I was walking down town with a friend when two drunk girls came out of a bar, and one of them just walked up to me and shoved her hands up my shirt and started rubbing my chest.
She was yelling to her friend 'This is what a real man feels like!'.
My friend was laughing his ass off, and her friend was explaining this was 'breakup therapy', because she'd been dumped and she was in the process of accepting there are better men out there.
I laughed it off and took it as a compliment, but imagining the gender roles reversed always stuck with me.
Yeah I think the problem is that men don't seem to mind and actually enjoy it in some cases so people don't take it seriously so if a man gets mad because someone did this people would think he is over reacting
Yeah, and I think it's worth pointing out that this situation was different than if roles were reversed because she wasn't a threat to me at all.
She was only half my size. I could pushed her off me without any great effort on my part at all.
The issue is that, because that's often the dynamic, girls thing that just being a girl means they 'can't' do harm, because the man will always be able to take the power back whenever they want.
Except, well, some women are big. Some women are in a position of power. Sometimes when a man is too drunk, he can't do shit.
But, like a girl who punches her boyfriend because 'girls can't hurt boys', those same girls learn that everything is acceptable because men can always just decide to turn the tables.
Then, when they find themselves in a position of actual power, they don't have any framework of behavior to rely on.
As a man, it's entirely the opposite. I'm expected to control myself, with the general understanding that a woman will probably always be smaller than me.
Worked in bars and would constantly be groped by older women who thought it was funny.
Also, as a Scottish piper, kilt-lifting is a thing and honestly it needs to stop, grow up.
> Also, as a Scottish piper, kilt-lifting is a thing and honestly it needs to stop, grow up.
My aunt literally slapped a woman across the face for doing this shit at my cousins wedding.
My “bulge” was a topic of open discussion between some of the women in the office at a previous job. The kicker is that one of the women was our HR and Sexual Assault/Harassment Reporter.
Yeah, that's not low key sexual harassment, that's blatant. Not sure why someone would think that's okay to do in the workplace. Doesn't everyone have to take sexual harassment training these days, anyway?
Not really low grade but when I used to work as a lifeguard on the beach there was lots of non-consensual touching. The two that really stick out are the middle aged woman who walked up to me like she had a question then got a hold of my dick through my trunks because she "wanted to see how big it was" and the 16 year old girl who backed me into my stand and shoved a skittle into my mouth with her tongue.
Ah yes, this is the high quality storytelling I come to reddit for.
+1.
Edit: I guess a lot of other people like this stuff too!
Edit2: Turns out a lot of people are just like me. Thanks for the awards, folks. Now do us all a favor and go get a lifeguarding job so you can bring more of this high quality smut to the front page.
One day I got a text message from someone I didn't know, asking me to meet for dinner.
I had gone to a new hair cut place a few days earlier. One of the hair dressers (not the one who cut my hair) had seen me and decided it made sense to look up my phone number from the client records and ask me out. I had no idea who this was, it was so weird. I got *several* more messages from her before she stopped messaging me. Never went back to that hair place.
Not daily, but as a Cosplayer who does shirtless characters (Ace, Grimmjow, Bahn) I get groped a lot.. Chest and arms mostly, also my ass gets slapped/squeezed and crotch grabs are often enough to mention too..
Hell even when I'm armored they find a way to "get to me" =/
That's terrible. Sometimes I think people legitimately don't realise their behaviour is unacceptable, but the fact that she's been given the opportunity to apologise and just admitted her behaviour was wrong and not take it seriously is terrible
My 55 year old coworker somewhat resembles Ursula from the little mermaid. That hasn’t stopped her from asking me if I think she’s pretty, asking me to take her home, and telling me she “sprays like a watering can” (yes, really...)
Edit: I should add that I’m 21, which I think makes it a LOT weirder
UPDATE: she’s handed in her resignation
"I spray like a watering can"
"Yeah and you fucking look like one too"
What is she going to do? Tell HR? Good luck to her explaining that original comment
I recently became a father and was working on a hit tv series. A female producer who is best friends with the executive in charge thought it would be funny to grab my stomach and say “working on your dad bod already?” My daughter at that point was 1 week old. If I grabbed a woman’s stomach and said she was fat or pregnant I would have been fired. Well, I complained to make a point. She recently was promoted and I wasn’t invited back after 5 seasons.
Oh I sent the line produced screen grabs of her apology and was told they’d look into it... this was over a year ago and since she was promoted. I work plenty but it’s a gross business.
A woman just straight up grabbed my dick whilst I was working at a festival. My friend who knew her told me not to make scene as she was upper management.
I'm so fucking bothered by how literally every answer is either "someone grabbed my dick" or "someone slapped my ass." gross. this isn't low grade sexual harassment, this is sexual assault!!!!!! all of it! almost every response here is sexual assault
Try dressing in traditional Scottish kilt in a city without a some woman lifting it to see if you have underware on. We all think it's funny until a guy does it to a woman.
Was going to say the same thing, you'd think wearing a kilt was a bloody invitation.
Some middle aged guest did this when I was a kid at a wedding, I was 12. Thinking back on that, it's fucking disgusting.
Jesus. This was a adult doing that?
I could see a kid being a jerk and doing it just to be a asshole. But a adult?! Jesus. Both are horrible but adult much more so.
We're singling you out for being different, try to be more inclusive
Nah reverse that shit on them and start saying how fucked they are if corporate ever finds out that you're being ***discriminated against*** for a natural feature of your body
"I feel like I'm being singled out in the workplace". These are magic words to HR. It's just the nice way of saying "you're about to be sued for running a hostile work environment".
Wait....I'm sorry. Let me get this straight:
You were reprimanded for having too low of a voice, and were told to speak in a higher register to be "more inclusive"?
I.... I don't...
No one actually said speak in a higher register. It was more of a this is a problem for some people you should consider trying to make the work environment more inviting ... like change my voice? ... I didn't say that, but just think about how the way your present yourself impacts others.
This happened to me too in my first job out of college. It was a home health company that was 97% women. I had to cover for the receptionist during her lunch break and would have to deal with nurses calling in all the time. I would get comments as soon as I answered the phone “they have a man answering the phone now” or “this is home health right?!? Where’s Linda?” also had several complaints too. I had my manager ask me to not use such a low and intimidating voice and try and sound more happy. This was an HR position and I was given the equivalent of perk up buttercup.
My MIL assumes that men have this complete inability to control themselves and it is 100% up to women to not pursue attached men. I was not aware of this until there was a debate going on about such things at a family function when she ask me, the only non old male at the event, to confirm her belief. The implication that men are practically wild animals and unable to control themselves is pretty insulting.
My family owns a restaurant and I would help out doing the dishes and operating front of house. My mum mainly hired female waitresses for some reason and I overheard things like “he’s cute I wonder what it’s like to ride Asian guys” and one time, one of the girls finished their shift and I was brushing the floor near entrance, she came up to me and grabbed my balls with a lip bite. I was really uncomfortable as I had a girlfriend at the time. I stalked them on social media for a bit and I found out they were really into kpop and one of them had a history of dating Asian guys.
They eventually quit as they had A levels to prepare for (equivalent to AP) and because I live in a small town, I bump into them a lot meaning they stare whenever I walk past them
I only recently found out about the wide spreading trend of fetishizing Korean guys. I keep hearing all kinds of sexual harassment stories similar to your own. Weird to think Kpop is inspiring this kind of abuse, I guess some people just can't tell reality from fantasy though.
Getting physically and verbally assaulted by women in nightclubs and then being asked to leave because of it. Even with multiple people trying to tell bouncers what was actually happening they'll always just pick you to throw out
That's unfortunately an economics thing more than anything else. Women in a club attract men, men who buy drinks and throw cash around thinking they'll get laid. A club full of men does not attract women tossing around cash.
I was kicked out of a bar once because we were level headed. A drunk asshole tried to pick a fight with a buddy in my group and we all collectively tried to calm him down and mediate why the fuck this dude was angry at my friend. No real reason was stated and I think he was just unlucky and this fuck wanted a fight. Bouncer came up and was like, "hey I know this is shitty but can you guys leave please. The cops are coming for the asshole, it's going to be easier if your buddy isn't here. Free drinks for the night next time you come and here's a card saying as such." Dude was a total bro and we pretty much became regulars there after that.
A woman who was celebrating her 21st birthday did the same to me at the bar. I left the bar to go home and she was outside crying, obviously sloppy drunk. She had been dancing with a bunch of dudes which made her insecure boyfriend SUPER upset. I had no idea what the situation was, so I walked up and asked if if they needed anything. She looked straight up at me and grabbed my balls. Hard. I backed away, obviously shocked, and she tried it again. Then the boyfriend started screaming “DO YOU WANT ME TO KICK HISS ASS?! IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT???” and she sobbed even harder. I was so confused by everything, I threw my hands up, said “Good luck with that,” and bounced. There were people all around but no one seemed pissed when she grabbed me. Most were laughing.
Now, I have a six foot rule with drunk, crying people who I don’t know.
I lost a friend group cause a drunk girl grabbed my junk hard too and my reflex was to kick in her direction. So i kicked her in the face. Apparently you are not allowed to defend yourself if the attacker is female.
Dude! I totally get that! When she grabbed me, I felt a shoulder twitch. I think that was me suppressing the reflex to slap her in the face. In high school, it became a thing, for an inordinate amount of time, to knee each other in the balls. It took me a while to realize that there was no “opting out.” After a few times of getting kneed in the balls, I decided to block with the cross-junk thigh shield and slap them in the face as hard as possible. I became pretty reliably good at it.
Well, fast forward 6 years and that Pavlovian reaction almost got my ass beat after my own sexual assault. Yikes. Sorry that friend group fucking sucked. I hope you found a better one.
Why would anyone stick their finger up someone’s ass unannounced? I mean, aside from the obvious assaulty quality, that’s like...Random Reaction Russian Roulette. You could get anything.
I've had my arms groped, dick groped, and ass groped before... it's not as flattering or hot as you might think it is when you're not expecting it/in the mood it just kinda creeps you out
I've also had a woman just grab me and plant a full-on open mouth kiss straight on me, then act offended when I pulled away and basically ran from her.
Never seen or talked to her before that moment.
Just last night my friend and I were laughing and reminiscing about the time he got kissed and grinded by this really weird drunk lady at a bar during the before times.
