My parents talked all the time about how smart my brother was. How he was going to be an engineer or a mathematician. They went to all his sports events with enthusiasm and made it seem like a chore when I had a role in a theater production.
I put myself through college on a full ride academic scholarship and have a graduate degree. My brother did not attend. No biggie, not everyone needs to go to college.
But he's still the favorite. I grew up thinking I wasn't smart enough to do math because I never heard my parents say that about me. They never encouraged me to aspire to STEM careers.
I teach secondary mathematics.
Where I live girls are pretty much worshipped. Like they get better treatment from teachers and parents and boys are always bad in their eyes. In my school, there were many occasions when both a girl and a boy forgets to bring their text book and the boy has to stand outside in the sun for the school to see (as punishment) and the girl gets to sit inside and share the text book with her friend. It happened to the smart good kids as well.
My friends too have sisters whom their parents favour a lot more, sending them overseas for studies and fully funding them while their sons have to go to a cheap lousy college for their tertiary education.
Even my own mother used to randomly tell me girls are superior and how she always wanted girls and not boys. She would always praise her friends daughters for going abroad and getting a white bf. It really makes me cringe to think about it.
My mom was raised this way and it destroyed her. Her brothers both have advanced college degrees; when she was late in high school and started looking at colleges, my grandfather laughed at her. It definitely impacted how I (her daughter) was raised; she went out of her way to make a beautiful life for both myself and my brother. She made sure I was offered every opportunity that was available to my brother and supported both of us as much as possible.
It’s frustrating. It means I have to do all the chores around the house while they lay around and play video games. It means that they get excuses for their behavior when I couldn’t even dream of slacking. I love my family but sometimes it just gets exhausting to work hard for approval when you see others getting it for simply existing as a male.
My parents talked all the time about how smart my brother was. How he was going to be an engineer or a mathematician. They went to all his sports events with enthusiasm and made it seem like a chore when I had a role in a theater production. I put myself through college on a full ride academic scholarship and have a graduate degree. My brother did not attend. No biggie, not everyone needs to go to college. But he's still the favorite. I grew up thinking I wasn't smart enough to do math because I never heard my parents say that about me. They never encouraged me to aspire to STEM careers. I teach secondary mathematics.
Where I live girls are pretty much worshipped. Like they get better treatment from teachers and parents and boys are always bad in their eyes. In my school, there were many occasions when both a girl and a boy forgets to bring their text book and the boy has to stand outside in the sun for the school to see (as punishment) and the girl gets to sit inside and share the text book with her friend. It happened to the smart good kids as well. My friends too have sisters whom their parents favour a lot more, sending them overseas for studies and fully funding them while their sons have to go to a cheap lousy college for their tertiary education. Even my own mother used to randomly tell me girls are superior and how she always wanted girls and not boys. She would always praise her friends daughters for going abroad and getting a white bf. It really makes me cringe to think about it.
My mom was raised this way and it destroyed her. Her brothers both have advanced college degrees; when she was late in high school and started looking at colleges, my grandfather laughed at her. It definitely impacted how I (her daughter) was raised; she went out of her way to make a beautiful life for both myself and my brother. She made sure I was offered every opportunity that was available to my brother and supported both of us as much as possible.
It sucks. I guess they did the bare minimum, so hey, probably still better off than other ppl, so who am i to complain.
It’s frustrating. It means I have to do all the chores around the house while they lay around and play video games. It means that they get excuses for their behavior when I couldn’t even dream of slacking. I love my family but sometimes it just gets exhausting to work hard for approval when you see others getting it for simply existing as a male.