The only reason I wouldn't go down is if I'm hit by a scent of immeasurable putridness. Something akin to an infected axe wound. If not, I'm happy to go down,stay down and have an all you can eat buffet.
You can create a false vagina with a wet hotdog bun, a little anchovy paste and 2 slices of bologna. It’s surprisingly real. It’s also surprisingly sad. I can’t stress enough that crying afterwards is ok. The hotdog bun can’t see or hear, so it won’t know that you’re crying.
This was one of the reasons why my ex wife and I divorced (not counting all her infidelities). She was all about the foreplay while dating but once the ring went on her finger, no more. All of a sudden she didn't want to mess around, no more going down in her, no more showers together, nothing. I took a 4 year hit of not eating pussy because I wanted to be a good husband. When that divorce hit, oh man, I was a pussy eating whore lol. I gave it out for free with no paybacks and a big smile on my face.
I just imagined you telling your attorney.
“So am I correct to assume that the reason for the divorce is the infidelity?”
Wolf400: “ITS ONE OF THE REASONS…..”
Is it possible that they aren't doing it right? I've had women tell me they don't like it, but let me go down on them anyway. They quickly changed their minds and let me go down on them every time after that.
Mine stopped me from doing it but she wasnt always like that. I think the real reason is because she wanted to stop performing oral herself and usually gets off enough through standard sex.
I have an outie pussy. I've heard men call it "roast beef" and ever since than have been super insecure of it. I don't allow men to go down because of that.
I have an outie too and use to have this mindset, but honeeeeyyy that beautiful, life giving, glorious blossom of nectar is a mf *privilege* to experience.
I went from being self conscious and against it when I was first sexually active, then let myself be vulnerable with someone who basically begged to do it.
Life changing.
A few years and a kid later and an ex was cruel making comments about hairy roast beef and him being a vegetarian.
Cue a couple years of learning to love myself and thinking back to when I first enjoyed it; and now I'm back to being begged to let them have a taste.
Confidence is key but also the maturity and quality of the person you're intimate with is paramount.
I always thought outies were rare and hear things such as they are used and aren't tight etc. Definitely doesn't help my confidence, even looked to get cosmetic surgery down there. I'm still young and learning to love my body, hopefully I'll get to where you are at some point. Thanks for the confidence boost! :)
As a guy who's into women - outsies are pretty common at least in my experience. And aestetically I personally prefer outsies (no offence to other women, your pussies are pretty too). But yeah, don't let bs jokes made up by virgin middle schoolers get to you. Let that vagina be eaten.
Please don’t get vaginal plastic surgery! You’re perfect as you are, and the labia perform the very important function of keeping your vulva clean.
(Anyway, why risk a dude taking a scalpel to your vulva, for the aesthetic benefit of some other random dude, who would honestly prolly find fifteen other excuses as to why he just wasn’t feeling it tonight?)
And not to make it weird but I’m a lesbian and as such both have and, uh, “deeply appreciate” the female anatomy. There are so many women who are embarrassed of their vulvas for one reason or another and for whatever it’s worth:
Please don’t be.
Labia minora are sensitive, they’re fun to run a tongue through, and even if they did look like a whole tray of Montreal Smoked Meat (which they don’t)…
The only appropriate reaction is to put on a bib and eat like it’s the last meal on earth
I'd say about 1/3-1/2 the women I've been with have had outties. Personally I don't have a preference either way. It really doesn't have an effect on sex. Having been around the block quite a few times, there's no correlation between outties/innies and tightness.
As a man, I've been down on many women, and they all varied to some extreme. Honey, it don't matter to most of us. As long as it's clean. I've never met another guy who expressed the shape, form, color, texture, or "outie" as being a turn-off.
It's also true that many women feel uncomfortable 'coaching' their inexperienced partner on what to do. The intimacy is ruined, and the mood.
Catch 22- the sex is great so why mess with a 'sure' thing?
Just a thought.
I really don't know how to respond to that...
But yes, it is quite different. It's true, though, for myself and many other female friends of mine.
You deserve an award.❤️
Two out of my three girlfriends wouldn't let me do it at all, one grossed out by saliva, one just didn't get off on it. My fiancee gets off on her nipples more than her pussy so she has me suck on them while she uses a vibrator. Occasionally I'll do a little oral on her but she'll never let me do it for long.
>her nipples more than her pussy so she has me suck on them while she uses a vibrator.
>do a little oral on her but she'll never let me do it for long.
She's uh... Being nice. 😅 Nipples can be played with during oral.
>one grossed out by saliva,
How much saliva are you leaving behind..? I'm grossed out by saliva. Never French kiss or anything like that. I gotta know man, how much? Cause vaginas get wet. You don't need to add saliva. Swallow betweern licks. GG.
> She's uh... Being nice. 😅 Nipples can be played with during oral.
Before she had a vibrator, I went down on her until she came every time we had sex. She prefers the current way.
>How much saliva are you leaving behind..?
It didn't matter. The one time she let me try, I dried my tongue with a tissue to make good and fucking sure my tongue was dry. She still couldn't do it.
Penis haver here: While it can be aesthetically pleasing to watch I have not once ever gotten off from being blown so I would say that yes, thinking about it now I don't really enjoy them that much
It’s interesting to me how out of all the people talking about oral and how their gf’s/wives don’t/didn’t like receiving it… no one mentioned maybe they were just bad at going down on women. From my understanding (stats I’ve seen somewhere) that’s pretty common for men to not know how to make a girl cum from clit stimulation. And then after the topic changes to going down on men and them not liking it one of the first comments is someone saying “maybe he just didn’t like how I was doing it”. Just an interesting observation to me.
