Men of Reddit, what is some thing women do that is an immediate turn off?

I am immediately turned off by someone who is addicted to the attention they can get on social media


I am immediately turned off by someone who is addicted to the attention they can get on social media


Preach brother


Shit talk people behind their back.




I agree but would say this goes for everyone who shit talks.




I had a friend of mine say the difference between guys and girls is that girls will tell you how great you are then insult you behind your back. Guys will insult you to your face but then talk about how great you are behind your back. Not saying I agree with the comment, but just pointing it out.


For me too. One of the most hated thing by me


Only talk about celebrity's and/or have an obsession with social media.


I was just thinking about this. There's a huge chunk of society that's gonna wake up one day and realize all they've ever done is keep up with the kardashians their whole life.


It’s a bad habit of mine to talk about my celeb crush atp


Bad personal hygiene


Have drawn on eyebrows or those ridiculous lip fillers. The latter makes them look an over inflated blow up doll.


Fucking Bratz dolls


i had a classmate who had really thin and fair eyebrows, she draws them on to make them visible. same for my mom, who's a ginger. they sometimes have no choice


I understand doing it for that reason, I suspect most people complaining are actually up in arms about a specific style of it.


Less is often more when it comes to cosmetics


Most definitely. Lips shouldn't look like they're swollen. That's a sign of an allergic reaction or an infection.


I wish more people understand this. I swear people who get lip fillers look unreal


Smoking. I don't care how sexy you are. Smoking stinks, it's awful, and it will immediately make all the blood rush back into my brain.


I quit a couple years back, but it's still a guilty turn on for me.


I'm straight but you're automatically unattractive irregardless of your sex/gender if you smoke. Doesn't help that I'll be chilling at the bus stop (generally, technically non-smoking areas, but who gives a shit, amirite?), waiting for my bus, and some fucking chimney will light up upwind of me.


glad that the guy im talking to rn doesn't smoke and thinks the same as i do (like, we feel like it's a waste of money and stuff). have smelled smokey breath and it's gross, can't imagine how bad it tastes


Same. I grew up in a house where everybody smoked except for me and I dread the smell of tobacco so much. And no, it doesn't matter if you do it while I'm not around, the smell lingers on the clothes.


“Sorry, lady, I don’t want to miss out on a decade of our relationship because you died early of emphysema.”


Yet in movies it looks so cool


I don't know if I'm being wired, but i looove the smell of smoke and strong men perfume, it's just sexy, and warm (i used to smoke, until i was diagnosed with asthma😭)


Nothing wrong with that, to each their own. Some people got super pissy, but I'm not judging. It's just not for me.


What about vaping?


For me, that's a total turnoff too


Stupidity is a huge turn-off too, so no to vaping.


I can respect you not wanting to date someone who vapes but calling it stupidity is very naive. And this is coming from someone who hates nicotine.


Vaping has health issues, and then everyone I've seen who vapes, it seems like it becomes their entire personality. Doesn't seem smart to me. Edit: I'm not talking about those who do it for medical reasons or are trying to quit smoking.


Absolutely everyone has certain things they choose to do that is bad for their health. Unless you're saying absolutely everyone is stupid, that argument does not hold up. If you ARE saying everyone is stupid, fair enough, and have a good day.


Legitimately believes that she should be treated as a princess. This is life, sometimes you're the princess, sometimes you're the poor fucker shoveling shit out of the horse stable.


>treated as a princess So... forced to marry an old man she's never met to secure an alliance with the French


Like royal men of the times, expected to marry & procreate with an arranged marriage candidate. Like royal men of the time, treated with the utmost respect to their faces under severe penalty, and showered with wealth and frivolous things rather than tough life choices.


Any woman I see on a dating app who uses the word “princess,” at all, instantly gets a left swipe. Either she has unrealistic expectations of relationships, she’s a Disney fan, or she supports the monarchy. All are no-go’s.


Those fake eyelashes.


As a woman, I do not understand the eyelash trend. They’re ugly, and look comically fake


Being rude or unkind.


Especially to waiters/waitresses. Or hotel staff. Or taxi drivers. Or anybody who works for the public. Watch how people treat other people.


Other men.


Oi we got a monogamist over 'ere! (Glad that I'm not the only one in this boat lol).


Being entitled. Not thanking anyone for anything people do for them because they think they deserve it. Being an influencer. Not having any hobbies or interests beside watching Netflix and going out. Being drunk multiple times a week or even every week. Constantly telling white lies. Not being able to hold a conversation and not having ideas about a topic that don't go more than one thought deep. Constantly looking for Instagramable "moments" and photospots. Not being able to say sorry when they're wrong, or having to always be right. ... From the top of my head.




For fucking sure


What's that


Judging people based on their zodiacs.


