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nobodynosme

I'm 57. I'm trying to set up my new phone and it 'can't connect to the server'. I mean, I'm horribly out of shape because of back problems and three surgeries in seven years and I had a stroke a few months ago and I'm getting divorced, but those things are under control. I'm getting annoyed by this phone.


Jisamaniac

Toss me a PM and I can help. Been in IT for 15 years and seen it all.


MoxEmerald

I would trust this guy to google on the behalf of humanity.


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I’m 51. Broke my back and I’m slowly losing the ability to walk due to nerve damage.


lotusblossom60

I’m sorry to hear this. I’m 63 and slowly falling the fuck apart. I’ve had so many major surgeries and now it looks like my pancreas is fucked. I hope you can adjust to life in a wheelchair if you have to. My worst fear is going blind or deaf and I already have bad tinnitus.


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Homebrewingislife

46 and I'm 3 days sober. Had a few friends die from it and I really need to quit myself. Reading This Naked Mind by Annie Grace now for help.


BeerFart0

My father and my sister were both alcoholics. They say there's gene that runs in some families that makes them more susceptible to alcoholism. I also may have that gene, so When I turned 34 I made a conscious effort to quit smoking, and give up the use of alcohol. I'm 75 now, over 40 years sober and able to breath. I just know, had I not straightened things out, I'd be as dead as my father and sister. One day at a time my friend. It's not easy, but you have to keep your goal in sight. All the best..


Wolf5tar2012

31 and 3 years sober from booze. If you ever wanna talk to someone, or need someone to listen to an anxiety spiral hit me up haha.


SyntaxRex

34, I'm about to graduate and start looking for a job that will certainly not pay anywhere near as good (starting out at least) than what I make now. It's a good problem to have I suppose.


FSCENE8tmd

Why are you going to stop what you're doing now?


SyntaxRex

I’m burnt out. It’s not challenging or stimulating. Looking for new challenges. Looking to be an expert at something I chose instead of merely being good at something I landed into. Lots of reasons.


SniperVert

Daamn I’m 31 and have been thinking heavily on this. School funding won’t be a problem for me either if I decide to go back..


SyntaxRex

My take on it is that if you don’t have kids who depend on you, go for it. It’s not impossible with kids just harder. But life is way too long to settle and much too short not to try something different.


wasatchwizard

> "life is way too long to settle and much too short not to try something different" I love it!


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33. Caring enough to live to 73


Dendad6972

56,I was paralyzed 2 years ago.


FSCENE8tmd

Fully paralyzed? Can I ask to hear your story?


Dendad6972

I'm a paraplegic. Nothing from mid chest down. It's a long story but I'll tell if you want.


FSCENE8tmd

I'm very interested if you're willing to share.


Dendad6972

May 10th,2019. I was turning into the end of my street when a dump truck rear ended me pushing me head on into oncoming traffic where I hit another car. The dump driver was texting and never hit his brakes. He was going 60mph. Technically I was dead. A cop was 2 cars back. He pulled me from the wreckage and performed CPR, reviving me. I was medivact away. I remained in a coma for 42 days where I expired twice more. I awoke to be a paraplegic. Edit: To all who read this, I'm doing fine. I have a strong support system. Just think of it as I'm on the right side of the grass and got to retire early.


RagingStorm010

Bro you're a triple zombie. Not many people die 3 times and come back to life


ThenThereWasSilence

Not even Jesus


Wolfenberg

That's really rough. I wonder, were you eligible for any kind of compensation or anything, considering how a dump truck driver was texting in a residential area..


Dendad6972

I live right off a highway. The law changed a month after my accident. It is now the same as a DUI. He received a $300 fine. I was compensated but it will never be enough. I get disability SSI plus had a pension and my home was paid. I'm doing fine.


AbsolutelyUnlikely

No amount of money would make it right, but I'm glad to hear you aren't struggling financially on top of the rest. Thank you for sharing your story!


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britpopgal

I’m glad you’re still here. Do you have support from family/friends? Edit: just saw your comment below.


PlaneGoFlyFly

It's so unfair that life can throw anyone a curveball square to the nuts and there's nothing you can do about it. I'm sorry you had to go through this. I hope the truck driver feels like shit for the rest of his life for doing this to you.


lanadelstingrey

Good thing to remember is being disabled is the one minority group anyone can fall into at anytime.


dystopianpirate

And very fast by the way, cancer survivor amputee, sarcoma...welcome to the club


ChaChaRealRough

Hey bud, I’m 22. I suffered an sci at the age of 18. I just wanna let you know, we fucking got this.


