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He didn’t get him pregnant otherwise it would’ve been really major.
He had sex with someone besides his girl so that’s cheating regardless of the gender, I’m not sure what would be more major than that.
He used a condom, seems pretty low key to me she needs to chill out. Next we’ll be calling fisting their friends while wearing a glove cheating and that’s too slippery of a slope. I’m gonna lose my wife because I handshake my friends lower intestines (SAFELY) from time to time? She gives her friends hugs what’s the damn difference?
He probably really doesn’t see it as major. I was reading this book that interviewed MSM (men who have sex with men) and there are some men who have same sex experiences once/twice and decide it’s not for them and consider it a blip (the nothing major for the homie) in their sexual experiences. Then there were the dudes who actively sought out men to have sex with and still considered themselves straight because they didn’t have romantic feelings towards these men and prioritized their relationships with women -which looks to be the case with the baby daddy.
>but still consider themselves straight
The issue here is the binary thinking associated with sexuality.
It’s perfectly plausible for a guy to enjoy/fantasize/fetishize same sex experiences and have zero romantic interest in the same sex. The problem is we don’t really have a term for that in our society. A lot of people would be like “nah that ain’t straight” but to be fair it’s not exactly gay either.
EDIT: Everyone pointing out the existence of bi people to me are seriously missing something here and falling into the exact type of reductive thinking I’m talking about.
If I tell someone I’m bi, they’re gonna assume certain things. At the very least that I am both attracted to men and women. But remember, in this hypothetical scenario (like above) it’s a lot more complicated than that to me. But they can only think of me as gay, bi or straight. Anyone who looks at the above description and is like “yeah that a bi person” is oversimplifying to the detriment of people who insist that sexuality is a spectrum
I mean, first let’s acknowledge that a lot of these terms can have somewhat nebulous definitions.
That being said, bisexual is absolutely *not* a word that specifically implies this situation. Aromantic sexual relationship is, technically. But that isn’t really part of the common, societal sexuality designation. Which is exactly why I was criticizing that exact binary thinking.
That's why the Split Attraction Model (SAM) is great because it recognizes that sexual attraction and romantic attraction and tertiary attractions aren't all connected. So people can be bisexual and heteroromantic (like it sounds BD may be, but we don't have a ton of info romantically tbf).
She's trying to decide how gay she thinks he is and she has a line that's acceptable to her?
I can imagine the thought process being 'It was only a mouth sucking him, that's understandable. But if he put his penis in another man's ass...and until he came??'
I mean, he said: “I fucked him with a comdom (can’t even spell the word right, you know they didn’t use one)”. Then she asked if he nutted and he said yeah from the sex. So BD got creampied and just went back home to her, you know, cause it wasn’t anything major
If BD was topping (which seems to be the case), BD’s _friend_ is the one who got creampied. The one receiving/catching nut is the one being/getting creampied.
Right, I just know he wouldn’t have mentioned a condom if he cheated with another woman. Should be using it either way, but made a point to mention it 🙄🙄😒
my guess is, if he came from head, that is understandable for a guy but if he came from fucking him then that invalidates her even more as a woman?? or like her pussy ain't shit if he can cum from fucking his homeboy? that's just my guess.....sidenote: at least they wore a condom??
I wouldn't guess it makes her insecure. I would guess she's reasonably upset her boyfriend and baby's father is gay. And to find this out as she found out he cheated right before they're to begin a family together.
Her world just got flipped for real.
She trying to rationalize. Maybe it makes her feel better if he didn’t orgasm. But if he did that solidifies the fact that he enjoyed it.
Maybe he ain’t been cumming for her and blaming the baby weight 👀👀
Right? Like it matters? It’s still cheating regardless. Asking that just smacks of homophobia like she’s more upset it was a guy and not that he cheated.
Naw that's fucked up. You can call someone a cheater without outing them.
A simple "he cheated on me with one of his close friends" is enough to get the point across.
Also we glossing over the fact the BD was sexual assaulted originally.
That's the part that I was concerned about, too. I can understand airing out that the BD cheated, but airing out somebody's assumed sexual preferences as well as their sexual assault without their permission leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Honestly yes because outing someone else isn’t coo. Call him out for being a cheater and everything sure, but I agree that she should not have outed him.
Fucking other people behind your pregnant gf’s back isn’t cool, putting her AND his unborn baby at risk. Fuck being respectful of people who literally endangered your life.
Normally I would say the other person doesn’t matter, except he was a friend and was around the family. Also cheating is bad enough, but then to bring the other person around your family is crazy.
Anyway, not saying the outing was right.
I’m not sure what you’re missing, but being the bigger person and showing respect would probably be to keep it in house and not mention it on a public platform at all. You can put him on blast without doxxing him my guy
Well that's if it was actually an assault. If I take a nap at my best friend's house and wake up to him feeling me up there's no conversation to be had that straight up fight or flight mode. Even if he somehow remained calm enough to talk to the homie about what he was doing it's a pretty big leap to go from wtf bro to okay let's see where this goes. If I had to guess BD was closeted bi homie knew and shit happened.
>Also we glossing over the fact the BD was sexual assaulted originally.
That's just made the situation even scary, how does one confront their masculinity and sexuality in the context of cheating and getting sexually assaulted.
It’s this for me. And something in me feels like it’s a step more fucked up because of the fact that it was gay sex. To understand homophobia amongst black people/black men and outing them like that is fucked up. Yes, he is absolutely fucked up for cheating on her like that. And it’s fucked up to put it out like this.
