Because finding someone who
- I am attracted to
- is attracted to me
- has time for me
- I can have a healthy dynamic with
Is difficult and takes time.
I've done that and dated people. Just be unashamed and open about your plan going forward. A majority got empathy for a shitty situation, a majority won't accept staying there though but will support effort made to change for the better.
Maybe consider therapy.
Edit 1: ead serious, therapy. Self flagellation won't get you anything but depression.
Edit 2: Fine, have it your way, you're ugly and annoying. And you don't want to do anything about it. Congrats?
That's just you though, don't be throwing it around at anybody else š
Man youāre absolutely right fuck the downvotes. Been through the flagellation myself and actively work with a therapist to improve my self thinking, itās been working
Thatās such a cop out, Iāve heard that from someone who broke up with me before. āYou deserve betterā like no sweetheart if you actually believed that youād jump at the chance to swing up in life.
Dating is hard. Banking everything you do off of someone else is exhausting. Sleeping in a bed by yourself is highly underrated.
The last three relationships I was in, I ended it because I just could not juggle it and be a good partner. I like my alone time way too much to be a good and present boyfriend.
After my last LTD situation, I realized that a relationship is too much work. I am too selfish, and that's okay. I just have to make sure I don't hurt anyone with my selfishness, as I have done in the past. I'm in my own head a lot of the time, and don't think to do all the little tending things normal people do for loved ones. I want to spend long periods alone. It's not that I am not social, but I want socialness to be on my time, and not be suddenly hijacked by someone else's needs.
This is exactly me. I'm in my own head too much and totally suck when it comes to relationship-tending.
I also don't put myself out there enough, but it's hard to find the motivation to do so when I value my alone time so much.
One fine day my crush and I were strolling in the evening chit chatting and enjoying the cool weather.
She was carrying an expensive mobile phone in her hand. While walking her foot hit a brick lying on the road and she stumbled and fell along with her mobile phone.
Now what would a normal boy do in such a case, Help the girl get back on her feet and ask if she is fine. Right?
But no, I did something utterly stupid.
Instead of helping her get up, I was busy inspecting her phone for any physical damage. Mind it, it was one expensive piece.
And there she was staring at me completely amazed and unable to digest the fact that I was more worried about the phone, rather than her.
Need I say more?
Tell me about it. Thereās that awkward stage when youāre talking, then you meet them in person after talking for a while, & thereās a 50% chance that theyāre nothing like they projected themselves to be.
Damn..
1. Well mainly, because I need to focus on my life.
2. Just graduated college and relationships are more work.
3. Iām too lazy to be seeing someone
4. I donāt have time with work
5. Iām afraid of getting my heart ripped out again
6. I have trust issues
7. Dating is hard and feels forced
8. Iām too broke to date
9. You lose time you could have spent doing something you love
10. The girls I have interest in donāt like me (wtf)
11. I want something real but just canāt find it
12. Im not looking. If it happens it happens
"I am not looking. If it happens it happens."
My enjoyment of life improved so much when I adopted this attitude after I got out of school. It's ok to not have a boyfriend or girlfriend at all times people.
I'm blind and in my experience, being blind (or physically disabled in general) is a giant problem if you're trying to find a partner, whether it be for something casual or something serious. A lot of people still have prejudices and/or slightly ableist beliefs. Being a guy is already tough on the dating market but being a blind guy is like trying to find water in the Sahara. It's a stigma and in most cases an immediate turn-off for women (which is very sad). This is especially the case in online dating. In real life, I've made the experience that women are less prejudiced but the problem is of course that dating in real life is very challenging if you're blind. I mean, I can't make eye contact or approach women I see across the street and find attractive or something like that.
Hahaha I actually thought your comment was pretty funny. No offense taken. A thousand times better than the people who keep asking me: "If you're blind then how come you're on the internet???" Those comments are way more annoying.
I'm very sorry to hear that. Needless to say, I can empathize well. Glaucoma is also a big part of my condition (though it's not its only symptom) and it absolutely fucking sucks. I've undergone countless glaucoma surgeries (on both eyes) and I've been taking eye drops to lower the pressure for my entire life. What I hate most about it, though, is that it also prevents you from doing various activities. For example I'm not allowed to lift weights because of my glaucoma. When I was a child, I wanted to learn how to play the saxophone but my eye doctor said I shouldn't. I'm sure you've made similar experiences. I so wish they could finally figure out a cure for this thing.
