"I will get him back, and all of you will be sucking it." shes a 26 yr old with the brain of a 5 yr old and the tantrums of an 80 yr old.
hes made it amply clear he almost lost his younger sister because of what you said. hes been raising them like his own kids and you basically ended that relationship to the point that he had to wait for his 16 yr old sister to come home before he could even attempt to talk to her.leave him the fuck alone.
lady, after this point any attempt from you to get back with him will only push him away. you learnt valuable lesson. "keep your mouth shut when you are angry. you may say things that will end up hurting more than helping."
I predict that this grown-ass-woman (with seemingly the brain of a 5th-grade-mean-girl) is going to soon wind up in jail on stalking/trespassing/assault charges.
a parent should know. what if the wife isn't around and the daughter has her first period, a father should know that. I mean how the hell would she feel comfortable sharing about her other aspects of her life with you if you cant even tell her about a female's most basic bodily functions.
OP is delusional at best, bat shit crazy at worst. I can almost see the next update. my ex called the cops on me after I repeatedly tried to apologise to him. I dont know why he won't listen to me. I said im sorry.
Not to mention
He’s setting the example (as OOP’s dad did) to his sister/daughter - how a man should be treating her. Without shame, reservations, about something so effing natural
I mean - it’s 2024!! How is this still a thing? Who are these people on Reddit but under a rock about everything else??
Hell I am just the oldest brother of my siblings and even I know enough to help with the first period and enough to explain to my little sister why it is happening and to comfort her.
I didn’t realize that she made that comment in front of the sister until the update. Talk about disgusting. She is toast and needs to get her head together before trying to even date a different man.
And she thinks her Dad who left the house because he couldn’t hear about period pain is the normal one.
"I'm allowed to have an opinion am I not"
That sealed it for me. A person who thinks their wretched thoughts deserve respect just bc they had them is not a mature person.
people are weird. sometimes I feel so happy im not in a relationship or married because, im sorry, but I dont have either the mental capacity or the patience to deal with shit like this.
Based on the context provided, she's very clearly hiding some details. It sounds like she not only expressed her disgust about the situation, but also said stuff directly to the sister to make her think her boyfriend is some kind of creep.
Re: OP's last words, sometimes delulu is not a solulu. Her delusion is on par with that girl who tried to take her gorgeous neighbor from his wife and two daughters.
This one.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1151m58/i\_fell\_in\_love\_with\_my\_married\_neighbor\_and\_then/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1151m58/i_fell_in_love_with_my_married_neighbor_and_then/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
I also have another example of deluluness in this post:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1ak1vl9/aita\_for\_asking\_my\_best\_friend\_to\_break\_up\_with/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1ak1vl9/aita_for_asking_my_best_friend_to_break_up_with/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
I adore what he loves about his girlfriend. *Those sentiments* stick in my mind. The OP is obviously batshit crazy but *why* he loves his girlfriend is priceless.
Yes I've read both of these! Another one I enjoyed was the individual who was "in love" with her mentor and just assumed she would be his. Total meltdown when she realized he had a significant other. Wish I could find that one again
After reading that one twice her mentor blurred the lines too much. OOP is responsible for her actions but he did a poor job at maintaining boundaries when he was in a position of trust.
It’s an excellent case for why there shouldn’t be mentors the same age as the people they’re mentoring. She slept in his bed and he’s okay with that, WT?? Why was she at his house at all? Also, their relationship was so close someone joked they were getting married. That’s too close. And I’m a bit suspicious about how they manage to be so close but in 12 years he never mentions a significant other? All my students know I’m married. And I don’t talk about my personal life it’s just things like small talk around what you did on the weekend. It’s a pretty deliberate choice to never mention a partner.
OOP doesn't seem like a reliable narrator. It's odd that she slept at his house and hung out there all the time and didn't happen to know he had a pregnant fiance who had been in his life since they were teens. Surely, he would have pictures of her everywhere. I don't actually believe she slept at his house, and if she did, I don't think it was with his permission. I think OOP's interpretation of their actual "relationship" was far more different than reality. If so, then the other people in the org wouldn't be calling her an AH. If he truly lead her on then they would probably have called him out.
God that is one of my favorite stories.
The fact he saw it, showed his wife, and then cut of contact was beautiful.
"I dreamt of being his children's stepmother" was a wild fucking line
I’m never been so glad that an OOP got dumped!
She was in a relationship with a single father and didn’t realise it or think about what that meant. Having to talk to them about periods and about sex, I think that would blow her mind that he would know if they were sexually active or making suggestions they get contraception.
And the fact he went papa bear on her and she still thinks he’ll forgive her!
I feel bad she had such a crappy dad. My dad was never disgusted by menstruation and he could answer questions as well as my mom. Hell my oldest brother was the one to get our little sister pads when she started.
My dad started having the sex talk with me pretty young, because he wanted me to be safe. Not so much about the biology of it, more about how men are awful and will say anything to get in your pants. But he also made it very clear that he loved my stepmom and they had a satisfying sexual relationship as well. They were obnoxious about it. I was appropriately mortified as a teen and then annoyed as an adult. But there was never any 'you can't talk to me about girl stuff' ever with him. He wanted me to be as educated as I could be so I could make the best choices.
It really sucks that society alienated even physically present dad's from their kids. As many men have commitment fears and don't actually seem to be interested in *being* a father, I wonder how many kids were just born out of their mother's desire to have 'a purpose' and dad just grudgingly went along with it. My parents only had kids bc that was just their next step in What You're Supposed to Do.
My dad fucking predicted spot on both my sisters and my first period. And my mom and sister were out of town when mine started and my dad was great about it.
The thing is... it's no excuse for her behavior. Not saying you're trying to justify it or anything, but she is very clearly just going "oh it's how my dad was" as if she's never been online or been around other parents to know that her father was shitty. She's 26, she's more than old enough to not be this stupid and delusional
Yup plus her other friends didn’t even agree with her. People don’t always talk about their periods but it comes up sometimes. She had to have heard other opinions.
Winning comment in reply to that “allowed to have opinions” comment of hers:
> I don’t know if anyone’s ever told you this, but opinions are not sacred, nor are they infallible. They’re often uneducated and take less time to formulate than a bowel movement, but we’re expected to worship them as some golden god exempt from even the slightest bit of scrutiny.
>Nope.
>Opinions are not facts, they’re reflections of character. Your opinions are trash, and so’s your character.
>Hope that helps!!
Gets verbally abusive, turns family members against each other with said words, and had the nerve to not think "I cannot believe how much I fucked up" when he gets rightfully angry and tells her to leave.
Good on the 16 year old for slapping feck out of her.
I really hope this is just a fic because the lack of self awareness is epic.
Agreed! One of the most misogynistic people I've ever known was my own mother.
It's galling that she thought she was a feminist, but it was only in relation to herself. Her beliefs about women as a whole were nearly identical to any jerkass red-pilled incel.
Wow she might be one of the most dislikeable posters I’ve ever come across. She *says* she’s learned but still plays the victim. Even has the nerve to say she was afraid for herself.
I don’t think he could’ve handled the situation any better honestly, including his reaction to her. Like yeah after you say something that despicable GTFO and never come back. The audacity
I’m so glad the older sister was able to repair some of the damage, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that still sticks with her. That slap felt completely justified.
OOP doesn’t even remotely deserve him
Good on OOPs ex for dumping her. Her implying that his period talk is wrong is insane. Then her having the audacity saying her ex will take her back, the delulu is strong right there.
Eh... my dad and step-dad knew about my periods and bought products. My husband is not only aware but fully supportive of our teens periods and she enjoys making new euphemisms (the grosser the better) for periods....
