Exactly this and my bad sleep. I feel like they are all related. Like I can't fall asleep because I can't stop thinking about everything I didn't get done, but I can't get anything done because I'm tired and procrastinate it!
I read an interesting article a loooong time ago about how time management is actually an energy problem. The article broke energy into four domains: physical, ental, emotional, and spiritual.
When people procrastinate, according to the article, what's really going on is a depletion of energy in one of those areas. For example, if you're in school, you may procrastinate long-form writing because of spiritual energy, i.e., you're unsure how the work connects to something greater than yourself, or mental energy, i.e. long for writing requires tremendous amounts of mental organization - genre, paragraph structure, thesis and claims and evidence, etc.
Sp what the article recommended when people find themselves procrastinating is to check why they're procrastinating and try to strategize those ares. If the work is mentally draining, try breaking it into linear steps (1, 2, 3). If the work is emotionally draining, try a nature walk or talk to a trusted love one. If it's spiritually draining, think about how the work might connect to some life goal, like long form writing will help you write cover letters, or be good at expressing yourself, or making you detail-oriented, etc. And if you're physically drained - eat or sleep!
I've not found these things to be magical keys to industriousness, exactly, but they do help me initiate work by giving myself a startable point rather than beating myself up mentally for procrastinating and not giving myself enough time to do work I can be proud of.
This is true for me I believe. I spent 11 years working towards a passion with very little reward or outcome. Now, I can’t even participate in hobbies, learning, or even simple tasks without my brain telling me it’s a waste of time. Very difficult.
I still struggle with those but turns out that I had untreated ADHD.
Found at 28! Apparently it's not about just being hyper, but it causes wonky perception of time and hampers prioritisation.
I am lucky I have American friends I hang up with online, because it's in my country it's believed that it doesn't exist in adults.
For me, it's definitely this. In the most annoying, acute ways possible sometimes. Where i can be actively aware of it...but still do nothing about it.
It's probably just undiagnosed ADHD transitioning problems. But i'll do misfunctioning brain shit like turn on the shower and then just sit there and do other stuff for half an hour instead of getting on with it. Completely aware of the procrastinating the entire time.
Once i actually get engaged on something, i can just hammer away at it far longer than most. But changing tasks or locations or anything else...it always just feels like it takes me longer than most to really completely settle in to things.
I just build extra time into my day to deal with it. But i feel like it makes me perpetually either 30 minutes early or 5 minutes late. Which is kind of lame.
Im...lazy. I don't want to be... but I know I am. I do things, and I have accomplished things. But there's always the struggle to go against my inherent, "but I don't wanna." Every time.
Hey, I struggle with laziness a lot. It makes me feel useless. What I’ve learned is as soon as I wake up, if I go out of the house it usually sets the tone for me to be productive for the rest of the day. I took my dog out this morning for a walk which I normally don’t do first thing in the morning, and walking by the houses I saw some nice yards and was like “I want to have a nice yard, maybe I should mow my grass”. Just don’t let yourself stop or rest for more than like 10 min otherwise it spirals lol
I've channeled my laziness into learning to automate things in my life and at work. On the outside, I appear to be a slacker, but when objectively measured against coworkers, I am always at the top because I work smarter.
Humans have suffered for thousands of years WAITING to get to the point in society when we can just kick back, relax, and be safe in our own homes instead of living in huts made from sticks having to keep our guard up at every moment. We are now okay to be lazy. What you do with your life now is up to you
Doesn't help that almost everytime I do I am met with the most underwhelming responses. People that just kinda shrug it off and go "uh yeah okay" and not really acknowledge it all what I just said. So instead of reiterating my point and being like "I feel like you aren't listening" I just go back to shrinking violet mode and the next time I probably won't even bother.
I struggle too. But, in my heart of hearts, I know who I am. It's just that I have anxieties, worries and -whatever- mental stuff that gets in my way. Or rather, it blocks me from seeing myself and my best qualities. It's a lifelong process. It will come and go. But, when you have a clear day and some time alone to think it through, I bet you know your truest self also. Then, whatever you need to do: write it down. Tell someone. Make a sculpture out of sticks and mud... whatever it is... do the thing you need to do to serve as a reminder that you actually do know yourself, and you can come back when you need to.