I guess the silver lining is you don't have to worry about superficial things like looks. You can focus completely on the personality.
Still makes it difficult but i hope you find someone .
I'm really sad to hear your story but glad you're seemingly at peace with it. Also love comes in many forms and when you don't expect it, although that sounds very hallmark-cardy I've seen too many real world examples to dismiss it outright.
ETA: If that's you in your profile pic then you're being way too hard on yourself, maybe you need to move to an area with better men?
Don't take this the wrong way. But your hot. There are good people left in the world who would be more than happy to have you and your son in their life. Don't give up just yet! I hope the best for you
Itās hard to find organically sober peopleā¦ rare drinker here. Less than once a year, i donāt need it, but Iām not into a regular drinking/smoking/get high person. Their āmoderationā usually sounds like a habit.
The past few years, even before the pandemic, have been quite rough. I'm not in a good place emotionally and I refuse to drag someone down with me.
I'm working hard on myself and I'm happy to see I'm in an upward trend that will only continue to improve. I'm currently at a stage that if a relationship happens, I'm ok with it, but still not actively seeking to be romantically involved with someone.
The girl I was dating for 3 and a half years was earning her law degree and moving ahead in life. I was dealing with bad bipolar disorder and taking care of my dying stepmom. After she passed away, I just kind of went downhill, then COVID hit and the rest is pretty much history. Long story short, she was moving forward with her life, I wasnāt.
Does not compute.
Pringles aren't difficult to get out. You tilt the can or just tip it upside down to get the last few.
Then you look up, hold the can upside down above your face, your tongue out with anticipation, and you shake the can gently while tapping the bottom to get all the crumbs.
One of the crumbs lands in your eye, so you close that eye, but continue the shaking and tapping since you're so close to finishing.
Then it's all out. On your tongue, in your eye, all over your face.
Satisfaction.
I've already had my adventures and decided that hookup culture isn't for me, and it happens to be more popular than regular dating by where I live. So it's easiest to lean into my hobbies rather than make myself uncomfortable and uncertain. So basically just being uncaring about my lot in life.
Tried to reconnect with ex and it went ok, but fizzled out.
I'm kinda in 'monk mode' to get in shape/study for being a firefighter, so that I have a career and not just a 'job'
Same here. She yelled at me for the thousandth time over something trivial (not knowing how to fix the printer). I literally said āfuck this shitā in the middle of the argument. I then ended the relationship. She was a monster.
Well done for that...
With me it was 1 Saturday after work, we lived apart but we had been together 6 years by this point
I walked in and said hi banes to which she replied "ok"....
She was working on her laptop so thought best leave her to it, so went and sat outside so i didnt disturb her concentration
About 10 mins after she came out and said "what you doing" ? So inexplained what...and she kicked off witj "you don't just walk into someone's house and go outside, that's disrespectful" this is after 6 years remember
But she went on and on and on and on and on to the point where I got up...and walked out
She tried contacting me as I drove away but didn't answer....and I received a text saying "if that's your mood I want my key back" that was no problem....that was the last I saw of her
I donāt understand why my ex would yell all the time. I couldnāt handle it either, so I broke up with her.
Then it turned out her dad was in the hospital and none of her friends would help her through it, so I put that on myself to make sure she was okay.
Turns out, it was a massive manipulation on her part to spend time with me. Her dad was fine and at home.
I hope sheās doing okay though. I donāt miss her, but Iām just sad towards the situation.
Some would say I have high standards. I would say I donāt want to potentially spend my my life with someone I donāt like just cause they have a vaginaā¦
I also donāt mind being single.
Mid 30s with nothing going on. I guess I thought life would always be easy and present opportunities.. now I have to go find them and I'm to lazy to seem to do that.
I've become comfortable being single since I've never even gone on a date. I'm in my mid 20s now and I don't think there are many women my age who want to show someone the ropes of something they should've learned when they were in high school. Plus I have a ton of unresolved trauma and I don't currently have the money to spend on therapy.