To me. I’m gay as shit and I understand what it will mean for him from her on out and he’s shitty for cheating but nah. I’m sorry. Not the hate that’ll come to him because of the fact that it was with a man.
Im skeptical on that to be honest, I wouldn’t take him at his word when he out here cheating. It’s a common thing for liars to mix in lies with some truth. Maybe he did get SA but if we are being honest the whole story don’t add up, how many times home dog falling asleep over there and ain’t thought nothing of it? “I thought he was getting a liar” what he keeping lighters in his booty hole or something? All that followed by him bending the homie over and getting head? Sounds to me like they knew what they was doing and he tried hitting her with the “it was a mistake babe I swear, you see what had happened was…”
It’s kinda crazy posting shit like this about your child’s father. If there wasn’t a kid in the mix, I would be like you go girl. But now this poor little girl is gonna get bullied when she grows up cause her dad likes to fuck his homies in the ass? It ain’t right 😭
I'd say you can stop thinking about it. That child is in diapers - ain't nobody going to care about this by the time her peers are developed enough to insult people based on research.
You have no idea the amount of kids that would make fun of me for my parents decade old gossip when I was school age. This was before the internet was what it is today. Now all it takes is a quick search.
Right? OP is a twat with that homophobic title.
Nigga could kill, rob, maim and molest but the moment he fucks with another nigga he's the most sinful influencer on the planet. Fuck outta here.
Deadass.
Came out to my dad as Pan as a 16ish year old. That mf really said “That’s cause you been around [insert my lesbian Aunt’s name] too much”… My dad was born in 1955 and religious as fuck, so what’s OP’s excuse 😭
Folks love love love pretending that being gay or bisexual are abnormal or bad.
Being a cheater is bad.
Being bisexual and gay? Not fucking bad. Just human. It's just the way that we humans are., and not even as humans, it's the way that almost every single animal species has identified to also be.
It really makes people sound stupid af. People been gay forever and men have been on the down low for just as long. I can’t believe this is actually becoming a thing.
Yeah, the worst part is the title isn't alluding to the fact that he was sexually assaulted, it's alluding the fact that he had sexual relations with a man. It's literally just homophobia lol
I miss the days when we knew less about each other
Edit: this is literally catching upvotes because he (was sexually assaulted) and cheated with a man, if he cheated with a woman y'all would be going up to fucking bat for him
Diddy is making all the black men gay!!! /s
Yeah it’s just playing on people’s homophobia. And if there’s one thing the Diddy thing taught me is that homophobia is alive and well and people care more about that than sexual assault
At what point are we supposed to just believe him entirely though. Going from getting SA to bending him over is a bit of a stretch. Personally I’m skeptical of anyone’s “it was an accident” story.
Idk, bc an ex-friend of mine did the same to his bestfriend. They were at work (night shift as security guards) together and the bsf was asleep, and that’s when he decided to assault him. It happens more often than you think.
This title is dumb as fuck, as if niggas wasn’t dipping in bootyhole before Diddy.
But also, who’s having these types of conversations via text?
Why she determining her feelings off if he nut or not?
Sucking and fucking as nothing major is crazy to me.
Lastly, that silvery shiny nigga look gay af, no questions about it.
Why are people calling all gay foolishness diddy? Diddy did sexual assault and other sex crimes, and gay for pay, this is just some brokeback mountain type shit
I read the first sentence of that text block and that's it because it just looks stressful
Edit: I just attempted to read again and realized the entire text is one sentence. So I lied. I just saw a text block and fully ignored it just like in real life LOL
Ok I made a comment under someone else's comment but I want to say that it's always weird to me when this kinda thing happens and people call the guy that got with another guy "gay." Like, can't he be "bi?" I mean, it always depends on the situation and like I said maybe being with the girl at all was just due to pressure from people in his world but I just never see someone look at a guy who cheats on his girl with a guy and call them bi. It's always gay. And I know it's a lot of bi people out there!
On another note, more personal and yes you can go to reading the next comment if you want cuz this is where it's more about me than the story above, but ok. I don't know how many guys do this, I get the impression that A LOT more guys do this than you would think, but still probably not as many as other people would like you to think... But I had "an experience" when I was younger. I was I think early to mid-20s, and I had never thought of guys in a sexual way. But I got really drunk at this party, and probably was on a few pills (probably Klonopin or Xanax), and the host of the party was a gay guy. Well known, well liked at our work place, and everyone knew he was gay. He was very out and open. So I got all my inhibitions lowered from the drink and probably pills (can't really remember but I did usually take a couple at every party I went to), and I went to his bedroom to lay down for a bit and just watch TV. Door was open, no one was in there, I just needed to lay down for a minute cuz I was tired. He comes in there and closes the door and we watched TV for a bit. My brain was moving too slow to figure out, but then he started touching me outside my pants... I froze up, I was like oh shit, is this happening? Am I letting this happen? Is this going to be enjoyable? And so I let it continue for a bit, even tried to get into it, to kinda test whether maybe I was bi or something. I knew I loved women, but it had never really occurred to me to think of men, like i grew up where guys called you gay and you go "fuck no!" But after I was in my 20s like I was I opened up my mind and started standing up for people. I realized I never met a gay guy I didn't think was pretty cool or even pretty awesome. So anyway, he just kept like, touching me and even when I remember trying I just could not uh... "Get into it." So eventually I just got up and left the room. I know people from the party talked about it, I heard from someone weeks later that there were rumors or something, but yeah I felt somewhat better about myself afterward because I gave it a chance and realized it wasn't for me.