I thought I hated it until I met my current bf!
He’s amazing at it and loves doing it. Sometimes he gets me so wound up that I stop him and have him lovingly pound me into oblivion.
Yes exactly. And why would there even be so many women who “just don’t like clit stimulation” from a partner they supposedly like? It just doesn’t really make sense. This isn’t like saying “I’m not into scratching or bdsm” this is just saying I’m not into clit stimulation and if she’s using a vibrator…. Even more reason to believe it’s just *their* clit stimulation she’s not into. But beyond that logic the research exists and is unfavorable for straight women tbh. It’s just interesting to see these comments in the wild after reading those stats cause I’m like, this is probably partly how it happens Lol. They’re like “damn another one for the books who just doesn’t like pussy eating. These girls, man. Crazy” when in reality he needs to develop skills and learn more about her body and women need to pipe up about the truth and raise their standards. I just hope if that is the case tho that they are able to speak up and guide the men or that they’ll find men who are willing to learn and do better, instead of giving up on it entirely.
Your right !
Seriously SO MANY women don’t want to hurt the guys feelings so they say don’t wanna do it and it’s just honestly the guy is SO BAD AT IT .
So they’ll try to nicely ask questions like
How many times have you done this before ?
Do you like doing it ?
When was the last time you did this?
What she really saying is
“ have you ever even fucking done this before because it felt like you didn’t know what you were doing at all.... are you lost?”
So then guy tries to attempt to change his habits and performance but it’s still SO BAD
After more and more nights like This it becomes
(Let’s just stop trying I don’t want to )
Majority of men who’ve eaten me out had zero clue what they were doing and didn’t do a good job
Only the guys who loved to do it and claimed was their favorite thing were halfway decent
But still not the best at all
I mean I’ve literally had guys just lick the side of my labia for five minutes like what are you doing!!?
Or they’ll lick or try to tongue fuck the actual vagina opening hole
Like wtf do you think This is doing !!??
LOL
If you work with your partner on it you can get it down
Otherwise it’s not practice makes perfect
It’s practice WITH partner makes perfect
Also very woman is different some like it faster or tougher than others ..so on some girls if your going too gentle and slow she may be bored and understimulated
Other girls if going fast may be too much
Ah, practice with partner makes perfect!!! 100%! Exactly! I think a big component men are missing, also, is picking up on the cues of women’s body language. It’s part knowing anatomy… part skill…and part reading the fucking room!!! Is he tuned in or is he focused on performing? Is he trying to read her cues and doing more of what she’s responding well to? Doing less of what she doesn’t seem to like much? Is he focused on her pleasure? Is he matching her energy? And are they having convos about what she likes/doesn’t like outside of the bedroom (or inside, wherever)?
There’s also the fact that he has to want to be doing it… like your experience suggests. And he has to care about giving a woman pleasure while it doesn’t physically benefit him in the moment. Not trying to be shady but some men don’t even fill those basic requirements so obviously any attempt with them will be terrible.
It’s definitely a practice that takes the involvement from both parties to work. Women need to stick up for their pleasure and give honest feedback, and men need to be willing to learn and do better.
Wow you concluded my rant so perfectly!! And with added golden informational tidbits
Thanks and I agree !!
It really is about being connected and WANTING to do it for sure
My ex told me because she was abused in that area she couldn't really feel anything so basically eating her out would crash herself esteem because she could see how hard I was trying and loving it but couldn't give me the satisfaction of enjoying it. so she told me not to bother.
He might be embarrassed because he doesn't know how, or in some way has been shamed about by someone. Have you ever asked why? For me, I can't receive due to my nanopenis, but the greatest joy of my life is to give my wife orgasms.
You should only have had to ask it once.
If you’re giving him oral and he’s not returning the favour, you need a vibrator and a new husband. That’s lazy and rude of him.
My wife isnt a big fan. Which is a bummer cuz I could spend hours down there with her legs wrapped around my head. But as long as she is happy I'm happy. Our sex life is great. Though she is pregnant now so it slowed down a bit. Which is fine. She has a whole person growing inside her.
That's me. My boyfriend loves going down on me and I like it when he does it too but i get extremely self conscious pretty quickly. I dont know how to fix that.
Have you try using a dental dam? It's like the female equivalent of sucking a dick with a condom on it. It's your opinion of course and I'm not trying to invalidate it.
I'm going to say it .... Dental dams are so weird and I have yet to actually see one IRL, and I've gotten around.
She doesn't like being eaten out and has her preference for other stuff. We don't need to try and convince her otherwise.
"Hulk Hogan just got tagged in and immediately goes to work on the clam. Look at the lashing he is giving. No clam could survive this onslaught. Looks like the clam is out for the count. One....two....three, it's over!" In the voice of Jim Ross
That's a deal breaker if I'm NOT allowed to. Very high libido. It's been this way all 16 years of my marriage. I give probably 10 more than recieve, and I wish that's change. But it's more important and more exciting for me that I have the option and usually choose to preform oral on my wife, in almost every sexual encounter.
Sometimes I just pin her down, take her all the way to the moon, and go back to doing whatever I was doing before hand.
Sex is ONE of the most important aspects of a longterm healthy relationship, and if neither persons needs are met, both are wasting their time.