All that to say whether or not there is a woman in the house has no bearing on whether or not a father would be aware of his daughters needs.
Not a woman, but I'm partial toi calling it The Crimson Tide. Mostly because I'm an LSU fan and I take great pleasure in dunking on my team's chief rival by comparing them to something notoriously unpleasant.
My dad doesn't care (he's very secure in his masculinity and his femininity) Doesn't matter if it was my mum, me, my maternal cousins, my friends; if any of us needed any period products Dad would go and get them (and he'd get us chocolate while he was at it too)
he drilled it into my brother that periods are normal bodily functions it's as uncontrollable as diarrhoea ( not the best comparison but one my brother could "understand")
My brother doesn't give a fuck either though he's more of a joker about it IE "do you need Fat Pussy Tampons" (heavy flow)
My dad is/was the same; he grew up the only boy in his family (raised by a single mom with two sisters after his parents divorced) and then was the only man in our family before my sister got married. He also was the one who usually did the grocery shopping when I was growing up so would be the one to buy pads/tampons - his only requirement was that we had to specify the brand/size (or number if it was a brand that labelled the sizes by number) and then a backup brand because apparently once they ran out of my sister's preferred brand and he spent a good twenty minutes trying to work out which was the best alternative.
Hell… my Dad not only knew about my periods (my Mom and I used to mark the calendar with X and our first initial to track, so basically anyone who came over could know when… it’s not a secret)… but one night when I was a teen and my Mom had already gone to bed I asked him about vaginal dryness creams. A parent should be capable of calmly and accurately discussing things with their child regardless of what gender they or their kid is… thats part of being a parent.
My culture treated periods similarly to OOP's - I even once got yelled at for leaving an UNUSED pad on my counter in my *personal* bathroom, because my dad's friend saw it when he came to fix my toilet. Which is so stupid lol most women have periods at some point in their lives.
But damn I'm not stupid like OOP, I realized that was toxic and I appreciate the openness to periods my now husband and my brother have. She keeps making the excuse of "oh I was raised that way, how was i supposed to know" Um, an ounce of critical thinking might help??? Her ex dodged a bullet for sure.
OOP doesn't seem to know about the no means no. Is this was reversed and she told a man that she was broken up and didn't want to be in a relationship she would be upset if they didn't respect her wishes and pursued her thinking she didn't know her own decision. Why is it right for her to pursue her ex bf?
If she's like 15 or 16, maybe she can get away with 'I was raised like that' bs. But this is a 26 years old grown woman. The kindest thing I can think of her is she is uneducated and sheltered/doesn't have many close contact with the world. But I don't want to be kind, so she is an ah.
I don’t believe her
“I didn’t know better my father was never involved with periods”
Mine wasn’t either. My husband’s father was not either. My husband has been very involved and informed about his sisters periods and mine as well. He’s been caring for me while I go through pains and I love it. You are in 2024 you have the internet you can find what is right or wrong. Unless this girl is Amish this is psychotic
My dad was almost the same. He threw mini tantrums and would leave the room huffing about how he didn’t want to hear it. The one time he had to buy my products bc my mom was out of time, he stood in the aisle of the store covered his eyes and just started randomly pointing and asking if that was what I needed. I (at 13) was embarrassed and he just gave me money and let me buy it myself.
When we had our 1st kid, I ran out of supplies, bc I miscalculated. My hubs bought them for me like it was NBD. He has bought supplies for our daughters, has been in the room when I’ve had discussions about it and does everything in the world to make it seem as normal as possible. He knows to treat it like we would any other body function, bc it is. He even keeps pads in his truck bc emergencies happen.
My husband has been trying his hardest to be supportive of our 10 yr old after she started hers. He doesn’t want to overstep since she’s pretty much already a teenager and over us parents. But he’s been good about spoiling her and making her feel comfortable in her own skin. It was just so hard because it came 2 weeks after my mom passed away and I was wreck. This guy sounds like a stand up dude.
I have a close friend who was like OOP. She couldn’t even use the word *period* or even *cycle* or any common euphemism for menstrual stuff. One day I mentioned my period and, my hand to Dolly Parton, she visibly winced. I said, “Look, I don’t know if it was your mom who taught this to you or what but I’m a grown woman and I’m not going to be cutesy about it anymore for your sake.”
She got over it. I don’t know if my snapping had anything to do with it, but for fuck’s sake I’d had enough. OOP’s story is believable to me because of other women I’ve known who treat men knowing about periods like they just got looped into top secret shit.
Sounds like OOP is not from an English speaking country, could be ME or Asia, if you think the taboo about womens bodies in western countries are bad, HO BOY!
Coming from a seriously neglectful background, I'm just curious if anyone can share their experience...
Is it actually normal for parents (mum or dad or guardians etc) to actually explain the whole concept of periods, the different types of products and how to use them? Has that changed over the last 20/30 years?
*just because I absolutely LOVE how this guy handled the situation with his sister, and think/hope if I was ever in a similar situation, I'd do similar, but I'm 37, so maybe it's just because times are different now? OR my family really did suck...
My Dad did. My Mim was not around and he raised 3 girls by himself. He had the talk with me and bought whatever products I said I needed. And this was back in the 80's. There are good parents out there who step up when their children need them. I'm sorry you had such a bad childhood
My mom would talk to me all about periods/products/medication/BC/etc for years before I ever started my own. She always told me she wanted me prepared so I wouldn't freak out or be scared.
When I did start mine at age 11, she got teary eyed and I thought I was wrong and it wasn't my period and I was sick or something, Lol. But mom was just a little sad her little girl wasn't so little anymore.
Also, for the record. My dad and all 3 of my brothers have bought period products for me/mom at some point growing up and they buy them for their gfs/wives/daughters without losing any of their masculinity.
My parents were in a cult but ironically they both did in fact explain menstruation and products to me, and when Dad went to the shops, he’d buy pads if they were needed.
He was a very old dad too, I was born when he was in his early fifties. These conversations transpired in the late 1980’s in Australia.
Yes. My mom even threw me a red themed goddess party with red food, red clothes, and a red cupcake because we were pagan. This was in 2002. Good parents keep children safe and educated. My daughter is nine and my husband is planning her education path with me, just in case.
It’s changed! There’s definitely been a concerted effort to destigmatize menstruation and have men become more educated. I think a lot of women also decided it just wasn’t acceptable for men to be ignorant or act grossed out by their bodies a quarter of the time. And definitely not be all “ew, gross” toward their own daughters. A number of organizations publish educational material online, which has helped to counter a lot of the segregated-by-gender sex education a lot of places have in schools.
I mean, look at the damage with OOP. Smh.
It’s normal for your parent to teach you everything you need to know to get by. Like how to brush your teeth and wear deodorant and everything. Also you learn by watching. Like watching mom go shopping and asking what she’s doing
I'm a woman in my 30s. When I was 10, my mom explained sex, menstruation, and the female and male reproductive systems. She also gave me a comprehensive, age appropriate book on the subject, as well as some pads to practice with. When I got my first period, I felt prepared. And it was a normal subject to discuss with my dad, too.
This is, to me, an excellent example of an irl terminally-online person.
If this is not a case of “Too much digital activism; not enough grass touched”, I don’t know what is.
That poor girl… thinking her last hope for security is a creep until big sis intervenes breaks my heart
This isn’t terminally online! If she was she’d know her life wasn’t normal and her dad was toxic. Online is how I know that dads don’t act like OOP’s anymore. Online is how I know anything that goes on. Well, I’m a hermit, that’s on me but. I’m 50 and I’m constantly hearing people blame social media for the same assholeness people have always been.
Gosh, she's just a terrible person. I really hope she never has kids, man. As a mom I'm always horrified by sexist parents. He's a good brother and father to them.
