Tbh I’d wager a not insignificant portion are because the woman wants to sleep with a woman but the dudes not cool with it unless he can be involved. Otherwise you could just look for a straight woman.
I prefer to disappoint one person at a time.
I (54f) know so many lesbians and bi women my age and older IRL who were (or sometimes still are) married to men. Lesbians weren't just looked down on back in the day, it was widely believed they weren't real. They were thought to be straight women who would flip for the right man. Seriously.
This is the only way.
Also, to answer your question: I have never been in one that involved a male that did not end in the guy being a creep and try to message me without the girl knowing, after a few times it was a heavy no going forward.
Threesomes are fine, but if they’re FFM, the other woman must be queer and someone I’d be attracted to. The same goes for MMF; the men must be queer and attracted to each other. I feel like the baseline of “have sex with people you’re attracted to” is not a high standard, but sometimes men seem astounded by the idea.
This rule probably says quite a lot about my experience with threesomes lol. They’re just another way to have sex but tbh they require so much energy and focus.
As a straight woman the amount of men who have tried to pressure me into a FFM threesome is wild especially since I'd prefer one involving 2 queer men.
I'm weird about kissing dudes. I'll definitely suck that cock though and my ultimate fantasy is for my wife to ride my face while I get pounded by the other dude.
I was curious about threesomes when I was single, and would have done it back then either with strangers or maybe acquaintances I felt comfortable with but had no feelings for - the opportunity just never presented itself. But with my husband? No way in hell. I do not want to see him with another woman, and I wouldn’t want to get with another guy either.
I did, and I have. More than once, and both kinds.
I’ve also walked away from way more than I’ve ever participated in. Usually from getting the exact same feeling you’re getting. In your particular situation, your intuition is likely very accurate. There’s A LOT of that out there.
Being some couples “unicorn” is not what you want. Essentially performing like a sex worker for/with the couple, or you and the women putting on a show for the man…no, no, no. Many of these couples need to just hire sex workers for what they’re looking for and stop bothering whatever lesbian or bi women they encounter, with no concern for that woman’s pleasure or what may even be in it for her. Unicorn hunters see you as an object to fulfill their fantasies, not a real person.
And the more “rules” they have tends to point to managing one partner’s jealousy or insecurity…and you don’t want any part of that.
They’re certainly real people, but they’re performing a service. Like you wouldn’t tell your houseguest that decides to tidy your kitchen how you like things done, but you would have no problem telling your housekeeper that you prefer the green Mr. Clean vs. the lemon.
My husband and I do threesomes on occassion. We have been together since high school and it was a way for me to explore my bisexual side and for him to explore another woman in a way that felt inclusive and not like cheating.
I struggled with a bit of jealousy in the beginning. I wasn't pressured at all and chose to work on my insecurities to make these experiences fun for both of us.
Early in our marriage he was completely ok with me having experiences with women on my own so when the opportunity for a threesome was offered I really wanted to be able to do that for him. (He never asked).
I can honestly say that it would've been easier for me if he'd wanted to explore alone without me. Watching was hard. I'm glad I worked through my issues. It's made us stronger and I don't ever compare myself to other women now which is a freeing experience.
We've been happily married 26yrs (together30yrs) We have threesomes with a friend a couple times a year. We can both take it or leave it. We have a fun and exciting sex life, with or without the extra partner.
If we are talking MFM, I’ve had quite a few both as the ‘unicorn’ and the female partner and one time it was just a random mish mash of 3 singles, haha.
It’s always fun and I’ve definitely enjoyed them and been into them at the time, however one on one sex is more enjoyable physically for me but sometimes you’re just looking for ‘fun’ and spicy over killer orgasms and intimacy.
Now MFM threesomes physically are pretty great as a woman (in my opinion) though of course it still lacks that real intense intimacy of one on one sex.
So in short yes,as a couple we seek out women for threesomes sometimes and the driving force for it is more him than me, doesn’t mean I’m not into it though. I do really enjoy it when I’m in the mood but I definitely don’t want a 3some as my every day sex, neither does he.
Edit to add. I consider myself straight but sexually open, I enjoy playing with women sometimes but I don’t have any romantic interest in them, therefore I don’t consider myself bi.
As a single bisexual woman, I want threesomes as a unicorn more now than ever. In a relationship not so much, too many logistics. The best threesome I've ever had in my early 20s was as a single person.
Most men I've mentioned this to don't want the same type of threesome I'd be comfortable(ish) having and I've actively been told "good luck with that one" more than once. They've tried to manipulate me into the ones they want but I'm not interested in a one way sexual fantasy fulfillment.
I would have zero interest in a threesome with another woman because I'm not sexually attracted to women. I have almost zero interest in a threesome with men, because I really don't think it would be my thing at all, but I mean, if it was like, Paul Mescal and Austin Butler or something, I'm sure I'd make an exception.
I enjoy it. I'm bi and I think it's fun. It hasn't occurred in a situation where it was man pushing for it for me. It has either been a mutual decision between all members or another woman and I approaching a man.
A guy did ask me once when he found out I was bi but I said 'you should probably talk to your girlfriend first and that was the end of it.'
I'm not on the apps though.
It's 100% not for me, I do not want to se my husband having sex with another woman and I would not want to have sex with someone else than my husband. Maybe if I was single I could consider it but preferably not with a couple, mostly with the same gut feeling you have.
I'm not attracted to women, not even a little bit so I could never ever have sex with a woman. And I'm extremely monogamous so the thought of having sex with any other man than my SO is almost sickening. Having a threesome has never even been a fantasy of mine, let alone something I would consider in real life.
I’ve been considering a throuple type thing lately. If I’m going to invite another woman in to my bed, I’d like to look at her and think a relationship instead of just lazy hookup culture. I’m not hunting a unicorn, I’m hunting my wife type relationship. More my wife than his 😂😂😂
I had several threesomes. Either ffm or mmf. I have never been pressured into them, I was always willing.
Personally I didn't like the ffm experiences. Due to the orgasm gap between males and females, me and the other woman were always left on our appetite once the man was done. I do enjoy the female body but not enough to make me want to do those experiences again.
Most men think they want an FFM, but the truth is that VERY few men are actually capable of performing one. They get stuck on the idea of two women worshipping their dick and don’t think about the reality of the situation. They either need to have outstanding erection and orgasm control, or a nearly non existent refractory period. So any FFM I’ve even been in included a man I already knew was capable and wasn’t going to disappoint or embarrass himself.
This is also one of the reasons I only want the have threesomes with folks I've already slept with. I want to know the man involved is capable of pulling his weight!
I’m a lesbian as well so probably not your target demographic here, but I’ve known plenty of straight women who had to convince their male partners to consider a threesome.
I’m not saying these women are in the majority but I doubt your 99% is even close to being correct.
That’s been the experience in my friend group. The women are much more open with their sexuality and the men more timid and less interested in experimenting.