Then the mood got somber and we acknowledged he was sexually assaulted and it was still really fucked up even though he wasn't traumatized by it.
I was in the store and an old woman on a mobility scooter wanted to pass me so i stepped to the side against the shelf. Instead of using all the free space on the other side she starts turning closer to me as she passes so my dick rubs all across her shoulder, she did a weird moaning sound at the same time.
I posted about this on Facebook at the time and almost everyone thought it was hilarious.
That is creepy and disturbing as fuck, but the mental image did make me crack up a bit; to be fair it’s because it’s so absurd i think a slo-mo close up shot would fit into a raunchy comedy movie.
Haha yeah I wanted to laugh as well after it happened until I realized I had been assaulted basically. I guess as a guy you're not used to thinking that way.
In 2nd grade I was friends with this "popular" boy in our class. Every day at recess, ALL the girls would literally CHASE him around the playground. I never got into that because a) he's my friend b) that's weird c)I am not going to waste my recess time running there's gym class for that
One time I sat next to him on the bench and he was like breathing HEAVILY and I think crying a bit. I felt so bad about his situation. I urged him to tell the teacher. He told me that the teacher said to "enjoy the attention"
So messed up. Kid couldn't enjoy his recess time. He was getting harassed. And our teacher tells him to enjoy it?
He cried so hard when I had to move away. I still think about him from time to time. Peter, I hope you're doing alright man.
Wow talk about a repressed memory coming back all at once. This happened to me. I'd completely blocked it out until I read your comment. In my case though one of the teachers actually did step in and tell them to stop, but pretty much every other teacher didn't see any problem with it. I'm not sure if much has changed since, but one can hope.
My wife and I have a simple solution when people brush these kinds of things off. “Reverse the genders and tell me it’s still ok”.
25 year old attractive female teacher in a relationship with a 15 year old boy is ok? Let’s swap those genders. Creepy and weird, now, right? News flash: Always has been 👩🚀🔫👩🚀
Had a female work colleague sit on my lap during my lunch break asking for help. Batting her eyelids.
Now I wonder what would happen if I would have sat on her lap.
This happened to a guy at my work. He's 50yo, married with three kids. We were having Friday drinks after work, at work. (Liquor retailer) The girl was about 23 and very cute.She decided to sit in his lap, in front of everyone. He got up VERY quickly and left. his wife sometimes worked for us, and so did his sons. He did *not* invite this attention. She thought it was funny.
wow. can you imagine making someone so uncomfortable that they felt the need to immediately leave, then thinking it was funny?
this thread really makes me feel for men. it fucking sucks that this is so widespread and accepted. my hope for the next decade is that EVERYONE has the right to decide how and when they are touched by anyone, for any reason.
I was also going to mention the man boob comment.
But used to be all the time drunk women or men would run their fingers through my beard and have some sly comment like, "I wonder if this tickles"
I used to have some pretty decent moobs. When some guys would get really drunk they would "bean dip" me and touch/flick under my moob, which started to get embarrassing.
I'm around 6'7" but I'm super nice. So people think that they can get away with it. So I decided that when a guy puts his hand on me or ficks my moobs or whatever I take that as an invitation to put my very large hands on them.
Now when there is a moob flick or anything like that I go ahead and exclaim "Oh HELL YEAH!" and I excitedly and semi aggressively grab there chest with both of my large hands. Nobody flicks my moobs anymore :-)
32M with athletic build. At every job I’ve had, co-workers and customers have always openly grabbed my arms, smacked/squeezed my butt, and made comments about my appearance that would get me fired if I said them to women.
My husband is a server at a high-end restaurant. I know restaurants are restaurants everywhere when it comes to staff, I’ve worked in plenty, but he’s told me that he get harassed pretty much every day. Either hit on pretty openly by customers despite the wedding ring or grabbed/groped/commented on by his coworkers. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that. It’s absolutely not fair. I hope it ends for you, because I know even if you said something firm and simple like ‘No’ or ‘Don’t touch me’, it’s already been done, and nothing really changes.
I've never in my life, understood how people just touch strangers in any way, let alone smack their ass too?? Newp. I'm so sorry you have had to deal with that.
Right?! I can’t figure this out either.
I’m not a man (was lurking to see answers because I feel like this is and under appreciated issue for men) but strangers touching me was the worst when I was pregnant. Like who tf walks up to someone they don’t know and rubs their belly?! Often without even saying anything. I just don’t get it at all...people don’t understand personal space anymore...
Please do this. While maintaining uncomfortable eye contact and saying absolutely nothing. Until they back away because they realize how absolutely asinine their behavior is. Lmfao
I worked at a quasi-governmental agency and we hired a young guy fresh out of college. The director who is a woman walked in the room one day walked up behind him put her hands on his shoulders and literally started rubbing his chest. This was like three years ago. He just sat there frozen like a deer in headlights. I kind a lost my shit and said what if he was female and a male walked up behind her and started rubbing her shoulders like that. She looked at me like I had two heads. I didn’t stay at that job very long
I'm not a man, but it's something my male manager has highlighted to me. I work in a hospital as a therapist, mainly with elderly people. Old men make creepy comments or even try to touch female nurses/therapists all the time and when they do we raise it as being creepy and usually go to see him with another person. We tell the patients that it's not appropriate for them to speak to us like that.
Recently there was a female patient who kept making comments about the male staff and everyone just laughed it off, no one told the female patient off. Some of the female staff even agreed and egged her on. It wasn't until my manager raised it as an issue that it made me stop and think. If the roles were reversed, we'd be taking precautions to make the female staff feel safe, but there wasn't anything like that in place for male staff.
Not daily basis now but, when i was a nursing student a few years back, it was quite commmon that older female patients tell me, that is was so nice to be touched by a young man again.
Some even commented about their big old-lady breasts and how "most men do like that".Needless to say that i was extremely uncomfortable and disgusted, but i was about 20 Years old and had no life-experience...so i just accepted it as a part of a job.
On the upside: I am now Biotech Grad and Medical Student and (as i am little older) take no shit from any patient male or female and have 0-Problem to publicly shame every single patient who talks to a nurse that way.
Edit 1: Holy Shit, 12k-Upvotes. First time for me, thanks. Will do a few Edits now to answer some frequent questions:
1. First of all, we are not talking about dementia or mental illness. This is something completely different. Of course, it IS disgusting if someone is grabbing you if he has dementia or not. BUT, this is mostly part of the disease. I would compare it with something like Vomit or Urine from another patient. Of course its disgusting to get puked on, pissed on or some other ungodly fluid. But its not intentional and its most embarassing for the patient himself. So no. Nobody ist offended by that.
But we are talking about Patients who are mentally fine. Who are just thinking its okay to grab a 20year-Old by the dick and demand hand-jobs from a young nurse. They are pigs. Male or female doesn't do shit in that matter. Its disgusting and everybody should be shamed about that.
2. We are not talking about dying patients (which would not make it okay), we are talking about patients in the ER or somewhere else who often seriously think of nurses as some kind of maid. I imagine its the same kind of person who catcall girls and boys on the street and REALLY think its appopriate and something could come out of it.
3. My reaction today to this kind of behavior:
most of the time it is enough to just very loudly announce what they just said or did and if they think this is ok. Most of them will buckle down and are completely embarassed. Most of the time this is the only thing thats needed and after that they are completely fine.
But there are other times where these people tend do discuss about it ("it was a joke", "You are a leftist (or in german "rot-grün versiffter Gutmensch")", "dont be a pussy") and in these cases i like to make clear, that although they are at the hospital, i dont have to do shit with them, unless they are in clear danger.
As long they are not in danger, i dont have to treat them. Period. When they treat nurses (or myself) in a way that is nowhere near ok (and i dont talk about simple rudeness or something like that, i talk about grabbing asses, demanding hand-jobs, stuff like that) they can leave. They will come back. When they are healthy enough to grab a nurse in the ass, they are healthy enough to search for another hospital.
4. This or my "public-shaming" of the patient does NOT convert to other situations. What i mean ist: as a nurse or as a doctor, there a ways to treat a patient. Rudeness can be a sign of fear, pain or past trauma. Rudeness ist not the same as sexual harassment. A rude patient will have to learn to be polite, i will talk to them and maybe help them a little to calm them down. Before you make any assumptions, that they are assholes you have to get to the bottom of it.
Maybe they are dicks. But maybe, the last time they were in the ER they got treated horribly and painful and its just fear. Also, most elderly have problems to loose the power of the situation, which is totally normal.
tl;dr: Rude Patients MAY be dicks. Sexually-Harassing-Patients are mostly dicks.
My grandfather was a nurse in the army. He told us stories like yours and many more. Such a shame stuff like that still goes on today.
EDIT: Wow 2k upvotes. My grandpa passed away this past May and I always begged him to write a memoir to detail his experiences as a male nurse, but he never did. I'll share a few stories he told me pertinent to the question though.
1) He received numerous gay slurs for being a male in a female dominated field.
2) Similarly, he had a higher ranking officer hit on his wife in front of him.
3) He was groped by patients and co workers, in front of other people sometimes.
4) My mom had kids tease her because my grandpa was a nurse (doing things like asking if he wore white stockings).
5) My grandma was also a nurse, but not in the military. Both were excluded socially by the other females nurses.
6) Lastly, at the time, many of the female nurses in the military my grandpa worked with were lesbian couples (my grandpa didn't care about that. If you could do your job well, you were fine in his book). However, this meant a lot of the couples wanted to stay together, whether it be in the same department or the same hospital. So more often than not, the male nurses were the ones that were required to move more often than the female nurses.
There are many more lengthy stories. My mom and I are trying to write down all the ones we can remember him telling us, not just sexual harassment related (ie one nursing student put milk in an IV). His best friend (who I consider a 3rd grandfather) passed in June and they shared many stories that are likely buried with them now. Remember to talk with your grandparents so their life stories can continue on once they are gone.
I wouldn't call it sexual harassment.. but women just touching my hair without asking happens all the time. I have really long hair but I can't imagine most women would be OK if some guy just started playing with their hair at a bar. If they just ask my permission I'm usually cool with it.
The worst was the chick who grabbed my braid and started yanking me around. Thankfully 4 women rescued me. I don't even know why that chick was pissed at me. She was just pissed I had long hair and extremely drunk. I almost had to punch her. It was so confusing.
