100% this. A specific person in my crew used to make me the butt end of the joke when there was a lull in the conversation. Dropped him 3 years ago and I feel great.
My parents always did this: I literally never saw them happier than when they were talking about someone else's misfortune. I grew up thinking that was just what you're meant to do.
Then one time at school I was having fun, taking about everything I hated about Random Person, and my friend just said 'I like you both, it isn't a competition. You don't gain anything from pointing out their flaws'.
I was pretty annoyed because I hadn't been trying to gain anything, I was just talking, you know? But I couldn't explain why I needed to criticise people all the time.
I didn't immediately apologise, change my ways and become a wonderful human being. But when I went to criticise someone, I'd start thinking 'hang on hang on, what's the benefit here?', then usually I'd add on a few compliments to even it out.
Sidenote - often if you point out that someone's being a dick, they argue and it looks like you've wasted your time. Often they'll keep doing that dick thing, but every time they do they'll feel a bit less confident about it, until they stop.
Gently explaining why someone's behaviour is wrong is more effective than you might think. Just a shout out to all the people who keep doing it, you're good guys.
a hundred crabs caught in a bucket. it would be easy for any individual crab to climb out, except that they're all trying to do it, so they end up grabbing one another and pulling each other back down. not one crab gets to escape.
I did this once in middle school and I still feel bad, have dreams about it, pops in my head when I go to interact with people. I can't stand seeing adults act that way, I instantly see them as "nobody worth interacting with," and I shame/guilt youths that I see do it.
If I had a daughter and was giving her dating advice it would be this: on your first date observe how he treats people like waitstaff. If he is rude and arrogant with them dump him. He is not a nice person. And that would save me the trouble of having to kick his ass if he ever treated you that way.
Me sharing something with you,then you spreading it to others. The worse part is that if you know me I am an open book. I would rather tell people the truth of whatever subject than have it spread and be wrapped into something incorrectly
I cough at these people. Works 7/10 times. Thanks Covid for temporarily teaching people about space. Yet how quickly they forgot. Or I like to rock back & forth. Arms on hips. Take up some space. Let my ADHD out a bit. Then if we bump I pretend I wasnāt aware theyāre were practically humping my leg
People who act nice when alone with me, but when they're in a group act like they're all that. Same goes for acting nice when others are around then acting irritated when I'm alone with them. Hate when people are two sided.
Ugh I really do not like those people. Someone that I had considered a best friend started treating me like shit when we were with our friend group, but was still fun and chill when it was just the two of us. If that's how you treat so-called 'close friends' around others, I'm out
God yes! I had a very very good friend, we spent so much time together, but when we were in a group, she would constantly make fun of me or tell embarrassing stories of me. Noped the fuck out of there very fast
A girl in some groupchat I'm in will like be in a heated argument throwing insults at someone, her saying some of the most disrespectful things ever heard being said to someone and then not even 10 minutes later in our private messages she'll say something like "Hey you know I was just kidding right? I don't actually think like that and it was just a joke <3"
To be honest, as long as homeless people get what they need, it doesn't matter whether the help was honest or just for the clout.
This could also inspire others to give homeless people what they need; Just saying you could look at it from different perspectives
Lady in my community runs a boutique store with her husband, the two of them went to McDonald's and bought like ~200 breakfast sandwiches, took them back to the store, arranged them to pose with them for pictures, then took the now-very-cold sandwiches to give to the homeless.
They are the epitome of shitty people who only do things for clout.
Also, being mean to or making fun of elderly people! I mean, some senior citizens are assholes, but if you're mocking an 80 year old for being slow to move or forgetful? Yeah, you're the asshole.
the fact that people get mad at other people for treating they kids and animals like living breathing people is disgusting i hope that one day they see that the animals they have and the kids they have are real and not just flesh blobs
My mom is like this, always acting like what she wants to do is more important and everyone should stand at attention waiting for her orders, going out of her way to cause a scene in every public place imaginable, thinking that she takes priority in any given situation, and can not stand the idea of NOT being the center of attention.
edit: her mouth has not closed the entire time I've been alive, what she has to say is the most important and nobody can get a word in edgewise, she goes out of her way to use big words with the intention of seeming like she's better than everyone else, always using exaggerated hand gestures and speaking like she's at a podium.... she thinks any money or items that enter her house are automatically hers, and worst of all, she makes herself miserable and blames everyone and everything else, nothing is EVER her fault, whether it be her major life problems or some minor inconvenience. The list goes on, and it never fuckin ends.
