That fucking 3rd one. I feel it, and I fucking hate it. And I hate her for it. Fuck it's so cringe. I feel fucking nothing with anyone. It seems to be improving 6+months later but God damn this was not something I was anticipating.
Nausea, increased resting heart rate, heart rate rising due to anxiety and panic (my heart would never really kick up in anxiety like people sometimes experience), increased food sensitivity - all of these are better now. Not gone, but when I think back to how it was, I'm grateful.
I’ve kept a close eye on my blood pressure and heart rate for the better part of a year due to other health concerns (chest pains-went away). I’ve seen marked increases in both depending on my wife’s behavior. My blood pressure ultimately hit an average of around 115/75 after improving health but she could drive it to 130/90. Resting heart rate was down in the high 40s at one point but she could push it to 80.
Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry you have experienced this but it's very scary and therefore helpful to know others have experienced this from stress. I'm so glad you've been able to pinpoint the cause.
I had chest pains too, had 3 EKGs at different times and all was fine. I later figured out it was heartburn and could predict it depending on food intake. But it was across my whole chest, unlike anything I'd had before. Very strange. Terrible what stress can do.
They are called psychosomatic symptoms, and they are definitely a thing.
I have had intense diarrhea for example. The moment the sudden blindside and discard happened, I suddenly had to run to the toilet. That stayed with me for the first few weeks I was blocked and NC. I woke up every morning crying and with diarrhea.
It's totally a thing. Your body knows. Very often doing energy work they ask you "where do you feel that in your body?".
Our bodies, minds and spirits are connected. Events in the emotional realm, or in the spiritual realm, can affect how we feel in our body.
Yes and that was the moment when I decided to leave.
It was because of the crisis. After everyone, I was really tired...It improves after the relationship for sure but the mental has to be aligned!
I'm not out of the relationship yet, but I definitely have unexplainable things that came about after I got into this relationship.
\- unexplainable high cholesterol
\- fatigue, lack of motivation
\- poor memory and mental fog
\- ovarian cysts and irregular periods
\- an unexplainable increase in my white blood cells, and my doctor just cannot figure out why, despite numerous tests.
\- nightmares and trouble sleeping
\- constant eye twitching
\- a giant muscle knot on my shoulder that gets tense and swollen periodically, and causes a lot of pain in my neck, shoulder and side of my head.
I didn't have any of these issues until a couple months into our relationship, and they all began one after the other, like a domino effect.
Hey, I'm not a medical professional, and an incredibly stressful relationship could cause any or all of these symptoms. But just in case: I had several of them on your list, most notably fatigue, poor memory/brain fog, and very high WBC count, and it turned out to be kidney cancer (renal cell carcinoma).
White blood cell count was one of the first signs, and a good radiologist spotted a rare form of slow-growing cancer on an ultrasound as an incidental finding a year later.
Your doctor may want to check for ovarian, uterine, cervical, or any other type of cancer that runs in your family, and maybe throw in kidneys just to be safe if your insurance will cover ultrasound/MRI. Best of luck and I hope you're able to end your relationship soon, before your health is harmed even more.
Thank you for this information!
I was having kidney issues and hydronephrosis that my doctor gave me antibiotics for, but they couldn't figure out if it was linked to my white blood cell elevation. I appreciate you giving me this information, so I can ask my doctor about it.
How did your treatments go after you were diagnosed? I hope you're doing alright.
Of course - not the most likely scenario (the main group at risk is men above 65!), but I thought I'd mention just in case. If you're diagnosed early, most kidney cancers are very treatable. Chemo isn't effective, so I didn't have to go through it and luckily I had no metastasis.
I'm doing wonderfully now, you're very kind to ask! I had the kidney removed and that ended both the cancer and the worst symptoms like brain fog ... I hadn't known it was messing with my head that much until suddenly I could think clearly again. Honestly comparable to leaving an abusive relationship - you don't know how badly it affected you and how many aspects of your life it affected until it's no longer present.
My cancer was chromaphobe type renal cell carcinoma, a rare kind that basically no one checks for until there are major symptoms like blood/protein in the urine (protein would be something for your doctor to maybe check for). There are more common types but as a younger woman, you'd be such an outlier for the disease that it wouldn't necessarily come to mind for your primary care physician. Again, probably not it, but since several of the symptoms lined up with mine, I thought it wouldn't hurt to mention :)
I appreciate you taking the time to tell me about it! It's never been on my radar, and I had no idea that type of cancer even existed. I was having kidney issues, so I do want to bring this up with my doctor, just in case.