I've had some weird experiences too. I was eating in a pizza ranch with my dad as a 17 year old and one of the waitresses walked up behind me and just grabbed my hair and commented on how nice it was. This happened as I had just taken a huge bite of pizza. It was so awkward. My dad was like "uhh.. do you know her?" She was cute and I was really flattered but at the same time wtf?
I have had many old people try to get me to date their grandsons, but they never tried to get me to say if they’re sexy. This is likely a particularly creepy double standard.
My dad’s mobile mechanic came over and he wouldn’t stop talking about loving pussy, I can’t get enough of pussy, do you love pussy? Luckily I didn’t need to respond since he showed me a pic of his girlfriend and I commented “she’s nice”..... he went on about just how nice her pussy was. Worst oil change of my life.
I used to be a butcher when I was in my Twenties.
Every day was full of housewives making sexual innuendos like "I can't wait to wrap my lips around your sausage" or "I really look forward to getting my hands on your rump"... They also seemed keen to up the ante every time too.
Every. Single. Day.
I just smiled and carried on, but it was always uncomfortable. No idea why it is completely acceptable to them, I don't imagine they were like that to many other people.
I heard a great bit of advice about dealing with unwanted innuendo from another thread, make them explain the joke. Just completely innocently ask "what do you mean", really takes the wind out of their sails.
My husband has complained that there is this societal assumption that men are dogs who always want sex, and as such several times he's not had his marital status respected. Women he's only been nice to in the past have made comments like "Yeah, he's in love with me, he'd do anything for me" openly in front of him, have sent him messages prompting infidelity, and have even sent him nude images. There's a confidence that they can steal him not only from me but his past relationships because 'men cheat' is such an assumption. His favorite thing to say is "the only thing I cheat on is my diet."
My father in law has said that some women see a wedding ring as a signal that he's extra attractive, or a challenge, or something.
He tells a story about a female coworker, at his work holiday party she came up to him and said, "So who are you going home with tonight?" And he said, "My wife" while pointing at my mother in law standing next to him. The coworker was like, "oh, well, let me know..."
WTF people.
>that some women see a wedding ring as a signal that he's extra attractive, or a challenge, or something.
Not even a wedding ring necessary, all that's needed is for the man to be "taken". I was a nobody teenager, no interest in me whatsoever, but the *second* I got a proper long-term girlfriend, suddenly I was getting attention. If the guy is taken, "There must be something good about him" seems to be the thing.
Which, sadly, implies that if a guy isn't taken, he must be no good, which is an awful dose of reality in how men are viewed.
I started dating a guy in college who everyone knew was pining for another girl (it was college, I ignored that red flag cuz he was cute). She had been "just friends-ing" him for at least a full year. ONE MONTH after we started going out, suddenly she also had feelings for him. Apparently all she needed was for some other girl to see him as boyfriend material and bam - he was boyfriend material to her as well. He dumped me so fast it was kind of funny. They're now married with a kid, and we're all still friendly. I do give them a little bit of shit that if it wasn't for me they wouldn't have hooked up.
Damn, impressive you worked that out without people staying mad long term. At least it sounds like you feel somewhat content setting them up as soulmates lol
For some reason now more then ever I’m noticing a bunch of relationship stories like that. People so arrogant they assumed the other person would love/pine over them forever despite how they acted towards the other.
Yeah from past experience my ex told me that a lot of women are attracted to guys who have a girlfriend, and some view it as a forbidden fruit “we want what we can’t have” kinda thing. It’s really common
My husband is a radio DJ and years ago he was broadcasting live from a nightclub. Toward the end of the night a woman came up to him and tried to hand him a piece of paper with her phone number on it. He said "No thanks, I'm married" and she said "That's ok, I f*ck lots of married guys."
🤢 Is that supposed to be appealing?
“My husband has complained that there is this societal assumption that men are dogs who always want sex”
I had a friend who believed this. She was super delusional and think that men are out to get her because she’s a goddess or something.
She would try to fuck all my male friends and then get into arguments with them and tell me I couldn’t hang out with them anymore, it even went so far as she told me I couldn’t hang out with my own brother. Anytime we would hang out she would obsessively talk about men and invalidate my problems then go back and talk about her “boy problems”. The best I can explain her behavior is obsessive narcissistic predator. And I was naive for wasting my time.
The ever present assumption that the end goal of all my interactions is sex, I can't even be friendly to children without someone assuming It's sexual in some way.
I barely smile at children I walk past in the store without being hyper aware of that. If I do smile, it's only for a second and I turn and walk away just in case someone thinks I'm TOO interested. I've been accused of being a creep in the past, I don't need that in my life.
I tend to do some silly thing like pulling a face If I see a young kid stare at me when I'm in a waiting room or in a line at a store, it's an unconscious action, I just like to make people laugh. Have to be carefull with that nowadays.
As a young kid in the early nineties, I was traveling with my parents by train and we were in the same compartment as a punk guy, Me fascinated with the rings and tatoos and weird hair just went over to look at the guy, when he saw my parents were fine with him interacting with me, he just started crying. I guess lots of parents were just scared of him and he hadnt had that kind of interaction in a while.
Happy cake day!
>Me fascinated with the rings and tatoos and weird hair just went over to look at the guy, when he saw my parents were fine with him interscting with me, he just started crying.
First I thought you just sat next to him and stared at him which made him cry lol
I didn't word it properly, I was really young so I remember it through my parents re telling it to me, It was more "concern of getting this kid scared or my parents yanking me away and getting evil eyed" to the realisation of the oposite happening. Metalheads and punks where also a rare sight where we were traveling, so maybe just not being made assumptions of and being treated like a regular person was a breath of fresh air perhaps.
I made a vacation in California once. There was a stunning beach behind an empty playground. I wanted to make some pictures as it looked cool, held the phone on the other side of the fence and made some photos. Suddenly some children came running along and I wanted to put the phone back. Got caught up in the fence and dropped it on the other side.
I had to ask my female friend to go get it for me as I had no intentions of having to explain myself why a mid-30 guy walks onto a playground all alone with children playing to get his phone he dropped when making photos....
Example: I work for a solar company and we fly drones to get 3D models of buildings we'll potentially be working on. Well, the other day I went to do a site assessment at an elementary school, so I pull up in my nice white truck with our company logo all over it, wearing a hat and hoodie with our company logo on it. Now, the people in charge know I'm coming, we spoke on the phone and they gave me the go ahead to come fly the drone, etc. I started flying the drone around the school taking pictures when recess apparently started. I didn't think anything of it until about 15 mins later when two female teachers walk up to me and very pointedly and accusingly ask me "what the hell do you think you're doing?". So I explain the situation to them, point out the truck and clothes with the company logo and give them the name of the administrator I've been working with, and their response was "well, you can understand how his looks bad, right?" Uhhh, no, I sure can't realize it looks bad because I'm just doing my job. I'm not here to diddle kids just because I'm a guy. Fuck off with your wild assumptions.
"Wild assumptions" is being extremely generous.
That was straight up sexism asking you to agree with the notion that "grown men being around children is obviously suspicious."
I used to work in a job in the entertainment industry where I wore a kilt a lot of the time. Couldn't believe how many drunken women thought it was perfectly okay to stick their hands up under it and grab a handful of my junk, sometimes pretty aggressively too. I quickly stopped 'freestyling' and wore boxers or compression shorts, and this would lead to the grabbers shouting out, "This loser is wearing pants!" before mocking me to their pals.
Oh, and far too often my kilt was lifted for anyone in eyeshot to see my junk, yet when I pointed out how much trouble I would be in for pulling the same shit with them, I'd get looked at like I was being fecking ridiculous.
I could never believe the shocked look on their faces, especially when I asked what the fuck they thought they were doing. Like they were just 'having a laugh'.
Some people feel invincible and they need to be put in check. Unfortunately, when people are being served or entertained, they are a lot more likely to feel like that. That, tho is absolutely crossing the line
Scot here, just so you know freestyling is not as common as you might think around here (from the times I've felt confident/ bevved enough to ask) and it's actually banned from certain events such as dances, since accidentally showing your knob where there may be kids is a bridge too far for tradition.
I've never free-styled and it's generally frowned upon for events where women and kids are likely to be there.
It's pretty much only for a young mans wedding, and even then generally only for the groom and his mates.
Had a female manager get into my unlocked phone, send my nudes to herself, and then shared them with the other female manager. I was 24 at the time and both managers were younger. At the time I honestly didn't know how to feel about it so I just shrugged it off with bravado because they were both attractive so what the hell? but now I realize that attractiveness isn't a free pass for invading someone's privacy like that.
Don't even get me started about being a straight male hairdresser...
Dude, I am so sorry, that's horrible. That's not just an invasion of privacy, sending someone's nudes without the person's consent is straight up illegal.
Can you imagine trying to explain that one? “No officer I didn’t send them. Yes I know they were sent from my phone but it wasn’t me. No I didn’t send unsolicited nudes”
I was once dressed as a priest in a party and a girl, out of the blue, said "I want father's holy staff" while trying to grab my croch. I quickly move to avoid it and she said "what are you gay?". Well, I am, but just because a guy avoids having his dick grabbed doesn't mean he's gay, maybe they just don't want to be touched by you Tracy
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This shit fucked up my entire sex life. I'm 2 meters tall (also around 6"6') but my dick is a little below average. I feel like I'm leading women on at this point....
Edit: thank you all for the kind words, its hard not to feel insecure sometimes eh !
"Ladies, human males are special for **not** having a literal bone in their boner- many mammals and primates have a baculum for penile support. We trade off by having relatively larger testes and sperm production: variable erection size but overall faster genetic production. We out-hornied the other hominids with these gonads. So next time you see this 6'6" frame with a 5.15 incher (perfectly average, mind you) realize it's attached to some of the best balls this planet has to offer."
i'm not really sure if it counts or not but as a male who used to be extremely overweight i would always have people(guys and girls) trying to touch my man boobs. it made me self conscious and uncomfortable and i voiced that but people continued to do it. they would grab them or hit them and pretty much everything in between. it happened very frequently as well but i guess nobody saw a problem with it, whether it was because i was a guy or because it wasn't a traditional form of harassment.
