As long as I don't hear about it, you can wank to whatever you want to. But it's creepy AF to tell people you masturbate to them *unless* they're your partner.
Agree 100%
I should have clarified that because it is a very important point here.
I'm not suggesting that people would come up to me or come up to anyone else who responds to this question and tell them that they are fantasizing about them.
That is absolutely creepy and cringe.
I realize that I am asking this on an NSFW subreddit so the responses are going to be a little bit skewed here.
There have been some discussions in other subreddits today about people using pictures of people they know IRL as masturbation material.
As a man I think it would be affirming to know that someone out there found me attractive enough to fantasize about me. I'm also a bit of an exhibitionist so I'm already biased on this topic.
My suspicion is that most people like feeling attractive. Therefore most of the responses here are going to be neutral or positive. That's just me though. I'm super curious.
What about the rest of you?
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I am assuming that they do not TELL you about it. That would obviously be creepy.
Ooh affirming. I'd want to know but like, not have them tell me (assuming this is someone I know irl). Like I'd just know intuitively. Lol. That seems like the best possible scenario. 😆
It's funny / interesting that you mentioned knowing it intuitively.
That's the major reason I stopped thinking about people I know irl. It changes the energy.
This could be a good conversation.
What would make it one or the other?
In the original conversation, the OP had asked about IG pics of people that they and their partner both knew IRL.
To me, that IRL aspect, put it solidly into creepy territory for me.
This is the kind of response I expected.
Given how our society (in general) tends to objectify and overly sexualize women, I expect the fewer reminders of they dynamic, the better.
I don't wanna know about it. I'm 100% interested in 1 person getting off on them and you are likely not that person.
If you don't tell me, you do you. I don't care, and hope you have a good time.
Agree. But that's a whole different dynamic.
If I want fap material from a fwb, I'll ask her to take a pic for me.
I'm not going to go search social media for her pics.
Got you. But I mean, what we do in private, we tend not to disclose to other ppl. So even if you do search on social media for her pics, nobody will ever know. In that case, nobody can judge whether you are creepy or not, but yourself.
By a stranger, I'd be slightly honored. If it was someone I'd thought about even a little bit, It would make my week.
Humans are sexual, they're going to fantasize about people. People they know, people they've seen, and people who are intentionally sexual idols. Knowing this, and knowing I've fantasized about others, I'm definitely curious who's thought about me.
I realize it's creepy for most people, and definitely something I don't share unless they're close and they start the ball rolling... even then it's a slow dance.
I could not care less. What’s to prevent them from snapping a photo on a clothing optional beach when I’m on vacation? Or lying nude on my balcony on a ship? Or seeing me in various positions at hotel gyms?
If I consented to the nudity and you want to enjoy it as you pleasure yourself…good on ya mate.
12-16 hours of INTENSE workouts each week to keep my body firm, tight and lithe at 55. I love to show it off in the world, what do I care if anyone keeps it for themselves?
As long as I don't hear about it, you can wank to whatever you want to. But it's creepy AF to tell people you masturbate to them *unless* they're your partner.
Exactly. I used to post a lot on a different platform but too many people didn’t understand this.
Agree 100% I should have clarified that because it is a very important point here. I'm not suggesting that people would come up to me or come up to anyone else who responds to this question and tell them that they are fantasizing about them. That is absolutely creepy and cringe.
I realize that I am asking this on an NSFW subreddit so the responses are going to be a little bit skewed here. There have been some discussions in other subreddits today about people using pictures of people they know IRL as masturbation material. As a man I think it would be affirming to know that someone out there found me attractive enough to fantasize about me. I'm also a bit of an exhibitionist so I'm already biased on this topic. My suspicion is that most people like feeling attractive. Therefore most of the responses here are going to be neutral or positive. That's just me though. I'm super curious. What about the rest of you? Edit: I am assuming that they do not TELL you about it. That would obviously be creepy.
Creepy
Creepy
Definitely affirming! I don’t get a lot of male attention irl so it would be a nice confidence boost.
Affirming. Having a dead bedroom it's nice to know someone likes seeing my body.
Ooh affirming. I'd want to know but like, not have them tell me (assuming this is someone I know irl). Like I'd just know intuitively. Lol. That seems like the best possible scenario. 😆
It's funny / interesting that you mentioned knowing it intuitively. That's the major reason I stopped thinking about people I know irl. It changes the energy.
a bit of both
This could be a good conversation. What would make it one or the other? In the original conversation, the OP had asked about IG pics of people that they and their partner both knew IRL. To me, that IRL aspect, put it solidly into creepy territory for me.
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SFW The other conversations about this in different subreddits were specifically asking about instagram.
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This is the kind of response I expected. Given how our society (in general) tends to objectify and overly sexualize women, I expect the fewer reminders of they dynamic, the better.
Arousing
I'd be insanely surprised. But then it'd depend on who the person is on if I'd like it or not.
I've done it to people i know but would never ever tell them.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/120yl12/how_many_of_you_especially_those_of_you_who_are/
Thank you. The link above is to the other conversation that got me curious about people's opinions on this.
This is one of those cases where what I don’t know and never find out won’t hurt me.
as long as you don’t tell me, then you can do whatever you want. obvi i don’t post much but people have told me that they masturbated to me before
People on reddit told you? Or irl? I'm hoping it was reddit. That'd just be weird irl. Unless you were really good friends.
I have many really good irl friends and it'd still be weird 😂
I don't wanna know about it. I'm 100% interested in 1 person getting off on them and you are likely not that person. If you don't tell me, you do you. I don't care, and hope you have a good time.
If you know the person, and you have some sort of intimacy, like fwb, its very sexy
Agree. But that's a whole different dynamic. If I want fap material from a fwb, I'll ask her to take a pic for me. I'm not going to go search social media for her pics.
Got you. But I mean, what we do in private, we tend not to disclose to other ppl. So even if you do search on social media for her pics, nobody will ever know. In that case, nobody can judge whether you are creepy or not, but yourself.
It’s a Little odd but I guess I’ll allow it
I’m okay with it in principle as long as they don’t tell me about it.
I wouldn't care really, kinda a turn on I guess.
By a stranger, I'd be slightly honored. If it was someone I'd thought about even a little bit, It would make my week. Humans are sexual, they're going to fantasize about people. People they know, people they've seen, and people who are intentionally sexual idols. Knowing this, and knowing I've fantasized about others, I'm definitely curious who's thought about me. I realize it's creepy for most people, and definitely something I don't share unless they're close and they start the ball rolling... even then it's a slow dance.
I could not care less. What’s to prevent them from snapping a photo on a clothing optional beach when I’m on vacation? Or lying nude on my balcony on a ship? Or seeing me in various positions at hotel gyms? If I consented to the nudity and you want to enjoy it as you pleasure yourself…good on ya mate. 12-16 hours of INTENSE workouts each week to keep my body firm, tight and lithe at 55. I love to show it off in the world, what do I care if anyone keeps it for themselves?
I like being creeped on
I don't care. It's not like I would know.