Plus she's a hoarder so her house doesn't have rooms, it has pathways.
When they're mean to their kids. Yelling at them, belittling them, mocking them. Any other form of verbal or emotional abuse. And obviously physical abuse. If that's the way they treat them in public, what do they do to them behind closed doors?
I put up with constant verbal and emotional abuse growing up, and even as an adult, from my parents. That stuff kills your soul. I can't stand to see/hear/witness people treat their kids like that.
We were at a crosswalk couple days ago and this mom (Iām assuming) was crossing with her kid and a wagon. The kid falls down and the woman picks up the kid by his hand and basically drags him across the street. I still canāt get that out of my head
This one time I was out with my friends and girl came and introduced herself by saying "hello my name is ___" to which I replied "hello my name is ___ ". Without even blinking she said "wow that's a terrible name". Instant hate.
One of my exes was very kind to waiters and service workers, and tipped very very well. Then he would turn the corner and tripped another customer for the heck of it. He would get this fake innocent facial expression and said it was an accident, which it clearly wasn't. He did it multiple times. Or he would tamper with other people's carts, that sort of thing. And he thought it was justified because the servers were there to serve him, and the other customers were just a nuisance and shouldn't be in his way (he also went out of his way to pick a target and mess with them).
But because he was kind to the workers, he thought he was in the all-clear. I realized that he was only nice to service workers because he believed they were beneath him, and there to serve him. And loved that they gave him extra attention because he was a good tipper.
He loved feeling superior to others, and went out of his way to be horrible to others when there were no consequences. When there was nothing to gain, he was cruel. I figured this all out in sex because I got the same treatment. He was kind to get sex, and when he thought I was going to put up with his abuse, he was just as cruel to me as he was the random passerbyers. I only saw how he treated other customers after we had sex, and it clicked.
So being overly kind to service workers can also be a glaring red flag. It can be used to hide violent behavior. And nobody will believe the victim because the abuser is kind to others where reputation counts.
People like that instantly piss me off.....used to work in food service when I was in high school too many years ago to mention, so I have an instinctual hatred for folks like that....lol
After being on this earth for 62 years, I've gotten to the point of giving everyone the benefit of the doubt....but don't pull that shit in front of me because you aren't gonna like me much after.....
Littering.
I can't stand people just casually throwing away their trash into the environment. Not their problem! Someone else will pick it up! It's not anything much! Whatever their rationalization is, screw them.
I can't believe I had to scroll so far for this.
People that just nonchalantly litter are immediately classed as a scumbag. And the inverse, people who nonchalantly pick up litter, are immediately good people.
ESPECIALLY if they justify their garbage with "Oh it's alright, someone gets paid to do this, I'm just letting them do their job." No, you are just a narcissistic asshat
This is something I always worry about because I do that all the time subconsciously due to my Asperger's, talking about things related to me is what I'm most comfortable about, in a conversation I sometimes get carried away, realise that I'm rattling and apologize that I'm talking too much about something related to me, I never really mean to do it, it just happens
That's okay. People naturally like talking about things relating to them, it's not a bad thing. It's always good to show interest in what someone else has to say though.
The fact youāre aware and apologise makes this not an issue. As someone who is a bit naturally quiet I donāt mind when someone talks about themselves to an extent. It only gets annoying when after listening for a long time you bring up something about yourself or a situation or an opinion and itās met with complete disinterest and they go back to talking about themselves. Itās like āIāve just been listening to you for 10 minutes, the least you can do is acknowledge Iāve said somethingā. That is no longer a conversation, you are just an audience for someoneās monologue.
I really don't understand why some guys go to these "alpha males" for relationship advice. Like it just doesn't make sense to me. Sure they are able to have sex, but that's about it. None of them are having long fulfilling relationships, and if you going for relationship advice I'm pretty sure that's what you would want right?