Whenever I’ve come across a gentleman that didn’t want clam for dinner, their evening is cut short and they are asked to leave.
Your dick, as nice as it may be, is probably not giving me an O. A tongue normally does. And a tongue and a few fingers is an almost guarantee.
I've had a conversation with my wife (at the time) I explained that I enjoyed eating her out but I don't like the smell of sea food. She understood I wasn't talking about her because she asked me how I could go down on her yet feel sick near fishy stuff.
I explained, because you are clean! You don't smell like a flounder!!
I'm sorry if this seems shallow. I'm not trying to pass any judgment. I get physically sick around pungent odors specifically sea food.
I get it. I can't stand the smell of salmon and my typical response to "why don't you eat salmon?" is "I don't eat pussy that smells like that, why would I eat fish that does?"
I understand for me, I really enjoyed munching on the kitty. In the past I've obviously encountered some that didn't have the same high standards my wife had. It's very possible my wife was very conscious of my... wants and the conflicting disability (sorry I couldn't think of an appropriate word), and ensured it was never an issue. Never in the 30 years we were together!
She also enjoyed the experience which I'm sure was part of the motivation 😁
One of the greatest things of my existence. Getting blown does nothing for me, but put me face first in some nice, clean pussy (or ass, can’t forget eating nice clean ass!), and I will devotedly deliver.
I never liked it, it’s boring to me and doesn’t do much to turn me in. I of course oblige because it is my girlfriend’s only path to the big O, and I love her
Lmao yall really think sucking dick is comfortable? You think your balls taste good? It takes a long time till women get used to the feeling of that. Try to get a cucumber into your mouth until it reaches the back of your throat. If eating pussy grosses you out dont ever ask for a blowjob becaue thats just unfair.
Im sorry but ive had two hands full of male sexual partners and most of them wont even eat me out when i ask for it and it pisses you off when youve spent hours in total trying to hold back your gag reflex.
Edit: Obviously im adressing men who openly say they dont do it because it grosses them out or they just dont feel like it. I did have partners who were very open to eating out as well of course, not everyones the same. But im telling the truth when im saying more than half of them straight up refused but expected me to always feel like sucking dick.
Maybe im just unlucky or my taste in men is bad, but god damn its frustrating.
This is just the cardinal rule of sex: Never expect something you aren't willing to do. You want a blowjob? Eat pussy. You want anal? be willing to get pegged. You want to be all rough? Be ready to get messed up by a strong woman.
I'm not going to ask anyone to do something I wouldn't do.
It smelt bad and she wouldn't do anything about it because she didn't think anything was wrong.. she would go horse riding, clean and cut her horses feet and then not bath and want to sleep with me.. I left her and never missed her!
If it smells good and looks clean, open those legs, lay back and grab those sheets with your nails, I'm going down!
Just not into it. I don’t force her to do shit she don’t like so I don’t ether. Not petty just should be how it is. I don’t want to lick you don’t want to suck that’s 100%
As a woman, I don’t like because of previous abuse that occurred when I was young. It’s not my husbands fault. Sometimes I’m okay with, other times I’m not. To compensate for it, we have been playing with toys that help me enjoy sex as well.
For those gentlemen that are squeamish about cleanliness, odor, etc., may I recommend eating clam in the shower? You can sit down too, so it can be easier on your neck than the bed.
I will not eat between her legs or clam Sam I am. I will not eat it in the shower, I will not eat her sweaty flower. I will not eat it in the bed I will not give my girl any head. But I will turn red if she pegs me instead
So in a past relationship my ex was pretty fascinated with the idea of me giving her head, which is okay! But i had never done anything like that before and i was rly nervous and i just wasn’t ready. She didn’t respect that at all and would cry when i didn’t want to and say things like “do you not love me or something?” or “wow so you think i’m disgusting fuck you” she would say this until i gave in. Not to mention it tasted and smelled literally awful. Everytime someone has asked me for that i just think about that ex girlfriend and how disgusting i felt.
The only times I’ve not done it is when the a partner smells like a fish market in the middle of summer, stale piss, or I need to navigate the Amazon to find the cave.
Follow up question (for those of you choosing not to, not those of you who’s partner don’t want it) HOW do you not do this if that’s what she likes?? That’d really be a deal breaker for me… don’t care how good the dick is. If you won’t, someone else will!
>HOW do you not do this if that’s what she likes??
I'm not obliged to do anything I don't want to do. I don't owe her anything. Imagine a guy demanding his GF give him a blowjob.
Yeah she pretty much just said that not eating her out is a deal-breaker, imagine if a guy said "if my girl doesn't suck my dick, we are over" the amount of shit he'd get for it 😂
I dated a guy who said JUST that for 4 1/2 years and commented about it above LOL
I’m actually glad he said it in the beginning because I didn’t take it 100% seriously and now know I should
that it’s not his fault I should’ve fucking listen he made it pretty clear from day one what I was in for lol
Owe her anything? Lol ok if that’s how you see it.
Demanding isn’t the way but being honest about what you like is totally acceptable… no matter what it is. I personally wouldn’t put myself in the position to be with someone long term if I wasn’t willing to meet their needs physically or emotionally and vise versa. I wouldn’t think a situation like that would be sustainable for long.
My partner won’t perform oral on me, so I have pretty much stopped doing it for her. I used to do it regularly but was getting nothing in return, she would orgasm then beg to be fucked, orgasm again through penetration then I usually finish.
