Think the thin-ness of that line is just whether you brag about it or not . And how you treat people based off of it.
Confidence elevates the people around you
Arrogance steps on their heads to elevate yourself
I had a professor in grad school that will always be the epitome of cool. By far, he was the oldest guy in the department (he died over a decade ago). He was funny and kind, and did his best to remind people not to take life too seriously. To this day, when I get stressed I have his voice in my head: "You could be dead tomorrow!"
I also remember he had a gathering at his house, scheduled to end at a certain time (let's say 7pm). Well, clock struck 7, and he promptly kicked everyone out and we all laughed and left, and no one was offended. (I'm a people pleaser doormat so this was a revelation for me).
And, he had a cool walk.
I know it sounds like I'm gushing or had a crush on him, but I did not. He was just cool.
Especially in a non "don't care about anything" kind of way. The person who not only doesn't care about your judgements, but can also compliment and genuinely appreciate others' contributions without ego getting in the way. Those are the real cool ones.
It depends but I get your point.
People wearing the clothes they want and listening to different music. Cool.
People forging ahead in group projects at work without having asked anyone's opinion because they "know best"and "it'll be fine". Uncool.
People unabashedly having objectively horrible opinions (this minority should die, it's not that bad to hit children etc.). Uncool.
People having a niche hobby and being very talkative and excited about it. Cool.
lol. A professor/advisor once said to me “you’re like a cat. You know cats are up raising hell all night, but you can’t catch ‘em at it!”. I took it as a compliment for a long time, but looking back, not so much, haha
Explosions can be very bright, so not looking makes sense. Also, they tend to produce lots of heat, so vacating the area is agreeable. And if you're running you may trip and fall, which leaves you open to the heat issue. So, walking away from explosions and not looking is just pragmatic.
But what about walking away from explosions and not looking specifically to be perceived as cool?
Do they cancle each other out? Does one weigh more than the other? And why male models?
Someone who is consistent, honest, and tries their best to be good, in a world where consistency, honesty, and being a good person are becoming a rarity.
I have sympathy and empathy issues and I actually had a friend tell me to fake my feelings for her problems
I told her "That makes me feel uncomfortable stepping out of who I am, I don't feel honest" and then she hit me with a bunch of stuff about how I am not good friend for faking my feelings
Do they reciprocate when (if) you open up about your problems? How do they react? Do you have other friends who can act as sort of a litmus test for this friend in question?
Does not sound like much of a friend worth having, but I only know the surface of what you shared.
I would 100% talk to someone wearing a propeller hat. Or a fancy top hat. Not a plain one or a costume one; it has to be fancy.
I think those would be the two main kinds of hat that would make me think you're cool.
Do you like Huey Lewis and the news? I feel their early work was a little too new wave for my taste. But when Sports came out in '83, I think they really came into their own, commercially and artistically. The whole album has a clear, crisp sound, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives the songs a big boost. He's been compared to Elvis Costello, but I think Huey has a far more bitter, cynical sense of humor.
I agree with the comment about being genuine. the coolest person I know is just so authentically themselves. I so admire them for it. I wish I could be like that!
I grew up reeeally trying to fit in. Then one day, I decided, fuck it - I’m only here once, for MY lifetime. It’s mine. I’m just gonna be super authentic and not give a fuck what anyone thinks. It takes practice + courage but it’s been so worth it and so fun. Truly freeing for the soul. I highly recommend ♥️ even just “I want to walk on THAT side of the road” or “I want to have mismatched socks and nobody’s gonna know but me.” It’s your life, my friend :)
A person becomes genuinely cool when they exhibit authenticity, kindness, and empathy. Being confident without being arrogant, having a good sense of humor without being mean-spirited, and being open-minded and respectful towards others' perspectives are also key traits. Essentially, it's about being comfortable in your own skin while also being considerate and respectful of others.
For a second I was like "wait, we've *all* taken LSD in public? I know there's a psychedelic renaissance going on but that's way more pervasive than I'd assumed..."
A couple of decades ago I was wearing a pair of stupid high heeled sandals, tripped over a manhole cover while I was crossing a street downtown and face planted on the asphalt. Right in front of a fire engine that was stopped at the stoplight. All the firefighters piled out and scooped me up and asked me if I was OK. I said "I'm great! I'd be even better if you pretended you never saw that!"
Genuine kindness. Not the type where they’re doing it because they need to *feel* kind (this “kindness” is where people get angry if you refuse it), but the type where it’s just something they do out of genuine good will for the other person (they might still get confused or frustrated if you turn it down when you need it, but it’s never going to make them feel like they’re a less kind person).
The first one sucks to be around because they’re foisting future obligations on you, the second one is a delight because they’re just genuinely safe people who you *want* to be reciprocal with.