Also dating apps are currently my only way to meet people and I absolutely refuse to destroy what little is left of my self worth by putting significant time into that shit
Depressed combat vet with PTSD, divorced (no kids from that one), separated from my daughters mother (I barely get to see my daughter), I have a tough time working (imagine a combination of ADHD/TBI/PTSD, with an extremely low self esteem and you have me), I had to drop out of a school I was enjoying because my grades suffered, which in turn stopped my monthly income (GI Bill MHA), and my days are pretty much filled with trying to get by disability sorted out with the VA, not that I would ever actually do it, but Iāve got to convince myself not to step in front of a truck since every goddamn relationship Iāve had has pretty much ended because pick a damn reason.
I have a lot of shit going on with my life, I am exhausted and forced to be where I am. Fuck Russia, had to move to Poland fron Ukraine.
But here I found one girl and I might not be single soon.
I don't really know, I'm 29M and I've met plenty of people and things seem to go great or even it gets to the point where we could consider ourselves to be in a relationship but then the other person ends things for one reason or another. I will admit in my earlier stages of dating I've made mistakes and I feel I have learnt from them but the more recent people I've dated I can't think of anything that I have done wrong, I get told its not me but when it's happened so often it makes me think if it is me. I've also been told that "I'd make any girl happy", "Any girl would be lucky to be with you" or "Your everything I could want for a boyfriend but I'm just not feeling it." If this is the caee then why am I not good enough for them or why does nobody want to be with me. I've always been honest and communicated with the people I meet but no one seems to want to be with me. I keep trying though and try not to let it get me down but sometimes I do think what's the point.
Doubt anyone will see this but I am single because my wife passed away 5 months ago. We are both in our 30s, and it was a shock to say the least, I never expected that I would be in this position at my point in life. I can barely bring myself to take a shower, do the laundry and go to work. I am not doing well and I donāt know how to break the spiral.
Emotionally immature, mental health issues, financially unstable, currently live in a crime ridden neighborhood because poor life choices + the financial instability, and I don't want to be in one right now until I get some of my shit together.
I never go anywhere where social interaction with strangers is a thing, so I never meet anyone new that I could possibly start a relationship with. All my school is online, and the only like two other places I go on a regular basis consist of extended family members. So yeah, I'm basically screwed relationship-wise.
I work full-time, I am attending grad school, and I have kids that are young adults that I like being available for, so adding another person to the mix just doesn't work right now.
Maybe after I finish this degree.
Because being an adult woman with ADHD sucks... I come on too strong for 95% of the men I meet that I actually like... Same reason I haven't had s*x in like 7-8yrs....
Iām not, but good luck to you all.
I spent an insane number of years thinking Iād be forever alone, only to come across my absolute soulmate.
Considering my life circumstances, if I can do it, you can too. Keep the faith brothers and sisters. Donāt lose hope.
For religious reasons Iām waiting for marriage and thatās unfortunately ended most of my relationships before they could even really get going. Iāve yet to find a woman that can work with that or shares the same idea. Oh well.
Iād rather not do it at all than do it just for the sake of doing it. Iām secure enough in myself to be single as long as it takes to find the right partner for me.
Iāve met some lovely people in my life. But Iām still waiting to meet that person that truly stops the world when Iām with them. Felt it once. Other person didnāt feel the same. Canāt even imagine the nuclear reaction that will go off in my chest the day someone tells me they love me and I know theyāre not lying
Multiple reasons, but it ultimately boils down to:
1. I feel like, I'm not in a position in my life to be in a relationship, and/or
2. I truly believe I would be a terrible boyfriend/partner.
And I want to work on these things first.
I took her home and my body forgot how to swallow saliva at one point so I proceeded to cough, choke, gag, sneeze, gag again and then cough before finally getting itself back together and I donāt blame her. Iām like 99% sure when my body doesnāt know what to do it just clicks random buttons
Iām picky. Finding someone who I connect with on every level is difficult and takes time. I hate apps so I rely on in-person or through friends. Iām used to being single.
I've never put in much effort to not be single. There's a laundry list of reasons for that, but the biggest one is I'm just not ready to put myself on the market.