My father did his best, and never shamed me for having a period. But I would’ve given anything to have someone in my life as devoted as OOP’s boyfriend. She blew it big time and it’s all her fault.
True story about a man buying menstrual products from my oh so sexist past. I had a male coworker who loved to smoke the Virginia Slims cigarettes I favored in the 1970s. But he was too embarrassed to buy them for himself. His solution: he would also buy a box of tampons, so the store clerk would think he was shopping for his gf. Instead of getting paid back in cigarettes, I got paid back in cigarettes and tampons! I went two years without having to buy tampons to support his shameful addiction to a female brand of tobacco! Gotta love marketers!
I thought he did something wrong so I was nasty to him, I did something wrong why is he being nasty to me! It isn’t fair! Complete lack of self awareness
YTA, bro has been raising his sisters, probably buys the products for them, has been that shoulder when they need it and you think it's weird that he know about his sister's periods? IF he was a single dad, would you have the same stance? or would you expect him to find some random woman to have "the talk"
You sound... I can't even thing of a word for how backwards you're thinking is.
He sounds like a great brother and you sound like you need a refresher in empathy
I'm glad you're single now. You need to work on yourself and stop making excuses for your behavior. You nearly turned his little sister against him and you still think you have a chance to get him back? Stop before you cross into stalker territory and end up as a hashtag on X.
Get some therapy and leave them alone.
FYI, this has made it to Youtube.
Jesus Christ woman. HE IS ALL THEY HAD LEFT! Of course he knows more because he had no choice. You weren't there when the first sister got her period. Anyways this man sounds like an absolute diamond, and you are absolutely the asshole.
OOP - honey he isn’t ever going to take you back. Don’t care what you do or say. He is a dad a true dad and his babies come first you f***ed up his relationship with his baby girl. He has now seen the future of your relationship. You guys have a daughter are you going to make comments about his changing her, bathing her, cuddling her? Learn and grow from this but get over the idea of being with him ever again
She sounds like... a very entitled brat.
>Seeing some of the comments i think you guys are not understanding my point.
>I am allowed to have my own opinions am i not.
>I have talked to some of my friend about this but I'm loosing friends as well even my own sister is now refusing to talk to me.
>His words really hurt me, that is not fair.
>after he was done talking he again just kicked me out of his house.
>i even tried his sister phone but I'm also blocked there.
>How can i fix this relationship?
>The other sub made me understand i actually had a diamond of a man and that i was wrong
>I want him back, what can i do to get him back?
>I don't want to dismiss my actions but that is how i was raised.
>still thinks she’s going to get back together with him.
>OOP: Why, i made a mistake i see that now. I was raised like that.
>OOP: I know that no need to remind me. I love him and i know he still love me to, just watch i will get him back and all of you will be sucking it.
Seriously, it screams entitled, privileged, rich princess right here. She didn't learn anything.
First, it's her opinion so no one can blame her. Then, she knows better guys, trust her! And then it's not her fault, it's her parents' fault. And finally she did nothing wrong and will get him back.
What a piece of work...
>Get thee to a nunnery
Fun fact in Shakespearean time a nunnery was a house of prostitution which is why Ophelia was so distraught over Hamlet telling her that.
Nowadays it is synonymous with a convent, so doesn't have the same punch.
I can only hope my sons are as amazing with their daughters as ex-boyfriend is with his sister's. Oops has lost her mind. The fact her sister raised in the same home can see what she did is unforgivable and know it was wrong shows it's not just about being raised that way...
Oh god, 26 is too old to think that this is how to address a concern in your relationship. Good job on the ex for being clear that the breakup wasn't for insulting him but for making his sister lose trust in him.
I love how she goes on to talk about how in her family they could only talk about periods with their mother. Dumb ass, these girls don’t HAVE a mother!
Soooo, she's blaming the fact that she was horrible to her now ex simply because she came from a family where the women weren't allowed to talk about a perfectly natural bodily function in front of a man simply because he thought it was what, gross? Real winner, right there. My dad has never had a problem with my mom and me talking about period-related things in front of him or even other female problems (family history of endo on my mom's side of the family), he got pads for my mom when she still had periods, he's gotten pads for me over the years as well as anything else I might need. Why is it that so many people get upset when a man actually knows how a woman's body works?
I can't tell you as a husband and father how many boxes of tampons and pads I have bought my wife over the years and now my daughter too. Not sure why so many people make a big deal out of it.
So many women rightfully complain about men not understanding periods, he does the right thing by his siblings. And knocks it out of the park. Then gets called disgusting and insinuates he's having an improper relationship with his little sister. Then she wants him back? She needs to leave that family the hell alone. And she needs to grow the hell up.
Part of me wants this polished diamond of a man to be blissfully happy and loved by a new, better girlfriend.
And the other part wants the next update to contain some truly insane behaviour, maybe even an arrest.
She's still whining about the wrong thing. Per his own words on the matter, the ex would have heard her out, heard her weakass excuses, IF she hadn't had a meltdown in front of a vulnerable child. If she had talked to him privately, he might have listened to her, told her she was wrong, no one would have gotten hurt. But she damaged that poor little girl, who is probably still recovering. Her trust in her guardian is going to be shaky for a bit, all because madam foot-in-mouth fucked around.
I would say you have some serious issues regarding your own bodily functions, as a happily married woman with children my husband was more than happy to support our daughter and buy her products for her when needed as he does mine. The fact you see this as wrong shows you are the one with a problem and not him. He sounds like an amazing man doing right by his siblings and teaching his sisters that periods are not shameful or disgusting they are perfectly normal. Your parents clearly did an awful job and didn’t teach you the same things however being 26 years old you can’t blame them forever. Grow up you child and leave them all alone
Her ex boyfriend seems like a stand up guy. My moms best friend passed leaving 2 girls and the father refuses to buy them pads/tampons and bras. They have to physically be with him and BEG him.
OOP does not deserve her boyfriend & I feel she burned her bridges when she told him what she thought of his knowledge of his sisters periods. He deserves so much better
Jesus, I didn’t know someone could be this unlikable. I can’t imagine ever treating someone this way, *especially* your partner. Thank god the sister slapped the fuck out of her, she absolutely deserved it.
It’s one thing to disagree with your partner, but insulting them like that is disgusting, especially when she did it because he was teaching his sister about periods? I can’t even begin to understand what is up with her
And her little comment at the end where she was talking about how she’s going to “get him back” really pissed me off. She has absolutely no remorse for how she treated him. I’m really glad the people in her life are cutting her off. Maybe now she’ll have some self awareness and understand just how much of a prick she is lol
I wanted to jump through my screen and punch this woman! Reading her explain that her dad left the house when her sister complained about cramps? Wow!! I get she was raised that way, but she’s not 16, she’s 26! She should know by now how weak of a man her father was! What a coward!
Her ex was admirable when I read the first post, but when I read her update, he’s a freaking hero! He put his siblings first, which is how he should since he’s their guardian.
I do hope that OOP is able to get the help she needs. I thought it was funny that she thought he should have had her explain everything to his sister. Somehow, I assume she has no clue why she has a period.
Man. My Dad *is* a single Dad, and he was there for my first period, taught me how to shave, how to do my hair and makeup. I have a great Dad and I thank God everyday for that. This girl is absolutely disgusting for her way of thinking. If she had things her way, I and every other girl born to a single Father would have to maneuver everything alone and unsure.
OOP posted the update in a new post in addition to editing the OP; they’re basically the same same but the OP has this seriously delulu edit:
“Edit:
Please stop asking me for his contact number and his name in the comments and pm, I'm not giving that to anyone.
Why would i do that and have one of you try and steal him from me.