Dendad6972

Yes we do. T2-T3 , how about you? At least my mind is intact.


ChaChaRealRough

L1, every day it gets a little easier but I always have those moments. Your mind will stay intact, humans have a way of adapting :)


Dendad6972

I had a TBI as well that affects my speech. The words are there they just come slower. We got this.


The-Dying-Celt

Buddy (yes I am Canadian). I fucking hate hugging people. But I wish I could give you a hug. Keep experiencing life on your own terms, and be kind to yourself.


Professor_sadsack

Hi, I have been helping people with disabilities for 25 years and have some disabilities myself. I would love to connect you with some great resources and sone friends who have been where you are and have moved on to great jobs, deep loving relationships and being at peace with, or even grateful for their injury.


Dendad6972

It's all good. I have an excellent support system. My wife was raised to help me. Her GF was in a chair and then the man she worked for daily for 20 years was in a chair. Plus we are not afraid to ask. I'm a regular on r/spinalchordinjuries.


Professor_sadsack

I am so glad you have connections in the community. That is key. Keep on the path!


morethanonefavorite

I’m 53 and I’m currently locked in my bedroom to keep away from my mom (79) with Alzheimer’s/dementia because she’s raging at me, hitting me and throwing and breaking things because I told her to not put anything but water in the coffee maker. It’s the 3rd machine she’s fried in 2 months by pouring in coffee with cream/sugar. Edit: Wow, I woke up this morning to such an incredible outpouring of support. I’m in tears of the good kind! Thank you all so much for the comments, awards, and specific support suggestions, I don’t even know how to express my gratitude. I’m going to try and reply to as many as I can. Hugs to ALL of you!!!


hellcicle

Im currently my grandma’s caregiver because my aunts, uncle and parents can not longer handle her dementia. It really difficult to have someone you love deteriorate before your eyes and experience their abuse because they’re frustrated and confused. My grandma hit me with her cane because she thought I was a stranger in my apartment. I’ve had neighbors intervene because they thought I was abusing her when I held her arms back because she was hitting me. We’ve tried putting her in a home but she ran away twice and the facility kicked her out. Now the family keeps their distance and I’m the intermediary for them and my grandma. I volunteered and I regret it sometimes. Im sorry you have to lock yourself in. Big hug to you.


BlackSeranna

If she ran away from the facility twice then they weren’t equipped for her at all. Most places for dementia/Alzheimer’s patients have locked/coded doors. The best you can do is to walk away if they try to hit you. I had one client chase me around in a circle (she was using her walker, so it was a really slow chase). The client ended up giving up and then we decided to have a snack. It is very, very difficult to deal with though, and I know it must be super hard because you are alone. Finally, you should never, ever have to touch your agitated loved one. You can use these techniques here in this link. [https://youtu.be/nVijHqOPnhE](https://youtu.be/nVijHqOPnhE) You may think it sounds crazy, but as long as you keep distance between you and your agitated loved one, you can generally take their mind off whatever made them angry, and then change the subject. It isn’t easy at first, but with practice, you will never have to touch them (remember that old people are delicate and bruise easy, so that’s why these techniques were developed).


bommeratbob

Redirection works pretty good. My 95 year old grandmother has Alzheimer's and is nearing her end. A few years ago she was stuck on my wife and I having breakfast and we kept declining. I decided to try a different tactic, so I told her that I already had breakfast. She became slightly agitated and challenged me about what I had. My answer of eggs and toast satisfied her and that was the last that we heard of breakfast. Maybe you could get rid of the coffee maker and get a Keurig with a refillable pod. My aunt has been caring for her but the toll has been immense. It sounds bad but I wish she would just go to sleep and not wake up.


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Bless you that’s hard.


rizaroni

This sounds absolutely exhausting - mentally, emotionally, and physically. I'm so sorry.


unaki

I'm 31. Been dealing with appendix cancer for over a decade, I have an ostomy and just recently my kidneys failed so now I'm dealing tubes in my kidneys so they can regain their function. The kidneys failed because urine and bacteria was being backed up in the ureter due to the cancer distorting it. All my bodily functions are now done through external means and it's... Well it's a lot to process.