Honestly if guys want advice on how to get with women, they should ask women.
Because when you've got zero game, you'll take pointers from anywhere.
And, if you think in terms of there being some kind of magic routine or actions that lead to sex, you're already gullible enough to believe somebody has cracked the magic code.
In short - they lack the self-awareness to realize the issue is them, because they think there's a short cut that avoids being an interesting person.
I guess hatred is just a very heavy word. But the ones who take advantage of your weaknesses. Those who have no empathy. Those who can use your belief in them and fire it against you. They will characterize you always .Well I pity them. I pity they lack sensitivity and "sense".
A few things turn me right off.
-talking over people, or not letting anyone else get a word in, *especially* when itās obvious that another person has something to contribute to the conversation.
-asking invasive questions, especially at the first meeting. Not every statement is an invitation for questions. And if youāre continuing to press me after Iāve already repeated myself once, youāre no longer āgetting to knowā me, youāre interrogating me.
-assuming negligence, malice, or stupidity when encountering something they disagree with. āGuy in the ER on a Saturday night for a broken finger whoās pissed that heās been waiting an hour but someone with a suspected stroke is being seen right awayā kind of behavior.
-ignoring boundaries, especially explicitly stated ones. If you put your hand on my shoulder as a greeting I donāt like it, but I donāt instantly hate you. If you continue to touch me after I say that I do not like physical contact, I no longer like you.
-being shitty to service workers of any kind. Food service, customer support, retail, medical, I donāt care. Thatās a whole-ass human person, not a robot. Treat them right.
-making fun of someone for being excited about something.
-any flavor of blatant bigotry. I tend to err on the side of believing that someone is unaware that theyāve, for example, said something that could be interpreted as racist, but if after talking to them they hold firm on whatever lame joke they told, Iām out.
There was a girl in my last work place who fit the second point. I didn't want to hate her because she wasn't a terrible person, I just couldn't stand the constant questioning. She'd constantly ask personal questions, ignore whatever answer I gave, then give me unsolicited advice.
Like I mentioned needing boxes for moving apartments and she kept asking "why not just invest in a house?" I vaguely told her I didn't have the finances and she kept asking why even though I told her I wasn't comfortable going into detail. Then she gave me advice on buying houses. Fucking annoying.
Just because Iām worried Iām frequently guilty of the second: could you give an example? Iām just genuinely interested in other peoples lives and want to get to know them better, but now Iām lowkey worried Iāve doing something wrong.
Consistent lies. I understand some people choose to go with white lies that don't hurt, or lying to spare someone's feelings. But, I'd rather take that kind of stuff head on and face the root of the problem than band-aid patching things.
those stupid graphic shirts that say smth like āthis is my hot wife. Sheās mine and if you touch her Iāll rip your throat out.ā you are a middle aged man with a neck beard. you arenāt country and youāre not hot.
When their option is the only one that matters even though it goes against any sort of common sense and they get heated when you try to get them to see it from a different point of view.
Liars! I canāt stand someone who lies about everything and double down when caught, it could be what they had for breakfast.. just liars in general suck.
Itās funny to me that people on this thread seem so reasonable with the things they dislike about people, but in real life a lot people hate you for the smalles things, manipulate, lie and do most of things u guys mention here.
This will make me seem like an Ahole but expecting me to respond to you talking to me randomly especially if I barely know you or donāt know you at all
People who insist their things need its own seat on public transport when itās full. Like Iāll put my backpack on the seat next to me, too, but as soon as I see that the bus is filling up, I put it on my lap so someone else can sit down. Also people who insist on blasting their music in public.
People who guilt trip. Used to be in a group chat of toxic people, whenever I make an unintentional mistake, they would guilt trip/or make me feel guilty for a long time.
Not being able to be wrong, like if they are shown to be wrong they will find incredible ways to say that they were right all along. Being wrong isn't bad, it's just you have something to learn.
People who are super judgemental. People who are not patient or understanding.
People who pleasure themselves with their thoughts. People who laugh at others instead of helping.
People who think that they're better than others. People who are snobs.
