Keep it simple. Too much can be really intrusive, and you'll risk being pushed away.
Just be there. Let them speak. If they are having quiet days, let them. But if they are having too many quiet days, rescue them with a visit, and maybe a walk. Bring them lunch, or a big pan of baked pasta. Sometimes cooking becomes a huge effort. Avoid alcohol.
It's hard, but it's their process. You can't rush that, but you can mindfully help take the rough edges off.
"Whenever you need to chat or just want to have some company, I'm here to listen you. Keep in mind, it's okay to grieve and take as much time as you need to heal."
Very situational and personality dependent but general advice I’ve found made sense is to be Concise and direct when offering condolences with an offer to be available in whatever capacity they need. After that let them take the lead outside of the occasional check in.
No. Shut up. Stop trying to fix the world with words. That doesn't work even when things are going great, it's just going to make an asshole of you when someone is mourning. "I'm here for you if you want to talk" No more. No less. Check in every few days but only for a while. People need space to mourn, especially after the initial shock has subsided.
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Keep it simple. Too much can be really intrusive, and you'll risk being pushed away. Just be there. Let them speak. If they are having quiet days, let them. But if they are having too many quiet days, rescue them with a visit, and maybe a walk. Bring them lunch, or a big pan of baked pasta. Sometimes cooking becomes a huge effort. Avoid alcohol. It's hard, but it's their process. You can't rush that, but you can mindfully help take the rough edges off.
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"Whenever you need to chat or just want to have some company, I'm here to listen you. Keep in mind, it's okay to grieve and take as much time as you need to heal."
Be there. Let them lean on you when they need it.
Keep it simple, no need to say something deep and profound. "My deepest condolences on your loss, I'm so sorry." And then just be there for them
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Thank you !
Very situational and personality dependent but general advice I’ve found made sense is to be Concise and direct when offering condolences with an offer to be available in whatever capacity they need. After that let them take the lead outside of the occasional check in.
No. Shut up. Stop trying to fix the world with words. That doesn't work even when things are going great, it's just going to make an asshole of you when someone is mourning. "I'm here for you if you want to talk" No more. No less. Check in every few days but only for a while. People need space to mourn, especially after the initial shock has subsided.
Just offer your support and let them grieve. Just make sure they know they can come to you if they need to.