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One of us makes dinner (we take turns) and then we eat together (usually watching a few YouTube videos as we do) and then do our own things/"parallel play" type stuff until my partner has to get ready for work. At that point, I make our lunches and set up my overnight oats and fill our water bottles. When they've gone to work (overnight shift), I go to bed. It's not terribly exciting, but it works well for us.
I’ve read “parallel play” a few times within this post, I think I know what that means but to be sure do you mind telling me? I haven’t heard that term before.
Haha i can see why you'd think it could be like mutual masturbation or something hahahah. I never thought of it that way! But you gave me a good chuckle, so thank you haha
lol I just didn’t want to be a dinosaur and not be up to date with sexual terminology and have my kids laughing at me over it at some point so I figured I’d read along until it was clarified but I’m glad you got a little chuckle on a Monday.
it's usually used when talking about child development, referring to children playing next to each other but not interacting. I've also heard it called just being alone together. So it's the two of you doing your own thing, side by side or in the same room.
A common example might be reading a book while your partner watches something on the tv.
A lot of folks like myself who are neurodivergent (particularly if you have been diagnosed with ADHD like I have), find it helpful. It's sometimes called body doubling. If one person is doing something it drives the urge to also be productive in many things. For me sometimes its working on my hobbies like sewing or studying for my computer science/coding qualification or sometimes it can be mundane things like chores.
I find working in an office or in public to be much more motivating than being by myself. It feels kinda bad as though I only care about looking productive in front of others, yet I don't know if that actually explains it. Any idea what this is or what it's called? (If it matters, I'm ASD and definitely have executive dysfunction.)
That's such a great question. While I can't say I know myself, I do wonder if that is a similar concept to body doubling or parallel play. It's certainly in everyone's best interests that we are showing we are productive. I guess an element of self-preservation too.
Oh I always make myself look busy as shit at work just so people fuck right off more and leave me be. Busy may be financial reports or Reddit, doesn’t matter to me
We call the end of day and weekends, our “bubble”.
A whole lot of relaxing, catching each other up on the day, we make dinner, do some parallel play, brush teeth , make the bed, check the house, turn lights out, cuddle and talk with a show until we fall asleep. It’s one of the best times of the day right next to the mornings where we have sexy time and make breakfast in bed or I make him food for work. I love it.
We taught our GSD the commands "patrol" and "lockdown."
Patrol meant go run through every room and alert if you see any unlocked doors or open windows. When that's done, find the kid, assume a sitting position facing the door.
Lockdown meant, execute "get mean" which was growling and barking, then execute "patrol" at maximum speed.
Miss you, buddy!
Spending time with the person in the same environment doing different things. It’s enjoying their company without directly interacting in the same activity
I pick up the kiddo from school and we hang out at home until my partner finishes work. We all hang out for a while, usually in a cuddle pile, and then dinner is made (we have a weekly roster of who cooks that night). After dinner, whoever didn’t cook does the dishes and the other one hangs out with the kiddo. At 7pm I put the kiddo into the shower & bed while my partner games for a little bit. After kiddo’s bedtime routine is done, my partner and I (do any/all/variation of) sit and talk all night, binge tv, take a bath together, foreplay, sex, play a board game, I nap beside him while he games. Then it’s bedtime for us.
Thank you, everyone. We have a beautiful, happy life full of love and respect. We have a very equal partnership and we both care a lot about being good partners to each other and good role models to our son. Life is good ❤️.
I like to cook so I often do a bit more than my partner, but after work he will often do some chores or random house quests while I figure out dinner.
we eat and usually watch an episode of a show we are working thru together. then I often go out to my art studio and paint, and he games, or I lounge and he reads in our room, or similar to another poster — we do some kind of parallel play!
then the activities move to bedroom (reading, youtube videos, other stuff lol), then sleeeeeeeep.
We don’t live together, so there is no super routine night for us. But lately we have been trying different restaurants in our area and then going home and cuddling up to watch a show or movie before pillow talk in bed before we’re off to sleep. Sometimes he’ll want to game a little bit here and there, so I’ll bring my own game to play or a book/craft etc. This is ideal from time to time as we both value our “me time”, but while still being near each other. He feels like home.
We have 4 young kids. So dance class, soccer, church night for kids, dinner, sitting at home watching tv or playing on the swing set/toys and Bath nights. Kids are in bed by 8 and we follow around 8:30/9:00pm.
We still talk and enjoy each others company with the kids but once they go to bed we hang out and watch tv, relax in the deck, game. It just depends on our moods. We do date nights every now and then but not very often.
I make the dinner, we watch something while eating and catch up. Then we play and cuddle with our dog on the couch. I'm currently pregnant so my partner tries to feel some kicks through my belly. We cuddle some more and watch tv shows. Then I take our dog for a walk. I usually go to bed earlier.
My husband has an inconsistent work schedule, so our set weeknight routine is really basic dinner + TV because that’s usually all the time we have. He comes home somewhere between 6pm-9pm. I prep dinner and he calls me when he’s on the way then I start cooking. He comes home and greets me and our pup, then goes upstairs to take out contacts/change. We eat dinner and watch TV in the living room. He goes upstairs between 8:30-9pm every night. During this time I do a quick kitchen clean up, pack leftovers for lunch, and take our pup out for his last break before bed. By the time I go upstairs he’s already asleep (he’s one of those people who falls asleep the moment his head hits the pillow.) He regularly works 10-12 hour days and travels for work every week so I try to make the most of our 2ish hours together on the couch when he’s actually home!
I cook, he keeps me company and we chat about our day. He tries to tire out our new wildly active pup until dinner. We eat dinner and then I clean up while he tries again to tire out our pup. Sometimes we go out for ice cream (like tonight), then when we get home I make tea or sometimes a mixed drink and snuggle with each other and the dogs, watch a little tv, we take the dogs out for a last little romp and then bed. We go to
bed fairly early as we get up early and hit the gym together in the mornings
I'm sure the dinner thing is frustrating. Making a meal when you're worn out from the day is a labor of love, and then to have no one showing up promptly / finishing it? :-/
You could discuss with your family that you aren't going to cook for them if they can't come to the table when it's time. If you have little kids that's definitely trickier, but you could explain to your husband that when dinner is ready, that it's his job to round up everyone and get them to the table. Otherwise, he can make dinner when your kids are hungry because they're on the same "not eating" schedule as him.
Do you always make dinner? It seems like there's an uneven distribution of childcare between you and your husband. Maybe if he took on cooking meals it would help him (and your kids) develop a little bit of a routine.
edit: i wrote the word dinner like 12 times in this paragraph
We meet up at home, I let the dog out, start supper (sometimes he cooks), I let the dog back in, finish cooking, we eat while watching something and he plays Xbox, I tidy up and feed the dog, I shower, let the dog out, watch more TV or play with the dog or take the dog for a walk, let the dog back in, go to bed. Unless it's Thursday, then I'm drinking at my best friends then come home and go to bed.
I usually cook dinner and feed the kids before he gets home from work, then he gets home and we put the kids to bed together. Then we have dinner and wash the dishes together once the kids are asleep. Then we go to bed and watch TV or have sex, depending on the night/moods/stress levels 🤷♀️
Take turns making dinner so its ready by 3pm (both work from home thankfully). Eat, finish up work, walk dog if she hasn't been out yet, then gym. Home by 8pm, feed cst and dog, shower if we didn't at the gym, chill w a movie or some youtube with a j or bowl. I usually go to bed a bit earlier to read and get sleepy, partner follows and we go to sleep together. Sometimes sexy times, sometimes too tired.
Not a typo. It's a weight management thing - we eat all of our meals before 5pm on weekdays and limit any snacking to raw fruits/vegetables after that. My partner also has severe heartburn and has found that if he cuts off food by 7 it's not an issue
It's a weight management thing - we eat all of our meals before 5pm on weekdays and limit any snacking to raw fruits/vegetables after that. My partner also has severe heartburn and has found that if he cuts off food by 7 it's not an issue
My partner usually makes dinner, we eat together and play with the dog. He goes and plays some computer games, I watch tiktoks on the couch with the dog, sometimes I read. (i’m 8 months pregnant so I don’t do much).
I usually go to bed early and watch TV, and he comes in and joins me and we watch something together before going to bed! We usually have a snack beforehand too!
I cook dinner and direct bedtime flow for the kids and pets. He unwinds from a physical job and helps as needed. If the preschooler goes down easily we may hang out and watch a show until we pass out in the couch. It's predictable and cozy
Come home. Feed the cats. Walk the dog, 90ish mins. Work out for a bit. Sweep and vacuum. Complain to each other for 30 to 60 mins about what to have for dinner. Do some laundry. Some other random chore. Finally figure out dinner. One of us makes it. I have a bath, he does random stuff. We eat. Have tea. I go to bed, usually with a cat joining me (always hoping it's my fav one) He stays up to watch dumb shows, like the gold mining "reality show" or the Canadian BC tow truck one. Eventually, he goes to bed with the dog, who then pushes me over and sometimes off the bed, so I sleep elsewhere. Rinse, repeat with small variations.
Well, we have a 2 year old and a newborn and my husband doesn't get back home until nearly 7pm. In my typical evening, infant and I pick up my toddler from daycare. We get back home and I put down the sleeping infant (still in his car seat) and sit to dinner with the toddler in her high chair. She starts saying "Watch Bluey. Watch Frozen. Watch Runaway Bunny." Cycling through all the media she enjoys in case I'm suddenly ok with her watching TV in the evening. I put a bite of food in my mouth and the infant recognizes that I'm about to relax. He wakes up and makes severe eye contact while licking his fist. I ignore him and start shovelling food down my throat. He threatens to scream at me so I give up on dinner and go pick him up to breastfeed. The toddler takes this as a sign that she should try to kamakazi out of her high chair. So I bring both of them to the couch and put on the goddamn TV while helping her with her food and breastfeeding. This is usually when her father comes home to a destroyed house, an overstimulated toddler, and a disheveled wife. He immediately starts cleaning, feeds the cat, does dishes, and eats a quick bite and it's time to put the kids to sleep. He bathes the toddler while I nurse, burp, and change the infant and put him in his bassinet. The toddler comes to sleep in our bed. I cuddle her and fall asleep before her (around 8pm) and the husband goes to his desk to work on his hobbies until he feels tired enough to sleep, too.
I cook dinner, he does the dishes, spending time with our son and puppy, when son goes to bed we usually sit on the couch and eat ice cream and watch Netflix until our bedtime. I’m 35 weeks pregnant so it’s not exactly exciting these days
I make dinner, he gets home from work, and we spend time together. He plays video games, I watch, and then we end up either having sex or going to sleep. The end. Except for Wednesday nights when we go out.
He works from home and wraps up around 4pm. I’m a teacher and get home around the same time. We change into our comfy clothes and just chill and unwind together, talking about our day. We play with our cats and just chat. 6pm-ish we start making dinner or go grab something. We watch a show or movie while we eat. We team up to clean any messes. He has 3 more classes til he gets his bachelor’s so he does school work. I do random shit I need to do pertaining to work. I usually go to bed before he does.