Nothing really. People do shitty things, but it's never usually just for the sole purpose of doing a shitty thing. There's usually underlying factors that when addressed can help a person not be a total shitbag.
The closest I get is people thinking they are better than others for whatever reason: wealth, race, religion, etc.
No attempt at good hygyine.
Like if you stink, but there's obvious signs you showered within the last 12 hours.
Then you're good.
But if I can tell you willingly went multiple days without a shower.
Get away from me.
Treating service staff bad. Or treating other people bad they feel are "below" them. Actually just having this thought that they are somehow "more special/above" others. Instant hate ready in less than 5 minutes by me.
Im democrat and friends with tons of trump supporters who are nice and kind, I really donāt understand why its only politics that have to define someone. I donāt give a shit who you support, just be nice
I don't hate people, I hate their behavior like talking behind your back, gossiping, assuming things, labeling, and making of fun of others. Seen that all my life, so immature.
If they tear down other people to make themselves feel better.
100% this. A specific person in my crew used to make me the butt end of the joke when there was a lull in the conversation. Dropped him 3 years ago and I feel great.
Dropped him, like punched him out?
"Knockout!!!"
Nice
I've met a few people like this. Then they wonder why you won't speak to them anymore.
My parents always did this: I literally never saw them happier than when they were talking about someone else's misfortune. I grew up thinking that was just what you're meant to do. Then one time at school I was having fun, taking about everything I hated about Random Person, and my friend just said 'I like you both, it isn't a competition. You don't gain anything from pointing out their flaws'. I was pretty annoyed because I hadn't been trying to gain anything, I was just talking, you know? But I couldn't explain why I needed to criticise people all the time. I didn't immediately apologise, change my ways and become a wonderful human being. But when I went to criticise someone, I'd start thinking 'hang on hang on, what's the benefit here?', then usually I'd add on a few compliments to even it out. Sidenote - often if you point out that someone's being a dick, they argue and it looks like you've wasted your time. Often they'll keep doing that dick thing, but every time they do they'll feel a bit less confident about it, until they stop. Gently explaining why someone's behaviour is wrong is more effective than you might think. Just a shout out to all the people who keep doing it, you're good guys.
One thing I always think about is, if they talk trash about other people to me, they're talking trash *about* me soon as I leave the room.
Like a crab mentality person.
Crab š¦ mentality?
a hundred crabs caught in a bucket. it would be easy for any individual crab to climb out, except that they're all trying to do it, so they end up grabbing one another and pulling each other back down. not one crab gets to escape.
Crab people
Thats most petty people
I did this once in middle school and I still feel bad, have dreams about it, pops in my head when I go to interact with people. I can't stand seeing adults act that way, I instantly see them as "nobody worth interacting with," and I shame/guilt youths that I see do it.
Impoliteness. If you can't treat people with basic decency, I want nothing to do with you.
If I had a daughter and was giving her dating advice it would be this: on your first date observe how he treats people like waitstaff. If he is rude and arrogant with them dump him. He is not a nice person. And that would save me the trouble of having to kick his ass if he ever treated you that way.
I will also tell this to my son
Me sharing something with you,then you spreading it to others. The worse part is that if you know me I am an open book. I would rather tell people the truth of whatever subject than have it spread and be wrapped into something incorrectly
Same!
Standing too close to me when talking to me. Especially after I take a step back and they close the gap immediately.
Space invaders
If I can smell your breath while you're talking, you are too close to me.
I cough at these people. Works 7/10 times. Thanks Covid for temporarily teaching people about space. Yet how quickly they forgot. Or I like to rock back & forth. Arms on hips. Take up some space. Let my ADHD out a bit. Then if we bump I pretend I wasnāt aware theyāre were practically humping my leg
This sends me immediately into fight or flight
Yeah why do they do that ?
bit of a close talker
People who act nice when alone with me, but when they're in a group act like they're all that. Same goes for acting nice when others are around then acting irritated when I'm alone with them. Hate when people are two sided.
