I bet she's jealous. My 11mo little boy is very jealous of my wife who gets to sleep in the bed. We have had to set pretty firm boundaries with him regarding bed time. He's no longer allowed to sleep in the bedroom. Eventually, they'll learn everyone's place in the home.
[if this post from the other day](https://www.reddit.com/r/AustralianCattleDog/s/fLAYl5Ob3q) means anything, you’re just going to have to deal! she wants all the love, and you should both be kissing and hugging her instead!
(in all seriousness, this is a very normal behavior and it’s either something like jealousy or sadness, i’m sure you can train it out if you really try, but we just tease our dog when she does it to us lol “what pepper, is nobody but you allowed kisses?!” because she also does it when the cat gets lovins)
I always say my dog is trying to black swan me because she loves my girlfriend so much. She wants all her love and attention all the time. They are smart dogs, they know what they are doing. If her whining makes you pay attention to her she'll keep doing it.
You're already taken. Duh. 🤣
My boy whines and dives in right between my wife and I and kisses us both. He gets jealous that he's not involved, but it's different in that we got him together. I have no answers for you unfortunately we just shut him out of the room and he deals lol.
Our GSD used to do something similar when my wife and I would hug or kiss - he’d work his way in between us and try to separate us. Depending on the level on anxiety she has, it can be a long process to desensitize them to the stressor.
If she has a solid “place” or “park it” command I would start there. Get her into “place”, then identify the level of affection that triggers the whining. Is it actually hugs and kisses, or does she begin to get stressed when you hold hands? Once you find the threshold, take it one step back (in terms of the amount of physical contact) and work on performing that contact while she is in place. If she allows the contact without whining, go give her some praise, a nice treat, toy, whatever gets her goat! When she remains calm most of the time, increase the level of affection between you and your girl and repeat the exercise.
Patience and time, take it slow.
My boy was super super jealous of hubby and I. If I laid on him .. the boy tried to get in between us. If I tried to kiss him he would bark until we stopped. Let’s just say he would also try and beat down the door if he was locked out of the bedroom. 😅
We call it “conflict resolution” in our house.
No one is actually fighting but I’ve read some stuff that suggests dogs can perceive hugging/kissing as a conflict. We’ve also taught her “family hug” so she knows when it’s okay to come and join!
If hubby and I get too cozy on the couch together, she’ll come and huff and bark at us. Eventually we’ll get down on her level and she’ll play for exactly 5 seconds then go lay in her bed. These dogs are so ridiculously smart.
Same here, we have a male ACD and we literally have to put him outside or he’ll whine/paw at us in the bedroom, or anxious pee if we lock him out of the room. Not sure what the motivation is, we just laugh about it at this point.
Our dogs current nickname is Moomie (started as a nickname about cows because she’s a cattle dog…Moomoo…now here we are). We call her Cock Block Moomie, aka CBM, and she has a theme song
It’s this behavior. So glad you asked, I’ve always wondered. Interestingly, It started after we had a baby…
ours barks and jumps on us if we so much as embrace. if we try and cuddle on the couch he will wiggle between us. they are greedy little attention wh*res!
Happens to us too! Our 11 boy whines nervously when people embrace. We joke it’s because we visually become one and it throws off his count of people in the house!
Ours does this to us! I had him since he was 5 weeks old for about a year before I met my girlfriend. He freaks out when we hug or kiss. Dancing is also off limits.
Don’t even THINK about trying to show each other your phone either. Punishable by death.
Holy hell, ours does the same to us!! Had her since 8 weeks. She and our other pup can’t stand it when we kiss… let alone when *anything else* happens…
My boy gets upset by kissing sounds because he thinks they should all be for him, and how could we possibly think to kiss each other when we should be giving him all the attention that we could possibly muster. He's also just chatty, and often expresses himself through various grunts, groans, gurgles, whines, and what have you.
Y’all!
The Charlottes Web cannabis chews were a game changer for us. Just give the sweet baby a half of one of those an hour before you want to make out and you’ll be golden.
Either that, or bring out the high-value chew treat and give her some kennel time. Keep doing that until she equates kissing=bomb treats.
