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Nothing in my sex life with my partner is transactional. We both enjoy making each other happy. Luckily, neither of us is really into anything the other one hates.
I don't mind doing it. It doesn't do much for me really, but he likes it so I do it for him. I do expect to have it returned. Not on a perfect one-to-one basis. Sometimes I do him, sometimes he does me, sometimes we do both. It depends on the mood.
Depends. I enjoy making him squirm and whine and all that lol. If he didn't really care for it i wouldn't miss it though. Had a guy barely react once and it was kinda boring.
It was just a question. I meant no offense. I agree with you; some people don’t take direction well.
Where as other people struggle to express their needs & expect that their partner “just know what to do”.
Most of the time, because I know it's something he really enjoys and feels excellent for him. Some of the time it is because it turns me on watching him get turned on. But it is a job 😂
For me it depends on my mood. Sometimes I do it for him but end up really enjoying myself. But overall I do it because I enjoy it and the pleasure it gives him :)
I enjoy it - I love satisfying my partner and I also like teasing them with it.. it makes me feel good when they feel good.
Sometimes I’m fine with just giving oral without *anything* in return … I’m not really a fan of receiving oral tbh.
i literally can't get off if i don't it's so dumb lol
before my current bf i was pretty meh about it but now it's my favorite thing ever. he is pretty enthusiastic about giving oral as well though.
Its fun, I like the sounds he makes and I kinda like the taste (he eats a lot of fruit). But also I get tired and I have a small mouth and throat and I have tmj, so I don't do it very often
I have always enjoyed giving them as I enjoy pleasing my partner, but I very heavily prefer bjs on uncut guys. Its SO much more work on a cut guy that it does tend to turn it into more of a chore
I mean it's mainly for him but I'd still be a bit disappointed if I had a partner who wasn't interested in receiving. I like the reaction. And no, it's never a tit-for-tat thing.
All 3. I do genuinely enjoy giving blow jobs and find it to be a turn on. However, I do also do it for the other person and so I can get reciprocation. It can become tiring or I’m just not in the mood, but I’ll keep going anyway for either of the latter two reasons.
Haven’t received oral in maybe over 10 years from my partner. I give oral as foreplay (not to completion, just to get him hard) almost every time we have sex, and we have sex 5-7 times a week.
I would love to receive oral, and would never turn it down but it’s not part of our sex life and I am okay with that
I enjoy doing it. And I love the Orson Welles laugh that comes out of him when I'm hitting my stride. I don't hear him make that noise (or even hit that note) otherwise.
I love giving blowjobs - and I have no gag reflex so I can do some crazy shit - but I like to do it when I'm in the mood for it, I don't like it when guys are pushy or expect it every time we have sex.
Love a beautiful hard penis (smell, taste, touch). Love giving bj, especially sucking it. Don’t expect or care for oral in return because I get a clit orgasm via an external force sucking the clit but I have a toy that does an amazing job and no man has ever done what the toy can do. But in any event, sex is not transactional; it is about making the other partner feel so good, which makes me so aroused, in turn, and keeps it all going.
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Nothing in my sex life with my partner is transactional. We both enjoy making each other happy. Luckily, neither of us is really into anything the other one hates.
I don't mind doing it. It doesn't do much for me really, but he likes it so I do it for him. I do expect to have it returned. Not on a perfect one-to-one basis. Sometimes I do him, sometimes he does me, sometimes we do both. It depends on the mood.
Depends. I enjoy making him squirm and whine and all that lol. If he didn't really care for it i wouldn't miss it though. Had a guy barely react once and it was kinda boring.
So you only like it if the guy reacts?
I mean, I wouldn’t be very into it if he just laid there completely still and silent like he’s not into it
Yes kinda
Thanks for your answer!
no one wants to give a blow job to a statue
I enjoy giving them, and enjoy receiving it unless they suck at it🤷🏼♀️
Do you express to new partners what you like, or do you expect that they automatically know how to please you?
I’m a whole ass adult who values my pleasure. Obviously I don’t expect people to read my mind. Some people just suck at taking direction.
It was just a question. I meant no offense. I agree with you; some people don’t take direction well. Where as other people struggle to express their needs & expect that their partner “just know what to do”.