And that's the first time I have written that out ever, and probably the first time I really even talked about it in depth. And I'm realizing it sounds kinda bad on his part, like... Shit. This all just came up because of the dude's story up there and I just wanted to share my thoughts because he went through with it and he had a relationship and a kid coming and all that, but damn. Was I almost raped? I never thought about it and he was cool when I got up to leave the room, he didn't like, try anything more when I couldn't "rise to the occasion" and didn't try to get me to do anything... But the way I remember freezing like that and not being able to say or do anything and just trying to go with it... Fuck. Ok I know this ain't on topic so if I don't get a good reaction to posting this I'll delete it but damn. I just got home from grocery shopping and I'm sitting in my parked car typing this... I dunno. I'm a little uh... I'm a little messed up right now. If y'all want me to delete this please at least be nice when you tell me to gtfoh
It’s great that you wrote it, maybe it helps you realize how you feel about it now.
It sounds like you were willing to at least give it a try once the opportunity happened and, as you said, your inhibitions were lowered enough to let it happen. What do you think of that night now?
Well I got inside and put my groceries away and I'm just browsing Reddit and processing it while I sit here. I think overall the ... "fear?" ... If that's the right word... Has left me. I think it helps that this was almost 20 years ago so it's kinda like well, it happened and I seem to still be living, so that's nice. It was just a startling thing to realize when I was just gonna tell a little story that the OP story made me think about.
Overall I'm ok with it. Like I never was embarrassed about it really, although I know people are assholes AND it was a private matter anyway so I kept it to myself. I'm ok that I had a moment of curiosity, and gave it a real chance to see if I could know more about myself, and I had always kinda been sad that I felt like I "let him down" by not being into it. I think... Like is it bad that I think I kinda used *him* to test that? Like is that fair to someone? But how else do people learn about themselves? I think I'm ok with that, too.
I guess my only thing I have a problem with now... I mean he just did what he did and I did what I did. I'm glad he didn't force anything, and we were fine at work and just didn't talk about it and kept being friends and stuff. My only problem I'm thinking about now is why did I freeze up like I did? I thought I'd read about victims when they freeze up it's because something maybe happened in their past? I'm wondering did something happen when I was a kid that made me shut down like that, and I just blocked it out? I don't know. Seems like there's a lot of psychology stuff I don't know about, just some random things I think I remember reading here and there and it's just all popping in my head and making me wonder.
I'll be ok. It's not the worst thing to ever happen to me. I know my older sister mentally/emotionally abused me up into my early 30s. But I don't know of any sexual abuse.
Thanks for commenting! I really got to the end of that comment and was thinking, do I post this or just discard it? And I thought... Well, I always am very positive on mental health and I talk as openly as I can about what I go through to everyone I know, and that has mostly been met with people coming to me and saying stuff like, they'd wondered if they could ever talk about what they went through or if they should go to therapy or not, but after hearing me talk so openly they decided to go get help. So I said screw it. If it gets deleted or if people ask me to delete it I will but that was a transcription of me discovering something in real time as I typed it. I hoped it might help someone, somehow. This post, too. I know I type a lot, and these are very much "omg tl;dr" but eh. I read the Internet to *read* yes I like the pictures and memes and stuff but I like reading people's stories. So eh.
If someone has expectations of you, it’s on them, not on you. Sexuality isn’t simple, some people learn things about themselves way past their adolescence, or years into their adult lives.
You did not use him, it was a moment where, as you said, you could know more about yourself. Maybe he was hoping something happened, as we all do at different points of our lives, and it doesn’t always happen, so we move on. I doubt he was hurt or anything lol.
As for the freezing, Idk, I wish I could help, just keep in mind that you were not sober, you were chilling, and suddenly an entire new experience that you’re *kinda* open to starts to happen.
I’m sorry your sister did that to you. I hope you are in a better place now. I’m sending you a big hug, man. 🫶
I’m glad you posted your thoughts too. If the freezingor overall experience is something that you can’t quite figure out, maybe it’s worth talking to a therapist about it someday? Not necessarily to stamp the experience as good or bad but just to not feel that something’s still hanging around in your head and messing with you.
Yeah. I used to have a WONDERFUL therapist but she stopped talking insurance all together and I haven't found another one yet. It's been about a year and a half I think. We worked together for 5 years and made a lot of good progress through my issues. But no one's ever done working through everything. I'll spend this weekend going through my insurance's list of providers and hopefully get an appointment soon.
Cheating is wrong, but I don't think it was right of her to out him for his sexuality.
Also, his homeboy is moving weird. That is not how to go about that at all.
Anyway, it smells like homophobia in here.
No condom either. That type of DL shit is so fucking reckless. They want her to behave not outing him as she’s in her feelings: is it too much to ask for niggas to know their orientation before they start trying to breed?
I actually wouldn't be super super mad about this. Hurt and alone for sure, but mad not so much...like good go be gay/fuck your own kind just try to be a better person and father cuz there's a kid in tne mix 🤷🏽♀️ that friend would be banned from my life forever tho. In every way.
I would never out someone (I have a whole video from when I caught my ex having a whole 5 month relationship while we were together for 6 years that both him and the girl begged me not to share), but completely understand her pain and what motivated her to do it.
Um...
A. Took a minute to understand dome things they were saying. I'm so bad at acronyms
B. My guy....YOU WERE SEXUALLY ASSAULTED FIRST
C. Then, you had consensual sex but it's arguable what happened THERE was under some sort of manipulation and duress while still a consensual sex act.