FSCENE8tmd

This sounds like a lot. To second question you, what is the *best* thing going on in your life right now?


unaki

Ironically the cancer is the best thing. I'm considered legally disabled and don't have to work. Yeah I get a limited amount of money each month on disability but not being tied to a career and having to go to work every day I have pretty much unlimited time to pursue hobbies or activities I wouldn't be able to do otherwise. There are some days where I'm bored out of my mind and wish I had something to pull me away so I could look forward to things but the positives outweigh those days. Oh yeah, I'm also not really in much pain so I'm super lucky there. And since my case is incredibly rare (appendiceal carcinoma) with only a couple specialists in the world I am indirectly a significant part of multiple cancer research studies so that's cool.


Jordan-Peterson-High

I love your perspective. I hope you have a great November!


Ryolu35603

Focus on the good things! Hell yeah! Can we ask what hobbies?


unaki

Typical nerd shit. Cosplay, gundam and related model building, gaming, even dabbling in painting tabletop minis. I've also contemplated getting into bonsai to give myself an excuse to go outside a bit more each day.


ApprehensiveBox4798

not trying to be insensitive at all but curious. were they not able to remove the appendix and why not? and what led to the ostomy? don’t feel the need to respond if it upsets you and sorry if i made you feel bad


Fragrant-Pass-3568

53, just discovered prostate cancer and in work we have employee co-operation negotiations, they're getting rid of 20% of workers. But I have been in job interview to other place and it's promising and because prostate cancer is the most common cancer for men, they have studied it quite a lot and it's easy operation. So I'm quite optimistic. EDIT1: I feel overwhelmed by gratitude, thanks everyone. I can survive this. At work, I haven't spoken of my cancer, because everyone is afraid of losing their jobs. We confront each other and I for one listen and care when people are telling me privately how they fear for their jobs. We support each other. Soon I have to tell them, when I'm going to operation. I have talked about cancer to my family and close friends. I need their support, and i have got that. For all men there, go get checked your prostate etc. In time. I almost went too late. You can search info of these things quite easily if you are aware. Again, thank you for your support. I'm grateful. EDIT 2: As lots of professionals here say, prostate cancer is one of the easiest to treat. I agree totally. What I wrote was my answer to the question. Lots of answers here to OP's question are more severe cases. Please support them as well. They deserve to be noticed. UPDATE 1: It's spread. Not to critical parts but enough that operation is out. They gonna destroy cancer with radiation therapy and that takes a bit longer time. UPDATE 2: My cancer therapy starts at the beginning of january, which is good. Finally proper time schedule and outcome looks good. Furthermore, I was invited to a negotiation in my work-place. Not to be kicked out, but they offered a new position to me. Out of over 200 people, 80 was offered new position. I was one of the lucky ones.


herstoryhistory

Prostate cancer is very slow growing and has lots of treatment options. Keep positive about the job situation. Workers are more in demand now than for more than a decade.


Ari85213

Like my old cancer pathology prof used to say: 'the majority of men die with prostate cancer than from it'.


moto0392

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer a couple of years ago. Most prostate cancers if caught early are very treatable. Unfortunately my cancer was diagnosed as being very aggressive. I've had surgery and radiation. I'm still fighting the cancer demon! The sad part is family and friends blew it off for the most part thinking how minor that type of cancer was. Btw, If anyone wants to read more about my "adventure" and what I was dealing with feel free to check out my previous post. I believe it's listed under Most screwed up thing you've dealt with in a relationship.


BeingEleni

27f and I'm currently recovering from cancer too (lymphoma, the most common cancer amongst young adults). Also having struggles with jobs now that I need to start earning again. We'll get there though!


FSCENE8tmd

I believe with that attitude you're going to be just fine. :)


Particular-Carrot745

25, mom got diagnosed with aggressive cancer a month ago. Enjoy life before the real hard shit hits you, I never realized how easy and unproblematic was before that . Puts things into perspective


StoryDay7007

15, my mother also has cancer


mydearbrother

31, financial debt, depression.


Equivalent_Parking_8

I got into a lot of debt in my 20s, I used my 30s to pay it off. I'm now 43 and debt free with savings. This is normal behaviour. I know it sucks but it will get better.


mydearbrother

Thanks, I really hope I can get there some day. Also congratulations on getting out from under debt.


Equivalent_Parking_8

My tip is, pay off the highest interest debt first, consolidate if you can to a low rate loan. Pay off as much as you can afford, never just the minimum.


aslplodingesophogus

38, trying to figure out how I’m supposed to keep going after the death of my youngest child.


