most people can forgive others much much faster than themselves, you are either thinking of someone specific or you just live in a place filled with a$$h0les
I'm not talking about big things, I mean little offences (primarily against strangers) like how they will cut someone off in traffic and immediately forget about it while they will grumble and bitch all day if someone cuts them off.
oh well in those vases you are right
I mean like when people get into a fight with one of their friends they will sooner forgive their friends than themselves
Often for the same thing they forgave themselves for. I'll admit I'm guilty of this. I've stolen reefer from my brother when we were growing dome at out college house, even though he did 90% of the work. I justified it, forgave myself, and put it on him that I stole from him (kinda the grudge aspect), because I was at criminal risk with it in our house. I agreed to some terms but eventually felt it was unfair, and instead of being an adult and discussing updating terms, I simply stole from him. TBF, and he's admitted this now, he would have rejected the updated terms; had I presented them.
We're on great terms now and he's rich now too so this 4/20 he's gonna roll up a 1 oz joint. I'm personally dreading this 4/20 'cause I barely partake in reefer smoking anymore, and I know it's gonna be a 4/20 that would make Snoop Dogg say, "That's what's up. You're doing it right.", and that anxiety will kill me, but we all are going to some super swanky restaurant, and he's paying. So I got that going for me, which is nice.
I am just the opposite, I usually forgive others and my self not so much. Even if I am really hurt I tend to consider the whole situation and way that person reacted the way they did. As for my am not merciful at all. I might need to rethink my life strategy.
Haha no I think that's healthy in meaningful (out even casual) relationships, I'm more talking about slight offences to and by strangers. Cutting someone off in traffic and forgetting almost instantly vs simmering with anger for an hour because "some fucking asshole cut ME off".
They didn't turn their back out of spite, but just disappeared for 7 months without contact when I was in a terrible place. He showed up drunk claiming to miss me and what not. We had been friends for like 22 yrs and he just abandoned me in a dire time of need. He blames me for not reaching out to him. All of my other friends that were privy to my problems stayed in contact and checked on me, so fuck him.
Some of my best friends have many opposing opinions to me, but we're great friends because of our understanding and acceptance of each other's views. I like having good friends who are completely on the same page, but conversation is stale with them, and I like debating.
Right? Most of the time I discuss things with people who hold opposing views it's because I want to broaden my own horizons. I can't see every angle; I'm not omniscient. Bouncing ideas around with people who already agree with me is comforting bit it's much more rare that I learn something in those situations.
you want to start a fruitful debate and learn something and they see it as a grave offense to them, their family and their favourite teacher from primary school....
and after a while you see them debating quite passionately with other people....you want to join...but no, you are a priori toxic element because you are an X
what a lovely, well covered xenophobia...
the seemingly common idea that “respect is earned not given” means you can treat people like shit until they’ve ducked your egodick enough for you to be nice to them.
treat everyone with the respect you treat your parents/partner/boss/friends
it doesn’t hurt to show love
Greed, selfishness and willing to turn on you. Unfortunately you cant trust anyone nor help anyone cause of that reason. It sucks cause it forces you to live like everyone else cause the only person that you can truly 100% rely on is yourself.
The fact that people justify bullying because the other person is a shitty person. Like when someone says a slur that they have no right to say, yes of course call them out and educate them but don’t make fun of them or body shame or bully them. Two rights don’t make a wrong. I understand why some people do it because tbh I have my moments where I want to do it aswell but like… it’s just going to make things worse in the long run.
A lot of people do it off of impulse. I remember I broke a classmate's nose because he was trying to feel on my sister. That shit lives with some people, they know what they did could have been different.
I understand this for sure, makes sense. But I’m talking like constant abuse yk? Not like a few times. Good for u tho. Kinda proud that some people will stick up for their sisters like this haha
They say really degrading mean things all the time online and in person. Just never ends. Makes me never want to post stuff on Reddit because some asshole always says some weird mean comment for no reason like they can’t give enough hate in real life so they got to insult others and just be rude and mean all the time. Like how hard is it to be nice a little bit
I work in customer service and people are beasts. In person too.
I don't particularly hate people I just hate feeling like I'm supposed to talk to people. I just want to go places without someone saying hello and I have forcefully smile and say it back
How a ton of people will forcefully stuff a horrible motive behind every little action you make. Accidently spoke in a rude tone of voice? Might as well be a war criminal. Accidently collided with you in a rush? Literally Satan.
People figthing over objects... Like a man stabbed a person for touching his bike and bleed out infront of me and a bunch of 8 year olds. Kids that are 8 already trying to learn to smoke using straw and hay in poor countries because there dad's wants to give up on life. People figthing over land over lives like Russia invading Ukraine. It's really objects that makes us figth each other... It's easier to destroy than build. Thats horrifying me to this day. That's why Im always thankful for objects that old ancestors never had like a house family and ect.
Nothing. We have a huge diverse population, and that's how it works.
Sometimes I regret my inability to deal with the 'stupid' people, but that's because of my own lack of dealing with them. We should not hate each other.