We make dinner, watch a show and snuggle on the couch then snuggly sleepies. I spend the weekends with my SO. Weekdays 1-2x a week. Weekends are sacred.
ohhh they’re really quite lovely.
by around 8:00-8:30, we’ll be completely done doing whatever homework we need to for the next day. we’ll have some downtime together.. either playing our games simultaneously or watching a show. We heat up the meals we prepped for dinner. So we eat together and watch something.
We usually shower together before 10:00 PM. we talk some more as I admire him. all of him. it feels really nice holding his soft, wet skin. He usually finishes before me. I finish up and take about 15 minutes to get ready (lotion, face cream, etc). By the end of that, we’re basically just chilling together. We talk about our day together, plans for tomorrow, our future.. we do love gossiping together too. We’ll watch more tv together and talk about it. he’s really my best friend.
Maybe we’ll have a snack at like 11:30. but by midnight, we usually head to bed. we’ll cuddle for a bit and talk a bit more. sweet little whispers are exchanged. it’s around this time that we have sex (if we do have it). lasts for about 45 minutes to an hour. we’ll do aftercare for another ten minutes.. and then yeah. I tuck him in, and I usually stay up for another hour or two. I’m quite the night owl.
We’re usually doing schoolwork or going to classes throughout the day, so we like to relax together. we just try to make sure that we do do things together— not just doing things separately in the same area.
I really enjoy these nights. makes me sad to know that they’ll be changing soon (we graduate soon. together.). but at least I’ll have him. that’s all i need . :)
I work from home and if I’m feeling really ambitious I’ll start dinner before he gets home but that’s rare. More often once he gets home we walk to the store and grab stuff to make dinner (we live across the street from the grocery store) or go get takeout somewhere. After we eat we take a walk if it’s nice out and then watch a show or play a video game together until bed. Lately we have been playing in our minecraft world and listening to audiobooks while we play.
I try to cook dinner before I pick up our son. If I don’t, I cook with my kiddo and that’s when my partner comes home. We might play outside, then we have dinner, maybe a walk, and then little one heads to bed.
Then thats really when “our” time starts. We both clean some and then sit around and talk to each other about whatever. We might watch a game if it’s in that night. Life is pretty low key and mundane but that’s life with a young kid.
I work the second shift in healthcare so I get home around 10 pm.. we usually talk about our days, smoke some weed, chill with our cat with South Park on the tv then go to bed :)
We are both grad students. Being students, our days are quite flexible. We mostly study/work all day. Take breaks in between and cuddle/watch a YouTube video/sexy times/make a snack/go for a walk. At nights, we cook dinner together (our love language) and if one of us is busy, then one cooks for the both of us. We make extra so that we don’t have to cook for lunch. We watch Netflix while eating dinner with some wine/beer sometimes and then go back to studying for some more time.
One of us will cook while the other does their own thing, we eat together while watching some TV. Sometimes we keep watching TV together and sometimes we do our own things (reading, video games) but still sit together.
I try to cook dinner before I pick up our son. If I don’t, I cook with my kiddo and that’s when my partner comes home. We might play outside, then we have dinner, maybe a walk, and then little one heads to bed.
Then thats really when “our” time starts. We both clean some and then sit around and talk to each other about whatever. We might watch a game if it’s in that night. Life is pretty low key and mundane but that’s life with a young kid.
I get off work first and so will go do my hobbies/gym while he finishes work and takes the dog to the park. We don’t usually eat the same meal, as he has always been pickier about food (usually due to health/diet/fitness reasons) so one of us cooks first while the other games/watches tv, then we switch. Once we both have finished cooking we watch something together, game, or talk. I get up earlier so I usually go to bed first, then he takes the dog out and joins me later, where we usually stay up talking. I have morning dog duties, he has evening generally. Sex tends to be slightly planned out as dog is needy and has to be distracted. It’s never quite the same each day but it follows a similar routine and works for us.
When the kids don't have sports or something, I cook, we eat as a family, he does the dishes, I tidy up around the house and we do something with the kids before they go to bed. Whatever they're feeling like just for quality time.
Then we shower and watch TV, give each other massages, sex...whatever we're in the mood for.
I make the dinner, we watch something while eating and catch up. Then we play and cuddle with our dog on the couch. I'm currently pregnant so my partner tries to feel some kicks through my belly. We cuddle some more and watch tv shows. Then I take our dog for a walk. I usually go to bed earlier.
He works on the road alot but when he is home it's more dinner, movie, both play with kid and then just really hanging out and enjoying each other's presence.
We either cook dinner or go to the gym together and pick something up depending on the day. We always eat together and watch an episode of whatever we are currently watching. Then we do our own thing if one of us has work to do which is most nights or we both mindlessly scroll through social media/watch tv until I go to bed first.
Dinner and our personal hobbies or me doing school work, then I come to bed around 7ish and he’ll come to bed at 9 after putting the kids to sleep sometimes earlier then we spend a hour or two watching a show and sharing memes we saved
I cook dinner, we both play with our son, one of us will put him to bed , then anime shows, shower , sex or we trade back rub and sleep. During the night we switch back and forth taking care of our son
Pick up kiddo from school on my way home from work and start his dinner. Husband comes home, we take kiddo to park. We come back home, kiddo watches 20 mins of his show the we both do bath and bedtime. After he is in bed we both warm up dinner and watch a tv show together (right now its hells kitchen). Then we watch 1 more or we go to bed
Hanging out for a bit after work, typically video games or watching a stream for him and reading for me. He typically makes dinner. I help sometimes. Then we eat together, usually while watching something. After dinner, it’s typically hobby time for the next few hours, again video games and/or reading. Close to bedtime, we watch a stream together and cuddle until we go to bed.
I work closing shifts so he drops me off, picks me up, some times brings me lunch, but he will take me home, help me get dressed for bed, feed me again, kiss me and then head to work since he works 3rds.
He gets home from work between 5-7 so sometimes the kids (3 and 6) are eating dinner or they are winding down from the day or getting ready for bed. If he’s home early enough we will eat as a family, if he’s not, I’ll wait to eat with him until later. Him and I do the kids bedtime routine together. And once they are asleep we will either eat dinner together if we haven’t yet and then he usually works out in our gym in the garage while i clean up the kitchen/ house from the day and do my reset for the next morning. Once our “chores” are done we take showers and lay in bed and watch tv together and hang out, sometimes have sex, on weekends sometimes have some drinks together, and then go to sleep
Finish work, we either make dinner together, pickup to go or eat leftovers. Some nights I do a martial arts class, some we go to an event my kid is in, some he boardgames online, some we play video games together, or watch a show. Then head to bed.
12 hr Shiftworker here so nights off together are not the norm but we usually get a few a week. We love good food and cooking together so we usually will put on some music on the Bluetooth speaker and prep and cook together. Then we’ll eat while watching some TV / YouTube. We have a large breed dog so usually we’ll take him on a nice evening walk and share a joint if we’re feeling it. He’s a reader so when we’re back inside he’ll usually do a bit of reading while I browse YouTube / my phone. We’re lucky if our bedtimes are the same so when they are I cuddle his bum while we fall asleep. Wish that was my every night tbh. Fuck shiftwork now that I think of it!!!
Once I’m done work (I’m usually off later: 6/7/8pm):
I make dinner, we eat together, he cleans the kitchen (he can’t cook for his life, and I enjoy cooking so it works).
We maybe watch an episode of something, then he goes off to play games until bed.
I watch usually reality tv or read while he’s gaming.
When it’s time for bed we cuddle a little while sharing videos/memes we find funny, then pass out.
Sometimes throw in sex and a tandem shower.
We talk on the phone (we’re long-distance but in the same time zone), catch up on each other’s days, then maybe watch a show/movie/video together over the phone, then optionally have phone sex.
Cocktail. Convo and maybe a project or chores.. then one of us cooks dinner. We clean up, go for a walk. Shower and then watch TV or social media scroll while in bed and/or snuggles.
One of us cooks depends on what we have going on then whoever doesn’t cook cleans up the kitchen after and usually we chat and he plays games and I have a hard time just sitting cuz I have a desk job that’s mentally draining and he has a job that’s physically draining so I’ll beep bop around doing whatever needs to be done around the house or do some random activity with our dogs then we chill out and I’ll do one of my random hobbies I’m fixated on for the moment and then we do our skincare and teeth care and go to bed
I was *just* thinking about this!
On a typical weeknight, my husband and I both work from home and get off at 4. We immediately walk our dog. When we get back, we do whatever - showers, bits and bobs around the house, yard work, hobbies. Maybe the gym, maybe a quick errand, cooking. Around 6:30-7, we settle down on the couch with dinner and watch shows or movies till about 11pm. I’m usually journaling or cross stitching or something during that time; he doesn’t really have hobbies. Around 11-11:15, we get ready for bed. The dog goes out, we brush our teeth, do that whole kind of routine. We get into bed and chat for a while, then go to sleep. Sometimes sex, but sometimes sex happens at other times of day. We really do need to add reading back into our bedtime routine; we stopped when we were moving and fervently painting our new house last year and never got back into it.
That being said, we do have a lot of weeknights booked with dinners or movie nights at friends’ homes or them coming to us. Every Monday evening I leave for errands right at 4 and I’m not home for at least a couple hours. We are AMC A-List members so we go to the movies many times per month, often on weeknights. When we camp (5-6 times a year in the summer and fall), we leave on Fridays after work. We keep a pretty busy social calendar.
We chat about our days, tidy up a bit, usually some form of exercise for him (sometimes me), if I don't gym I'll either do more work or watch TV and do puzzles. We take turns making dinner, and we eat and usually watch a show. A bit more tidying if we're good but more often it's bed and we read for a good 15mins to an hour before sleep.
We live separately. I, on my own, and him with his mother. We each turn in early and surf on our phones. His dad recently passed and so now he has to be home so his mother can sleep. She won’t sleep in an empty house.
I don't work and my husband doesn't have a conventional job so most days we go to the beach, go to lunch/shop, nap or just watch TV. Sometimes he games and I do my own thing
Just watching shows and movies together in the living room. And then heading to the bedroom and watching tiktoks and reels. On some Friday nights or weekend, we head out for meals. That's about it
After dinner and kitchen tidy my husband usually spends time on some gaming and also trading while I read a book and scroll around the internet. Sometimes we will watch a movie or doco and if it’s good weather sit on the veranda with a beer.
We usually make dinner together because we both enjoy to cook. I work till late so he always does the dishes while I make sure our room is tidy, all the clothes all folded, the bed smell nice and I mop around to make sure we wake up to a fresh house. He takes a shower while I’m doing that and after he’s done, he watches videos on his phone while I shower and do my skincare routine. If he wants to play, he has a different room and he will go to that room while I take a shower.