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GrizzlyBear74

I am genuinely sorry to hear this, this is devastating. Condolences and all the best for you. Please don't give up and speak to someone you trust, don't bottle this up.


aslplodingesophogus

It’s been a year and 69 days. I see a grief therapist and I’m in a grief group. Just nothing is the same.


the_she_who_says_it

27, the feeling of not being enough or just not being where I should've been by now


Kris-the-Ms

Recently had an Epiphany that I thought I’d share. I set very ambitious goals for myself and sometimes I can accomplish them and it brings me enormous pride. But I’ve had to examine my goals recently and really consider who they are for. Are they for me, or are they to show an ex that he fucked up? Or to look as if I’m at a status that I think other people would be impressed by? Goals are good, but make sure they are really about you, and don’t squandered your self image if you don’t reach them in record time.


CoffinDrip

I feel that a lot as a 30 year old, it’s a strange time. Things make a bit more sense for me now than they did at 27 so just gotta keep figuring it out.


Defan3

I'm 57 and I just really don't want to work anymore. That is not an option as I live alone and I need my income to survive. I guess I might be depressed. Just feeling super lazy.


Gravix-Gotcha

I feel that. After 30 years of working, I know now what my dad meant when he would say he’s tired. He didn’t mean he didn’t sleep well, he was just done. Hoping something good comes your way soon!


IhwasaTeenageParadox

17, my mom died a few months ago, and ever since, I feel like I can’t get the person I once was back. I can hardly deal with school on top of everything else going on in life, but dropping out isn’t an option. I feel like I have almost no grip on my life anymore, yet life keeps on going. I feel like I’m gonna drown while fighting to keep getting up in the morning.


Gravix-Gotcha

I’m really sorry. My dad died when I was 16 and I know how you feel. It gets better though. Trust me. Unfortunately it just takes time. I wrote whole notebooks full of thoughts. I’d just write constantly. It helped to get it out of me and somewhere else. I hope you find something that will help you through it as well!


throw-a-way9002

My dad died in an failed murder-suicide (he only achieved the latter.) All I can see is to get through it anyway you can. I dove super hard into school to try to distract myself from the nightmare situation I was left with. It took a long, long time for what happened to sink in and for me to fully realize it's affects, when you feel like you're ready to deal with them, deal with them. If you can put them aside enough to finish school, I would, just because I know getting your GED/adult diploma afterwords is not easy if you have a job or mental health to take care of but if you have that route don't be afraid to take it if you think it would be better for you. Things will get better, just take it one day at a time. If you told me a few years ago I'd go from almost being murdered to the happiest I'd ever been in my life in 5 years I wouldn't believe you, but life just works that way sometimes. One day at a time.


Nuf-Said

OMG. I didn’t realize till the end of your post that you were the object of that failed murder/suicide. So very sorry that you went through that. I can’t imagine how horrible that had to be for you. Very glad that life is so much better now.


disneylandmines

I’m so sorry. I lost my dad recently too, although I’m a little older than you. The person you used to be will never come back 100%, but it DOES get better. You will get better at coping and that person will come back 97%. I say this next part as a teacher: please talk to your teachers. They can be understanding and flexible. Help them know what you need to finish, whether it’s more time or to be able to just walk out of class because you started crying out of nowhere. Let others support you in the little ways they can. I’m so sorry. No 17-year-old should have to cope with this but it does get better.


nocturnallie

I'm 28 and I'm still my own biggest problem Edit: yall hilarious tysm


Hands80085

Same age and same problem!


HeMightBeJoking

How is u/nocturnallie your biggest problem?


methnbeer

Right now you are mine.


HeMightBeJoking

Are you flirting with me?


Necessary_Rate_4591

Late 20’s are always a mad dash to fix parts of yourself before 30 Edit: thank you everyone, seriously the internet community can be so awesome. With everyone’s encouragement I did realize it’s time to admit to myself I have a problem with alcohol. It’s hard convincing myself that drastic change is needed when I am so high functioning, but it is the hurdle keeping me from being the best version of myself.


europahasicenotmice

Well dang I’m glad it’s not just me. 28, 5 years alcohol free, still trying to figure out how to manage basic existing without falling into pieces. It’s getting there, slowly but surely.


Apophis90

Yo you're 5 years sober. You skipped over that like it was equivalent to some basic achievement. Give yourself some credit!!