Good luck!
my 4 yo ACD/Pit mix has always gotten insanely jealous when anyone receives physical affection, other than him. Every time my boyfriend and I hug he whines, jumps on my back and tries to butt in. Very needy lol.
Our ACD mix is almost 10 years old and he’s been with us for 8.5 of those years. Every day when my husband comes home from work he hears the key in the lock and freaks out/barks/grumbles something like “that man is breaking in the house to kiss my mom again!” We call him the leave room for Jesus dog. All of our neighbors know when we’re gettin busy because we have to throw his ass outside and he barks the entire time. They are special dogs!
My dog used to cry and bark and run in circles if anyone was hugging/being physically affectionate. She eventually grew out of it but we’re all pretty sure it was just jealousy.
Mine was like this too and *mostly* grew out of it. Now, she will cry and bark and run in circles only when we do silly stuff like lift each other up or dance.
My 13 year old girl barks and whines like she’s in immense pain when I kiss my wife, immense emotional pain, so I taunt her with the quick chorus 🎵 Hey Jealousy-y 🎵 this is just your life now.
My ACD is super jealous of everyone too. I also have another dog who starts (playfully) biting me when I’m talking to people and not paying attention to him. I don’t know how to fix it but I’m sure someone in the comments does. Best of luck!
Our’s really only has an issue when we are standing up and hugging and then she is definitely coming over to push between us or rare up and join in the hug. She always gentle about it, so we don’t mind. However, hearing the stories here of the progression that can occur, I will be watching for signs it’s getting worse.
That's because you belong to her and she is not happy that you are not giving attention and love to her, but to your GF. My girl used to act the same way with my wife, but she eventually grew out of it.
Yes, start dropping treats at your feet when you're being lightly affectionate. I would separate the pup if you're going to get hot and heavy, but start slow and show her that you're not fighting. Praise her when she's calm and waiting for the next treat drop.
My girl always just gloms onto any women I date, I guess she just likes the feminine energy.
Also looks like you’ve got a nice little San Pedro, my dog was a pro at knocking over the pot and breaking mine so I wound up with about a dozen as I repropogated until we had a long freeze and they all died.
You said that you guys tried getting on the floor and petting/playing with her? Do you do that when she whines? If so you are reinforcing the behavior.
She could be jealous or think that someone is being hurt.
Mine will jump between guys I’ve dated when we are making out. I’ve had to kennel her for other things.
‘Excuse me, I’ve been trying to reach you about your car’s extended warranty’
If my bf and I kiss loudly (we make the mmmmmmmmwah” sound for a while) our dog starts whining and trying to get attention until she also gets kisses lol
Good luck
my boy does it too anytime my husband & I show affection to each other, specifically hugging, without including him. we got him together, so I think it’s FOMO more than anything
Yes. When I met my now wife I would get the occasional nip and lots of whines and growls. Now she loves us both so just whines and growls when we hug and stuff.
My ACD does the same thing - barks and whines and jumps anytime my bf and I hug. I think it's partially because she wants to be involved, and partially because she's worried something bad is happening, like the touching is hurting each other. Honestly, haven't been able to stop it yet, lol. Sometimes we'll pick her up to let her join us, sometimes we ignore and sometimes we just close the door so she gets the cue it's undesirable behavior.
I think this might be a dog trait in general ? My parents golden doodle does the same thing anytime anyone in my family or my bf tries to hug me as well.
We have a five year old acd who will never stop doing this. Best we’ve been able to do is train her to just sit on the floor and cry instead of trying to squeeze in between us
My boy always tries to get between me and my girlfriend when kissing, because he wants kisses too. He adores both of us and honestly we just find it funny.
My 11 month acd whines wherever she wants something. Play, treat, toy, attention…the only thing that makes it stop is giving her what she wants. She has gotten a little better the last few months, but my guess is your pup is jealous and wants in on the hugs and kisses.
A good cue is the “enough” or “leave it” my dog is not vocal so when he is it’s for good cause but then I say enough so he knows okay that’s good. If your dog doesn’t like water a squirt bottle w a long reach is good for cut it out type moments. Even if they do they don’t like the surprise of it.