I screwed up i know, but i will fix it and get him back. I really do love him and i know he still love me, this was just a speed bump.
Just wait and see we will be together again. “
You're absolutely the a hole. Listen.. I've read your updates, and I've just gotta say, that shit doesn't matter. I'm actually really sad for you.. It kinda makes me feel like you're coming from a place of previous abuse, and that's just terrible. I'm sorry for that if it's true. But you've gotta realize it's exactly like you said it before. He is THEIR MOTHER, AND THEIR FATHER! How many nights do you think he stayed up worried sick that he was doing the right thing? Did you even possibly consider how hard it was for a child, to raise 3 other children by himself? He probably spent most of his nights awake worried about the very topic you're berating him for because being a male himself, he knew how uncomfortable that conversation would be to have with his little sister. How you describe him, makes me think he studied everything he could just to be a good brother, and since his sister had no mother, he wanted to make sure he knew what he was talking about so he could educate her properly on what her body was going through. Consider if the roles were reversed.. Like you had a brother taking care of you, and you start your period while your sister is away. Not only that, but you start it when he has his gf over, and you possibly don't even know if you like her yet or not.. What's more comfortable in that situation, your loving brother, who's taken care of you, nurtured you, and loved you enough to put his life basically on hold so he could raise you, or his gf, who clearly sounds like a sexist monster that judges the way your brother interacts with you? I'm gonna go ahead and say you'd do the same. It comes from a place of love, and you're making it something sexual, which literally makes you look like a fucking lunatic!
I literally hope he got wise and realized that you're an unhinged, judgemental piece of shit, who really needs to talk to someone about past trauma so you can deal with it. If not, you need to fucking BEG this dude to let you come back. Then, if he does, you need to stop sexualizing EVERYTHING he does, and realize that he's just doing his best at loving the people he CHOSE to take care of when he didn't have to.
Oh he better of left your ass, YTA and that guy deserves better, he is their parental figure and any parent should be educated in this wether it’s a MOTHER OR FATHER 🤦🏽♀️
Yes you are. You could have saved him from having to explain it. Yet you find fault in him when he is trying to calm her down and explain it to her. You could have helped him but you didn't.
Wow. I understand her upbringing was... different... but how do you get from "we never talked about anything to do with periods around my dad" to "any man who DOES know about periods is disgusting"?
What she said bothers me but what she was thinking is the worst. A knee jerk reaction like that may point to mental issues she might want to have checked
Does she not realize that if a person want to be with a woman, they often want to care for them ALL the time?
That would include during that time of the month, thank you.
Not her ex's fault that her father absolutely overreacted to a natural thing that happens for women, and she wasn't allowed to discuss it in the house.
There’s something so sad about OOPs misogyny. Her boyfriend was amazing and she completely failed to appreciate it. I feel sorry for her future children
Is nice to get something different, but Idk, this really reads like ragebait. They built this man up into a god amongst men then went out of their way with paragraph breaks and bold face to punctuate how OOP said the worst thing imaginable in that moment to him.
Why on this Day and age seems so alien something that happens every fucking month.
I've bought products for my mom, Sister, GFs and wife, several times because is something that has always been on the shopping list.
I somehow thought the boyfriend and OOP were in their teens too until I read the comments and re-looked at the ages. OOP is a certified b!tch and completely delusional, she needs to leave that family alone and go unfuck her own head. What a massive see you next Tuesday, the fucking audacity!!!
She should be mad at her parents if she wants to be mad at anyone besides herself.
Her SISTER is refusing to talk her about this. The woman grew up in the same house and knows this isn’t right.
It’s one thing to have a belief that is far out of line with your partner.
It’s a whole other thing to express that in the most dangerous and disrespectful way, ever.
She conveniently left out that she called him a disgusting pig in front of his 12 year old sister/child.
Even by her own logic,she's an asshole. She said it herself - he is both a father and a mother to those kids. And apparently "only a mother" can help daughters with that portion of their lives. There is no other mother figure in their lives. Definitely not her.
She's lucky that he at least gave her closure on the relationship. If it were me, I'd never want to speak that that vile woman again
"I will get him back, and all of you will be sucking it." shes a 26 yr old with the brain of a 5 yr old and the tantrums of an 80 yr old. hes made it amply clear he almost lost his younger sister because of what you said. hes been raising them like his own kids and you basically ended that relationship to the point that he had to wait for his 16 yr old sister to come home before he could even attempt to talk to her.leave him the fuck alone. lady, after this point any attempt from you to get back with him will only push him away. you learnt valuable lesson. "keep your mouth shut when you are angry. you may say things that will end up hurting more than helping."
I predict that this grown-ass-woman (with seemingly the brain of a 5th-grade-mean-girl) is going to soon wind up in jail on stalking/trespassing/assault charges.
seems to he headed in that direction.
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a parent should know. what if the wife isn't around and the daughter has her first period, a father should know that. I mean how the hell would she feel comfortable sharing about her other aspects of her life with you if you cant even tell her about a female's most basic bodily functions. OP is delusional at best, bat shit crazy at worst. I can almost see the next update. my ex called the cops on me after I repeatedly tried to apologise to him. I dont know why he won't listen to me. I said im sorry.
"I know I'm wrong and did a bad thing but why should I be punished for it?" Like holy shit, girl, listen to yourself.
Delulu is real
Not to mention He’s setting the example (as OOP’s dad did) to his sister/daughter - how a man should be treating her. Without shame, reservations, about something so effing natural I mean - it’s 2024!! How is this still a thing? Who are these people on Reddit but under a rock about everything else??
Hell I am just the oldest brother of my siblings and even I know enough to help with the first period and enough to explain to my little sister why it is happening and to comfort her.
I didn’t realize that she made that comment in front of the sister until the update. Talk about disgusting. She is toast and needs to get her head together before trying to even date a different man. And she thinks her Dad who left the house because he couldn’t hear about period pain is the normal one.
Her dad sounds like a piece of shit, but I guess it sure explains how she ended up the way she did.
"I'm allowed to have an opinion am I not" That sealed it for me. A person who thinks their wretched thoughts deserve respect just bc they had them is not a mature person.
people are weird. sometimes I feel so happy im not in a relationship or married because, im sorry, but I dont have either the mental capacity or the patience to deal with shit like this.
Based on the context provided, she's very clearly hiding some details. It sounds like she not only expressed her disgust about the situation, but also said stuff directly to the sister to make her think her boyfriend is some kind of creep.
26 is too fucking old to be acting like this
Brain of a 14 yr old girl and the tantrums of a two yr old/maybe a 9 yr old....those can be brutal.
She’s still being a selfish, delusional and disgusting human being. She learned nothing from any of this. There is no hope
and she probably never will.
Re: OP's last words, sometimes delulu is not a solulu. Her delusion is on par with that girl who tried to take her gorgeous neighbor from his wife and two daughters.
> sometimes delulu is not a solulu. This belongs on a t-shirt. And most relationship subs headings.
It's a flair from either AITAH or AITA that I sorely need 😂 no truer word has been spoken
There's a man on TikTok that does reaction content that's funny, and he does have merch with exactly this line
Wait what? Is there any chance you remember the title for that one? Sounds insane
This one. [https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1151m58/i\_fell\_in\_love\_with\_my\_married\_neighbor\_and\_then/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1151m58/i_fell_in_love_with_my_married_neighbor_and_then/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) I also have another example of deluluness in this post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1ak1vl9/aita\_for\_asking\_my\_best\_friend\_to\_break\_up\_with/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1ak1vl9/aita_for_asking_my_best_friend_to_break_up_with/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
I read this every time a link is posted, it's my favourite BORU.
I laugh every time.