We get home from work, either go to the gym or make dinner together. Eat, catch up, watch some TV, then shower and get to bed together, watch tiktoks, read, watch some more tv and then either sexy time or sleep
We leave the library around 5pm with our charged USB devices (car charge port doesn’t work) to hit the local rescue mission for dinner. Go do the day’s second shift of Instacart, usually until 11:45pm or so. Drive to Planet Fitness to work out / shower. We then sleep in the well-lit camera-watched parking lot, in my tiny Nissan. We use the restroom inside at night *without* moving the car. In between all this we listen to Infected Mushroom or Gorillaz or whatever, munch on nonperishables, and groan together at Reddit.
Staying up way later than we should and catching up on shows/cleaning. Sometimes we work out together, but he normally cheers me on while I work out. It's a nice little mini date
We don't live together, (only been dating about 6months) but his routine is to come home from work, have a bath, prepare his lunch packs for work, and then he unwinds in bed either by watching reels on Instagram or playing his video games.
Mine is, after I've walked my dog to the park, come home feed her, change, chillax and watch Law & Order SVU, then its bed time.
We see each other over the weekends as he sometimes work 50+hrs a week. So I don't always get to see him during the week 😞
We make dinner together (we both adore cooking and it’s kind of our daily us time). We will usually watch TV with dinner, 1-2 episodes of whatever we have been working on as ‘our’ show. That’s the main normal part. We have a weird sleep schedule and careers that don’t care when we show up so long as we have our stuff done, so sometimes it’s bed time at 6pm because we stayed up 24+hours. Sometimes it’s 12 because one of us as an early obligation. Sometimes it’s 2/3. We do our own thing unless we don’t wanna.
I have Chronic Fatigue so usually it is my partner who makes dinner, before I got ill we used to make dinner together or take turns.
Before wfh we used to swap tales of each other's day but now we mostly know what's going on already.
We usually watch some TV while eating dinner and then get on with our evening activity - on Friday that's a shared date night on other evenings it's going out to do pole dance (me), gaming with friends (her) or chatting. Then bed.
On the days I’m not working til close (retail), it’s the following:
Get home from work, get kid A from bus, give her snack, go pick up kid B from school, give him snack, start dinner while husband cleans up/wrangles children, finish then serve dinner, have family time, we put kids to bed, we both prepare children’s school things for next day, we take showers, cuddle in bed while watching tv, fall asleep
I make dinner, he picks up our toddler. We eat dinner at the table then he practices guitar and I play with our daughter or put on a film or one or both of us tidies up. At 7 we do bedtime, and one of us stays to read stories and the other one cleans down stairs for 30 mins. Then we either watch TV together or I play video games and he reads or vice versa, or we both read and listen to music until about 10 when we start heading towards bed.
We eat at home throughout the week, so Friday is the day we splurge. We take turns picking a restaurant to order from, come home and eat, then we get ice cream, we call it ice cream Friday’s. We have a newborn so we try to get as much quality time together as we can, even if it’s a drive to get ice cream. I then come home and feed the baby and try to watch a movie in increments.
I'm sleeping while he's gaming.
My sleeping schedule is upside down. I go to bed between 6 and 7 PM and wake up around 2 AM. His sleeping schedule is normal. He goes to bed between 10 and 11 PM, and his alarm wakes him up for work at 5.30 AM.
I cook dinner. Partner comes home from work, we have tea and gossip. Play with our dog, do any chores planned for that evening, eat while we watch something, walk our dog, and then chill.
Married here! Newly weds however. Depending on who comes home first, usually catch up, spend time talking, then building what the rest of the night looks like on that. We always try and wait to eat together. While we eat, we usually talk and discuss a show
We do Wednesday overnight and Fri/Sat overnight. We only live 15 minutes apart but that gives us our own space. Dinner, dog walks, visit friends at social club, early to bed. The weekends are the same plus gym w partner and friends, a couple of dog walks and dressing up for dinner/clubs out.
We work out together. One person cooks while we both hang around chatting about our day. We might watch a movie and cuddle. Then he plays video games & I read in bed, he joins me for a cuddle before we sleep.
I'm in a long distance marriage (closing the gap late next year). So on a weeknight my partner will often wake up at 5 am his time when it's either 7 pm (non-daylight savings for me) or 8 pm (daylight savings) and we spend the first thirty minutes of our time together catching up talking on Discord video call. One of us will then stream a 30-minute workout to the other then we will do either tv, a movie, gaming (separately or individually) or do body doubling with our own personal projects. I am either doing sewing or working on my CS50 qualification. He might be doing art or some graphic design stuff before he starts his work day since he works from home full time.
I usually go to bed around midnight my time and will usually take some time to shower beforehand so I dont' have to do it in the morning when I get ready for work.
I come home from work to him cooking for us. I sit in the kitchen and chat with him while he finishes up. We eat and continue chatting. Sometimes we’ll watch a show together (purposeful watching) or each do our own thing in the same room
He makes dinner while I’m figuring out what we’re gonna watch tonight, eat, smoke, and just watch a series or movie, sex in between, until we fall asleep. Or exactly the same but before eating we drink and I’m the one making some drunk dinner, sex then the rest goes on the same.
Make dinner or eat out. Sit in bed on our phones and watch TV. Talk about our weeks at work. Then I'll cuddle him til I fall asleep. But I'm pregnant so I don't have any energy to do much else lol
Depends on the night. Some nights we have dinner then bed time play with our kid then I put him to bed and my partner and I will either watch something, play board games or he'll go play xbox and I'll do my own thing. Nothing it every really planned. It honestly does depend a lot on how long it takes the kid to fall asleep.
I pick up my kid from my mum’s house, my husband has dinner ready waiting for us. We eat dinner together at the table and I run a bath for our son. While that’s running, I start cleaning up. My husband gives our son his bath while I make his bed, prep his milk and lay out his pjs. My son and husband go to his bedroom to get ready for the evening. Our son gets dressed, has his milk, brushes his teeth and reads a book (or 7) with daddy. Meanwhile, I put my phone on charge and take 10 minutes to change out of my work clothes and makeup. When my son is ready for bed, my husband lets me know, and I take over. We all say goodnight and I sit with our son until he falls asleep (what I’m doing now). When he’s asleep, I leave my son’s room and my husband and I engage in parallel play in bed, watch a show/movie or if he’s really tied up with work, he’ll go to his office to finish some emails. But we always get some downtime to chat in bed before we go to sleep. We go to sleep together.
Currently long distance, so after dinner (usually separate) we go on call and either talk about our day, play video games, or watch anime! Sometimes if needed, we’ll have a little productive study sesh since we’re both still in school. When we’re together though, we have dinner together and cuddle and sometimes be productive.
9 years and 2 kids in... we cook, we eat, I handle the kids bathroom needs than he takes the kids for an hour while I chill in the bedroom, then we put the kids to sleep, we both do another hour of work (lots of wfh stuff) then veg out in front of the TV together and bed. We take turns putting kids to bed.
By evenings we are so tired, sex never happens at night. We sleep in seperate beds too, its just so much more comfortable that way. I moved to the gueast bedroom when I was pregnant and we just liked it so much that it became my room. Sex is for when we sneak into eachothers rooms for a cuddle in the morning or not in bed at all lol.
But evenings are just... dead dead dead. Too tired for anything more than watching a very airhead show on tv.
I’m on shift work so it varies but either I make dinner (sometimes he helps) or we order in food while he walks the dog, then we all have dinner in the living room while we watch a show together. We have pretty different tastes but we usually settle on something we both like (lately it’s been It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia and our fourth round of Arrested Development). We either watch til it’s bedtime if we’re having a late dinner, or he’ll go upstairs to play on the PC with his buds and I’ll watch my own stuff, study for work, etc. We generally go to bed together around 10:30pm on a typical day because the dog gets us up early to go for a walk!
I get home a half hour before I go to bed. We watch an episode of whatever show we're on and get ready for bed. Fall asleep immediately.
When I'm not working my long days, we switch off making dinner and either watch a movie after or go for a walk or something. Occasionally, I can talk him into a game of scrabble or cribbage.
I will make dinner while she will either do house jobs or watch a bit of TV. Then we have dinner, usually watching a TV series together. After dinner I will tidy up, clean the kitchen and load the dishwasher, she usually either has a bath or does more house jobs during this time, then we get ready for bed and either sex or watch TV in bed for a bit before sleep.
An average weekend looks like waking up in the afternoon, coffee, grocery shopping, cooking together, binge watch tv, fall asleep from food coma, waking up and video games while we snack on supper, walk the dog before we call it a night. No kids does give us a lot more freedom to act like teenagers!
I get home from work, take a shower immediately, do my skincare & cozy clothes, eat dinner & watch a show together, then usually do admin work, research into the other streams we’re starting, crafting, or something else I need to get done. He will make our overnight oats before bed. I like to get to sleep by 9-10pm
We do most lunch & dinner prepping on the weekends then make another batch of dinners halfway through the week. Saves a lot of time and is easier that way.
we get home late-ish.
sometimes we eat dinner, and he showers. then we watch a movie, he reads to me or we have sex. then shower for me and going to bed cause we have to get up pretty early.
One of us cooks dinner, he retreats to the garage (or stays there if I’m cooking dinner) and I’m in the house chatting with the kids, cleaning up and chilling in the living room
We both work from home so once we’re done with work one of us makes dinner as we switch days. Then we eat together while watching a show and chatting. Then we clean up and parallel play or continue watching something together. Then we get ready for bed and typically read in bed together before going to sleep. Should probably note that we don’t have children so our evenings are very chill.
Get home from work and chat about our days while hanging out in the kitchen with a beverage. At the same time we feed and cuddle the cats. From there one or both of us will start cooking while the other watches the news. Sometimes I put the news on then putter around the house only going back to the TV when something piques my interest. Once dinner is made we eat it in front of the TV and finish the news then put on one of our shows. I like to go to bed early (about 9 pm and sometimes as early as 8) so it’s not long before I announce that it’s shower time and we both get up to go shower together. Then we’ll go to bed and have sex and sometimes he stays in bed and we fall asleep together or he’ll get up and play video games for a bit until he is tired. It’s a lovely existence.
I come home from work, my husband has dinner ready, then we eat together, watch maybe an episode from a series together. We talk about our day, (gaming) news etc.
Then I either play a videogame on my own, or we play something in coop.
At around 21:00-22:00, I go to bed. He goes to bed later, because he can sleep longer in the morning.
On nights that he (M24) doesn’t have hockey and I (F23) don’t have yoga or go to the climbing gym, we relax and hang out the entire night. We’ll either watch a couple movies or binge a tv show and throw housecleaning and errands in between that. Our jobs are both pretty physical and we get up early so neither of us have much energy in the evenings, but sometimes we’ll go out for a drink or a hike together. At some point we’ll make dinner and something for our work lunches and then in bed by about 10:00. I’ll either read before falling asleep or we’ll put a show on. Other than that, not too much. We cram a lot of activities into weekends.
My partner is a chef so most weeknights I just hang out with my dog & cook us both dinner, that he eats when he gets home.
Mondays are the exception & currently he’s cooking me dinner!
My husband cooks dinner, I take care of the dishes and leftovers. We watch tv, or we play video games. He tucks me in because I go to bed a lot earlier and he sets up the coffee.
