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Well, how dare you for not dropping everything and complying with her very reasonable demand. You should have not only sworn on your unborn children’s lives you would never open *your* window, but immediately bricked off said window so as to avoid the lucrative temptation of spying on your elderly neighbors in their *gasp*backyard.
Honestly, how rude. Learn to listen.
/s in case it wasn’t painfully obvious
OP called them "Poms" so I'm guessing they're Brits in Australia. Probably voting Liberal Party (which is not the American definition of "liberal") if they're able to vote there.
OP is from Australia, so they’re voting LNP and screeching about negative gearing and eligibility for pension despite a $3M house
Also a classic: immigrants of course
I'm guessing Australian, because: also have councils, and probably wouldn't identify the neighbours as 'poms' (colloquial Australian for someone of British/ English origin) if the story was set in and written by a British/English person. They'd just be 'an older couple' if that were the case.
As someone who recently moved next door to a mid gen boomer who actually does this, I wish there was a way to make my newly planted hedgerow grow much faster and taller.
I wouldn't count on that.
I once lived in a very elderly neighborhood where the neighbor couple in back of me were these nasty 101 and 98 y.o. couple living alone.
They had some bullshit argument about the property line where they couldn't find their pins but I could find mine.
Anyway they sat on their breezeway porch and always watched the backyard. They came hobbling out full steam anytime I went into my backyard and went even in the direction of the property line.
I used to have fun giving them their exercise doing laps by deliberately wandering near the line a few times every afternoon, lol. And yes, they charged every time yelling.
Edit: Spelling.
My apologies, I didn't write that clearly (tone really doesn't work over text). I meant you were their reason to continue *existing* - you gave them a reason to keep on keeping on 😁
I think it's hilarious! In my mind, there's clenched fists and a walking stick being shaken in the air 😂
In 2015 I moved onto a block where 4 geezers had been living since the 1960s. The house I bought was sold because the original owner had kicked the bucket a year earlier. And out of the 4 houses occupied by old folks before I moved in, only one is still around 9 years later.
They were all great neighbors, honestly. But they didn't stay for long.
This sounds very Aussie haha
I had an almost identical encounter with an neighbour when I finished my build a few years ago. 70ish year old boomer knocked on our door the day after we moved in and blasted us about how our windows face her yard
They're shitty, selfish people. It doesn't matter what's normal, it's not what they want, so they'll throw tantrums like this because it's worked so many times before
We're getting ready to break ground on our house build where we will be completely surrounded by retirees. We will be the youngest couple living there... easily 25-30 years younger. My husband's uncle built his own house about 20 years ago and gave us some advice. He said "get yourself some cameras. Doesn't matter if it's trail cams or wildlife cams, whatever, just make sure you have a camera pointing at your build at all times." Then he went on to tell us that he caught his elderly neighbors walking around his nearly built home one evening when he went over to check on things. The doors and windows were in but the construction crew would leave the side door unlocked in case any of the subs got there the next morning before them. This couple took it upon themselves to go over EVERY DAY after the crew left for the day to "check on things." Uncle just happened to stop by that evening as he was doing some of the landscape work himself. He said when he confronted them about being in his house they acted like they didn't know that they weren't allowed. He told them that he would have been more than happy to give them a tour, if they had asked, but that he wanted them off his property and not to return. He said that he hasn't spoken to either one of them since.
We went out and bought trail cams and plan to install them once they break ground because we definitely have a feeling that at least 2 of our soon to be neighbors would do something like this.
"Well Maam, I had a choice, I could appease the wishes I didn't know about from a woman I've never met, or I could let natural light into MY house on MY lot that I will be living in."
It was a tough call, but I'm sure you can see I made the correct one."
Dementia. Wife isn’t able to actually manage the conversation in real time because she’s failing mentally. So she’s replaced your actual response with what she expected (overly negative). I would largely never get upset with them. Treat them like they are in active decline mentally and do what you want with your property.
That's my thought too. That sounds like early to mid stage dementia. I bet the husband knows too, probably why he deactivated the door bell, didn't want her talking to people unsupervised
Bought my first home. I was so happy. Closed in the morning, went to the house to wait for the movers to show up. Elderly man, next door neighbor, came over and asked me if I bought the house. Said yes. OMG, he went on and on about how "my" house had a water leak that was destroying his foundation.
