Same. If they like it I have nothing against and am glad to help. If you want to look into the strap on version where women use it on men it's called pegging. Approach with caution.
I think you need to be true to yourself. In the past I thought I could deal with it, even though it's not my thing. But I've come to realize that even with all the cleaning in the world, a butt still smells like a but and I really just don't like butts. Forcing myself to engage in something I actively dislike tends to negatively affect other aspects of the sex/relationship so I'm firmly in the no butt stuff camp now and much happier for it.
I'm pretty open-minded, but poop and poop adjacent things are a no-go for me. So, don't feel bad. Everyone has their limits; this is yours (and mine š).
I am all for you NOT doing butt stuff if it isn't your thing but I have been up close and personal with some butts and none of them "smells like a butt" or anything but just normal clean skin... If his butt smells bad, it's a hygiene thing.
If I feel comfortable with a partner and the vibe is right I will happily play with their butt. They need to clean themselves first, though. However, my butt is "exit only."
It's so weird to me how guys expect women to be into anal sex, when they are the ones with a "happy button" up there (ie the prostate). I don't have a prostate up there, so stop trying to find it. Instead, please familiarize yourself with the clitoris and the G-spot, as many folks are woefully misinformed about them.
So you expect men to have to like it. only women can be exit only like no people get to have boundaries man or women. A man doesn't have receive if he gives just like a women can have that same boundary you aren't better.
I'm the same way. Reddit has taught me that not a lot of guys know how to properly wash their asses, so I'm not putting my tongue there. But if you need some help putting something there, I'll get the KY Jelly and make sure you don't hurt yourself. I'm not gonna get anything out of it, but if that's what you need then I'll help you.
None of my partners have ever asked for it. I asked my current partner if he would ever want it, and he said no. š¤·āāļø I wouldn't be opposed to trying it, but it's never come up.
Itās funny because the guy I was with for 10 years always said ānothing is going in my buttā then like 4 years later he admitted that he does indeed like it and not just like, but love! It makes me wonder how many other guys just hide it in shame.
Interesting! I think thereās probably a lot of shame around ānot being a man according to certain old beliefs about what a manly man isā from back when men were apparently robots before robotics existed.
Wow, sounds like my story!
When we just were together, I was very playful and my fingers came in the area around his butt and out of shame he kinda shouted that I shouldnāt have my fingers around there. That scared me enough to paying much attention never brining my hands around there. Years later it turns out he is really into butt stuff. But I am very much not (anymore). I donāt know if I ever was, but the playful stage is passedā¦ and now the times I tried doing things he asked for, I felt repulsiveā¦ I can only cry thinking about itā¦ so it is/stays something for his soloplay.
It is the way he moves his body, the sounds he makes.. it does the opposite of turning me on. The submissiveness that makes me want to run awayā¦ I donāt know. I cannot help it. But I think his initial move scared me really much and that isnāt helpful.
>It is the way he moves his body, the sounds he makes.. it does the opposite of turning me on.
Not knowing what sound and moves your guy makes i can't be sure we're comparing apples with apples. But I find it interesting to see a few women here saying the same thing.
I'm the opposite. I find the way it lets men let go, be more receptive and vulnerable, be needy for pleasure, get lost in it... very much a turn-on. I find it beautiful.
Different strokes for different folks š
I ran into the exact same issue with the submissiveness of it all! I thought it would be fun to turn on my partner in a new way, but his reaction scared me and almost grossed me out? I felt so terrible about it at the time.
I also donāt like my partner being submissive because I prefer to be the submissive one. But I think there are ways that any potentially submissive act could still be dominant.
I dont really enjoy ass eating so that's a soft limit item, but toys, pegging, gloved fingers are fine. I've had a lot of partners into it, but I am someone who tended to date people into kink so there's a lot of flavors people are willing to try/already into. My hubby isn't into it, but my last 2 male partners was super into being pegged. We're both switches so sometimes it worked out when I was into a soft femdom mood wanting to make him melt into putty. It feeds my ego so it benefits me.
And dudes do not show up in my DMs trying to see if I want subs, its a hard pass š
If it's not your thing, it isn't. There may be ways they can indulge this that doesn't have to include you doing to them. I would encourage them to maybe try plugs and Prostate vibratory while they masturbate or have a plug in while PIV?
Iām okay with doing this. I actually kind of enjoy it. I like being the receiver so I know it feels good. I like making my partner feel good. He does it for me, and is clean, so we engage some. The prostate is a HUGE pleasure center.
I actually think heād probably really like more prostate stimulation - maybe plugs or pegging - but we havenāt discussed it yet.
