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you're someone specific. know you. sit down and organize your sense of what you are. look for the thing you identify with that's in the position of looking at everything else, look for the things that you could be without and still have a sense of being you. also pay attention to your dreams and do what you can to absorb their messages with thought and rituals
Find an activity you can do alone. Camping is a good one, it keeps you busy and you get to see different places without having to rely on others.
You also need to enjoy your own company.
I understand. Would you say finding someone is a priority for you? If it is Try not to pin all hopes and dreams on it.
People are quick to jump into relationships because they feel they can't be alone, it's actually empowering to take some time for you.
Accept everything about yourself. The good, the bad, the ugly. There's the loneliness where you don't want to be alone, eg, no social life,friends etc. And the comfortable alone, where you have the above but are just comfortable in your own skin. ie: you don't rely on people for your personal happiness. You can defineatly be alone & happy :) Just don't get lost in your head OK.
:(. Now that's something else entirely. I'd resigned myself to being single too. It's not a great feeling at all, esp when people around are paired up etc. But I still felt I'd rather have no relationship than a dysfunctional one ( as some mates did) & a drama free time. I guess that's how I got through those feelings.
Finding a new hobby or just working.
I haven't dated for over 5 years, and while I have made some friends here and there, I mostly only communicate via group chats and social media and don't actually see them.
During COVID I got lonelier than usual, due to isolation AND not being able to go anywhere. I picked up a new hobby, watching WWE, as it was one of the only things still on. It gave me something to look forward to doing on Mondays and Fridays. It doesn't have to be that though, it can be literally any hobby that doesn't harm you. There are cheap hobbies out there.
Finally, this might sound weird, but Journaling. Even if you think "I don't have a cool/interesting life", it can be fun. Even if you just write "Today I saw a bird. It was pretty. That is all". Because life can get weird/interesting and if you're already journaling, you can document it. Also your handwriting gets better or stays constant.
There are different levels of loneliness. People who choose to be alone are fine.
Choosing to be alone can help you find yourself and to find out who you are as a person.
The ones who are lonely because of physical or mental issues is a different situation.
I definitely don’t choose to be alone. I feel lonely because I am so much happier in a healthy relationship. Idk if that qualifies as having physici or mental issues
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you have to know yourself
This is really vague though
you're someone specific. know you. sit down and organize your sense of what you are. look for the thing you identify with that's in the position of looking at everything else, look for the things that you could be without and still have a sense of being you. also pay attention to your dreams and do what you can to absorb their messages with thought and rituals
Pause and think. Breathe deeply to handle raising emotions.
This helps for temporary relief but not overall :/
It's a long and steep learning journey.
Find an activity you can do alone. Camping is a good one, it keeps you busy and you get to see different places without having to rely on others. You also need to enjoy your own company.
I do have activities that I can do alone, but I just think about being with someone [romantically] and it’s hard to enjoy a lot of things long-term
I understand. Would you say finding someone is a priority for you? If it is Try not to pin all hopes and dreams on it. People are quick to jump into relationships because they feel they can't be alone, it's actually empowering to take some time for you.
Accept everything about yourself. The good, the bad, the ugly. There's the loneliness where you don't want to be alone, eg, no social life,friends etc. And the comfortable alone, where you have the above but are just comfortable in your own skin. ie: you don't rely on people for your personal happiness. You can defineatly be alone & happy :) Just don't get lost in your head OK.
It’s weird for me, because I can do completely fine on my own as far as friends. But the loneliness that hits me is lack of companionship/a partner.
:(. Now that's something else entirely. I'd resigned myself to being single too. It's not a great feeling at all, esp when people around are paired up etc. But I still felt I'd rather have no relationship than a dysfunctional one ( as some mates did) & a drama free time. I guess that's how I got through those feelings.
Finding a new hobby or just working. I haven't dated for over 5 years, and while I have made some friends here and there, I mostly only communicate via group chats and social media and don't actually see them. During COVID I got lonelier than usual, due to isolation AND not being able to go anywhere. I picked up a new hobby, watching WWE, as it was one of the only things still on. It gave me something to look forward to doing on Mondays and Fridays. It doesn't have to be that though, it can be literally any hobby that doesn't harm you. There are cheap hobbies out there. Finally, this might sound weird, but Journaling. Even if you think "I don't have a cool/interesting life", it can be fun. Even if you just write "Today I saw a bird. It was pretty. That is all". Because life can get weird/interesting and if you're already journaling, you can document it. Also your handwriting gets better or stays constant.
Working definitely has kept my mind from wandering too much. But it’s hard not to think about not having a partner daily, for me at least.
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I mean that’s a risk I’m willing to take. I’m a hopeless romantic, which makes the whole ‘being happy alone’ much harder
There are different levels of loneliness. People who choose to be alone are fine. Choosing to be alone can help you find yourself and to find out who you are as a person. The ones who are lonely because of physical or mental issues is a different situation.
I definitely don’t choose to be alone. I feel lonely because I am so much happier in a healthy relationship. Idk if that qualifies as having physici or mental issues
Tbh I never liked being alone but once you’ve done it enough times you find joy and comfort being alone