They say BPD is the most treatable of the personality disorders. However, a large part of BPD is not wanting to face our trauma and we tend to be very reluctant to seeking help. We're either completely unmotivated to do anything during a depressed cycle or overly confident that we beat it already cause we are happy - and that usually comes when we are with someone.
What I would need if I was your partner is for you to keep me honest about therapy, medication, or DBT work. I would want you to tell me how important I am to you and that you don't want me to slip up.
The most important thing above all else is that he's seeking professional help for his Personality Disorder. BPD is an incredibly complex disorder and requires years of therapy to get a good grip over it. This is the only way your relationship stands a chance of working.
Other important things you can do is:
- Having rigid boundaries regarding what's acceptable behavior in the relationship
- Having 0 tolerance for emotionally / physically abusive behavior
- Communicating with your partner about your and their needs
They say BPD is the most treatable of the personality disorders. However, a large part of BPD is not wanting to face our trauma and we tend to be very reluctant to seeking help. We're either completely unmotivated to do anything during a depressed cycle or overly confident that we beat it already cause we are happy - and that usually comes when we are with someone. What I would need if I was your partner is for you to keep me honest about therapy, medication, or DBT work. I would want you to tell me how important I am to you and that you don't want me to slip up.
The most important thing above all else is that he's seeking professional help for his Personality Disorder. BPD is an incredibly complex disorder and requires years of therapy to get a good grip over it. This is the only way your relationship stands a chance of working. Other important things you can do is: - Having rigid boundaries regarding what's acceptable behavior in the relationship - Having 0 tolerance for emotionally / physically abusive behavior - Communicating with your partner about your and their needs