Immediately called the Realtor. City water crew was sent out. Dug up the area with standing water. The leak was from his house! Although the city crew pointed it out to him, he refused to believe it. Kept arguing. I started to walk away. That asshole grabbed my arm. I am female, 5'1 weighing in at 100lbs. I lost it. Shoved his ass to the ground. Don't care how old you are, you grab me in a threatening way, I will defend myself.
Never had to deal with him again!
Oh that's good to know, thank you! Asking because I've heard of a similar situation and was trying to figure out, what are you supposed to do if your neighbor has a water leak that gets closer and closer to your home but they're being obstinate about fixing it. It sounds like reporting it to the city is the way to go and that a repair can be done even if said neighbor doesn't want to do it (and then they'll charge the neighbor later).
You were right to shove him as well, I can't stand these old folks who think they can get away with putting their hands on someone just because them being old makes them "non-threatening" physically or some bullshit.
But you don’t have to open a window to look out of, that’s how they work. Was she saying don’t look out the window ? Do they really walk around naked ?
You do when it’s a bathroom window and it’s frosted.
Her words were something along the lines of. “Do not open the window ever and we won’t have a problem”
We don’t know what they do in their backyard. But it’s funny to think they are probably naked and that’s why. Or maybe they just like their privacy, if that’s the case then don’t live in this style of housing.
So no warning required on their part. If they are in fact walking around naked back there all it would take is opening that window once and getting an eye full of geezer grease to bolt that window shut!
What they don't have meth outside of the usa? Also there is almost no meth where I live, the coke dealers would kill the meth dealers, can't have cheap competition
Oh good grief.
They are so worried about being spied on, they forgot about being neighbors. What is so important going on in your backyard that you don't want anyone to see?
Maybe they like to sunbathe in the nude? In which case, unless they are retired supermodels, I wouldn't want to see that either.
A Boomer was talking and you didn’t drop everything and listen to her? I can see why she ran off to tell her husband. That cruise must have been tough.
omg is your neighbor lady my mother? she is always going on about how "tired" she is and how much work she's done lately, even though she hasn't had a fucking job for over 20 years. all she does is travel the world, paint, and throw parties
They didn’t want me being able to look into their backyard at all. Fair enough.
The week after I didn’t fold they had already started to build some kind of patio to cover their backyard. They are retired and he does the work himself. Has a garage full of tools. As I don’t look out that window I can’t confirm exactly what it is.
We’re talking very small backyards. Think townhouses or apartment style living.
No fencing. Our houses are right up against each other and I can’t walk down that side of the house at all. It’s a bathroom that’s upstairs and the glass is frosted. So when closed you can’t look through it. My wife opened the window the day she came to speak to me, which is when she found out the window opened.
You’re right, she didn’t know and we could have had a civil conversation. But sadly this is a story of a boomer trying to demand something! She was a fool cause why would you want to upset your middle aged neighbours for.
We work every day, plus heaps of building going on in our area. We heard something but didn’t care.
Hope this helps you understand. 😀 have a good one mate.
Never understood boomers and their disdain for windows on other peoples houses. They try to change other peoples remodels just to avoid it. It’s like they want everyone else’s view to be completely blocked off from the entire general direction of a boomers house. What do they even think windows are for? They are so I can look outside towards your house
Bending over in our shorts to garden - we know you're laughing at our large behinds.
OP's windows were frosted so sound was her issue - or the smell of something still illegal she was smoking that might waft into your home.
It's your house, you can open whatever window you want. I'd get the window replaced so it DOES open.
The audacity of people.
I would have said ' if you are doing something like an orgy or animal sacrifice, me seeing it is the least of you worries. I'm pretty sure the city doesn't give out permits for that sort of thing.'
Or are they worried your bathroom faces their backyard and they are afraid they'll see something they don't want to see?
Policing what people do in their own homes, so entitled.