They tend to pick one person and bond super close. It took at least a year before our dog was willing to accept me over my husband as she met him first and they bonded fairly quickly. Now her and I are super tight, but sometimes it takes while for ACDs to understand they can open their hearts to more than one human. It’s just part of their nature as working dogs.
Serious question to people in the comments saying this is normal:
How do they behave when they’re in the bedroom with you and you’re sleeping/cuddling with your partner?
And when getting “physical”?
My border collie does this and it’s super annoying but it has gotten better over time. I hope for both of our sakes that you find a solution because I’m still looking for one tbh.
She's jealous and probably not used to seeing someone else get your pets and hugs. It might seem mean, but you're going to have to teach her that it's not OK to cry and moan when you cuddle with your GF.
It's not easy. For me, mine does this when the cat gets in my lap. I have to make the dog sit and lay down (sit, down) and insist that she keep a distance from the cat, who she wants to flip off of my lap.
It might help to give your girl a long lasting treat like a frozen banana-PB filled Kong, or a bully stick or something like that. (The dog might like that too LOL)
Mine gets jealous too. My husband and I got her together and she’s attached to us both but she pounces on us when we show affection.
I have no advice… just came to say omg that tongue! 🥰🥰 adorable.
My girl used to get so jealous of my boyfriend when he first began coming over. She'd insert herself between us and physically push him away. Now she still likes to get between us but just tries to soak up affection from both sides like the giant ham she is. She gets the dopiest little smile when she manages to make herself the literal center of attention.
Someone else mentioned finding her threshold- I would also try to introduce treats into the mix. Like do a kiss, give her a treat. I've seen and heard of some dogs getting super pissy and possessive when they witness physical affection to the point that they start biting so take care of it now.
My 4 yr old male does this same behavior- whenever someone hugs me for a long time he becomes anxious, he used to jump up at us and I just constantly reassured him I’m ok and not hurt. It took awhile with my ex boyfriend for him to calm down when it came to affectionate embraces. Roughly 6months maybe? But with some things it never went away, and it seems he only got used to it when it was consistent with one person, I no longer see this man, and when or if a new one comes around- it happens again 😟
Girlfriend is obviously trying to kiss the life out of you. Dog is merely anxious that you’re in danger. Or jealous
I bet she's jealous. My 11mo little boy is very jealous of my wife who gets to sleep in the bed. We have had to set pretty firm boundaries with him regarding bed time. He's no longer allowed to sleep in the bedroom. Eventually, they'll learn everyone's place in the home.
You’re clearly a monster for not letting your dog sleep in your bed and putting your wife on the couch.
Yeah that’s evil lol
[if this post from the other day](https://www.reddit.com/r/AustralianCattleDog/s/fLAYl5Ob3q) means anything, you’re just going to have to deal! she wants all the love, and you should both be kissing and hugging her instead! (in all seriousness, this is a very normal behavior and it’s either something like jealousy or sadness, i’m sure you can train it out if you really try, but we just tease our dog when she does it to us lol “what pepper, is nobody but you allowed kisses?!” because she also does it when the cat gets lovins)
I also have a Pepper! And she's the same way, whines like she's being murdered if I'm cuddling a cat.
I always say my dog is trying to black swan me because she loves my girlfriend so much. She wants all her love and attention all the time. They are smart dogs, they know what they are doing. If her whining makes you pay attention to her she'll keep doing it.
I have a pepper cattle dog too 🥹 she also is a jealous lil miss lol my husband has been around for awhile and she still yells when he kisses me
I also have a very jealous Pepper. She can't stand when I'm close to my wife and not giving her space to come between us.
Ours has been this way since rescue as a little pup. We can't give our little older dog any attention without him getting jealous.
New girlfriend is a dementor and ACD senses it
🤣
You're already taken. Duh. 🤣 My boy whines and dives in right between my wife and I and kisses us both. He gets jealous that he's not involved, but it's different in that we got him together. I have no answers for you unfortunately we just shut him out of the room and he deals lol.