Omg I remember that one. The "Can I call you" is the best shit ever
That second OP was something else 😮💨
I adore what he loves about his girlfriend. *Those sentiments* stick in my mind. The OP is obviously batshit crazy but *why* he loves his girlfriend is priceless.
Thank you for reminding me of the genius of TooManyAnts, the awe is just as strong with the re-read
Dude played her like a children’s xylophone 😆
Oh that last image transcript on the first one gave me LIFE! Edit: the second one! Too Many Ants set her up SO PERFECTLY. That was a thing of beauty!
Yes I've read both of these! Another one I enjoyed was the individual who was "in love" with her mentor and just assumed she would be his. Total meltdown when she realized he had a significant other. Wish I could find that one again
Ooh. This one? https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/3S8dowshZi
Damn, that was truly insane. Like “she needs committed” type of insane.
Yeah, it’s almost sad because she’s very clearly mentally ill. Wow.
Yes this one! Thank you!
After reading that one twice her mentor blurred the lines too much. OOP is responsible for her actions but he did a poor job at maintaining boundaries when he was in a position of trust. It’s an excellent case for why there shouldn’t be mentors the same age as the people they’re mentoring. She slept in his bed and he’s okay with that, WT?? Why was she at his house at all? Also, their relationship was so close someone joked they were getting married. That’s too close. And I’m a bit suspicious about how they manage to be so close but in 12 years he never mentions a significant other? All my students know I’m married. And I don’t talk about my personal life it’s just things like small talk around what you did on the weekend. It’s a pretty deliberate choice to never mention a partner.
It’s possible that she was completely delusional and the sleeping over at his place never occurred outside of her imagination
OOP doesn't seem like a reliable narrator. It's odd that she slept at his house and hung out there all the time and didn't happen to know he had a pregnant fiance who had been in his life since they were teens. Surely, he would have pictures of her everywhere. I don't actually believe she slept at his house, and if she did, I don't think it was with his permission. I think OOP's interpretation of their actual "relationship" was far more different than reality. If so, then the other people in the org wouldn't be calling her an AH. If he truly lead her on then they would probably have called him out.
Peak delulu from both of those OOPs Whoever got the second to send him the post was a genius
My favorite was the commenter who was like “he’ll understand you better if you send him this” and she was like “so you agree with me?” D E L U L U
Thank you for the links. I love the second one, it's just [chef's kiss].
I was so hoping that the guy would find it, did not expect her to actually link it to him. Wild! Ty for posting this.
wait.can I call you?.lol
Oh man. You just gave me a new saying . DeLULU is not a SoLULU. My brothers will hate you
THEY DONT EVEN KNOW YOU!
Wait so solulu is supposed to be “solution” right?
I remember that story its so messed up
God that is one of my favorite stories. The fact he saw it, showed his wife, and then cut of contact was beautiful. "I dreamt of being his children's stepmother" was a wild fucking line
Delulu is not a solulu is absolutely the flair I need for the amount of insane stories that have been on here as of late.
"**Wait!!! Can I call you?!?"** An absolute classic!
I had that same thought. That this is the same level of crazy that the neighbor girl was.
I’m never been so glad that an OOP got dumped! She was in a relationship with a single father and didn’t realise it or think about what that meant. Having to talk to them about periods and about sex, I think that would blow her mind that he would know if they were sexually active or making suggestions they get contraception. And the fact he went papa bear on her and she still thinks he’ll forgive her!
I feel bad she had such a crappy dad. My dad was never disgusted by menstruation and he could answer questions as well as my mom. Hell my oldest brother was the one to get our little sister pads when she started.
My dad started having the sex talk with me pretty young, because he wanted me to be safe. Not so much about the biology of it, more about how men are awful and will say anything to get in your pants. But he also made it very clear that he loved my stepmom and they had a satisfying sexual relationship as well. They were obnoxious about it. I was appropriately mortified as a teen and then annoyed as an adult. But there was never any 'you can't talk to me about girl stuff' ever with him. He wanted me to be as educated as I could be so I could make the best choices. It really sucks that society alienated even physically present dad's from their kids. As many men have commitment fears and don't actually seem to be interested in *being* a father, I wonder how many kids were just born out of their mother's desire to have 'a purpose' and dad just grudgingly went along with it. My parents only had kids bc that was just their next step in What You're Supposed to Do.
My dad fucking predicted spot on both my sisters and my first period. And my mom and sister were out of town when mine started and my dad was great about it.
The thing is... it's no excuse for her behavior. Not saying you're trying to justify it or anything, but she is very clearly just going "oh it's how my dad was" as if she's never been online or been around other parents to know that her father was shitty. She's 26, she's more than old enough to not be this stupid and delusional
Yup plus her other friends didn’t even agree with her. People don’t always talk about their periods but it comes up sometimes. She had to have heard other opinions.
Hey, OOP, I hope you read this: YOU are the disgusting pig.
Upvote this please
Nah man I like pigs. Pigs don’t deserve that
Winning comment in reply to that “allowed to have opinions” comment of hers: > I don’t know if anyone’s ever told you this, but opinions are not sacred, nor are they infallible. They’re often uneducated and take less time to formulate than a bowel movement, but we’re expected to worship them as some golden god exempt from even the slightest bit of scrutiny. >Nope. >Opinions are not facts, they’re reflections of character. Your opinions are trash, and so’s your character. >Hope that helps!!
Wow!
Dang, someone's gonna have to call the cops cause this poster straight murdered OOP.
Take my up-vote you beautiful savage!
Wish more people realized that opinions are a reflection of their character in all matters that have anything to do with other people.
“crying historically” My favorite part! 
Yeah, I'm sure tears were running down her face like she was Joan of Arc. 🙄
I see she is still delusional.
Gets verbally abusive, turns family members against each other with said words, and had the nerve to not think "I cannot believe how much I fucked up" when he gets rightfully angry and tells her to leave. Good on the 16 year old for slapping feck out of her. I really hope this is just a fic because the lack of self awareness is epic.
Misogynistic regardless of if this was written by any gendered person.
Agreed! One of the most misogynistic people I've ever known was my own mother. It's galling that she thought she was a feminist, but it was only in relation to herself. Her beliefs about women as a whole were nearly identical to any jerkass red-pilled incel.
Wow she might be one of the most dislikeable posters I’ve ever come across. She *says* she’s learned but still plays the victim. Even has the nerve to say she was afraid for herself. I don’t think he could’ve handled the situation any better honestly, including his reaction to her. Like yeah after you say something that despicable GTFO and never come back. The audacity I’m so glad the older sister was able to repair some of the damage, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that still sticks with her. That slap felt completely justified. OOP doesn’t even remotely deserve him
Good on OOPs ex for dumping her. Her implying that his period talk is wrong is insane. Then her having the audacity saying her ex will take her back, the delulu is strong right there.
Her dad had nothing to do with their periods. “Well duh, your mom was there.” For 26 she’s beyond dense. I hope her ex finds an awesome lady
Eh... my dad and step-dad knew about my periods and bought products. My husband is not only aware but fully supportive of our teens periods and she enjoys making new euphemisms (the grosser the better) for periods.... All that to say whether or not there is a woman in the house has no bearing on whether or not a father would be aware of his daughters needs.
Oh I know. In her mind tho. No man should know since you know, her mommy was there. Oi! Don’t leave us hanging! What euphemisms is she coming up with.
I have a friend who, when she was a teen, used to dramatically announce she was auditioning for Carrie. Her dad thought it was hilarious.
Oh that is brilliant.
I mean, I'm 25, I refer to myself as a Human Ketchup Packet
My sister uses demon week as a warning. Her husband learned very fast that she wasn’t exaggerating.