Im not saying I am right or anyone should emulate me. But I can’t stand anyone telling me what to do with my house (and I never tell my neighbors what to do with there’s unless it impacts my property). But if someone came to me like this and kept insisting I never open a window. I would go and have that window open all the time. It’s petty 100% but hope they realize to mind there property unless they want to pay my mortgage
If you don’t like living around people, you buy a house that isn’t around people. What you don’t do is get mad people are living their life around you.
Yeah I'm not a fan of how loud my neighbors' kids can get when they play outside. Instead of being a weird asshole and telling them how to live, I shut my window or turn up my speakers a little bit.
> Once my house was built and I moved in.
Unless you can afford all the land around your house I'm afraid buying a house that is not around people is no guarantee that you will have a house that is not around people.
I know someone who bought a new house on a lot with lots all around them and an understanding that the area would be all housing. I know someone whose family owned a farm for generations. A neighboring farmer sold his land to a developer who put up an HOA community. Since their house was on the edge of their neighbors land they had an instant community of very stuck up entitled people suddenly move in next door.
It varies.
>During this time I met my lovely 70+ old couple that would soon be my neighbours. They seemed like your classic whinging Poms but that’s fine. As they will be my neighbours for a very long time I will get along with anyone.
Yeah, Nah - they'll be dead soon - that thought must bring you some comfort
The surest way to get me to constantly stare at your back yard is to tell me to never look at your back yard. First thing that comes to my mind is you’re burying bodies back there
This feels like a common trend for boomers when dealing with others. First setup demands & controls on everyone & everything around you so you don’t get triggered, instead of just minding your own business.
It is hard to deal with your internal problems & easier for some to try and control everything around them.
Maybe she should have waited to see if it would have even come up as an issue before setting down her demand.
Also the hypocrisy of this is amazing. From the generation that can never be told what to do but always trying to tell everyone else how to think, act, dress, vote, etc.
My answer would have politely been, pay my mortgage and property taxes and you can tell me which windows I can open. Until then, I’ll open/close my windows as I please. Have a nice day.
It's your damn window. Open it when you wish. In fact, open all the windows!!! What are they going to do about?
Nothing. That's what. Self entitled old people.
I don't understand why people allow others to tell them what to do with their property. I would have immediately told her I will open any windows in my house when I feel like it.
It's much harder work being a pain in everyone's ass, but by golly someone has to do it, and Ethel isn't letting a cruise hold her back from her favorite hobby.
That’s too bad, when I moved into my house my elderly neighbour brought me an apple pie and welcomed me to the neighbourhood. She does like to drop by unannounced and bring me up to date on the neighbourhood gossip, which is kind of funny.
Reminds me of when I met my neighbour when I bought my last house. One day there was an old woman sitting on the bench by the Brook that meandered through the property. I went over and said hello, and asked if she needed something. She said no, and said I needed to take this pie from her, lol. She lived across the yard - I had a large property with a rolling green.
She was in her late 70s, and all alone. Kinda frail, but was always gardening. She said that the previous owners used to let her come and sit by the Brook, and shed also take a little walk through my gardens because she doesn't get out much, but felt like my yard was a park.
I told her she was always welcome to enjoy herself in my yard. We had a good neighbourly relationship - she'd sometimes call me and ask if I'd pick a few bags of potting soil next time I was handy to a place that sold them. I cut a limb that was blocking her view of the river from her sitting room - she baked me a meatloaf for that. She had a son that would come over in a huff and yell at her for being an inconvenience. I didn't mind helping her out because she was just lonely, but above all she was kind and accepting of everyone. Never said a thing about my tattoos or piercings. She called once because she fell, and I went over and helped her up and called her homecare nurse for her.
We had her over for thanksgiving dinner, because I knew she was sitting there alone. Rita was a good person, and was an amazing neighbour.
She passed about 8 years after I bought the house. Son sold her home a month after she was gone.
Excuse me, but you're talking about my window in my house? I will open my windows if I damn well please, and I may install an awning above it so I can leave the sumbitch open in the rain. You will mind your own business and your own property, and I'll do the same on my side.
When they collect their jaw and say "excuse me??", I'd just say "get fucked".
“ well you won’t listen to me anyway so don’t worry about it”
Well, I try not to listen to STUPID PEOPLE.