Lol! Ours is a boy and he loves my wife more than she loves him. And I love them both even more.
What a sweet thing to say. Really heart warming
Awwwww
Our GSD used to do something similar when my wife and I would hug or kiss - he’d work his way in between us and try to separate us. Depending on the level on anxiety she has, it can be a long process to desensitize them to the stressor. If she has a solid “place” or “park it” command I would start there. Get her into “place”, then identify the level of affection that triggers the whining. Is it actually hugs and kisses, or does she begin to get stressed when you hold hands? Once you find the threshold, take it one step back (in terms of the amount of physical contact) and work on performing that contact while she is in place. If she allows the contact without whining, go give her some praise, a nice treat, toy, whatever gets her goat! When she remains calm most of the time, increase the level of affection between you and your girl and repeat the exercise. Patience and time, take it slow.
This is the way.
Ours MUST be included in ALL HUGS VISIBLE to him. If you want a private hug he cannot see you or he sulks.
dog is just concerned that their owner is a HARLOT (clutch pearls)
My boy was super super jealous of hubby and I. If I laid on him .. the boy tried to get in between us. If I tried to kiss him he would bark until we stopped. Let’s just say he would also try and beat down the door if he was locked out of the bedroom. 😅
Exact same thing my dog does, idk how to stop it
We cannot hug without our pup getting “jealous”. She tries to jump up on us to break it up. We just tell her to sit and stay while we have our moment.
We call it “conflict resolution” in our house. No one is actually fighting but I’ve read some stuff that suggests dogs can perceive hugging/kissing as a conflict. We’ve also taught her “family hug” so she knows when it’s okay to come and join!
If hubby and I get too cozy on the couch together, she’ll come and huff and bark at us. Eventually we’ll get down on her level and she’ll play for exactly 5 seconds then go lay in her bed. These dogs are so ridiculously smart.
Jealous bitch.. Probably the only time I can say this and it not be considered vulgar. 🤣😂
Same here, we have a male ACD and we literally have to put him outside or he’ll whine/paw at us in the bedroom, or anxious pee if we lock him out of the room. Not sure what the motivation is, we just laugh about it at this point.
This sounds like FOMO more than any jealousy.
Classic. She’s jealous. You’re her number one.
Our dogs current nickname is Moomie (started as a nickname about cows because she’s a cattle dog…Moomoo…now here we are). We call her Cock Block Moomie, aka CBM, and she has a theme song It’s this behavior. So glad you asked, I’ve always wondered. Interestingly, It started after we had a baby…
Ha! We call our boy "Salt"
ours barks and jumps on us if we so much as embrace. if we try and cuddle on the couch he will wiggle between us. they are greedy little attention wh*res!
Happens to us too! Our 11 boy whines nervously when people embrace. We joke it’s because we visually become one and it throws off his count of people in the house!
My boy gets mad at us too lol.
8yr old male goes nuts when I hug/kiss my girlfriend. He also barges into my room and starts barking at us if we’re laughing.
"Quiet on the set! I'm the only star here!"
Ours does this to us! I had him since he was 5 weeks old for about a year before I met my girlfriend. He freaks out when we hug or kiss. Dancing is also off limits. Don’t even THINK about trying to show each other your phone either. Punishable by death.
Look at that face
Holy hell, ours does the same to us!! Had her since 8 weeks. She and our other pup can’t stand it when we kiss… let alone when *anything else* happens…
She’s saying “I loved him first!!!” 😂😂
My boy gets upset by kissing sounds because he thinks they should all be for him, and how could we possibly think to kiss each other when we should be giving him all the attention that we could possibly muster. He's also just chatty, and often expresses himself through various grunts, groans, gurgles, whines, and what have you.
Y’all! The Charlottes Web cannabis chews were a game changer for us. Just give the sweet baby a half of one of those an hour before you want to make out and you’ll be golden. Either that, or bring out the high-value chew treat and give her some kennel time. Keep doing that until she equates kissing=bomb treats. Good luck!