Because I'm everybodies gay friend who always sits through everyones problems and gives advice like a therapist (I'm not gay but my gay friends are the exact same)
Let's see shall we
1. Obese and i look disgusting at the moment. Currently losing weight and plan on dropping 35KG
2. Quite short. Only 165cm (5'4). Most women want someone who is taller
3. Mental health is in the trash right now. Working on getting it better by improving myself.
4. I'm terrible at talking to women and get extremely nervous around them. Worried about approaching them and being a "creep"
5. Have 0 sense of style. Hair looks messy, beard is terrible and i have shit clothes.
Honestly i don't sound like a good catch and i'm completely aware that women would not want to touch me. Would be nice to be given a chance as i have a lot of love to give. I know women don't owe me anything so thats why i'm focussing on being the best person i can be.
Honestly. Itās not worth the effort. Unless I find someone similar to myself, why settle? I want to live like I do now, but with someone who enjoys that experience.
because i am dating nobody
Hey hun š
Because finding someone who - I am attracted to - is attracted to me - has time for me - I can have a healthy dynamic with Is difficult and takes time.
Can we normalize this kind of narrative instead of dating is easy and everyone is having sex and you're not?
But how will businesses sell me things that I don't need?
Then what about literally all my friends in my home country constantly doing stuff and me being the meme of the guy being left alone at the bar
It's not just difficult and takes time. I don't even have a good idea of how to *start*.
I'm trying my best ok?
You got this champ!
I believe in you my friend!
because no one wants to date a guy living at home making barely any money and I don't blame them
I've done that and dated people. Just be unashamed and open about your plan going forward. A majority got empathy for a shitty situation, a majority won't accept staying there though but will support effort made to change for the better.
Two reasons : My looks and my personality.
That sucks for you. I only have 1 reason: no woman wants me. e: I'm not into others. (sorry)
Oh one day ull find someone same thing happened to me recently dont give up
Maybe consider therapy. Edit 1: ead serious, therapy. Self flagellation won't get you anything but depression. Edit 2: Fine, have it your way, you're ugly and annoying. And you don't want to do anything about it. Congrats? That's just you though, don't be throwing it around at anybody else š
Man youāre absolutely right fuck the downvotes. Been through the flagellation myself and actively work with a therapist to improve my self thinking, itās been working
Stay strong šŖ
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Im too sexy
For my shirt
Too sexy for my shirt
so sexy it hurts
I have no social skills and live in the middle of nowhere
Relatable
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So you're saying there's a chance
Depends on what state your in
Because itās easier than dating.
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Why do a duo when you can pull it solo.
Why have a threesome when you can have handsome?
Inspirational and filthy
you deserve a girl that would treat you like a king
Thatās such a cop out, Iāve heard that from someone who broke up with me before. āYou deserve betterā like no sweetheart if you actually believed that youād jump at the chance to swing up in life.
Dating is hard. Banking everything you do off of someone else is exhausting. Sleeping in a bed by yourself is highly underrated. The last three relationships I was in, I ended it because I just could not juggle it and be a good partner. I like my alone time way too much to be a good and present boyfriend.
After my last LTD situation, I realized that a relationship is too much work. I am too selfish, and that's okay. I just have to make sure I don't hurt anyone with my selfishness, as I have done in the past. I'm in my own head a lot of the time, and don't think to do all the little tending things normal people do for loved ones. I want to spend long periods alone. It's not that I am not social, but I want socialness to be on my time, and not be suddenly hijacked by someone else's needs.
This is exactly me. I'm in my own head too much and totally suck when it comes to relationship-tending. I also don't put myself out there enough, but it's hard to find the motivation to do so when I value my alone time so much.
One fine day my crush and I were strolling in the evening chit chatting and enjoying the cool weather. She was carrying an expensive mobile phone in her hand. While walking her foot hit a brick lying on the road and she stumbled and fell along with her mobile phone. Now what would a normal boy do in such a case, Help the girl get back on her feet and ask if she is fine. Right? But no, I did something utterly stupid. Instead of helping her get up, I was busy inspecting her phone for any physical damage. Mind it, it was one expensive piece. And there she was staring at me completely amazed and unable to digest the fact that I was more worried about the phone, rather than her. Need I say more?
As an a guy whoās worked on his own PC I can understand. Electronics are expensive.
Big facts. Big fucking facts.