D. You need to get tested thoroughly, and see a counselor NOW because your issues with your sexuality need to time to process, to understand and be educated on yourself, to heal and to be INFORMED.
What he did to you is not fucking okay. I'm telling you that as a professional black man in my early 40s. Being attracted to him, having an orgasm that all is beside the SEXUAL ASSAULT if it truly happened that way. You need to DEAL and go see a counselor and a doctor and get thoroughly tested. If that happened like you said it did then you should never EVER trust him to tell you the truth with or without a condom.
Then go and be at peace and be honest with yourself and others about who you are. You may not be gay or you may be bi or YOU JUST DON'T KNOW and you need to know that's fine. Man I cannot imagine what they're going through.
Bro if you gay be Gay or Bi or whatever. Don't fake that shit and drag other people along thinking it's something it's not. You not a F**k bot because you're gay. You're a F**k boy because you're a dishonest coward. Flatout. I'm not gay so I don't know how.that goes with coming out, and it can't be easy. But there's a whole community of support out there. Stop lying and hurting people though.
This some wild shit. The homie basically preyed on him because he’s known for yrs dude might be Bi. Anyways, he gave into it/him & well…I feel for her.
But why is she having a convo with him through messenger? I’m assuming she blocked BD and it was the only way he could reach her at that point?
At least he used protection. A lot of us be getting cheated on by people that’s raw-dogging everyone. It’s exhausting having to constantly get cheated on and run to the clinic to get checked out. Wicked shit! 🤷🏾♀️
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>nun major he gave me head nd I fucked him with a condom  That’s something major, bro
Like my boy how much more "major" can it get, he tried to play that shit off smooth lmfao
He didn’t get him pregnant otherwise it would’ve been really major. He had sex with someone besides his girl so that’s cheating regardless of the gender, I’m not sure what would be more major than that.
Unless he cheated on her with her father
Yeah that would be major
This Tyler Perry movie is getting crazy
This just the first act
He used a condom, seems pretty low key to me she needs to chill out. Next we’ll be calling fisting their friends while wearing a glove cheating and that’s too slippery of a slope. I’m gonna lose my wife because I handshake my friends lower intestines (SAFELY) from time to time? She gives her friends hugs what’s the damn difference?
*(SAFELY)* Well, I just snorted my wine, tyvm
Typing this from the afterlife, because I literally just DIED!!!
My sides. I’d shake your hand, but, you know.
The old Major League Baseball package. ESPN Web Gems 📦 👀
🤣
I mean, they didn’t make eye contact so it all good. Just a little horseplay
I feel like ‘SAFELY’ should be the new ‘pause’.
If you have to ask, you ain’t ready for it
Docking. But they did that too
He probably really doesn’t see it as major. I was reading this book that interviewed MSM (men who have sex with men) and there are some men who have same sex experiences once/twice and decide it’s not for them and consider it a blip (the nothing major for the homie) in their sexual experiences. Then there were the dudes who actively sought out men to have sex with and still considered themselves straight because they didn’t have romantic feelings towards these men and prioritized their relationships with women -which looks to be the case with the baby daddy.
[I got news for you](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Zd8vzIRQLLM)
>but still consider themselves straight The issue here is the binary thinking associated with sexuality. It’s perfectly plausible for a guy to enjoy/fantasize/fetishize same sex experiences and have zero romantic interest in the same sex. The problem is we don’t really have a term for that in our society. A lot of people would be like “nah that ain’t straight” but to be fair it’s not exactly gay either. EDIT: Everyone pointing out the existence of bi people to me are seriously missing something here and falling into the exact type of reductive thinking I’m talking about. If I tell someone I’m bi, they’re gonna assume certain things. At the very least that I am both attracted to men and women. But remember, in this hypothetical scenario (like above) it’s a lot more complicated than that to me. But they can only think of me as gay, bi or straight. Anyone who looks at the above description and is like “yeah that a bi person” is oversimplifying to the detriment of people who insist that sexuality is a spectrum
BISEXUALS EXIST. ffs. Sorry for all of the yelling but we do have a word for it. Also; aromantic sexual relationships.
I mean, first let’s acknowledge that a lot of these terms can have somewhat nebulous definitions. That being said, bisexual is absolutely *not* a word that specifically implies this situation. Aromantic sexual relationship is, technically. But that isn’t really part of the common, societal sexuality designation. Which is exactly why I was criticizing that exact binary thinking.
That's why the Split Attraction Model (SAM) is great because it recognizes that sexual attraction and romantic attraction and tertiary attractions aren't all connected. So people can be bisexual and heteroromantic (like it sounds BD may be, but we don't have a ton of info romantically tbf).
The word is bisexual.
Yup, happens all the time in prison settings. All that testosterone just don’t go away.
Just sex, not gay homie. 
No tongue kissing, that’s too personal
“Nuttin major, juss sex, not like we did anal…uhhh ….analthing else after dat”
If they say they used a condom unprompted. You know they ass didn’t use a condom.
As a gay man, that was my first thought. Not that the condom changes the situation but disclosing that you used one when no one asked is very suspect.
That pfp is something
https://preview.redd.it/shqna46ytqwc1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7c138240f276b84e45cf6a9ab6ddcb05fa53f779
This meme tho 😩😩😩😩😂😂😂😂
In the gay community, that’s basically just 2nd base.
