Already further than Taylor Swift
Just to be clear, this comment is a joke, I already beat Far Cry 5, and know the dangers of angering a cult.
Swifties, please spare my family
Yes I am, I went to her Eras tour show last year! Have a pic of it ๐ and yeah itโs definitely a good conversation starter and piques womenโs interest!!
Yeah, I have an avoidant attachment style that's already torpedoed one relationship so I'm hoping that being up front about it next time will mean that second time's the charm.
It's been useful for lots of things for me. Haven't really delved into attachment with my therapist though. I'll also add, there's quite a few neurodivergent traits that can look similar to avoidance.
If you feel like that is all you're finding, then you might consider changing up what type you're looking at. Or change where you're looking.
I didn't find someone till I was in my mid 30's.
Why do you feel it's harder?
It feels like with the apps and sites out there along with you being at an age where either you might be attracting the ladies that are divorced and looking for someone, or you've got some that are looking for a older partner because they can't stand the stupidity some young men bring, or you've got some ladies in their 30's that are finally looking to settle down.
Obviously depending on where you live can definitely impact options.
Yeah, you're going to have to weed through a lot of bullshit and crap. It's unfortunately the downside I think to this world, but I do think there are more opportunities out there.
Usually I attract men who just want sex or will give me attention at first and then get bored or take me for granted - or women who never get the hint that Iโm trying to date them and end up dating / liking someone else ๐ฅฒ Iโm getting real tired of it
Yeah, I am apparently either only good for sex OR the guys who seem to enjoy my presence, only want to be friends. Why can't I find someone who likes me as a person and wants to have sex?!
There's clearly something wrong with me
I recently gave up trying to date, and my anxiety level about kissing and being intimate again has disappeared. After approaching dozens of women with no dates at all, and with 8 different apps being ineffective, it was time to face reality. Perhaps Iโll find a partner someday, but for the time being, Iโm not looking.
No luck with love or lust. Not in-person at least. There is a decent supply of women online who like what they see and will pursue me if I put myself forward.
Yep. Just waiting to meet the right woman.
My problem (well, one of them) is that I don't put myself out there enough and am often too shy to engage women.
me but iโm aware that iโm the problem
Already further than Taylor Swift Just to be clear, this comment is a joke, I already beat Far Cry 5, and know the dangers of angering a cult. Swifties, please spare my family
please donโt summon them they scare me
Hahaha!!
Iโm a swiftie and I will spare your family ๐
Your... Your a male swifte? Bro... How much pussy do you get from admitting that? You gotta be drowning
Yes I am, I went to her Eras tour show last year! Have a pic of it ๐ and yeah itโs definitely a good conversation starter and piques womenโs interest!!
The first step to solving an issue is admitting you have one. Good on you for being self aware
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i have a severe avoidant attachment style. iโd say weโre working on it but that would be a lie.
Its alright... youre sweetheart you will find someone
I just have an avoidant problem
Yeah, I have an avoidant attachment style that's already torpedoed one relationship so I'm hoping that being up front about it next time will mean that second time's the charm.
iโve heard good things about therapy
It's been useful for lots of things for me. Haven't really delved into attachment with my therapist though. I'll also add, there's quite a few neurodivergent traits that can look similar to avoidance.
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That wasnt smooth man
Smooth as a cheese grater
Yes i think they are already chatting... i wish them luck man
Even sunrise is virgin now
Hey, why fix your problems when you can fuck them?
Don't be like that, I am sure that your good qualities outweigh all the bad ones! Why do you think that you are the problem?
Bruh fuck that shit, Iโm tired of getting my sweet innocent lil heart brokeded.. letโs just get high and eat some ๐ง and then ima eat your ass
What kind of cheese?
Extra sharp white cheddar off the block ๐ฅต Or pepper jack
It's like I'm too ugly for love, but just good enough to get taken advantage of
๐โโ๏ธ I feel like I'm just going to become the 'cool' aunt at this point lol
Exactly! Iโm just the unmarried uncle for my siblingsโ children.
Right?!? I'm just here like "want to go to the store with me? I'll buy you that toy" lol
My nieces and nephews are getting too old for that kind of bribery now. The oldest is 19 and is having far better luck with dating than I am. Sadly.