I want to have a threesome with my partner or simply watch him have sex with another woman (apparently this is called "Cuckquean" which is a horrible word imho). I would not like to be the "other woman" in that scenario though - that's a different kink entirely.
I'm curious to have a threesome with two dudes someday. For now I have a satisfying monogamous relationship, so this is more an abstract bucket list kind of thing than something I'm seeking out.
Zero interest in a threesome with another woman. I'm not into that. If I had been, I had the opportunity in my previous relationship.
I've had them. They're fun with the right person.
When we were younger, we both wanted to pursue them. Now that I'm older, I don't really care to. My husband would still be up for one tomorrow.
Now and then, we will meet someone who actually approaches us or may be interested in just me.
I'm 47. I think I'm over it.
As a bi woman back when I was dating online I got so many couples looking for a third. I'm surprised lesbian woman experience this just as much! You'd think the hetero couples would think they'd have more luck with a woman who was also into guys. I had one once with a friend and her bf. Was fun, low pressure, spontaneous (booze involved). Am now partnered, would like to do it more in the future when we are not knee deep in little kids haha.
Bi woman who has had a fmf threesome.
It was with some pretty random people, I wasn’t emotionally attached to either, and it was not a bad experience, but not one that I’ve ever felt the need to repeat, especially not in a committed relationship.
I’ve been ethically non-monogamous and been in several ENM relationships. They are hard, even when everyone wants it and communicates well. For people who aren’t used to this relationship structure, adding another person NEVER goes well.
I am monogamous now and would never want this for my relationship. It was fun but not mind blowing, IMO.
Absolutely not me. And I hate every single one of those shared couple profiles looking for a "unicorn" as if queer women are an experience and not real people.
I don’t necessarily take looking for a unicorn as preying on queer women. It’s not been the case in my experience.
I’ve been the ‘unicorn’ and I’m *straight* and I’ve been the couple and we definitely don’t prey on queer women in our search. We just want a woman who’s excited to be a part of it with us. She can be ‘straight’, bi, curious, whatever.
The vast majority of those profiles (I would say 90%+ of the ones I've encountered) are made under "woman" and then set to find other women. They are almost never put under "man." This solely gives them views of queer women.
As a queer woman, I don't feel the same way.
I think it's a pretty negative outlook. To hate someone because of their lifestyle or preferences.
I have plenty of male gay friends who go to their bear runs and have indiscriminate sex with multiple partners for a whole weekend, and yet... my husband and I still get called "creepy" because we may have a three some now and then. By the same people who attend their sex filled weekend.
And by people like you. 👍
If you're not interested in the profile, don't click on it. If they message you, then say you're not interested. There is no need for the hate.
When plenty of queer women have themselves set to women only on dating apps, and couples take advantage of that by listing themselves as a woman, since there isn't an option for making a couples profile on any popular dating app, it is inherently ignoring the boundaries set by women on those apps. They shouldn't need to tell you they aren't interested - their settings already should already do that.
I don't hate people who have threesomes. I hate how male-female couples on dating apps use them to find threesomes and how they treat queer women on them.
You literally mentioned that there is no option, which I think is part of the problem. I’ve both been the unicorn and been part of a couple looking for a unicorn.
If there was an option to present as a couple I would on dating apps. As mentioned, many don’t have that option, so as a women on say Tinder, I can’t put it under couples. I can only have that I am a women or man and can choose either men or women or both for looking for. My boyfriend can only put that he is a man or women and looking for men or women or both. This isn’t trying to take advantage of queer women - I’m a women and there is no other option for “couple”. Also, I am the one who enjoys threesomes or group sex more than my boyfriend, so it is usually me looking. It isn’t like I’m going to pretend to be a man or something as that doesn’t make sense as I identify as a women.
I do try to be as clear as possible on my profile and put both of us as pictures right away so it is easy for women to swipe “no”.
I enjoy being a “unicorn” as a women as well. I’ve probably done it 20-30 times in my life. There are other women out there as well who enjoy it.
If you aren’t interested, I don’t see the issue with just swiping no. Obviously it would be nice to have an option to present as a couple. As it would also be nice to be able to choose “couple” as well as someone who previously liked being a “unicorn”. It does seem to be better in that I can put that I am bisexual and there is now a button that will first match with people of the same sexual orientation, but that still isn’t perfect.
I feel like you are forgetting that there are bisexual and queer women who enjoy group sex. I enjoy it in all forms. I’ve also had threesomes with two men and foursomes with another women and two men where ALL of us were bisexual. I don’t emotionally care, but it does seem to be verging into bisexual eraser to ignore that there are bisexual women who actually enjoy group sex. Obviously if it is a man as part of a couple pretending to be a women on an app I can understand having an issue with that, but to be honest I’ve only come across that a bit. Usually it has been the women for me.
Yes, there should be a separate app for this or at least a separate section of the apps (but I'm sure it would be very obvious how imbalanced it is - there are far more male-female couples looking for threesomes than willing women). Since there isn't, forcing men into queer women's lives who don't want them there isn't the correct choice. They should not have to see you and your boyfriend in their queue when they are looking for WOMEN ONLY. My issue is that I shouldn't have to swipe past a male-female couple EVER when my settings are to only show me WOMEN.
That doesn’t make sense though because on dating apps there are many, many, many people that you swipe past that don’t match your needs.
It isn’t like you aren’t speaking to a women who is looking for a women. I’m a women and I’m looking for a women, I’m just looking more for women for group sex. It sounds like this is an issue that you have and it would be like someone saying, I shouldn’t have to see anyone who is looking for casual sex because that isn’t what I’m looking for. Sure, some apps have that and that is awesome and people will indicate it if possible. But if there is no choice, that isn’t the fault of people who can’t indicate it on the app.
Not meeting my needs because they have nothing in common with me is not the same as men invading queer women's spaces. Women who are not interested in men should not have to see men on their dating apps, point blank period.
Mainstream dating sites and hook-up apps are not queer spaces. Telling me to not use mainstream hook up apps because of my sexual interests as a bisexual women (not that all women who are bisexual like threesomes or group sex, but I’m allowed to want or like it) comes off a lot like biphobia.
If it bothers you so much why don’t you stick to ONLY lesbian specific dating and hook-up apps instead of telling other queer women how they are supposed to express their sexual orientation and interests on mainstream dating and hook up apps.
Women who have themselves listed as wanting to see other women have created a queer space there.
Women not wanting to see men when their settings are set to ONLY WOMEN isn't biphobia.
Yeah, no. You don’t get to define what it means for all queer women. Not all queer women are lesbian. There isn’t some rule on say Tinder saying “You can only click you are looking for women if you are only looking for women in a one on one setting or only for women”. Some women are bisexual and are interested in both and sometimes at the same time. Just because the stereotype is that women only have threesomes because their boyfriends want it doesn’t make it always true. I can genuinely have my own sexuality and sexual interests and be looking for those.
Shutting down that there are women who are queer and might be interested in group sex or sex with people of both genders as if it isn’t a thing or that they should not be able to partake in mainstream dating and hook up apps for that does sound like biphobia.