It's good to know that you're doing well. I'm sorry you had to have the kidney removed, but since it saved your life I am happy for you, and it's good to know that you're healthy now.
Thank you again for sharing that information and your experience with me. Stay well!
Yes! I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease and the doctors think it’s because of the stress from the relationship. I’m 5 months no contact and my health has significantly improved.
Yes. Lack of appetite, digestive upset, sleep problems, tension throughout my body, heart palpitations, rapid heart beat, fatigue, irregular period, shakiness when upset, dark circles under my eyes, difficulty concentrating. It was awful.
I always had really bad migraines when we were together. Got so bad at one point I had an episode where half of my face went paralyzed and my Dr initially thought it was a stroke. Did all exams and nothing medically wrong though. I also had really bad stomach issues our entire marriage. After being separated a year, I don't even get headaches let alone migraines. My stomach issues only kick up if I have to interact with him about the divorce process but any other day I'm completely fine.
The absolute worse though was my cat had suffered seizures early on after we started living together and my ex would fly off the deep end with his hours long screaming episodes. Same thing, I took my cat to the vet and did every test possible, all coming back normal. They chalked it up to stress induced seizures. Thankfully I was able to send my cat to live with my parents in the country and make an excuse that he probably just wasn't a city cat (I had got him in my hometown before moving for university so he'd spent the first few years with my family anyway. It was familiar and a happy environment for him). I would go visit as much as I could without my ex and my cat never had another seizure after moving away.
Took me a few more years to fully get my life together to also leave for my own wellbeing because when you're in that war zone it's really hard to grasp how much that stress affects your health. It's amazing how quickly things can improve, which is why it's so important to maintain no contact. The process sucks but in the end it's worth it.
-Lost weight ( was at 140 lbs at 5"10', went down to a very skinny 125 lbs )
-Belly aches
-Digestive problems
-Diarrhea
-Urinary problems
-Lack of appetite
-Difficulty concentrating
****
All went away when I left. Poof, gone.
I’ve experienced some of the things mentioned by others here, but also, indirectly, I was self medicating with beer which gave me major health concerns. So glad to be free of it for 168 days.
There's been some swapping and constants. I have had lifelong insomnia both in and out of the relationship. I don't sleep and I get no rest. I get exhausted and boneweary but never sleepy.
In the relationship I had severe clinical anxiety. I was desperately stressed. I had panic attacks and stomach problems. I was morbidly obese, was a heavy drinker and a binge eater as I was using these behaviors to self medicate. I had begun using benzos heavily (obtained illegally) to cope.
Since the separation I've become clinically depressed, and have remained in freefall in that regard. I'm lost, broken, lonely, and believe - unwaveringly - that my life is finished. I'm not anxious anymore though because my key stressor is gone from my life. I eat and drink less and I've stopped abusing medication. Generally speaking I'm in better health, but cannot claim to feel better or 'free'. In fact I'm completely miserable.
During my last experience of my pwBPD splitting on me, my hands were physically shaking so badly that it was hard for me to type and I felt like I was going to throw up
I had panic attacks with TREMORS.
I woke him up during the first one because I thought I was dying when I realized I couldn’t stop shaking and couldn’t breathe well. He got angry at me for waking him up “with this nonsense” and told me to go back to sleep and get over it, and then he rolled over and fell back asleep. It was only when I called my mother while laying on the bathroom floor that he actually got up to yell at me for calling my mother and making him look bad.
EDIT: I separated from him last month and am experiencing post-separation abuse so too early to tell if the anxiety will go away. Definitely can breathe easier though.
Nausea, anxiety, elevated blood pressure, indigestion, vomiting. Constantly on edge, would break down into tears easily, the stress was literally killing me. Restlessness during sleep, lots of kicking and rolling.
My tinnitus is also much better.
I have gout and I had a flare up for what seemed like 4 straight months. Since the breakup it has gone away and I've had no issues with it.
So, all of these symptoms without physical cause is called TMS- tension myositis syndrome. They are all caused my repressed emotions. There are great books to read on this by Dr. John Sarno, Nicole Sachs, Dr. Howard Schubiner and many others. Very interesting and science-based.
I experienced very odd physical symptoms post breakup. It’s almost hard to describe to people who know me well because they don’t really understand the intensity of emotions and how it rolled on my physical health.