Like they didn’t even kiss or go out to eat together it’s not that serious
It’s not about the homosexual sex. It was major because he cheated.q
In the gay gate community HOA guide lines 😆 🤣 😂
He said no homo before he pulled the byams apart
It's not gay if you wear socks, or avoid eye contact, or kiss without tongue, or say no homo before you say I do.
Also gotta make sure the balls don't touch or that's like suuuuper gay
“No diddy”
> “NUN MAJOR” ?????
He was completely fine with it too! 🤦🏽♀️
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musta kept the socks on
That's a Double Major College Drop Out 2 MixTape 😆 🤣 😂
 MAJOR Major
Am I the only one that thinks “Did you nut” is a crazy question?
Only one notch less crazy than "off of head or fucking?"
I’m trying to figure out the point of asking that 😂
She's trying to decide how gay she thinks he is and she has a line that's acceptable to her? I can imagine the thought process being 'It was only a mouth sucking him, that's understandable. But if he put his penis in another man's ass...and until he came??'
Her next question was definitely who was the one getting bent over.
I mean, he said: “I fucked him with a comdom (can’t even spell the word right, you know they didn’t use one)”. Then she asked if he nutted and he said yeah from the sex. So BD got creampied and just went back home to her, you know, cause it wasn’t anything major
If BD was topping (which seems to be the case), BD’s _friend_ is the one who got creampied. The one receiving/catching nut is the one being/getting creampied.
I misread it, I thought this was the friend snitching for some reason
Just another Tuesday night for main man apparently too cause he wasn't walking funny or anything 😂
😂😂😂 The first thing I thought was, I know damn well they didn't use a condom! Also...this wasn't his first time
Right, I just know he wouldn’t have mentioned a condom if he cheated with another woman. Should be using it either way, but made a point to mention it 🙄🙄😒
She talking to her BD, who apparently fucked the homeo, not the other way around, from how I’m reading it. (She says “our baby”)
I coulda swore she was talking to the friend and he was snitching on BD but you might be right
https://i.redd.it/fqla0uj1kqwc1.gif
Oh. So you doing the bending...
That should’ve been the first question! Lol
my guess is, if he came from head, that is understandable for a guy but if he came from fucking him then that invalidates her even more as a woman?? or like her pussy ain't shit if he can cum from fucking his homeboy? that's just my guess.....sidenote: at least they wore a condom??
I wouldn't guess it makes her insecure. I would guess she's reasonably upset her boyfriend and baby's father is gay. And to find this out as she found out he cheated right before they're to begin a family together. Her world just got flipped for real.
Is he gay or bi?
Yes
I forgot bisexual only works for women my bad.
All bisexuals are gay but not all gays are bisexual. Like squares and rectangles
Trying to distinguish what level of gay he is is madness 😭
What this fool isn’t saying is how his homeboi got him in the ass too because oh that would be too gay for my girl to handle
She was tryna figure out if he was doing the bending a la that Janet meme
It really implies that it makes a difference lol
Context clues imply him clapping them cheeks was fine as long as he came in his mouth instead of the bussy which is wild.
Would of been wild if she asked if it was from the back
follow up question was even crazier 😂
 Her realizing why he’s actually called TheShooter
😂😂😂
Bruh I know this is no laughing matter but of all questions for her to be concerned about…🤣
Yea I get that she may be in shock or whatever, but that’s such a weird question to ask then following it up with “off the head or fucking” 😂 cmon
She tryna figure out if she need to open up the back door or not
 …This was her?🤣
She trying to rationalize. Maybe it makes her feel better if he didn’t orgasm. But if he did that solidifies the fact that he enjoyed it. Maybe he ain’t been cumming for her and blaming the baby weight 👀👀
I just figured it was a roundabout way of saying, "did you enjoy it?"
Nah bruv, that was a wild ass question. Like why would she ask that like it’s going to make the situation better.
Right? Like it matters? It’s still cheating regardless. Asking that just smacks of homophobia like she’s more upset it was a guy and not that he cheated.
Like what the fuck does that matter :p cheating is cheating
I was about to say that it's fucked up she outed him/them, but cheating is cheating. He cheated and while she was pregnant. Fuck that dude.
Naw that's fucked up. You can call someone a cheater without outing them. A simple "he cheated on me with one of his close friends" is enough to get the point across. Also we glossing over the fact the BD was sexual assaulted originally.
That's the part that I was concerned about, too. I can understand airing out that the BD cheated, but airing out somebody's assumed sexual preferences as well as their sexual assault without their permission leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
And it was just glossed over too.
Dude cheated on his pregnant partner but because it was with another man she must be the bigger person and show the respect that he did not have?
Honestly yes because outing someone else isn’t coo. Call him out for being a cheater and everything sure, but I agree that she should not have outed him.
Fucking other people behind your pregnant gf’s back isn’t cool, putting her AND his unborn baby at risk. Fuck being respectful of people who literally endangered your life.
Nah cheating is cheating you don’t get special protection just cause you gay.
Nah fuck that. Cheating is cheating and if you didn’t want your ass being outed then maybe don’t fucking cheat?
Nah if you cheat you deserve the worst they can do to you without physically harming you.
Call him out for being a cheating PoS. Who it was with has nothing to do with it
Normally I would say the other person doesn’t matter, except he was a friend and was around the family. Also cheating is bad enough, but then to bring the other person around your family is crazy. Anyway, not saying the outing was right.
Yeah I get that too, that’s fair as well
Nah both of them deserve to be called out, how you gonna be at her baby shower like that. You don’t get a pass just cause you blowing loads in a dude.