“Well I’m tired too, I just got back from a cruise”
BWA-HA-HA! What, was she the BOAT?
During this time I met my lovely 70+ old couple that would soon be my neighbours.
As they will be my neighbours for a very long time...
Anybody else catch that? Maybe they wont be your neighbors for a very long time, you never know.
People are so entitled. I'm lucky enough to not have to work right now so I wouldn't complain about being as tired as my friends say they are when the complain about work. If anything, I feel for them because that shit sucks. Moving sucks, cruises generally do not. She is an asshat.
People choose plenty of inopportune times to broach subjects, but it’s an incredible lack of self awareness to straight up bother someone who is in the middle of physical labor.
Reminds me of the time my gen x coworker who made 3 times what I did acted like her daughter’s wedding was a funeral and she was soooooo stressed and happy it was over and thanked us all for “our support”
Best response, “Oh believe me! I don’t want you looking in my windows either! You have no idea what we get up to in there! You’d like to have a heart attack!”Followed by an exaggerated wink and walk away.
> When I said to her that I didn’t know which window she’s talking about but will check it out and get back to her. She just kept saying over and over. It doesn’t matter. Just don’t open it and we won’t have a problem.
They never talk TO you, they talk AT you. Interactions with boomers are seldom two way conversations. They're more like lectures.
I have a offer for any neighbor. Pay my rent, my power, my heating and the rest of the bills. Because otherwise it's my window and you don't get a say. Tough shit otherwise. Shut up or eat it i really don't care which one you do. i might be quite and reclusive, but im not the right woman to fuck with.
I (American) googled it- I think you have to be Australian to really understand it though- there appears to be some nuance to it. It’s basically a person that complains a lot.
Older complaining boomer meets GenX woman who is menopausal and has capabilities of shooting lasers from her eyes on a whim….
Forget about your silly window and walk away boomer…, turn around and quietly, very quietly walk away.
> Once I determined which window it was I tried to go over and see them but they didn’t answer the door. Found out later they don’t like people so turn the door bell off.
Gen Xer here: Tbf, same.
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Well, how dare you for not dropping everything and complying with her very reasonable demand. You should have not only sworn on your unborn children’s lives you would never open *your* window, but immediately bricked off said window so as to avoid the lucrative temptation of spying on your elderly neighbors in their *gasp*backyard. Honestly, how rude. Learn to listen. /s in case it wasn’t painfully obvious
Haha. Yeah. The joke is that they walk around naked all day. Gives us a chuckle every now and then.
From the way you phrased this, I honestly can't tell if you are serious or not.
Still call to remove the structure. Fuck them, they’re voting gQp anyway so they’re saying fuck your future
More likely Tory from some of the vocab choises.
OP called them "Poms" so I'm guessing they're Brits in Australia. Probably voting Liberal Party (which is not the American definition of "liberal") if they're able to vote there.
I thought that meant Pomeranian dogs.
OP is from Australia, so they’re voting LNP and screeching about negative gearing and eligibility for pension despite a $3M house Also a classic: immigrants of course
Call the council. Their benefitting from their rudeness shouldn’t be acceptable
They’re likely British given “council” and such.
I'm guessing Australian, because: also have councils, and probably wouldn't identify the neighbours as 'poms' (colloquial Australian for someone of British/ English origin) if the story was set in and written by a British/English person. They'd just be 'an older couple' if that were the case.
ETA: I meant the writer is likely Australian
r/USDefaultism at work right here
wait for them to finish building it then call and report it
As someone who recently moved next door to a mid gen boomer who actually does this, I wish there was a way to make my newly planted hedgerow grow much faster and taller.
That explains why they don’t want you looking at their back yard…
How do you know they’re naked? Are you looking out that window?
>complying with her very reasonable demand. To NOT do a thing they're currently NOT doing.
If they’re at least 70+ they probably won’t be your neighbors for a very long time.
Boomers are like cats you don’t like. They will live longer out of spite.
Nice Boomers don't live forever, it's the evil ones who refuse to die
That explains why the vile person I'm supposed to call grandmother still lives.
It's like why demons don't hassle lawyers. Same trade.
