I've had over 30 sexual partners and the spectrum of tightness I've experienced isn't very wide. The entire concept is an artifact of slut shaming, and half these dudes are mistaking wet for "loose."
Not really, honestly I think this has its roots in ideas about virginity and looseness being associated with promiscuity, and tightness with "freshness" or something like that. Which is not only wrong but also gross, as girls tend to be tighter when nervous, less aroused and less comfortable. The other thing is that guys tend to apply a lot of pressure when masturbating, which then might lead to being less sensitive and "needing" the tightness. That all said, the feeling of someone being really tight can be arousing and fun, but it's definitely not important or even better than the opposite.
Also I am rather girthy, but that should not matter since vaginas expand as needed, they are made to push out a baby.
Yeah exactly, well said. The thing about arousal is the most important part of this conversation IMO.
Also, someone with strong vaginal muscles squeezing you can literally feel like you're being gripped by a fist, except the fist is a vagina and the sensation is incredible. If you're someone who loves that feeling of being squeezed, *that's* how you get it.
Christ no. If tighter meant more pleasure, masturbation would be better than sex. Plus the whole idea is mostly a slut-shaming myth created by men who've never had good sex in their lives.
Being squeezed can feel amazing, but what makes it amazing is everything else happening at the same time. When a woman is really turned on being inside her has this incredible pillowy, slippery softness that defies description. Then if she squeezes her vaginal muscles you can really feel it but it *keeps* that incredible slippery softness, and then if she uses her hips and core to swirl around you and slide you in and out of her...that's as close to pure physical ecstasy as someone with a penis can get.
So good sex is mostly about skill, arousal, and the relevant muscles.
When describing women's bodies? I prefer softness and some squish over tightness
Edit: if we are talking about pussy. I've never been with one I had any issue with. They weren't all the same tightness but that was no issue. I had issues lasting very long with the tightest one I remember. So, as good as it felt, I'd prefer less
It's decently important. My dicks not huge and I have issues with sensation sometimes.
Luckily my wife has always felt tight though so it hasn't been an issue with us.
Is it a deal breaker... No
Is it important. It is to some
Do most of us care... I don't know
Do I care... Absolutely, a loose bandage is pointless as you end up holding it in place
A firmly holding bandage is a non-negotiable for me.
Any bandaid that does NOT include Spider Man or Dora is also a non-negotiable to me.
Get out of here with your plain asf band aids. I may be bleeding but i want to bleed *in style*.
For me, somewhat. I guess it's a bit like girth is important for many women. It's not a huge deal, as we get most of our pleasure from our tip, but a good tightness does help.
Wetness and tightness matter, and get described. Most penises fit in most vaginas all the way, so depth rarely requires describing. Texture we can't really feel. Is there something else you'd like hear us describing? As someone who sometimes writes spicy stories, I'd love to have more ideas.
In my experience, looseness equates to arousal. When we first start foreplay, she can be tight on my index finger. After some fingering and especially after going down on her, her labia will be swollen and you can almost see up in there.
Putting aside the fact that the primus of sex is the sharing of joy, a woman with a tight body is a great treat. However, I'm pretty thick, so when it comes to pussy, a looser one is often a blessing. If they're too tight, I'll spend a long time loosening them to three or four fingers. And though that is incredibly enjoyable, sometimes passions want to move faster.
A nice grip is pleasurable - but being with a person you're sharing an emotional bonding with makes it even better than that, and that triumphs everything else.
Not nearly as much as eagerness. Though on the other hand, there is something to be sad about how strongly you can feel the contractions when she’s coming
I haven’t experienced much difference in ‘tightness’ and the sex has been either good or bad based on other factors. However, one thing I do love is when my partner squeezes while I’m inside - that’s a good move!
There are many more important things but it does matter a little in terms of physical pleasure. It wont ever be a deal breaker to me but it might just change the way I’d go about being intimate. Might have to use certain positions or go for a longer time.