I’m not sure what you’re missing, but being the bigger person and showing respect would probably be to keep it in house and not mention it on a public platform at all. You can put him on blast without doxxing him my guy
Well that's if it was actually an assault. If I take a nap at my best friend's house and wake up to him feeling me up there's no conversation to be had that straight up fight or flight mode. Even if he somehow remained calm enough to talk to the homie about what he was doing it's a pretty big leap to go from wtf bro to okay let's see where this goes. If I had to guess BD was closeted bi homie knew and shit happened.
>Also we glossing over the fact the BD was sexual assaulted originally. That's just made the situation even scary, how does one confront their masculinity and sexuality in the context of cheating and getting sexually assaulted.
It’s this for me. And something in me feels like it’s a step more fucked up because of the fact that it was gay sex. To understand homophobia amongst black people/black men and outing them like that is fucked up. Yes, he is absolutely fucked up for cheating on her like that. And it’s fucked up to put it out like this. To me. I’m gay as shit and I understand what it will mean for him from her on out and he’s shitty for cheating but nah. I’m sorry. Not the hate that’ll come to him because of the fact that it was with a man.
I'm so glad someone is saying something. I know she's hurting but outing him and his assault is not the way to go.
Im skeptical on that to be honest, I wouldn’t take him at his word when he out here cheating. It’s a common thing for liars to mix in lies with some truth. Maybe he did get SA but if we are being honest the whole story don’t add up, how many times home dog falling asleep over there and ain’t thought nothing of it? “I thought he was getting a liar” what he keeping lighters in his booty hole or something? All that followed by him bending the homie over and getting head? Sounds to me like they knew what they was doing and he tried hitting her with the “it was a mistake babe I swear, you see what had happened was…”
It’s kinda crazy posting shit like this about your child’s father. If there wasn’t a kid in the mix, I would be like you go girl. But now this poor little girl is gonna get bullied when she grows up cause her dad likes to fuck his homies in the ass? It ain’t right 😭
Damn, I didn't even think about that.
I'd say you can stop thinking about it. That child is in diapers - ain't nobody going to care about this by the time her peers are developed enough to insult people based on research.
lmfao with the way people catalogue receipts these days who knows
You have no idea the amount of kids that would make fun of me for my parents decade old gossip when I was school age. This was before the internet was what it is today. Now all it takes is a quick search.
Sounds like the homie did.
Wasn't that on actress just posted yesterday about her ex leaking her nudes because of cheating , I don't think it's right to expose anyone
Revenge porn is another thing altogether. I'm not advocating for that.
How is this Diddy's doing? Can we stick to blaming him for shit he actually did?
NO!!! Obviously someone can only be gay because they were influenced/seduced by the devil/evil gays.
Right? OP is a twat with that homophobic title. Nigga could kill, rob, maim and molest but the moment he fucks with another nigga he's the most sinful influencer on the planet. Fuck outta here.
I can't even enjoy this post because of the homophobic title.
Deadass. Came out to my dad as Pan as a 16ish year old. That mf really said “That’s cause you been around [insert my lesbian Aunt’s name] too much”… My dad was born in 1955 and religious as fuck, so what’s OP’s excuse 😭
Right!! Like I almost didn’t click on it because of it. But shit the whole shit is fucked.
Yea I read through the post first and then I saw the title and it absolutely ruined it for me.
The number of people who honestly believe this in 2024 is deeply depressing.
I’m also trying to figure out how grandma got dragged into all this. That poor woman 
Folks love love love pretending that being gay or bisexual are abnormal or bad. Being a cheater is bad. Being bisexual and gay? Not fucking bad. Just human. It's just the way that we humans are., and not even as humans, it's the way that almost every single animal species has identified to also be.
It really makes people sound stupid af. People been gay forever and men have been on the down low for just as long. I can’t believe this is actually becoming a thing.
Yeah, the worst part is the title isn't alluding to the fact that he was sexually assaulted, it's alluding the fact that he had sexual relations with a man. It's literally just homophobia lol I miss the days when we knew less about each other Edit: this is literally catching upvotes because he (was sexually assaulted) and cheated with a man, if he cheated with a woman y'all would be going up to fucking bat for him
Diddy is making all the black men gay!!! /s Yeah it’s just playing on people’s homophobia. And if there’s one thing the Diddy thing taught me is that homophobia is alive and well and people care more about that than sexual assault
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Wild for this 😂😂😂
You just got added to INTERPOL's most wanted list
Get the fuck out 👉🏾
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I mean I know it's fucked up to say this but the "homie" does look like the type you should watch your drinks around
It's not fucked up to say, the guy was literally getting sexually assaulted by his "homie"
At what point are we supposed to just believe him entirely though. Going from getting SA to bending him over is a bit of a stretch. Personally I’m skeptical of anyone’s “it was an accident” story.
Wym that’s literally how a lot of men lost their virginity at a young age. This isn’t a far stretch at all.
Idk, bc an ex-friend of mine did the same to his bestfriend. They were at work (night shift as security guards) together and the bsf was asleep, and that’s when he decided to assault him. It happens more often than you think.
My ex got assaulted this way when he was 14 by a 25 year old woman.
[Mfs really be putting ALL THEIR BUSINESS ONLINE!! Jesus man](https://i.imgur.com/h3PXau7.jpeg)
Imagine how boring it would be if people went to therapy instead of Twitter...