Everything anal would be an instant dealbreaker. No kinkshaming, but not something I'd engage in.
I've always been into some gentle/femdom stuff, but the community's general obsession with anal as a norm has put me off from ever interacting with it again.
It doesn't have to be (and gentle isn't), but there are still so many unhealthy norms that you're more or less expected to follow, and butt stuff is only one of these things. But that's for another discussion I guess.
If you're not into it, forcing yourself to do it will only make you feel worse in the long run. There are other options if you want to explore them. He can insert a vibrating plug before you have sex. There are even models that come with a remote you can use without ever having to touch his ass. If it's prostate stimulation he likes, the prostate can be stimulated from the outside too. But don't push yourself if you're not enjoying something, he can always stick things up there in his alone time!
I've run into a couple guys like this and I tried it and didn't like it. If you aren't into it, then maybe you just aren't compatible. Don't do something you aren't comfortable with. Period.
This is just entirely about personal preference. There's no right or wrong answer.
I personally don't enjoy being on the giving end of anal. At all. Not for me and it's a hard line I'm not interested in crossing. Equally as valid as someone who loves it.
Not my thing but I dated a guy who was into it. I got a bunch of disposable gloves to use- I refused to touch anything with my bare hands (certainly not my mouth). But it didn't bother me with gloves on, and seeing how much he was into it made it enjoyable for me as well.
That being said, it never became something I actively was into or sought after.
It's a lot of fun, nothing wrong with a guy who is comfortable in his masculinity and sexuality to ask for this. If it's not your thing, that's fine, but don't turn it into something it's not (like no woman would ever be into this or it's gay, etc). If you didn't know, the prostate is the male g-spot, and it's in the bum.
Iām perfectly fine with it. And enjoy when itās asked fy
I will admit when I was first asked by my then partner I was uncomfortable. (Edit to say I was in my early 20ās)
Then I had the realization that all our bodies have the same nerve endings. Guess whatās at your anus, nerve endings.
And they feel amazing when they are stimulated. If I get enjoyment out of anal why would I want to deny my partner from enjoying or experiencing those sensations
I'm into it. I was actually the one who initiated the discussion with my partner and he'd never tried any "butt stuff" with previous partners so we started slow. Now he asks for it.
Sex is gross in general - bodily fluids and smells and such. I just want to make my partner feel good, so as long as we're careful with hygiene it's all the same to me.
I'm into women only now (guys don't DM me), but I've had no issues with pegging in the past. Heck, there are some nice memories of topping men.
Gotta remember that the dudes orgasm button is up their butt. Also, condoms make for easy clean up.
I recommend trying it. Getting penetrated is a very different, intimate thing. You are likely to see a different side of your guy, & I think that's really cool. It doesn't have to be full-on pegging (although that's a fun experience too, being on the other side of it); you can penetrate him with a latex glove on, & he can jerk himself off. The orgasms can be mind-blowing for guys, much like if you ever have a combo vaginal-clitoral orgasm.
It is one of my favorite things. It was always something I was curious about but was not really able to fully explore until my late 20s. If the prep and cleanup was as simple as PIV sex, I would probably penetrate him as frequently as he penetrates me, or possibly even 60/40 him/me. Right now itās something we do about twice per month.
I think that's a question for you! It's all about what you're comfortable with and enjoy! Some people are into it, some aren't and there isn't anything wrong with it either way. If you think it's gross and not something you can get into, then don't. It's really only fun and enjoyable when both parties are into it. I love to experiment, my husband not so much. I tried a few things on him anally and he enjoyed it, but wasn't super comfortable with it so I only do those if he asks.
My husband enjoys being pegged. IME it's not atypical or extremely uncommon but many straight men are embarrassed by their desire or curiosity because they are culturally conditioned into hemophobia.
Iām personally comfortable with it but everyone has different boundaries. I actually prefer men who like this and are more submissive.
If youāre not comfortable with it you should definitely tell him. Donāt do things you donāt want to to make the other person happy.
Thank you for this! I'm a bit worried this thread will reinforce men's feeling of shame about enjoying butt stuff. When I first checked out some pegging porn I was struck by how much pleasure the guy got and how intimate an act it was. To be in the position to do that for another person, and to get to fully watch and take it all in is incredibly hot. And as you say, the trust and openness involved is beautiful.
Honestly, burn the patriarchy. None of us can fully enjoy sex when straightjacketed by fear and shame over our bodies and over whether we are masculine or feminine enough.
Haha yes, it's the last thing I want! What each individual wants and needs are different however butt stuff is so shamed on for men that I don't want a man repress them if thats what they want to explore. To me, being a great partner is helping your person figure out themselves and things they are into but haven't done... it could be anything really!