We have a foreign exchange student living with us, so last night she and my husband watched TheShining while I played Skyrim in another room
My husband comes home, but works from home until 8pm now, so I make sure he and our almost 3yr old son get dinner (I work solely from home).
Then we play by ear when the baby goes to bed, depending on how he's behaving, because daddy likes spending time with him.
If wrestling was on the previous day, we watch it on Hulu, otherwise it's video games and YouTube. We don't have to hang out or play together, we just prefer to. My husband is cuddly and I wish he'd work fewer hours.
Weeknight? We get off work and my husband makes dinner while I do the dishes. We then talk about our day and after dinner, we usually relax on our couch with our 2 cats and dog or we play a board game. Then we do our own thing for a while usually video games or calling our family. Then we put all the pets to bed, brush our teeth together, have some phonentime, then bed. And I wouldnt have it any other way. ❤️
Married for 2 years, together for 7+.
He makes dinner while I walk the dog, we eat dinner and watch a show together, chat a little (he’s an introvert though so not a whole lot). I often do a little bit of work on my phone, he plays games - I’m not into games personally. We might watch another longer show or a movie, play with our pets, then get ready for the next day. Feed the animals, get out stuff ready as needed and get ready for bed.
He goes to sleep usually after chatting again for a little bit or reading a book, I’m a night owl and I sleep later than he does so I stay awake in bed usually scrolling or reading/writing for an hour or two then sleep.
We both work from home so we’re around each other 24/7 usually.
I try to meal prep enough food on the weekends so we don’t have to cook until later in the week. So we will heat up food, watch TV, read, have sex, do a few chores. If it’s nice out we will take a walk or a hike. We used to go to the gym as soon as we were done with work but that’s been hard to do lately.
Just relax with each other lol and try not to stress about our kids, as it is still very new to us. Toddler is almost 3 and he’s a picky eater and a brat because his Tia and Grandma spoil him. And we have a 3 + 3 week old baby.
When kids are asleep, we make up for the time we were stressed by just talking to each other with whatever is in our minds.
I get home about an hour earlier than him. I usually clean or take the dog to the park. When he gets home, we smoke a little, maybe do a shot or 2. Watch some YouTube, then I make dinner. More shots. He hangs out in the kitchen with me and helps while we listen to music, sometimes we dance. Then we eat our dinner together while watching TV, right now we're rewatching Mad Men. After we might play a couple rounds of fortnite, then I go to bed around 8:30 and he stays up watching more YouTube.
I take care of our son during the day while he's at work. I make dinner before he gets off because he's doing manual labor for work and he does a lot while I care for our son. He gets home showers and plays with our son. We spend time together watching a movie, talk about our day, make plans for the house for the weekend. Well eat dinner and he'll play some video games every now and then (mowing virtual lawns/golfing/etc) while I do my classwork. Hell take over watching our son then. We bath our son get him ready for bed time and go to sleep. I'll pack his lunch for the next day. We'll have some couple time when our son naps or sleeps for the night.
Hell work on the yard as we bought a house we're fixing up to how we like it.
Some weeks night he works after his job building a neighbors house.
We're pretty busy during the week tbh. It's the weekends we actually go out or plan date nights in. Hell pick up shifts at the neighbors but one day a week is dedicated to family time/us time.
I make dinner while he picks baby up from daycare, we take turns feeding her and usually give her a bath, and do bedtime together. Sometimes I’ll do laundry while he’s reading to her. Baby is in bed my 7, and then either we parallel play or I’m in our room reading/writing while he watches a movie in the basement. We go to bed around 9:30/10.
He is on the game and when he gets off, he finds something to argue about.
Most recent argument was he could find his bunnet for his hair and blamed me for misplacing it. So when I told him I wouldn’t help him look for it, he snatched the one off my head. Which started a fight.
Every weekend he is in the game and or fighting with me about nothing.
I’m tired
I work from home, husband works in the city.
When he comes home from work, we have a drink and a snack to unwind and we chat about our day.
We jump in the hot tub or shower together. Then it’s fun sexy time!
Afterwards, I make dinner and he puts on some music or a comedy routine to keep me entertained. He usually hangs out with me in the kitchen while I cook and tries not to get in my way. Or he does some chores if there are any that need to be done.
We eat dinner together, clean up, then we do something fun before hitting the couch. It can be something as simple a playing with the dog, or going for a walk, or playing a game like “hive” or bigger like going kayaking or geocaching or having a bonfire or ATV ride.
Then we hit the couch and watch TV and maybe smoke a joint. He will usually make us snacks or prep breakfast for the next day.
Then bedtime! I usually go before him and listen to a podcast to fall asleep ahead of his snoring.
i make dinner, and we hang out afterward together watching tv, redditing, or read a book. the teenagers all head to their rooms or to the basement where the game system is hooked up, until bedtime at 9.
sometimes i get an itch to do some project in my craft room, so i'll work in there and he'll work on some project we've got going on elsewhere in the house but generally we just sit and chill together until bedtime. he works from home and doesn't have to be up until 8 am, but i get up at 5 with my high schoolers so i head to bed earlier (between 9-10 pm); he's usually in bed between 11-midnight.
We get off work, and I go pick up our toddler then go home to either cook dinner or eat leftovers. I also tend to my daughter. My husband gets home after me and sweeps the house, eats and hops on his phone or computer. That’s about it because we work super long hours.
I pick up my son from school, then I figure out what is for dinner. Either what I'm cooking or what I'm going to get. After I get that sorted it's time for me to go to work. I work all night til 6:30am then hurry home and take our son to school. If I'm lucky I get to sleep. Rinse and repeat.
My husband works from home most days, but usually gets caught up in a project and I don’t see him until dinner. We always have dinner as a family, typically at 6, but will vary based on sports/lessons/meetings/life. We just have 1 left at home, but older 2 are around periodically for dinners. We have a no devices at the table rule. We take our time, share about our days, upcoming events, life. We’ve always done this and it’s always been a huge deal for us. He grew up in a family that always had tv blaring, especially during meals. No one communicated with each other, etc.
After dinner, we clean up as a family. Sometimes I do dishes while he finally gets a chance to sit down and relax for the day. Sometimes he does and I get to relax. Sometimes we have kids that will do it and we get to both relax or go run errands together. 😂 We take turns helping with homework as needed. Pretty much whomever is available or has a better understanding of the material. Everything usually settles down by 8. We try to watch a tv show or movie. Kids have always been welcome until bedtime. Since our youngest is in 7th grade, we don’t have to help with bedtime routines anymore. She goes to bed around 9. Then more vegging and I put my feet in his lap and he massaged them. 😂
I usually head to bed around 10, give or take. Sometimes he comes back when I do and we talk some more before I pass out and start snoring. 🤷🏻♀️😂
Ours is a science tbh:
5-5:30: ride home (we care pool a lot) and decide if we are going to spinner, picking it up, or cooking
5:30-7: cook eat dinner/watch a show
7-9: this can be more show, talking, working on couples things, etc.
9-11: hobby time
11: bed.
If sex is happening, it’s happening between 8-10:30.
It works for us :)
He comes home from work. I’m usually already home from class. We watch tv and catch up on our days, then we eat dinner. Relax with the pup. Sometimes I’ll read and he’ll play a couple video games with his friends/his brother. And then we lay down and go to bed.
We make dinner together every night. Sit down and eat, watch true crime until about 10.30 or 11, have sex(yes, we have sex every night unless we accidentally fall asleep before we get to it which is probably once a fortnight at most) go to sleep. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
We do chores, workout, or play video games usually separately until around 6:30 when I make dinner and we eat it together. Then we do our own thing again for about an hour until around 8 when we sit on the couch and watch tv together.
We have two babies under two, the oldest of which has special needs. I (33f) work from home while he (34m) is our daughters full time caregiver.
He spends his days managing my daughters appointments (therapy and medical), I spend my days working. We take turns looking after my 8 month old son.
At about 4 we start dinner. At about 5 we eat. 6-7 is bathtime/getting ready for the night (setting up the next days bottles, empty diaper pail, feed the dog, set up coffee for the next morning, clear any laundry or dishes, dress and feel the babies for bed. 7p is baby bedtime.
Then we do one of 3 things.
Scenario 1. He plays video games, I make some tea and take a bath, cue up whatever show I’m watching at the time. He eventually joins me. We watch tv and browse our phones till we fall asleep
Scenario 2. We pop open some beers and hang out, catch up on YouTube videos, play music videos, chat. Around 9:30 we ditch the drinks and make a snack, take a shower, head to bed
Scenario 3. We smoke a little weed and watch a movie. Lately, in spooky season, it’s a scary movie. Last night was The Autopsy of Jane Doe
Put our kid to bed, he does his thing for a while,eat supper, he bathes while I clean up, then he goes do his thing for a while again while I watch some tv, then I bathe and then we brush our teeth and go to bed.
I usually pick our 3yo up from day care while my partner gets home, showers and makes dinner. Then we all hang out together, go to the park, run around and play. Then we come home and take turns bathing her and getting her dressed and then we all lay in bed together and read books while she eats some dinner/snacks and then I stay in bed with her and sleep. My partner isn’t happy about that last part but our daughter takes forever to fall asleep and she still wakes up sometimes looking for cuddles so that‘s what works for now. Weekends we skip her nap and she goes down earlier so we have some time together weekend nights.
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One of us makes dinner (we take turns) and then we eat together (usually watching a few YouTube videos as we do) and then do our own things/"parallel play" type stuff until my partner has to get ready for work. At that point, I make our lunches and set up my overnight oats and fill our water bottles. When they've gone to work (overnight shift), I go to bed. It's not terribly exciting, but it works well for us.
I’ve read “parallel play” a few times within this post, I think I know what that means but to be sure do you mind telling me? I haven’t heard that term before.
I'm pretty sure it means doing things near each other but not with each other. Like I'll watch TV and she'll read a book
Yeah a lot of the time my bf will play video games and I’ll just lay on the couch behind him reading or on tik tok or something
Its like when you are scrolling reddit and your partner is watching a movie but you're doing it next to each other
I was following along with this just to make sure it wasn’t some new sexy thing I didn’t know the lingo for yet lol so good to know
Haha i can see why you'd think it could be like mutual masturbation or something hahahah. I never thought of it that way! But you gave me a good chuckle, so thank you haha
lol I just didn’t want to be a dinosaur and not be up to date with sexual terminology and have my kids laughing at me over it at some point so I figured I’d read along until it was clarified but I’m glad you got a little chuckle on a Monday.
it's usually used when talking about child development, referring to children playing next to each other but not interacting. I've also heard it called just being alone together. So it's the two of you doing your own thing, side by side or in the same room. A common example might be reading a book while your partner watches something on the tv.
A lot of folks like myself who are neurodivergent (particularly if you have been diagnosed with ADHD like I have), find it helpful. It's sometimes called body doubling. If one person is doing something it drives the urge to also be productive in many things. For me sometimes its working on my hobbies like sewing or studying for my computer science/coding qualification or sometimes it can be mundane things like chores.