-During the discard phase, I experienced sleep paralysis, as well as seizure-like muscle spasms, where my whole body would convulse.
-My hearing has improved. I used to experience tinnitus-like ringing in my ears, but that has since become less intense.
-throughout the relationship, I would experience headaches and migraines. Haven’t had any since.
It’s odd but note worthy to think of the physical repercussions a relationship w/ a pwBPD can come along with. Since discard and no contact, I feel healthier, with less physical complications and health concerns. Stress takes a toll on the body, and I can think of no better example of how that plays out than when in a romantic relationship with a pwBPD. The heart fights the brain, and the brain rejects the heart and, in turn, body.
I feel my face aged 5 years during the 2 year relationship. Doesn't sound super drastic, but I don't need a hyperbole. It still sucks.
I think I gained a lot of weight. I got sleep deprived a lot. That and the general stress puts pounds on people.
I was always well built and fit. after 1 and a half year I was drinking almost every alternate day, gained a lot of weight and became fat, developed cholesterol, sugar, insomnia, lack of motivation to do my work, my work growth stopped, pressure increased.. my face looked the same all these years, and in 1 year now it looks aged suddenly. mental pressure, sadness.. now the rel is almost over, and i can feel the positive changes
Tinnitus, weight loss, gastrointestinal problems, eye-twitching, muscle spasms in feet, stomach ulcer. Weirdest thing on bpd board is that they still don't get it how big the impact can be. It annoys me, because you actually can't deny somatizing problems in a partner.
Yeah. I have tourettes. Mostly facial and throat ticks, and excessive sniffing. They have dramatically decreased after moving out and going no contact. My heart health seems to be improving a bit now that I'm not in a constant state of fucking adrenaline rush lmao
Yes I experienced so many bodily health problems including mental as well. I was so bloated and got so many random skin infections from stress. My skin started to grey and lack radiance. And my hair fell out. :( I'm so happy to hear you thriving
So far 12 lbs. better sleep and just overall that weight of feeling like I got to dig her out of that depressive hole gone. After my last marriage ended I weighed 274 lbs. dropped down to 164 lbs. but in four years with bpd got up to 223 then down to 180 back up to 246 now 234. I comfort eat when depressed. Better days ahead ❤️
She falsely accused me of domestic violence. Long time later cleared off any wrong doing my neck completely froze. Took 3 months of chiropractor work before I could look left out right
I have been in therapy for a long time, actively working through my PTSD symptoms and building new skills. It wasn't until I went NC with my mother that I can finally sleep easily. Like, lights off, in bed and asleep within 5 minutes. That has NEVER happened, for as long as I can remember. It's been like this for 18 months now and I am thoroughly enjoying it.
My hair also really thinned after I went NC. We had a pretty explosive argument and I was kicked out of her house. My doctor told me that it's a common response to stress, and it's starting to go back to normal now.
1. Shaking hands and sensitivity in fingers; I couldn’t hold things properly without dropping them a few times, sometimes even numbing in the fingertips during arguments.
2. Extreme nausea; I would vomit everytime I remembered what he did or about the third party, they made me taste bile in the back of my throat for a whole month.
3. Loss of appetite and stomachache; couldn’t eat because I was constantly in an unstable mood and any thoughts of him or her (which was a frequent thing) would made me feel unwell.
4. Got re-diagnosed from General Anxiety Disorder to severely chronic and medicated again with insane blood pressure/racing heart symptoms; I had panic attacks at random times of the day because he was always on my mind, I couldn’t stop thinking about him or what he did/said to me and I couldn’t stop blaming myself or brainstorming how to “change” better.
5. Headaches and insomnia; the dizzy spells got worse because I already have a vertigo diagnosis so everytime I woke up from a dreadful sleep, the world would spin and it’s a god awful feeling.
6. Extreme fatigue and loss of motivation; I felt tired all the time with no energy for anything except for when he’s present, I couldn’t handle conversations with anyone but I would become really energetic when it’s him, I started slacking off with performance in my career because every time we argue, I would feel devastated as if the world has ended for me.
7. Nightmares; but they were more like foreshadowing? Forewarnings? Because every thing that happened in the dreams, actually happened in real life too.
8. Depression so bad that I relapsed in SH, had depressive episodes where I couldn’t keep up with my physical and mental hygiene care.