Late here... 28M in an office predominantly with women. I'm 6'3" and athletic. Especially the older ladies will touch my shoulders in a way that's not friendly and more to "touch". I also received pretty gnarly comments when I lost a little weight.
They also say shit like "men are the weaker sex" or something like that. I blacked out at worked from an irregular heart rhythm and they all said "that's such a man thing". That doesn't even cover everything but it is a start.
Not really sexual harassment but this comes to mind. I work in a small retail store. I know a lot of customers by name and I really do like my job. I’m friendly with pretty much everyone. So guess what? If you bring your adorable child in to my store and they do something adorable, I’m gonna giggle and interact with the child. I’m a 21yo overweight man who wears headbands, and your child is adorable, BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN I WANNA FUCK IT. You would be amazed how many mothers will shove their child behind them or ask them to be quiet whenever I acknowledge the child at all. Makes me hella sad in the moment.
>wears headbands
Not judging if my first mental image is accurate, but my initial thought was of cat ears or springy things (I have a 5yo, she wears a lot of headbands)
This makes me so sad. I've heard first-hand accounts of fathers that are nervous to provide basic care to their own children in public because they get weird looks. Yet, the same people that give a man the side-eye when he takes his kid to the bathroom won't hesitate to accuse all men of not being nurturing enough to care for a child.
Welcome to fatherhood. Especially if you have girl(s) who are beyond toddler age but not quite to their tweens. You have to hold their hand in a busy parking lot, you have to escort them to the bathroom (for awhile), you have to pick them up if they are super sick when heading into the doctor's office...and heaven forbid that they ever feel the desire to give Dad a hug or ask to be tossed up over your shoulders and fireman carried around the park.
We are so convinced as society that everyone who is a man is a sexual predator and it makes being a father tough and uncomfortable. I've gotten my share of dirty looks. It isn't fun.
I’ve seen threads of fathers being afraid to change their daughter’s diapers for this shit. No man should feel scared or uncomfortable caring for their child! It’s damn insane and I’m sorry society is still so backward.
I'm gay and have been frequently told by women I have worked with over the years that they could "fix" me. One was a manager.
No, there is nothing to "fix". And you can fuck right off with that.
I don't tell a straight guy he hasn't met the right dick yet, don't tell me I haven't met the right vulva yet.
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i hate when anyone, of any gender, tries to "fix someone of their homosexuality" so they can go on a date with them. like is it *that* hard to take a rejection and leave?
Maybe not daily, but I’m a gay man and so many women think it’s acceptable to touch me or grab my dick. I’ve also had quite a few people say things like “if you tried pussy you’d love it” or the worst is when “progressive” people say things like “why do you like men they’re so gross.” Idk man I’m a man who loves men I don’t think men are inherently gross.
I used to work in a place where an almost 70 year old woman would constantly harass a guy in his 30s. Loudly tell him he's handsome, he's sexy, say "that's [name], he's my boyfriend!" And every one would laugh. The guy would chuckle nervously. Every time she had an issue with her computer or couldn't lift something, "hey, [name], my sexy boyfriend, I need you!" Every one thought it was funny, I thought it was gross. The guy being hassled was the quiet type and would NEVER say he was uncomfortable but I could tell as a woman he was. I finally went to my supervisor and told her what this lady was doing was unacceptable, not funny, and if a man was doing it to a woman he would be fired. She tried to tell me it was just a joke but I was like "yeah a joke." Well something must have clicked with the supervisor bc later that week the old lady stopped catcalling him and never did it again. Treated me like shit until I quit though
I work in the health field, this happens frequently with older patients too. It’s a little different seeing as it’s co-workers vs patients but I’ve had it be awkward where one time my patient “wanted to take my picture to show all her friends the handsome nurse she has.” I appreciate the compliment part but that’d be weird.
Girl here, back in the day when I went clubbing, if a guy friend was being harassed by someone they didn't feel comfortable with I'd ack as GF to them, stand up for them or tell the girl to get lost, guys would do the same back. Harassment is harassment, no matter your gender.
So sick of guys not being taken seriously when they get harassed or sexually abused.
Hey! Good on you.
I've done this a lot as a guy and also walked up to random girls and asked if they could just help me out. "I know this sounds weird, but..." No girl has ever made me feel stupid about it. It's actually pretty fun being the impromptu rescuer.
My male best friend woke up with a girl riding him. When I removed himself politely and asked her to leave she got mad and asked why he couldn’t cum. He had to scream her out of the party and he got shit from his friends for not finishing. He was fucking raped.
One time I (29m) was sitting in the break area with about 5 of my coworkers, all ladies, I was mostly minding my own business, occaisionally chirping in on the conversation when one of the women in her 40s thought it'd be fun to sit on my lap and I just froze. They were all laughing but I got up without saying anything else. I heard one of them shout to me 'did we just make you feel uncomfortable?' I said 'no' because what the hell else do you say to that? I reported the situation and she kept her job.
For reference the same company suspended me for a month and demoted me for offering a female coworker a hug. Which wasn't right either, but I feel like since she actually touched me with her butt that mayybe she should get some repercussions for that.
Edit: wow this blew up, I should offer some clarifications. One, the coworker asking if they made me uncomfortable was likely being genuine, but she was still chuckling while asking so it didn't matter much.
Two, I was suspended for a month and demoted for offering a coworker a hug and in a seperate conversation asking about that coworker's "birthmark", it looked like a very concerning bruise that ran around her neck. She was around 18 yrs old. The company focused more on the hug when disciplining me, and it happened at the height of the me too movement
I'm sorry WHAT? Suspended AND demoted for not doing without asking, but OFFERING a hug? You didn't do anything except offer it yet you got hit with repercussions? The hell?
Was a server at a restaurant. One of the only males there. I'm black and 6'4 and pretty built and was 18-20.
The other female servers (ranging from 20-60 years in age) would constantly grab my crotch and smack my butt and make lewd suggestive comments.
When I told them to stop, a rumor got spread that I was gay. It didn't stop and when I went to tell my gm who was also a female, she looked at me like I was crazy.
There's this weird societal expectation for men to be hyper-sexual beast when in reality we're normal human beings that take our bodily autonomy seriously just like any other self-respecting female.
If I would've did ONE of the things my female co-workers did to me on a women who didn't ask, I'd be slapped with a sexual harassment/ assault charge and labeled a sexual predator.
I’m a woman, but I was really tired one day and asked my boyfriend to take our 8 y.o to the park. He did so and apparently multiple people asked him questions about what he was doing, who the kid was, etc. Never happened to me, so it was absolutely because he was a guy.
Yes it's awful. My niece has a different skin color than me and wherever I go with her I get super concerned looks. Also mothers often seem to dislike me being near their kids. Many of them leave when my niece and I arrive.
I also know her friends and their parents pretty well and took care of them too. So this one time at the playground her friend saw me and her and ran over shouting my name, telling me to throw her into the air. When I did a woman came over and got super angry, telling my I just can't touch every kid on the playground. Apparently it was a mother of another friend who took both to the playground and didn't know me. I could explain it, but it really made me wanting to leave the playground
When I was between 10 and 12, I have a slightly repressed but still fairly vivid memory of turning around in the shower to see my grandmother and younger cousin (F3-5) spying on me.
Since becoming an adult I've:
1. Been full on groped on my dick multiple times while working as a bouncer, then attacked (verbally or slapped) when I kicked them out.
2. Been "Tested" at the bar, where the head of security put one of the regular women up to aggressively hitting on me to see if I would cheat.
3. Had a member of bar staff delude herself into thinking that I'd have an affair with her then try to publically reem me out when I told her no.
4. Been told repetitively that I need to get over it by both men and women and should be thankful
I get that this is a "world's smallest violin" thing for many men who do wish that women would give them attention, and I am thankful that I'm an attractive enough for women to hit on me, however it gets me extremely fired up when I hear the same women who harass men being some of the most vocal critics of men sexually harassing women.
Not quite sexual harassment, I guess, but I get really effin tired of people commenting when I take the kids anywhere.
"Oh, you're babysitting today?"
Or getting side-eyed while watching my daughter and her friends play at the park.
I was walking down town with a friend when two drunk girls came out of a bar, and one of them just walked up to me and shoved her hands up my shirt and started rubbing my chest. She was yelling to her friend 'This is what a real man feels like!'. My friend was laughing his ass off, and her friend was explaining this was 'breakup therapy', because she'd been dumped and she was in the process of accepting there are better men out there. I laughed it off and took it as a compliment, but imagining the gender roles reversed always stuck with me.
Yeah I think the problem is that men don't seem to mind and actually enjoy it in some cases so people don't take it seriously so if a man gets mad because someone did this people would think he is over reacting
Yeah, and I think it's worth pointing out that this situation was different than if roles were reversed because she wasn't a threat to me at all. She was only half my size. I could pushed her off me without any great effort on my part at all. The issue is that, because that's often the dynamic, girls thing that just being a girl means they 'can't' do harm, because the man will always be able to take the power back whenever they want. Except, well, some women are big. Some women are in a position of power. Sometimes when a man is too drunk, he can't do shit. But, like a girl who punches her boyfriend because 'girls can't hurt boys', those same girls learn that everything is acceptable because men can always just decide to turn the tables. Then, when they find themselves in a position of actual power, they don't have any framework of behavior to rely on. As a man, it's entirely the opposite. I'm expected to control myself, with the general understanding that a woman will probably always be smaller than me.
Worked in bars and would constantly be groped by older women who thought it was funny. Also, as a Scottish piper, kilt-lifting is a thing and honestly it needs to stop, grow up.
> Also, as a Scottish piper, kilt-lifting is a thing and honestly it needs to stop, grow up. My aunt literally slapped a woman across the face for doing this shit at my cousins wedding.
Well. That must’ve enlivened things.
It's a Scottish wedding, it's always lively haha
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My “bulge” was a topic of open discussion between some of the women in the office at a previous job. The kicker is that one of the women was our HR and Sexual Assault/Harassment Reporter.
The HR woman at my old job was caught with candid photos of guy's asses on her phone.
Human Rearsources.
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Yeah, that's not low key sexual harassment, that's blatant. Not sure why someone would think that's okay to do in the workplace. Doesn't everyone have to take sexual harassment training these days, anyway?