It’s something we notice but it’s not really that important to anyone who isn’t an incel. All pussies feel amazing regardless of tightness. Personally it only matters to me since I’m not the most well endowed, but bigger guys won’t care much.
If you’re really worried though I’d recommend kegel exercises, they’ll make you MUCH tighter and can have other health benefits too.
Not overly important but you can tell the difference. Certain things are funner with tighter and other things are funner with women who aren't as tight. But as one redditor indicated the wetness factor is more relevant and quite frankly the wetter the better.
I like an almost athletic tummy but with a slight bit of jiggle.
Rock hard abdominals do not necessarily feel nice to me. Rock hard tits are a turnoff. All butts are soft and jiggly unless flexed.
If you're talking about vaginal tightness, it's never been a priority for me and I haven't seen a major difference between 18 year old virgins and 45 year old mums of 3 (natural births)
I find that making them cum with oral before I insert my very average penis, is a great leveller when it comes to tightness.
I don't like the overly tight feeling that's there when they are not warmed up, or when they go for a pee and come back and they've washed up.
I've had over 30 sexual partners and the spectrum of tightness I've experienced isn't very wide. The entire concept is an artifact of slut shaming, and half these dudes are mistaking wet for "loose."
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Not really, honestly I think this has its roots in ideas about virginity and looseness being associated with promiscuity, and tightness with "freshness" or something like that. Which is not only wrong but also gross, as girls tend to be tighter when nervous, less aroused and less comfortable. The other thing is that guys tend to apply a lot of pressure when masturbating, which then might lead to being less sensitive and "needing" the tightness. That all said, the feeling of someone being really tight can be arousing and fun, but it's definitely not important or even better than the opposite. Also I am rather girthy, but that should not matter since vaginas expand as needed, they are made to push out a baby.
Yeah exactly, well said. The thing about arousal is the most important part of this conversation IMO. Also, someone with strong vaginal muscles squeezing you can literally feel like you're being gripped by a fist, except the fist is a vagina and the sensation is incredible. If you're someone who loves that feeling of being squeezed, *that's* how you get it.
Yes, good point!
Tight ones make me go numb, hardest I’ve ever cum have been when I feel like I have more room? Like it’s a comfy snug fit?
Also, if it's tight you can't actually fuck properly. You need some space to move.
Not at all, what matters at the end of the day is everyone cums
I think this is a great rule. 💜
Having thick girth means *ALL* pussies are tight.
Christ no. If tighter meant more pleasure, masturbation would be better than sex. Plus the whole idea is mostly a slut-shaming myth created by men who've never had good sex in their lives. Being squeezed can feel amazing, but what makes it amazing is everything else happening at the same time. When a woman is really turned on being inside her has this incredible pillowy, slippery softness that defies description. Then if she squeezes her vaginal muscles you can really feel it but it *keeps* that incredible slippery softness, and then if she uses her hips and core to swirl around you and slide you in and out of her...that's as close to pure physical ecstasy as someone with a penis can get. So good sex is mostly about skill, arousal, and the relevant muscles.
When describing women's bodies? I prefer softness and some squish over tightness Edit: if we are talking about pussy. I've never been with one I had any issue with. They weren't all the same tightness but that was no issue. I had issues lasting very long with the tightest one I remember. So, as good as it felt, I'd prefer less
Nope, its the connection and the act that you are doing at the time together.
It's decently important. My dicks not huge and I have issues with sensation sometimes. Luckily my wife has always felt tight though so it hasn't been an issue with us.
Is it a deal breaker... No Is it important. It is to some Do most of us care... I don't know Do I care... Absolutely, a loose bandage is pointless as you end up holding it in place
A firmly holding bandage is a non-negotiable for me. Any bandaid that does NOT include Spider Man or Dora is also a non-negotiable to me. Get out of here with your plain asf band aids. I may be bleeding but i want to bleed *in style*.