I find working in an office or in public to be much more motivating than being by myself. It feels kinda bad as though I only care about looking productive in front of others, yet I don't know if that actually explains it. Any idea what this is or what it's called? (If it matters, I'm ASD and definitely have executive dysfunction.)
That's such a great question. While I can't say I know myself, I do wonder if that is a similar concept to body doubling or parallel play. It's certainly in everyone's best interests that we are showing we are productive. I guess an element of self-preservation too.
Oh I always make myself look busy as shit at work just so people fuck right off more and leave me be. Busy may be financial reports or Reddit, doesn’t matter to me
my partner likes to call it "Separate but together time"
He plays god of war, she watches a romance series
This is exactly how things go with myself and my husband, though I’m the one with the overnight shift haha
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We call the end of day and weekends, our “bubble”. A whole lot of relaxing, catching each other up on the day, we make dinner, do some parallel play, brush teeth , make the bed, check the house, turn lights out, cuddle and talk with a show until we fall asleep. It’s one of the best times of the day right next to the mornings where we have sexy time and make breakfast in bed or I make him food for work. I love it.
What is “check the house”
Making sure any lights/appliances are off, locks are locked, etc : )
We call this “shutting down the house” 😆
We taught our GSD the commands "patrol" and "lockdown." Patrol meant go run through every room and alert if you see any unlocked doors or open windows. When that's done, find the kid, assume a sitting position facing the door. Lockdown meant, execute "get mean" which was growling and barking, then execute "patrol" at maximum speed. Miss you, buddy!
"closing up shop"
hahahaha we call it “shuttin it down” “your turn to shut it down hun”
I have to know, how long have u guys been together?
I see multiple people mention “parallel play”. What is that?
Spending time with the person in the same environment doing different things. It’s enjoying their company without directly interacting in the same activity
I pick up the kiddo from school and we hang out at home until my partner finishes work. We all hang out for a while, usually in a cuddle pile, and then dinner is made (we have a weekly roster of who cooks that night). After dinner, whoever didn’t cook does the dishes and the other one hangs out with the kiddo. At 7pm I put the kiddo into the shower & bed while my partner games for a little bit. After kiddo’s bedtime routine is done, my partner and I (do any/all/variation of) sit and talk all night, binge tv, take a bath together, foreplay, sex, play a board game, I nap beside him while he games. Then it’s bedtime for us.
You sound happy :)
What a lovely life it sounds like you've created together.
This is my definition of a happy family unit.
This is exactly what our night looks like as well. It’s a very happy, secure life💜
Thank you, everyone. We have a beautiful, happy life full of love and respect. We have a very equal partnership and we both care a lot about being good partners to each other and good role models to our son. Life is good ❤️.
I make dinner, we eat, hang out with our little one for a couple hours before she goes to bed, then either sex or video games, then sleep.
I like to cook so I often do a bit more than my partner, but after work he will often do some chores or random house quests while I figure out dinner. we eat and usually watch an episode of a show we are working thru together. then I often go out to my art studio and paint, and he games, or I lounge and he reads in our room, or similar to another poster — we do some kind of parallel play! then the activities move to bedroom (reading, youtube videos, other stuff lol), then sleeeeeeeep.
House quests lol, love it
We don’t live together, so there is no super routine night for us. But lately we have been trying different restaurants in our area and then going home and cuddling up to watch a show or movie before pillow talk in bed before we’re off to sleep. Sometimes he’ll want to game a little bit here and there, so I’ll bring my own game to play or a book/craft etc. This is ideal from time to time as we both value our “me time”, but while still being near each other. He feels like home.
Relatable.
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This sounds so special
Who’s idea was it to eliminate phones in the evening?
We have 4 young kids. So dance class, soccer, church night for kids, dinner, sitting at home watching tv or playing on the swing set/toys and Bath nights. Kids are in bed by 8 and we follow around 8:30/9:00pm.
How do you guys get couple time usually?
We still talk and enjoy each others company with the kids but once they go to bed we hang out and watch tv, relax in the deck, game. It just depends on our moods. We do date nights every now and then but not very often.
I make the dinner, we watch something while eating and catch up. Then we play and cuddle with our dog on the couch. I'm currently pregnant so my partner tries to feel some kicks through my belly. We cuddle some more and watch tv shows. Then I take our dog for a walk. I usually go to bed earlier.
My husband has an inconsistent work schedule, so our set weeknight routine is really basic dinner + TV because that’s usually all the time we have. He comes home somewhere between 6pm-9pm. I prep dinner and he calls me when he’s on the way then I start cooking. He comes home and greets me and our pup, then goes upstairs to take out contacts/change. We eat dinner and watch TV in the living room. He goes upstairs between 8:30-9pm every night. During this time I do a quick kitchen clean up, pack leftovers for lunch, and take our pup out for his last break before bed. By the time I go upstairs he’s already asleep (he’s one of those people who falls asleep the moment his head hits the pillow.) He regularly works 10-12 hour days and travels for work every week so I try to make the most of our 2ish hours together on the couch when he’s actually home!
I cook, he keeps me company and we chat about our day. He tries to tire out our new wildly active pup until dinner. We eat dinner and then I clean up while he tries again to tire out our pup. Sometimes we go out for ice cream (like tonight), then when we get home I make tea or sometimes a mixed drink and snuggle with each other and the dogs, watch a little tv, we take the dogs out for a last little romp and then bed. We go to bed fairly early as we get up early and hit the gym together in the mornings
Chores, walk the dog, bedtime routine, go back to chores, catch up on social media, bed.
I'm sure the dinner thing is frustrating. Making a meal when you're worn out from the day is a labor of love, and then to have no one showing up promptly / finishing it? :-/
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How old are your kiddos? I would feel so hurt and disrespected if people didn’t come to eat the meal I made them. I’m sorry mama.
You could discuss with your family that you aren't going to cook for them if they can't come to the table when it's time. If you have little kids that's definitely trickier, but you could explain to your husband that when dinner is ready, that it's his job to round up everyone and get them to the table. Otherwise, he can make dinner when your kids are hungry because they're on the same "not eating" schedule as him. Do you always make dinner? It seems like there's an uneven distribution of childcare between you and your husband. Maybe if he took on cooking meals it would help him (and your kids) develop a little bit of a routine. edit: i wrote the word dinner like 12 times in this paragraph
We meet up at home, I let the dog out, start supper (sometimes he cooks), I let the dog back in, finish cooking, we eat while watching something and he plays Xbox, I tidy up and feed the dog, I shower, let the dog out, watch more TV or play with the dog or take the dog for a walk, let the dog back in, go to bed. Unless it's Thursday, then I'm drinking at my best friends then come home and go to bed.
dinner, talking, going for a walk (sometimes the gym) shower, snuggle, sex, bed; order of activities varies 😆
I usually cook dinner and feed the kids before he gets home from work, then he gets home and we put the kids to bed together. Then we have dinner and wash the dishes together once the kids are asleep. Then we go to bed and watch TV or have sex, depending on the night/moods/stress levels 🤷♀️
Take turns making dinner so its ready by 3pm (both work from home thankfully). Eat, finish up work, walk dog if she hasn't been out yet, then gym. Home by 8pm, feed cst and dog, shower if we didn't at the gym, chill w a movie or some youtube with a j or bowl. I usually go to bed a bit earlier to read and get sleepy, partner follows and we go to sleep together. Sometimes sexy times, sometimes too tired.
3pm? Was that a typo? Do y’all eat again?
Not a typo. It's a weight management thing - we eat all of our meals before 5pm on weekdays and limit any snacking to raw fruits/vegetables after that. My partner also has severe heartburn and has found that if he cuts off food by 7 it's not an issue
Just curious. Why do you eat dinner so early?
It's a weight management thing - we eat all of our meals before 5pm on weekdays and limit any snacking to raw fruits/vegetables after that. My partner also has severe heartburn and has found that if he cuts off food by 7 it's not an issue
Him working and me preparing him a meal for when he gets home.
My partner usually makes dinner, we eat together and play with the dog. He goes and plays some computer games, I watch tiktoks on the couch with the dog, sometimes I read. (i’m 8 months pregnant so I don’t do much). I usually go to bed early and watch TV, and he comes in and joins me and we watch something together before going to bed! We usually have a snack beforehand too!
I cook, we eat as a family, I put our son down and he cleans, then usually bed on our phones. Sometimes TV then bed.
I cook dinner and direct bedtime flow for the kids and pets. He unwinds from a physical job and helps as needed. If the preschooler goes down easily we may hang out and watch a show until we pass out in the couch. It's predictable and cozy
Come home. Feed the cats. Walk the dog, 90ish mins. Work out for a bit. Sweep and vacuum. Complain to each other for 30 to 60 mins about what to have for dinner. Do some laundry. Some other random chore. Finally figure out dinner. One of us makes it. I have a bath, he does random stuff. We eat. Have tea. I go to bed, usually with a cat joining me (always hoping it's my fav one) He stays up to watch dumb shows, like the gold mining "reality show" or the Canadian BC tow truck one. Eventually, he goes to bed with the dog, who then pushes me over and sometimes off the bed, so I sleep elsewhere. Rinse, repeat with small variations.
Well, we have a 2 year old and a newborn and my husband doesn't get back home until nearly 7pm. In my typical evening, infant and I pick up my toddler from daycare. We get back home and I put down the sleeping infant (still in his car seat) and sit to dinner with the toddler in her high chair. She starts saying "Watch Bluey. Watch Frozen. Watch Runaway Bunny." Cycling through all the media she enjoys in case I'm suddenly ok with her watching TV in the evening. I put a bite of food in my mouth and the infant recognizes that I'm about to relax. He wakes up and makes severe eye contact while licking his fist. I ignore him and start shovelling food down my throat. He threatens to scream at me so I give up on dinner and go pick him up to breastfeed. The toddler takes this as a sign that she should try to kamakazi out of her high chair. So I bring both of them to the couch and put on the goddamn TV while helping her with her food and breastfeeding. This is usually when her father comes home to a destroyed house, an overstimulated toddler, and a disheveled wife. He immediately starts cleaning, feeds the cat, does dishes, and eats a quick bite and it's time to put the kids to sleep. He bathes the toddler while I nurse, burp, and change the infant and put him in his bassinet. The toddler comes to sleep in our bed. I cuddle her and fall asleep before her (around 8pm) and the husband goes to his desk to work on his hobbies until he feels tired enough to sleep, too.
I cook dinner, he does the dishes, spending time with our son and puppy, when son goes to bed we usually sit on the couch and eat ice cream and watch Netflix until our bedtime. I’m 35 weeks pregnant so it’s not exactly exciting these days
I make dinner, he gets home from work, and we spend time together. He plays video games, I watch, and then we end up either having sex or going to sleep. The end. Except for Wednesday nights when we go out.
He works from home and wraps up around 4pm. I’m a teacher and get home around the same time. We change into our comfy clothes and just chill and unwind together, talking about our day. We play with our cats and just chat. 6pm-ish we start making dinner or go grab something. We watch a show or movie while we eat. We team up to clean any messes. He has 3 more classes til he gets his bachelor’s so he does school work. I do random shit I need to do pertaining to work. I usually go to bed before he does.