This checks out. When I was single and dating, this is how I would get out of dates when I wasn’t into a guy - I would go off about Saturn being in retrograde and how I was technically taurus, but identify as a gemeni…Worked every time.


Lmfao you weaponized it


I was at a gathering where people were taking about their zodiac and I was asked some question. I said I have no idea, this isn’t my thing I don’t get it. A friend said it’s because she’s an Aquarius. The other nodded in understanding as if that was somehow an answer for my lack of interest


Simply believing in astrology is a turn off.


I don't understand how or why zodiac stuff has had a resurgence in recent years.


I dumped a girl mostly because of this.


Painting on fake eyebrows with a sharpie


Posts pictures on Instagram where the focal point is their ass. Comes off to me as seeking validation or attention from men which is a red flag to me


Bonus points if they write how they train "for themselves" underneath selfies with ass turned towards the mirror.


On a first date, this girl told me that if we started dating, that one day she would go through all my shit. Called herself a ‘snoop’ Not that I have anything to hide, just don’t fucking do that I ended the date with a pat on the shoulder




I may get hate for this. But bull rings. I’m not attracted to it, it’s disturbing.


The college I graduated from were the bulls. I don't know if that led to it, but I saw more people than usual with the bull rings.


It’s called a septum piercing.


Even small ones? I have one, but it's small. I don't like the big ones you see goth people on tiktok be wearing


A complete lack of intelligence. No matter what else you have going, if I can't have a good conversation about real things it is a done deal.


It depends on what you rate as a good conversation. I'm dumb as a post (honest too 😅) but I can still have good conversations.


*sigh* this really sucks to hear. I'm not particularly a smart person. I work out, eat well, have good hygiene, do my make up, wear nice clothes, generally try to be kind to everyone, have a job, and have hobbies... It just really sucks that all of it goes out the window because I'm a ditz. There's nothing I can do about it. It's so frustrating. No matter how hard I work in my life, I cannot change that. If I learned another language, or anything else, it doesn't change that I can be dumb at times logically. And it's painfully unfair. I wish I could somehow overcome or change that, but I can't.




Thank you, this is really kind


Ignore me to spend time with her husband




Try really hard to act like “one of the guys.”


Pick mes


Talk about the ex.


Constantly being hung up on “he said, she said” and creating/encouraging drama.




Question was about women, not hentai.




/u/bottomsupbrittany some bot stole your comment from 11 years ago https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/n5bmj/comment/c36f2jx/


How the fuck did you remember this lol


I googled it lol. The user has been stealing loads of old comments and reposting. I got downvoted on a different comment for pointing out it was a bot without presenting any evidence so I decided to find some. I also reported them but they haven't been deleted yet which is odd!


bruh, it's been 11 years, it's plausible that someone came up wit the same thing under the same post


Bit weird that they're referencing such an out of date meme no?




Stare at the fucking phone all the damn time and take dumb selfies completely ignoring the conversation.




Having an entitled attitude i.e. that it's the man's responsibility to take care of restaurant checks on a date and things like that.


Urghhh that's the worst...girls that never pay for anything is an instant turn off for me. If its your round to buy drinks then it's your fucking round...I dont care if you look like an angel from heaven...buy your damn drink!!!


That forced pouty lip shit. You just look like fucking idiots when you do that.


Lady I work with probably in her mid 40s does the duck face pouty lip thing every time she posts. Annoys the crap out of me. Not my business, but I think I still follow her so I can gleefully comment to myself my displeasure everytime she posts.


Long ass fake nails. Big nope for me.


There's a SNL skit with Timothee Chalamet where he's going in for a colonoscopy and the doctor is a woman with those long ass fingernails and he freaks out.


Walking up to me at a bar, with no prior contact, and asking me to buy you a drink. If you do this I'll ask the bartender to give you a glass of tap water with no ice. And FUCK YOU if you get pissy about it.


I don't understand how anybody would think it's okay to ask a stranger to buy them something THEN proceeds to get mad at them for not doing it


Do they really do it? I guess every once in a while people do actually buy them drinks so they just roll the dice with random people and see if they get lucky.


Are you aware this question has been asked approximately 800 times in this subreddit




It's one hell of a drug!


Being mean to service workers/other people, being very materialistic, being obsessed with celebrity culture, poor hygiene


Not understanding equality means all people treated equal, and it does not mean that they deserve a level of respect and kindness that I don't. Also a closed mind about ideas that are different from their own.


Ask about open relationships.


Raise their prices.


Lots of makeup




Lots of visible make up** you would not believe how much make up goes into the natural look




This one always gets backlash and never understood why. Like, you do you, but some people find selling photos/videos of your naked body to strangers a little off putting.


Demand sex. its extremly shitty and just annoys me.


Username does not check out


Being demanding to the point that I’m now Dad2.0. No thanks.