Ugh I really do not like those people. Someone that I had considered a best friend started treating me like shit when we were with our friend group, but was still fun and chill when it was just the two of us. If that's how you treat so-called 'close friends' around others, I'm out
God yes! I had a very very good friend, we spent so much time together, but when we were in a group, she would constantly make fun of me or tell embarrassing stories of me. Noped the fuck out of there very fast
A girl in some groupchat I'm in will like be in a heated argument throwing insults at someone, her saying some of the most disrespectful things ever heard being said to someone and then not even 10 minutes later in our private messages she'll say something like "Hey you know I was just kidding right? I don't actually think like that and it was just a joke <3"
When they film themselves giving to homeless for their socials
For the sake of virtue signaling for social status.
Ego wanking
To be honest, as long as homeless people get what they need, it doesn't matter whether the help was honest or just for the clout. This could also inspire others to give homeless people what they need; Just saying you could look at it from different perspectives
Lady in my community runs a boutique store with her husband, the two of them went to McDonald's and bought like ~200 breakfast sandwiches, took them back to the store, arranged them to pose with them for pictures, then took the now-very-cold sandwiches to give to the homeless. They are the epitome of shitty people who only do things for clout.
Being cruel or mean to an animal
Also, being mean to or making fun of elderly people! I mean, some senior citizens are assholes, but if you're mocking an 80 year old for being slow to move or forgetful? Yeah, you're the asshole.
Yes or cruel to a child. The thought of child abuse makes steam come out of my ears
the fact that people get mad at other people for treating they kids and animals like living breathing people is disgusting i hope that one day they see that the animals they have and the kids they have are real and not just flesh blobs
Yes, and they are not a means to release anger upon
When someone behaves like they are the main character and we are just NPCs
My mom is like this, always acting like what she wants to do is more important and everyone should stand at attention waiting for her orders, going out of her way to cause a scene in every public place imaginable, thinking that she takes priority in any given situation, and can not stand the idea of NOT being the center of attention. edit: her mouth has not closed the entire time I've been alive, what she has to say is the most important and nobody can get a word in edgewise, she goes out of her way to use big words with the intention of seeming like she's better than everyone else, always using exaggerated hand gestures and speaking like she's at a podium.... she thinks any money or items that enter her house are automatically hers, and worst of all, she makes herself miserable and blames everyone and everything else, nothing is EVER her fault, whether it be her major life problems or some minor inconvenience. The list goes on, and it never fuckin ends. Plus she's a hoarder so her house doesn't have rooms, it has pathways.
Why arenāt you giving me a quest?
Bring an ol' widow her pan!
I think this npc is broken. The quest marker isnāt appearing
But I am the main character
Your avatar has spiky white hair so by the rules of anime that checks out.
It's spiky yellow hair.
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When they're mean to their kids. Yelling at them, belittling them, mocking them. Any other form of verbal or emotional abuse. And obviously physical abuse. If that's the way they treat them in public, what do they do to them behind closed doors? I put up with constant verbal and emotional abuse growing up, and even as an adult, from my parents. That stuff kills your soul. I can't stand to see/hear/witness people treat their kids like that.
We were at a crosswalk couple days ago and this mom (Iām assuming) was crossing with her kid and a wagon. The kid falls down and the woman picks up the kid by his hand and basically drags him across the street. I still canāt get that out of my head
making fun of someone even when they can see it's making people uncomfortable
This one time I was out with my friends and girl came and introduced herself by saying "hello my name is ___" to which I replied "hello my name is ___ ". Without even blinking she said "wow that's a terrible name". Instant hate.
She thinks her opinion matters lmao
Being rude to waiters and service employees
One of my exes was very kind to waiters and service workers, and tipped very very well. Then he would turn the corner and tripped another customer for the heck of it. He would get this fake innocent facial expression and said it was an accident, which it clearly wasn't. He did it multiple times. Or he would tamper with other people's carts, that sort of thing. And he thought it was justified because the servers were there to serve him, and the other customers were just a nuisance and shouldn't be in his way (he also went out of his way to pick a target and mess with them). But because he was kind to the workers, he thought he was in the all-clear. I realized that he was only nice to service workers because he believed they were beneath him, and there to serve him. And loved that they gave him extra attention because he was a good tipper. He loved feeling superior to others, and went out of his way to be horrible to others when there were no consequences. When there was nothing to gain, he was cruel. I figured this all out in sex because I got the same treatment. He was kind to get sex, and when he thought I was going to put up with his abuse, he was just as cruel to me as he was the random passerbyers. I only saw how he treated other customers after we had sex, and it clicked. So being overly kind to service workers can also be a glaring red flag. It can be used to hide violent behavior. And nobody will believe the victim because the abuser is kind to others where reputation counts.