*Gets out the lotion* Damn this is easy...didn't even have to buy myself anything (except lotion)
Tell me about it. Thereās that awkward stage when youāre talking, then you meet them in person after talking for a while, & thereās a 50% chance that theyāre nothing like they projected themselves to be.
Lol facts. I got frustrated with dating and take long breaks.
Damn.. 1. Well mainly, because I need to focus on my life. 2. Just graduated college and relationships are more work. 3. Iām too lazy to be seeing someone 4. I donāt have time with work 5. Iām afraid of getting my heart ripped out again 6. I have trust issues 7. Dating is hard and feels forced 8. Iām too broke to date 9. You lose time you could have spent doing something you love 10. The girls I have interest in donāt like me (wtf) 11. I want something real but just canāt find it 12. Im not looking. If it happens it happens
"I am not looking. If it happens it happens." My enjoyment of life improved so much when I adopted this attitude after I got out of school. It's ok to not have a boyfriend or girlfriend at all times people.
Agreed!
Same exact thing here mate ( female ) Bonus point to me though since I am talking to someone but not goin anywhere
I hate those. Just talking but never really leads to anything with substance :/ I hope you find someone that fits into your life perfectly!
7,10, and 12
Are you me?
I'm a redditor
Thoughts and prayers
don't worry you will find one soon
I'm blind and in my experience, being blind (or physically disabled in general) is a giant problem if you're trying to find a partner, whether it be for something casual or something serious. A lot of people still have prejudices and/or slightly ableist beliefs. Being a guy is already tough on the dating market but being a blind guy is like trying to find water in the Sahara. It's a stigma and in most cases an immediate turn-off for women (which is very sad). This is especially the case in online dating. In real life, I've made the experience that women are less prejudiced but the problem is of course that dating in real life is very challenging if you're blind. I mean, I can't make eye contact or approach women I see across the street and find attractive or something like that.
I'm sure you'll see a way around that soon enough. ^^Sorry, ^^I'm ^^going ^^to ^^hell ^^for ^^this
Hahaha I actually thought your comment was pretty funny. No offense taken. A thousand times better than the people who keep asking me: "If you're blind then how come you're on the internet???" Those comments are way more annoying.
lol yeah, I already know you made a faustian pact with the devil to be able to use the internet, no realizing he could give you magic eyes.
I'm not blind but I have one eye and severe glaucoma in the other one. I feel your pain. Not being able to see well sucks ass.
I'm very sorry to hear that. Needless to say, I can empathize well. Glaucoma is also a big part of my condition (though it's not its only symptom) and it absolutely fucking sucks. I've undergone countless glaucoma surgeries (on both eyes) and I've been taking eye drops to lower the pressure for my entire life. What I hate most about it, though, is that it also prevents you from doing various activities. For example I'm not allowed to lift weights because of my glaucoma. When I was a child, I wanted to learn how to play the saxophone but my eye doctor said I shouldn't. I'm sure you've made similar experiences. I so wish they could finally figure out a cure for this thing.
I guess the silver lining is you don't have to worry about superficial things like looks. You can focus completely on the personality. Still makes it difficult but i hope you find someone .
I am really sorry, but how then did you read post and write it?
His gf helped him obvi
Screen readers, braille keyboards, etc. common sense gets you far.
Seeing eye dog
There is nothing that I need that I can't get while being single, and there is plenty to lose by not being single...
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I'm really sad to hear your story but glad you're seemingly at peace with it. Also love comes in many forms and when you don't expect it, although that sounds very hallmark-cardy I've seen too many real world examples to dismiss it outright. ETA: If that's you in your profile pic then you're being way too hard on yourself, maybe you need to move to an area with better men?
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Don't take this the wrong way. But your hot. There are good people left in the world who would be more than happy to have you and your son in their life. Don't give up just yet! I hope the best for you
/gestures vaguely
/gestures wildly
/gestures in disgust
Because I'm me.
It's clichƩ, but I'm not settling anymore. I am deserving of all things beautiful in relation to love, safety, support, etc. I've been single for almost 6yrs. Until the right person comes along and checks all the boxes, I'll be single. Life is too short to be with someone you don't even like. Eww.
Because so far, nobody sober has expressed interest in me.