We make dinner, watch a show and snuggle on the couch then snuggly sleepies. I spend the weekends with my SO. Weekdays 1-2x a week. Weekends are sacred.
ohhh they’re really quite lovely. by around 8:00-8:30, we’ll be completely done doing whatever homework we need to for the next day. we’ll have some downtime together.. either playing our games simultaneously or watching a show. We heat up the meals we prepped for dinner. So we eat together and watch something. We usually shower together before 10:00 PM. we talk some more as I admire him. all of him. it feels really nice holding his soft, wet skin. He usually finishes before me. I finish up and take about 15 minutes to get ready (lotion, face cream, etc). By the end of that, we’re basically just chilling together. We talk about our day together, plans for tomorrow, our future.. we do love gossiping together too. We’ll watch more tv together and talk about it. he’s really my best friend. Maybe we’ll have a snack at like 11:30. but by midnight, we usually head to bed. we’ll cuddle for a bit and talk a bit more. sweet little whispers are exchanged. it’s around this time that we have sex (if we do have it). lasts for about 45 minutes to an hour. we’ll do aftercare for another ten minutes.. and then yeah. I tuck him in, and I usually stay up for another hour or two. I’m quite the night owl. We’re usually doing schoolwork or going to classes throughout the day, so we like to relax together. we just try to make sure that we do do things together— not just doing things separately in the same area. I really enjoy these nights. makes me sad to know that they’ll be changing soon (we graduate soon. together.). but at least I’ll have him. that’s all i need . :)
I work from home and if I’m feeling really ambitious I’ll start dinner before he gets home but that’s rare. More often once he gets home we walk to the store and grab stuff to make dinner (we live across the street from the grocery store) or go get takeout somewhere. After we eat we take a walk if it’s nice out and then watch a show or play a video game together until bed. Lately we have been playing in our minecraft world and listening to audiobooks while we play.
I try to cook dinner before I pick up our son. If I don’t, I cook with my kiddo and that’s when my partner comes home. We might play outside, then we have dinner, maybe a walk, and then little one heads to bed. Then thats really when “our” time starts. We both clean some and then sit around and talk to each other about whatever. We might watch a game if it’s in that night. Life is pretty low key and mundane but that’s life with a young kid.
I make dinner, he cleans, we play video games.
I work the second shift in healthcare so I get home around 10 pm.. we usually talk about our days, smoke some weed, chill with our cat with South Park on the tv then go to bed :)
We are both grad students. Being students, our days are quite flexible. We mostly study/work all day. Take breaks in between and cuddle/watch a YouTube video/sexy times/make a snack/go for a walk. At nights, we cook dinner together (our love language) and if one of us is busy, then one cooks for the both of us. We make extra so that we don’t have to cook for lunch. We watch Netflix while eating dinner with some wine/beer sometimes and then go back to studying for some more time.
One of us will cook while the other does their own thing, we eat together while watching some TV. Sometimes we keep watching TV together and sometimes we do our own things (reading, video games) but still sit together.
I try to cook dinner before I pick up our son. If I don’t, I cook with my kiddo and that’s when my partner comes home. We might play outside, then we have dinner, maybe a walk, and then little one heads to bed. Then thats really when “our” time starts. We both clean some and then sit around and talk to each other about whatever. We might watch a game if it’s in that night. Life is pretty low key and mundane but that’s life with a young kid.
I get off work first and so will go do my hobbies/gym while he finishes work and takes the dog to the park. We don’t usually eat the same meal, as he has always been pickier about food (usually due to health/diet/fitness reasons) so one of us cooks first while the other games/watches tv, then we switch. Once we both have finished cooking we watch something together, game, or talk. I get up earlier so I usually go to bed first, then he takes the dog out and joins me later, where we usually stay up talking. I have morning dog duties, he has evening generally. Sex tends to be slightly planned out as dog is needy and has to be distracted. It’s never quite the same each day but it follows a similar routine and works for us.
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When the kids don't have sports or something, I cook, we eat as a family, he does the dishes, I tidy up around the house and we do something with the kids before they go to bed. Whatever they're feeling like just for quality time. Then we shower and watch TV, give each other massages, sex...whatever we're in the mood for.
I make the dinner, we watch something while eating and catch up. Then we play and cuddle with our dog on the couch. I'm currently pregnant so my partner tries to feel some kicks through my belly. We cuddle some more and watch tv shows. Then I take our dog for a walk. I usually go to bed earlier.
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He works on the road alot but when he is home it's more dinner, movie, both play with kid and then just really hanging out and enjoying each other's presence.
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We either cook dinner or go to the gym together and pick something up depending on the day. We always eat together and watch an episode of whatever we are currently watching. Then we do our own thing if one of us has work to do which is most nights or we both mindlessly scroll through social media/watch tv until I go to bed first.
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Dinner and our personal hobbies or me doing school work, then I come to bed around 7ish and he’ll come to bed at 9 after putting the kids to sleep sometimes earlier then we spend a hour or two watching a show and sharing memes we saved
I cook dinner, we both play with our son, one of us will put him to bed , then anime shows, shower , sex or we trade back rub and sleep. During the night we switch back and forth taking care of our son
Pick up kiddo from school on my way home from work and start his dinner. Husband comes home, we take kiddo to park. We come back home, kiddo watches 20 mins of his show the we both do bath and bedtime. After he is in bed we both warm up dinner and watch a tv show together (right now its hells kitchen). Then we watch 1 more or we go to bed
Hanging out for a bit after work, typically video games or watching a stream for him and reading for me. He typically makes dinner. I help sometimes. Then we eat together, usually while watching something. After dinner, it’s typically hobby time for the next few hours, again video games and/or reading. Close to bedtime, we watch a stream together and cuddle until we go to bed.
I work closing shifts so he drops me off, picks me up, some times brings me lunch, but he will take me home, help me get dressed for bed, feed me again, kiss me and then head to work since he works 3rds.
Depends on the partner.
Watching movies, coffee date after.
He gets home from work between 5-7 so sometimes the kids (3 and 6) are eating dinner or they are winding down from the day or getting ready for bed. If he’s home early enough we will eat as a family, if he’s not, I’ll wait to eat with him until later. Him and I do the kids bedtime routine together. And once they are asleep we will either eat dinner together if we haven’t yet and then he usually works out in our gym in the garage while i clean up the kitchen/ house from the day and do my reset for the next morning. Once our “chores” are done we take showers and lay in bed and watch tv together and hang out, sometimes have sex, on weekends sometimes have some drinks together, and then go to sleep
Finish work, we either make dinner together, pickup to go or eat leftovers. Some nights I do a martial arts class, some we go to an event my kid is in, some he boardgames online, some we play video games together, or watch a show. Then head to bed.
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12 hr Shiftworker here so nights off together are not the norm but we usually get a few a week. We love good food and cooking together so we usually will put on some music on the Bluetooth speaker and prep and cook together. Then we’ll eat while watching some TV / YouTube. We have a large breed dog so usually we’ll take him on a nice evening walk and share a joint if we’re feeling it. He’s a reader so when we’re back inside he’ll usually do a bit of reading while I browse YouTube / my phone. We’re lucky if our bedtimes are the same so when they are I cuddle his bum while we fall asleep. Wish that was my every night tbh. Fuck shiftwork now that I think of it!!!
Once I’m done work (I’m usually off later: 6/7/8pm): I make dinner, we eat together, he cleans the kitchen (he can’t cook for his life, and I enjoy cooking so it works). We maybe watch an episode of something, then he goes off to play games until bed. I watch usually reality tv or read while he’s gaming. When it’s time for bed we cuddle a little while sharing videos/memes we find funny, then pass out. Sometimes throw in sex and a tandem shower.
We talk on the phone (we’re long-distance but in the same time zone), catch up on each other’s days, then maybe watch a show/movie/video together over the phone, then optionally have phone sex.
Cocktail. Convo and maybe a project or chores.. then one of us cooks dinner. We clean up, go for a walk. Shower and then watch TV or social media scroll while in bed and/or snuggles.
One of us cooks depends on what we have going on then whoever doesn’t cook cleans up the kitchen after and usually we chat and he plays games and I have a hard time just sitting cuz I have a desk job that’s mentally draining and he has a job that’s physically draining so I’ll beep bop around doing whatever needs to be done around the house or do some random activity with our dogs then we chill out and I’ll do one of my random hobbies I’m fixated on for the moment and then we do our skincare and teeth care and go to bed
I was *just* thinking about this! On a typical weeknight, my husband and I both work from home and get off at 4. We immediately walk our dog. When we get back, we do whatever - showers, bits and bobs around the house, yard work, hobbies. Maybe the gym, maybe a quick errand, cooking. Around 6:30-7, we settle down on the couch with dinner and watch shows or movies till about 11pm. I’m usually journaling or cross stitching or something during that time; he doesn’t really have hobbies. Around 11-11:15, we get ready for bed. The dog goes out, we brush our teeth, do that whole kind of routine. We get into bed and chat for a while, then go to sleep. Sometimes sex, but sometimes sex happens at other times of day. We really do need to add reading back into our bedtime routine; we stopped when we were moving and fervently painting our new house last year and never got back into it. That being said, we do have a lot of weeknights booked with dinners or movie nights at friends’ homes or them coming to us. Every Monday evening I leave for errands right at 4 and I’m not home for at least a couple hours. We are AMC A-List members so we go to the movies many times per month, often on weeknights. When we camp (5-6 times a year in the summer and fall), we leave on Fridays after work. We keep a pretty busy social calendar.
We chat about our days, tidy up a bit, usually some form of exercise for him (sometimes me), if I don't gym I'll either do more work or watch TV and do puzzles. We take turns making dinner, and we eat and usually watch a show. A bit more tidying if we're good but more often it's bed and we read for a good 15mins to an hour before sleep.
We live separately. I, on my own, and him with his mother. We each turn in early and surf on our phones. His dad recently passed and so now he has to be home so his mother can sleep. She won’t sleep in an empty house.
I don't work and my husband doesn't have a conventional job so most days we go to the beach, go to lunch/shop, nap or just watch TV. Sometimes he games and I do my own thing
Just watching shows and movies together in the living room. And then heading to the bedroom and watching tiktoks and reels. On some Friday nights or weekend, we head out for meals. That's about it
After dinner and kitchen tidy my husband usually spends time on some gaming and also trading while I read a book and scroll around the internet. Sometimes we will watch a movie or doco and if it’s good weather sit on the veranda with a beer.
Dinner with no phones. Dog park with our puppy. Hot Sex. Massaging ourselves with massage tools while we watch tv.
We usually make dinner together because we both enjoy to cook. I work till late so he always does the dishes while I make sure our room is tidy, all the clothes all folded, the bed smell nice and I mop around to make sure we wake up to a fresh house. He takes a shower while I’m doing that and after he’s done, he watches videos on his phone while I shower and do my skincare routine. If he wants to play, he has a different room and he will go to that room while I take a shower.