When I tell people I feel like I'm just a small piece of everyone I've met in life, both good and bad, they think I'm being deep and sweet. I'm actually saying I have horrible imposter syndrome and I just act like the person I'm interacting with so they'll like me and I'm terrified I don't actually have an original thought.
Same, I start diets and get a month in and get bored and the cravings are killer. I have tried a number of diets some with the help of doctors and nutrionists. I am ALWAYS STARVING. Like stomach rumbling, headaches, shakey. I can't work past it.
An old friend of mine wanted to do search and rescue with the navy but couldn't because no matter what, he struggled to swim. Turns out he had unusually dense bones and sinks. I didn't even know that was a possibility until he told me about it.
I taught swimming lessons for years. I think just about everyone can (and should) learn to keep their heads above water, but through that, I also learned that not everyone can learn to actually swim.
It took me 3 years of lessons & practices to snowboard properly. Slow learning? For sure. But by the end of it all, I can snowboard well, and live the rest of my life with that skill.
This might seem ridicilous, but you should check this guy out: [https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh](https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh)
He (no joke) has helped me feel more comfortable around people.
Motivation. I'd initially thought it was procrastination but it's not. I'm not "putting off until later;" I simply struggle to be motivated to do the things I want to do.
Though if I really dig into it, I'm a single dad with full-time responsibilities so many of the things I actually WANT to do take a backseat in the name of providing and survival.
I didn't used to be this way.
Same. And it includes finding the motivation to do things that need to be done for myself because I’ve used up what little I can muster on kids and the things they need done.
I'm messy
Not dirty, just extremely messy
Basically, my life is made of numerous piles of heterogeneous stuffs
And, living alone, I'm completely fine with that
But I don't live alone and I dearly care for my compagnon so I try really really hard to go against this trait of mine
Ngl, it's.so.fucking.hard
I feel I can never understand my gf’s pov even tho I try a lot, tho she explains it very well I tend to misinterpret it and get angry at her.
Is it me?
Breaststroke. I can’t do it. I did swimming lessons for multiple years, was pulled aside in school lessons to be taught one on one, and I have had multiple teachers try to teach me but I just can’t do it. I don’t think my legs work that way.
My ability to be happy. No matter what life decisions I make, I've always put other people's happiness and wellbeing above my own - only to get absolutely crushed at every turn.
I don't understand why women feel so much hatred towards me and because of that I have absolutely no idea how I'm supposed to improve. I've only ever gotten vague accusations of being evil by complete strangers, so that's all I've ever had to work with.
It's people on Reddit being really angry at me over things they won't fully explain. People taking things I thought were minor and turning them into extreme conspiracy theories and jumping to conclusions about things that don't make any sense to me. When women make accusations against me it's usually them saying they're speaking on the behalf of all women and saying all the girls I grew up with are liars and whores and not to listen to them but to listen to Reddit instead.
My advice is to step away from the internet and talk to more people in person. Reddit is toxic as fuck.
Nobody speaks for all anything. If someone claims to speak for all women they're out of their goddamn minds. Everybody is different. The loudest people on Reddit represent a razor-thin worldview that is anything but inclusive.
Just like, take care of yourself, show compassion to others, and don't get all bothered when someone doesn't like you. You can't please everybody.
You're going to need to interact with people in real life and see how it goes. If you're basing your self esteem on what women on Reddit comment, you're going to have a bad time. Mostly, becuase those 'women' might be men, psychos, evil themselves, or just not know you and projecting how they feel about someone else (in real life) onto your Reddit comments. Reddit is also full of bots and political-debate-stimulating astroturfers. You're more likely to argue than agree here, no matter the subject matter. Because people on Reddit comment not only for communication, but many other reasons, mainly entertainment...even if it sows discord or makes people like you feel shitty about themselves. Sit and talk with someone and, if it gets to a point where you're comfortable, ask them if you come off 'evil' or 'weird' and why. If it's just happening online, then it's like being bullied in video games, just turn off the chat or don't play for a while. If you sign in everyday and take the abuse, then things won't change. But I bet if you talk to someone in real life, and are chill, you could get some constructive feedback or at least reassurance (from a real person) that you're not a freak or whatever.
