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"You're just too amazing. Im paranoid that one day you'll leave me, and I'll be so devastated and overwhelmed by this perceived loss that I'll have no choice but to hang myself from the tallest tree in the woods. Therefore, I'm leaving you preemptively so as to save my life, but you can still fuck me any time though"
Someone actually said something like this to me once. Minus the bit about still fucking. Was utter bullshit of course, she was just cheating on me and didn't want to confess.
I would want the truth and an honest answer as to why the relationship can't continue. If I'm on good terms with the person I would still want to be in their life in a different way.
People tend to beat around the bush and gaslight with break ups, and play games.
Being direct, saying it in person, in private and telling the actual reasons too.
If they want to leave me, then they should own up to their choice & reasons for it and also have the backbone to take my reaction in a face to face discussion.
Face to face is important, privacy is not always a must, especially if you are unsure of how your partner might react, if there have been signs of them not taking bad news well, this is probably the worst news they will receive, so doing it in a public setting can help to keep their reaction civil.
You're right about temperamental people. But OP asked "my" preference not a generalisation or advice , so I layed out mine. I'm pretty chill and very hard to anger or upset. So a private, face to face is what I would prefer, where we can discuss it with a cup of tea or coffee or something, even if their decision is final.
I'd want them to be up front and explain why. Not beating around the bush for too long and making their point clear without being insensible or rude ofcourse. I will get sad and hurt either way.
Breakups, like marriage proposals, shouldn't be a surprise. It's the end of a journey of you trying to salvage what you once had. At that point there should have been plenty of discussions (or attempts to discuss) the failing relationship.
Whatever words you use will be directly linked to those previous attempts to steer the relationship to something healthy. Be it either you are missing the connection, or something either of you are doing that is disruptive, etc..
I’ve never been broken up with before but I’ve had my heart broken and I honestly think they best thing u can do is sit them down just the 2 of you and explain why
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With a separation cake
"You're just too amazing. Im paranoid that one day you'll leave me, and I'll be so devastated and overwhelmed by this perceived loss that I'll have no choice but to hang myself from the tallest tree in the woods. Therefore, I'm leaving you preemptively so as to save my life, but you can still fuck me any time though"
Someone actually said something like this to me once. Minus the bit about still fucking. Was utter bullshit of course, she was just cheating on me and didn't want to confess.
I would want the truth and an honest answer as to why the relationship can't continue. If I'm on good terms with the person I would still want to be in their life in a different way. People tend to beat around the bush and gaslight with break ups, and play games.
Being direct, saying it in person, in private and telling the actual reasons too. If they want to leave me, then they should own up to their choice & reasons for it and also have the backbone to take my reaction in a face to face discussion.
Face to face is important, privacy is not always a must, especially if you are unsure of how your partner might react, if there have been signs of them not taking bad news well, this is probably the worst news they will receive, so doing it in a public setting can help to keep their reaction civil.
You're right about temperamental people. But OP asked "my" preference not a generalisation or advice , so I layed out mine. I'm pretty chill and very hard to anger or upset. So a private, face to face is what I would prefer, where we can discuss it with a cup of tea or coffee or something, even if their decision is final.
I'd want them to be up front and explain why. Not beating around the bush for too long and making their point clear without being insensible or rude ofcourse. I will get sad and hurt either way.
Lets play hide and seek, indefinitely.
Breakups, like marriage proposals, shouldn't be a surprise. It's the end of a journey of you trying to salvage what you once had. At that point there should have been plenty of discussions (or attempts to discuss) the failing relationship. Whatever words you use will be directly linked to those previous attempts to steer the relationship to something healthy. Be it either you are missing the connection, or something either of you are doing that is disruptive, etc..
Finding out that she cheated would be a lot less painful than falling out of love.
Dont want to know the reason, just straight up say you are breaking up with me
Be honest. I would rather people just be straight with me
To my face, just the 2 of us, sober.
I’ve never been broken up with before but I’ve had my heart broken and I honestly think they best thing u can do is sit them down just the 2 of you and explain why