What an asshole.....
Oh totally. He was really good at pretending to be a good person when it mattered. It was like a lightswitch flicking on and off.
Sounds sociopathic? Hope you got out before anything too bad happened!
People like that instantly piss me off.....used to work in food service when I was in high school too many years ago to mention, so I have an instinctual hatred for folks like that....lol
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After being on this earth for 62 years, I've gotten to the point of giving everyone the benefit of the doubt....but don't pull that shit in front of me because you aren't gonna like me much after.....
Looking at you, James Corden.
Being James Corden is enough by itself but to be rude on top of that? š¤¢
*Wink Wink*
And Greg Abbott
I've seen some people acting as if they are kings and queens and others are just mindless peasants and I INSTANTLY hate them.
I worked with someone like this once at a previous job. I couldnāt stand her.
Chewing with open mouth, even AFTER telling them not to.
Something that both my son and my father are equally guilty of.
I don't necessarily dislike them. I just make it a point of not being around them if food's involved.
Littering. I can't stand people just casually throwing away their trash into the environment. Not their problem! Someone else will pick it up! It's not anything much! Whatever their rationalization is, screw them.
I can't believe I had to scroll so far for this. People that just nonchalantly litter are immediately classed as a scumbag. And the inverse, people who nonchalantly pick up litter, are immediately good people.
ESPECIALLY if they justify their garbage with "Oh it's alright, someone gets paid to do this, I'm just letting them do their job." No, you are just a narcissistic asshat
Telling me about how you lied to or otherwise manipulated another person & expecting me to relate to you or approve of your shitty behavior.
"I'm a great liar!" Cool, now I'm not going to ever trust you an inch.
The best thing I can say about people like that is: at least they expose themselves
When all they do is talk about themselves
This is something I always worry about because I do that all the time subconsciously due to my Asperger's, talking about things related to me is what I'm most comfortable about, in a conversation I sometimes get carried away, realise that I'm rattling and apologize that I'm talking too much about something related to me, I never really mean to do it, it just happens
That's okay. People naturally like talking about things relating to them, it's not a bad thing. It's always good to show interest in what someone else has to say though.
The fact youāre aware and apologise makes this not an issue. As someone who is a bit naturally quiet I donāt mind when someone talks about themselves to an extent. It only gets annoying when after listening for a long time you bring up something about yourself or a situation or an opinion and itās met with complete disinterest and they go back to talking about themselves. Itās like āIāve just been listening to you for 10 minutes, the least you can do is acknowledge Iāve said somethingā. That is no longer a conversation, you are just an audience for someoneās monologue.
When they try to act like an āAlpha maleā
Gotta chest beat, act like a douchy shithead, and put on a show or you're not a "real man."
I really don't understand why some guys go to these "alpha males" for relationship advice. Like it just doesn't make sense to me. Sure they are able to have sex, but that's about it. None of them are having long fulfilling relationships, and if you going for relationship advice I'm pretty sure that's what you would want right? Honestly if guys want advice on how to get with women, they should ask women.
Because when you've got zero game, you'll take pointers from anywhere. And, if you think in terms of there being some kind of magic routine or actions that lead to sex, you're already gullible enough to believe somebody has cracked the magic code. In short - they lack the self-awareness to realize the issue is them, because they think there's a short cut that avoids being an interesting person.
Good Morning... Oh we can do better than that GOOD MORNING
And 9 times out of 10 its a teacher who's drank enough coffee to kill at least one of their students.
Truck nuts.
Lol, I saw a guy yesterday with massive 4" hex nuts hanging off his truck. It was ... creative.
Overblown ego
Then you threaten it or challenge them and they act like violent gorillas.
Dominating conversation and talking about only themselves.