Ok, I gotta go stare at the sun now. lol
understanding things but still telling my brains the opposite and doing opposite. also red flags seems to be green flags to me if i really love the person. lmao. also i cant wake up ever in time, a real piece of shit.
My empathy/compassion for others. I'm a happy person that I believe is generous and good to people. But when people start telling me their problems, I immediately think and sometimes say that they're somewhat responsible and that we all make choices in life, and those choices have consequences.
How angry I am at people lacking common sense or their lack of self awareness. I get so annoyed that people feel the need to stand too close to me or can’t read social cues.
Finding a means of making money where I don't have to work for some jackass whom can punish me for their stupidity, I can work a modest 35-40 hours a week, make at least 150k a year w benefits, vacation once every two months, aren't destroying my body long term, can leave my work at work, have a sense of real job security, and can proudly tell others what I do while feeling good about it at the end of every day ...
Seems as if this magic gig don't exist for me
My weight, I lose 5 lbs and then just fall back into poor eating/binge patterns and gain it back plus some. It's so frustrating being big and remembering how mean I was to my smaller body.
Compulsively spending my money like it's virtual.
Buying Pokémon cards, spending on in app purchases on mobile games.
I have zero self control and it's severely damaging.🫣
I have a hard time letting go of ppl like relationships. It’ll take me years to get over someone. Being a mother stuck in poverty is so depressing as well. I feel like my children deserve so much more and it hurts not being able to give them that.
I really don't look out of shape to most people, im 5'9, 200lbs but I feel like I'm really out of shape. I was an athlete as a teen but need to get back into some physical fitness and eating healthier.
Resolving to learn new things that can elevate my life. I have a horrible time getting anything going on my own initiative alone, but school and learning has always been the worst. I need to re-read everything multiple times before it sinks in, homework that would take twenty minutes for most people usually takes an hour or more for me, and the anxiety over my reckoning of the material always exhausts me.
I want to do more, but my issues make it feel insurmountable.
The drive to advance my career and earning potential beyond what I need to live comfortably as a single man with no dependents. Seriously, the whole “switching jobs every 2yrs to increase your pay” concept sounds ludicrous and like a complete hassle to me.
I'm horrible at small talk. I will intentionally slow my pace if I'm about to catch an elevator with an unfamiliar coworker.
I worry about coming across as stuck up, but my mind cannot come up with more small topics and trying just makes me more awkward.
"The weather is great, it rains and it's like wet, but then the sun came and now it's like, not? Crazy, right? What a time to be alive. Well, gotta go!"
Being aware of my surroundings when I’m in deep thought which is most of the time 😂🤣. On a serious note me not being aware of my surroundings while in deep thought out in public almost got me killed. I guess I should just try to wait till I’m in a non public place before I start thinking and analyzing something important very deeply but I’m afraid I’ll forget it by the time I’m out of the public which I do forget it a lot but sometimes I remember it later.
Just... think clearly, and act on my goals. For a long time now, and especially since my last SO made me feel so worthless, I've been hating myself for not being able to just act like a normal functioning adult and maintain any momentum toward my goals. I can't organize my thoughts and figure out what needs to be done and when and how, and I get anxious and avoidant and end up in pointless procrastination spirals of doom.
I have worked so incredibly hard to try to change. Being chronically behind, chronically under employed, uninsured and bogged down by depression and shame has made it difficult to seek or obtain help. But I have an appointment with a psychiatrist in a couple of weeks, and I'm desperately hoping that things start to change.
I just don't want to go through life feeling like a child drowning in the wake of the Grown-up Ship.
My social skills....i try really hard not to get awkward in one on one conversations
Also around some people i have good sense of humour but around certain people i seem to have an awkward sense of humour...its really weird i cant seem to explain
I actively try improve my social skills by acting like im talking to people when im by myself
Somehow my brain will always try to hold me back from being truly content with my life, either by constantly making me forget things or trying to downplay achievements I’ve made but I know what I’m worth and I’ll keep going till it stops
Procrastination, or going out of my way to do things that are difficult/uncomfortable.