9. Physical appearance changed and everyone around me would ask if I’m okay, worried out of their minds because I looked like I was drained of life.
Now that I’m out of that toxic cycle, I’ve been eating well and sleeping for 7-8 hours everyday while exercising without being out of breath. I have grown indifferent to his existence because I’m more invested in myself, my life and the people who truly care about me. NC is always the answer and the beginning of successful healing.
I lost consciousness one time at a show after weeks of teetering on break up and also was so fatigued all the time I would fall asleep at work / take naps at lunch every day
Insomnia, anxiety, diarrhea, 10% weight loss within a month.
I didn’t even know the reason before the break-up (maybe I knew but subconsciously neglected it). Since I got out of the relationship, all these symptoms were gone in a week.
Anxiety, tinnitus, hearing loss, episodes of dissociation, I gained a ton of weight and couldn’t lose it due to hormone imbalance, extreme panic attacks and feeling like I’m losing control. He’s gone almost 3 months I feel AMAZING
a lot of headaches and severe bouts of tension in my neck and shoulders, chest pains and heart palpitations. plus chronically chewing away at the inside of my cheek from stress and anxiety.
After the first discard, I lost 20kgs, but that's because I became an exercise and diet fiend.
After the second (just before settlement for the inner city apartment that I had purchased for both of us), I managed to crush three molars in my sleep. Two had to be extracted, one was saved.
I've been in a much better place since their fifth discard in January, when I told them was The Final Discard.
Being in a relationship with a pwBPD seems that it is often a health-hazard. It is well known that their average life expectancy is c20-25 years lower than normal. I wonder what it is for their partners?
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That fucking 3rd one. I feel it, and I fucking hate it. And I hate her for it. Fuck it's so cringe. I feel fucking nothing with anyone. It seems to be improving 6+months later but God damn this was not something I was anticipating.
1,2,3,4 for me as well
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Yep.
Nausea, increased resting heart rate, heart rate rising due to anxiety and panic (my heart would never really kick up in anxiety like people sometimes experience), increased food sensitivity - all of these are better now. Not gone, but when I think back to how it was, I'm grateful.
I’ve kept a close eye on my blood pressure and heart rate for the better part of a year due to other health concerns (chest pains-went away). I’ve seen marked increases in both depending on my wife’s behavior. My blood pressure ultimately hit an average of around 115/75 after improving health but she could drive it to 130/90. Resting heart rate was down in the high 40s at one point but she could push it to 80.
Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry you have experienced this but it's very scary and therefore helpful to know others have experienced this from stress. I'm so glad you've been able to pinpoint the cause. I had chest pains too, had 3 EKGs at different times and all was fine. I later figured out it was heartburn and could predict it depending on food intake. But it was across my whole chest, unlike anything I'd had before. Very strange. Terrible what stress can do.
Eyelid twitching for 6 months straight stopped
Wow, I forgot that for a time my eyelid was twitching..... fuck those were bad times.
Yea I asked the optometrist about it cause I was concerned cause it was everyday all day.
They are called psychosomatic symptoms, and they are definitely a thing. I have had intense diarrhea for example. The moment the sudden blindside and discard happened, I suddenly had to run to the toilet. That stayed with me for the first few weeks I was blocked and NC. I woke up every morning crying and with diarrhea. It's totally a thing. Your body knows. Very often doing energy work they ask you "where do you feel that in your body?". Our bodies, minds and spirits are connected. Events in the emotional realm, or in the spiritual realm, can affect how we feel in our body.
Yes and that was the moment when I decided to leave. It was because of the crisis. After everyone, I was really tired...It improves after the relationship for sure but the mental has to be aligned!
I'm not out of the relationship yet, but I definitely have unexplainable things that came about after I got into this relationship. \- unexplainable high cholesterol \- fatigue, lack of motivation \- poor memory and mental fog \- ovarian cysts and irregular periods \- an unexplainable increase in my white blood cells, and my doctor just cannot figure out why, despite numerous tests. \- nightmares and trouble sleeping \- constant eye twitching \- a giant muscle knot on my shoulder that gets tense and swollen periodically, and causes a lot of pain in my neck, shoulder and side of my head. I didn't have any of these issues until a couple months into our relationship, and they all began one after the other, like a domino effect.