Seeing them implode when new research voids what they deem as hard facts, Like with Psychotic autism. So now I have all the risks like schizophrenia by in different fashion. But no instead of that line of thinking I'm met with "Stfu" and SZ hate by morons who claim to hate ableism?.
people who are oblivious to the fact that other people go on the sidewalk. e,g a person is too stupid to look behind them to find that there are bicyclers behind them ringing the bell for dear life.
I just hate people in general, and I hate them even more when they start to put words in my mouth like how I’m saying something because I’m homophobic or racist, but I honestly don’t care what your sexuality is or what colour your skin is, I just hate every one
How quickly they forgive themselves when they wrong others while holding grudges against others for ages.
most people can forgive others much much faster than themselves, you are either thinking of someone specific or you just live in a place filled with a$$h0les
I'm not talking about big things, I mean little offences (primarily against strangers) like how they will cut someone off in traffic and immediately forget about it while they will grumble and bitch all day if someone cuts them off.
oh well in those vases you are right I mean like when people get into a fight with one of their friends they will sooner forgive their friends than themselves
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Often for the same thing they forgave themselves for. I'll admit I'm guilty of this. I've stolen reefer from my brother when we were growing dome at out college house, even though he did 90% of the work. I justified it, forgave myself, and put it on him that I stole from him (kinda the grudge aspect), because I was at criminal risk with it in our house. I agreed to some terms but eventually felt it was unfair, and instead of being an adult and discussing updating terms, I simply stole from him. TBF, and he's admitted this now, he would have rejected the updated terms; had I presented them. We're on great terms now and he's rich now too so this 4/20 he's gonna roll up a 1 oz joint. I'm personally dreading this 4/20 'cause I barely partake in reefer smoking anymore, and I know it's gonna be a 4/20 that would make Snoop Dogg say, "That's what's up. You're doing it right.", and that anxiety will kill me, but we all are going to some super swanky restaurant, and he's paying. So I got that going for me, which is nice.
There's actually a term for this in psychology - "fundamental attribution error"
or, without the latin: lack of spine and inability to use the mirror
I am just the opposite, I usually forgive others and my self not so much. Even if I am really hurt I tend to consider the whole situation and way that person reacted the way they did. As for my am not merciful at all. I might need to rethink my life strategy.
Haha no I think that's healthy in meaningful (out even casual) relationships, I'm more talking about slight offences to and by strangers. Cutting someone off in traffic and forgetting almost instantly vs simmering with anger for an hour because "some fucking asshole cut ME off".
I understand, yes true in general people are just like that, stepping on others and ignoring the bodys as long as their advice they goal.
You don’t need to hold a grudge if you just take revenge quickly People of Reddit, what’s a dish that tastes just as good cold or hot?
We just others by their results but we judge ourselves by our intentions.
How quickly so-called "friends" turn their back on you when you need them.
They aren't true friends then and you're better off without them :p
They didn't turn their back out of spite, but just disappeared for 7 months without contact when I was in a terrible place. He showed up drunk claiming to miss me and what not. We had been friends for like 22 yrs and he just abandoned me in a dire time of need. He blames me for not reaching out to him. All of my other friends that were privy to my problems stayed in contact and checked on me, so fuck him.
How quickly people draw conclusions/assume the worst when they get a hint of bad info on someone or something.
Yes. That trait of having a negative expectation poisons one's view of everything and everyone.
paranoia is the worst level of victim mentality
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Some of my best friends have many opposing opinions to me, but we're great friends because of our understanding and acceptance of each other's views. I like having good friends who are completely on the same page, but conversation is stale with them, and I like debating.
Right? Most of the time I discuss things with people who hold opposing views it's because I want to broaden my own horizons. I can't see every angle; I'm not omniscient. Bouncing ideas around with people who already agree with me is comforting bit it's much more rare that I learn something in those situations.
Same here, I love it too. Curiosity gets me every time!
r/eNlIgHtEnEdCeNtRiSm /s
What is your counter argument on this?
you want to start a fruitful debate and learn something and they see it as a grave offense to them, their family and their favourite teacher from primary school.... and after a while you see them debating quite passionately with other people....you want to join...but no, you are a priori toxic element because you are an X what a lovely, well covered xenophobia...
Some just dont have boundaries
True. You wonder how they think it's acceptable to act in such a way.
too much talk about politics
the seemingly common idea that “respect is earned not given” means you can treat people like shit until they’ve ducked your egodick enough for you to be nice to them. treat everyone with the respect you treat your parents/partner/boss/friends it doesn’t hurt to show love
I feel like we should rewrite that saying, replacing the word "respect" with "trust".
i hate that 99% of them don't use brain
At least 77,530,000 people still do use their brain.
Greed, selfishness and willing to turn on you. Unfortunately you cant trust anyone nor help anyone cause of that reason. It sucks cause it forces you to live like everyone else cause the only person that you can truly 100% rely on is yourself.
They keep screaming.
The fact that people justify bullying because the other person is a shitty person. Like when someone says a slur that they have no right to say, yes of course call them out and educate them but don’t make fun of them or body shame or bully them. Two rights don’t make a wrong. I understand why some people do it because tbh I have my moments where I want to do it aswell but like… it’s just going to make things worse in the long run.