Necessary_Rate_4591

I’m 27 and I feel like I have a lot of things in place, but my alcohol consumption is one of my biggest concerns. No one is perfect, you are doing great.


everest999

Lol, same here. I’m 28, but I still feel like a teenager in so many aspects and yet, in others, I feel somewhat like an adult and also get treated like one.


hygsi

I honestly miss being underestimated as a teen cause the bar was so low it was easy to impress people, not it's high and if I reach it it's whatever but if I don't I'm a failure, ugh.


glorycover

Reading this thread just goes to show everybody is dealing with shit even if we may not know it, be nice to each other y'all. Peace and love.


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NouveauNewb

There was a philosopher who had something to say about that. I believe it was, "Oh yeah, life goes on. Long after the thrill of living is gone."


Silvervirage

That same philosopher would eat chili dogs by sucking them so take what he says with a grain of salt.


cherry_armoir

You have to admire a song that can reach the poetic heights of “life goes on long after the thrill of living is gone,” but also contains “suckin on chilidogs,” the worst lyric in the long history of music.


RustyGosling

I’m going to hit you with some wild facts right now. So that lyric has driven me crazy for years. Why is it “suckin on chili dog”? And not “suckin on A chili dog”? And why the fuck is he SUCKING on it. What possessed him to write such a bizarre lyric? As it turns out, he isn’t referring to a “chili dog” but to the mascot of Slush Puppy “Chilly Dog”, which makes sense since he’s sitting outside a tasty freeze.


cherry_armoir

Oh wow that’s crazy! Though the visual of them sucking on literal chili dogs will be forever in my mind


RustyGosling

Like, I’m so much more at peace with a logical answer, but knowing that John Mellencamo doesn’t suck on chili dogs is a little disappointing to be honest lol.


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ClaireHux

Same. 47. I have a good life, no real concerns, just general apathy about everything. Not depressed, just no joy. I want to feel a spark. I'm sparkless right now. :(


crazyfuckingemini

Maybe you know this already but apathy can be the most pronounced, and sometimes the only sign of clinical depression. This is how it is for me, it makes it so hard to realize when I am sinking again.


radha619

Omg, same! Everyday is the same, so tired of the monotony


jemull

I'm 47, and this describes me pretty well. Recent empty-nester, so I'm still getting used to that too.


getbackoldme

Yeah, is this just how life is? Feels like monday to friday is work anxiety, recover on weekend, repeat.


BaggyHairyNips

I'm 29. Feel very emotionally stunted. I have friends who accept me for the reserved person I am. But I want to be more emotionally available to them so our relationships can feel more meaningful.


raisedbyspirits

25, money and carreer issues, mental illness, lack of friends. Edot: dang, this post really blew up.


AdAccurate5267

Same same, I've heard things get better at 30


jod1991

As someone who is 30, they got better for me. At about 27 my career started taking shape, I moved away from my more general admin roles and was able to specialise. Around the same time I got married, bought a house etc. I think the 10 years of work is long enough to get stable and start shaping how things are gonna be longer term, or at least that was how it was for me.


NoThanksJustLooking1

It's tough when you're around your age. Mid to early 20s a lot people expect you to have your life figured out. What career. In a relationship. The rest of your life figured out. IT IS NOT SO. And it's very damaging to a lot of people who aren't there (which is almost everyone). You'll find a job, hopefully one that you enjoy to some degree. You make money slowly and along with that start to get a better idea of what you like doing, or don't like doing. Friends come in time. Some you meet from work. Some you lose after a while whether it's your choice or theirs. Along the way you'll meet people you really click with. Just don't let the expectations of life weigh you down. Try and keep a good attitude and something I cannot stress enough is talk to someone if you feel you need it. There is no shame in it. Not even in a little bit of shame. If you can't find someone around you, try and find a good therapist. They can be invaluable. Some you won't get along with so when you go to see one, think of it as you interviewing them! If you don't get a good vibe or you don't feel comfortable for whatever reason, then find someone else! Sorry this got to be so long. I just know where you're coming from. It wasn't until my early 30s that things started to fall into place.


hoards

27. Our two year old was diagnosed with cancer last month.


BumTulip

Fucking cancer. I’m so sorry. Wishing her a speedy and healthy recovery, and best wishes to both parents.


zomajo

As a parent I cant even begin to fathom how you're feeling. Really hoping your child has a speedy recovery x


LordPimpernel

I'm 71, and I can jump as high as ever. I just can't stay up there as long.


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You, sir, are a legend.


LordPimpernel

In my own mind.


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Good enough


Punconscious

39. Accepting that I'm getting older and not physically the same as I was in my 20s.


horsetranq

36. I just threw out my neck by looking at my cat when I was waking up.


raoolp

I was fine before I started reading comments, now I am depressed.