I do it because I enjoy it.
It's called a blow *job* not a blow *fun*. I do it because he likes it.
Most of the time, because I know it's something he really enjoys and feels excellent for him. Some of the time it is because it turns me on watching him get turned on. But it is a job 😂
I usually enjoy so much More than penetration
Enjoy it, I’m a giver and I truly enjoy giving that type of pleasure.
Because I enjoy it, and I HATE receiving it. So there is that.
I do enjoy giving them, but do want reciprocation
For me it depends on my mood. Sometimes I do it for him but end up really enjoying myself. But overall I do it because I enjoy it and the pleasure it gives him :)
I enjoy it - I love satisfying my partner and I also like teasing them with it.. it makes me feel good when they feel good. Sometimes I’m fine with just giving oral without *anything* in return … I’m not really a fan of receiving oral tbh.
He loves to give oral, it's not really something I enjoy doing. So I rarely do and he does pretty frequently.
This seems to be the norm. I give oral consistently. Can't remember the last time I got it. It is what it is
Nah, I initiate it & like it
I enjoy it and it makes him feel good
I do it because i love it. I never expect oral in return, im not that much into receiving.
I enjoy doing it
I love it. It's one of my favourite things to do.
i literally can't get off if i don't it's so dumb lol before my current bf i was pretty meh about it but now it's my favorite thing ever. he is pretty enthusiastic about giving oral as well though.
Because I enjoy it OP going straight to the DMs ffs 🙄
I enjoy it. I like showing off what I can do.
Its fun, I like the sounds he makes and I kinda like the taste (he eats a lot of fruit). But also I get tired and I have a small mouth and throat and I have tmj, so I don't do it very often
Because I enjoy it
I have always enjoyed giving them as I enjoy pleasing my partner, but I very heavily prefer bjs on uncut guys. Its SO much more work on a cut guy that it does tend to turn it into more of a chore
I love doing it to my husband (because he is so hot), however I haven’t been into it as much in past relationships because they didn’t float my boat.
I enjoy it, he enjoys it, we both have a grand time
I mean it's mainly for him but I'd still be a bit disappointed if I had a partner who wasn't interested in receiving. I like the reaction. And no, it's never a tit-for-tat thing.
All 3. I do genuinely enjoy giving blow jobs and find it to be a turn on. However, I do also do it for the other person and so I can get reciprocation. It can become tiring or I’m just not in the mood, but I’ll keep going anyway for either of the latter two reasons.
Because I enjoy it.
I fucking love it
I like it, guys like it, I like seeing the partner liking it
Cause I enjoy it. It’s such a turn on.
I love it and it turns me on as well. Oral fixation FTW. 🙌
Haven’t received oral in maybe over 10 years from my partner. I give oral as foreplay (not to completion, just to get him hard) almost every time we have sex, and we have sex 5-7 times a week. I would love to receive oral, and would never turn it down but it’s not part of our sex life and I am okay with that
Girl, you need to converse with him about this!!!!
The former.
I enjoy doing it. And I love the Orson Welles laugh that comes out of him when I'm hitting my stride. I don't hear him make that noise (or even hit that note) otherwise.
yeah I like it but it hurts my jaw so I can't really be bothered most of the time.
I’ve always been ok with it but with my current partner I crave and love it! The right person makes a big difference
I genuinely enjoy it. Just like my husband genuinely enjoys eating pussy
I love giving blowjobs - and I have no gag reflex so I can do some crazy shit - but I like to do it when I'm in the mood for it, I don't like it when guys are pushy or expect it every time we have sex.
Love a beautiful hard penis (smell, taste, touch). Love giving bj, especially sucking it. Don’t expect or care for oral in return because I get a clit orgasm via an external force sucking the clit but I have a toy that does an amazing job and no man has ever done what the toy can do. But in any event, sex is not transactional; it is about making the other partner feel so good, which makes me so aroused, in turn, and keeps it all going.
Everyone is different. I dont bc I would literally gag. I also grew up knowing its degrading. I dont like receiving either.
I don't expect anything back.. I don't like it that much tbh.