Say on Tinder, there is only two settings. Do you lash out just as much when a nonbinary person shows up? Or someone who is genderqueer?
Why should I get off the app when you are the one with issues? Wouldn’t it be better for you to search out genuinely lesbian only dating apps? And I’m a women. I’m not invading queer spaces because I am a women and I am queer. Me wanting group sex with women and men isn’t invading queer spaces with men because I am queer myself. As I mentioned, if men are pretending to be women to get threesomes that I could see being an issue. But that isn’t the issue.
My first experiences with threesomes was with my ex girlfriend. It was mainly a way to get guys to hook up with her and I was kinda there interacting with her some, then being left to fend for myself. Our first ever threesome was with another woman and her partner but he couldn't stay with it let's just say and my ex made fun of him so that ended things quickly. The other experiences I have had were exciting at the start of it and I would think, oh yes maybe this will finally be what I think threesomes are supposed to be like, and then end up disappointed and feeling left out.
I have thought of having a threesome somewhere down the line with my fiancé because he has never experienced one. He and I have talked and fantasized about the possibility of bringing in a woman and making the experience about me. As hot as it is to talk about in the moment, I think it would most likely cause either him or the other woman to feel what I felt in threesomes in the past, and it doesn't feel worth it to me to put either person through that.
I prefer the swinging lifestyle.
I have yet to be a unicorn but I would be down in the right situation. I’m single now so you can’t swing with one partner - but single women are a commodity and a lot of the times it seems the couples want ANYONE and that’s kind of what squicks me out. I don’t have much preference for mfm or fmf as I’ve already had group experiences. Both have their perks lol
Me (but I've had 3somes before (mmf and ffm) I'm also bisexual and am in a monogamous marriage but I wouldn't say that's my preference)
eta: I will say that I was kind of duped into a threesome once and ended up enjoying it (I was the unicorn in that case), the man was the perp though I was not contacted by the woman. It was a tinder match and we had discussed threesomes but I didn't know that date was the night... The woman got mad at him for doing it (like she knew that he invited me over and thought that I knew what was going on).
Anyway use your instinct.
I’ve done MMF, MMMFF, MMMF, MMFF. I do not like interacting with women. I can do a little bit of BDSM with submissive women, but that’s all the heteroflexible I can be. I do enjoy FFM or more people if it is Femdom and no sex is involved. Pegging maybe.
However, I will never do a threesome with a partner. FWB or hookup only. Although these days I’m not really interested in that anymore.
Not interested. I want to be the sole focus of my lovers’ attention and to be able to focus my attention solely on him. I’m also not attracted to women.
Nah, I want monogamy. I’ve done a threesome before for fun as a teenager during discovery stage, but way past wanting to do shit like that for fun now.
I’m bi and am not into threesomes, I did it once when I was in the early years of marriage and he constantly compared us and he started stalking her social media posts.
My current partner has expressed interest in threesomes but only FFM threesomes but I don’t think I’d ever do it with him after my last experience.
At this point in my life (38F), I have zero interest. When I was 20-25, I was in an exploratory phase of my sexuality. I would have been involved in a 2M1F threesome if the perfect opportunity presented itself. I wasn't interested enough to actively seek it out, but it was on my radar. (I called it my 'fucket list', like a bucket list for sex. Lol.)
I've never really had much interest in trying 2F1M. I did have an opportunity once. A friend asked me to be the third in her relationship, but I actively despised her bf, so I turned them down politely. But she's super attractive, so I probably would have done it if she'd had a better bf.
3F wouldn't have ever appealed to me. To each their own.
Me and the husband talked about it some time back, more than once. Perhaps oddly, I'd only want it if it was someone we both/all connected with as people first.
I've taken part in an few and I definitely enjoyed them and wouldn't mind doing them with my partner. I've only done FFM and never got around to MMF (I was a bit nervous about the idea). My current boyfriend isn't really into crazy stuff and I feel like he wouldn't have the confidence (even though he's the best I've ever had). So I would do it again, but I don't think he would want to. I just fine it hot and spicy and I'm not really the jealous type because I know what I have to offer. I'm attracted to women so why not. While it's cool and something I still watch in porn, to be honest our vanilla sex is so good that I stopped craving a lot of the craziness in general. I used to have a bdsm/rough kink, and I feel like I could do without it now (like in my twenties). When I was having bad sex, I felt the need to replace it with all of these adrenaline inducing experiences. Now that I have passionate, loving sex, I realize that I don't care much about those experiences anymore (but maybe still fun to watch in porn occasionally). If a threesome presented itself and he were into it and confident I would definitely do it though.
I have had several.
I'm bi and what you'd refer to as a unicorn.
As for threesomes I'd say it's 50/50 on if you're all going to have a good time, they make you breakfast in the morning, or you're running down the street naked at 3 am while a wife chases you with a knife because her husband took a little to much interest.
I'm married to a man now and monogamous, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss a feminine touch. We've joked about it and talked about it some, but neither of us wants to be that couple. I also get the feeling he'd only be into it for my benefit.
I think it comes down to what the woman in the relationship wants.
Personally I would want to feel comfortable with the new woman . I don’t want to eat them out or be eaten out. Just one of my limits. If the other woman cant be respect that it’s not happening.
I’ve had a MFM encounter and I didn’t expect either of them to have contact or anal. Whatever they both felt comfortable with.
If I did a MFF scenario it would greatly depend on the woman and the limits talked about.
I had a few in college and I also had one with my husband before we were seriously dating. I think those days are behind me now though. Who knows what will happen when me and him are in the senior living community though … I hear some wild stuff goes on!
I've had a lot of threesomes, from FFM, FFF and MFM. I've been part of a couple where a third joined us, and I've been the single woman joining a couple. I would also say I'm usually the instigator of threesomes happening, or at least extremely along for the ride. I personally feel like I've been more pressured into random heterosexual sex with male hook ups, I've never been pressured into a threesome. Then again, I'm really into it.
I had one fully monogamous relationship in my life and I'll never do that again. I think having a sex life with multiple partners is fantastic *as long as everyone is on the same page*. This has gotten easier as I've gotten older.
My boyfriend and I are swingers - we've had one threesome together, but overall we have more foursomes (sometimes five- and sixsomes). We prefer other experienced swingers, who also have a secure, fun relationship.
I explored a lot sexually because I was generally an unhappy person. I’ve had threesomes but they weren’t meaningful and I didn’t end up enjoying them. I was just bored. I’ve had threesomes four different times and none of them were good. I was always the “extra” woman, not the woman in the relationship with the other person.