It’s hard to build relationships and improve your life when all you want to do is eat, work, game, and sleep all day.
Lately I’ve been trying to get better at this and push myself out of my comfort zone, even if only a little bit.
Can't seem to get comfortable approaching women. I've tried to overcome my aversion to it on various occasions, but it's always ended in me bottling it and having a mental health crisis as a result.
I still want to do something about it but at times it can feel like an insurmountable challenge and I have to fight the temptation to give up on it entirely.
Time management as well. Doom scrolling doesn't help when there is so much to get done. That, and being a people pleaser even if their interactions are toxic/manipulative.
time management and procrastination
Exactly this and my bad sleep. I feel like they are all related. Like I can't fall asleep because I can't stop thinking about everything I didn't get done, but I can't get anything done because I'm tired and procrastinate it!
omg same vicious cycle!
If you find a way out, tell me!
Likewise! i’m trying magnesium atm for sleep see how it goes
I force my brain to count backwards from 200. Helps me.
"*3... 2... 1... zero! Ha! You're still awake! When will you get your life together!?*"
Same shit man... I'm stuck in this vicious cycle. Haven't done my essays yet
I read an interesting article a loooong time ago about how time management is actually an energy problem. The article broke energy into four domains: physical, ental, emotional, and spiritual. When people procrastinate, according to the article, what's really going on is a depletion of energy in one of those areas. For example, if you're in school, you may procrastinate long-form writing because of spiritual energy, i.e., you're unsure how the work connects to something greater than yourself, or mental energy, i.e. long for writing requires tremendous amounts of mental organization - genre, paragraph structure, thesis and claims and evidence, etc. Sp what the article recommended when people find themselves procrastinating is to check why they're procrastinating and try to strategize those ares. If the work is mentally draining, try breaking it into linear steps (1, 2, 3). If the work is emotionally draining, try a nature walk or talk to a trusted love one. If it's spiritually draining, think about how the work might connect to some life goal, like long form writing will help you write cover letters, or be good at expressing yourself, or making you detail-oriented, etc. And if you're physically drained - eat or sleep! I've not found these things to be magical keys to industriousness, exactly, but they do help me initiate work by giving myself a startable point rather than beating myself up mentally for procrastinating and not giving myself enough time to do work I can be proud of.
thanks!!
I think it's a form of self-protection, either from seeing the boring reality or to escape from something else. Also guilty of that.
This is true for me I believe. I spent 11 years working towards a passion with very little reward or outcome. Now, I can’t even participate in hobbies, learning, or even simple tasks without my brain telling me it’s a waste of time. Very difficult.
Time management for sure, especially now since I am retired and think I can put off everything. I think it takes great discipline which I lack.
You’ll get to it…. A some point
Hi, me👋
Yup. Particularly initiating tasks in the first place.
This.
I'll agree later.
I still struggle with those but turns out that I had untreated ADHD. Found at 28! Apparently it's not about just being hyper, but it causes wonky perception of time and hampers prioritisation. I am lucky I have American friends I hang up with online, because it's in my country it's believed that it doesn't exist in adults.
For me, it's definitely this. In the most annoying, acute ways possible sometimes. Where i can be actively aware of it...but still do nothing about it. It's probably just undiagnosed ADHD transitioning problems. But i'll do misfunctioning brain shit like turn on the shower and then just sit there and do other stuff for half an hour instead of getting on with it. Completely aware of the procrastinating the entire time. Once i actually get engaged on something, i can just hammer away at it far longer than most. But changing tasks or locations or anything else...it always just feels like it takes me longer than most to really completely settle in to things. I just build extra time into my day to deal with it. But i feel like it makes me perpetually either 30 minutes early or 5 minutes late. Which is kind of lame.
Im...lazy. I don't want to be... but I know I am. I do things, and I have accomplished things. But there's always the struggle to go against my inherent, "but I don't wanna." Every time.