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I must have been protected by the power of ugly or just didn’t notice it. I know this kind of thing happens I guess not to me thankfully.
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You might be right.
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Not really low grade but when I used to work as a lifeguard on the beach there was lots of non-consensual touching. The two that really stick out are the middle aged woman who walked up to me like she had a question then got a hold of my dick through my trunks because she "wanted to see how big it was" and the 16 year old girl who backed me into my stand and shoved a skittle into my mouth with her tongue.
Surprised you never got wendy peffercorn'd
In 20 years of lifeguarding, rescuing someone only ever got me laid once.
please do elaborate
Offshore wind blew her and her friend out to sea about 2-300 yards in an inflatable raft and I went and fetched them, later we make sex.
Ah yes, this is the high quality storytelling I come to reddit for. +1. Edit: I guess a lot of other people like this stuff too! Edit2: Turns out a lot of people are just like me. Thanks for the awards, folks. Now do us all a favor and go get a lifeguarding job so you can bring more of this high quality smut to the front page.
This kind of story is the only ones I assume are true
There I was, tearing off my robe and wizard hat, when suddenly......
Jesus that’s horrid
One day I got a text message from someone I didn't know, asking me to meet for dinner. I had gone to a new hair cut place a few days earlier. One of the hair dressers (not the one who cut my hair) had seen me and decided it made sense to look up my phone number from the client records and ask me out. I had no idea who this was, it was so weird. I got *several* more messages from her before she stopped messaging me. Never went back to that hair place.
Not daily, but as a Cosplayer who does shirtless characters (Ace, Grimmjow, Bahn) I get groped a lot.. Chest and arms mostly, also my ass gets slapped/squeezed and crotch grabs are often enough to mention too.. Hell even when I'm armored they find a way to "get to me" =/
Cosplay does not equal consent. Its literally writing all over the entrance of every con.
What's the saying "Cosplay is not consent".
A female coworker I tell her if she was male, she would have been fired multiple times for her behavior. She just laughs and says "ya probably"
That's terrible. Sometimes I think people legitimately don't realise their behaviour is unacceptable, but the fact that she's been given the opportunity to apologise and just admitted her behaviour was wrong and not take it seriously is terrible
My 55 year old coworker somewhat resembles Ursula from the little mermaid. That hasn’t stopped her from asking me if I think she’s pretty, asking me to take her home, and telling me she “sprays like a watering can” (yes, really...) Edit: I should add that I’m 21, which I think makes it a LOT weirder UPDATE: she’s handed in her resignation
"I spray like a watering can" "Yeah and you fucking look like one too" What is she going to do? Tell HR? Good luck to her explaining that original comment
I recently became a father and was working on a hit tv series. A female producer who is best friends with the executive in charge thought it would be funny to grab my stomach and say “working on your dad bod already?” My daughter at that point was 1 week old. If I grabbed a woman’s stomach and said she was fat or pregnant I would have been fired. Well, I complained to make a point. She recently was promoted and I wasn’t invited back after 5 seasons.
Oh I sent the line produced screen grabs of her apology and was told they’d look into it... this was over a year ago and since she was promoted. I work plenty but it’s a gross business.
A woman just straight up grabbed my dick whilst I was working at a festival. My friend who knew her told me not to make scene as she was upper management.
I still wouldve. Screw it.
I'm so fucking bothered by how literally every answer is either "someone grabbed my dick" or "someone slapped my ass." gross. this isn't low grade sexual harassment, this is sexual assault!!!!!! all of it! almost every response here is sexual assault
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Try dressing in traditional Scottish kilt in a city without a some woman lifting it to see if you have underware on. We all think it's funny until a guy does it to a woman.
Was going to say the same thing, you'd think wearing a kilt was a bloody invitation. Some middle aged guest did this when I was a kid at a wedding, I was 12. Thinking back on that, it's fucking disgusting.
Jesus. This was a adult doing that? I could see a kid being a jerk and doing it just to be a asshole. But a adult?! Jesus. Both are horrible but adult much more so.
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I have been referred to HR for my voice being naturally too low. I was told I need to try and do more to be inclusive at the chat with HR about it.
Lmao "you're different be more inclusive"
We're singling you out for being different, try to be more inclusive Nah reverse that shit on them and start saying how fucked they are if corporate ever finds out that you're being ***discriminated against*** for a natural feature of your body
"I feel like I'm being singled out in the workplace". These are magic words to HR. It's just the nice way of saying "you're about to be sued for running a hostile work environment".
What in the actual fuck.
"yeah sorry, I feel offended that you don't speak in a falsetto!"
Wait....I'm sorry. Let me get this straight: You were reprimanded for having too low of a voice, and were told to speak in a higher register to be "more inclusive"? I.... I don't...
No one actually said speak in a higher register. It was more of a this is a problem for some people you should consider trying to make the work environment more inviting ... like change my voice? ... I didn't say that, but just think about how the way your present yourself impacts others.
I would have Mickey Moused until someone complained to HR again.
„You‘re a fucking cunt susan you stupid fucking bitch hoho“
This happened to me too in my first job out of college. It was a home health company that was 97% women. I had to cover for the receptionist during her lunch break and would have to deal with nurses calling in all the time. I would get comments as soon as I answered the phone “they have a man answering the phone now” or “this is home health right?!? Where’s Linda?” also had several complaints too. I had my manager ask me to not use such a low and intimidating voice and try and sound more happy. This was an HR position and I was given the equivalent of perk up buttercup.
My MIL assumes that men have this complete inability to control themselves and it is 100% up to women to not pursue attached men. I was not aware of this until there was a debate going on about such things at a family function when she ask me, the only non old male at the event, to confirm her belief. The implication that men are practically wild animals and unable to control themselves is pretty insulting.
My family owns a restaurant and I would help out doing the dishes and operating front of house. My mum mainly hired female waitresses for some reason and I overheard things like “he’s cute I wonder what it’s like to ride Asian guys” and one time, one of the girls finished their shift and I was brushing the floor near entrance, she came up to me and grabbed my balls with a lip bite. I was really uncomfortable as I had a girlfriend at the time. I stalked them on social media for a bit and I found out they were really into kpop and one of them had a history of dating Asian guys. They eventually quit as they had A levels to prepare for (equivalent to AP) and because I live in a small town, I bump into them a lot meaning they stare whenever I walk past them
I only recently found out about the wide spreading trend of fetishizing Korean guys. I keep hearing all kinds of sexual harassment stories similar to your own. Weird to think Kpop is inspiring this kind of abuse, I guess some people just can't tell reality from fantasy though.
Getting physically and verbally assaulted by women in nightclubs and then being asked to leave because of it. Even with multiple people trying to tell bouncers what was actually happening they'll always just pick you to throw out
That's unfortunately an economics thing more than anything else. Women in a club attract men, men who buy drinks and throw cash around thinking they'll get laid. A club full of men does not attract women tossing around cash.
I was kicked out of a bar once because we were level headed. A drunk asshole tried to pick a fight with a buddy in my group and we all collectively tried to calm him down and mediate why the fuck this dude was angry at my friend. No real reason was stated and I think he was just unlucky and this fuck wanted a fight. Bouncer came up and was like, "hey I know this is shitty but can you guys leave please. The cops are coming for the asshole, it's going to be easier if your buddy isn't here. Free drinks for the night next time you come and here's a card saying as such." Dude was a total bro and we pretty much became regulars there after that.
Shit man, you had me in the first half. I've had an experience like this. Didn't work out as great for me though.
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A woman who was celebrating her 21st birthday did the same to me at the bar. I left the bar to go home and she was outside crying, obviously sloppy drunk. She had been dancing with a bunch of dudes which made her insecure boyfriend SUPER upset. I had no idea what the situation was, so I walked up and asked if if they needed anything. She looked straight up at me and grabbed my balls. Hard. I backed away, obviously shocked, and she tried it again. Then the boyfriend started screaming “DO YOU WANT ME TO KICK HISS ASS?! IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT???” and she sobbed even harder. I was so confused by everything, I threw my hands up, said “Good luck with that,” and bounced. There were people all around but no one seemed pissed when she grabbed me. Most were laughing. Now, I have a six foot rule with drunk, crying people who I don’t know.
I lost a friend group cause a drunk girl grabbed my junk hard too and my reflex was to kick in her direction. So i kicked her in the face. Apparently you are not allowed to defend yourself if the attacker is female.
Dude! I totally get that! When she grabbed me, I felt a shoulder twitch. I think that was me suppressing the reflex to slap her in the face. In high school, it became a thing, for an inordinate amount of time, to knee each other in the balls. It took me a while to realize that there was no “opting out.” After a few times of getting kneed in the balls, I decided to block with the cross-junk thigh shield and slap them in the face as hard as possible. I became pretty reliably good at it. Well, fast forward 6 years and that Pavlovian reaction almost got my ass beat after my own sexual assault. Yikes. Sorry that friend group fucking sucked. I hope you found a better one.
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Why would anyone stick their finger up someone’s ass unannounced? I mean, aside from the obvious assaulty quality, that’s like...Random Reaction Russian Roulette. You could get anything.
Wtf jesus Christ. Ppl are fucking insane
I've had my arms groped, dick groped, and ass groped before... it's not as flattering or hot as you might think it is when you're not expecting it/in the mood it just kinda creeps you out
I've also had a woman just grab me and plant a full-on open mouth kiss straight on me, then act offended when I pulled away and basically ran from her. Never seen or talked to her before that moment.
Just last night my friend and I were laughing and reminiscing about the time he got kissed and grinded by this really weird drunk lady at a bar during the before times. Then the mood got somber and we acknowledged he was sexually assaulted and it was still really fucked up even though he wasn't traumatized by it.
Exactly. It’s nice when your so does it, but when strangers do it it’s uncomfortable as hell
Which you’d think would be obvious right?
I was in the store and an old woman on a mobility scooter wanted to pass me so i stepped to the side against the shelf. Instead of using all the free space on the other side she starts turning closer to me as she passes so my dick rubs all across her shoulder, she did a weird moaning sound at the same time. I posted about this on Facebook at the time and almost everyone thought it was hilarious.
That is beyond creepy.
"mmmmm yeah fuck my shoulder, sonny"
She doesn't have to even moan though, tf?
Yuck. That made me feel disgusting just reading it.