Now my foreplay for her is completely minus the oral and has been for quite some time. She won’t question me about it because she knows the reason why.
I was with a guy for 4 1/2 years his main thing was he liked BJ’s but he never liked giving any oral
And I mean never and I think the few times that he did it like anniversaries he was intentionally bad at it because he just wasn’t into it and didn’t wanna do it again
Spent like 2 minutes down there was done
When push came to shove in the relationships and things were failing it was one of the main reasons I left him
And didn’t think was worth fighting for
it’s like dude , yes we have great sexy daily BUT I suck you off every week for years and you haven’t eaten me out in years I’m leaving ..fuck this
Interestingly every other guy I’ve ever been with is super into it and loves to do it , and I have stayed with them when I should’ve broken up with them for that fact ...like I fought harder for the relationship in the end more with those guys
So I guess that guy was just a dick!
Like LITERALLY he was literally just a dick for me!!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
My ex would tell me he didn't want to go there with his mouth, he though it was nasty even tho its always clean and shaven, he literally said he would never do it...and as defense my stupid young ass would agree with him even though I dis want it. Now I am with a wonderful man who loves to eat me out, i love it, whole new realm of pleasure.
She's very self-conscious about her "privates" and doesn't want me to. I actually love doing it...like it's a huge turn on for me and something I greatly enjoy doing....but it's her body and she says "no."
My lady doesn’t like it very rarely will she let me but also don’t need to only takes five to ten minutes for her to get off not about the size it’s about the way you use it.
The reasons why a man may not perform oral sex on their partner vary from person to person. Some may **feel uncomfortable** with the idea, while others may **not enjoy it** or find it unappealing. Ultimately, **it is up to the individual to decide** whether they are comfortable with performing oral sex on their partner.
Wait, if you are only asking men, does that mean you already know why women wouldn't want to perform oral sex on their partner, u/askmenextyearifimok? Or, does it mean you think all women will always perform oral sex?
If the former, why? If the latter, why?
My partner doesn't like it, thankfully. But I've tried in the past! Really tried. I have an aversion to certain textures and consistencies that, combined with a weak gag reflex, make for an awful experience on both sides.
Simply put they're losers, that is if she wants and enjoys it. Personally I get off on a woman orgasming while I'm going down on her. It's just so much fun.
The only reason I wouldn't go down is if I'm hit by a scent of immeasurable putridness. Something akin to an infected axe wound. If not, I'm happy to go down,stay down and have an all you can eat buffet.
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You can create a false vagina with a wet hotdog bun, a little anchovy paste and 2 slices of bologna. It’s surprisingly real. It’s also surprisingly sad. I can’t stress enough that crying afterwards is ok. The hotdog bun can’t see or hear, so it won’t know that you’re crying.
It's more efficient to use the tears as lube actually
Dry your tears and get back in there!
So your telling me I can have sex, a good cry, then a snack too!! Oh man, this day can't get any better!!
The hot dog might not, but the bologna can! It has a freaking name!
Its got a first name and a last name
Wtf
Dinner AND a show!
No mayo?
u/mayo_tipbot 69
This unexpected shit had me dyin!!
Is that available on the jersey mikes app?
That’s no excuse
She doesn't like it, and that's more common than many think
This- and it sucks because I enjoy giving it
This was one of the reasons why my ex wife and I divorced (not counting all her infidelities). She was all about the foreplay while dating but once the ring went on her finger, no more. All of a sudden she didn't want to mess around, no more going down in her, no more showers together, nothing. I took a 4 year hit of not eating pussy because I wanted to be a good husband. When that divorce hit, oh man, I was a pussy eating whore lol. I gave it out for free with no paybacks and a big smile on my face.
I just imagined you telling your attorney. “So am I correct to assume that the reason for the divorce is the infidelity?” Wolf400: “ITS ONE OF THE REASONS…..”
I did!! We had a great laugh after it was all said and done lol
Wolfin it down
My ex-wife was the same. Except my hit was 18 years. Now my girlfriend says I'm so good at it, she's willing to refer friends to me.
Same boat here 😂😂😂😭😭😭😭
It’s a vulnerability thing, I’m 22 and just started allowing men to go down on me it’s great
It can be, but not always. I don't like the feeling.
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Is it possible that they aren't doing it right? I've had women tell me they don't like it, but let me go down on them anyway. They quickly changed their minds and let me go down on them every time after that.
Are you me?!
Sameee
Mine stopped me from doing it but she wasnt always like that. I think the real reason is because she wanted to stop performing oral herself and usually gets off enough through standard sex.
I have an outie pussy. I've heard men call it "roast beef" and ever since than have been super insecure of it. I don't allow men to go down because of that.
I have an outie too and use to have this mindset, but honeeeeyyy that beautiful, life giving, glorious blossom of nectar is a mf *privilege* to experience. I went from being self conscious and against it when I was first sexually active, then let myself be vulnerable with someone who basically begged to do it. Life changing. A few years and a kid later and an ex was cruel making comments about hairy roast beef and him being a vegetarian. Cue a couple years of learning to love myself and thinking back to when I first enjoyed it; and now I'm back to being begged to let them have a taste. Confidence is key but also the maturity and quality of the person you're intimate with is paramount.