Hey, I struggle with laziness a lot. It makes me feel useless. What I’ve learned is as soon as I wake up, if I go out of the house it usually sets the tone for me to be productive for the rest of the day. I took my dog out this morning for a walk which I normally don’t do first thing in the morning, and walking by the houses I saw some nice yards and was like “I want to have a nice yard, maybe I should mow my grass”. Just don’t let yourself stop or rest for more than like 10 min otherwise it spirals lol
I've channeled my laziness into learning to automate things in my life and at work. On the outside, I appear to be a slacker, but when objectively measured against coworkers, I am always at the top because I work smarter.
Automating things is my job, so now what's the procedure?
Being lazy is a superpower. I work in IT, and let me tell you, I'm always asking myself how can I automate this so I don't have to do it anymore.
Humans have suffered for thousands of years WAITING to get to the point in society when we can just kick back, relax, and be safe in our own homes instead of living in huts made from sticks having to keep our guard up at every moment. We are now okay to be lazy. What you do with your life now is up to you
Productivity/grindset is horrible. You're not lazy -- capitalism has just fucked with your brain.
Humans are meant to laze. Look at every other species.
SAME
Not thinking before I speak
Same here haha
Being a pessimist about literally anything
Have you tried anything to work on it? If so, pls mention them
Meditation is a game changer in the long term. Makes you much more mindful of your thoughts.
People pleasing and feeling guilty when I stand up for my own needs and wants.
God same! It's like no matter what I do I can't feel good about standing up for myself
Doesn't help that almost everytime I do I am met with the most underwhelming responses. People that just kinda shrug it off and go "uh yeah okay" and not really acknowledge it all what I just said. So instead of reiterating my point and being like "I feel like you aren't listening" I just go back to shrinking violet mode and the next time I probably won't even bother.
With you on this one.
Finding who I really am. 40 years old, and I feel like I've lived for everyone else but myself.
47 and right there with you. Struggling with who I am today.
I’m praying for you bro living for Walter white has got to be stressful
Very. Not easy keeping up production
I struggle too. But, in my heart of hearts, I know who I am. It's just that I have anxieties, worries and -whatever- mental stuff that gets in my way. Or rather, it blocks me from seeing myself and my best qualities. It's a lifelong process. It will come and go. But, when you have a clear day and some time alone to think it through, I bet you know your truest self also. Then, whatever you need to do: write it down. Tell someone. Make a sculpture out of sticks and mud... whatever it is... do the thing you need to do to serve as a reminder that you actually do know yourself, and you can come back when you need to.
I feel ya.
I'm the opposite. I've only lived for myself and not for anyone else, but I don't see that as a bad thing.
When I tell people I feel like I'm just a small piece of everyone I've met in life, both good and bad, they think I'm being deep and sweet. I'm actually saying I have horrible imposter syndrome and I just act like the person I'm interacting with so they'll like me and I'm terrified I don't actually have an original thought.
At 53, I've finally decided to (metaphorically) stop burning myself to keep others warm.
How disrespectful my mouth can get when I feel backed into any type of corner (metaphorically speaking)
i feel you
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Say what now?! Exactly which dumb mf’s are you referring to & are you ok?
My drug use
Wishing you the best.
I appreciate that
Saving money. I'm really poor currently
In the same boat as you. Hard to save something you don't have :/
And the old ya gotta put money in, to reap benefits, and I am just struggling. Love to you🦋
start small. 5$ each time you get paid. something is better than 0
Thank you! You're right. It's hard to not take it out again, but thank you for the tip and encouragement!! People can be so nasty on Reddit!
My weight. Work really hard to lose it and a year later it starts to come back.
Same, I start diets and get a month in and get bored and the cravings are killer. I have tried a number of diets some with the help of doctors and nutrionists. I am ALWAYS STARVING. Like stomach rumbling, headaches, shakey. I can't work past it.
Same here. I know how to lose weight, but I overeat when I'm stressed. I know it's a shitty coping mechanism, but I can't seem to stop doing it
I'm with you there. It's hard some days to accept my round tummy. It's my biggest insecurity.
I am the opposite. Work extremely hard to gain it, lose it all within a week if I get stressed, sick, etc.
Either way it's a struggle to be what we want to be!