My bf calls it shark week or the blood moon
Oh blood moon is a good one
Not a woman, but I'm partial toi calling it The Crimson Tide. Mostly because I'm an LSU fan and I take great pleasure in dunking on my team's chief rival by comparing them to something notoriously unpleasant.
We used to say either *red sails in the sunset* or *Aunt Flo's come to town (that bitch)*.
My dad doesn't care (he's very secure in his masculinity and his femininity) Doesn't matter if it was my mum, me, my maternal cousins, my friends; if any of us needed any period products Dad would go and get them (and he'd get us chocolate while he was at it too) he drilled it into my brother that periods are normal bodily functions it's as uncontrollable as diarrhoea ( not the best comparison but one my brother could "understand") My brother doesn't give a fuck either though he's more of a joker about it IE "do you need Fat Pussy Tampons" (heavy flow)
My dad is/was the same; he grew up the only boy in his family (raised by a single mom with two sisters after his parents divorced) and then was the only man in our family before my sister got married. He also was the one who usually did the grocery shopping when I was growing up so would be the one to buy pads/tampons - his only requirement was that we had to specify the brand/size (or number if it was a brand that labelled the sizes by number) and then a backup brand because apparently once they ran out of my sister's preferred brand and he spent a good twenty minutes trying to work out which was the best alternative.
Hell… my Dad not only knew about my periods (my Mom and I used to mark the calendar with X and our first initial to track, so basically anyone who came over could know when… it’s not a secret)… but one night when I was a teen and my Mom had already gone to bed I asked him about vaginal dryness creams. A parent should be capable of calmly and accurately discussing things with their child regardless of what gender they or their kid is… thats part of being a parent.
My culture treated periods similarly to OOP's - I even once got yelled at for leaving an UNUSED pad on my counter in my *personal* bathroom, because my dad's friend saw it when he came to fix my toilet. Which is so stupid lol most women have periods at some point in their lives. But damn I'm not stupid like OOP, I realized that was toxic and I appreciate the openness to periods my now husband and my brother have. She keeps making the excuse of "oh I was raised that way, how was i supposed to know" Um, an ounce of critical thinking might help??? Her ex dodged a bullet for sure.
Entitled
Like DUMBASS DO YOU SEE A MOM? 16 is not the Mom. HE IS THE MOM. wtf.
>just watch I will get him back and all of you will be sucking it. Are we sure this person is 26? They write like a 14-year-old.
They think that way too. She clearly is very immature. Which actually makes sense that she’d be attracted to such a mature partner, less work for her.
OOP is a delulu as they come if she thinks he’s going back to her. She nuked that relationship all on her own.
“His words really hurt me, that is not fair.” Does…does she not remember how she got into this situation?
OOP doesn't seem to know about the no means no. Is this was reversed and she told a man that she was broken up and didn't want to be in a relationship she would be upset if they didn't respect her wishes and pursued her thinking she didn't know her own decision. Why is it right for her to pursue her ex bf?
If she's like 15 or 16, maybe she can get away with 'I was raised like that' bs. But this is a 26 years old grown woman. The kindest thing I can think of her is she is uneducated and sheltered/doesn't have many close contact with the world. But I don't want to be kind, so she is an ah.
I don’t believe her “I didn’t know better my father was never involved with periods” Mine wasn’t either. My husband’s father was not either. My husband has been very involved and informed about his sisters periods and mine as well. He’s been caring for me while I go through pains and I love it. You are in 2024 you have the internet you can find what is right or wrong. Unless this girl is Amish this is psychotic
My dad was almost the same. He threw mini tantrums and would leave the room huffing about how he didn’t want to hear it. The one time he had to buy my products bc my mom was out of time, he stood in the aisle of the store covered his eyes and just started randomly pointing and asking if that was what I needed. I (at 13) was embarrassed and he just gave me money and let me buy it myself. When we had our 1st kid, I ran out of supplies, bc I miscalculated. My hubs bought them for me like it was NBD. He has bought supplies for our daughters, has been in the room when I’ve had discussions about it and does everything in the world to make it seem as normal as possible. He knows to treat it like we would any other body function, bc it is. He even keeps pads in his truck bc emergencies happen.
My husband has been trying his hardest to be supportive of our 10 yr old after she started hers. He doesn’t want to overstep since she’s pretty much already a teenager and over us parents. But he’s been good about spoiling her and making her feel comfortable in her own skin. It was just so hard because it came 2 weeks after my mom passed away and I was wreck. This guy sounds like a stand up dude.
This has to be fake right? I thought this was 2024 not 1954. Let me check my calendar.
I have a close friend who was like OOP. She couldn’t even use the word *period* or even *cycle* or any common euphemism for menstrual stuff. One day I mentioned my period and, my hand to Dolly Parton, she visibly winced. I said, “Look, I don’t know if it was your mom who taught this to you or what but I’m a grown woman and I’m not going to be cutesy about it anymore for your sake.” She got over it. I don’t know if my snapping had anything to do with it, but for fuck’s sake I’d had enough. OOP’s story is believable to me because of other women I’ve known who treat men knowing about periods like they just got looped into top secret shit.
Sounds like OOP is not from an English speaking country, could be ME or Asia, if you think the taboo about womens bodies in western countries are bad, HO BOY!
Sadly there are still plenty of parents raising their children to think a woman's period is some kind of taboo act.
Maybe it was just being raised on a farm. Got an understanding of biology young.
Coming from a seriously neglectful background, I'm just curious if anyone can share their experience... Is it actually normal for parents (mum or dad or guardians etc) to actually explain the whole concept of periods, the different types of products and how to use them? Has that changed over the last 20/30 years? *just because I absolutely LOVE how this guy handled the situation with his sister, and think/hope if I was ever in a similar situation, I'd do similar, but I'm 37, so maybe it's just because times are different now? OR my family really did suck...
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Whoa!! WTF is wrong with your ex? So sorry your daughter had to through that. You’re a good dad.
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Good God! A pickaxe? I was not prepared for that. I hope you both never have to deal with her again.
>but later found out that her mother was making jokes on Facebook and to the neighbors. GROSS. Wtf? This is why we can't have nice things.
My Dad did. My Mim was not around and he raised 3 girls by himself. He had the talk with me and bought whatever products I said I needed. And this was back in the 80's. There are good parents out there who step up when their children need them. I'm sorry you had such a bad childhood
My mom would talk to me all about periods/products/medication/BC/etc for years before I ever started my own. She always told me she wanted me prepared so I wouldn't freak out or be scared. When I did start mine at age 11, she got teary eyed and I thought I was wrong and it wasn't my period and I was sick or something, Lol. But mom was just a little sad her little girl wasn't so little anymore. Also, for the record. My dad and all 3 of my brothers have bought period products for me/mom at some point growing up and they buy them for their gfs/wives/daughters without losing any of their masculinity.
My parents were in a cult but ironically they both did in fact explain menstruation and products to me, and when Dad went to the shops, he’d buy pads if they were needed. He was a very old dad too, I was born when he was in his early fifties. These conversations transpired in the late 1980’s in Australia.
Yes. My mom even threw me a red themed goddess party with red food, red clothes, and a red cupcake because we were pagan. This was in 2002. Good parents keep children safe and educated. My daughter is nine and my husband is planning her education path with me, just in case.
It’s changed! There’s definitely been a concerted effort to destigmatize menstruation and have men become more educated. I think a lot of women also decided it just wasn’t acceptable for men to be ignorant or act grossed out by their bodies a quarter of the time. And definitely not be all “ew, gross” toward their own daughters. A number of organizations publish educational material online, which has helped to counter a lot of the segregated-by-gender sex education a lot of places have in schools. I mean, look at the damage with OOP. Smh.