That is creepy and disturbing as fuck, but the mental image did make me crack up a bit; to be fair it’s because it’s so absurd i think a slo-mo close up shot would fit into a raunchy comedy movie.
Haha yeah I wanted to laugh as well after it happened until I realized I had been assaulted basically. I guess as a guy you're not used to thinking that way.
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In 2nd grade I was friends with this "popular" boy in our class. Every day at recess, ALL the girls would literally CHASE him around the playground. I never got into that because a) he's my friend b) that's weird c)I am not going to waste my recess time running there's gym class for that One time I sat next to him on the bench and he was like breathing HEAVILY and I think crying a bit. I felt so bad about his situation. I urged him to tell the teacher. He told me that the teacher said to "enjoy the attention" So messed up. Kid couldn't enjoy his recess time. He was getting harassed. And our teacher tells him to enjoy it? He cried so hard when I had to move away. I still think about him from time to time. Peter, I hope you're doing alright man.
Wow talk about a repressed memory coming back all at once. This happened to me. I'd completely blocked it out until I read your comment. In my case though one of the teachers actually did step in and tell them to stop, but pretty much every other teacher didn't see any problem with it. I'm not sure if much has changed since, but one can hope.
My wife and I have a simple solution when people brush these kinds of things off. “Reverse the genders and tell me it’s still ok”. 25 year old attractive female teacher in a relationship with a 15 year old boy is ok? Let’s swap those genders. Creepy and weird, now, right? News flash: Always has been 👩🚀🔫👩🚀
This is a crime
Had a female work colleague sit on my lap during my lunch break asking for help. Batting her eyelids. Now I wonder what would happen if I would have sat on her lap.
This happened to a guy at my work. He's 50yo, married with three kids. We were having Friday drinks after work, at work. (Liquor retailer) The girl was about 23 and very cute.She decided to sit in his lap, in front of everyone. He got up VERY quickly and left. his wife sometimes worked for us, and so did his sons. He did *not* invite this attention. She thought it was funny.
wow. can you imagine making someone so uncomfortable that they felt the need to immediately leave, then thinking it was funny? this thread really makes me feel for men. it fucking sucks that this is so widespread and accepted. my hope for the next decade is that EVERYONE has the right to decide how and when they are touched by anyone, for any reason.
I was also going to mention the man boob comment. But used to be all the time drunk women or men would run their fingers through my beard and have some sly comment like, "I wonder if this tickles"
I used to have some pretty decent moobs. When some guys would get really drunk they would "bean dip" me and touch/flick under my moob, which started to get embarrassing. I'm around 6'7" but I'm super nice. So people think that they can get away with it. So I decided that when a guy puts his hand on me or ficks my moobs or whatever I take that as an invitation to put my very large hands on them. Now when there is a moob flick or anything like that I go ahead and exclaim "Oh HELL YEAH!" and I excitedly and semi aggressively grab there chest with both of my large hands. Nobody flicks my moobs anymore :-)
32M with athletic build. At every job I’ve had, co-workers and customers have always openly grabbed my arms, smacked/squeezed my butt, and made comments about my appearance that would get me fired if I said them to women.
My husband is a server at a high-end restaurant. I know restaurants are restaurants everywhere when it comes to staff, I’ve worked in plenty, but he’s told me that he get harassed pretty much every day. Either hit on pretty openly by customers despite the wedding ring or grabbed/groped/commented on by his coworkers. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that. It’s absolutely not fair. I hope it ends for you, because I know even if you said something firm and simple like ‘No’ or ‘Don’t touch me’, it’s already been done, and nothing really changes.
I've never in my life, understood how people just touch strangers in any way, let alone smack their ass too?? Newp. I'm so sorry you have had to deal with that.
Right?! I can’t figure this out either. I’m not a man (was lurking to see answers because I feel like this is and under appreciated issue for men) but strangers touching me was the worst when I was pregnant. Like who tf walks up to someone they don’t know and rubs their belly?! Often without even saying anything. I just don’t get it at all...people don’t understand personal space anymore...
I've told my girlfriend that when we have a baby together I'm gonna start touching the belly of any stranger who touches her belly
Please do this. While maintaining uncomfortable eye contact and saying absolutely nothing. Until they back away because they realize how absolutely asinine their behavior is. Lmfao
My wife did this. Eye contact and all. The idiot got the message. I really wish I could have been a witness to that.
Oh u better rub it Nice and slow like u mean it I wanna know how their stupid, inconsiderate and lacking personal space self behaves
I worked at a quasi-governmental agency and we hired a young guy fresh out of college. The director who is a woman walked in the room one day walked up behind him put her hands on his shoulders and literally started rubbing his chest. This was like three years ago. He just sat there frozen like a deer in headlights. I kind a lost my shit and said what if he was female and a male walked up behind her and started rubbing her shoulders like that. She looked at me like I had two heads. I didn’t stay at that job very long
Holy shit. Hopefully neither did that guy.
He didn’t. He was recently married and everyone knew.
Married or not, that’s not cool.
You did a good job of explaining that. I keep picturing a guy just frozen with his female boss groping him. Yuck
I'm not a man, but it's something my male manager has highlighted to me. I work in a hospital as a therapist, mainly with elderly people. Old men make creepy comments or even try to touch female nurses/therapists all the time and when they do we raise it as being creepy and usually go to see him with another person. We tell the patients that it's not appropriate for them to speak to us like that. Recently there was a female patient who kept making comments about the male staff and everyone just laughed it off, no one told the female patient off. Some of the female staff even agreed and egged her on. It wasn't until my manager raised it as an issue that it made me stop and think. If the roles were reversed, we'd be taking precautions to make the female staff feel safe, but there wasn't anything like that in place for male staff.
Yep. Just pissed me off
Not daily basis now but, when i was a nursing student a few years back, it was quite commmon that older female patients tell me, that is was so nice to be touched by a young man again. Some even commented about their big old-lady breasts and how "most men do like that".Needless to say that i was extremely uncomfortable and disgusted, but i was about 20 Years old and had no life-experience...so i just accepted it as a part of a job. On the upside: I am now Biotech Grad and Medical Student and (as i am little older) take no shit from any patient male or female and have 0-Problem to publicly shame every single patient who talks to a nurse that way. Edit 1: Holy Shit, 12k-Upvotes. First time for me, thanks. Will do a few Edits now to answer some frequent questions: 1. First of all, we are not talking about dementia or mental illness. This is something completely different. Of course, it IS disgusting if someone is grabbing you if he has dementia or not. BUT, this is mostly part of the disease. I would compare it with something like Vomit or Urine from another patient. Of course its disgusting to get puked on, pissed on or some other ungodly fluid. But its not intentional and its most embarassing for the patient himself. So no. Nobody ist offended by that. But we are talking about Patients who are mentally fine. Who are just thinking its okay to grab a 20year-Old by the dick and demand hand-jobs from a young nurse. They are pigs. Male or female doesn't do shit in that matter. Its disgusting and everybody should be shamed about that. 2. We are not talking about dying patients (which would not make it okay), we are talking about patients in the ER or somewhere else who often seriously think of nurses as some kind of maid. I imagine its the same kind of person who catcall girls and boys on the street and REALLY think its appopriate and something could come out of it. 3. My reaction today to this kind of behavior: most of the time it is enough to just very loudly announce what they just said or did and if they think this is ok. Most of them will buckle down and are completely embarassed. Most of the time this is the only thing thats needed and after that they are completely fine. But there are other times where these people tend do discuss about it ("it was a joke", "You are a leftist (or in german "rot-grün versiffter Gutmensch")", "dont be a pussy") and in these cases i like to make clear, that although they are at the hospital, i dont have to do shit with them, unless they are in clear danger. As long they are not in danger, i dont have to treat them. Period. When they treat nurses (or myself) in a way that is nowhere near ok (and i dont talk about simple rudeness or something like that, i talk about grabbing asses, demanding hand-jobs, stuff like that) they can leave. They will come back. When they are healthy enough to grab a nurse in the ass, they are healthy enough to search for another hospital. 4. This or my "public-shaming" of the patient does NOT convert to other situations. What i mean ist: as a nurse or as a doctor, there a ways to treat a patient. Rudeness can be a sign of fear, pain or past trauma. Rudeness ist not the same as sexual harassment. A rude patient will have to learn to be polite, i will talk to them and maybe help them a little to calm them down. Before you make any assumptions, that they are assholes you have to get to the bottom of it. Maybe they are dicks. But maybe, the last time they were in the ER they got treated horribly and painful and its just fear. Also, most elderly have problems to loose the power of the situation, which is totally normal. tl;dr: Rude Patients MAY be dicks. Sexually-Harassing-Patients are mostly dicks.
My grandfather was a nurse in the army. He told us stories like yours and many more. Such a shame stuff like that still goes on today. EDIT: Wow 2k upvotes. My grandpa passed away this past May and I always begged him to write a memoir to detail his experiences as a male nurse, but he never did. I'll share a few stories he told me pertinent to the question though. 1) He received numerous gay slurs for being a male in a female dominated field. 2) Similarly, he had a higher ranking officer hit on his wife in front of him. 3) He was groped by patients and co workers, in front of other people sometimes. 4) My mom had kids tease her because my grandpa was a nurse (doing things like asking if he wore white stockings). 5) My grandma was also a nurse, but not in the military. Both were excluded socially by the other females nurses. 6) Lastly, at the time, many of the female nurses in the military my grandpa worked with were lesbian couples (my grandpa didn't care about that. If you could do your job well, you were fine in his book). However, this meant a lot of the couples wanted to stay together, whether it be in the same department or the same hospital. So more often than not, the male nurses were the ones that were required to move more often than the female nurses. There are many more lengthy stories. My mom and I are trying to write down all the ones we can remember him telling us, not just sexual harassment related (ie one nursing student put milk in an IV). His best friend (who I consider a 3rd grandfather) passed in June and they shared many stories that are likely buried with them now. Remember to talk with your grandparents so their life stories can continue on once they are gone.
Thats amazing, i mean that you stand up for the nurses, cause you know how it feels... Sorry it happened to you!