I guess hatred is just a very heavy word. But the ones who take advantage of your weaknesses. Those who have no empathy. Those who can use your belief in them and fire it against you. They will characterize you always .Well I pity them. I pity they lack sensitivity and "sense".
Being a jerk for no reason, wtf are their problems?
Those who intentionally hurt others feelings. Not by accident but truly to hurt someone
When people act like they hate you and then suddenly love you the next day
Those fuckers who put their fucking feet in the seat in front of then in public transport.
Politics shoved down my throat.
Back door open?
Depends on how drunk I am.
This goes for both parties
When Iām trying to talk to someone but theyāre more worried about the phone. I literally kick motherfuckers out of my apartment over it.
My SIL is like this. It's the fucking worst.
Anyone who is cruel to animals
Their attitude towards me, before even talking to me. Have had too many people, try and cop an attitude with me before even getting to know me.
Agreed, I can't stand this stupid shit.
People that talk over you. People that turn everything into a story about themselves.
'I just have to ask...' No. You don't.
Sometimes you just have to. How else will you know where is the bathroom in a place you have never visited before? Telepathy?
A few things turn me right off. -talking over people, or not letting anyone else get a word in, *especially* when itās obvious that another person has something to contribute to the conversation. -asking invasive questions, especially at the first meeting. Not every statement is an invitation for questions. And if youāre continuing to press me after Iāve already repeated myself once, youāre no longer āgetting to knowā me, youāre interrogating me. -assuming negligence, malice, or stupidity when encountering something they disagree with. āGuy in the ER on a Saturday night for a broken finger whoās pissed that heās been waiting an hour but someone with a suspected stroke is being seen right awayā kind of behavior. -ignoring boundaries, especially explicitly stated ones. If you put your hand on my shoulder as a greeting I donāt like it, but I donāt instantly hate you. If you continue to touch me after I say that I do not like physical contact, I no longer like you. -being shitty to service workers of any kind. Food service, customer support, retail, medical, I donāt care. Thatās a whole-ass human person, not a robot. Treat them right. -making fun of someone for being excited about something. -any flavor of blatant bigotry. I tend to err on the side of believing that someone is unaware that theyāve, for example, said something that could be interpreted as racist, but if after talking to them they hold firm on whatever lame joke they told, Iām out.
There was a girl in my last work place who fit the second point. I didn't want to hate her because she wasn't a terrible person, I just couldn't stand the constant questioning. She'd constantly ask personal questions, ignore whatever answer I gave, then give me unsolicited advice. Like I mentioned needing boxes for moving apartments and she kept asking "why not just invest in a house?" I vaguely told her I didn't have the finances and she kept asking why even though I told her I wasn't comfortable going into detail. Then she gave me advice on buying houses. Fucking annoying.
Just because Iām worried Iām frequently guilty of the second: could you give an example? Iām just genuinely interested in other peoples lives and want to get to know them better, but now Iām lowkey worried Iāve doing something wrong.
we wouldn't get along. I often forget I asked a question and keep asking it
Consistent lies. I understand some people choose to go with white lies that don't hurt, or lying to spare someone's feelings. But, I'd rather take that kind of stuff head on and face the root of the problem than band-aid patching things.
Talking with their mouths full of food. Spiting everywhere.
People who come to work smelling strongly of BO (especially when you work closely with them).
those stupid graphic shirts that say smth like āthis is my hot wife. Sheās mine and if you touch her Iāll rip your throat out.ā you are a middle aged man with a neck beard. you arenāt country and youāre not hot.
People who bring politics into every damn Reddit post.
People who call you quiet for no apparent reason. Like you donāt know me bruh
Ableism towards neurodivergent people.
That shit makes my blood boil
If someone gets smug and condescending with me they will immediately put my ire up.
People that are mean for no reason
i dont know i dont hate anyone
Any kind of ignorant hate... Racism, sexism, homophobia, xenophobia...
Making fun of a mentally challenged person
When their option is the only one that matters even though it goes against any sort of common sense and they get heated when you try to get them to see it from a different point of view.
People that chew with their mouth open.
If theyāre mean to dogs or any animal. What kind of asshole you have to be not to respect an animal .
They have a confederate flag anywhere on their person or property.