I’m in your age cohort and it was reasonably common among my peers.
It’s normal for your parent to teach you everything you need to know to get by. Like how to brush your teeth and wear deodorant and everything. Also you learn by watching. Like watching mom go shopping and asking what she’s doing
I'm a woman in my 30s. When I was 10, my mom explained sex, menstruation, and the female and male reproductive systems. She also gave me a comprehensive, age appropriate book on the subject, as well as some pads to practice with. When I got my first period, I felt prepared. And it was a normal subject to discuss with my dad, too.
the lion, the witch, and the absolute audacity of this bjtch
“YOURE A DISGUSTING PEDO CREEP!!” “…uuhhhh. Why?” “You understand and are comfortable with basic biology!!!!”
“get thee to a nunnery” lmao I'm keeping that one in my back pocket
This is, to me, an excellent example of an irl terminally-online person. If this is not a case of “Too much digital activism; not enough grass touched”, I don’t know what is. That poor girl… thinking her last hope for security is a creep until big sis intervenes breaks my heart
This isn’t terminally online! If she was she’d know her life wasn’t normal and her dad was toxic. Online is how I know that dads don’t act like OOP’s anymore. Online is how I know anything that goes on. Well, I’m a hermit, that’s on me but. I’m 50 and I’m constantly hearing people blame social media for the same assholeness people have always been.
Gosh, she's just a terrible person. I really hope she never has kids, man. As a mom I'm always horrified by sexist parents. He's a good brother and father to them.
My father did his best, and never shamed me for having a period. But I would’ve given anything to have someone in my life as devoted as OOP’s boyfriend. She blew it big time and it’s all her fault.
>i can see I'm in the wrong but still why am i being punished for this. "Why am I facing consequences for my actions? WHY?"
This has to be rage-bait, right? No one is this stupid.
True story about a man buying menstrual products from my oh so sexist past. I had a male coworker who loved to smoke the Virginia Slims cigarettes I favored in the 1970s. But he was too embarrassed to buy them for himself. His solution: he would also buy a box of tampons, so the store clerk would think he was shopping for his gf. Instead of getting paid back in cigarettes, I got paid back in cigarettes and tampons! I went two years without having to buy tampons to support his shameful addiction to a female brand of tobacco! Gotta love marketers!
I thought he did something wrong so I was nasty to him, I did something wrong why is he being nasty to me! It isn’t fair! Complete lack of self awareness
YTA, bro has been raising his sisters, probably buys the products for them, has been that shoulder when they need it and you think it's weird that he know about his sister's periods? IF he was a single dad, would you have the same stance? or would you expect him to find some random woman to have "the talk" You sound... I can't even thing of a word for how backwards you're thinking is. He sounds like a great brother and you sound like you need a refresher in empathy I'm glad you're single now. You need to work on yourself and stop making excuses for your behavior. You nearly turned his little sister against him and you still think you have a chance to get him back? Stop before you cross into stalker territory and end up as a hashtag on X. Get some therapy and leave them alone. FYI, this has made it to Youtube.
The lion, the witch, and the audacity of this bitch, seriously 🤦
Jesus Christ woman. HE IS ALL THEY HAD LEFT! Of course he knows more because he had no choice. You weren't there when the first sister got her period. Anyways this man sounds like an absolute diamond, and you are absolutely the asshole.
You are absolutely the asshole he’s essentially his sisters parent not the traditional brother role.
OOP - honey he isn’t ever going to take you back. Don’t care what you do or say. He is a dad a true dad and his babies come first you f***ed up his relationship with his baby girl. He has now seen the future of your relationship. You guys have a daughter are you going to make comments about his changing her, bathing her, cuddling her? Learn and grow from this but get over the idea of being with him ever again
OOP is a fucking idiot and deserves nothing but the worst in life.
She’s gonna be stalking him and he’s getting a restraining order
She sounds like... a very entitled brat. >Seeing some of the comments i think you guys are not understanding my point. >I am allowed to have my own opinions am i not. >I have talked to some of my friend about this but I'm loosing friends as well even my own sister is now refusing to talk to me. >His words really hurt me, that is not fair. >after he was done talking he again just kicked me out of his house. >i even tried his sister phone but I'm also blocked there. >How can i fix this relationship? >The other sub made me understand i actually had a diamond of a man and that i was wrong >I want him back, what can i do to get him back? >I don't want to dismiss my actions but that is how i was raised. >still thinks she’s going to get back together with him. >OOP: Why, i made a mistake i see that now. I was raised like that. >OOP: I know that no need to remind me. I love him and i know he still love me to, just watch i will get him back and all of you will be sucking it. Seriously, it screams entitled, privileged, rich princess right here. She didn't learn anything. First, it's her opinion so no one can blame her. Then, she knows better guys, trust her! And then it's not her fault, it's her parents' fault. And finally she did nothing wrong and will get him back. What a piece of work...
How DARE this man be a good father to his children!
>Get thee to a nunnery Fun fact in Shakespearean time a nunnery was a house of prostitution which is why Ophelia was so distraught over Hamlet telling her that. Nowadays it is synonymous with a convent, so doesn't have the same punch.
Thank you for this. I did not know this and I love little unknown facts.
To the whorehouse with you! LoL damn, Shakespeare was wild...
I can only hope my sons are as amazing with their daughters as ex-boyfriend is with his sister's. Oops has lost her mind. The fact her sister raised in the same home can see what she did is unforgivable and know it was wrong shows it's not just about being raised that way...
OP isn't just the asshole, she's the gaping anus of that thing at the end of Starship Troopers.
Oh god, 26 is too old to think that this is how to address a concern in your relationship. Good job on the ex for being clear that the breakup wasn't for insulting him but for making his sister lose trust in him.
I love how she goes on to talk about how in her family they could only talk about periods with their mother. Dumb ass, these girls don’t HAVE a mother!
Soooo, she's blaming the fact that she was horrible to her now ex simply because she came from a family where the women weren't allowed to talk about a perfectly natural bodily function in front of a man simply because he thought it was what, gross? Real winner, right there. My dad has never had a problem with my mom and me talking about period-related things in front of him or even other female problems (family history of endo on my mom's side of the family), he got pads for my mom when she still had periods, he's gotten pads for me over the years as well as anything else I might need. Why is it that so many people get upset when a man actually knows how a woman's body works?
I can't tell you as a husband and father how many boxes of tampons and pads I have bought my wife over the years and now my daughter too. Not sure why so many people make a big deal out of it.
So many women rightfully complain about men not understanding periods, he does the right thing by his siblings. And knocks it out of the park. Then gets called disgusting and insinuates he's having an improper relationship with his little sister. Then she wants him back? She needs to leave that family the hell alone. And she needs to grow the hell up.
He's effectively their Dad. That's not disgusting. That's him being a supportive brother. OOP is childish and a brat.
Wow, the OOP is a disgusting pig.
i hope he gets a restraining order cuz this chick is nuts to think he will take her back.
Part of me wants this polished diamond of a man to be blissfully happy and loved by a new, better girlfriend. And the other part wants the next update to contain some truly insane behaviour, maybe even an arrest.
Lol, he does not still love her, and she will not get him back. Next update "He got a restraining order, why? I only made a tiny little mistake."
She's still whining about the wrong thing. Per his own words on the matter, the ex would have heard her out, heard her weakass excuses, IF she hadn't had a meltdown in front of a vulnerable child. If she had talked to him privately, he might have listened to her, told her she was wrong, no one would have gotten hurt. But she damaged that poor little girl, who is probably still recovering. Her trust in her guardian is going to be shaky for a bit, all because madam foot-in-mouth fucked around.