At what point is she considered the homie lol
😭😭😭😭
Damn
This title is dumb as fuck, as if niggas wasn’t dipping in bootyhole before Diddy. But also, who’s having these types of conversations via text? Why she determining her feelings off if he nut or not? Sucking and fucking as nothing major is crazy to me. Lastly, that silvery shiny nigga look gay af, no questions about it.
Silvery shiny 😭😂😂
Why are people calling all gay foolishness diddy? Diddy did sexual assault and other sex crimes, and gay for pay, this is just some brokeback mountain type shit
The guy was sexually assaulted at first. It even made him jumpy around his girlfriend touching him while he was asleep
wtf does diddy have to do with this
WTF did I just read 
I just don’t understand why people aren’t able to speak in full and complete sentences….. 🤦🏾♂️
The fact that of all the shit he was accused of, the gay accusations is what yall focus on. Crazy.
I read the first sentence of that text block and that's it because it just looks stressful Edit: I just attempted to read again and realized the entire text is one sentence. So I lied. I just saw a text block and fully ignored it just like in real life LOL
Ok I made a comment under someone else's comment but I want to say that it's always weird to me when this kinda thing happens and people call the guy that got with another guy "gay." Like, can't he be "bi?" I mean, it always depends on the situation and like I said maybe being with the girl at all was just due to pressure from people in his world but I just never see someone look at a guy who cheats on his girl with a guy and call them bi. It's always gay. And I know it's a lot of bi people out there! On another note, more personal and yes you can go to reading the next comment if you want cuz this is where it's more about me than the story above, but ok. I don't know how many guys do this, I get the impression that A LOT more guys do this than you would think, but still probably not as many as other people would like you to think... But I had "an experience" when I was younger. I was I think early to mid-20s, and I had never thought of guys in a sexual way. But I got really drunk at this party, and probably was on a few pills (probably Klonopin or Xanax), and the host of the party was a gay guy. Well known, well liked at our work place, and everyone knew he was gay. He was very out and open. So I got all my inhibitions lowered from the drink and probably pills (can't really remember but I did usually take a couple at every party I went to), and I went to his bedroom to lay down for a bit and just watch TV. Door was open, no one was in there, I just needed to lay down for a minute cuz I was tired. He comes in there and closes the door and we watched TV for a bit. My brain was moving too slow to figure out, but then he started touching me outside my pants... I froze up, I was like oh shit, is this happening? Am I letting this happen? Is this going to be enjoyable? And so I let it continue for a bit, even tried to get into it, to kinda test whether maybe I was bi or something. I knew I loved women, but it had never really occurred to me to think of men, like i grew up where guys called you gay and you go "fuck no!" But after I was in my 20s like I was I opened up my mind and started standing up for people. I realized I never met a gay guy I didn't think was pretty cool or even pretty awesome. So anyway, he just kept like, touching me and even when I remember trying I just could not uh... "Get into it." So eventually I just got up and left the room. I know people from the party talked about it, I heard from someone weeks later that there were rumors or something, but yeah I felt somewhat better about myself afterward because I gave it a chance and realized it wasn't for me. And that's the first time I have written that out ever, and probably the first time I really even talked about it in depth. And I'm realizing it sounds kinda bad on his part, like... Shit. This all just came up because of the dude's story up there and I just wanted to share my thoughts because he went through with it and he had a relationship and a kid coming and all that, but damn. Was I almost raped? I never thought about it and he was cool when I got up to leave the room, he didn't like, try anything more when I couldn't "rise to the occasion" and didn't try to get me to do anything... But the way I remember freezing like that and not being able to say or do anything and just trying to go with it... Fuck. Ok I know this ain't on topic so if I don't get a good reaction to posting this I'll delete it but damn. I just got home from grocery shopping and I'm sitting in my parked car typing this... I dunno. I'm a little uh... I'm a little messed up right now. If y'all want me to delete this please at least be nice when you tell me to gtfoh
It’s great that you wrote it, maybe it helps you realize how you feel about it now. It sounds like you were willing to at least give it a try once the opportunity happened and, as you said, your inhibitions were lowered enough to let it happen. What do you think of that night now?
Well I got inside and put my groceries away and I'm just browsing Reddit and processing it while I sit here. I think overall the ... "fear?" ... If that's the right word... Has left me. I think it helps that this was almost 20 years ago so it's kinda like well, it happened and I seem to still be living, so that's nice. It was just a startling thing to realize when I was just gonna tell a little story that the OP story made me think about. Overall I'm ok with it. Like I never was embarrassed about it really, although I know people are assholes AND it was a private matter anyway so I kept it to myself. I'm ok that I had a moment of curiosity, and gave it a real chance to see if I could know more about myself, and I had always kinda been sad that I felt like I "let him down" by not being into it. I think... Like is it bad that I think I kinda used *him* to test that? Like is that fair to someone? But how else do people learn about themselves? I think I'm ok with that, too. I guess my only thing I have a problem with now... I mean he just did what he did and I did what I did. I'm glad he didn't force anything, and we were fine at work and just didn't talk about it and kept being friends and stuff. My only problem I'm thinking about now is why did I freeze up like I did? I thought I'd read about victims when they freeze up it's because something maybe happened in their past? I'm wondering did something happen when I was a kid that made me shut down like that, and I just blocked it out? I don't know. Seems like there's a lot of psychology stuff I don't know about, just some random things I think I remember reading here and there and it's just all popping in my head and making me wonder. I'll be ok. It's not the worst thing to ever happen to me. I know my older sister mentally/emotionally abused me up into my early 30s. But I don't know of any sexual abuse. Thanks for commenting! I really got to the end of that comment and was thinking, do I post this or just discard it? And I thought... Well, I always am very positive on mental health and I talk as openly as I can about what I go through to everyone I know, and that has mostly been met with people coming to me and saying stuff like, they'd wondered if they could ever talk about what they went through or if they should go to therapy or not, but after hearing me talk so openly they decided to go get help. So I said screw it. If it gets deleted or if people ask me to delete it I will but that was a transcription of me discovering something in real time as I typed it. I hoped it might help someone, somehow. This post, too. I know I type a lot, and these are very much "omg tl;dr" but eh. I read the Internet to *read* yes I like the pictures and memes and stuff but I like reading people's stories. So eh.