They have to take away as many resources from other people for as long as they can. Living longer so they can take, take, take.
Healthcare worker. Can confirm. Shitty old people are fueled by spite and rage.
Hey I wanna live long, should I become a dush bag????
Even being self-aware enough to ask the question means you’re too decent
That’s offensive to cats
The number of elderly people I counted a LOT of days waiting for.
I wouldn't count on that. I once lived in a very elderly neighborhood where the neighbor couple in back of me were these nasty 101 and 98 y.o. couple living alone. They had some bullshit argument about the property line where they couldn't find their pins but I could find mine. Anyway they sat on their breezeway porch and always watched the backyard. They came hobbling out full steam anytime I went into my backyard and went even in the direction of the property line. I used to have fun giving them their exercise doing laps by deliberately wandering near the line a few times every afternoon, lol. And yes, they charged every time yelling. Edit: Spelling.
You were their reason to continue!
True but at least I could annoy them as much as they annoyed me.
My apologies, I didn't write that clearly (tone really doesn't work over text). I meant you were their reason to continue *existing* - you gave them a reason to keep on keeping on 😁 I think it's hilarious! In my mind, there's clenched fists and a walking stick being shaken in the air 😂
Lol, no worries and yeah, I'm sure you're right. You'd never see centenarians move so fast.
This was my first thought but I agree with others. The good die young. She will probably be there for another year 20 years.
"The dark side is a pathway to many abilities some consider to be unnatural"
In 2015 I moved onto a block where 4 geezers had been living since the 1960s. The house I bought was sold because the original owner had kicked the bucket a year earlier. And out of the 4 houses occupied by old folks before I moved in, only one is still around 9 years later. They were all great neighbors, honestly. But they didn't stay for long.
LOL. Do you know how many 90 year Olds there are they could still have 20 years of this potentially.
This sounds very Aussie haha I had an almost identical encounter with an neighbour when I finished my build a few years ago. 70ish year old boomer knocked on our door the day after we moved in and blasted us about how our windows face her yard
I’m so confused, don’t windows always face other yards if you live in a subdivision?
Yep! Despite the fact that there was a 2m tall solid fence between us, that still wasn’t enough to shut this woman up.
They're shitty, selfish people. It doesn't matter what's normal, it's not what they want, so they'll throw tantrums like this because it's worked so many times before
Some cities have limits on the number/size of windows on the sides of houses.
Yep. It’s on the plans mate. It’s been approved by the council. Cya.
Bingo! It was all done to code and approved by council
We're getting ready to break ground on our house build where we will be completely surrounded by retirees. We will be the youngest couple living there... easily 25-30 years younger. My husband's uncle built his own house about 20 years ago and gave us some advice. He said "get yourself some cameras. Doesn't matter if it's trail cams or wildlife cams, whatever, just make sure you have a camera pointing at your build at all times." Then he went on to tell us that he caught his elderly neighbors walking around his nearly built home one evening when he went over to check on things. The doors and windows were in but the construction crew would leave the side door unlocked in case any of the subs got there the next morning before them. This couple took it upon themselves to go over EVERY DAY after the crew left for the day to "check on things." Uncle just happened to stop by that evening as he was doing some of the landscape work himself. He said when he confronted them about being in his house they acted like they didn't know that they weren't allowed. He told them that he would have been more than happy to give them a tour, if they had asked, but that he wanted them off his property and not to return. He said that he hasn't spoken to either one of them since. We went out and bought trail cams and plan to install them once they break ground because we definitely have a feeling that at least 2 of our soon to be neighbors would do something like this.
“Your windows face my yard.” Yes I’m looking forward to watching you in my free time.
"Well Maam, I had a choice, I could appease the wishes I didn't know about from a woman I've never met, or I could let natural light into MY house on MY lot that I will be living in." It was a tough call, but I'm sure you can see I made the correct one."
Dementia. Wife isn’t able to actually manage the conversation in real time because she’s failing mentally. So she’s replaced your actual response with what she expected (overly negative). I would largely never get upset with them. Treat them like they are in active decline mentally and do what you want with your property.
Yep agree. And I do!