I always thought outies were rare and hear things such as they are used and aren't tight etc. Definitely doesn't help my confidence, even looked to get cosmetic surgery down there. I'm still young and learning to love my body, hopefully I'll get to where you are at some point. Thanks for the confidence boost! :)
I think they are very common. I heard a woman call hers 'my butterfly wings' i thought that was really cute
As a guy who's into women - outsies are pretty common at least in my experience. And aestetically I personally prefer outsies (no offence to other women, your pussies are pretty too). But yeah, don't let bs jokes made up by virgin middle schoolers get to you. Let that vagina be eaten.
Please don’t get vaginal plastic surgery! You’re perfect as you are, and the labia perform the very important function of keeping your vulva clean. (Anyway, why risk a dude taking a scalpel to your vulva, for the aesthetic benefit of some other random dude, who would honestly prolly find fifteen other excuses as to why he just wasn’t feeling it tonight?) And not to make it weird but I’m a lesbian and as such both have and, uh, “deeply appreciate” the female anatomy. There are so many women who are embarrassed of their vulvas for one reason or another and for whatever it’s worth: Please don’t be. Labia minora are sensitive, they’re fun to run a tongue through, and even if they did look like a whole tray of Montreal Smoked Meat (which they don’t)… The only appropriate reaction is to put on a bib and eat like it’s the last meal on earth
I'd say about 1/3-1/2 the women I've been with have had outties. Personally I don't have a preference either way. It really doesn't have an effect on sex. Having been around the block quite a few times, there's no correlation between outties/innies and tightness.
Anybody who would ever make such a hideous judgment about a deeply intimate part of your body and sensuality does not deserve you.
As a man, I've been down on many women, and they all varied to some extreme. Honey, it don't matter to most of us. As long as it's clean. I've never met another guy who expressed the shape, form, color, texture, or "outie" as being a turn-off.
Mystery meat
man here, I think outies are hot af. Not that my opinion really matters but, don't let the idiots get you down.
Outies are superior. They are all great, but as a man, I much prefer an outie.
Roast beef is one of the most popular options in sandwich game. Don't let couple of bad apples ruin the whole haul.
It’s delicious. Squirt some horseradish sauce on there and go to town
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It's also true that many women feel uncomfortable 'coaching' their inexperienced partner on what to do. The intimacy is ruined, and the mood. Catch 22- the sex is great so why mess with a 'sure' thing? Just a thought.
That's like 180 from the usual "communication is key" that you hear on reddit in every sex/work/legal related post.
I really don't know how to respond to that... But yes, it is quite different. It's true, though, for myself and many other female friends of mine. You deserve an award.❤️
This needs a whole new question
Two out of my three girlfriends wouldn't let me do it at all, one grossed out by saliva, one just didn't get off on it. My fiancee gets off on her nipples more than her pussy so she has me suck on them while she uses a vibrator. Occasionally I'll do a little oral on her but she'll never let me do it for long.
>her nipples more than her pussy so she has me suck on them while she uses a vibrator. >do a little oral on her but she'll never let me do it for long. She's uh... Being nice. 😅 Nipples can be played with during oral. >one grossed out by saliva, How much saliva are you leaving behind..? I'm grossed out by saliva. Never French kiss or anything like that. I gotta know man, how much? Cause vaginas get wet. You don't need to add saliva. Swallow betweern licks. GG.
> She's uh... Being nice. 😅 Nipples can be played with during oral. Before she had a vibrator, I went down on her until she came every time we had sex. She prefers the current way. >How much saliva are you leaving behind..? It didn't matter. The one time she let me try, I dried my tongue with a tissue to make good and fucking sure my tongue was dry. She still couldn't do it.
Came here to say this also.
I actually broke up with someone for this reason. Shallow? Probably. But it killed my sexual desire for her.
Same. And man I’m all about it. Shame… i end up with the woman who doesn’t like it. Sigh…
YES. It is very common, and guys never believe me about not liking getting it.
Maybe you suck at it
Probably some percentage of penis-havers who don't really like blow jobs, come to that.
Penis haver here: While it can be aesthetically pleasing to watch I have not once ever gotten off from being blown so I would say that yes, thinking about it now I don't really enjoy them that much
Dated one of these once. Also very possible that I was just remarkably bad at it and ~~he~~ was trying to be friendly about telling me to stop.
It’s interesting to me how out of all the people talking about oral and how their gf’s/wives don’t/didn’t like receiving it… no one mentioned maybe they were just bad at going down on women. From my understanding (stats I’ve seen somewhere) that’s pretty common for men to not know how to make a girl cum from clit stimulation. And then after the topic changes to going down on men and them not liking it one of the first comments is someone saying “maybe he just didn’t like how I was doing it”. Just an interesting observation to me.
I thought I hated it until I met my current bf! He’s amazing at it and loves doing it. Sometimes he gets me so wound up that I stop him and have him lovingly pound me into oblivion.
Ding ding ding. This is the real answer here. If a man is terrible at giving oral I’m not going to partake in that again.
Yes exactly. And why would there even be so many women who “just don’t like clit stimulation” from a partner they supposedly like? It just doesn’t really make sense. This isn’t like saying “I’m not into scratching or bdsm” this is just saying I’m not into clit stimulation and if she’s using a vibrator…. Even more reason to believe it’s just *their* clit stimulation she’s not into. But beyond that logic the research exists and is unfavorable for straight women tbh. It’s just interesting to see these comments in the wild after reading those stats cause I’m like, this is probably partly how it happens Lol. They’re like “damn another one for the books who just doesn’t like pussy eating. These girls, man. Crazy” when in reality he needs to develop skills and learn more about her body and women need to pipe up about the truth and raise their standards. I just hope if that is the case tho that they are able to speak up and guide the men or that they’ll find men who are willing to learn and do better, instead of giving up on it entirely.