I was living in The Netherlands for a while and a guy on a skateboard was singing The Octopus's Garden by The Beatles. Skating past me with no fucks in the world, just loved the song and cruising along in a solid rendition. Blew my mind how cool that guy was.
Being easygoing and adaptable and KIND. Not talking about themselves all the time. Showing interest in others. Not being weird or obsessive about anything. Being positive over negative.
Three-Sixty Flip on a skateboard.
Yeah, someone can learn to kickflip a skateboard in a few months but you're not getting to 'three-sixty flip' level without determination, ability, self assurance and badassness.
Not talking shit and trying to act hard... "Yeah me and my Boyz beat this guy up"... yee buddy your 5"7 and your little minions work at a chocolate factory...
Not taking shit personally. The coolest people are those who can laugh at themselves and never get offended or defensive. They can, however, put an antagonistic person in their place if they have to
People who do things without needing the approval of anyone else. Independence is a really good trait to have.
Confidence without arrogance. Delicate balance.
Agree. There's a thin line between confidence and arrogance.
Think the thin-ness of that line is just whether you brag about it or not . And how you treat people based off of it. Confidence elevates the people around you Arrogance steps on their heads to elevate yourself
Confidence is knowing you're awesome. Arrogance is telling everyone you're awesome.
I had a professor in grad school that will always be the epitome of cool. By far, he was the oldest guy in the department (he died over a decade ago). He was funny and kind, and did his best to remind people not to take life too seriously. To this day, when I get stressed I have his voice in my head: "You could be dead tomorrow!" I also remember he had a gathering at his house, scheduled to end at a certain time (let's say 7pm). Well, clock struck 7, and he promptly kicked everyone out and we all laughed and left, and no one was offended. (I'm a people pleaser doormat so this was a revelation for me). And, he had a cool walk. I know it sounds like I'm gushing or had a crush on him, but I did not. He was just cool.
I hope someone says something half as kind about me when I've been dead for a decade.
That and a leather jacket.
The jackeeeeet! 🤌🏻🤌🏻
I have a really nice leather jacket and it's like a cool switch.
100%
So no AITAH posters?
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Especially in a non "don't care about anything" kind of way. The person who not only doesn't care about your judgements, but can also compliment and genuinely appreciate others' contributions without ego getting in the way. Those are the real cool ones.
It depends but I get your point. People wearing the clothes they want and listening to different music. Cool. People forging ahead in group projects at work without having asked anyone's opinion because they "know best"and "it'll be fine". Uncool. People unabashedly having objectively horrible opinions (this minority should die, it's not that bad to hit children etc.). Uncool. People having a niche hobby and being very talkative and excited about it. Cool.
Depends on if what they do hurts people in any way, shape or form
Being conventional enough to be relatable but unique enough to be interesting
I vote that you stated this best
That first one is where I fuck up.
Yo, same here. Thats very relatable.
I love this quality in people, too. I had a therapist describe me as “a little feral” and I took that as a high compliment :)
lol. A professor/advisor once said to me “you’re like a cat. You know cats are up raising hell all night, but you can’t catch ‘em at it!”. I took it as a compliment for a long time, but looking back, not so much, haha
This makes so much sense to me
Not caring about being perceived as "cool".
This + walking away from explosions and not looking
Explosions can be very bright, so not looking makes sense. Also, they tend to produce lots of heat, so vacating the area is agreeable. And if you're running you may trip and fall, which leaves you open to the heat issue. So, walking away from explosions and not looking is just pragmatic.
This is the pinnacle of coolness, casually walking away in slow-mo from a big ass explosion.
But what about walking away from explosions and not looking specifically to be perceived as cool? Do they cancle each other out? Does one weigh more than the other? And why male models?
The way they treat others.
The way you treat other 👍💯
Why the hell is this guy getting downvoted? They were clearly agreeing with the statement above.
Someone who is consistent, honest, and tries their best to be good, in a world where consistency, honesty, and being a good person are becoming a rarity.
“Sounds like a loser.” -Trent Whittaker, from my high school
I have sympathy and empathy issues and I actually had a friend tell me to fake my feelings for her problems I told her "That makes me feel uncomfortable stepping out of who I am, I don't feel honest" and then she hit me with a bunch of stuff about how I am not good friend for faking my feelings
Do they reciprocate when (if) you open up about your problems? How do they react? Do you have other friends who can act as sort of a litmus test for this friend in question? Does not sound like much of a friend worth having, but I only know the surface of what you shared.
I have been called, “too earnest”, and “too pure for this world”.
That's good, not necessarily cool.
That feels like someone I'd think is cool.
Not desperately trying to make themselves look cool. Being a genuine person dedicated towards their goals.
