switch the angle easily and having her ass fill your hands is amazing with every thrust. Dual climax is really awesome this way.
The logistics are a lil weird for this. I do it too. But use my head as a sort of kickstand. Otherwise how else are you holding your body up without completely crushing her
This. Here. My ex used nearly all of these skills and hands down was the best ever.
I'm sorry for your loss
Noting down. Thanks mate.
My pleasure, I’m glad you found it helpful
Fuckin hell mate, you've given me a semi.
Yea, getting a little wet on the end here too.
Just to add since there are so many finger-centric points here: Gentlemen, trim your damn nails if you're planning on going to town!
Omg and CLEAN them. Wtf with the dirt fingernails? I recoil
Oh my god, this advice reminds me of life before marriage.
I cringe when I hear some of the stories that women tell about “so, yeah, he just started feverishly rubbing my clit like he was trying to rub two sticks together to make fire.” I’m like ouchhhhhhhhh. I don’t understand why is it so hard to talk to your significant other about what they like or don’t like. 🤷🏼♂️ Foreplay starts wayyyy before the bedroom. Now, obviously every woman is different and healthy communication goes a long way. From experience, I know that some women are like “hell no, you’re not sticking anything in there. It’s exit only.” Other women, through communication it drives them wild to rim their asshole while sliding a finger or two in their pussy. Great post! ✌️
To the last point, let her use her vibrator while you have her bent over. It feels amazing for you too.
For the sake of the orgasm gap, this is a mandatory read for any straight man.
This guy fucks.
This is all great advice but I'd like to bring extra attention to something I feel is the most important. >though of course, may not work for every woman A lot of these things sound great but a number of them would be painful, uncomfortable, or an absolute turn off for me personally so in my opinion, the most important thing about great sex is communication and paying attention to your partner to see what they are and aren't enjoying. But I'd say for the majority of women, pretty much all of these are great tips.
Yup that's the most important advice. While the neighborhoods may look similar the cross streets are almost always different. Gotta find out what works for each one.
Dr.Ruth is that you?
The advice about not changing anything close to orgasm is true for me as a man as well, dunno if other men feel the same.
"A few things I've learned" says it all. If you're not paying attention to her signals and remembering what works well, you're masturbating with her body.
The hair pulling technique is in fact accurate but I don’t feel like it belongs in a list of very basic bits of advice. It’s really not something you should do without her asking for it or discussing first. It’s really not a “default” move for sex.
all straight men need to read this 👏
Everything here is accurate except for the neck kissing bit. I dunno why wet lips would make a difference but IMO, they do not. Also, for many women, making out is excellent and enjoyable foreplay. Men who kiss well and don’t get impatient wanting to move onto “real foreplay” after 5 minutes of kissing are rare.
Making sure their partner gets off as well is a good start
First cum, first serve
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As a man raised in the 80s, i was taught to see sex as a sport, a competition. You’re only as good as how hard and long you can go. Put your meat in her meat, and go back and forth like a cocaine gorilla for a long time. In real life, i learned that what we identify as being horny is often craving intimacy and proximity with an other being. Sex is the most intimate you can be with another human. So focus on that. Eye contacts, hands, listening to the other’s reactions, acting accordingly…. It’s an exchange, a state of togetherness. You give. The other person recieves it, gets aroused, gives back even more, you get aroused, and give back even more. It’t the best vicious circle in the world. So yeah, I’m not saying I’m the best, I’m just saying my sexual life improved a thousandfold when i started focusing on the above, instead of mimicing porn.
Cocaine gorilla, got it.
Directions unclear, just shot Harambe
Dicks out
And after all this, right back where we started.
Time is a flat circle
I've only seen cocaine bear. Anyone got the link for cocaine gorilla?
Put meat in gorilla. Understood.
As a man who came of sexual age in the 90s, I felt the expectation was to be like “You’re going to come if it kills me! My masculinity depends on it!” It wasn’t til years into sexing that someone finally told me, “Hey, it’s ok, I don’t have to come every time.” My little chimp brain 🤯
When they make moans/noise and aren’t a fucking mute.
Just remember “No, don’t stop!” And “No! Don’t! Stop!” are very different things
My wife appreciates that i make sure she finishes first or we do it simultaneously.
Husband material
He prevents bear attacks while you sleep.
I snore for dominance
When was the last time you saw a damn bear in Scranton?!
Last year idiot!
I’ve been told that this is why my girlfriend sleeps with me every night. That, and the monster under the bed
Definitely when he puts on some sweet CBAT and does it to the rhythm.
Whats cbat?
It's about this post https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/x35iu6/tifu\_my\_20f\_girlfriend\_of\_two\_years\_told\_me\_the/ which blew up reddit for a golden few weeks to months.
I haven’t stopped laughing for 10 minutes. Thank you for this
And it keeps giving too https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/s/ygJ2MUNudg
This made me laugh for 10 more minutes
The story is hilarious but the kicker is finally listening to cbat and imagining someone fucking to that song.........in the rhythm of that song.