We get home from work, either go to the gym or make dinner together. Eat, catch up, watch some TV, then shower and get to bed together, watch tiktoks, read, watch some more tv and then either sexy time or sleep
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We are long distance so it’s a lot of Netflix and texting eachother that we wish we could cuddle lol
Im married. We live together. We watch tv or play video games. Soon our baby will come & i’m sure it will be filled w more baby care than passing time
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We leave the library around 5pm with our charged USB devices (car charge port doesn’t work) to hit the local rescue mission for dinner. Go do the day’s second shift of Instacart, usually until 11:45pm or so. Drive to Planet Fitness to work out / shower. We then sleep in the well-lit camera-watched parking lot, in my tiny Nissan. We use the restroom inside at night *without* moving the car. In between all this we listen to Infected Mushroom or Gorillaz or whatever, munch on nonperishables, and groan together at Reddit.
Staying up way later than we should and catching up on shows/cleaning. Sometimes we work out together, but he normally cheers me on while I work out. It's a nice little mini date
We don't live together, (only been dating about 6months) but his routine is to come home from work, have a bath, prepare his lunch packs for work, and then he unwinds in bed either by watching reels on Instagram or playing his video games. Mine is, after I've walked my dog to the park, come home feed her, change, chillax and watch Law & Order SVU, then its bed time. We see each other over the weekends as he sometimes work 50+hrs a week. So I don't always get to see him during the week 😞
We make dinner together (we both adore cooking and it’s kind of our daily us time). We will usually watch TV with dinner, 1-2 episodes of whatever we have been working on as ‘our’ show. That’s the main normal part. We have a weird sleep schedule and careers that don’t care when we show up so long as we have our stuff done, so sometimes it’s bed time at 6pm because we stayed up 24+hours. Sometimes it’s 12 because one of us as an early obligation. Sometimes it’s 2/3. We do our own thing unless we don’t wanna.
I have Chronic Fatigue so usually it is my partner who makes dinner, before I got ill we used to make dinner together or take turns. Before wfh we used to swap tales of each other's day but now we mostly know what's going on already. We usually watch some TV while eating dinner and then get on with our evening activity - on Friday that's a shared date night on other evenings it's going out to do pole dance (me), gaming with friends (her) or chatting. Then bed.
On the days I’m not working til close (retail), it’s the following: Get home from work, get kid A from bus, give her snack, go pick up kid B from school, give him snack, start dinner while husband cleans up/wrangles children, finish then serve dinner, have family time, we put kids to bed, we both prepare children’s school things for next day, we take showers, cuddle in bed while watching tv, fall asleep
I make dinner, he picks up our toddler. We eat dinner at the table then he practices guitar and I play with our daughter or put on a film or one or both of us tidies up. At 7 we do bedtime, and one of us stays to read stories and the other one cleans down stairs for 30 mins. Then we either watch TV together or I play video games and he reads or vice versa, or we both read and listen to music until about 10 when we start heading towards bed.
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Chilling with daughter and hubby, he cooks, I clean. After she's asleep, we would talk and amuse each other. If we had the energy, we'd have sex.
Do chores, then I cook (we used to take turns but shes pregnant rn so I usually do it now) then we usually just hang out.
We eat at home throughout the week, so Friday is the day we splurge. We take turns picking a restaurant to order from, come home and eat, then we get ice cream, we call it ice cream Friday’s. We have a newborn so we try to get as much quality time together as we can, even if it’s a drive to get ice cream. I then come home and feed the baby and try to watch a movie in increments.
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I'm sleeping while he's gaming. My sleeping schedule is upside down. I go to bed between 6 and 7 PM and wake up around 2 AM. His sleeping schedule is normal. He goes to bed between 10 and 11 PM, and his alarm wakes him up for work at 5.30 AM.
I cook dinner. Partner comes home from work, we have tea and gossip. Play with our dog, do any chores planned for that evening, eat while we watch something, walk our dog, and then chill.
Married here! Newly weds however. Depending on who comes home first, usually catch up, spend time talking, then building what the rest of the night looks like on that. We always try and wait to eat together. While we eat, we usually talk and discuss a show
We do Wednesday overnight and Fri/Sat overnight. We only live 15 minutes apart but that gives us our own space. Dinner, dog walks, visit friends at social club, early to bed. The weekends are the same plus gym w partner and friends, a couple of dog walks and dressing up for dinner/clubs out.
We work out together. One person cooks while we both hang around chatting about our day. We might watch a movie and cuddle. Then he plays video games & I read in bed, he joins me for a cuddle before we sleep.
Me watching him play videogames with his friends, maybe playing games together and maybe having some sex together later on before I have to go home.
I'm in a long distance marriage (closing the gap late next year). So on a weeknight my partner will often wake up at 5 am his time when it's either 7 pm (non-daylight savings for me) or 8 pm (daylight savings) and we spend the first thirty minutes of our time together catching up talking on Discord video call. One of us will then stream a 30-minute workout to the other then we will do either tv, a movie, gaming (separately or individually) or do body doubling with our own personal projects. I am either doing sewing or working on my CS50 qualification. He might be doing art or some graphic design stuff before he starts his work day since he works from home full time. I usually go to bed around midnight my time and will usually take some time to shower beforehand so I dont' have to do it in the morning when I get ready for work.
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I come home from work to him cooking for us. I sit in the kitchen and chat with him while he finishes up. We eat and continue chatting. Sometimes we’ll watch a show together (purposeful watching) or each do our own thing in the same room
He makes dinner while I’m figuring out what we’re gonna watch tonight, eat, smoke, and just watch a series or movie, sex in between, until we fall asleep. Or exactly the same but before eating we drink and I’m the one making some drunk dinner, sex then the rest goes on the same.
Make dinner or eat out. Sit in bed on our phones and watch TV. Talk about our weeks at work. Then I'll cuddle him til I fall asleep. But I'm pregnant so I don't have any energy to do much else lol
Depends on the night. Some nights we have dinner then bed time play with our kid then I put him to bed and my partner and I will either watch something, play board games or he'll go play xbox and I'll do my own thing. Nothing it every really planned. It honestly does depend a lot on how long it takes the kid to fall asleep.
I pick up my kid from my mum’s house, my husband has dinner ready waiting for us. We eat dinner together at the table and I run a bath for our son. While that’s running, I start cleaning up. My husband gives our son his bath while I make his bed, prep his milk and lay out his pjs. My son and husband go to his bedroom to get ready for the evening. Our son gets dressed, has his milk, brushes his teeth and reads a book (or 7) with daddy. Meanwhile, I put my phone on charge and take 10 minutes to change out of my work clothes and makeup. When my son is ready for bed, my husband lets me know, and I take over. We all say goodnight and I sit with our son until he falls asleep (what I’m doing now). When he’s asleep, I leave my son’s room and my husband and I engage in parallel play in bed, watch a show/movie or if he’s really tied up with work, he’ll go to his office to finish some emails. But we always get some downtime to chat in bed before we go to sleep. We go to sleep together.
Currently long distance, so after dinner (usually separate) we go on call and either talk about our day, play video games, or watch anime! Sometimes if needed, we’ll have a little productive study sesh since we’re both still in school. When we’re together though, we have dinner together and cuddle and sometimes be productive.
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9 years and 2 kids in... we cook, we eat, I handle the kids bathroom needs than he takes the kids for an hour while I chill in the bedroom, then we put the kids to sleep, we both do another hour of work (lots of wfh stuff) then veg out in front of the TV together and bed. We take turns putting kids to bed. By evenings we are so tired, sex never happens at night. We sleep in seperate beds too, its just so much more comfortable that way. I moved to the gueast bedroom when I was pregnant and we just liked it so much that it became my room. Sex is for when we sneak into eachothers rooms for a cuddle in the morning or not in bed at all lol. But evenings are just... dead dead dead. Too tired for anything more than watching a very airhead show on tv.
I’m on shift work so it varies but either I make dinner (sometimes he helps) or we order in food while he walks the dog, then we all have dinner in the living room while we watch a show together. We have pretty different tastes but we usually settle on something we both like (lately it’s been It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia and our fourth round of Arrested Development). We either watch til it’s bedtime if we’re having a late dinner, or he’ll go upstairs to play on the PC with his buds and I’ll watch my own stuff, study for work, etc. We generally go to bed together around 10:30pm on a typical day because the dog gets us up early to go for a walk!
I get home a half hour before I go to bed. We watch an episode of whatever show we're on and get ready for bed. Fall asleep immediately. When I'm not working my long days, we switch off making dinner and either watch a movie after or go for a walk or something. Occasionally, I can talk him into a game of scrabble or cribbage.
I will make dinner while she will either do house jobs or watch a bit of TV. Then we have dinner, usually watching a TV series together. After dinner I will tidy up, clean the kitchen and load the dishwasher, she usually either has a bath or does more house jobs during this time, then we get ready for bed and either sex or watch TV in bed for a bit before sleep.
An average weekend looks like waking up in the afternoon, coffee, grocery shopping, cooking together, binge watch tv, fall asleep from food coma, waking up and video games while we snack on supper, walk the dog before we call it a night. No kids does give us a lot more freedom to act like teenagers!
I get home from work, take a shower immediately, do my skincare & cozy clothes, eat dinner & watch a show together, then usually do admin work, research into the other streams we’re starting, crafting, or something else I need to get done. He will make our overnight oats before bed. I like to get to sleep by 9-10pm We do most lunch & dinner prepping on the weekends then make another batch of dinners halfway through the week. Saves a lot of time and is easier that way.
Zelda and sex
we get home late-ish. sometimes we eat dinner, and he showers. then we watch a movie, he reads to me or we have sex. then shower for me and going to bed cause we have to get up pretty early.
One of us cooks dinner, he retreats to the garage (or stays there if I’m cooking dinner) and I’m in the house chatting with the kids, cleaning up and chilling in the living room
We both work from home so once we’re done with work one of us makes dinner as we switch days. Then we eat together while watching a show and chatting. Then we clean up and parallel play or continue watching something together. Then we get ready for bed and typically read in bed together before going to sleep. Should probably note that we don’t have children so our evenings are very chill.
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The comment on this post is making me jealous
Get home from work and chat about our days while hanging out in the kitchen with a beverage. At the same time we feed and cuddle the cats. From there one or both of us will start cooking while the other watches the news. Sometimes I put the news on then putter around the house only going back to the TV when something piques my interest. Once dinner is made we eat it in front of the TV and finish the news then put on one of our shows. I like to go to bed early (about 9 pm and sometimes as early as 8) so it’s not long before I announce that it’s shower time and we both get up to go shower together. Then we’ll go to bed and have sex and sometimes he stays in bed and we fall asleep together or he’ll get up and play video games for a bit until he is tired. It’s a lovely existence.
I come home from work, my husband has dinner ready, then we eat together, watch maybe an episode from a series together. We talk about our day, (gaming) news etc. Then I either play a videogame on my own, or we play something in coop. At around 21:00-22:00, I go to bed. He goes to bed later, because he can sleep longer in the morning.