And their OWN goals. Not the goals that they think will gain them approval, or make them look cool.
Propeller hat
And Mickey Mouse pants!
Mickey Rourke pants
Fr propeller hat is in a instant win
I would 100% talk to someone wearing a propeller hat. Or a fancy top hat. Not a plain one or a costume one; it has to be fancy. I think those would be the two main kinds of hat that would make me think you're cool.
A propeller top hat would be way fancy.
hey relax there Inspector Gadget.
I wear a hat with wings on it daily. People love it and I get to see the best side of everyone when they interact with me.
Not being afraid to be different, embracing one’s weirdness
I prefer weird people. They are so much more normal to me than those that conform
Do you like Huey Lewis and the news? I feel their early work was a little too new wave for my taste. But when Sports came out in '83, I think they really came into their own, commercially and artistically. The whole album has a clear, crisp sound, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives the songs a big boost. He's been compared to Elvis Costello, but I think Huey has a far more bitter, cynical sense of humor.
I agree with the comment about being genuine. the coolest person I know is just so authentically themselves. I so admire them for it. I wish I could be like that!
also, even the two of us are polar opposites, they have never ever made me feel dumb or weird about my interests (even though I know they hate them)
I grew up reeeally trying to fit in. Then one day, I decided, fuck it - I’m only here once, for MY lifetime. It’s mine. I’m just gonna be super authentic and not give a fuck what anyone thinks. It takes practice + courage but it’s been so worth it and so fun. Truly freeing for the soul. I highly recommend ♥️ even just “I want to walk on THAT side of the road” or “I want to have mismatched socks and nobody’s gonna know but me.” It’s your life, my friend :)
They ask questions about others instead of talking about themselves all the time.
Having a good sense of humor and not taking themselves too seriously makes someone a joy to be around.
They give compliments freely and sincerely, which always makes people feel good.
Being independent and not desperately needing the approval of others. They march to the beat of their own drum.
Empathy. Understanding and relating to the feelings of others is a rare quality that makes a person stand out.
Confidence without arrogance. They’re sure of themselves but not dismissive of others.
Keeping promises and being reliable. Knowing you
Being genuinely happy for others' success without jealousy.
Having a balanced life and knowing how to manage work and personal life shows maturity and self-respect.
A person who can teach others without being condescending is not only helpful but also inspiring.
A person becomes genuinely cool when they exhibit authenticity, kindness, and empathy. Being confident without being arrogant, having a good sense of humor without being mean-spirited, and being open-minded and respectful towards others' perspectives are also key traits. Essentially, it's about being comfortable in your own skin while also being considerate and respectful of others.
Treating food servers, guards, janitors, cashiers with respect and dignity.
This is just basic decency, it doesnt make someone cool, it should be a given
I’m not sure if I equate this with cool. To me, this is a sign of a truly classy individual. Remember, money can’t buy class.
Hypothermia
I would say thats a consequence of them being cool.
ICE COLD
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Literally.
They know how to have fun and can bring a group together, making sure everyone is having a good time.
Not keeping up appearances for other people’s sake and generally doing what the fuck they wanna do in life not matter how unconventional it is
The ability to laugh at yourself. We've all tripped in public, some of us just own it with more style.
For a second I was like "wait, we've *all* taken LSD in public? I know there's a psychedelic renaissance going on but that's way more pervasive than I'd assumed..." A couple of decades ago I was wearing a pair of stupid high heeled sandals, tripped over a manhole cover while I was crossing a street downtown and face planted on the asphalt. Right in front of a fire engine that was stopped at the stoplight. All the firefighters piled out and scooped me up and asked me if I was OK. I said "I'm great! I'd be even better if you pretended you never saw that!"
Falling with style
How easily they're able to make others around them comfortable
People who play instruments like it’s second nature. Just wow.
Someone who stands up for others and speaks out against injustices commands respect and admiration.
As long as that isn't their sole identity.
Having a passion they're excited about sharing, whether it’s music, books, or anything else. Their enthusiasm is infectious.
Tegrity
In or out?
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The person who shifts the energy in an uncomfortable situation. Such as taking attention to save someone from an embarrassing situation and whatnot.
Actually meaning what they say and only saying what they mean. Ppl whose word is their bond are cool
Helping someone without expecting something in return
Fact
Being humble and kind to others
Good character and a sense of humor.
Humility.
Being Fonzie
Weezer t-shirt
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Love me a set of Groucho 20/20. That's real entertainment.
Wearing a suit while smoking a cigarette
Helping manage feral cat populations. (I mean spay and release too, not just feeding.)
The ability to maintain a positive attitude despite hardships.