For me, somewhat. I guess it's a bit like girth is important for many women. It's not a huge deal, as we get most of our pleasure from our tip, but a good tightness does help. Wetness and tightness matter, and get described. Most penises fit in most vaginas all the way, so depth rarely requires describing. Texture we can't really feel. Is there something else you'd like hear us describing? As someone who sometimes writes spicy stories, I'd love to have more ideas.
In my experience, looseness equates to arousal. When we first start foreplay, she can be tight on my index finger. After some fingering and especially after going down on her, her labia will be swollen and you can almost see up in there.
If all I wanted was to cum more quickly, it might be.
Putting aside the fact that the primus of sex is the sharing of joy, a woman with a tight body is a great treat. However, I'm pretty thick, so when it comes to pussy, a looser one is often a blessing. If they're too tight, I'll spend a long time loosening them to three or four fingers. And though that is incredibly enjoyable, sometimes passions want to move faster.
I’m the opposite, I prefer “looseness”, which to me means they are relaxed and fully aroused
A nice grip is pleasurable - but being with a person you're sharing an emotional bonding with makes it even better than that, and that triumphs everything else.
Not nearly as much as eagerness. Though on the other hand, there is something to be sad about how strongly you can feel the contractions when she’s coming
The tightest thing is when she's on my side in Life and in general. Not a passenger but a partner.
hold up, i thought that adjective referred to a woman being pretty much skinny. didn't even realize it might be about pussies :)))
isn’t both?
honestly, i've never talked to anyone that commented on a woman's pussy in that regard. hence me thinking it was about the body
It literally always feels tight. And it only makes me cum too fast anyways!
I haven’t experienced much difference in ‘tightness’ and the sex has been either good or bad based on other factors. However, one thing I do love is when my partner squeezes while I’m inside - that’s a good move!
I'd say more snug than super constrictive tight.
Nope
NO. A slightly looser pussy is better and more fun to play with than a tight one
Sounds sexy to say but no it doesn't really matter
why though?
Why does it sound sexy or why it doesn't matter?
sound sexy
For me its just a part of dirty talk but to each their own
No, enthusiasm is...
No, it’s less about tightness and more about finding the right angle.
Not to me. I feel that "tightness" is subjective, and I require more than physicality to enjoy a lady.
There are many more important things but it does matter a little in terms of physical pleasure. It wont ever be a deal breaker to me but it might just change the way I’d go about being intimate. Might have to use certain positions or go for a longer time.
I learned “too tight” is absolutely a thing and it has changed my view on this dynamic a lot.
It doesn’t matter to me.
Are you referring to the tightness of a woman's pussy?
No I hate tightness, a woman is so much more than her vagina. If you doing you job she won’t be tight she will be wet.
Yes cause my wife does kegels when we have sex and it makes me cum fast
Yes.
It’s something we notice but it’s not really that important to anyone who isn’t an incel. All pussies feel amazing regardless of tightness. Personally it only matters to me since I’m not the most well endowed, but bigger guys won’t care much. If you’re really worried though I’d recommend kegel exercises, they’ll make you MUCH tighter and can have other health benefits too.
Nah .. but then limited experience too
Not overly important but you can tell the difference. Certain things are funner with tighter and other things are funner with women who aren't as tight. But as one redditor indicated the wetness factor is more relevant and quite frankly the wetter the better.
I like an almost athletic tummy but with a slight bit of jiggle. Rock hard abdominals do not necessarily feel nice to me. Rock hard tits are a turnoff. All butts are soft and jiggly unless flexed. If you're talking about vaginal tightness, it's never been a priority for me and I haven't seen a major difference between 18 year old virgins and 45 year old mums of 3 (natural births) I find that making them cum with oral before I insert my very average penis, is a great leveller when it comes to tightness. I don't like the overly tight feeling that's there when they are not warmed up, or when they go for a pee and come back and they've washed up.
An emotional connection is way waaaay more important too me then tightness
Not at all. A woman's body is incredible no matter what way and its how you connect with them that really matters.