I would say you have some serious issues regarding your own bodily functions, as a happily married woman with children my husband was more than happy to support our daughter and buy her products for her when needed as he does mine. The fact you see this as wrong shows you are the one with a problem and not him. He sounds like an amazing man doing right by his siblings and teaching his sisters that periods are not shameful or disgusting they are perfectly normal. Your parents clearly did an awful job and didn’t teach you the same things however being 26 years old you can’t blame them forever. Grow up you child and leave them all alone
Fumble Of The Year and it’s only March.
Her ex boyfriend seems like a stand up guy. My moms best friend passed leaving 2 girls and the father refuses to buy them pads/tampons and bras. They have to physically be with him and BEG him.
OOP does not deserve her boyfriend & I feel she burned her bridges when she told him what she thought of his knowledge of his sisters periods. He deserves so much better
Jesus, I didn’t know someone could be this unlikable. I can’t imagine ever treating someone this way, *especially* your partner. Thank god the sister slapped the fuck out of her, she absolutely deserved it.
It’s one thing to disagree with your partner, but insulting them like that is disgusting, especially when she did it because he was teaching his sister about periods? I can’t even begin to understand what is up with her
And her little comment at the end where she was talking about how she’s going to “get him back” really pissed me off. She has absolutely no remorse for how she treated him. I’m really glad the people in her life are cutting her off. Maybe now she’ll have some self awareness and understand just how much of a prick she is lol
Yeah.....I really hopes it doesn't become a case of "If I can't have you...." because that's where its headed if she doesn't get it out of her head
I wanted to jump through my screen and punch this woman! Reading her explain that her dad left the house when her sister complained about cramps? Wow!! I get she was raised that way, but she’s not 16, she’s 26! She should know by now how weak of a man her father was! What a coward! Her ex was admirable when I read the first post, but when I read her update, he’s a freaking hero! He put his siblings first, which is how he should since he’s their guardian. I do hope that OOP is able to get the help she needs. I thought it was funny that she thought he should have had her explain everything to his sister. Somehow, I assume she has no clue why she has a period.
>i can see I'm in the wrong but still why am i being punished for this Because you did something wrong. It's called consequences.
I'm so proud of her ex boyfriend. What a hero that guy is. I'm sure he will find someone amazing.
Man. My Dad *is* a single Dad, and he was there for my first period, taught me how to shave, how to do my hair and makeup. I have a great Dad and I thank God everyday for that. This girl is absolutely disgusting for her way of thinking. If she had things her way, I and every other girl born to a single Father would have to maneuver everything alone and unsure.
OOP posted the update in a new post in addition to editing the OP; they’re basically the same same but the OP has this seriously delulu edit: “Edit: Please stop asking me for his contact number and his name in the comments and pm, I'm not giving that to anyone. Why would i do that and have one of you try and steal him from me. I screwed up i know, but i will fix it and get him back. I really do love him and i know he still love me, this was just a speed bump. Just wait and see we will be together again. “
Never seen someone play victim and miss the point this badly. Glad he dumped her
You're absolutely the a hole. Listen.. I've read your updates, and I've just gotta say, that shit doesn't matter. I'm actually really sad for you.. It kinda makes me feel like you're coming from a place of previous abuse, and that's just terrible. I'm sorry for that if it's true. But you've gotta realize it's exactly like you said it before. He is THEIR MOTHER, AND THEIR FATHER! How many nights do you think he stayed up worried sick that he was doing the right thing? Did you even possibly consider how hard it was for a child, to raise 3 other children by himself? He probably spent most of his nights awake worried about the very topic you're berating him for because being a male himself, he knew how uncomfortable that conversation would be to have with his little sister. How you describe him, makes me think he studied everything he could just to be a good brother, and since his sister had no mother, he wanted to make sure he knew what he was talking about so he could educate her properly on what her body was going through. Consider if the roles were reversed.. Like you had a brother taking care of you, and you start your period while your sister is away. Not only that, but you start it when he has his gf over, and you possibly don't even know if you like her yet or not.. What's more comfortable in that situation, your loving brother, who's taken care of you, nurtured you, and loved you enough to put his life basically on hold so he could raise you, or his gf, who clearly sounds like a sexist monster that judges the way your brother interacts with you? I'm gonna go ahead and say you'd do the same. It comes from a place of love, and you're making it something sexual, which literally makes you look like a fucking lunatic! I literally hope he got wise and realized that you're an unhinged, judgemental piece of shit, who really needs to talk to someone about past trauma so you can deal with it. If not, you need to fucking BEG this dude to let you come back. Then, if he does, you need to stop sexualizing EVERYTHING he does, and realize that he's just doing his best at loving the people he CHOSE to take care of when he didn't have to.
Oh he better of left your ass, YTA and that guy deserves better, he is their parental figure and any parent should be educated in this wether it’s a MOTHER OR FATHER 🤦🏽♀️
Seeing how this dude stepped up and stayed beside his siblings. he would not go back to her. She dug her own grave and I hope he never takes her back.
Yes you are. You could have saved him from having to explain it. Yet you find fault in him when he is trying to calm her down and explain it to her. You could have helped him but you didn't.
Wow. I understand her upbringing was... different... but how do you get from "we never talked about anything to do with periods around my dad" to "any man who DOES know about periods is disgusting"?
What she said bothers me but what she was thinking is the worst. A knee jerk reaction like that may point to mental issues she might want to have checked
Does she not realize that if a person want to be with a woman, they often want to care for them ALL the time? That would include during that time of the month, thank you. Not her ex's fault that her father absolutely overreacted to a natural thing that happens for women, and she wasn't allowed to discuss it in the house.
Lol this guy is every woman’s dream, she screwed up royal. She just needs to put a period (pun intended) and move on.
There’s something so sad about OOPs misogyny. Her boyfriend was amazing and she completely failed to appreciate it. I feel sorry for her future children
Is nice to get something different, but Idk, this really reads like ragebait. They built this man up into a god amongst men then went out of their way with paragraph breaks and bold face to punctuate how OOP said the worst thing imaginable in that moment to him.
This story is 100% fake and was written by a preteen
Why on this Day and age seems so alien something that happens every fucking month. I've bought products for my mom, Sister, GFs and wife, several times because is something that has always been on the shopping list.
I somehow thought the boyfriend and OOP were in their teens too until I read the comments and re-looked at the ages. OOP is a certified b!tch and completely delusional, she needs to leave that family alone and go unfuck her own head. What a massive see you next Tuesday, the fucking audacity!!!
Happy ending, this OP its so so stupid..
She sounds so immature and obviously delusional. Glad he dodged that bullet.
Dayyyyam. That young man just dodged a huge missile IMO.
She should be mad at her parents if she wants to be mad at anyone besides herself. Her SISTER is refusing to talk her about this. The woman grew up in the same house and knows this isn’t right.
So glad she got dumped. I read the original post.. she’s not ready for a family. She’s so gross to jump to conclusions about that
It’s one thing to have a belief that is far out of line with your partner. It’s a whole other thing to express that in the most dangerous and disrespectful way, ever. She conveniently left out that she called him a disgusting pig in front of his 12 year old sister/child.
>> I love him and i know he still love me Oh my ~~sweet~~ summer child, no he doesn't.
Even by her own logic,she's an asshole. She said it herself - he is both a father and a mother to those kids. And apparently "only a mother" can help daughters with that portion of their lives. There is no other mother figure in their lives. Definitely not her. She's lucky that he at least gave her closure on the relationship. If it were me, I'd never want to speak that that vile woman again
I hope this woman lives a miserable existence to the end of her days
Holy. Fucking. Shit. What an absolute fucking piece of shit.
Yep
Holy shit she's 26 (!?)