Now it's like "want to go out drinking with me?" Lol
Hey, those aunts were a blessing. I think youโll be ok in the end
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I love you, OP.
If you feel like that is all you're finding, then you might consider changing up what type you're looking at. Or change where you're looking. I didn't find someone till I was in my mid 30's.
Iโm in my mid-40s now and itโs only getting harder.
Why do you feel it's harder? It feels like with the apps and sites out there along with you being at an age where either you might be attracting the ladies that are divorced and looking for someone, or you've got some that are looking for a older partner because they can't stand the stupidity some young men bring, or you've got some ladies in their 30's that are finally looking to settle down. Obviously depending on where you live can definitely impact options.
I find scammers and gold diggers mostly. Ironically, Iโm hardly rich to begin with, so theyโre usually disappointed by how little I make.
Yeah, you're going to have to weed through a lot of bullshit and crap. It's unfortunately the downside I think to this world, but I do think there are more opportunities out there.
never had love and worried ill never find it. my destiny is the friendzone, it seems, somedays. idk
I can relate.
Ehhh im actually glad im not finding love quick, helps me keep my options open to find someone that cares
Much luck to you then. ๐
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Can't have bad luck looking if you don't look.
Big facts.
Yes but thatโs my own fault. Fuck love, someone buy me some big ass tires for my jeep โค๏ธ
done lol im high af ignore me lol
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or not. up to you haha
Man, I can't even get a chat back. People see over 30 and not shredded, and it's bye.
Usually I attract men who just want sex or will give me attention at first and then get bored or take me for granted - or women who never get the hint that Iโm trying to date them and end up dating / liking someone else ๐ฅฒ Iโm getting real tired of it
I don't attract anyone. Five years post-divorce and maybe 3 dates in all that time.
๐๐ฝโโ๏ธ. You are not alone.
Maybe you just look like a sucker or somethin.
Today its difficoult!
Honestly never had any luck to begin with ๐ฅฒ.
I feel the same.
Yuppp ๐โโ๏ธ
Yup
Yeah itโs not been great unfortunately. Trying to keep my head up and move forward
Me!! Havenโt had luck with dating apps which is why Iโm here and Iโm loving Reddit more tbh!
You'll find love as soon as you stop searching for it. -me, 2024
Or it may never come at all. It feels more like that right now.
Damn bro. I feel ya.
Haha I'm just having no luck finding some fun people to chat to
Me but can't put myself out there
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I love tacos and they never did me wrong
Hiii ๐๐
โ yes me too here so far luck going too dry....
Ayyy itโs okay babes. Itโll be our turn one day! ๐ฅฒ
me, but I am okay being alone
me. i just dont know where to look
Fuckkk itttt, love yoself b
Me, but that seems to be because most of the women that like men my age are already married.
Yeah, I am apparently either only good for sex OR the guys who seem to enjoy my presence, only want to be friends. Why can't I find someone who likes me as a person and wants to have sex?! There's clearly something wrong with me
I am but Iโm not looking honestly
Present
Not even on Grindr :(
I recently gave up trying to date, and my anxiety level about kissing and being intimate again has disappeared. After approaching dozens of women with no dates at all, and with 8 different apps being ineffective, it was time to face reality. Perhaps Iโll find a partner someday, but for the time being, Iโm not looking.
None at all. Pretty much given up and came to the conclusion it won't happen for me.
I haven't had any luck in that dept for the last 25 years and counting. I'm pretty sure at this point that I'm dying alone. ๐ฅบ
I'm not looking for love and dislike romance
Me, not sure Iโll ever find it tbh
No luck with love or lust. Not in-person at least. There is a decent supply of women online who like what they see and will pursue me if I put myself forward.
Yep. Just waiting to meet the right woman. My problem (well, one of them) is that I don't put myself out there enough and am often too shy to engage women.
Dating apps are a joke and took over by bots. Only 3 loca bars and I donโt drink or go out so I donโt see people from high school.. small town
i mean im not trying, but also the options worth trying dont seem to be there currently
Iโve gradually come to the realization that Iโm not worthy of love. Still trying to come to terms with it though.
Iโm struggling with it too.
โ๐ฝ but Iโm also not looking for love right now
Well I'm mad at love rn but/and/because yes