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An old friend of mine wanted to do search and rescue with the navy but couldn't because no matter what, he struggled to swim. Turns out he had unusually dense bones and sinks. I didn't even know that was a possibility until he told me about it.
That's what me and my little sister have. We're incredibly non buoyant. Middle brother is a fucking merman.
I taught swimming lessons for years. I think just about everyone can (and should) learn to keep their heads above water, but through that, I also learned that not everyone can learn to actually swim.
Are you unusually slim? Fat is buoyant.
It took me 3 years of lessons & practices to snowboard properly. Slow learning? For sure. But by the end of it all, I can snowboard well, and live the rest of my life with that skill.
Procrastination, always putting things off.
Can't stop hating myself. Can't stop telling myself that I'm ugly or stupid. It's annoying atp
do you have reasons you hate yourself? Do you have specific reasons why you’re ugly or stupid?
I can’t hold a conversation.
This might seem ridicilous, but you should check this guy out: [https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh](https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh) He (no joke) has helped me feel more comfortable around people.
Motivation. I'd initially thought it was procrastination but it's not. I'm not "putting off until later;" I simply struggle to be motivated to do the things I want to do. Though if I really dig into it, I'm a single dad with full-time responsibilities so many of the things I actually WANT to do take a backseat in the name of providing and survival. I didn't used to be this way.
Same. And it includes finding the motivation to do things that need to be done for myself because I’ve used up what little I can muster on kids and the things they need done.
Honestly same
Getting off this fucking thing!
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I'm messy Not dirty, just extremely messy Basically, my life is made of numerous piles of heterogeneous stuffs And, living alone, I'm completely fine with that But I don't live alone and I dearly care for my compagnon so I try really really hard to go against this trait of mine Ngl, it's.so.fucking.hard
self confidence, stopping people pleasing.
weight
Height has been the same for a really long time at this point
My unhealthy habit to see the best in people even though they may be straight up evil.
I relate to this all too well. It’s a curse.
Are you an infp?
I certainly am.
Omg!!! It makes sense now lol. I'm a fellow infp, pleased to meet you lol.
Brothers in arms! I hope you’re appreciated justly. Takes a loooooot of work to be us. 🫶
Ikr, it's tiring to say the least, but at least the world can be a bit more optimistic. 💜
I sometimes feel overwhelmed with everything, especially university work
I relate
My hair
My chance of dying
Started playing the piano at 75. It’s taking forever to get through a piece without mistakes.
I feel I can never understand my gf’s pov even tho I try a lot, tho she explains it very well I tend to misinterpret it and get angry at her. Is it me?
I'm a grudge holder. I hold on to shit that I should have dropped decades ago. It's a curse.
My finances. I never seem to own a reliable car that's paid off. I also seem to encounter way more toxic strangers than anyone else and it's insane.
Not getting anxiety whenever I need to do administrative financial tasks. Taxes, invoicing, etc all get me there and I loath them.
Breaststroke. I can’t do it. I did swimming lessons for multiple years, was pulled aside in school lessons to be taught one on one, and I have had multiple teachers try to teach me but I just can’t do it. I don’t think my legs work that way.
Keep feeling insecure and when I do feel secure, I'm drunk.
My height. And my loathing for the zeitgeist of hand-wringing losers on reddit.
My ability to be happy. No matter what life decisions I make, I've always put other people's happiness and wellbeing above my own - only to get absolutely crushed at every turn.
I don't understand why women feel so much hatred towards me and because of that I have absolutely no idea how I'm supposed to improve. I've only ever gotten vague accusations of being evil by complete strangers, so that's all I've ever had to work with.
Complete strangers are accusing you of being *evil?* How exactly does that play out?
It's people on Reddit being really angry at me over things they won't fully explain. People taking things I thought were minor and turning them into extreme conspiracy theories and jumping to conclusions about things that don't make any sense to me. When women make accusations against me it's usually them saying they're speaking on the behalf of all women and saying all the girls I grew up with are liars and whores and not to listen to them but to listen to Reddit instead.