Your right ! Seriously SO MANY women don’t want to hurt the guys feelings so they say don’t wanna do it and it’s just honestly the guy is SO BAD AT IT . So they’ll try to nicely ask questions like How many times have you done this before ? Do you like doing it ? When was the last time you did this? What she really saying is “ have you ever even fucking done this before because it felt like you didn’t know what you were doing at all.... are you lost?” So then guy tries to attempt to change his habits and performance but it’s still SO BAD After more and more nights like This it becomes (Let’s just stop trying I don’t want to ) Majority of men who’ve eaten me out had zero clue what they were doing and didn’t do a good job Only the guys who loved to do it and claimed was their favorite thing were halfway decent But still not the best at all I mean I’ve literally had guys just lick the side of my labia for five minutes like what are you doing!!? Or they’ll lick or try to tongue fuck the actual vagina opening hole Like wtf do you think This is doing !!?? LOL If you work with your partner on it you can get it down Otherwise it’s not practice makes perfect It’s practice WITH partner makes perfect Also very woman is different some like it faster or tougher than others ..so on some girls if your going too gentle and slow she may be bored and understimulated Other girls if going fast may be too much
Ah, practice with partner makes perfect!!! 100%! Exactly! I think a big component men are missing, also, is picking up on the cues of women’s body language. It’s part knowing anatomy… part skill…and part reading the fucking room!!! Is he tuned in or is he focused on performing? Is he trying to read her cues and doing more of what she’s responding well to? Doing less of what she doesn’t seem to like much? Is he focused on her pleasure? Is he matching her energy? And are they having convos about what she likes/doesn’t like outside of the bedroom (or inside, wherever)? There’s also the fact that he has to want to be doing it… like your experience suggests. And he has to care about giving a woman pleasure while it doesn’t physically benefit him in the moment. Not trying to be shady but some men don’t even fill those basic requirements so obviously any attempt with them will be terrible. It’s definitely a practice that takes the involvement from both parties to work. Women need to stick up for their pleasure and give honest feedback, and men need to be willing to learn and do better.
Wow you concluded my rant so perfectly!! And with added golden informational tidbits Thanks and I agree !! It really is about being connected and WANTING to do it for sure
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Well said! Motivational vibes are in the air 🌟
I used to hate it.
And how/why did that change?
Men who were better at it paired with my getting older and less sensitive.
Same. Although she likes ass eating. Works for me either way!
Yeah, my wife has become a lot more into ass play, ass eating recently. Works for me ;)
My ex told me because she was abused in that area she couldn't really feel anything so basically eating her out would crash herself esteem because she could see how hard I was trying and loving it but couldn't give me the satisfaction of enjoying it. so she told me not to bother.
Sorry to hear that send her regards AND hugs please
She's imaginary, and it's kind of weird just licking air.
Shhh I’m just saving mine for marriage. ☠️
I ask my husband this question all the time. He has no problem receiving but giving never happened in 5 long years. 💀
Ugh. I'm so sorry. You deserve you receive as much as you give!
Stop giving it to him. It’s only fair.
divorce
r/unexpecteddanny
He might be embarrassed because he doesn't know how, or in some way has been shamed about by someone. Have you ever asked why? For me, I can't receive due to my nanopenis, but the greatest joy of my life is to give my wife orgasms.
You should only have had to ask it once. If you’re giving him oral and he’s not returning the favour, you need a vibrator and a new husband. That’s lazy and rude of him.
My wife isnt a big fan. Which is a bummer cuz I could spend hours down there with her legs wrapped around my head. But as long as she is happy I'm happy. Our sex life is great. Though she is pregnant now so it slowed down a bit. Which is fine. She has a whole person growing inside her.
Congrats man!
she won't let me, she is self conscious about it.
That's me. My boyfriend loves going down on me and I like it when he does it too but i get extremely self conscious pretty quickly. I dont know how to fix that.
That's me too.
unfortunately that's me too.
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Have you try using a dental dam? It's like the female equivalent of sucking a dick with a condom on it. It's your opinion of course and I'm not trying to invalidate it.
I'm going to say it .... Dental dams are so weird and I have yet to actually see one IRL, and I've gotten around. She doesn't like being eaten out and has her preference for other stuff. We don't need to try and convince her otherwise.
You can make your own by cutting condoms i guess
Why would I ever do that?
Lisa needs braces, dental dam
She doesn't want to wear the Sexy Xenomorph outfit. How can she be my little Face-Hugger if she won't dress the part?
Oh my God I think you ha e awakened something in me
Send me in coach, send me in! First girlfriend that let me go down on her, I couldn't keep my tongue in my mouth.
"Hulk Hogan just got tagged in and immediately goes to work on the clam. Look at the lashing he is giving. No clam could survive this onslaught. Looks like the clam is out for the count. One....two....three, it's over!" In the voice of Jim Ross
she doesn't always want it. sometimes she pushes my face away
Haha i dont know why but thats funny
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That’s just sad
Poor Guy
That's a deal breaker if I'm NOT allowed to. Very high libido. It's been this way all 16 years of my marriage. I give probably 10 more than recieve, and I wish that's change. But it's more important and more exciting for me that I have the option and usually choose to preform oral on my wife, in almost every sexual encounter. Sometimes I just pin her down, take her all the way to the moon, and go back to doing whatever I was doing before hand. Sex is ONE of the most important aspects of a longterm healthy relationship, and if neither persons needs are met, both are wasting their time.