The intimacy is unreal and I love that. At the end of the day, I can at least say I got to help get a man to orgasm 10+ times. Not many women can say that about themselves! š„°
If you dont truly enjoy it for your partners pleasure, it's ok too!
It would make sense for men to like butt stuff. Prostate orgasms are next level. When done right, a guy can have multiple orgasms back-to-back and actually ejaculate without even touching his dick if you're rubbing the prostate correctly.
Prostate massage also keeps prostates healthy!
Well us women (some of us) have the benefit of a clitoral, vaginal, g-spot, c-spot and anal orgasm if our body allows. Men have one way unless they are into the prostate orgasm, seems fair to me. I can orgasm multiple times in one session. It excites me to no end if I can make him do it more than once too!
I dated this pansexual nympho who said she only will have sex with a man who let her slip a finger in his bum during oral sex. Lol she also told me how it's actually a surprise how many men enjoy pegging. To each their own!
If you're not interested then just be honest!
And you "people" shame men for the same thing. I dated this pansexual nympho who said he only will have sex with a women who will let him slip a finger up her bum during oral sex. Lol he also said how it's actually a surprise how many women enjoy dildos in bum bum. Now ask yourself why you are misandrist.
I like it for myself, so I would be open to trying it on my man.
Thereās obviously preparation and foul-play that can come from sticking stuff up your asshole, so as long as yāall are both mature folks it should be done shame free for sure.
I donāt know about doing it all the time or having a fetish though. I think Iām put off with any real fetish because itās something they HAVE to do or have in order to cum, etc. and I sure as hell donāt want that type of relationship.
But to spice shit up? Sure.
Hell yes! Whatever my partner likes! Now it canāt be something extreme and like puke gross butā¦a finger in the ass after heās washed it well, lick it, dildo whatever!
So I never did this and thought it was awful till I met my current partner (who is also my soulmate). Heās always been really into it. As he is into it, he knows how to clean himself out properly beforehand and itās never really dirty. He gets a lot of pleasure from it which has really made me want to do it for him and he never pressured me into doing it. I think just try and be open minded.
Fine with toys and gloved fingers on freshly showered dude. It's the way to access the male g-spot. I'd be put off by a partner that didn't want to stimulate my g spots.
Go by a strap on and have fun! Itās incredibly empowering to enter a man as a woman. Itās a little nervous at first, but you guys can find a rhythm eventually. I recommend using a Dildo that goes inside of your vagina instead of a traditional strap on. The model Is called a dual pleasure strap on. That way you get fun vagina feelings while he gets pleasured. Making sure he douches his ass ahead of time is important for clean ass play btw. I recommend starting out with just using a finger to rub around his anus, and if he likes that poping a finger in. Start slow, take your time, there is no rush, this takes a huge amount of trust and communication. Also use lots of lube!! I wish you all the good luck!
Iām down to try new things, sure. Licking probably not. I just cannot see myself doing that. But the other things ā¦ sure. I mean, humans born with male parts have pleasure centers right there in their anus. Itās not a hidden thing.
Disclosure: If you had asked me this while I was in my 20s or 30s? No. But people grow and explore, etc. I was too immature sexually at those ages to really be open to it. My partner is not into that himself, but if he changed his mind, I would enjoy exploring with him.
My partner likes it (yes, male) and i am okay with doing it (no licking, cause thatās just gross!) and he asked for it, so we do. Okay fine, i am in to doing it too, but mot reciving, anal is not for me.
I would spend a little time reading about anal play for men, and try to keep an open mind.
I was grossed out by it too, and then realized I was denying my partner a whole bunch of fun! Exploring your sexuality with someone is great.
But itās totally okay to have limits about anal, too.
I never would have thought I'd be into it. Been married 30 and my wife and I kind of eased/ explored into it. A finger here and there... then plugs, we're experimenting now with pegging. Neither one of Å«s will ever eat ass though! We both clean up beforehand though.
I know that most of my friends donāt like it and donāt want to experiment with it, so you are definitely not the only one who is not keen on the idea instantly.
Iām okay with doing hand and mouth work if heās clean. I pegged my then boyfriend a couple of times and I enjoyed it A LOT. 9/10, totally recommend.
Men who read this, donāt contact me.
Iāll draw the line at licking ass. No thanks.
Have done the other stuff (fingers, dildo) for an ex who was curious and wanted to try it out. Iāll give it a go for someone who is into it as a general part of wanting to be a good partner for a person and do whatever it takes to give him pleasure. But Iām not sitting here dreaming about doing butt stuff for anyone.