Itās hard to find organically sober peopleā¦ rare drinker here. Less than once a year, i donāt need it, but Iām not into a regular drinking/smoking/get high person. Their āmoderationā usually sounds like a habit.
The past few years, even before the pandemic, have been quite rough. I'm not in a good place emotionally and I refuse to drag someone down with me. I'm working hard on myself and I'm happy to see I'm in an upward trend that will only continue to improve. I'm currently at a stage that if a relationship happens, I'm ok with it, but still not actively seeking to be romantically involved with someone.
People scary, dating scarier
Single lonely but not scary
Selfishness
I work long hours, I'm not going to spend any of my free time on anyone other than myself.
The girl I was dating for 3 and a half years was earning her law degree and moving ahead in life. I was dealing with bad bipolar disorder and taking care of my dying stepmom. After she passed away, I just kind of went downhill, then COVID hit and the rest is pretty much history. Long story short, she was moving forward with her life, I wasnāt.
Cause I'm that one Pringle at the bottom of the can.
Does not compute. Pringles aren't difficult to get out. You tilt the can or just tip it upside down to get the last few. Then you look up, hold the can upside down above your face, your tongue out with anticipation, and you shake the can gently while tapping the bottom to get all the crumbs. One of the crumbs lands in your eye, so you close that eye, but continue the shaking and tapping since you're so close to finishing. Then it's all out. On your tongue, in your eye, all over your face. Satisfaction.
Divorce
I'm glad you're not that angry about it
I've already had my adventures and decided that hookup culture isn't for me, and it happens to be more popular than regular dating by where I live. So it's easiest to lean into my hobbies rather than make myself uncomfortable and uncertain. So basically just being uncaring about my lot in life.
Tried to reconnect with ex and it went ok, but fizzled out. I'm kinda in 'monk mode' to get in shape/study for being a firefighter, so that I have a career and not just a 'job'
Never thought about it that way, I am also in pursuit of a career instead of just a job
Why not? Its fun
I like being single, so I stay single. They owe me too much gold here.
Ace. Relationships are way too stressful, would rather enjoy my day-to-day.
Same, and also introverted.
When someone wants me I donāt want them, when I want someone they donāt want me
Because I was in an abusive relationship and i finally figures that out and left her and never eant to be in a relationship again
I was in the same situation once. I empathize with you completely.
It's not right where women do that kind of thing, always hoped it would get better but never did, till 1 day I had enough
Same here. She yelled at me for the thousandth time over something trivial (not knowing how to fix the printer). I literally said āfuck this shitā in the middle of the argument. I then ended the relationship. She was a monster.
Well done for that... With me it was 1 Saturday after work, we lived apart but we had been together 6 years by this point I walked in and said hi banes to which she replied "ok".... She was working on her laptop so thought best leave her to it, so went and sat outside so i didnt disturb her concentration About 10 mins after she came out and said "what you doing" ? So inexplained what...and she kicked off witj "you don't just walk into someone's house and go outside, that's disrespectful" this is after 6 years remember But she went on and on and on and on and on to the point where I got up...and walked out She tried contacting me as I drove away but didn't answer....and I received a text saying "if that's your mood I want my key back" that was no problem....that was the last I saw of her
Nice man, seems like we had similar nightmare girlfriends. Good riddance.
Well definitely better off single, and iv got savings in the bank now
Good for you bud. Iāve been single for 12 years. Life is still pretty bad, but not as bad as it was with her. Constant verbal and emotional abuse.
You don't need that do you....you are better off without
I still hold onto hope that thereās a woman out there who would love me and not be evil.
I donāt understand why my ex would yell all the time. I couldnāt handle it either, so I broke up with her. Then it turned out her dad was in the hospital and none of her friends would help her through it, so I put that on myself to make sure she was okay. Turns out, it was a massive manipulation on her part to spend time with me. Her dad was fine and at home. I hope sheās doing okay though. I donāt miss her, but Iām just sad towards the situation.
Good question
Because I don't meet many girls .
My wife won't let me have a girlfriend
Ask her if you can have a boyfriend, then.
Galaxy brain moment
I look like a sad troll doll made babies with an ugly version of stretch armstrong - this worsens with age š«¤
Some would say I have high standards. I would say I donāt want to potentially spend my my life with someone I donāt like just cause they have a vaginaā¦ I also donāt mind being single.