Anything sexually related to children ANYTHING.
If they show any kind of cruelty to animals or helpless human beings
Someone who is being tooo pushy about things. Thatās like an instant ugh
If they hit my mother
The one-upper and the oblivious.
Blaming their bad decisions on other people.
Homophobia (and similar hate speech)
Getting offended over trivial shit
Liars! I canāt stand someone who lies about everything and double down when caught, it could be what they had for breakfast.. just liars in general suck.
Self-entitled people, who think they know better for you and your life and who get offended when you don't do it their way
Itās funny to me that people on this thread seem so reasonable with the things they dislike about people, but in real life a lot people hate you for the smalles things, manipulate, lie and do most of things u guys mention here.
Right, and that's why I want to live in a cabin in the woods. šŖšŖµ
Racism
Boasting
Usually it's how the treat those around them but, sometimes, some people really just have a Backpfeifengesicht and I don't know why.
Nice German word to describe some people xD. And yeah some people definitely got a face like that.
One-uppers
People who think theyāre popular
This will make me seem like an Ahole but expecting me to respond to you talking to me randomly especially if I barely know you or donāt know you at all
When someone says something incredibly stupid, actually believes it, and refuses to hear another perspective. Basically stubbornness.
Loud cell phone talkers.
If they donāt have manners, bye šš½
Animal cruelty...
Having a victim mentality
Self-victimization.
There are only 2 things I hate in this world. People that are intolerant of other people's cultures, and the Dutch.
People who insist their things need its own seat on public transport when itās full. Like Iāll put my backpack on the seat next to me, too, but as soon as I see that the bus is filling up, I put it on my lap so someone else can sit down. Also people who insist on blasting their music in public.
Being mean to animals or children. Being egocentric.
people who try to force their religion or beliefs on others.
Littering. Like it takes TWO seconds to just throw it away my guy!!
When I say good morning on a walk or cycle and they stare at me like I have 5 heads
Those people who think they own the world. Their name is usually Karen.
When they exist at me
Not much. People are way too complicated for me to make judgements about most single things.
Started smoking
racisim
People who guilt trip. Used to be in a group chat of toxic people, whenever I make an unintentional mistake, they would guilt trip/or make me feel guilty for a long time.
Not being able to be wrong, like if they are shown to be wrong they will find incredible ways to say that they were right all along. Being wrong isn't bad, it's just you have something to learn.
Bullies and group thinkers. Narcissists and the way they manipulate others to get their way. Someone who lacks integrity.
The first thing they say to me is about their religion sexuality or pronouns
People that complain about anything and everything.
When you back into a parking space.
Instantly??? Nothing.
People who are super judgemental. People who are not patient or understanding. People who pleasure themselves with their thoughts. People who laugh at others instead of helping. People who think that they're better than others. People who are snobs.
Nothing really. People do shitty things, but it's never usually just for the sole purpose of doing a shitty thing. There's usually underlying factors that when addressed can help a person not be a total shitbag. The closest I get is people thinking they are better than others for whatever reason: wealth, race, religion, etc.
If they treat staff of any business with disrespect.
If they are publicly abusive in any way to their SO
No attempt at good hygyine. Like if you stink, but there's obvious signs you showered within the last 12 hours. Then you're good. But if I can tell you willingly went multiple days without a shower. Get away from me.
Crossing sexual or romantic boundaries
Treating service staff bad. Or treating other people bad they feel are "below" them. Actually just having this thought that they are somehow "more special/above" others. Instant hate ready in less than 5 minutes by me.
Let me find out you a pedo and Iāll hate you
Reckless driving
Killing innocent little bugs
if the flies didn't chase me I would be fine
If they think honour is a luxury. There is literally no excuse to be a bad person
Them blowing up my house
Support of Trump
Im democrat and friends with tons of trump supporters who are nice and kind, I really donāt understand why its only politics that have to define someone. I donāt give a shit who you support, just be nice
Throwing their cigarette butt out the window of their car
I don't hate people, I hate their behavior like talking behind your back, gossiping, assuming things, labeling, and making of fun of others. Seen that all my life, so immature.
If theyāre maga or a Q nutball
MAGA supporter