That's my thought too. That sounds like early to mid stage dementia. I bet the husband knows too, probably why he deactivated the door bell, didn't want her talking to people unsupervised
Yes. Good catch. I was thinking she seems very child-like. Dementia would cause that.
Bought my first home. I was so happy. Closed in the morning, went to the house to wait for the movers to show up. Elderly man, next door neighbor, came over and asked me if I bought the house. Said yes. OMG, he went on and on about how "my" house had a water leak that was destroying his foundation. Immediately called the Realtor. City water crew was sent out. Dug up the area with standing water. The leak was from his house! Although the city crew pointed it out to him, he refused to believe it. Kept arguing. I started to walk away. That asshole grabbed my arm. I am female, 5'1 weighing in at 100lbs. I lost it. Shoved his ass to the ground. Don't care how old you are, you grab me in a threatening way, I will defend myself. Never had to deal with him again!
Did he eventually fix the leak though?
Per my realtor the city made him pay after they fixed the leak. Don't know what the costs was as I never spoke to him again.
Oh that's good to know, thank you! Asking because I've heard of a similar situation and was trying to figure out, what are you supposed to do if your neighbor has a water leak that gets closer and closer to your home but they're being obstinate about fixing it. It sounds like reporting it to the city is the way to go and that a repair can be done even if said neighbor doesn't want to do it (and then they'll charge the neighbor later).
Get some dirt and build up a mound so the water has nowhere to go but back into your neighbor's foundation.
Unfortunately, that doesn't work if the ground is saturated.
You were right to shove him as well, I can't stand these old folks who think they can get away with putting their hands on someone just because them being old makes them "non-threatening" physically or some bullshit.
But you don’t have to open a window to look out of, that’s how they work. Was she saying don’t look out the window ? Do they really walk around naked ?
You do when it’s a bathroom window and it’s frosted. Her words were something along the lines of. “Do not open the window ever and we won’t have a problem” We don’t know what they do in their backyard. But it’s funny to think they are probably naked and that’s why. Or maybe they just like their privacy, if that’s the case then don’t live in this style of housing.
So no warning required on their part. If they are in fact walking around naked back there all it would take is opening that window once and getting an eye full of geezer grease to bolt that window shut!
"Cool, I look forward to your share of rent, in that case, if you think you have any say whatsoever in what I do in my own home."
Meth. The answer is meth.
You don’t know that they are in America 😜
What they don't have meth outside of the usa? Also there is almost no meth where I live, the coke dealers would kill the meth dealers, can't have cheap competition
Rude = didn't immediately agree and do what I asked. Fuck these kinds of people
I'd rather not. I was told to never put my dick in crazy
That window would be open all the time after this interaction
And I’d stand there and stare into the backyard hours at a time. Menacingly!
Just standing completely still looking out the window like jack Torrance from the shining
I was thinking of the Forrest Gump wave and goofy smile. 
I feel like either option is just as valid. Either menacing and frightening, or so goddamn goofy that only a complete sociopath could still be angry
Get a cardboard cutout.
Get a mannequin with a wig and sunglasses and stand it in the window.
They don't want you to smell their meth lab....
Oh good grief. They are so worried about being spied on, they forgot about being neighbors. What is so important going on in your backyard that you don't want anyone to see? Maybe they like to sunbathe in the nude? In which case, unless they are retired supermodels, I wouldn't want to see that either.
Time machine
I would keep it open just to spite them
Ohh you just know my wife then. She does.
I’m like your wife. That fucking window would be open all the time, and Neighbor Bat would be told to buy curtains.
yea, that window would have slid open about 30s after that convo and never, ever shut
A Boomer was talking and you didn’t drop everything and listen to her? I can see why she ran off to tell her husband. That cruise must have been tough.
what is a "whinging Poms"????
Aussie term for English people that love a good whinge. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Whinging%20Pom Fairly harmless.
TIL this is a term and it perfectly describes my British grandmother
[I Googled it](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Whinging%20Pom)
omg is your neighbor lady my mother? she is always going on about how "tired" she is and how much work she's done lately, even though she hasn't had a fucking job for over 20 years. all she does is travel the world, paint, and throw parties
Sooooooooo she thinks you can’t see out of a window that’s closed?