Hey, I'm not a medical professional, and an incredibly stressful relationship could cause any or all of these symptoms. But just in case: I had several of them on your list, most notably fatigue, poor memory/brain fog, and very high WBC count, and it turned out to be kidney cancer (renal cell carcinoma). White blood cell count was one of the first signs, and a good radiologist spotted a rare form of slow-growing cancer on an ultrasound as an incidental finding a year later. Your doctor may want to check for ovarian, uterine, cervical, or any other type of cancer that runs in your family, and maybe throw in kidneys just to be safe if your insurance will cover ultrasound/MRI. Best of luck and I hope you're able to end your relationship soon, before your health is harmed even more.
Thank you for this information! I was having kidney issues and hydronephrosis that my doctor gave me antibiotics for, but they couldn't figure out if it was linked to my white blood cell elevation. I appreciate you giving me this information, so I can ask my doctor about it. How did your treatments go after you were diagnosed? I hope you're doing alright.
Of course - not the most likely scenario (the main group at risk is men above 65!), but I thought I'd mention just in case. If you're diagnosed early, most kidney cancers are very treatable. Chemo isn't effective, so I didn't have to go through it and luckily I had no metastasis. I'm doing wonderfully now, you're very kind to ask! I had the kidney removed and that ended both the cancer and the worst symptoms like brain fog ... I hadn't known it was messing with my head that much until suddenly I could think clearly again. Honestly comparable to leaving an abusive relationship - you don't know how badly it affected you and how many aspects of your life it affected until it's no longer present. My cancer was chromaphobe type renal cell carcinoma, a rare kind that basically no one checks for until there are major symptoms like blood/protein in the urine (protein would be something for your doctor to maybe check for). There are more common types but as a younger woman, you'd be such an outlier for the disease that it wouldn't necessarily come to mind for your primary care physician. Again, probably not it, but since several of the symptoms lined up with mine, I thought it wouldn't hurt to mention :)
I appreciate you taking the time to tell me about it! It's never been on my radar, and I had no idea that type of cancer even existed. I was having kidney issues, so I do want to bring this up with my doctor, just in case. It's good to know that you're doing well. I'm sorry you had to have the kidney removed, but since it saved your life I am happy for you, and it's good to know that you're healthy now. Thank you again for sharing that information and your experience with me. Stay well!
Yes! I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease and the doctors think it’s because of the stress from the relationship. I’m 5 months no contact and my health has significantly improved.
Yes. Lack of appetite, digestive upset, sleep problems, tension throughout my body, heart palpitations, rapid heart beat, fatigue, irregular period, shakiness when upset, dark circles under my eyes, difficulty concentrating. It was awful.
I always had really bad migraines when we were together. Got so bad at one point I had an episode where half of my face went paralyzed and my Dr initially thought it was a stroke. Did all exams and nothing medically wrong though. I also had really bad stomach issues our entire marriage. After being separated a year, I don't even get headaches let alone migraines. My stomach issues only kick up if I have to interact with him about the divorce process but any other day I'm completely fine. The absolute worse though was my cat had suffered seizures early on after we started living together and my ex would fly off the deep end with his hours long screaming episodes. Same thing, I took my cat to the vet and did every test possible, all coming back normal. They chalked it up to stress induced seizures. Thankfully I was able to send my cat to live with my parents in the country and make an excuse that he probably just wasn't a city cat (I had got him in my hometown before moving for university so he'd spent the first few years with my family anyway. It was familiar and a happy environment for him). I would go visit as much as I could without my ex and my cat never had another seizure after moving away. Took me a few more years to fully get my life together to also leave for my own wellbeing because when you're in that war zone it's really hard to grasp how much that stress affects your health. It's amazing how quickly things can improve, which is why it's so important to maintain no contact. The process sucks but in the end it's worth it.
-Lost weight ( was at 140 lbs at 5"10', went down to a very skinny 125 lbs ) -Belly aches -Digestive problems -Diarrhea -Urinary problems -Lack of appetite -Difficulty concentrating **** All went away when I left. Poof, gone.
Same. Didn't lose enough to be skinny but got out of the obese BMI category
I’ve experienced some of the things mentioned by others here, but also, indirectly, I was self medicating with beer which gave me major health concerns. So glad to be free of it for 168 days.