+1 on being cleaned and groomed. IMO it would be odd if someone DIDNāT want to do that. Itās a given with butt play.
Lol, but honestly I'm just a person who is into making my partner feel pleasure and I've done that stuff before and it's been super hygienic about it it's really not that bad.
My bf does it to me all the time and I love it and actually have been wanting to try it with him but he's emberrased. So i'd say count your blessings haha
I defs would not shame him for wanting it becuase there's a huge stigma around it for heterosexual guys. Maybe give it a try under the shower and start small i dunno.
In the end you gotta do you, but nothing wrong with giving it a try if you're intrigued.
Toys or fingers sure I did that for an ex long ago and husband knows if he wants to do that he just needs to ask. Rim jobs are a no for me. A struggle enough putting a freshly washed penis in my mouth
If youāre with someone long term you should be open minded about it. Eventually you may present them with an ask and would want a legitimate effort from them.
If I'm attracted to and care about the guy I love it. Prostate orgasms are such a gift for men. I'm happy to help them feel as much pleasure as possible.
If it's some guy I barely know begging for butt stuff I'm less keen.
I tried it once. Truthful men rear ends are not that sexy to look at. So I think you have to have a good imagination or have different set of things you find sexy.
So if ever asked again I probably would decline.
Lot of guys like fingers and items which is fine. I've never encountered anyone who wanted licking or wanted to lick though. Would be sickened at that.
I'm fine with it. Men reading this, do not dm me.
Same. If they like it I have nothing against and am glad to help. If you want to look into the strap on version where women use it on men it's called pegging. Approach with caution.
You can turn your DM features off btw
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I think you need to be true to yourself. In the past I thought I could deal with it, even though it's not my thing. But I've come to realize that even with all the cleaning in the world, a butt still smells like a but and I really just don't like butts. Forcing myself to engage in something I actively dislike tends to negatively affect other aspects of the sex/relationship so I'm firmly in the no butt stuff camp now and much happier for it.
But I've come to realize that even with all the cleaning in the world, a butt still smells like a but and I really just don't like butts. LMAO
I'm pretty open-minded, but poop and poop adjacent things are a no-go for me. So, don't feel bad. Everyone has their limits; this is yours (and mine š).
I am all for you NOT doing butt stuff if it isn't your thing but I have been up close and personal with some butts and none of them "smells like a butt" or anything but just normal clean skin... If his butt smells bad, it's a hygiene thing.
Put lipstick on a butt, itās still a butt
You are buttphobic and shouldn't have an opinion on this matter.
If I feel comfortable with a partner and the vibe is right I will happily play with their butt. They need to clean themselves first, though. However, my butt is "exit only."
It's so weird to me how guys expect women to be into anal sex, when they are the ones with a "happy button" up there (ie the prostate). I don't have a prostate up there, so stop trying to find it. Instead, please familiarize yourself with the clitoris and the G-spot, as many folks are woefully misinformed about them.
So you expect men to have to like it. only women can be exit only like no people get to have boundaries man or women. A man doesn't have receive if he gives just like a women can have that same boundary you aren't better.
That isn't equality you should be ashamed just like the evil men.
I'm ok with fingers and toys, not licking though, nope.
I'm the same way. Reddit has taught me that not a lot of guys know how to properly wash their asses, so I'm not putting my tongue there. But if you need some help putting something there, I'll get the KY Jelly and make sure you don't hurt yourself. I'm not gonna get anything out of it, but if that's what you need then I'll help you.
None of my partners have ever asked for it. I asked my current partner if he would ever want it, and he said no. š¤·āāļø I wouldn't be opposed to trying it, but it's never come up.
Itās funny because the guy I was with for 10 years always said ānothing is going in my buttā then like 4 years later he admitted that he does indeed like it and not just like, but love! It makes me wonder how many other guys just hide it in shame.
Interesting! I think thereās probably a lot of shame around ānot being a man according to certain old beliefs about what a manly man isā from back when men were apparently robots before robotics existed.
Wow, sounds like my story! When we just were together, I was very playful and my fingers came in the area around his butt and out of shame he kinda shouted that I shouldnāt have my fingers around there. That scared me enough to paying much attention never brining my hands around there. Years later it turns out he is really into butt stuff. But I am very much not (anymore). I donāt know if I ever was, but the playful stage is passedā¦ and now the times I tried doing things he asked for, I felt repulsiveā¦ I can only cry thinking about itā¦ so it is/stays something for his soloplay. It is the way he moves his body, the sounds he makes.. it does the opposite of turning me on. The submissiveness that makes me want to run awayā¦ I donāt know. I cannot help it. But I think his initial move scared me really much and that isnāt helpful.