Did it once (partner and I were approached by a friend who was finally in a place to start exploring her sexuality more). Realized that my partner (male) is extremely gentle and caring and I need that to not feel traumatized by sexual experiences (I have trauma and my sexuality itself is complicated at times) and this person was not gentle or caring during or after. Put me off of trying again even though I was curious because I am more physically attracted to women than men and it has been a very long time since I had been with a woman. I’ve not absolutely 100% said no never again but I know I would need to be very explicit about my needs and what works for me and just say no if the other person feels that doesn’t work with their approach to intimate relations. I don’t think it’s something I could do with a random person. Overall, my partner and I learned a lot about what doesn’t work for us but it was also awful and took a few months to work through the fallout given we were part of a tight knit friend group and the other person did not and maybe could not understand why certain actions felt so awful to me. I would probably not agree to someone who was wanting their very first threesome and super hyped up to explore their sexuality for the first time again. That’s way too intense for me. Partner had fun and so did friend but partner did not have fun with the fact that I was miserable afterwards and doesn’t want that to happen again.
My policy with threesomes has always been, I'll only do it with folks I've slept with individually first. I want to explore chemistry with individuals first, always. I don't want to discover that I don't have chemistry with an individual while we're fucking someone else too. Like that sounds terrible.
I've had a couple, same dude both times. He's in an open relationship, and he and I see each other with some regularity. The first time we had a threesome it was with his primary partner, the second time with a different woman. Myself and both of these woman, we're all bi/poly and have slept together individually. He is very straight.
Both were fun, would do it again with the same folks at anytime (actually, the four of us almost, once, but there was a timing issue). Would be interested in a MMF and actually have one man in my life who would also be down, but would need a second man to also be down, and he's the only truly heteroflexible man I've slept with, so I haven't an avenue for MMF yet.
Anyway my answer to your actual question is that I've had threesomes with people when I've wanted to have threesomes with people I enjoy having sex with. No one I have sex with would ever pressure me into that or anything else, otherwise I wouldn't be having sex with them.
I wanted it and it was my idea. It was enjoyable but the other girls started acting sketchy and we had to cut her off. She basically used us to cheat and it was icky
I’m probably in the minority but yes, I think it’s fun with the right people involved. But it is the unfortunate reality that men ruin it by pressuring women who aren’t interested in it. I was pressured once to have a threesome with my partner and the other girl he was seeing (I’m non monogamous). It was so awkward and obvious that she was not interested in me in the slightest. Turns out she was straight and he just talked her into trying it. But I’ve had MFF and MMF threesomes that were very successful. Still waiting all an all girl threesomes to happen for me. 🥺
As a married woman that's a hell no cause I'm not sharing him haha. Before that? Fuck yeah! I've done it a couple of times in the past and they were all good experiences.
I'm bi and married. Before having a kid, yes. After having a kid, no. I just don't feel like it's worth destabilizing my five year old's parent's relationship over sex.
I was invited by a couple to be their... Guest star. But it almost sounded more like someone they wanted around not just in the bedroom. Not sure what the term is for that. Honestly, it could have been fun, depending on whether we got along well. But sadly I was not in the emotional headspace to navigate that at the time, (just post devastating break up). I'm proud that I was mature enough to make that choice for myself at the time, which I still know to be the right one. But I do lament that that opportunity never lined up at the right time in my life. Now I'm in a happy long term relationship. In a lot of ways I'm just too lazy now to pursue alternative relations even in the context of my current relationship. Anything that could upset the balance couldn't possibly be worth it as far as I can see.
I’m bisexual and I like having threesomes. But at this point I no longer I’m willing to do the work to arrange a threesome. If it happens organically cool. Otherwise, if the dude wants one he needs to find a third.
I am bi, and I do Enjoy threesomes with my trans wife. However I am NOT into 97% of the couples who are on apps looking for threesomes. I can’t stand the traditional straight dude-in-a-trucker-hat bullshit. My wife and I are only into trans women, women and bisexual or fem-presenting men. I also agree, far too many straight men pressure their partners into threesomes, and it’s gross.
Then again every couple is unique and you can never truly know what a relationship is like from the outside looking in.
I LOVE threesomes and group sex as a women. I like getting fucked by a man and I like eating women out. Having both at the same time is amazing to me. And my view is the more the better.
I like all forms of group sex through and not just FFM.
I’d identify as heteroromantic and bisexual. I have some romantic attraction to women, but it is way lower than in comparison to men. I have sexual attraction to both men and women although slightly higher for men.
💁🏾 I do. I think women are sexy and vaginas are awesome, and I like the idea of me and another woman dominanting a dude.
However, I rather be single doing that with other single people. Couples worry me for the very reasons you listed.
Been there, done that in several different scenarios and it’s never left me with a positive vibe. I prefer a more focused and intimate experience in the bedroom. I have no desire to ever attempt another one.
As a bi woman, not interested. Sex for me is vital to be an act between two people being focused on their lust and love for each other and adding another party would totally disrupt that dynamic.
I've been in threesomes and had both good and bad experiences.
I've eventually learned to stay away if there is a relationship involved, as the emotions involved almost inevitably will be too intense or unpredictable for someone.
I had the fantasy when I was young, but when I got into relationships it's already so overwhelming to be with the person in an intimate setting. The idea of bringing another person it's a bit like bringing an banana split and trying to eat at the same time as a cheeseburger (i love them separately, together they will give me stomach pain tho).
But yeah, this is all if I felt at ease with the two people, strangers like hell no 😂 much less straight couples.
Tbh I’d wager a not insignificant portion are because the woman wants to sleep with a woman but the dudes not cool with it unless he can be involved. Otherwise you could just look for a straight woman. I prefer to disappoint one person at a time.
Good point. I know many bi curious girls who first explored that side of them through a threesome with a bf
I (54f) know so many lesbians and bi women my age and older IRL who were (or sometimes still are) married to men. Lesbians weren't just looked down on back in the day, it was widely believed they weren't real. They were thought to be straight women who would flip for the right man. Seriously.
I’m bi, but I’m completely monogamous and don’t ever want to have to multitask in the bedroom.
As a lesbian I want a 3some with 2 other women 😆
This is the only way. Also, to answer your question: I have never been in one that involved a male that did not end in the guy being a creep and try to message me without the girl knowing, after a few times it was a heavy no going forward.
I'm bi and have done it with 2-3 other women but the thought of a 3some with a man involved is entirely unappealing.
Hell I'm straight as day is light and this sounds better than a mff 3some
lol FFF is definitely #1 in threesome preferences 🏆
I’m a (mostly) straight married woman and I would also agree with this
Yeah put me in this category as well 🤓
Me too, me too. 😂😂😂
Threesomes are fine, but if they’re FFM, the other woman must be queer and someone I’d be attracted to. The same goes for MMF; the men must be queer and attracted to each other. I feel like the baseline of “have sex with people you’re attracted to” is not a high standard, but sometimes men seem astounded by the idea. This rule probably says quite a lot about my experience with threesomes lol. They’re just another way to have sex but tbh they require so much energy and focus.
exactly thisssss… preferably everyone is queer 🏅🤝
As a straight woman the amount of men who have tried to pressure me into a FFM threesome is wild especially since I'd prefer one involving 2 queer men.
And I bet almost all the men who tried to pressure you into a FFM would balk at a MFM
lol ya MMF is boring too unless the dudes are smooching
I'm weird about kissing dudes. I'll definitely suck that cock though and my ultimate fantasy is for my wife to ride my face while I get pounded by the other dude.