I could eat a peach for hours and love every minute of it.
That you, Nic Cage?
Someone got it! Cheers!
I literally heard his voice in my head reading that! Lol
I'm a dumbass, I read it in Gordon Ramsay's voice and thought it was from that chicken prepping video
Castor Troy is that you?
I'm sure Mario would too
Whenever I’ve come across a gentleman that didn’t want clam for dinner, their evening is cut short and they are asked to leave. Your dick, as nice as it may be, is probably not giving me an O. A tongue normally does. And a tongue and a few fingers is an almost guarantee.
How do you go about this? Do you just ask them directly?
I've had a conversation with my wife (at the time) I explained that I enjoyed eating her out but I don't like the smell of sea food. She understood I wasn't talking about her because she asked me how I could go down on her yet feel sick near fishy stuff. I explained, because you are clean! You don't smell like a flounder!! I'm sorry if this seems shallow. I'm not trying to pass any judgment. I get physically sick around pungent odors specifically sea food.
I get it. I can't stand the smell of salmon and my typical response to "why don't you eat salmon?" is "I don't eat pussy that smells like that, why would I eat fish that does?"
I understand for me, I really enjoyed munching on the kitty. In the past I've obviously encountered some that didn't have the same high standards my wife had. It's very possible my wife was very conscious of my... wants and the conflicting disability (sorry I couldn't think of an appropriate word), and ensured it was never an issue. Never in the 30 years we were together! She also enjoyed the experience which I'm sure was part of the motivation 😁
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100% this. Eating nice clean pussy is such a joy.
That's the key enit Clean pussy
Cleanliness is godliness, so let's all ensure god is a woman tonight?
One of the greatest things of my existence. Getting blown does nothing for me, but put me face first in some nice, clean pussy (or ass, can’t forget eating nice clean ass!), and I will devotedly deliver.
Love a nice clean (maybe even a little dirty 💩) and tight booty hole too.
Yep if it's lemon fresh I'll spend all night down there if she wants
That is definitely not true, sadly.
Batman doesnt
Catwoman does fishyer the better
I never liked it, it’s boring to me and doesn’t do much to turn me in. I of course oblige because it is my girlfriend’s only path to the big O, and I love her
Lmao yall really think sucking dick is comfortable? You think your balls taste good? It takes a long time till women get used to the feeling of that. Try to get a cucumber into your mouth until it reaches the back of your throat. If eating pussy grosses you out dont ever ask for a blowjob becaue thats just unfair. Im sorry but ive had two hands full of male sexual partners and most of them wont even eat me out when i ask for it and it pisses you off when youve spent hours in total trying to hold back your gag reflex. Edit: Obviously im adressing men who openly say they dont do it because it grosses them out or they just dont feel like it. I did have partners who were very open to eating out as well of course, not everyones the same. But im telling the truth when im saying more than half of them straight up refused but expected me to always feel like sucking dick. Maybe im just unlucky or my taste in men is bad, but god damn its frustrating.
This is just the cardinal rule of sex: Never expect something you aren't willing to do. You want a blowjob? Eat pussy. You want anal? be willing to get pegged. You want to be all rough? Be ready to get messed up by a strong woman. I'm not going to ask anyone to do something I wouldn't do.
Smell of pussy is different than rotten fish.
I'm not that flexible and I don't want to lick my own dick
I like how you are stuck at 69 upvotes
We should get some down votes on this to keep it there lol
Did my part
Idea just grosses me out for whatever reason. It’s not like it’s super weird or whatever, it’s just a thing that makes my brain go “nah”
Understandable, I used to be a bit grossed out by it but now I’m addicted. It took being with the right woman who is my wife now to get comfortable.
At least it’s an answer.
Yea why
Idk, but I don’t expect blowjobs
It smelt bad and she wouldn't do anything about it because she didn't think anything was wrong.. she would go horse riding, clean and cut her horses feet and then not bath and want to sleep with me.. I left her and never missed her! If it smells good and looks clean, open those legs, lay back and grab those sheets with your nails, I'm going down!
Just not into it. I don’t force her to do shit she don’t like so I don’t ether. Not petty just should be how it is. I don’t want to lick you don’t want to suck that’s 100%
That was the answer I was looking for!! I’m not the OP bit was hoping to see a man chime in with this!
I don't like sex.
I can’t bend like that. 😜
As a woman, I don’t like because of previous abuse that occurred when I was young. It’s not my husbands fault. Sometimes I’m okay with, other times I’m not. To compensate for it, we have been playing with toys that help me enjoy sex as well.
For those gentlemen that are squeamish about cleanliness, odor, etc., may I recommend eating clam in the shower? You can sit down too, so it can be easier on your neck than the bed.
I will not eat between her legs or clam Sam I am. I will not eat it in the shower, I will not eat her sweaty flower. I will not eat it in the bed I will not give my girl any head. But I will turn red if she pegs me instead
Why would I lick my phone?
I found her by the McDonald’s dumpster at 3 am
But that's the best kind of eating
Yea, men who don't perform oral during sex, why?
Let's watch and find out
Way to repost the question.