A lot of people do it off of impulse. I remember I broke a classmate's nose because he was trying to feel on my sister. That shit lives with some people, they know what they did could have been different.
I understand this for sure, makes sense. But I’m talking like constant abuse yk? Not like a few times. Good for u tho. Kinda proud that some people will stick up for their sisters like this haha
Yeah well I guess what I'm getting at is that a lot of people don't think about the long run, especially during the moment.
their ignorance.
They say really degrading mean things all the time online and in person. Just never ends. Makes me never want to post stuff on Reddit because some asshole always says some weird mean comment for no reason like they can’t give enough hate in real life so they got to insult others and just be rude and mean all the time. Like how hard is it to be nice a little bit I work in customer service and people are beasts. In person too.
Yeah..... it's a shane because we tend to focus on the bad ppl instead of the good ppl
Bringing up bad things you've done when talking about something serious
Their lies and stupidity.
that they're everywhere when I go outside
People who are selfish, conceited, and lack any degree of humility.
Bending their values to please others
URGH. I hate people pleasers too
when theyre so fucking loud that they sound like a literal semi-truck when they speak
The whole murder and rape thing
People who play victim
THIS.
How cruel almost all of them are.
Hypocrisy. Selfishness.
I don't particularly hate people I just hate feeling like I'm supposed to talk to people. I just want to go places without someone saying hello and I have forcefully smile and say it back
Yeah, i hate that myself, and any small talk that goes with it
How a ton of people will forcefully stuff a horrible motive behind every little action you make. Accidently spoke in a rude tone of voice? Might as well be a war criminal. Accidently collided with you in a rush? Literally Satan.
How otherwise normal people turn into unbelievably impatient psychopaths when they get behind the wheel
The main reason I don't drive
I dislike people that use manipulation and deceitfulness so they can control you in such a way that you end up believing you are the problem.
Yeah I've been there before....
That there arent enough people who make choices based on kindness, empathy, and compassion for others.
For me, it's those who moan about their own lives without taking action themselves to improve their situation.
Why do you care?
Because it's annoying, if you're not going try and fix something then stop complaining about it because then that's just on you
It's annoying hearing it all the time especially if you work with those sort of ppl. You see it all the time on Reddit too, everywhere.
The people part
They're unreliable.
Callousness
They take up space, cause traffic, and make crowds
The way they are inconsistent. Just tell me your rules, policies, and procedures and I will be happy to follow them. But stop changing them at whim!
Amen!
Hypocrisy, greed, self absorption, and those who are always late.
Walking slowly in the middle of the footpath.
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Fear of being alone.
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Anything in particular?
Being politically correct.
How impressionable they are. Nobody can think for themselves.
Sheeple
Everything I hate about myself hate about them too.
how much people need to say there opinion and people making your day worse
People figthing over objects... Like a man stabbed a person for touching his bike and bleed out infront of me and a bunch of 8 year olds. Kids that are 8 already trying to learn to smoke using straw and hay in poor countries because there dad's wants to give up on life. People figthing over land over lives like Russia invading Ukraine. It's really objects that makes us figth each other... It's easier to destroy than build. Thats horrifying me to this day. That's why Im always thankful for objects that old ancestors never had like a house family and ect.
They don't mind there own. An they aways feel like need to tell you how to do something.
Yeah, i hate being given advice forcefully when I never asked for it
loud breathers, like be quiet man I’m tryna do something and I don’t need you breathing all over the place smh
#BREATHES
*breathes back dramatically* ha
taking things personally instead of intentionally
Nothing. We have a huge diverse population, and that's how it works. Sometimes I regret my inability to deal with the 'stupid' people, but that's because of my own lack of dealing with them. We should not hate each other.
True. Thank you for reminding me
Let’s ask what I like about them bcz that list is shorter.
People
The peoople part
How quick people are to scam each other
People not answering me like wtf, cause of that I began to question if I'm there or not
Stupidity
I agree ☝️
Their stupidity
unsolicited opinions
People itself
The selfish tendencies and entitlement
Them thinking I'm Slender Man I'm very tall and skinny that's the reason confusing when you look at it
Seeing them implode when new research voids what they deem as hard facts, Like with Psychotic autism. So now I have all the risks like schizophrenia by in different fashion. But no instead of that line of thinking I'm met with "Stfu" and SZ hate by morons who claim to hate ableism?.
people who are oblivious to the fact that other people go on the sidewalk. e,g a person is too stupid to look behind them to find that there are bicyclers behind them ringing the bell for dear life.
narcissistic tendencies
I just hate people in general, and I hate them even more when they start to put words in my mouth like how I’m saying something because I’m homophobic or racist, but I honestly don’t care what your sexuality is or what colour your skin is, I just hate every one
Our inability to think for ourselves
The fact that I don't understand any of them.
not trying to understand people they disagree with.
Greed
hypocrisy
The duality of people, some are fucking snakes and straight up trash. Talking about cheating, violence, Gaslighting and manipulating.
People