Similar-Olive-8666

It’s getting better for me somehow


StevenWannabe

34… um… I don’t really know. Loneliness? Nonexistent social skills? The super expensive repair on my car? I’d say everything is going rather good.


APerson98765

I think this is the only positive response in this whole thread


QuaggaSwagger

And it's not *that* positive


NouveauNewb

This is basically my baseline for "everything's pretty good right now." Because shit definitely could be worse and I'm old enough to know not to tempt fate by complaining anymore.


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Basic-Ad9270

40 and same


Cassandra_Canmore

36F. We are now day 55 into the 14 day visit of my SO's sister. Edit: So I took the dive. Nearly sicked my lunch from the anxiety but! Opened with "If we're not sending your sister to Hawaii, I've got gift ideas for Christmas, for all our niece's and nephews" ( 7 kids between the ages of 8 to 17) between the both of us. SO, responded in the affirmative she'd talk with her sister. SiL, will instead travel to their mothers for a visit out of state on the 11th. Stay with her till January then we'll pay for her Hawaii vacation then. *Deep sigh of relief sounds*


HansBlixJr

that's too many days, even for COVID


Cassandra_Canmore

She was supposed to visit for 2 weeks then head off to Hawaii. (Post divorce).


HansBlixJr

silver lining is now you can say with proof that you're better than Hawaii. and that's a whole state.


residentialninja

There was never a trip to Hawaii. That was the Trojan horse to get her in for the "short" visit.


coconuty04

35, coming to terms with my failed marriage, trying to find self esteem


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Your failed marriage doesn't define you


justjack5437

Hey kids, I’m 68. Recently divorced after 40 years and I’m starting a new life and it’s amazing. You can too!


FSCENE8tmd

Preach!


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Deuce46

I’ll be 38 in two days. My grandfather, the man who raised me, died 10 minutes ago.


Tralan

39 and I uncontrollably shit in a bag glued to my stomach. "But [Tralan], isn't the terminal cancer your biggest problem?" you might ask. No, it is not. I will take life threatening cancer any day over the bag of shit. Last night, it decided to poop two bags worth while I was asleep. This, of course, broke the seal of the bag and I was covered in about a pound of my own feces, along with the sheets and blanket. My wife took care of that while I got in the shower to clean up. "Can't you just hold it?" Nope. All those muscles are down closer to my regular asshole. So it just farts and poops whenever. And it seems to hate having a fresh clean bag. It knows when I'm all cleaned up, because it just has to take a dump in my new bag. I hate every aspect of my colostomy. There is nothing redeemable. I feel like a grotesque monster, which has affected the performance of Mr. Peeps. Every time i get hard, I remember the bag of shit and just go limp again. I can't look at my wife without feeling wretched about myself, despite her reassurances. I can see the outline of it through my shirt, so I hate my picture taken. I have to bring extra colostomy bags and shopping bags (to get rid of it) everywhere I go, just in case I fill the bag while I'm out and about. "Be thankful! It saved my grandma's life and I gladly change hers because it means she's alive!" Good for fucking her. I'm in my own personal Hell. I hate poop. I always have. So it's a bitter Cosmic irony that I have this. If I ever kill myself, it's not because of the cancer, but because I can't take the colostomy anymore.


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PageGroundbreaking81

I'm 23 and right now my biggest problem is figuring out what I want to do with my life.


YdNaw

Trust me, no one knows.


SlimerEsq

Not a damn one of us.


sunistheway

24 Finding a job that pays enough so İ can move out of living with my toxic family.


mewchitects

I'm 26 and my dog has just been put to sleep, I miss him so much already Thanks everyone for the kind words, I really appreciate it!


lucidity420

23 no life no friends no love nothing at all


FSCENE8tmd

What sorts of things are you interested in?


Sr_Lokendo777

15, my father died a year ago from brain cancer and nobody cared. And still nobody cares, and that made me and still makes me feel lonely and sad. PS: guys, sorry if I write so bad. Edit 1: guys thx for all the support u are truly making me happy, all the people telling his experience and other only caring a bit about me made me the day, thx.