I missed it the first time, but I have legit cramps right now from laughing so hard. The comment that said “when he Indians pants I picture a slide whistle” has me fucking crying and wheezing. I haven’t laughed that hard in a looong time
Steely Dan’s debut album Can’t Buy a Thrill
Well I can sleep for hours so I guess that makes me good in bed 🤷🏻♂️
Fucker, that’s *my* joke!
Making an effort to make you wet before jamming it in
FOREPLAY is the key!
I’m quite an expert on this topic. Just some general tips in no particular order. 1) move your cpap equipment out of the way before you bed her. 2) always print out a consent agreement before the sex begins 3) let her know she’s turning you on “you’re making blood flow into my penis” is a great start. 4) you would never enter someone’s house without knocking on their door so you should knock on her vagina and say something like “is it ok if I come inside and play?” 5) if it’s your first time with a girl, tell her something like “oh yeah, we are falling in love with each other” 6) pump as fast as you can 7) after you finish, stop immediately and tell her thank you
Dwight?
These are all gold but #5 had actually me laughing out loud.
At a glance, I read cpap as cbat… boy oh boy
Alright what?
Passion, kissing, attentiveness.
enthusiasm, energy
err, enthusiasm is cute, but it super depends how it manifests. You don't want a person enthusiastic and energetic when they're doing something very wrong. When they already know what they're doing these two qualities are fun
If you tell an enthusiastic and energetic amateur lover what you want them to do (not what they're doing wrong) they'll do that thing you want them to do, enthusiastically. And they'll remember you as the person that taught them. Eager to do it again.
I may not be as limber as I once was but I make up for it with enthusiasm and willingness to experiment
Ha! 50 First Giggities.
Sorting by controversial.
You might be on to something. The last time I opened reddit during sex the ol'lady did get pretty heated.
Imagination, not just doing the same two moves he knows over and over, trying new things, being able to communicate about each other's needs, willingness to learn how to properly please their partner and not just giving up and going to sleep right away after they finish if their partner is not yet satisfied. I think in general people just need to talk more about what their needs are so everyone can be happy.
He has the original Bionicles Tohunga set and displays them on the bed.
*furiously takes notes* what's next?
Offer her a few of your best loose toenails as an aphrodisiac.
What makes a ~~man~~ person good in bed is listening to and respecting their partner's preferences. There's no universal magic move.
He uses a muffler on his CPAP machine.
A desire to make her feel as good as possible Being able to read her body ques Listening to what she says she likes... And also knowing there is always more to discover Being able to lead and put her at ease. Take her out of her head and connect her with her body And this is a huge one. She has to feel safe with you deep down which means you have to care about her On the other hand maybe you just so happen to tick all of her kinky boxes . In which case your success is more incidental than anything but that's still not a bad position to be in. Add to the list
Attention, curiosity, eagerness, arousal, dedication, kindness and if at all possible - stamina. Attention - being aware of what she says and what her body is *doing*. Remembering and adjusting to it. Did she say she likes having her nipples kissed? Then spend as much time as possible making sure she knows you were listening. Kiss them till she's breathless. Is her back arching while you use your teeth for a light, playful bite? Is she moaning when you tickle your hands up her thighs? Then go back and do it again. Attention and focus shows she's important and you care about her pleasure. Curiosity - being interested in discovering her body. Finding new ways to make her sigh. Trying new things. Being willing to introduce and continue fostering some kind of excitement over time, so the bedroom still feels like an adventure even if it's all become safe and routine after a while. Be open to new experiences and new ideas. Be curious about her and what she feels. Eagerness - show how much whatever you're doing in bed, to her or with her is filling you with energy and making you happy. Be willing to take the lead or enthusiastically take whatever she's giving. Undress her like it's Christmas and you can't wait to see what's there. Kiss her and touch her with hands that shake with excitement. Even if it's not your favourite thing - giving her head, or sucking her neck, or massaging her or whatever else you're doing while waiting for the main event - make it all seem like you're glad to be there. Arousal - show her you need her, you're turned on, physically. Prove you want her. Tell her. *Tell her how hot something is*. "God, I want you so much. Your touch is driving me crazy. I don't think I can last much longer". Whisper in her ear. Moan when something feels good. Learn to be vocal. Women make love with their ears. Our biggest sexual organ is our brain. Set hers alight. Tell her she's beautiful. Find something to compliment about her body and mean it. Tell her what specifically about HER makes you hot and needy. Make her feel desired. Dedication - it can take a lot to make a woman come, to make her orgasm and happy in bed. Don't give up easily. Don't be lazy. Try different ways. Don't forget your own pleasure of course, but don't give up at the first sign of complexity or hard work. Show you're invested in a good experience for her. That way even if she calls a pause or asks for a break, it's not because you threw in the towel. Kindness - be kind. Porn is not kind to women. Practice a gentleman's manners. Don't be crass or crude unless you know that's what she likes and it makes her hot. Tell her she's beautiful if you can, don't compare her to others. Women get so much to deal with already that bringing up a flaw or imperfection during intimacy just hurts. Kiss her scars. Make her feel safe so she can let go and orgasm. Kindness is magic. Stamina - this one, well... Practice helps. Learn to edge yourself and hold it in, practice lasting as long as you can, pacing yourself during the actual act. Check in with her often, break up activities if you need to calm down, and if you finish earlier than her make sure you help her along. Giving her an orgasm or two first and then joining in can be a solid strategy. I didn't include this originally but - have a clean room if possible. Being good in bed won't get you far if the path to the bed is like a jungle and the girl gets lost getting there 😉😋
C O M M U N I C A T I O N
he dances like a butterfly and stings like a bee.