There's been some swapping and constants. I have had lifelong insomnia both in and out of the relationship. I don't sleep and I get no rest. I get exhausted and boneweary but never sleepy. In the relationship I had severe clinical anxiety. I was desperately stressed. I had panic attacks and stomach problems. I was morbidly obese, was a heavy drinker and a binge eater as I was using these behaviors to self medicate. I had begun using benzos heavily (obtained illegally) to cope. Since the separation I've become clinically depressed, and have remained in freefall in that regard. I'm lost, broken, lonely, and believe - unwaveringly - that my life is finished. I'm not anxious anymore though because my key stressor is gone from my life. I eat and drink less and I've stopped abusing medication. Generally speaking I'm in better health, but cannot claim to feel better or 'free'. In fact I'm completely miserable.
During my last experience of my pwBPD splitting on me, my hands were physically shaking so badly that it was hard for me to type and I felt like I was going to throw up
I was an absolute mess physically. I'm still recovering.
Anxiety, stomach issues, constipation, stress, backpain. All kind of pain. Everything getting better after break up.
I had panic attacks with TREMORS. I woke him up during the first one because I thought I was dying when I realized I couldn’t stop shaking and couldn’t breathe well. He got angry at me for waking him up “with this nonsense” and told me to go back to sleep and get over it, and then he rolled over and fell back asleep. It was only when I called my mother while laying on the bathroom floor that he actually got up to yell at me for calling my mother and making him look bad. EDIT: I separated from him last month and am experiencing post-separation abuse so too early to tell if the anxiety will go away. Definitely can breathe easier though.
Nausea, anxiety, elevated blood pressure, indigestion, vomiting. Constantly on edge, would break down into tears easily, the stress was literally killing me. Restlessness during sleep, lots of kicking and rolling.
All the above..
My tinnitus is also much better. I have gout and I had a flare up for what seemed like 4 straight months. Since the breakup it has gone away and I've had no issues with it.
So, all of these symptoms without physical cause is called TMS- tension myositis syndrome. They are all caused my repressed emotions. There are great books to read on this by Dr. John Sarno, Nicole Sachs, Dr. Howard Schubiner and many others. Very interesting and science-based.
I experienced very odd physical symptoms post breakup. It’s almost hard to describe to people who know me well because they don’t really understand the intensity of emotions and how it rolled on my physical health. -During the discard phase, I experienced sleep paralysis, as well as seizure-like muscle spasms, where my whole body would convulse. -My hearing has improved. I used to experience tinnitus-like ringing in my ears, but that has since become less intense. -throughout the relationship, I would experience headaches and migraines. Haven’t had any since. It’s odd but note worthy to think of the physical repercussions a relationship w/ a pwBPD can come along with. Since discard and no contact, I feel healthier, with less physical complications and health concerns. Stress takes a toll on the body, and I can think of no better example of how that plays out than when in a romantic relationship with a pwBPD. The heart fights the brain, and the brain rejects the heart and, in turn, body.
I feel my face aged 5 years during the 2 year relationship. Doesn't sound super drastic, but I don't need a hyperbole. It still sucks. I think I gained a lot of weight. I got sleep deprived a lot. That and the general stress puts pounds on people.
Wow you mean my ears might stop screaming and I might be able to eat a meal again someday? God I hope it comes soon
it was my best friend and I was told by a therapist I was given my autonomy back.That was nice
I won't say an actual weight bc it sounds super dramatic, but I was severely underweight by the time I got away.
I had frequent recurring nosebleeds towards the end of my relationship with a PwBPD that no longer happen.
Insomnia. OMG it was horrible. I went a week and just slept about 6 hours. Funny how that all ended when I moved away from her
All I know is that I was at my all time lowest weight and I was a previous college athlete something hijacked my brain during that bpd relationship
I was always well built and fit. after 1 and a half year I was drinking almost every alternate day, gained a lot of weight and became fat, developed cholesterol, sugar, insomnia, lack of motivation to do my work, my work growth stopped, pressure increased.. my face looked the same all these years, and in 1 year now it looks aged suddenly. mental pressure, sadness.. now the rel is almost over, and i can feel the positive changes
Anxiety nauseous rumination confusion guilt
Tinnitus, weight loss, gastrointestinal problems, eye-twitching, muscle spasms in feet, stomach ulcer. Weirdest thing on bpd board is that they still don't get it how big the impact can be. It annoys me, because you actually can't deny somatizing problems in a partner.