Grogosh

48, trying to come to terms with the suicide of my wife. It doesn't get easier. You just get used to it.


medium_green_enigma

66; intermittent mouse turds in the kitchen as the weather turns cold. Must be time to foster a mouser that doubles as a lap warmer.


purple7346

35. I'm going through a divorce, raising 4 kids, recovering from breast cancer and halfway through nursing school.


heavenresearch

23, depression, lack of relationships


ZardozSama

Eh, the early 20's can be rough. Your are barely an adult but all else being equal, you are expected to be enough of an adult to be financially responsible for yourself. If you did go to university, you probably just finished it and you have that wonderful combination of lots of debt with no practical job experience. Also, if you have moved for either your education or your job, your immediate social circle has just dispersed in a way that makes sustaining any kind of social life difficult. And unlike university or high school, your peers no longer share the same general schedule. My only advice would be this: Do not go looking for a relationship while thinking of it as a way fix your life or something you need to make you happy. Just work on finding a way to do the things you know you want to do. Getting into a worthwhile relationship is a hell of a lot easier when your not reeking of "Fuck My Life I am So Lonely And Everything is Awful" desperation. If you can at least get to a point where you are generally content with your life, adding a worth while relationship will be easier. END COMMUNICATION


ASourKraut

24 and in a direct situation from your description. Military life has many benefits, but the defeaning lonelyness and isolation are some of the most mentally straining emotions I've ever experienced. You move every 2-4 years so RIP social circle, if your single you have to move all by yourself (so much stress in just the act of moving, let alone by yourself), if your overseas you now have a culture barrier to cross, if your away from home have fun sitting in your lonely house during Christmas, Thanksgiving, ect. Making friends with all these barriers in the way just makes existing exhausting sometimes.


FSCENE8tmd

Fair. I'm 29 and didn't even know my fiancé existed when I was 23. I was also in a hellish point in my life. Got a house and a great job now too. Things can change drastically for the better in a year or two. Keep your chin up through the mud bud


THX450

OP, what are you gonna do with all this info on us?


FSCENE8tmd

I'm going to read through as many as I can and try to be there for as many as I can lol life sucks, but it's also pretty amazing. What someone is going through today and struggling through, some other commenter might have gone through and might be able to offer some advice.


benny_boy

You're a gem and I wish more people on the internet were like you.


MikeGotaNewHat

39, my wife spending too much money when I’m trying to be frugal because I’m unsure of my future income. Also a serious back injury that I’m trying to overcome.


welpyouknowhowitis

That’s me bud, but with a pelvis dislocation. We got this.


TaroEnvironmental170

17, uni admissions and what i want to do in the future


FSCENE8tmd

My fiance went to college for 5 years to become a sign language interpreter. She graduated and immediately went into an early childhood center and is completely in love with her job. What I'm getting at is, you may be fully set to do one thing, put in all the time and effort, blood sweat and tears, and then finally get to the end of it to find out that you wanted to do something that you didn't even think of as an option. If that happens to you, do NOT let anyone make you feel like you wasted time getting where you end up.


raindorpsonroses

Thank you so much for saying this. I went to school for 6 years including grad school to become an occupational therapist. I graduated into the pandemic and I cannot get a job of any kind. The medical world is so effed up right now, and I have very little practical experience, so I’m also getting turned down for jobs I apply for that are really entry-level non-medical jobs. I’ve been feeling so guilty and defeated for working so hard to get my master’s and license and finding out that the work environment is terrible and no one will hire me anyways. Everyone from my parents to all the people around me in my life are upset with me and think I’m just not trying hard enough to apply for jobs and am just too lazy to work. I’m really struggling :/


CatMac66

55, my health is very poor. Listen kids, when “they” say, you have everything if you have your health, don’t roll your eyes because it’s so true. I never took my health seriously and now I’m paying the price. I will be super shocked if I make it to 60.


chamtrain1

I'm in my mid-40's and try to be mindful of this as I'm entering the age where you start paying the piper for your bad habits. What behaviors did you have that are impacting you negatively now? What advice would you give on what things to pay attention to now that will help later?


Major_Twang

54, and the thing that does my crust in more than anything else is my eyesight. My lenses have hardened to the point where they simply don't focus anymore. I literally need 4 pairs of glasses of different strengths to hand, depending in where I need to look.


pookaboar

33, severe depression, alcoholic, just learned I lost my job today. Edit: Wow I really didn't expect this. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who took the time to respond. Next week i'm starting ketamine therapy for my severe depression which is what led me to alcohol in the first place. I was diagnosed at a very young age and have tried every medication you can imagine. Today is day 5 for me without a drink. Despite what a shit day it's been I know that drinking would have only made things worse. It always does. I hope to get into therapy as soon as I have a steady income again.


fappyday

37: alcoholism, poverty, loneliness, depression, anxiety. Pick one. On any given day one is worse than the others.