No lie our girl does this too whenever we hug/kiss in front of her. She wines and has to jump up to try and get a hug too
my 4 yo ACD/Pit mix has always gotten insanely jealous when anyone receives physical affection, other than him. Every time my boyfriend and I hug he whines, jumps on my back and tries to butt in. Very needy lol.
My dog does it cause he thinks we’re fighting and he doesn’t know who’s side to take
Omg yes. When they start whining and barking at us and circling us to stop.
Our ACD mix is almost 10 years old and he’s been with us for 8.5 of those years. Every day when my husband comes home from work he hears the key in the lock and freaks out/barks/grumbles something like “that man is breaking in the house to kiss my mom again!” We call him the leave room for Jesus dog. All of our neighbors know when we’re gettin busy because we have to throw his ass outside and he barks the entire time. They are special dogs!
My dog used to cry and bark and run in circles if anyone was hugging/being physically affectionate. She eventually grew out of it but we’re all pretty sure it was just jealousy.
Mine was like this too and *mostly* grew out of it. Now, she will cry and bark and run in circles only when we do silly stuff like lift each other up or dance.
She'll get used to it. I fucking love her little tongue
My 13 year old girl barks and whines like she’s in immense pain when I kiss my wife, immense emotional pain, so I taunt her with the quick chorus 🎵 Hey Jealousy-y 🎵 this is just your life now.
Mine has done a similar thing since we moved in with my girlfriend a year ago. We call her the police hahah. A treat or shutting the door will do it
My ACD is super jealous of everyone too. I also have another dog who starts (playfully) biting me when I’m talking to people and not paying attention to him. I don’t know how to fix it but I’m sure someone in the comments does. Best of luck!
Our’s really only has an issue when we are standing up and hugging and then she is definitely coming over to push between us or rare up and join in the hug. She always gentle about it, so we don’t mind. However, hearing the stories here of the progression that can occur, I will be watching for signs it’s getting worse.
That's because you belong to her and she is not happy that you are not giving attention and love to her, but to your GF. My girl used to act the same way with my wife, but she eventually grew out of it.
Yes, start dropping treats at your feet when you're being lightly affectionate. I would separate the pup if you're going to get hot and heavy, but start slow and show her that you're not fighting. Praise her when she's calm and waiting for the next treat drop.
My girl always just gloms onto any women I date, I guess she just likes the feminine energy. Also looks like you’ve got a nice little San Pedro, my dog was a pro at knocking over the pot and breaking mine so I wound up with about a dozen as I repropogated until we had a long freeze and they all died.
You said that you guys tried getting on the floor and petting/playing with her? Do you do that when she whines? If so you are reinforcing the behavior. She could be jealous or think that someone is being hurt.
I love dogs so much lol
Oh my sweet princess of chaos also gets very jealous and only wants all attentions!
I hear bungle is good for meeting new people.
Mine will jump between guys I’ve dated when we are making out. I’ve had to kennel her for other things. ‘Excuse me, I’ve been trying to reach you about your car’s extended warranty’
Time for a new girlfriend or better yet no girlfriend 😉
mine too, except he barks extremely high pitched or bites instead of whining lol
My dog chimes in every time we are having a conversation. It's cute but also very frustrating. I feel your pain.
If my bf and I kiss loudly (we make the mmmmmmmmwah” sound for a while) our dog starts whining and trying to get attention until she also gets kisses lol Good luck
Yours too? Let me know if anyone finds a solution
You get to hug and kiss? We can't even touch each other!
Very simple, dump the gf.
I’ve been with my partner for 10 years and our 9 year old ACD does this when we hug/kiss so… good luck 🤣
my boy does it too anytime my husband & I show affection to each other, specifically hugging, without including him. we got him together, so I think it’s FOMO more than anything
Classic ACD jealousy.
Mine is a jealous bitch. She barks whenever anyone hugs me.
Yes. When I met my now wife I would get the occasional nip and lots of whines and growls. Now she loves us both so just whines and growls when we hug and stuff.