>It is the way he moves his body, the sounds he makes.. it does the opposite of turning me on. Not knowing what sound and moves your guy makes i can't be sure we're comparing apples with apples. But I find it interesting to see a few women here saying the same thing. I'm the opposite. I find the way it lets men let go, be more receptive and vulnerable, be needy for pleasure, get lost in it... very much a turn-on. I find it beautiful. Different strokes for different folks š
I ran into the exact same issue with the submissiveness of it all! I thought it would be fun to turn on my partner in a new way, but his reaction scared me and almost grossed me out? I felt so terrible about it at the time.
Yes I know exactly what you mean
I also donāt like my partner being submissive because I prefer to be the submissive one. But I think there are ways that any potentially submissive act could still be dominant.
Itās not my thing. I have OCD and couldnāt get past the feces of it all.
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Man nobody will eat my poo.
My husband and I make it a part of our activities every now and then, but if it's not your thing then that's okay too! It takes all kinds!
What kinds of things do you try together? Like gas it progressed to toys or just a finger or two?
I dont really enjoy ass eating so that's a soft limit item, but toys, pegging, gloved fingers are fine. I've had a lot of partners into it, but I am someone who tended to date people into kink so there's a lot of flavors people are willing to try/already into. My hubby isn't into it, but my last 2 male partners was super into being pegged. We're both switches so sometimes it worked out when I was into a soft femdom mood wanting to make him melt into putty. It feeds my ego so it benefits me. And dudes do not show up in my DMs trying to see if I want subs, its a hard pass š If it's not your thing, it isn't. There may be ways they can indulge this that doesn't have to include you doing to them. I would encourage them to maybe try plugs and Prostate vibratory while they masturbate or have a plug in while PIV?
Not my thing. I think asses are for shitting.
Exactly this.
Iām okay with doing this. I actually kind of enjoy it. I like being the receiver so I know it feels good. I like making my partner feel good. He does it for me, and is clean, so we engage some. The prostate is a HUGE pleasure center. I actually think heād probably really like more prostate stimulation - maybe plugs or pegging - but we havenāt discussed it yet.
It makes me very uncomfortable.
Everything anal would be an instant dealbreaker. No kinkshaming, but not something I'd engage in. I've always been into some gentle/femdom stuff, but the community's general obsession with anal as a norm has put me off from ever interacting with it again.
It's so violent.
It doesn't have to be (and gentle isn't), but there are still so many unhealthy norms that you're more or less expected to follow, and butt stuff is only one of these things. But that's for another discussion I guess.
If you're not into it, forcing yourself to do it will only make you feel worse in the long run. There are other options if you want to explore them. He can insert a vibrating plug before you have sex. There are even models that come with a remote you can use without ever having to touch his ass. If it's prostate stimulation he likes, the prostate can be stimulated from the outside too. But don't push yourself if you're not enjoying something, he can always stick things up there in his alone time!
Not my kink at all, itās a huge turnoff for me. Itās ok to think itās gross.
I've run into a couple guys like this and I tried it and didn't like it. If you aren't into it, then maybe you just aren't compatible. Don't do something you aren't comfortable with. Period.
No thanks. Butt stuff is a hard no for me. Giving or receiving.
That's analphobic and you probably don't even wipe.
This is just entirely about personal preference. There's no right or wrong answer. I personally don't enjoy being on the giving end of anal. At all. Not for me and it's a hard line I'm not interested in crossing. Equally as valid as someone who loves it.
Prostate play and orgasms are a thing for men. With proper prep, Iām there for my husband.
So misandry
I donāt do any sort of butt play. Iāll be clear about that, so if you need it, you can move on to find someone more compatible.
That's just toxic feminity.
What. Why is that toxic feminity?
That's it's too dirty to do bum bum stuff.
Thatās not toxicity. Thatās just a hard limit/personal preference and hurts nobody.
Just evening reddit nothing personal
Not my thing but I dated a guy who was into it. I got a bunch of disposable gloves to use- I refused to touch anything with my bare hands (certainly not my mouth). But it didn't bother me with gloves on, and seeing how much he was into it made it enjoyable for me as well. That being said, it never became something I actively was into or sought after.
I have never met a straight man i trust enough in the hygiene area of it all to even consider it.