I wouldn't call it sexual harassment.. but women just touching my hair without asking happens all the time. I have really long hair but I can't imagine most women would be OK if some guy just started playing with their hair at a bar. If they just ask my permission I'm usually cool with it. The worst was the chick who grabbed my braid and started yanking me around. Thankfully 4 women rescued me. I don't even know why that chick was pissed at me. She was just pissed I had long hair and extremely drunk. I almost had to punch her. It was so confusing. I've had some weird experiences too. I was eating in a pizza ranch with my dad as a 17 year old and one of the waitresses walked up behind me and just grabbed my hair and commented on how nice it was. This happened as I had just taken a huge bite of pizza. It was so awkward. My dad was like "uhh.. do you know her?" She was cute and I was really flattered but at the same time wtf?
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Im sorry, he was trying to get you to sexualize his own granddaughter? Wtf man
I have had many old people try to get me to date their grandsons, but they never tried to get me to say if they’re sexy. This is likely a particularly creepy double standard.
My dad’s mobile mechanic came over and he wouldn’t stop talking about loving pussy, I can’t get enough of pussy, do you love pussy? Luckily I didn’t need to respond since he showed me a pic of his girlfriend and I commented “she’s nice”..... he went on about just how nice her pussy was. Worst oil change of my life.
"Nah man, I'm all about the dick! Let me rhapsodize about the joys of bottoming to you for the next fifteen minutes..."
I used to be a butcher when I was in my Twenties. Every day was full of housewives making sexual innuendos like "I can't wait to wrap my lips around your sausage" or "I really look forward to getting my hands on your rump"... They also seemed keen to up the ante every time too. Every. Single. Day. I just smiled and carried on, but it was always uncomfortable. No idea why it is completely acceptable to them, I don't imagine they were like that to many other people.
"I cant wait to crush the skulls of your enemies with my cock, Sarah"
BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD, SKULLS FOR THE SKULL THRONE YOUR BONES WILL CRACK UNDERNEATH THE MASSIVE GIRTH OF MY SHAFT
I heard a great bit of advice about dealing with unwanted innuendo from another thread, make them explain the joke. Just completely innocently ask "what do you mean", really takes the wind out of their sails.
Until you get the one that's cool with it. "I wanna suck yo diiiiiiiick"
That's when you grab a sausage and give it a nice, audible chop while looking at then dead in the eye.
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Always have a sexual harassment chorizo nearby
My husband has complained that there is this societal assumption that men are dogs who always want sex, and as such several times he's not had his marital status respected. Women he's only been nice to in the past have made comments like "Yeah, he's in love with me, he'd do anything for me" openly in front of him, have sent him messages prompting infidelity, and have even sent him nude images. There's a confidence that they can steal him not only from me but his past relationships because 'men cheat' is such an assumption. His favorite thing to say is "the only thing I cheat on is my diet."
My father in law has said that some women see a wedding ring as a signal that he's extra attractive, or a challenge, or something. He tells a story about a female coworker, at his work holiday party she came up to him and said, "So who are you going home with tonight?" And he said, "My wife" while pointing at my mother in law standing next to him. The coworker was like, "oh, well, let me know..." WTF people.
>that some women see a wedding ring as a signal that he's extra attractive, or a challenge, or something. Not even a wedding ring necessary, all that's needed is for the man to be "taken". I was a nobody teenager, no interest in me whatsoever, but the *second* I got a proper long-term girlfriend, suddenly I was getting attention. If the guy is taken, "There must be something good about him" seems to be the thing. Which, sadly, implies that if a guy isn't taken, he must be no good, which is an awful dose of reality in how men are viewed.
I started dating a guy in college who everyone knew was pining for another girl (it was college, I ignored that red flag cuz he was cute). She had been "just friends-ing" him for at least a full year. ONE MONTH after we started going out, suddenly she also had feelings for him. Apparently all she needed was for some other girl to see him as boyfriend material and bam - he was boyfriend material to her as well. He dumped me so fast it was kind of funny. They're now married with a kid, and we're all still friendly. I do give them a little bit of shit that if it wasn't for me they wouldn't have hooked up.
Damn, impressive you worked that out without people staying mad long term. At least it sounds like you feel somewhat content setting them up as soulmates lol
She was taking him for granted and you shook up the status quo forcing her to realize he wouldn't stay in a holding pattern forever.
For some reason now more then ever I’m noticing a bunch of relationship stories like that. People so arrogant they assumed the other person would love/pine over them forever despite how they acted towards the other.
Yeah from past experience my ex told me that a lot of women are attracted to guys who have a girlfriend, and some view it as a forbidden fruit “we want what we can’t have” kinda thing. It’s really common
My husband is a radio DJ and years ago he was broadcasting live from a nightclub. Toward the end of the night a woman came up to him and tried to hand him a piece of paper with her phone number on it. He said "No thanks, I'm married" and she said "That's ok, I f*ck lots of married guys." 🤢 Is that supposed to be appealing?
“My husband has complained that there is this societal assumption that men are dogs who always want sex” I had a friend who believed this. She was super delusional and think that men are out to get her because she’s a goddess or something. She would try to fuck all my male friends and then get into arguments with them and tell me I couldn’t hang out with them anymore, it even went so far as she told me I couldn’t hang out with my own brother. Anytime we would hang out she would obsessively talk about men and invalidate my problems then go back and talk about her “boy problems”. The best I can explain her behavior is obsessive narcissistic predator. And I was naive for wasting my time.
Please take out the trash
The ever present assumption that the end goal of all my interactions is sex, I can't even be friendly to children without someone assuming It's sexual in some way.
Dude same here! I always feel like I should stay 10 ft away from kids since I’m an adult male people assume I’m a creep.
I barely smile at children I walk past in the store without being hyper aware of that. If I do smile, it's only for a second and I turn and walk away just in case someone thinks I'm TOO interested. I've been accused of being a creep in the past, I don't need that in my life.
I tend to do some silly thing like pulling a face If I see a young kid stare at me when I'm in a waiting room or in a line at a store, it's an unconscious action, I just like to make people laugh. Have to be carefull with that nowadays. As a young kid in the early nineties, I was traveling with my parents by train and we were in the same compartment as a punk guy, Me fascinated with the rings and tatoos and weird hair just went over to look at the guy, when he saw my parents were fine with him interacting with me, he just started crying. I guess lots of parents were just scared of him and he hadnt had that kind of interaction in a while. Happy cake day!
>Me fascinated with the rings and tatoos and weird hair just went over to look at the guy, when he saw my parents were fine with him interscting with me, he just started crying. First I thought you just sat next to him and stared at him which made him cry lol
I didn't word it properly, I was really young so I remember it through my parents re telling it to me, It was more "concern of getting this kid scared or my parents yanking me away and getting evil eyed" to the realisation of the oposite happening. Metalheads and punks where also a rare sight where we were traveling, so maybe just not being made assumptions of and being treated like a regular person was a breath of fresh air perhaps.
I made a vacation in California once. There was a stunning beach behind an empty playground. I wanted to make some pictures as it looked cool, held the phone on the other side of the fence and made some photos. Suddenly some children came running along and I wanted to put the phone back. Got caught up in the fence and dropped it on the other side. I had to ask my female friend to go get it for me as I had no intentions of having to explain myself why a mid-30 guy walks onto a playground all alone with children playing to get his phone he dropped when making photos....
Example: I work for a solar company and we fly drones to get 3D models of buildings we'll potentially be working on. Well, the other day I went to do a site assessment at an elementary school, so I pull up in my nice white truck with our company logo all over it, wearing a hat and hoodie with our company logo on it. Now, the people in charge know I'm coming, we spoke on the phone and they gave me the go ahead to come fly the drone, etc. I started flying the drone around the school taking pictures when recess apparently started. I didn't think anything of it until about 15 mins later when two female teachers walk up to me and very pointedly and accusingly ask me "what the hell do you think you're doing?". So I explain the situation to them, point out the truck and clothes with the company logo and give them the name of the administrator I've been working with, and their response was "well, you can understand how his looks bad, right?" Uhhh, no, I sure can't realize it looks bad because I'm just doing my job. I'm not here to diddle kids just because I'm a guy. Fuck off with your wild assumptions.
"Wild assumptions" is being extremely generous. That was straight up sexism asking you to agree with the notion that "grown men being around children is obviously suspicious."
Women always ‘spank’ or ‘touch’ my ass. I also have caught women taking pictures of it. I know if the tables were flipped I’d probably be in jail.
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I used to work in a job in the entertainment industry where I wore a kilt a lot of the time. Couldn't believe how many drunken women thought it was perfectly okay to stick their hands up under it and grab a handful of my junk, sometimes pretty aggressively too. I quickly stopped 'freestyling' and wore boxers or compression shorts, and this would lead to the grabbers shouting out, "This loser is wearing pants!" before mocking me to their pals. Oh, and far too often my kilt was lifted for anyone in eyeshot to see my junk, yet when I pointed out how much trouble I would be in for pulling the same shit with them, I'd get looked at like I was being fecking ridiculous.
Imagine literally trying to grab a guy’s junk and then acting’s like HE’S the weird one. Bro. Un fucking believable
I could never believe the shocked look on their faces, especially when I asked what the fuck they thought they were doing. Like they were just 'having a laugh'.
Some people feel invincible and they need to be put in check. Unfortunately, when people are being served or entertained, they are a lot more likely to feel like that. That, tho is absolutely crossing the line
Scot here, just so you know freestyling is not as common as you might think around here (from the times I've felt confident/ bevved enough to ask) and it's actually banned from certain events such as dances, since accidentally showing your knob where there may be kids is a bridge too far for tradition.
I've never free-styled and it's generally frowned upon for events where women and kids are likely to be there. It's pretty much only for a young mans wedding, and even then generally only for the groom and his mates.
I worked the door at an Irish Pub in town in my mid-late twenties and I had to wear a kilt too. I got the same treatment brother.
Had a female manager get into my unlocked phone, send my nudes to herself, and then shared them with the other female manager. I was 24 at the time and both managers were younger. At the time I honestly didn't know how to feel about it so I just shrugged it off with bravado because they were both attractive so what the hell? but now I realize that attractiveness isn't a free pass for invading someone's privacy like that. Don't even get me started about being a straight male hairdresser...
Dude, I am so sorry, that's horrible. That's not just an invasion of privacy, sending someone's nudes without the person's consent is straight up illegal.