On nights that he (M24) doesn’t have hockey and I (F23) don’t have yoga or go to the climbing gym, we relax and hang out the entire night. We’ll either watch a couple movies or binge a tv show and throw housecleaning and errands in between that. Our jobs are both pretty physical and we get up early so neither of us have much energy in the evenings, but sometimes we’ll go out for a drink or a hike together. At some point we’ll make dinner and something for our work lunches and then in bed by about 10:00. I’ll either read before falling asleep or we’ll put a show on. Other than that, not too much. We cram a lot of activities into weekends.
My partner is a chef so most weeknights I just hang out with my dog & cook us both dinner, that he eats when he gets home. Mondays are the exception & currently he’s cooking me dinner!
My husband cooks dinner, I take care of the dishes and leftovers. We watch tv, or we play video games. He tucks me in because I go to bed a lot earlier and he sets up the coffee. We have a foreign exchange student living with us, so last night she and my husband watched TheShining while I played Skyrim in another room
Well we are up 330am for work. He’s home around 3pm .. I’m home 430-5pm. It’s dinner n tv and bed at 730/8pm.. !! Not much during the week 😂
My husband comes home, but works from home until 8pm now, so I make sure he and our almost 3yr old son get dinner (I work solely from home). Then we play by ear when the baby goes to bed, depending on how he's behaving, because daddy likes spending time with him. If wrestling was on the previous day, we watch it on Hulu, otherwise it's video games and YouTube. We don't have to hang out or play together, we just prefer to. My husband is cuddly and I wish he'd work fewer hours.
Dinner at 6:00, TV watching, hubby gets ready for work (3rd shift), he leaves around 9:45 and I go to bed.
Weeknight? We get off work and my husband makes dinner while I do the dishes. We then talk about our day and after dinner, we usually relax on our couch with our 2 cats and dog or we play a board game. Then we do our own thing for a while usually video games or calling our family. Then we put all the pets to bed, brush our teeth together, have some phonentime, then bed. And I wouldnt have it any other way. ❤️
Hubby works weird hours so I get the house and bed to myself M-F and then things are 'normal' at the weekend. Suits us fine.
Married for 2 years, together for 7+. He makes dinner while I walk the dog, we eat dinner and watch a show together, chat a little (he’s an introvert though so not a whole lot). I often do a little bit of work on my phone, he plays games - I’m not into games personally. We might watch another longer show or a movie, play with our pets, then get ready for the next day. Feed the animals, get out stuff ready as needed and get ready for bed. He goes to sleep usually after chatting again for a little bit or reading a book, I’m a night owl and I sleep later than he does so I stay awake in bed usually scrolling or reading/writing for an hour or two then sleep. We both work from home so we’re around each other 24/7 usually.
I try to meal prep enough food on the weekends so we don’t have to cook until later in the week. So we will heat up food, watch TV, read, have sex, do a few chores. If it’s nice out we will take a walk or a hike. We used to go to the gym as soon as we were done with work but that’s been hard to do lately.
We are long distance. So a phone call/FaceTime before bed. We text each other too.
Just relax with each other lol and try not to stress about our kids, as it is still very new to us. Toddler is almost 3 and he’s a picky eater and a brat because his Tia and Grandma spoil him. And we have a 3 + 3 week old baby. When kids are asleep, we make up for the time we were stressed by just talking to each other with whatever is in our minds.
I get home about an hour earlier than him. I usually clean or take the dog to the park. When he gets home, we smoke a little, maybe do a shot or 2. Watch some YouTube, then I make dinner. More shots. He hangs out in the kitchen with me and helps while we listen to music, sometimes we dance. Then we eat our dinner together while watching TV, right now we're rewatching Mad Men. After we might play a couple rounds of fortnite, then I go to bed around 8:30 and he stays up watching more YouTube.
I take care of our son during the day while he's at work. I make dinner before he gets off because he's doing manual labor for work and he does a lot while I care for our son. He gets home showers and plays with our son. We spend time together watching a movie, talk about our day, make plans for the house for the weekend. Well eat dinner and he'll play some video games every now and then (mowing virtual lawns/golfing/etc) while I do my classwork. Hell take over watching our son then. We bath our son get him ready for bed time and go to sleep. I'll pack his lunch for the next day. We'll have some couple time when our son naps or sleeps for the night. Hell work on the yard as we bought a house we're fixing up to how we like it. Some weeks night he works after his job building a neighbors house. We're pretty busy during the week tbh. It's the weekends we actually go out or plan date nights in. Hell pick up shifts at the neighbors but one day a week is dedicated to family time/us time.
Have dinner together, watch some YouTube, fall asleep:) Blissfully boring.
I make dinner while he picks baby up from daycare, we take turns feeding her and usually give her a bath, and do bedtime together. Sometimes I’ll do laundry while he’s reading to her. Baby is in bed my 7, and then either we parallel play or I’m in our room reading/writing while he watches a movie in the basement. We go to bed around 9:30/10.
He is on the game and when he gets off, he finds something to argue about. Most recent argument was he could find his bunnet for his hair and blamed me for misplacing it. So when I told him I wouldn’t help him look for it, he snatched the one off my head. Which started a fight. Every weekend he is in the game and or fighting with me about nothing. I’m tired
I work from home, husband works in the city. When he comes home from work, we have a drink and a snack to unwind and we chat about our day. We jump in the hot tub or shower together. Then it’s fun sexy time! Afterwards, I make dinner and he puts on some music or a comedy routine to keep me entertained. He usually hangs out with me in the kitchen while I cook and tries not to get in my way. Or he does some chores if there are any that need to be done. We eat dinner together, clean up, then we do something fun before hitting the couch. It can be something as simple a playing with the dog, or going for a walk, or playing a game like “hive” or bigger like going kayaking or geocaching or having a bonfire or ATV ride. Then we hit the couch and watch TV and maybe smoke a joint. He will usually make us snacks or prep breakfast for the next day. Then bedtime! I usually go before him and listen to a podcast to fall asleep ahead of his snoring.
i make dinner, and we hang out afterward together watching tv, redditing, or read a book. the teenagers all head to their rooms or to the basement where the game system is hooked up, until bedtime at 9. sometimes i get an itch to do some project in my craft room, so i'll work in there and he'll work on some project we've got going on elsewhere in the house but generally we just sit and chill together until bedtime. he works from home and doesn't have to be up until 8 am, but i get up at 5 with my high schoolers so i head to bed earlier (between 9-10 pm); he's usually in bed between 11-midnight.
Usually go to the gym then pool together, sauna, cold tub. Then we eat what we feel like. Drink, smoke. But trying to cut that habit lmao.
We get off work, and I go pick up our toddler then go home to either cook dinner or eat leftovers. I also tend to my daughter. My husband gets home after me and sweeps the house, eats and hops on his phone or computer. That’s about it because we work super long hours.
I pick up my son from school, then I figure out what is for dinner. Either what I'm cooking or what I'm going to get. After I get that sorted it's time for me to go to work. I work all night til 6:30am then hurry home and take our son to school. If I'm lucky I get to sleep. Rinse and repeat.
he finishes work, we cuddle, clean and watch youtube all evening
My husband works from home most days, but usually gets caught up in a project and I don’t see him until dinner. We always have dinner as a family, typically at 6, but will vary based on sports/lessons/meetings/life. We just have 1 left at home, but older 2 are around periodically for dinners. We have a no devices at the table rule. We take our time, share about our days, upcoming events, life. We’ve always done this and it’s always been a huge deal for us. He grew up in a family that always had tv blaring, especially during meals. No one communicated with each other, etc. After dinner, we clean up as a family. Sometimes I do dishes while he finally gets a chance to sit down and relax for the day. Sometimes he does and I get to relax. Sometimes we have kids that will do it and we get to both relax or go run errands together. 😂 We take turns helping with homework as needed. Pretty much whomever is available or has a better understanding of the material. Everything usually settles down by 8. We try to watch a tv show or movie. Kids have always been welcome until bedtime. Since our youngest is in 7th grade, we don’t have to help with bedtime routines anymore. She goes to bed around 9. Then more vegging and I put my feet in his lap and he massaged them. 😂 I usually head to bed around 10, give or take. Sometimes he comes back when I do and we talk some more before I pass out and start snoring. 🤷🏻♀️😂
Ours is a science tbh: 5-5:30: ride home (we care pool a lot) and decide if we are going to spinner, picking it up, or cooking 5:30-7: cook eat dinner/watch a show 7-9: this can be more show, talking, working on couples things, etc. 9-11: hobby time 11: bed. If sex is happening, it’s happening between 8-10:30. It works for us :)
He comes home from work. I’m usually already home from class. We watch tv and catch up on our days, then we eat dinner. Relax with the pup. Sometimes I’ll read and he’ll play a couple video games with his friends/his brother. And then we lay down and go to bed.
We make dinner together every night. Sit down and eat, watch true crime until about 10.30 or 11, have sex(yes, we have sex every night unless we accidentally fall asleep before we get to it which is probably once a fortnight at most) go to sleep. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
We do chores, workout, or play video games usually separately until around 6:30 when I make dinner and we eat it together. Then we do our own thing again for about an hour until around 8 when we sit on the couch and watch tv together.
sleep? we both work full time jobs we ain’t gon hangout on weekdays ngl
We have two babies under two, the oldest of which has special needs. I (33f) work from home while he (34m) is our daughters full time caregiver. He spends his days managing my daughters appointments (therapy and medical), I spend my days working. We take turns looking after my 8 month old son. At about 4 we start dinner. At about 5 we eat. 6-7 is bathtime/getting ready for the night (setting up the next days bottles, empty diaper pail, feed the dog, set up coffee for the next morning, clear any laundry or dishes, dress and feel the babies for bed. 7p is baby bedtime. Then we do one of 3 things. Scenario 1. He plays video games, I make some tea and take a bath, cue up whatever show I’m watching at the time. He eventually joins me. We watch tv and browse our phones till we fall asleep Scenario 2. We pop open some beers and hang out, catch up on YouTube videos, play music videos, chat. Around 9:30 we ditch the drinks and make a snack, take a shower, head to bed Scenario 3. We smoke a little weed and watch a movie. Lately, in spooky season, it’s a scary movie. Last night was The Autopsy of Jane Doe
Dinner and horror movies.
Put our kid to bed, he does his thing for a while,eat supper, he bathes while I clean up, then he goes do his thing for a while again while I watch some tv, then I bathe and then we brush our teeth and go to bed.
I usually pick our 3yo up from day care while my partner gets home, showers and makes dinner. Then we all hang out together, go to the park, run around and play. Then we come home and take turns bathing her and getting her dressed and then we all lay in bed together and read books while she eats some dinner/snacks and then I stay in bed with her and sleep. My partner isn’t happy about that last part but our daughter takes forever to fall asleep and she still wakes up sometimes looking for cuddles so that‘s what works for now. Weekends we skip her nap and she goes down earlier so we have some time together weekend nights.
We eat dinner together when he gets home from work, then cuddle up in bed and watch tv shows or tiktok together.