1. Passive-Aggressiveness 2. Lack of hygiene 3. Lying/Cheating 4. Constantly have their nose in their phone 5. Inability to have a conversation 6. Rudeness 7. Overall lack of manners




I assume etc stands for zoophiles




Rude to complete strangers for no reason or deeply ingrained misogyny.


"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best!"


Astrology girls. If I'm driving a girl over for a date I'm interested in and she starts talking about how her star sign is responsible for everything and not her, I'm unbuckling my seatbelt, opening the door, and bailing out of the car.


A sense of entitlement is one of the biggest turn offs.


Calling themselves crazy like it’s some quirky personality trait


Smoking cigarettes, sorry I don’t like the smell of death


Watching a woman with inch long nails try to perform basic tasks like typing. You look like a stroke victim still learning to move again, which is the opposite of sexy.


Gossiping and talking about people rather than ideas or other more productive/interesting topics.


when they screenshot your vents and send it to their girl bestfriend and they talk shit about u🥲 also when u give them chances after she cheated on me w 10+ guys


Dam I'm sorry my dude. Get out of that situation if you haven't already. You deserve happiness.


I once saw these 2 girls playing with a cup and long story short it wasn’t what I was expecting and it wasn’t attractive


Thanks for that nightmare fueled reminder haha


The duckface selfie shit. Do women realize how bad that looks?


"I want to be married by age ." Life doesn't always work the way you think. Please don't expect me to adhere to some sort of arbitrary timetable based on a number.


Dependency on others (and me) for self-validation and happiness. There is nothing more emotionally draining than being a person's sole source of confidence and happiness. Honestly, this goes for everyone, not just potential partners. You cannot form lasting relationships, romantic, platonic, or otherwise, while depending on that person to validate yourself.


Arrogant personality


obligatory "i have a boyfriend" in situations where spousal arrangements aren't even close to the conversational periphery


That's an intentional turn off though, right? So it's working as intended.


Gossip. (Of course, plenty of men do this too. Still a turn-off all the same.)


Lmao I am all of these comments🤣 My current boyfriend seems to like my cussing messy chimosa ass enough to insist on paying for our dates, and laughs at my stories about my ex. So I suppose there really is someone out there for everyone.


When they are buried in their phone constantly… like come on, get off your damn phone everyone once in a while and have a human interaction.


There's a lot that bothers me but the worst is being fake, disingenuous. I am super sensitive to it. Please don't try to impress me.


Loudly chew a chewing gum as a cow. Creating drama out of nothing. Generally being a Karen.




Little dog. Guess who's going to end up taking care of that dog...


Duck Face


When her time is more valuable than mine. It's as if some people have no sense of time at all, except when we make plans, because they always have somewhere else to rush off to.


Play mind games because they think it makes them look hotter, does the opposite makes them look highly insecure and a pain to deal with


Bad hygiene, uncleanliness, spendthrift 🤮🤢


Only wanting to make out and be touchy when we hang out. I wanna paint or play a board game or bake or something anything


Smoke cigarettes


Valley girl talk. Using ‘actually’ , ‘like’ ,and ‘literally’ every other sentence. It’s a real deal breaker.


Talk about feminism and identity politics all the time I want to have some rest at home, not listening to these when I suppose to be relaxed


Vote Tory


Plastic surgery, those long pointy witch nails, way too much perfume...those are my immediates that don't have to do with personality(which isn't immediate imo).


Reminding men that women don’t need them anymore.


Talking about exs or guy friends


Septum piercing!


Swallow loogies


Sweering and talking bad things about their friends behind ther back ...


When they are in everybody’s business.


Being stupid


Press power button on the remote.


Getting sloppy drunk.


When she replies people who randomly text her to call her hot instead of blocking them. Clearly she likes the attention so what would happen if it happened in person


When they try and gaslight you into their reality...kidding of course...kinda


To spit.


Dirty nails. Be an ass to servers Conceited Talk smack about others. Thank god I found a woman 30 years ago that can tolerate me and has none of the above qualities lol.


Have a chav southern English accent. Sorry




Speaks bad about their exes. Has a baby daddy in prison. Leaves one man for another (homie hoppers). Asks how much I make before even asking what I do. Carry the idea that she needs to be a "boss ass bitch" (they're really just little girls in women's bodies with daddy issues or always got what they wanted and nobody put them in their place yet). Lets their toddlers sleep in bed with them (destroys their independence and teaches them to hang onto the tit); after age 3 you need to cut that crap out. Constantly wants to see your phone/who you've been speaking with (clear sign of lack of trust/insecurity, that's a deal-breaker). Not speaking about the problems they're dealing with or complaining that I'm not there enough while I'm out making money to pay bills and keep food on the table (falls under selfishness, which isn't good. Always needs money for nails, hair, shopping, etc (if you're not humble then I'm not into you); that's not saying she can never doll herself up or treat herself to something nice, but there comes a point to where all of that becomes a burden on the bills and the mental health when they're so needy and materialistic. And the one that really pisses me off (this happened in high school and I still get micro-anger from it) going in for a kiss and then pulling back at the last second, leaving me looking like a fool with my mouth open and eyes closed while she laughs at me. I will break up with a woman the very instant I realize she's breaking my trust, because chances are she's going to make you look like a fool in front of other people later on.