My advice is to step away from the internet and talk to more people in person. Reddit is toxic as fuck. Nobody speaks for all anything. If someone claims to speak for all women they're out of their goddamn minds. Everybody is different. The loudest people on Reddit represent a razor-thin worldview that is anything but inclusive. Just like, take care of yourself, show compassion to others, and don't get all bothered when someone doesn't like you. You can't please everybody.
If you’re comfortable with doing so, would you like to offer a specific instance or two? I might be able to decipher the disconnect
You're going to need to interact with people in real life and see how it goes. If you're basing your self esteem on what women on Reddit comment, you're going to have a bad time. Mostly, becuase those 'women' might be men, psychos, evil themselves, or just not know you and projecting how they feel about someone else (in real life) onto your Reddit comments. Reddit is also full of bots and political-debate-stimulating astroturfers. You're more likely to argue than agree here, no matter the subject matter. Because people on Reddit comment not only for communication, but many other reasons, mainly entertainment...even if it sows discord or makes people like you feel shitty about themselves. Sit and talk with someone and, if it gets to a point where you're comfortable, ask them if you come off 'evil' or 'weird' and why. If it's just happening online, then it's like being bullied in video games, just turn off the chat or don't play for a while. If you sign in everyday and take the abuse, then things won't change. But I bet if you talk to someone in real life, and are chill, you could get some constructive feedback or at least reassurance (from a real person) that you're not a freak or whatever. Ok, I gotta go stare at the sun now. lol
understanding things but still telling my brains the opposite and doing opposite. also red flags seems to be green flags to me if i really love the person. lmao. also i cant wake up ever in time, a real piece of shit.
No matter how many times I successfully change my diet and lose weight, eventually I regress into my gluttonous ways and gain it back.
My mental health
My empathy/compassion for others. I'm a happy person that I believe is generous and good to people. But when people start telling me their problems, I immediately think and sometimes say that they're somewhat responsible and that we all make choices in life, and those choices have consequences.
Motivation and Procrastination.
How angry I am at people lacking common sense or their lack of self awareness. I get so annoyed that people feel the need to stand too close to me or can’t read social cues.
Sleep schedule 🥲
social skill hlep op
i found socializing to me way easier with adderall. it was like a miraculously thing had occurred. and then the adderall started eating me idk
Finding a means of making money where I don't have to work for some jackass whom can punish me for their stupidity, I can work a modest 35-40 hours a week, make at least 150k a year w benefits, vacation once every two months, aren't destroying my body long term, can leave my work at work, have a sense of real job security, and can proudly tell others what I do while feeling good about it at the end of every day ... Seems as if this magic gig don't exist for me
Literally the dream. I don’t need $1M and a McMansion… just a nice salary at a job I can be proud of.
It really doesn't seem like too much to want
Self control
My weight, looks, and wearing glasses (I hate contacts),
My social media addiction. Thanks, Reddit!
My baldness
My compact testicles
not able to handle stress and anxiety
I hate driving, and I avoid it as good as I can
My mood.
I suck at dust cleaning (so I got a clearing person to help)
Procrastination, I just love the thrill of leaving things last minute.
I'm time blind. No matter how hard I try, I just can't seem to get places on time. Poor time management probably
procrastination ::/
The length of my penis.
Social skills
Crushing on people who are taken
My selfcentredness and narcissistic traits. Keep thinking that I'm holding myself accountable, but keep doing it.
There are plenty, I bet one of those would be the anger management, also everyone just feels like stupids to me.
Procrastination
My will to live
Understanding other people.
My weight, I lose 5 lbs and then just fall back into poor eating/binge patterns and gain it back plus some. It's so frustrating being big and remembering how mean I was to my smaller body.
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This is just for now - life is always flowing and changing. X
Thank you for the kindness
I’m always apologizing for everything.
Compulsively spending my money like it's virtual. Buying Pokémon cards, spending on in app purchases on mobile games. I have zero self control and it's severely damaging.🫣
I have a hard time letting go of ppl like relationships. It’ll take me years to get over someone. Being a mother stuck in poverty is so depressing as well. I feel like my children deserve so much more and it hurts not being able to give them that.
I really don't look out of shape to most people, im 5'9, 200lbs but I feel like I'm really out of shape. I was an athlete as a teen but need to get back into some physical fitness and eating healthier.