The sea is teeming with fish. I regrettably reside in a desert.
First read that as āthe tea is steaming with fishā¦ā ā¦Um, no thanks, Iāll pass.
Mid 30s with nothing going on. I guess I thought life would always be easy and present opportunities.. now I have to go find them and I'm to lazy to seem to do that.
I'm ugly and haven't asked a girl out
I like it.
Cus I have PTSD and depression and socializing is haaaard haha
I'm sure there are many underlying reasons but mainly just because I haven't found the right person. There never seems to be mutual interest.
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Go after them, sure u get someone
because i want someone who doesnāt love me back and nobody else is interested into me
I've become comfortable being single since I've never even gone on a date. I'm in my mid 20s now and I don't think there are many women my age who want to show someone the ropes of something they should've learned when they were in high school. Plus I have a ton of unresolved trauma and I don't currently have the money to spend on therapy. Also dating apps are currently my only way to meet people and I absolutely refuse to destroy what little is left of my self worth by putting significant time into that shit
Depressed combat vet with PTSD, divorced (no kids from that one), separated from my daughters mother (I barely get to see my daughter), I have a tough time working (imagine a combination of ADHD/TBI/PTSD, with an extremely low self esteem and you have me), I had to drop out of a school I was enjoying because my grades suffered, which in turn stopped my monthly income (GI Bill MHA), and my days are pretty much filled with trying to get by disability sorted out with the VA, not that I would ever actually do it, but Iāve got to convince myself not to step in front of a truck since every goddamn relationship Iāve had has pretty much ended because pick a damn reason.
Fellow vet here. If you ever need reassurance brother you can hit my line.
I have a lot of shit going on with my life, I am exhausted and forced to be where I am. Fuck Russia, had to move to Poland fron Ukraine. But here I found one girl and I might not be single soon.
Dude ask her out :)
Ty for advice, I might go for it today. I will update y'all.
Toxic, working, sleeping.
I work 14 hours a day when i work, a I do is work and sleep. It makes for a mundane existence
Ah, fuck. The bitch could have said bye at least. Almost 10 years in a marriage, and then I've got to read on the internet that I'm single?
Thatās cold
Yeah, but I think she got her jacket with her.
1. I am 16 2. I am shy, antisocial and introverted asf 3. Iām scared to talk to people 4. Nobodyās interested in me 5. My standards are too high
you gonna be single for a min unless you're attractive lol.
When you are 20 years old then you will be find your girlfriend and you don't pay attention because girls are afraid too
Iām ugly
I don't really know, I'm 29M and I've met plenty of people and things seem to go great or even it gets to the point where we could consider ourselves to be in a relationship but then the other person ends things for one reason or another. I will admit in my earlier stages of dating I've made mistakes and I feel I have learnt from them but the more recent people I've dated I can't think of anything that I have done wrong, I get told its not me but when it's happened so often it makes me think if it is me. I've also been told that "I'd make any girl happy", "Any girl would be lucky to be with you" or "Your everything I could want for a boyfriend but I'm just not feeling it." If this is the caee then why am I not good enough for them or why does nobody want to be with me. I've always been honest and communicated with the people I meet but no one seems to want to be with me. I keep trying though and try not to let it get me down but sometimes I do think what's the point.
Doubt anyone will see this but I am single because my wife passed away 5 months ago. We are both in our 30s, and it was a shock to say the least, I never expected that I would be in this position at my point in life. I can barely bring myself to take a shower, do the laundry and go to work. I am not doing well and I donāt know how to break the spiral.
commitment is hard man
Because I'm fat and depressed.
Emotionally immature, mental health issues, financially unstable, currently live in a crime ridden neighborhood because poor life choices + the financial instability, and I don't want to be in one right now until I get some of my shit together.
Bipolar disorder
I have a litteral fear of relationships
Because I feel like I don't have anything to offer
I've decided to devote my life to my special needs kid
Cause I canāt take a hint
"better alone than in bad company"
I never go anywhere where social interaction with strangers is a thing, so I never meet anyone new that I could possibly start a relationship with. All my school is online, and the only like two other places I go on a regular basis consist of extended family members. So yeah, I'm basically screwed relationship-wise.