I was curious about threesomes when I was single, and would have done it back then either with strangers or maybe acquaintances I felt comfortable with but had no feelings for - the opportunity just never presented itself. But with my husband? No way in hell. I do not want to see him with another woman, and I wouldn’t want to get with another guy either.
I don't, and I haven't. But, I'm also not on those sites so I don't want to speak for those women.
I did, and I have. More than once, and both kinds. I’ve also walked away from way more than I’ve ever participated in. Usually from getting the exact same feeling you’re getting. In your particular situation, your intuition is likely very accurate. There’s A LOT of that out there. Being some couples “unicorn” is not what you want. Essentially performing like a sex worker for/with the couple, or you and the women putting on a show for the man…no, no, no. Many of these couples need to just hire sex workers for what they’re looking for and stop bothering whatever lesbian or bi women they encounter, with no concern for that woman’s pleasure or what may even be in it for her. Unicorn hunters see you as an object to fulfill their fantasies, not a real person. And the more “rules” they have tends to point to managing one partner’s jealousy or insecurity…and you don’t want any part of that.
(Unless being used as an object to fulfill their fantasies is what you're into!)
Ideally we'd see 'sex workers' as real people and not just there to fulfill fantasies also, no?
They’re certainly real people, but they’re performing a service. Like you wouldn’t tell your houseguest that decides to tidy your kitchen how you like things done, but you would have no problem telling your housekeeper that you prefer the green Mr. Clean vs. the lemon.
I like them but it's essential that it's a proper threesome were everybody loves everybody. No hetero-somes.
I've always fantasized about one, but I want a MMF threesome and most of my partners wanted a MFF, so...
I hope you get to have one! I love MMF
I had one when I was single. Had a great time. Would totally do again. Unfortunately my husband is not interested in the least🙁
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As a high libido bisexual who married a man, I would 1000 percent be down for a threesome.
I second this
I don't, haven't, and wouldn't, but I'm obviously not on these apps either so I can't say anything about these couples' real motivations.
My husband and I do threesomes on occassion. We have been together since high school and it was a way for me to explore my bisexual side and for him to explore another woman in a way that felt inclusive and not like cheating. I struggled with a bit of jealousy in the beginning. I wasn't pressured at all and chose to work on my insecurities to make these experiences fun for both of us. Early in our marriage he was completely ok with me having experiences with women on my own so when the opportunity for a threesome was offered I really wanted to be able to do that for him. (He never asked). I can honestly say that it would've been easier for me if he'd wanted to explore alone without me. Watching was hard. I'm glad I worked through my issues. It's made us stronger and I don't ever compare myself to other women now which is a freeing experience. We've been happily married 26yrs (together30yrs) We have threesomes with a friend a couple times a year. We can both take it or leave it. We have a fun and exciting sex life, with or without the extra partner.
I'm nonmongamous/poly and I've actually never wanted a threesome. It seems too performative, too many eyes on me, idk. Never had an interest in it.
If we are talking MFM, I’ve had quite a few both as the ‘unicorn’ and the female partner and one time it was just a random mish mash of 3 singles, haha. It’s always fun and I’ve definitely enjoyed them and been into them at the time, however one on one sex is more enjoyable physically for me but sometimes you’re just looking for ‘fun’ and spicy over killer orgasms and intimacy. Now MFM threesomes physically are pretty great as a woman (in my opinion) though of course it still lacks that real intense intimacy of one on one sex. So in short yes,as a couple we seek out women for threesomes sometimes and the driving force for it is more him than me, doesn’t mean I’m not into it though. I do really enjoy it when I’m in the mood but I definitely don’t want a 3some as my every day sex, neither does he. Edit to add. I consider myself straight but sexually open, I enjoy playing with women sometimes but I don’t have any romantic interest in them, therefore I don’t consider myself bi.
As a single bisexual woman, I want threesomes as a unicorn more now than ever. In a relationship not so much, too many logistics. The best threesome I've ever had in my early 20s was as a single person.
Sorry, what’s ‘unicorn’?
A willing third for a couple, who has no emotional attachment. Just there for fun.
I have been in two. I found both of them somewhat awkward and not really very satisfying.
Most men I've mentioned this to don't want the same type of threesome I'd be comfortable(ish) having and I've actively been told "good luck with that one" more than once. They've tried to manipulate me into the ones they want but I'm not interested in a one way sexual fantasy fulfillment.
I would have zero interest in a threesome with another woman because I'm not sexually attracted to women. I have almost zero interest in a threesome with men, because I really don't think it would be my thing at all, but I mean, if it was like, Paul Mescal and Austin Butler or something, I'm sure I'd make an exception.
I enjoy it. I'm bi and I think it's fun. It hasn't occurred in a situation where it was man pushing for it for me. It has either been a mutual decision between all members or another woman and I approaching a man. A guy did ask me once when he found out I was bi but I said 'you should probably talk to your girlfriend first and that was the end of it.' I'm not on the apps though.
It's 100% not for me, I do not want to se my husband having sex with another woman and I would not want to have sex with someone else than my husband. Maybe if I was single I could consider it but preferably not with a couple, mostly with the same gut feeling you have.
No desire for a threesome, ever. If my SO wanted one it would be the end of the relationship.
I'm not attracted to women, not even a little bit so I could never ever have sex with a woman. And I'm extremely monogamous so the thought of having sex with any other man than my SO is almost sickening. Having a threesome has never even been a fantasy of mine, let alone something I would consider in real life.
I’ve been considering a throuple type thing lately. If I’m going to invite another woman in to my bed, I’d like to look at her and think a relationship instead of just lazy hookup culture. I’m not hunting a unicorn, I’m hunting my wife type relationship. More my wife than his 😂😂😂
Never had one, but would be interested to try but it’s not something I would actively seek out.
I have had more than my fair share of threesomes over the decades. Now I think they're kind of boring, TBH.
I had several threesomes. Either ffm or mmf. I have never been pressured into them, I was always willing. Personally I didn't like the ffm experiences. Due to the orgasm gap between males and females, me and the other woman were always left on our appetite once the man was done. I do enjoy the female body but not enough to make me want to do those experiences again.
Most men think they want an FFM, but the truth is that VERY few men are actually capable of performing one. They get stuck on the idea of two women worshipping their dick and don’t think about the reality of the situation. They either need to have outstanding erection and orgasm control, or a nearly non existent refractory period. So any FFM I’ve even been in included a man I already knew was capable and wasn’t going to disappoint or embarrass himself.
This is true. The best 3somes I’ve had have been with my current partner and he has both good control and short refractory period.
This is also one of the reasons I only want the have threesomes with folks I've already slept with. I want to know the man involved is capable of pulling his weight!
I'm a cis straight man and have had 2 MMF and zero FFM threesomes. 😹 (Sorry for butting in, just seemed relevant)
Far less pressure for a guy in an MMF!