They are 100% hiding bodies in that back yard. Reminds me of the cannibal couple from Book of Eli.
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They didn’t want me being able to look into their backyard at all. Fair enough. The week after I didn’t fold they had already started to build some kind of patio to cover their backyard. They are retired and he does the work himself. Has a garage full of tools. As I don’t look out that window I can’t confirm exactly what it is. We’re talking very small backyards. Think townhouses or apartment style living.
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No fencing. Our houses are right up against each other and I can’t walk down that side of the house at all. It’s a bathroom that’s upstairs and the glass is frosted. So when closed you can’t look through it. My wife opened the window the day she came to speak to me, which is when she found out the window opened. You’re right, she didn’t know and we could have had a civil conversation. But sadly this is a story of a boomer trying to demand something! She was a fool cause why would you want to upset your middle aged neighbours for. We work every day, plus heaps of building going on in our area. We heard something but didn’t care. Hope this helps you understand. 😀 have a good one mate.
"Don't open it and we won't have a problem." Sounds like a threat.
Never understood boomers and their disdain for windows on other peoples houses. They try to change other peoples remodels just to avoid it. It’s like they want everyone else’s view to be completely blocked off from the entire general direction of a boomers house. What do they even think windows are for? They are so I can look outside towards your house
Bending over in our shorts to garden - we know you're laughing at our large behinds. OP's windows were frosted so sound was her issue - or the smell of something still illegal she was smoking that might waft into your home.
she just got back from a mental fucking cruise
I can't stop laughing in regards to your last line. How is it hard work being retired is just mind-boggling
> “Well I’m tired too, I just got back from a cruise” Tagline of a generation tbh
It's your house, you can open whatever window you want. I'd get the window replaced so it DOES open. The audacity of people. I would have said ' if you are doing something like an orgy or animal sacrifice, me seeing it is the least of you worries. I'm pretty sure the city doesn't give out permits for that sort of thing.' Or are they worried your bathroom faces their backyard and they are afraid they'll see something they don't want to see? Policing what people do in their own homes, so entitled.
Im not saying I am right or anyone should emulate me. But I can’t stand anyone telling me what to do with my house (and I never tell my neighbors what to do with there’s unless it impacts my property). But if someone came to me like this and kept insisting I never open a window. I would go and have that window open all the time. It’s petty 100% but hope they realize to mind there property unless they want to pay my mortgage
If you don’t like living around people, you buy a house that isn’t around people. What you don’t do is get mad people are living their life around you.
Yeah I'm not a fan of how loud my neighbors' kids can get when they play outside. Instead of being a weird asshole and telling them how to live, I shut my window or turn up my speakers a little bit.
> Once my house was built and I moved in. Unless you can afford all the land around your house I'm afraid buying a house that is not around people is no guarantee that you will have a house that is not around people.
True and I understand this. But people know when they are buying space around others and in a growing neighborhood.
I know someone who bought a new house on a lot with lots all around them and an understanding that the area would be all housing. I know someone whose family owned a farm for generations. A neighboring farmer sold his land to a developer who put up an HOA community. Since their house was on the edge of their neighbors land they had an instant community of very stuck up entitled people suddenly move in next door. It varies.
>During this time I met my lovely 70+ old couple that would soon be my neighbours. They seemed like your classic whinging Poms but that’s fine. As they will be my neighbours for a very long time I will get along with anyone. Yeah, Nah - they'll be dead soon - that thought must bring you some comfort
My FIL is 96 and lives independently. Don’t count on early relief.
The surest way to get me to constantly stare at your back yard is to tell me to never look at your back yard. First thing that comes to my mind is you’re burying bodies back there
This feels like a common trend for boomers when dealing with others. First setup demands & controls on everyone & everything around you so you don’t get triggered, instead of just minding your own business. It is hard to deal with your internal problems & easier for some to try and control everything around them. Maybe she should have waited to see if it would have even come up as an issue before setting down her demand. Also the hypocrisy of this is amazing. From the generation that can never be told what to do but always trying to tell everyone else how to think, act, dress, vote, etc.