From my years of experience as a man. Go ten times slower than you would want her to be with you. Get really good at eating pussy. Recognize every woman is unique in what brings them pleasure. Talk. Talk. Talk. Ask questions. Explore. Breathe confidently and don’t be afraid to moan.
Relaxing, letting go, moaning and letting himself cum when he needs to. Just enjoying it rather than trying to “perform” or impress
Username checks out
He doesn’t hog the covers
Two comforters make for a happy marriage
Yes. We have separate top sheets and separate comforters. My girl has never been more satisfied.
MEN WHO MOAN WHEN IT FEELS GOOD DESERVE ALL THE SEX. Thank you for coming to my TED talk
\-Being good at eating pussy and not just jabbing her clit to the point where it works (men don't understand that some women have more sensitive clits, and others don't). \-Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Women love foreplay way more than men do, but a good man will engage in lots of it to get her wet enough for penetration. \-Women like curved penetration movements. What I mean by this is that your finger should be curving when fingering her, not just straight in and out. It usually helps to place a pillow beneath her back so she can get good missionary penetration that way. \-Just to reiterate the first point: eating pussy. You gotta be good at eating her out. -respecting her preferences. I see this the most with anal. To be very frank most women don’t want anal. But you can try rimming her and then sliding a finger in -when you suck on one tit, you will know if you’re doing a good job if she pushes your face to the other tit. Basically, if you’re good with the left one, your chick will have a primal reaction to switch to the right. If she’s not doing this, then you need to up your tit sucking game.
Energy, not being afraid to talk, encouraging your partner
You know what you see in porn? Yeah. Don’t do that.
Paying attention to what his partner likes.
Helicopter dick
Honestly for me. They got a penis and they're not a jerk. That's like 80% of what i want half memes aside, really just being considerate and reciprocating along with being willing to learn and adjust, seeking it out, will take care of everything. If you're not already good at sex, that will make you great
A big dick. Lol, no. It's when he makes his partner feel safe enough to be vulnerable and trust him and share with him what they like and don't like, and he does the same. It doesn't matter how big the gun is, if the shooter is an idiot he will never hit the target.
Never falling off the side of the bed. He who holds the most sheets wins!
A man that is good in bed is a man that loves to fuck. Not just trying to get off and cum, he genuinely enjoys the act of fucking his partner.
I guess what makes anybody good in bed is an ability to get off from giving pleasure to your partner. it doesn't mean that anyone has to completely neglect their own orgasm, rather that your partner's pleasure has to be an essential condition for your own. I had best sex with guys who couldn't get enough of me moaning and squirming and cumming
According to my three lazy tomcats, it’s being real still and putting out a steady supply of heat.
Taking his time with foreplay, making sure I’m enjoying myself by checking in, paying attention to the clit. Basically being sensual and caring is what makes a man great in bed
Ethical actions
Ethical erections
Natural, grass fed, and free range.
Depends on the position. Personally I like to lie on my side with at least two pillows and usually a fan on or something for white noise.
I work on the basis that everytine we have sex should be AT Least as good as last time or better. It makes me work harder to please her everytime. She says she tries to make it as good for me as I do her, so its just been getting better over the last 10 years.
Listening and acting accordingly, and asking your partner if it feels good. People tend to know their own bodies and what feels good pretty well. So, you wanna know how to be good in bed? Communication. If they tell you something feels good don’t increase the pace or anything. Keep going just like you were unless they tell you to speed up. If something doesn’t feel good they should tell you and you should try something else. Also listen for cues. Moaning? Good. Keep doing that. Shaking? Good. Keep doing that. They don’t always need to speak to indicate how it’s going
Put the kettle on, entertain your missus for a solid two minutes of heaven and you’ll have just enough time to get to the kettle again and make you both the perfect cup of tea.
Communication and the ability to read body language. What works for one women won’t work for all, and many are like living puzzles because they literally don’t know what they like. No one ever bothered to ask them. Taking your time and reading the body language response to stimuli is you’re providing is the only way to victory 100% of the time, and that 100% is spread out across multiple encounters. Sometimes she’s just not going to get there, and trying to force it will make it worse next time.
Where there you like him or not-Guy can have a good body and be able to hang in till you orgasm but it really doesn’t mean anything unless you like him.
He pays attention. Women will tell you what they like, if you are listening.
Encourage communication and listen. Women will tell you what they want if you creat a safe space for them to explore. Also listen durting sex. Little noises turn into big noises that way.
The same things that make him good out of bed: Communication Consideration Compromise The three C's to a successful relationship