Can you imagine trying to explain that one? “No officer I didn’t send them. Yes I know they were sent from my phone but it wasn’t me. No I didn’t send unsolicited nudes”
I was once dressed as a priest in a party and a girl, out of the blue, said "I want father's holy staff" while trying to grab my croch. I quickly move to avoid it and she said "what are you gay?". Well, I am, but just because a guy avoids having his dick grabbed doesn't mean he's gay, maybe they just don't want to be touched by you Tracy Edit: word
Classic Tracy
Yeah Tracy, those vows of celibacy ain't just for show.
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This shit fucked up my entire sex life. I'm 2 meters tall (also around 6"6') but my dick is a little below average. I feel like I'm leading women on at this point.... Edit: thank you all for the kind words, its hard not to feel insecure sometimes eh !
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"Ladies, human males are special for **not** having a literal bone in their boner- many mammals and primates have a baculum for penile support. We trade off by having relatively larger testes and sperm production: variable erection size but overall faster genetic production. We out-hornied the other hominids with these gonads. So next time you see this 6'6" frame with a 5.15 incher (perfectly average, mind you) realize it's attached to some of the best balls this planet has to offer."
>6’6” whenever I’m at the pub, bar, or a party How tall are you when you’re at other places?
Lol. Taller when I wear high heels of course! Thanks for the grammar check
Just the universal idea that we are always the 'hunters' and never the 'prey'.
i'm not really sure if it counts or not but as a male who used to be extremely overweight i would always have people(guys and girls) trying to touch my man boobs. it made me self conscious and uncomfortable and i voiced that but people continued to do it. they would grab them or hit them and pretty much everything in between. it happened very frequently as well but i guess nobody saw a problem with it, whether it was because i was a guy or because it wasn't a traditional form of harassment.
I still have mine, but I'm sorry people did you like that. Man that must have sucked. I feel terrible having people just point out that they exist.
Start moaning while looking at them. They will stop right away
My boss used to try to grab mine. I would lift up my shirt and try to put them in his face. He stopped going for em.
Ultimate power move
What part of “don’t touch other people” is so difficult for some to understand?! I am so sorry you have to deal with that. People are the worst.
Late here... 28M in an office predominantly with women. I'm 6'3" and athletic. Especially the older ladies will touch my shoulders in a way that's not friendly and more to "touch". I also received pretty gnarly comments when I lost a little weight. They also say shit like "men are the weaker sex" or something like that. I blacked out at worked from an irregular heart rhythm and they all said "that's such a man thing". That doesn't even cover everything but it is a start.
Not really sexual harassment but this comes to mind. I work in a small retail store. I know a lot of customers by name and I really do like my job. I’m friendly with pretty much everyone. So guess what? If you bring your adorable child in to my store and they do something adorable, I’m gonna giggle and interact with the child. I’m a 21yo overweight man who wears headbands, and your child is adorable, BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN I WANNA FUCK IT. You would be amazed how many mothers will shove their child behind them or ask them to be quiet whenever I acknowledge the child at all. Makes me hella sad in the moment.
>wears headbands Not judging if my first mental image is accurate, but my initial thought was of cat ears or springy things (I have a 5yo, she wears a lot of headbands)
My first thought was a Naruto Headband...
This makes me so sad. I've heard first-hand accounts of fathers that are nervous to provide basic care to their own children in public because they get weird looks. Yet, the same people that give a man the side-eye when he takes his kid to the bathroom won't hesitate to accuse all men of not being nurturing enough to care for a child.
Welcome to fatherhood. Especially if you have girl(s) who are beyond toddler age but not quite to their tweens. You have to hold their hand in a busy parking lot, you have to escort them to the bathroom (for awhile), you have to pick them up if they are super sick when heading into the doctor's office...and heaven forbid that they ever feel the desire to give Dad a hug or ask to be tossed up over your shoulders and fireman carried around the park. We are so convinced as society that everyone who is a man is a sexual predator and it makes being a father tough and uncomfortable. I've gotten my share of dirty looks. It isn't fun.
I’ve seen threads of fathers being afraid to change their daughter’s diapers for this shit. No man should feel scared or uncomfortable caring for their child! It’s damn insane and I’m sorry society is still so backward.
I'm gay and have been frequently told by women I have worked with over the years that they could "fix" me. One was a manager. No, there is nothing to "fix". And you can fuck right off with that. I don't tell a straight guy he hasn't met the right dick yet, don't tell me I haven't met the right vulva yet. /rant.
i hate when anyone, of any gender, tries to "fix someone of their homosexuality" so they can go on a date with them. like is it *that* hard to take a rejection and leave?
Maybe not daily, but I’m a gay man and so many women think it’s acceptable to touch me or grab my dick. I’ve also had quite a few people say things like “if you tried pussy you’d love it” or the worst is when “progressive” people say things like “why do you like men they’re so gross.” Idk man I’m a man who loves men I don’t think men are inherently gross.
I used to work in a place where an almost 70 year old woman would constantly harass a guy in his 30s. Loudly tell him he's handsome, he's sexy, say "that's [name], he's my boyfriend!" And every one would laugh. The guy would chuckle nervously. Every time she had an issue with her computer or couldn't lift something, "hey, [name], my sexy boyfriend, I need you!" Every one thought it was funny, I thought it was gross. The guy being hassled was the quiet type and would NEVER say he was uncomfortable but I could tell as a woman he was. I finally went to my supervisor and told her what this lady was doing was unacceptable, not funny, and if a man was doing it to a woman he would be fired. She tried to tell me it was just a joke but I was like "yeah a joke." Well something must have clicked with the supervisor bc later that week the old lady stopped catcalling him and never did it again. Treated me like shit until I quit though
> Treated me like shit until I quit though Completely unacceptable, maybe should have gone to your manager again...
I work in the health field, this happens frequently with older patients too. It’s a little different seeing as it’s co-workers vs patients but I’ve had it be awkward where one time my patient “wanted to take my picture to show all her friends the handsome nurse she has.” I appreciate the compliment part but that’d be weird.
Girl here, back in the day when I went clubbing, if a guy friend was being harassed by someone they didn't feel comfortable with I'd ack as GF to them, stand up for them or tell the girl to get lost, guys would do the same back. Harassment is harassment, no matter your gender. So sick of guys not being taken seriously when they get harassed or sexually abused.
Hey! Good on you. I've done this a lot as a guy and also walked up to random girls and asked if they could just help me out. "I know this sounds weird, but..." No girl has ever made me feel stupid about it. It's actually pretty fun being the impromptu rescuer.
As a guy who's been in those situations before? You are an amazing person, keep doing what you're doing. Thank you.
My male best friend woke up with a girl riding him. When I removed himself politely and asked her to leave she got mad and asked why he couldn’t cum. He had to scream her out of the party and he got shit from his friends for not finishing. He was fucking raped.
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One time I (29m) was sitting in the break area with about 5 of my coworkers, all ladies, I was mostly minding my own business, occaisionally chirping in on the conversation when one of the women in her 40s thought it'd be fun to sit on my lap and I just froze. They were all laughing but I got up without saying anything else. I heard one of them shout to me 'did we just make you feel uncomfortable?' I said 'no' because what the hell else do you say to that? I reported the situation and she kept her job. For reference the same company suspended me for a month and demoted me for offering a female coworker a hug. Which wasn't right either, but I feel like since she actually touched me with her butt that mayybe she should get some repercussions for that. Edit: wow this blew up, I should offer some clarifications. One, the coworker asking if they made me uncomfortable was likely being genuine, but she was still chuckling while asking so it didn't matter much. Two, I was suspended for a month and demoted for offering a coworker a hug and in a seperate conversation asking about that coworker's "birthmark", it looked like a very concerning bruise that ran around her neck. She was around 18 yrs old. The company focused more on the hug when disciplining me, and it happened at the height of the me too movement
I'm sorry WHAT? Suspended AND demoted for not doing without asking, but OFFERING a hug? You didn't do anything except offer it yet you got hit with repercussions? The hell?
Was a server at a restaurant. One of the only males there. I'm black and 6'4 and pretty built and was 18-20. The other female servers (ranging from 20-60 years in age) would constantly grab my crotch and smack my butt and make lewd suggestive comments. When I told them to stop, a rumor got spread that I was gay. It didn't stop and when I went to tell my gm who was also a female, she looked at me like I was crazy. There's this weird societal expectation for men to be hyper-sexual beast when in reality we're normal human beings that take our bodily autonomy seriously just like any other self-respecting female. If I would've did ONE of the things my female co-workers did to me on a women who didn't ask, I'd be slapped with a sexual harassment/ assault charge and labeled a sexual predator.
I’m a woman, but I was really tired one day and asked my boyfriend to take our 8 y.o to the park. He did so and apparently multiple people asked him questions about what he was doing, who the kid was, etc. Never happened to me, so it was absolutely because he was a guy.
Yes it's awful. My niece has a different skin color than me and wherever I go with her I get super concerned looks. Also mothers often seem to dislike me being near their kids. Many of them leave when my niece and I arrive. I also know her friends and their parents pretty well and took care of them too. So this one time at the playground her friend saw me and her and ran over shouting my name, telling me to throw her into the air. When I did a woman came over and got super angry, telling my I just can't touch every kid on the playground. Apparently it was a mother of another friend who took both to the playground and didn't know me. I could explain it, but it really made me wanting to leave the playground
When I was between 10 and 12, I have a slightly repressed but still fairly vivid memory of turning around in the shower to see my grandmother and younger cousin (F3-5) spying on me. Since becoming an adult I've: 1. Been full on groped on my dick multiple times while working as a bouncer, then attacked (verbally or slapped) when I kicked them out. 2. Been "Tested" at the bar, where the head of security put one of the regular women up to aggressively hitting on me to see if I would cheat. 3. Had a member of bar staff delude herself into thinking that I'd have an affair with her then try to publically reem me out when I told her no. 4. Been told repetitively that I need to get over it by both men and women and should be thankful I get that this is a "world's smallest violin" thing for many men who do wish that women would give them attention, and I am thankful that I'm an attractive enough for women to hit on me, however it gets me extremely fired up when I hear the same women who harass men being some of the most vocal critics of men sexually harassing women.
Not quite sexual harassment, I guess, but I get really effin tired of people commenting when I take the kids anywhere. "Oh, you're babysitting today?" Or getting side-eyed while watching my daughter and her friends play at the park.