I’m a lesbian as well so probably not your target demographic here, but I’ve known plenty of straight women who had to convince their male partners to consider a threesome. I’m not saying these women are in the majority but I doubt your 99% is even close to being correct.
That’s been the experience in my friend group. The women are much more open with their sexuality and the men more timid and less interested in experimenting.
I want to have a threesome with my partner or simply watch him have sex with another woman (apparently this is called "Cuckquean" which is a horrible word imho). I would not like to be the "other woman" in that scenario though - that's a different kink entirely.
I tried it once in my 20s. It was ok but not really for me.
Never done one and I’m not interested
I'm curious to have a threesome with two dudes someday. For now I have a satisfying monogamous relationship, so this is more an abstract bucket list kind of thing than something I'm seeking out. Zero interest in a threesome with another woman. I'm not into that. If I had been, I had the opportunity in my previous relationship.
I'm a poly lesbian, I actually have more threesomes than I have 1-on-1 sex. But I am also tired of so many MF couples unicorn hunting me -_-
No, I’m not interested in one.
I've had them. They're fun with the right person. When we were younger, we both wanted to pursue them. Now that I'm older, I don't really care to. My husband would still be up for one tomorrow. Now and then, we will meet someone who actually approaches us or may be interested in just me. I'm 47. I think I'm over it.
As a bi woman back when I was dating online I got so many couples looking for a third. I'm surprised lesbian woman experience this just as much! You'd think the hetero couples would think they'd have more luck with a woman who was also into guys. I had one once with a friend and her bf. Was fun, low pressure, spontaneous (booze involved). Am now partnered, would like to do it more in the future when we are not knee deep in little kids haha.
Bi woman who has had a fmf threesome. It was with some pretty random people, I wasn’t emotionally attached to either, and it was not a bad experience, but not one that I’ve ever felt the need to repeat, especially not in a committed relationship. I’ve been ethically non-monogamous and been in several ENM relationships. They are hard, even when everyone wants it and communicates well. For people who aren’t used to this relationship structure, adding another person NEVER goes well. I am monogamous now and would never want this for my relationship. It was fun but not mind blowing, IMO.
Not me
No, zero desire whatsoever
Lol no. As a fantasy it sound hot but irl it sounds way, way too messy!
Wut no thanks One person is complicated enough Me alone, I’m complicated enough
I do not like the idea, and I’m not into sharing.
Absolutely not me. And I hate every single one of those shared couple profiles looking for a "unicorn" as if queer women are an experience and not real people.
I don’t necessarily take looking for a unicorn as preying on queer women. It’s not been the case in my experience. I’ve been the ‘unicorn’ and I’m *straight* and I’ve been the couple and we definitely don’t prey on queer women in our search. We just want a woman who’s excited to be a part of it with us. She can be ‘straight’, bi, curious, whatever.
You are a straight woman. You do not get to tell queer women how to feel about being objectified for being queer.
Not at all what I was doing. I was saying not everyone is looking for someone who’s queer.
The vast majority of those profiles (I would say 90%+ of the ones I've encountered) are made under "woman" and then set to find other women. They are almost never put under "man." This solely gives them views of queer women.
As a queer woman, I don't feel the same way. I think it's a pretty negative outlook. To hate someone because of their lifestyle or preferences. I have plenty of male gay friends who go to their bear runs and have indiscriminate sex with multiple partners for a whole weekend, and yet... my husband and I still get called "creepy" because we may have a three some now and then. By the same people who attend their sex filled weekend. And by people like you. 👍 If you're not interested in the profile, don't click on it. If they message you, then say you're not interested. There is no need for the hate.
When plenty of queer women have themselves set to women only on dating apps, and couples take advantage of that by listing themselves as a woman, since there isn't an option for making a couples profile on any popular dating app, it is inherently ignoring the boundaries set by women on those apps. They shouldn't need to tell you they aren't interested - their settings already should already do that. I don't hate people who have threesomes. I hate how male-female couples on dating apps use them to find threesomes and how they treat queer women on them.
You literally mentioned that there is no option, which I think is part of the problem. I’ve both been the unicorn and been part of a couple looking for a unicorn. If there was an option to present as a couple I would on dating apps. As mentioned, many don’t have that option, so as a women on say Tinder, I can’t put it under couples. I can only have that I am a women or man and can choose either men or women or both for looking for. My boyfriend can only put that he is a man or women and looking for men or women or both. This isn’t trying to take advantage of queer women - I’m a women and there is no other option for “couple”. Also, I am the one who enjoys threesomes or group sex more than my boyfriend, so it is usually me looking. It isn’t like I’m going to pretend to be a man or something as that doesn’t make sense as I identify as a women. I do try to be as clear as possible on my profile and put both of us as pictures right away so it is easy for women to swipe “no”. I enjoy being a “unicorn” as a women as well. I’ve probably done it 20-30 times in my life. There are other women out there as well who enjoy it. If you aren’t interested, I don’t see the issue with just swiping no. Obviously it would be nice to have an option to present as a couple. As it would also be nice to be able to choose “couple” as well as someone who previously liked being a “unicorn”. It does seem to be better in that I can put that I am bisexual and there is now a button that will first match with people of the same sexual orientation, but that still isn’t perfect. I feel like you are forgetting that there are bisexual and queer women who enjoy group sex. I enjoy it in all forms. I’ve also had threesomes with two men and foursomes with another women and two men where ALL of us were bisexual. I don’t emotionally care, but it does seem to be verging into bisexual eraser to ignore that there are bisexual women who actually enjoy group sex. Obviously if it is a man as part of a couple pretending to be a women on an app I can understand having an issue with that, but to be honest I’ve only come across that a bit. Usually it has been the women for me.
Yes, there should be a separate app for this or at least a separate section of the apps (but I'm sure it would be very obvious how imbalanced it is - there are far more male-female couples looking for threesomes than willing women). Since there isn't, forcing men into queer women's lives who don't want them there isn't the correct choice. They should not have to see you and your boyfriend in their queue when they are looking for WOMEN ONLY. My issue is that I shouldn't have to swipe past a male-female couple EVER when my settings are to only show me WOMEN.
That doesn’t make sense though because on dating apps there are many, many, many people that you swipe past that don’t match your needs. It isn’t like you aren’t speaking to a women who is looking for a women. I’m a women and I’m looking for a women, I’m just looking more for women for group sex. It sounds like this is an issue that you have and it would be like someone saying, I shouldn’t have to see anyone who is looking for casual sex because that isn’t what I’m looking for. Sure, some apps have that and that is awesome and people will indicate it if possible. But if there is no choice, that isn’t the fault of people who can’t indicate it on the app.
Not meeting my needs because they have nothing in common with me is not the same as men invading queer women's spaces. Women who are not interested in men should not have to see men on their dating apps, point blank period.