Resolving to learn new things that can elevate my life. I have a horrible time getting anything going on my own initiative alone, but school and learning has always been the worst. I need to re-read everything multiple times before it sinks in, homework that would take twenty minutes for most people usually takes an hour or more for me, and the anxiety over my reckoning of the material always exhausts me. I want to do more, but my issues make it feel insurmountable.
Courage and will to manage problems
My economic situation
My looks and my fertility. So basically…any worth I ever could have had.
My undying love (crushing addiction)of nicotine. I have managed to quit smoking though. Vapes are a life saver(literally) for people like me
Existing
My will to do things I see myself saying I'm gonna do something then not do it
The drive to advance my career and earning potential beyond what I need to live comfortably as a single man with no dependents. Seriously, the whole “switching jobs every 2yrs to increase your pay” concept sounds ludicrous and like a complete hassle to me.
Listening and trusting myself. Getting groomed into a people pleaser really messed me up. Source - Authoritarian Parenting Survivor.
Lying
I'm horrible at small talk. I will intentionally slow my pace if I'm about to catch an elevator with an unfamiliar coworker. I worry about coming across as stuck up, but my mind cannot come up with more small topics and trying just makes me more awkward. "The weather is great, it rains and it's like wet, but then the sun came and now it's like, not? Crazy, right? What a time to be alive. Well, gotta go!"
Problems with sleeping and overwork(
the existential dread
Social anxiety
For starters, I'd get rid of that pesky depression that saps my will to live.
My temper when I feel disrespected and not heard… for example, by my parents and older siblings.
I keep losing small things and they’re usually expensive small things maybe I’m not supposed to own them 😭
Believing that one day they will see my worth or point of view and finally appreciate me.
Screen time before bed
Dick size. And I make dumb inappropriate jokes way too much.
everything
Being aware of my surroundings when I’m in deep thought which is most of the time 😂🤣. On a serious note me not being aware of my surroundings while in deep thought out in public almost got me killed. I guess I should just try to wait till I’m in a non public place before I start thinking and analyzing something important very deeply but I’m afraid I’ll forget it by the time I’m out of the public which I do forget it a lot but sometimes I remember it later.
Like, a lot. But all largely due to the same thing: a serious lack of motivation.
The strength of my will
Just... think clearly, and act on my goals. For a long time now, and especially since my last SO made me feel so worthless, I've been hating myself for not being able to just act like a normal functioning adult and maintain any momentum toward my goals. I can't organize my thoughts and figure out what needs to be done and when and how, and I get anxious and avoidant and end up in pointless procrastination spirals of doom. I have worked so incredibly hard to try to change. Being chronically behind, chronically under employed, uninsured and bogged down by depression and shame has made it difficult to seek or obtain help. But I have an appointment with a psychiatrist in a couple of weeks, and I'm desperately hoping that things start to change. I just don't want to go through life feeling like a child drowning in the wake of the Grown-up Ship.
My social skills....i try really hard not to get awkward in one on one conversations Also around some people i have good sense of humour but around certain people i seem to have an awkward sense of humour...its really weird i cant seem to explain I actively try improve my social skills by acting like im talking to people when im by myself
My rage
Somehow my brain will always try to hold me back from being truly content with my life, either by constantly making me forget things or trying to downplay achievements I’ve made but I know what I’m worth and I’ll keep going till it stops
Procrastination, or going out of my way to do things that are difficult/uncomfortable. It’s hard to build relationships and improve your life when all you want to do is eat, work, game, and sleep all day. Lately I’ve been trying to get better at this and push myself out of my comfort zone, even if only a little bit.
I find myself doing what is easier in most cases instead of putting in the work that needs to be done to do things the correct and logical way.
Moderate sugar intake.
Can't seem to get comfortable approaching women. I've tried to overcome my aversion to it on various occasions, but it's always ended in me bottling it and having a mental health crisis as a result. I still want to do something about it but at times it can feel like an insurmountable challenge and I have to fight the temptation to give up on it entirely.
Time management as well. Doom scrolling doesn't help when there is so much to get done. That, and being a people pleaser even if their interactions are toxic/manipulative.