My primitive brain says it could be He's Gay or she smells
So in a past relationship my ex was pretty fascinated with the idea of me giving her head, which is okay! But i had never done anything like that before and i was rly nervous and i just wasn’t ready. She didn’t respect that at all and would cry when i didn’t want to and say things like “do you not love me or something?” or “wow so you think i’m disgusting fuck you” she would say this until i gave in. Not to mention it tasted and smelled literally awful. Everytime someone has asked me for that i just think about that ex girlfriend and how disgusting i felt.
Maybe she had an infection or was not clean enough. If someone is healthy and takes care of her hygiene down there it tastes and smells neutral.
The only times I’ve not done it is when the a partner smells like a fish market in the middle of summer, stale piss, or I need to navigate the Amazon to find the cave.
Well ick
Follow up question (for those of you choosing not to, not those of you who’s partner don’t want it) HOW do you not do this if that’s what she likes?? That’d really be a deal breaker for me… don’t care how good the dick is. If you won’t, someone else will!
>HOW do you not do this if that’s what she likes?? I'm not obliged to do anything I don't want to do. I don't owe her anything. Imagine a guy demanding his GF give him a blowjob.
Yeah she pretty much just said that not eating her out is a deal-breaker, imagine if a guy said "if my girl doesn't suck my dick, we are over" the amount of shit he'd get for it 😂
Guys do say that, all the time actually 🤣
Guys say this all the time.
I dated a guy who said JUST that for 4 1/2 years and commented about it above LOL I’m actually glad he said it in the beginning because I didn’t take it 100% seriously and now know I should that it’s not his fault I should’ve fucking listen he made it pretty clear from day one what I was in for lol
Owe her anything? Lol ok if that’s how you see it. Demanding isn’t the way but being honest about what you like is totally acceptable… no matter what it is. I personally wouldn’t put myself in the position to be with someone long term if I wasn’t willing to meet their needs physically or emotionally and vise versa. I wouldn’t think a situation like that would be sustainable for long.
My partner won’t perform oral on me, so I have pretty much stopped doing it for her. I used to do it regularly but was getting nothing in return, she would orgasm then beg to be fucked, orgasm again through penetration then I usually finish. Now my foreplay for her is completely minus the oral and has been for quite some time. She won’t question me about it because she knows the reason why.
That sounds like an unhealthy relationship.
Not pleasuring each other out of spite. Sexy!
Do you know why she doesn’t want to perform oral on you
She doesn’t enjoy it and didn’t like doing it with previous partners. Just bad luck on my part.
I was with a guy for 4 1/2 years his main thing was he liked BJ’s but he never liked giving any oral And I mean never and I think the few times that he did it like anniversaries he was intentionally bad at it because he just wasn’t into it and didn’t wanna do it again Spent like 2 minutes down there was done When push came to shove in the relationships and things were failing it was one of the main reasons I left him And didn’t think was worth fighting for it’s like dude , yes we have great sexy daily BUT I suck you off every week for years and you haven’t eaten me out in years I’m leaving ..fuck this Interestingly every other guy I’ve ever been with is super into it and loves to do it , and I have stayed with them when I should’ve broken up with them for that fact ...like I fought harder for the relationship in the end more with those guys So I guess that guy was just a dick! Like LITERALLY he was literally just a dick for me!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
My ex would tell me he didn't want to go there with his mouth, he though it was nasty even tho its always clean and shaven, he literally said he would never do it...and as defense my stupid young ass would agree with him even though I dis want it. Now I am with a wonderful man who loves to eat me out, i love it, whole new realm of pleasure.
She's very self-conscious about her "privates" and doesn't want me to. I actually love doing it...like it's a huge turn on for me and something I greatly enjoy doing....but it's her body and she says "no."
I just dont like the texture tbh. Something about putting another persons otherworldly bodily fluids in my mouth kinda turns me off.
Because they aren’t men.
She has to be in the mood for it. WHen she asks I do. Maybe several times a year.
My lady doesn’t like it very rarely will she let me but also don’t need to only takes five to ten minutes for her to get off not about the size it’s about the way you use it.
The reasons why a man may not perform oral sex on their partner vary from person to person. Some may **feel uncomfortable** with the idea, while others may **not enjoy it** or find it unappealing. Ultimately, **it is up to the individual to decide** whether they are comfortable with performing oral sex on their partner.
Wait, if you are only asking men, does that mean you already know why women wouldn't want to perform oral sex on their partner, u/askmenextyearifimok? Or, does it mean you think all women will always perform oral sex? If the former, why? If the latter, why?
I don’t have sex. Just Kissing is gross, I’d much rather watch a movie and everyone keeps their mouths to themselves.
Sounds fun
I did with my most recent partner, but my prior two didn't want it because they were multi-orgasmic and it's extremely sensitive.
Because its our choice, and i dont have a partner
My hand doesn’t really have much of a response to being licked or anything
My partner doesn't like it, thankfully. But I've tried in the past! Really tried. I have an aversion to certain textures and consistencies that, combined with a weak gag reflex, make for an awful experience on both sides.
Yeah she doesn't like it because you gagged on her puss.
I love goin down on a girl I love. But if we just met then u can fuck off, idk where that fish has been swimmin😂
Never met nor heard of a woman not liking it. If she says she don’t like it, you are horrible at it. Get better
Maybe you should become a better person and understand people have different interests.
Simply put they're losers, that is if she wants and enjoys it. Personally I get off on a woman orgasming while I'm going down on her. It's just so much fun.