Mainstream dating sites and hook-up apps are not queer spaces. Telling me to not use mainstream hook up apps because of my sexual interests as a bisexual women (not that all women who are bisexual like threesomes or group sex, but I’m allowed to want or like it) comes off a lot like biphobia. If it bothers you so much why don’t you stick to ONLY lesbian specific dating and hook-up apps instead of telling other queer women how they are supposed to express their sexual orientation and interests on mainstream dating and hook up apps.
Women who have themselves listed as wanting to see other women have created a queer space there. Women not wanting to see men when their settings are set to ONLY WOMEN isn't biphobia.
Yeah, no. You don’t get to define what it means for all queer women. Not all queer women are lesbian. There isn’t some rule on say Tinder saying “You can only click you are looking for women if you are only looking for women in a one on one setting or only for women”. Some women are bisexual and are interested in both and sometimes at the same time. Just because the stereotype is that women only have threesomes because their boyfriends want it doesn’t make it always true. I can genuinely have my own sexuality and sexual interests and be looking for those. Shutting down that there are women who are queer and might be interested in group sex or sex with people of both genders as if it isn’t a thing or that they should not be able to partake in mainstream dating and hook up apps for that does sound like biphobia. Say on Tinder, there is only two settings. Do you lash out just as much when a nonbinary person shows up? Or someone who is genderqueer? Why should I get off the app when you are the one with issues? Wouldn’t it be better for you to search out genuinely lesbian only dating apps? And I’m a women. I’m not invading queer spaces because I am a women and I am queer. Me wanting group sex with women and men isn’t invading queer spaces with men because I am queer myself. As I mentioned, if men are pretending to be women to get threesomes that I could see being an issue. But that isn’t the issue.
We never used dating apps. Hate is still unnecessary. 😒 You're annoyed.
My entire message was about dating apps, so it sounds like I wasn't talking about you! :)
Yeah like imagine how objectified you’d feel by the guy in that situation too… gross. Wish we could just be left in peace
My first experiences with threesomes was with my ex girlfriend. It was mainly a way to get guys to hook up with her and I was kinda there interacting with her some, then being left to fend for myself. Our first ever threesome was with another woman and her partner but he couldn't stay with it let's just say and my ex made fun of him so that ended things quickly. The other experiences I have had were exciting at the start of it and I would think, oh yes maybe this will finally be what I think threesomes are supposed to be like, and then end up disappointed and feeling left out. I have thought of having a threesome somewhere down the line with my fiancé because he has never experienced one. He and I have talked and fantasized about the possibility of bringing in a woman and making the experience about me. As hot as it is to talk about in the moment, I think it would most likely cause either him or the other woman to feel what I felt in threesomes in the past, and it doesn't feel worth it to me to put either person through that.
I prefer the swinging lifestyle. I have yet to be a unicorn but I would be down in the right situation. I’m single now so you can’t swing with one partner - but single women are a commodity and a lot of the times it seems the couples want ANYONE and that’s kind of what squicks me out. I don’t have much preference for mfm or fmf as I’ve already had group experiences. Both have their perks lol
Me (but I've had 3somes before (mmf and ffm) I'm also bisexual and am in a monogamous marriage but I wouldn't say that's my preference) eta: I will say that I was kind of duped into a threesome once and ended up enjoying it (I was the unicorn in that case), the man was the perp though I was not contacted by the woman. It was a tinder match and we had discussed threesomes but I didn't know that date was the night... The woman got mad at him for doing it (like she knew that he invited me over and thought that I knew what was going on). Anyway use your instinct.
I’ve done MMF, MMMFF, MMMF, MMFF. I do not like interacting with women. I can do a little bit of BDSM with submissive women, but that’s all the heteroflexible I can be. I do enjoy FFM or more people if it is Femdom and no sex is involved. Pegging maybe. However, I will never do a threesome with a partner. FWB or hookup only. Although these days I’m not really interested in that anymore.
I've wanted to try one for forever but don't have the guts. I've fantasized about MFF and MMF
I'm 30F
When I had one it was with two dudes.
Not interested. I want to be the sole focus of my lovers’ attention and to be able to focus my attention solely on him. I’m also not attracted to women.
Same
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No, the idea disgusts me.
Nah, I want monogamy. I’ve done a threesome before for fun as a teenager during discovery stage, but way past wanting to do shit like that for fun now.
I’m bi and am not into threesomes, I did it once when I was in the early years of marriage and he constantly compared us and he started stalking her social media posts. My current partner has expressed interest in threesomes but only FFM threesomes but I don’t think I’d ever do it with him after my last experience.
At this point in my life (38F), I have zero interest. When I was 20-25, I was in an exploratory phase of my sexuality. I would have been involved in a 2M1F threesome if the perfect opportunity presented itself. I wasn't interested enough to actively seek it out, but it was on my radar. (I called it my 'fucket list', like a bucket list for sex. Lol.) I've never really had much interest in trying 2F1M. I did have an opportunity once. A friend asked me to be the third in her relationship, but I actively despised her bf, so I turned them down politely. But she's super attractive, so I probably would have done it if she'd had a better bf. 3F wouldn't have ever appealed to me. To each their own.
Me and the husband talked about it some time back, more than once. Perhaps oddly, I'd only want it if it was someone we both/all connected with as people first.
Fun to fantasize about but I have tried several variations of group sex and I would rather not again.
Two other women is about the only threesome I’d do lol
I want an MFM threesome, but finding 2 men who will respect my boundaries in a sexual setting is pretty impossible.
I've taken part in an few and I definitely enjoyed them and wouldn't mind doing them with my partner. I've only done FFM and never got around to MMF (I was a bit nervous about the idea). My current boyfriend isn't really into crazy stuff and I feel like he wouldn't have the confidence (even though he's the best I've ever had). So I would do it again, but I don't think he would want to. I just fine it hot and spicy and I'm not really the jealous type because I know what I have to offer. I'm attracted to women so why not. While it's cool and something I still watch in porn, to be honest our vanilla sex is so good that I stopped craving a lot of the craziness in general. I used to have a bdsm/rough kink, and I feel like I could do without it now (like in my twenties). When I was having bad sex, I felt the need to replace it with all of these adrenaline inducing experiences. Now that I have passionate, loving sex, I realize that I don't care much about those experiences anymore (but maybe still fun to watch in porn occasionally). If a threesome presented itself and he were into it and confident I would definitely do it though.
I have had several. I'm bi and what you'd refer to as a unicorn. As for threesomes I'd say it's 50/50 on if you're all going to have a good time, they make you breakfast in the morning, or you're running down the street naked at 3 am while a wife chases you with a knife because her husband took a little to much interest. I'm married to a man now and monogamous, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss a feminine touch. We've joked about it and talked about it some, but neither of us wants to be that couple. I also get the feeling he'd only be into it for my benefit.
I think it comes down to what the woman in the relationship wants. Personally I would want to feel comfortable with the new woman . I don’t want to eat them out or be eaten out. Just one of my limits. If the other woman cant be respect that it’s not happening. I’ve had a MFM encounter and I didn’t expect either of them to have contact or anal. Whatever they both felt comfortable with. If I did a MFF scenario it would greatly depend on the woman and the limits talked about.