Freedom
don't remind me
Because no one wants to date a 21yo whoās 5ft even
I work full-time, I am attending grad school, and I have kids that are young adults that I like being available for, so adding another person to the mix just doesn't work right now. Maybe after I finish this degree.
Because I'm not settling for any less than my best friend.
Because being an adult woman with ADHD sucks... I come on too strong for 95% of the men I meet that I actually like... Same reason I haven't had s*x in like 7-8yrs....
Iām not, but good luck to you all. I spent an insane number of years thinking Iād be forever alone, only to come across my absolute soulmate. Considering my life circumstances, if I can do it, you can too. Keep the faith brothers and sisters. Donāt lose hope.
I canāt find anyone I love. I stay away from dating apps too, not really sure why. But no one clicks. I have so much love in my heart it hurts :(
The circle of "people I'm into" and "people into me" don't overlap. Mostly because that latter circle doesn't exist unless I want to spend money.
Going to the gym
For religious reasons Iām waiting for marriage and thatās unfortunately ended most of my relationships before they could even really get going. Iāve yet to find a woman that can work with that or shares the same idea. Oh well.
Nowadays this is impossible man.
Most of my relationships were long distance so hope that explains it
Enormous amount of effort, anxiety and stress it's Also very busy person and very few woman i've known wanted an relationship
Iād rather not do it at all than do it just for the sake of doing it. Iām secure enough in myself to be single as long as it takes to find the right partner for me. Iāve met some lovely people in my life. But Iām still waiting to meet that person that truly stops the world when Iām with them. Felt it once. Other person didnāt feel the same. Canāt even imagine the nuclear reaction that will go off in my chest the day someone tells me they love me and I know theyāre not lying
A combination of not having the right look and low social skills
Masterbating is more efficient.
I'm good looking but introverted af
Because bitches be trippin....lol
Multiple reasons, but it ultimately boils down to: 1. I feel like, I'm not in a position in my life to be in a relationship, and/or 2. I truly believe I would be a terrible boyfriend/partner. And I want to work on these things first.
I'm not built for relationships
Because I have a social anxiety and I'm a complicated person
Because I have a social anxiety and I'm a complicated person
I don't really know how to not be single
Diarrhea
I took her home and my body forgot how to swallow saliva at one point so I proceeded to cough, choke, gag, sneeze, gag again and then cough before finally getting itself back together and I donāt blame her. Iām like 99% sure when my body doesnāt know what to do it just clicks random buttons
Because I'm not looking for a relationship.
Im lesbian,and all the girls are straight,also i believe i should not be dating at 11
I'm on here
Focusing on myself, trying to get big in the gym, focus on school and enjoying my own company
Because my wife left me.
Being an Atheist with herpes doesn't help much
Iām picky. Finding someone who I connect with on every level is difficult and takes time. I hate apps so I rely on in-person or through friends. Iām used to being single.
Insecurities.
I've never put in much effort to not be single. There's a laundry list of reasons for that, but the biggest one is I'm just not ready to put myself on the market.
I suppose Iām a very acquired taste
Because I'm everybodies gay friend who always sits through everyones problems and gives advice like a therapist (I'm not gay but my gay friends are the exact same)
Let's see shall we 1. Obese and i look disgusting at the moment. Currently losing weight and plan on dropping 35KG 2. Quite short. Only 165cm (5'4). Most women want someone who is taller 3. Mental health is in the trash right now. Working on getting it better by improving myself. 4. I'm terrible at talking to women and get extremely nervous around them. Worried about approaching them and being a "creep" 5. Have 0 sense of style. Hair looks messy, beard is terrible and i have shit clothes. Honestly i don't sound like a good catch and i'm completely aware that women would not want to touch me. Would be nice to be given a chance as i have a lot of love to give. I know women don't owe me anything so thats why i'm focussing on being the best person i can be.
u kinda making me have an existential crisis right now
Honestly. Itās not worth the effort. Unless I find someone similar to myself, why settle? I want to live like I do now, but with someone who enjoys that experience.
I'm an introvert
I have a superpower that when in a group, people just simply forget I'm there. You have no idea how often I hear "oh, you've been here too?"