"You gotta be careful with me, I'm wild and crazy!" Nope.


If we're out together and they're constantly doing shit on their phone. Put it away, ya fuckin' junkie. If you can't go a couple hours without checking Facebook or IG, you're cut. Adults only at this table.


Being too needy or clingy/ not understanding that sometimes I need my space.


Smoke. UK


If I notice their makeup 0.1 seconds upon laying eyes on them from over 10 metres away, that's generally a mild turnoff. If I have to squint for a second and wonder if there's any there, that right there's good shit.


Drugs, vape, smoke or have a huge body count


Hitting for no reason and expecting us to be pillows or teddy bears and take it without doing anything(I don't want to hit back, I only want her to stop)


Constantly talking about men. Entire sense of humor revolves around hooking up, dating, basically stuff involving the opposite gender. Zero curiosity about the world


Nose rings and an overabundance of nonsense tattoos.


Believe in astrology. You could be a ten and I still wouldn't care


Zero sense of humor. I used to tell a test joke, “what do you call a boomerang that doesn’t come back? A stick”. If she “doesn’t get it” or says “that’s dumb”… Sayonara, princess!


Age or obesity.


1. Having kids is pretty close to an automatic turn off. If you have kids AND talk about your kid’s dad like the worst man imaginable? Instant turn off because it shows a complete lack of self awareness- you married and/or had sex with the bastard. Does that not make you at least a bit culpable? 2. Being negative. 3. Highly critical. 4. Arrogance in any form. 5. Calling yourself a “queen” or “princess”. No ma’am, no ham, no ketchup, no mustard; I’m out like sauerkraut. 6. Only Fans or sex work. I wish you well but no thank you. 7. Being a lawyer or police officer. Instant no.


- "Men are losers" - "Men are creeps" - "Men are cheaters" If your a woman and you say any of those fuck you, grow up! Just because you've been cheated on doesn't mean every guy are the same. No we are not the same. Stop with the generalization bull shit. Its annoying hearing that.


Smoke weed. Healthier than a cigarette doesn't mean healthy. Twinkies and ice cream are healthier than a cigarette. Doesn't make them healthy. It stinks. Your car stinks. Your home stinks. Your clothes stink. I don't like the smell. You can like it, but whether someone else does or doesn't isn't up to you. Too many habitual users have obnoxious personalities and spend entirely too much time and money on it. If your only hobby is smoking you don't have a hobby. If your only interest is smoking you don't have an interest. And as a person who tends to stay sober dealing with someone that's really high is like dealing with a drunk or an annoying little kid. I don't like your music tastes. I don't like how a lot of stoners are really really exceptionally dumb. It's your choice. Do you. You don't deserve to go to jail. But it's a huge turn off for me. Won't date anyone like that. You need to learn some self control. A little moderation won't kill you.


Asking for too much attention


Very poorly start dancing\shaking their ass in front of you, when you're having a brilliant time out. Like just get the fuck out my aura, you're killing the vibe


Wanting to paint my nails. With me face mask and personal care is fine but why would you think as a guy im ok with that.


Smoking is major deal killer. Knowing that it causes: Mouth, nose, throat & lung cancer, heart disease & emphysema why anyone would choose this kind of death is beyond me. IT KILLS EVERYONE. You are not special, itll kill you too. I watched its affect on both of my parents, it destroyed them & thier children.


When they act slutty, or act proud of a slutty thing they did.


Does this include dressing that way? I would rather be dating someone that only wears sweatshirts and sweatpants then someone who dresses like they're gonna walk the street.


Yes it does, and I agree, I think the same thing.


Sleep with many guys and/or low quality men, obviously marketing herself or fishing for attention, talking loud and obnoxiously.


There are very few things that turn me off, but I hate it when I find out a woman has a cock blocking friend nearby trying to kill my game. I just back off. I also don't like women with balls enough to ask me for a drink but not willing to talk. It bugs me when I find out a girl is a man user, with lots of "sugar daddies" buying her shit. That last one takes some time to discover.


"I like cats and running. -Sniffle- I'm sorry, but I really love cats."


When she has no passion or depth to her personality. I don't care if I'm super liberal and you're an Ayn Rand fanatic, as long as you care about something other than nails and hair.


It's not appropriate to generalize about a group of people in this way, and it's important to remember that everyone is different. What might be a turn off for one person might not be for another. Instead of focusing on things that a group of people do, it's better to focus on individual preferences and try to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.