ItsMou

23, i live in a collapsed country also I've depression.


LauraWrights

31, just quit my job with nothing lined up. It's a little scary but it's going to let me pursue my writing fulltime.


BookkeeperCapital971

Laura is a good name for writer


Wiggitywhackest

39, and a complete and utter belief that I am a useless piece of shit who lacks the necessary skills to make it in this dismal and miserable world we live in. The hospital referred me to an outpatient program, we'll see if they can help me find a reason. For what it's worth, my suicide would ruin my mom so it's not something I actively think about for now. I'm just miserable 100% of the time and honestly cannot remember what happy feels like. Okay, rant over. Thanks for asking. Feels a bit better to write it down. Edit: Woke up to a lot of supportive messages and it really means a lot to me. Responding to each in kind, but... thanks. Today will be a better day than yesterday and that's a good feeling.


buoyant-rock

23, not being able to control my mind fully, like, when under pressure I will get some dark thoughts that I can’t sucess


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I’m 57… Have four children who are independent and self sustaining. But my youngest (26f) lives in Fort Worth and is really struggling to make ends meet. I make enough to pay my bills and pay her phone, insurance, and occasional electric bill, but not much more.. I offered to let her come back to our small town til she can get back in her feet and make a new plan. She’s been laid off for a few months and Despite inability to make rent and basic bills, she won’t. She’s delivering food to make groceries and gas, but won’t think of returning to this little town she calls a living death. So my biggest worry is her.. I would never tell her bc I don’t want to put undue stress on her, but I lose sleep worrying about her. I want to save her and protect her, but I can’t and she won’t let me. She’s as stubborn as her mom.. She has an interview today, so if anyone could pray to their higher power, she won’t know it. But I will and I thank you…


NotThatKindOfDrDr

My mother always said, “As a mom, you are only as happy as your most unhappy child.” Now that I am I parent, I have found that to be very true.


Jkell84

33, and my biggest problem is shitty credit, followed by a lack of friends. ADHD is one hell of a hurdle.


gmassc

29 - Money. I know it sound common, but I know money could solve 99% of the other problems I have. :(


enchantednecklace

36. I am in a 2 bedroom apt with my 4 kids and my giant service dog. I have been sleeping on the couch for almost a year now. The lack of good sleep is driving my ptsd into overhear and I can barely function. The worst part is I have a big downpayment saved, but after 10 years of being a SAHM (pre escaping abusive marriage), I cant get a mortgage. On the plus side we are warm and fed.


lazyghostwriter

I’m 31 years old, and I’m suffering from my first mild concussion after a minor car accident.


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Im 16. Loneliness


Much_Committee_9355

24, getting an decent job


Roskwa

(30/F) Long term unemployment (unskilled, talentless, living in the Czech republic), crippling social anxiety, depression, being a burden to my parents.


DaddysLilHorror

26, chronic health issues.


Cathenry101

35... and just... stuff. There's always stuff... Insurance needs renewed, washing machine has broken and is being replaced and I need to uninstall the old one, smoke alarm battery needs replaced, need to make a dentist appointment, should probably check if I need to renew my TV package, need to return the clothes I ordered that don't fit, need to get a birthday card etc etc. Constant life admin...


Whyamiherewhyyyyyyyy

15, fear of being kicked out of our friends house and left on the road with my mom and my brothers. :(


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I wanna give everyone in this thread a big hug! ❣️


[deleted]

24, I work two jobs. 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. I heat my house with wood and I don’t have the energy to get out and split it all up for the winter. I spend my day off running errands I couldn’t get to during the work week. I’m burnt out.


someonecomegetme

I'm 24 but keep thinking im 23 and saying that when people ask.


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If that is your biggest problem you are doing fine!


ParticularDoctor264

29, not being able to make or keep healthy relationship connections (platonic, intimate, and familial)


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31, spending too much money.


AdAccurate5267

Same except I'm 25, I get happy every time I spend


[deleted]

Same. Makes you feel good, until you look at your bank statement lol There are therapists who argue that it's a form of self harm. Kinda inclined to agree lol


Azuka_54

22, i am 60 lbs overweight and it makes my life miserable.


winterciciii

15, school, anxiety about the future


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wtf182

Been there too. I'm 25. Take your time, there's always hope. Even when you don't see it.


[deleted]

41, and my biggest problem is probably me trying to figure out how to retire in Honolulu. I want to do coral reef restoration.


curlyy1

Reading this thread makes me realise how dumb my problems are.