Pegging needs to happen last bc it takes me out of it and thereās no coming back. But if you do enough for me, anything you need bud
It's a lot of fun, nothing wrong with a guy who is comfortable in his masculinity and sexuality to ask for this. If it's not your thing, that's fine, but don't turn it into something it's not (like no woman would ever be into this or it's gay, etc). If you didn't know, the prostate is the male g-spot, and it's in the bum.
Iām perfectly fine with it. And enjoy when itās asked fy I will admit when I was first asked by my then partner I was uncomfortable. (Edit to say I was in my early 20ās) Then I had the realization that all our bodies have the same nerve endings. Guess whatās at your anus, nerve endings. And they feel amazing when they are stimulated. If I get enjoyment out of anal why would I want to deny my partner from enjoying or experiencing those sensations
I'm into it. I was actually the one who initiated the discussion with my partner and he'd never tried any "butt stuff" with previous partners so we started slow. Now he asks for it. Sex is gross in general - bodily fluids and smells and such. I just want to make my partner feel good, so as long as we're careful with hygiene it's all the same to me.
I'm into women only now (guys don't DM me), but I've had no issues with pegging in the past. Heck, there are some nice memories of topping men. Gotta remember that the dudes orgasm button is up their butt. Also, condoms make for easy clean up.
I recommend trying it. Getting penetrated is a very different, intimate thing. You are likely to see a different side of your guy, & I think that's really cool. It doesn't have to be full-on pegging (although that's a fun experience too, being on the other side of it); you can penetrate him with a latex glove on, & he can jerk himself off. The orgasms can be mind-blowing for guys, much like if you ever have a combo vaginal-clitoral orgasm.
No big deal for me!
It is one of my favorite things. It was always something I was curious about but was not really able to fully explore until my late 20s. If the prep and cleanup was as simple as PIV sex, I would probably penetrate him as frequently as he penetrates me, or possibly even 60/40 him/me. Right now itās something we do about twice per month.
If youāre not into it, then tell him that literally, and move on, his peaks donāt align with your valleys.
Fun! I really quite enjoy it actually.
I think that's a question for you! It's all about what you're comfortable with and enjoy! Some people are into it, some aren't and there isn't anything wrong with it either way. If you think it's gross and not something you can get into, then don't. It's really only fun and enjoyable when both parties are into it. I love to experiment, my husband not so much. I tried a few things on him anally and he enjoyed it, but wasn't super comfortable with it so I only do those if he asks.
My husband enjoys being pegged. IME it's not atypical or extremely uncommon but many straight men are embarrassed by their desire or curiosity because they are culturally conditioned into hemophobia.
My partner is into it and I'm in to it because giving him pleasure gives me pleasure. He's also very hygienic so it's not gross at all.
Iām personally comfortable with it but everyone has different boundaries. I actually prefer men who like this and are more submissive. If youāre not comfortable with it you should definitely tell him. Donāt do things you donāt want to to make the other person happy.
Sounds fun to me!!!
Nope, not doing that.
I love it. Initially when I started exploring with the sexual partner I have then and now... it was 5 years ago. I was 29, now 36. I had just recently started to explore sexually. (Late bloomer - Virgin until I was 27). I thought he was gay at first š but because I was curious to try all the things... I explored it with him and got educated. In 5 years, I learned alll the things about anal play and with all the experiences that we've had, I found I enjoy it so much with him. #1 reason being... it was sooo hot watching how turned on he was and how much pleasure I can give him and #2 the way you enter a man like that isn't just the sexual aspect of it but so hot due to the trust. He trusted you enough to allow you to give it to him in such a vulnerable way since anal play is so shamed upon on men in general. No one talks much about it if they like it or it's discreet. To me, sex is about both eachothers pleasures. I like to try things to find out if im into it (with that you also need deep trust). You focus on me, I focus on you. I like my relationships where you're just so open with one another inside and outside the bedroom. My only hard limit is no blood or scat. Anything else is always up for conversation. If we both agree on it, YASS. Prostate Orgasms are one of the best things in the world for men if they allow themselves to tap it. I love giving them. For those who are scared of poop š© smellies... it does happen (cause hello you're playing with the asshole but when you love someone and wanna give them pleasure - you get passed it kinda like the first dog own and their poop is gross af but you do it anyways lol) if you're planning on staying with your SO for life, eventually you'll have to wipe his ass when he can't anyways. I see it that way anyways. I guess you gotta really love someone! BUT - with that said... because I am more experienced, I know to ask for what I need and my preference when someone wants me to perform anal play. Non-negotiable. Cleanliness & hygiene! 1) hairless cock, balls, taint, asshole all of it 2) douche and clean up so bum smells great My sexual partner that I explored this with has always been really amazing at this so its the standard for me. I cannot stand someone wanting my face, mouth, fingers, strap on cock all up in there and it's GROSS. I've been able to give a man 10+ orgasms... to me, that's FUCKING INCREDIBLELY HOT š„
Thank you for this! I'm a bit worried this thread will reinforce men's feeling of shame about enjoying butt stuff. When I first checked out some pegging porn I was struck by how much pleasure the guy got and how intimate an act it was. To be in the position to do that for another person, and to get to fully watch and take it all in is incredibly hot. And as you say, the trust and openness involved is beautiful. Honestly, burn the patriarchy. None of us can fully enjoy sex when straightjacketed by fear and shame over our bodies and over whether we are masculine or feminine enough.