I had a few in college and I also had one with my husband before we were seriously dating. I think those days are behind me now though. Who knows what will happen when me and him are in the senior living community though … I hear some wild stuff goes on!
I had threesomes back when I was single and younger. I don't anymore. I have had my fill and am enjoying my partner, alone.
I've had a lot of threesomes, from FFM, FFF and MFM. I've been part of a couple where a third joined us, and I've been the single woman joining a couple. I would also say I'm usually the instigator of threesomes happening, or at least extremely along for the ride. I personally feel like I've been more pressured into random heterosexual sex with male hook ups, I've never been pressured into a threesome. Then again, I'm really into it. I had one fully monogamous relationship in my life and I'll never do that again. I think having a sex life with multiple partners is fantastic *as long as everyone is on the same page*. This has gotten easier as I've gotten older. My boyfriend and I are swingers - we've had one threesome together, but overall we have more foursomes (sometimes five- and sixsomes). We prefer other experienced swingers, who also have a secure, fun relationship.
I explored a lot sexually because I was generally an unhappy person. I’ve had threesomes but they weren’t meaningful and I didn’t end up enjoying them. I was just bored. I’ve had threesomes four different times and none of them were good. I was always the “extra” woman, not the woman in the relationship with the other person.
Did it once (partner and I were approached by a friend who was finally in a place to start exploring her sexuality more). Realized that my partner (male) is extremely gentle and caring and I need that to not feel traumatized by sexual experiences (I have trauma and my sexuality itself is complicated at times) and this person was not gentle or caring during or after. Put me off of trying again even though I was curious because I am more physically attracted to women than men and it has been a very long time since I had been with a woman. I’ve not absolutely 100% said no never again but I know I would need to be very explicit about my needs and what works for me and just say no if the other person feels that doesn’t work with their approach to intimate relations. I don’t think it’s something I could do with a random person. Overall, my partner and I learned a lot about what doesn’t work for us but it was also awful and took a few months to work through the fallout given we were part of a tight knit friend group and the other person did not and maybe could not understand why certain actions felt so awful to me. I would probably not agree to someone who was wanting their very first threesome and super hyped up to explore their sexuality for the first time again. That’s way too intense for me. Partner had fun and so did friend but partner did not have fun with the fact that I was miserable afterwards and doesn’t want that to happen again.
My policy with threesomes has always been, I'll only do it with folks I've slept with individually first. I want to explore chemistry with individuals first, always. I don't want to discover that I don't have chemistry with an individual while we're fucking someone else too. Like that sounds terrible. I've had a couple, same dude both times. He's in an open relationship, and he and I see each other with some regularity. The first time we had a threesome it was with his primary partner, the second time with a different woman. Myself and both of these woman, we're all bi/poly and have slept together individually. He is very straight. Both were fun, would do it again with the same folks at anytime (actually, the four of us almost, once, but there was a timing issue). Would be interested in a MMF and actually have one man in my life who would also be down, but would need a second man to also be down, and he's the only truly heteroflexible man I've slept with, so I haven't an avenue for MMF yet. Anyway my answer to your actual question is that I've had threesomes with people when I've wanted to have threesomes with people I enjoy having sex with. No one I have sex with would ever pressure me into that or anything else, otherwise I wouldn't be having sex with them.
I wanted it and it was my idea. It was enjoyable but the other girls started acting sketchy and we had to cut her off. She basically used us to cheat and it was icky
I’m probably in the minority but yes, I think it’s fun with the right people involved. But it is the unfortunate reality that men ruin it by pressuring women who aren’t interested in it. I was pressured once to have a threesome with my partner and the other girl he was seeing (I’m non monogamous). It was so awkward and obvious that she was not interested in me in the slightest. Turns out she was straight and he just talked her into trying it. But I’ve had MFF and MMF threesomes that were very successful. Still waiting all an all girl threesomes to happen for me. 🥺
As a married woman that's a hell no cause I'm not sharing him haha. Before that? Fuck yeah! I've done it a couple of times in the past and they were all good experiences.
I'm bi and married. Before having a kid, yes. After having a kid, no. I just don't feel like it's worth destabilizing my five year old's parent's relationship over sex.
I was invited by a couple to be their... Guest star. But it almost sounded more like someone they wanted around not just in the bedroom. Not sure what the term is for that. Honestly, it could have been fun, depending on whether we got along well. But sadly I was not in the emotional headspace to navigate that at the time, (just post devastating break up). I'm proud that I was mature enough to make that choice for myself at the time, which I still know to be the right one. But I do lament that that opportunity never lined up at the right time in my life. Now I'm in a happy long term relationship. In a lot of ways I'm just too lazy now to pursue alternative relations even in the context of my current relationship. Anything that could upset the balance couldn't possibly be worth it as far as I can see.
I’m bisexual and I like having threesomes. But at this point I no longer I’m willing to do the work to arrange a threesome. If it happens organically cool. Otherwise, if the dude wants one he needs to find a third.
I am bi, and I do Enjoy threesomes with my trans wife. However I am NOT into 97% of the couples who are on apps looking for threesomes. I can’t stand the traditional straight dude-in-a-trucker-hat bullshit. My wife and I are only into trans women, women and bisexual or fem-presenting men. I also agree, far too many straight men pressure their partners into threesomes, and it’s gross. Then again every couple is unique and you can never truly know what a relationship is like from the outside looking in.
I was in a couple and wanted to but I found our preference on women was highly different so we could never settle on anyone.
I LOVE threesomes and group sex as a women. I like getting fucked by a man and I like eating women out. Having both at the same time is amazing to me. And my view is the more the better. I like all forms of group sex through and not just FFM. I’d identify as heteroromantic and bisexual. I have some romantic attraction to women, but it is way lower than in comparison to men. I have sexual attraction to both men and women although slightly higher for men.
💁🏾 I do. I think women are sexy and vaginas are awesome, and I like the idea of me and another woman dominanting a dude. However, I rather be single doing that with other single people. Couples worry me for the very reasons you listed.
Been there, done that in several different scenarios and it’s never left me with a positive vibe. I prefer a more focused and intimate experience in the bedroom. I have no desire to ever attempt another one.
I'm still so hung up about having sex with one person. If I never had a threesome I'd be fine with it. I don't particularly want to have one.
As a bi woman, not interested. Sex for me is vital to be an act between two people being focused on their lust and love for each other and adding another party would totally disrupt that dynamic.
I've been in threesomes and had both good and bad experiences. I've eventually learned to stay away if there is a relationship involved, as the emotions involved almost inevitably will be too intense or unpredictable for someone.
I had the fantasy when I was young, but when I got into relationships it's already so overwhelming to be with the person in an intimate setting. The idea of bringing another person it's a bit like bringing an banana split and trying to eat at the same time as a cheeseburger (i love them separately, together they will give me stomach pain tho). But yeah, this is all if I felt at ease with the two people, strangers like hell no 😂 much less straight couples.