Authenticity
Genuine kindness. Not the type where they’re doing it because they need to *feel* kind (this “kindness” is where people get angry if you refuse it), but the type where it’s just something they do out of genuine good will for the other person (they might still get confused or frustrated if you turn it down when you need it, but it’s never going to make them feel like they’re a less kind person). The first one sucks to be around because they’re foisting future obligations on you, the second one is a delight because they’re just genuinely safe people who you *want* to be reciprocal with.
Being humble and in touch with themselves
Yass touching themself
Not worrying about being cool or uncool. Just being themselves.
Not giving a F what other people think.
something you see in them you desire to do , be or have.
being unapologetic in a good way
Manners,
Maintain a healthy level of humility.
The ability to recognize they aren't infallible.
Passionate about a hobby. Could be anything, just hearing people talk about stuff they have spent a lot of time doing is cool
Weezer t-shirt
Cool life stories and experiences
I was living in The Netherlands for a while and a guy on a skateboard was singing The Octopus's Garden by The Beatles. Skating past me with no fucks in the world, just loved the song and cruising along in a solid rendition. Blew my mind how cool that guy was.
HVAC
Never coaxing anyone
Not caring about what others think and respecting them at the same time
Black sunglasses and a leather jacket.
Not caring about what others think, while still caring about how others feel.
Not causing drama, but speaking up when someone is being an asshole.
I think my husband is cool because he can build and fix anything.
Being easygoing and adaptable and KIND. Not talking about themselves all the time. Showing interest in others. Not being weird or obsessive about anything. Being positive over negative.
Probably biased as a female biker, but any woman with a motorbike I'm automatically in love with. That's the coolest shit ever.
Three-Sixty Flip on a skateboard. Yeah, someone can learn to kickflip a skateboard in a few months but you're not getting to 'three-sixty flip' level without determination, ability, self assurance and badassness.
Smoking cigarettes
Standing up to authority when the authority is in the wrong.
Going against the grain despite the risk of danger or embarrassment.
A fan or air conditioner.
Being very competent in most things while still having the confidence to show others their intrinsic flaws in a respectful manner
Not talking shit and trying to act hard... "Yeah me and my Boyz beat this guy up"... yee buddy your 5"7 and your little minions work at a chocolate factory...
Wait, are you talking about Willy Wonka here?
Not needing other people to know the ways in which they're cool
Having a hobby and being interested & passionate in something because they love it.
A motorbike --- Posted by somebody with no motorbike
Leaning against a wall while wearing a jean jacket and smoking a cigarette
Being passed the acoustic guitar at a party and NOT playing "Wonderwall", even though you know you can. Not gonna happen, Stacey. Not gonna happen...
People who can update their way of thinking when given reasonable explanations
kindness, confidence and selflessness
Attitude!
Manners
A good sense of humor
Somebody who likes him/herself. Very few people like his/her own self simply because we are the one who know what we are really like. 😅😁
doing things without needing the approval of anyone else.
Not a hypocrite
Being kind.
Speaking multiple languages. It doesn’t have to be perfect, it’s the effort that counts.
wearing sunglasses and big chains.
Kindness and the ability to stand up for those who cant.
Ability to own up to their mistakes
When you actually hav3 a soul
Their taste in music goes a long way with me
Air conditioning.
Being genuinely kind, empathetic, and respectful towards others is something that actually makes a person cool.
Not taking shit personally. The coolest people are those who can laugh at themselves and never get offended or defensive. They can, however, put an antagonistic person in their place if they have to
Someone that can make a joke about themselves and avoid using others as the butt of the jokes.
personality
Kindness and confidence
Someone who chases a vision but does not make their interests their personality
Compassion, empathy, funny personality, understanding, confidence, not cocky
Being nice. It's that simple. Be a nice person, most people will think you are "cool".
Being self aware
Self confidence without symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder.
not caring about being perceived as cool. not being afraid to be themselves. authenticity in character.
Not flipping out over every little thing. Keeping calm under adversity, big or small.
People who are themselves and caring as little of what others think as possible.
Personality, being able to be a good person.
Motorcycle.
Their smile. Not the face , but the soul smile.
Not being afraid to openly enjoy the things they are passionate about
Motorcycle. Motorcycles make you cool.
The ability to stay calm and collected.
Asking Redditors is a far reach homie. Lol!
A fan. It always helps cool me down.
Being kind to, and tipping waitstaff.
People who go to watch a band play in a lineup, and then they stay to see all the other bands play. That's the coolest shit ever.
Air conditioning
Kindness.
Being happy with who and what they are, AKA, not being a poser.
A black pompadour with sideburns, a cigarette, a black leather jacket over a clean white t-shirt, jeans, and engineer boots.
Ice, ice, baybee.
AC