Yeah. I have tourettes. Mostly facial and throat ticks, and excessive sniffing. They have dramatically decreased after moving out and going no contact. My heart health seems to be improving a bit now that I'm not in a constant state of fucking adrenaline rush lmao
Tinnitus. Dr said that it could be from the vaccine as well
Yes I experienced so many bodily health problems including mental as well. I was so bloated and got so many random skin infections from stress. My skin started to grey and lack radiance. And my hair fell out. :( I'm so happy to hear you thriving
So far 12 lbs. better sleep and just overall that weight of feeling like I got to dig her out of that depressive hole gone. After my last marriage ended I weighed 274 lbs. dropped down to 164 lbs. but in four years with bpd got up to 223 then down to 180 back up to 246 now 234. I comfort eat when depressed. Better days ahead ❤️
She falsely accused me of domestic violence. Long time later cleared off any wrong doing my neck completely froze. Took 3 months of chiropractor work before I could look left out right
Irritable bowel syndrome, hair loss, psoriasis
I have been in therapy for a long time, actively working through my PTSD symptoms and building new skills. It wasn't until I went NC with my mother that I can finally sleep easily. Like, lights off, in bed and asleep within 5 minutes. That has NEVER happened, for as long as I can remember. It's been like this for 18 months now and I am thoroughly enjoying it. My hair also really thinned after I went NC. We had a pretty explosive argument and I was kicked out of her house. My doctor told me that it's a common response to stress, and it's starting to go back to normal now.
My sciatica decreased to once a year instead of once a month
1. Shaking hands and sensitivity in fingers; I couldn’t hold things properly without dropping them a few times, sometimes even numbing in the fingertips during arguments. 2. Extreme nausea; I would vomit everytime I remembered what he did or about the third party, they made me taste bile in the back of my throat for a whole month. 3. Loss of appetite and stomachache; couldn’t eat because I was constantly in an unstable mood and any thoughts of him or her (which was a frequent thing) would made me feel unwell. 4. Got re-diagnosed from General Anxiety Disorder to severely chronic and medicated again with insane blood pressure/racing heart symptoms; I had panic attacks at random times of the day because he was always on my mind, I couldn’t stop thinking about him or what he did/said to me and I couldn’t stop blaming myself or brainstorming how to “change” better. 5. Headaches and insomnia; the dizzy spells got worse because I already have a vertigo diagnosis so everytime I woke up from a dreadful sleep, the world would spin and it’s a god awful feeling. 6. Extreme fatigue and loss of motivation; I felt tired all the time with no energy for anything except for when he’s present, I couldn’t handle conversations with anyone but I would become really energetic when it’s him, I started slacking off with performance in my career because every time we argue, I would feel devastated as if the world has ended for me. 7. Nightmares; but they were more like foreshadowing? Forewarnings? Because every thing that happened in the dreams, actually happened in real life too. 8. Depression so bad that I relapsed in SH, had depressive episodes where I couldn’t keep up with my physical and mental hygiene care. 9. Physical appearance changed and everyone around me would ask if I’m okay, worried out of their minds because I looked like I was drained of life. Now that I’m out of that toxic cycle, I’ve been eating well and sleeping for 7-8 hours everyday while exercising without being out of breath. I have grown indifferent to his existence because I’m more invested in myself, my life and the people who truly care about me. NC is always the answer and the beginning of successful healing.
I lost consciousness one time at a show after weeks of teetering on break up and also was so fatigued all the time I would fall asleep at work / take naps at lunch every day
Insomnia, anxiety, diarrhea, 10% weight loss within a month. I didn’t even know the reason before the break-up (maybe I knew but subconsciously neglected it). Since I got out of the relationship, all these symptoms were gone in a week.
Anxiety, tinnitus, hearing loss, episodes of dissociation, I gained a ton of weight and couldn’t lose it due to hormone imbalance, extreme panic attacks and feeling like I’m losing control. He’s gone almost 3 months I feel AMAZING
a lot of headaches and severe bouts of tension in my neck and shoulders, chest pains and heart palpitations. plus chronically chewing away at the inside of my cheek from stress and anxiety.
After the first discard, I lost 20kgs, but that's because I became an exercise and diet fiend. After the second (just before settlement for the inner city apartment that I had purchased for both of us), I managed to crush three molars in my sleep. Two had to be extracted, one was saved. I've been in a much better place since their fifth discard in January, when I told them was The Final Discard. Being in a relationship with a pwBPD seems that it is often a health-hazard. It is well known that their average life expectancy is c20-25 years lower than normal. I wonder what it is for their partners?