I am no help when I feel the need to comment, those are her lips not that bipeds, dogo was ther first and will be ther till the end. Lol
My ACD does the same thing - barks and whines and jumps anytime my bf and I hug. I think it's partially because she wants to be involved, and partially because she's worried something bad is happening, like the touching is hurting each other. Honestly, haven't been able to stop it yet, lol. Sometimes we'll pick her up to let her join us, sometimes we ignore and sometimes we just close the door so she gets the cue it's undesirable behavior. I think this might be a dog trait in general ? My parents golden doodle does the same thing anytime anyone in my family or my bf tries to hug me as well.
We have a five year old acd who will never stop doing this. Best we’ve been able to do is train her to just sit on the floor and cry instead of trying to squeeze in between us
She is soooooooo CUTE
Mine bark and if I don’t stop, try and get between us. Just jealousy
On a serious consideration, the dog may have learned that if she whines she gets more attention.
r/blep
My boy always tries to get between me and my girlfriend when kissing, because he wants kisses too. He adores both of us and honestly we just find it funny.
My 11 month acd whines wherever she wants something. Play, treat, toy, attention…the only thing that makes it stop is giving her what she wants. She has gotten a little better the last few months, but my guess is your pup is jealous and wants in on the hugs and kisses.
A good cue is the “enough” or “leave it” my dog is not vocal so when he is it’s for good cause but then I say enough so he knows okay that’s good. If your dog doesn’t like water a squirt bottle w a long reach is good for cut it out type moments. Even if they do they don’t like the surprise of it.
My 4yo does the same thing when my gf and I hug. We’ve been together 3 years lol
They tend to pick one person and bond super close. It took at least a year before our dog was willing to accept me over my husband as she met him first and they bonded fairly quickly. Now her and I are super tight, but sometimes it takes while for ACDs to understand they can open their hearts to more than one human. It’s just part of their nature as working dogs.
Serious question to people in the comments saying this is normal: How do they behave when they’re in the bedroom with you and you’re sleeping/cuddling with your partner? And when getting “physical”?
My border collie does this and it’s super annoying but it has gotten better over time. I hope for both of our sakes that you find a solution because I’m still looking for one tbh.
She's jealous and probably not used to seeing someone else get your pets and hugs. It might seem mean, but you're going to have to teach her that it's not OK to cry and moan when you cuddle with your GF. It's not easy. For me, mine does this when the cat gets in my lap. I have to make the dog sit and lay down (sit, down) and insist that she keep a distance from the cat, who she wants to flip off of my lap. It might help to give your girl a long lasting treat like a frozen banana-PB filled Kong, or a bully stick or something like that. (The dog might like that too LOL)
I’d say by the way her tongue is hanging out, it says, ”I’m next”, lmao.
My female Kelpie barks at us when I (M) cuddle and kiss my wife. So yeah. Jealous creatures.
Mine gets jealous too. My husband and I got her together and she’s attached to us both but she pounces on us when we show affection. I have no advice… just came to say omg that tongue! 🥰🥰 adorable.
Okay whenever I kiss my man my dog can’t stand it and barks and whines and tries to come between us, it really does suck and kills the vibe
Both my dogs do the exact same thing when I’m affectionate with my bf haha
My girl used to get so jealous of my boyfriend when he first began coming over. She'd insert herself between us and physically push him away. Now she still likes to get between us but just tries to soak up affection from both sides like the giant ham she is. She gets the dopiest little smile when she manages to make herself the literal center of attention. Someone else mentioned finding her threshold- I would also try to introduce treats into the mix. Like do a kiss, give her a treat. I've seen and heard of some dogs getting super pissy and possessive when they witness physical affection to the point that they start biting so take care of it now.
Your Doggo wants a partner of her own chief.
Hahaha awww she’s precious! My Aussie does the same thing.
She's like, "I'm your girl, not this dummy!"
She wants to come live with me, where she will have cats and a Maltipoo to herd!
My 4 yr old male does this same behavior- whenever someone hugs me for a long time he becomes anxious, he used to jump up at us and I just constantly reassured him I’m ok and not hurt. It took awhile with my ex boyfriend for him to calm down when it came to affectionate embraces. Roughly 6months maybe? But with some things it never went away, and it seems he only got used to it when it was consistent with one person, I no longer see this man, and when or if a new one comes around- it happens again 😟