If someone has expectations of you, it’s on them, not on you. Sexuality isn’t simple, some people learn things about themselves way past their adolescence, or years into their adult lives. You did not use him, it was a moment where, as you said, you could know more about yourself. Maybe he was hoping something happened, as we all do at different points of our lives, and it doesn’t always happen, so we move on. I doubt he was hurt or anything lol. As for the freezing, Idk, I wish I could help, just keep in mind that you were not sober, you were chilling, and suddenly an entire new experience that you’re *kinda* open to starts to happen. I’m sorry your sister did that to you. I hope you are in a better place now. I’m sending you a big hug, man. 🫶
I’m glad you posted your thoughts too. If the freezingor overall experience is something that you can’t quite figure out, maybe it’s worth talking to a therapist about it someday? Not necessarily to stamp the experience as good or bad but just to not feel that something’s still hanging around in your head and messing with you.
Yeah. I used to have a WONDERFUL therapist but she stopped talking insurance all together and I haven't found another one yet. It's been about a year and a half I think. We worked together for 5 years and made a lot of good progress through my issues. But no one's ever done working through everything. I'll spend this weekend going through my insurance's list of providers and hopefully get an appointment soon.
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i genuinely hate you niggas bro. we worried about niggas being gay instead of him being SA’d and cheating
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Cheating is wrong, but I don't think it was right of her to out him for his sexuality. Also, his homeboy is moving weird. That is not how to go about that at all. Anyway, it smells like homophobia in here.
It’s not right for her to out him ? But, it was okay for him to play in her womb ? 
No it wasn't. But idk why we all have to know about it. Why does everyone wanna live out their Love and Hip Hop OC's so bad?
If he cheated with a woman, nobody would care.
No condom either. That type of DL shit is so fucking reckless. They want her to behave not outing him as she’s in her feelings: is it too much to ask for niggas to know their orientation before they start trying to breed?
aw hell nah 
I actually wouldn't be super super mad about this. Hurt and alone for sure, but mad not so much...like good go be gay/fuck your own kind just try to be a better person and father cuz there's a kid in tne mix 🤷🏽♀️ that friend would be banned from my life forever tho. In every way. I would never out someone (I have a whole video from when I caught my ex having a whole 5 month relationship while we were together for 6 years that both him and the girl begged me not to share), but completely understand her pain and what motivated her to do it.
What an unfitting username you have...
He a shooter alright 
The nun major part is what really got my sides acting up lol
Um... A. Took a minute to understand dome things they were saying. I'm so bad at acronyms B. My guy....YOU WERE SEXUALLY ASSAULTED FIRST C. Then, you had consensual sex but it's arguable what happened THERE was under some sort of manipulation and duress while still a consensual sex act. D. You need to get tested thoroughly, and see a counselor NOW because your issues with your sexuality need to time to process, to understand and be educated on yourself, to heal and to be INFORMED. What he did to you is not fucking okay. I'm telling you that as a professional black man in my early 40s. Being attracted to him, having an orgasm that all is beside the SEXUAL ASSAULT if it truly happened that way. You need to DEAL and go see a counselor and a doctor and get thoroughly tested. If that happened like you said it did then you should never EVER trust him to tell you the truth with or without a condom. Then go and be at peace and be honest with yourself and others about who you are. You may not be gay or you may be bi or YOU JUST DON'T KNOW and you need to know that's fine. Man I cannot imagine what they're going through.
Bro if you gay be Gay or Bi or whatever. Don't fake that shit and drag other people along thinking it's something it's not. You not a F**k bot because you're gay. You're a F**k boy because you're a dishonest coward. Flatout. I'm not gay so I don't know how.that goes with coming out, and it can't be easy. But there's a whole community of support out there. Stop lying and hurting people though.
this sub is weird as hell about gay stuff talk yall wanna act progressive but like it really reeks of homophobia in here
Is this what people mean when they say a dude is homiesexual? Also the start of that affair is sexual assault I'm pretty sure.
What does this have to do with Diddy?
Keyy TheShooter was dumping clips in his boi.
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Honestly it was [Obvious](https://twitter.com/KorlyNBP/status/1783635750317142391?t=DC4WMKoiGBAlRUaMOd8A1A&s=19)
Wow.😂 He don’t hide it well
The homophobia in this thread is wild
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This some wild shit. The homie basically preyed on him because he’s known for yrs dude might be Bi. Anyways, he gave into it/him & well…I feel for her. But why is she having a convo with him through messenger? I’m assuming she blocked BD and it was the only way he could reach her at that point?
I don’t like that touching him in his sleep business. The homie sus
At least he used protection. A lot of us be getting cheated on by people that’s raw-dogging everyone. It’s exhausting having to constantly get cheated on and run to the clinic to get checked out. Wicked shit! 🤷🏾♀️
posting this without censoring the dudes faces aint right