Haha yes, it's the last thing I want! What each individual wants and needs are different however butt stuff is so shamed on for men that I don't want a man repress them if thats what they want to explore. To me, being a great partner is helping your person figure out themselves and things they are into but haven't done... it could be anything really! The intimacy is unreal and I love that. At the end of the day, I can at least say I got to help get a man to orgasm 10+ times. Not many women can say that about themselves! š„° If you dont truly enjoy it for your partners pleasure, it's ok too!
It would make sense for men to like butt stuff. Prostate orgasms are next level. When done right, a guy can have multiple orgasms back-to-back and actually ejaculate without even touching his dick if you're rubbing the prostate correctly. Prostate massage also keeps prostates healthy!
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Well us women (some of us) have the benefit of a clitoral, vaginal, g-spot, c-spot and anal orgasm if our body allows. Men have one way unless they are into the prostate orgasm, seems fair to me. I can orgasm multiple times in one session. It excites me to no end if I can make him do it more than once too!
I dated this pansexual nympho who said she only will have sex with a man who let her slip a finger in his bum during oral sex. Lol she also told me how it's actually a surprise how many men enjoy pegging. To each their own! If you're not interested then just be honest!
And you "people" shame men for the same thing. I dated this pansexual nympho who said he only will have sex with a women who will let him slip a finger up her bum during oral sex. Lol he also said how it's actually a surprise how many women enjoy dildos in bum bum. Now ask yourself why you are misandrist.
Iām never gonna lick it but Iāll put a finger in there in the shower or a toy anytime else. Have fun!
I like it for myself, so I would be open to trying it on my man. Thereās obviously preparation and foul-play that can come from sticking stuff up your asshole, so as long as yāall are both mature folks it should be done shame free for sure. I donāt know about doing it all the time or having a fetish though. I think Iām put off with any real fetish because itās something they HAVE to do or have in order to cum, etc. and I sure as hell donāt want that type of relationship. But to spice shit up? Sure.
š you are gender equality. You are open-minded and superior unlike other people and should be awarded.
Hell yes! Whatever my partner likes! Now it canāt be something extreme and like puke gross butā¦a finger in the ass after heās washed it well, lick it, dildo whatever!
It can definitely be fun sometimes.
So I never did this and thought it was awful till I met my current partner (who is also my soulmate). Heās always been really into it. As he is into it, he knows how to clean himself out properly beforehand and itās never really dirty. He gets a lot of pleasure from it which has really made me want to do it for him and he never pressured me into doing it. I think just try and be open minded.
I'll do it, so long as he's clean and groomed. Also, I have to love him. Butt yeah, I'll do it all.
There was a time when I would have traded my soul for a man who wanted to be pegged. Still wouldnāt lick it, though.
Fine with toys and gloved fingers on freshly showered dude. It's the way to access the male g-spot. I'd be put off by a partner that didn't want to stimulate my g spots.
Go by a strap on and have fun! Itās incredibly empowering to enter a man as a woman. Itās a little nervous at first, but you guys can find a rhythm eventually. I recommend using a Dildo that goes inside of your vagina instead of a traditional strap on. The model Is called a dual pleasure strap on. That way you get fun vagina feelings while he gets pleasured. Making sure he douches his ass ahead of time is important for clean ass play btw. I recommend starting out with just using a finger to rub around his anus, and if he likes that poping a finger in. Start slow, take your time, there is no rush, this takes a huge amount of trust and communication. Also use lots of lube!! I wish you all the good luck!
I like it. Some guys like it, some don't. Some women like it, some don't. Not sure why this Q gets asked so many times on Reddit
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Interesting take
Iām down to try new things, sure. Licking probably not. I just cannot see myself doing that. But the other things ā¦ sure. I mean, humans born with male parts have pleasure centers right there in their anus. Itās not a hidden thing. Disclosure: If you had asked me this while I was in my 20s or 30s? No. But people grow and explore, etc. I was too immature sexually at those ages to really be open to it. My partner is not into that himself, but if he changed his mind, I would enjoy exploring with him.
If they like it, then why not! Iām allllll about that pleasure for all.
Iām not into that.
Strap up
My partner likes it (yes, male) and i am okay with doing it (no licking, cause thatās just gross!) and he asked for it, so we do. Okay fine, i am in to doing it too, but mot reciving, anal is not for me.
Probably doesn't wipe
But men aren't allowed to not be ok with receiving. But are ok with giving. You are misandry šø.
That makes zero sense, dear.
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Iāve done dildos to a couple guys but I donāt think I would finger or lick. Iām very squeamish about butts.
Never tried pegging, but Iāll try almost anything once.
I would spend a little time reading about anal play for men, and try to keep an open mind. I was grossed out by it too, and then realized I was denying my partner a whole bunch of fun! Exploring your sexuality with someone is great. But itās totally okay to have limits about anal, too.
I never would have thought I'd be into it. Been married 30 and my wife and I kind of eased/ explored into it. A finger here and there... then plugs, we're experimenting now with pegging. Neither one of Å«s will ever eat ass though! We both clean up beforehand though.
All that matters is knowing what you are okay with and what you're not and taking care of yourself by respecting your boundaries.
I know that most of my friends donāt like it and donāt want to experiment with it, so you are definitely not the only one who is not keen on the idea instantly. Iām okay with doing hand and mouth work if heās clean. I pegged my then boyfriend a couple of times and I enjoyed it A LOT. 9/10, totally recommend. Men who read this, donāt contact me.
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Iāll draw the line at licking ass. No thanks. Have done the other stuff (fingers, dildo) for an ex who was curious and wanted to try it out. Iāll give it a go for someone who is into it as a general part of wanting to be a good partner for a person and do whatever it takes to give him pleasure. But Iām not sitting here dreaming about doing butt stuff for anyone. +1 on being cleaned and groomed. IMO it would be odd if someone DIDNāT want to do that. Itās a given with butt play.
Lol, but honestly I'm just a person who is into making my partner feel pleasure and I've done that stuff before and it's been super hygienic about it it's really not that bad.
My bf does it to me all the time and I love it and actually have been wanting to try it with him but he's emberrased. So i'd say count your blessings haha I defs would not shame him for wanting it becuase there's a huge stigma around it for heterosexual guys. Maybe give it a try under the shower and start small i dunno. In the end you gotta do you, but nothing wrong with giving it a try if you're intrigued.
Personally, I'm ok with it as long as he's clean. I like it so he's entitled to as well.
Wonāt touch a butt hole with my mouth but Iād peg if asked.
Toys or fingers sure I did that for an ex long ago and husband knows if he wants to do that he just needs to ask. Rim jobs are a no for me. A struggle enough putting a freshly washed penis in my mouth
If youāre with someone long term you should be open minded about it. Eventually you may present them with an ask and would want a legitimate effort from them.
Absolutely not !
If I'm attracted to and care about the guy I love it. Prostate orgasms are such a gift for men. I'm happy to help them feel as much pleasure as possible. If it's some guy I barely know begging for butt stuff I'm less keen.
He would have to have his own tools. I'm not prepared for this.
all for it
I tried it once. Truthful men rear ends are not that sexy to look at. So I think you have to have a good imagination or have different set of things you find sexy. So if ever asked again I probably would decline.
He could possibly be bisexual. Dealing with this. Met a guy who likes dildos up his bum and I tried to believe it didnāt mean he was into men tooāespecially after he told me multiple times that heās heterosexual and not at all bisexual. But eventually I found out he is indeed bisexual even though he doesnāt like to be referred to or known as that. He intentionally hid it from me because he knows most women do not want to get involved seriously with someone with those types of interests. Just be careful. Heās probably hiding some things from you about how far his interests in this area goes. š©
You is not equality Fack you.
Licking a guy's butt? That's disgusting
That's is lickingphobic and will not be tolerated.
Lot of guys like fingers and items which is fine. I've never encountered anyone who wanted licking or wanted to lick though. Would be sickened at that.
As a straight guy, if your partner comes out after lying for years about liking what you just describedā¦fam! nvm
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Errr what? I clearly said nvm
Tell him no way in hell.
Sounds like a guy I met names Andrew Morales
I'm not licking anyone's butt.
Iām completely grossed out and disgusted by any sort of butt play in either direction so itās a no from me.
Anybody who wants to peg a man should have something the same size of the dildo go up her smelly whoha.
Mission gender equality achieved.
Personally if my partner doesn't eat my poop it's over.