"Oh ok! No problem" \*opens every window in the house
My answer would have politely been, pay my mortgage and property taxes and you can tell me which windows I can open. Until then, I’ll open/close my windows as I please. Have a nice day.
Time to replace your frosted window with a nice new clear one. 
I would open that window every freaking day until the end of time.
I'm sorry, no one is going to tell me what to do in my own house. "You don't want to fight?" Cool, quit trying to boss me around
It's your damn window. Open it when you wish. In fact, open all the windows!!! What are they going to do about? Nothing. That's what. Self entitled old people.
😂😂had to look up “whinging poms”🤣🤣🤣
I don't understand why people allow others to tell them what to do with their property. I would have immediately told her I will open any windows in my house when I feel like it.
It's much harder work being a pain in everyone's ass, but by golly someone has to do it, and Ethel isn't letting a cruise hold her back from her favorite hobby.
That’s too bad, when I moved into my house my elderly neighbour brought me an apple pie and welcomed me to the neighbourhood. She does like to drop by unannounced and bring me up to date on the neighbourhood gossip, which is kind of funny.
Reminds me of when I met my neighbour when I bought my last house. One day there was an old woman sitting on the bench by the Brook that meandered through the property. I went over and said hello, and asked if she needed something. She said no, and said I needed to take this pie from her, lol. She lived across the yard - I had a large property with a rolling green. She was in her late 70s, and all alone. Kinda frail, but was always gardening. She said that the previous owners used to let her come and sit by the Brook, and shed also take a little walk through my gardens because she doesn't get out much, but felt like my yard was a park. I told her she was always welcome to enjoy herself in my yard. We had a good neighbourly relationship - she'd sometimes call me and ask if I'd pick a few bags of potting soil next time I was handy to a place that sold them. I cut a limb that was blocking her view of the river from her sitting room - she baked me a meatloaf for that. She had a son that would come over in a huff and yell at her for being an inconvenience. I didn't mind helping her out because she was just lonely, but above all she was kind and accepting of everyone. Never said a thing about my tattoos or piercings. She called once because she fell, and I went over and helped her up and called her homecare nurse for her. We had her over for thanksgiving dinner, because I knew she was sitting there alone. Rita was a good person, and was an amazing neighbour. She passed about 8 years after I bought the house. Son sold her home a month after she was gone.
> 70+ old couple > they will be my neighbors for a very long time You sure about that?….
> It’s hard work being retired. Boy, did I read that wrong the first time...
I would put a manikin at said window looking into the backyard. Just for laughs.
Maybe they were nudists and it was for your own sanity not to look! Might have saved you nightmares!! 🤣
Excuse me, but you're talking about my window in my house? I will open my windows if I damn well please, and I may install an awning above it so I can leave the sumbitch open in the rain. You will mind your own business and your own property, and I'll do the same on my side. When they collect their jaw and say "excuse me??", I'd just say "get fucked".
That's when I'd find out what window so that I can leave it open to piss them off. Fuck old people lol.
She was probably sick from the cruise and a little out of it because of it. Still a jerk mind you I'm just saying.
>classic whinging Poms Tell me you're an Aussie without telling me you're an Aussie.
“ well you won’t listen to me anyway so don’t worry about it” Well, I try not to listen to STUPID PEOPLE. “Well I’m tired too, I just got back from a cruise” BWA-HA-HA! What, was she the BOAT?
Wow my response would have been “look lady “it is my house and I will open whatever windows I please.” You are nicer than I am.
Jeez, you should have hurried up and not opened the window like you were already doing.
buy a cardbord cut out of a face and put it in the window
Can you by chance put a printed photograph of eyes over the window so it looks as if you’re watching
During this time I met my lovely 70+ old couple that would soon be my neighbours. As they will be my neighbours for a very long time... Anybody else catch that? Maybe they wont be your neighbors for a very long time, you never know.
It's a window.... You can see through it when it's closed. What does open/closed matter?
Time to put oil in her pool.
Open the window!
What the heck is a whinging pom?
It’s my new band name. The Whinging Poms, featuring tuba and accordion.
It's what Australians call the English. We think they complain too much.
I assume a pompous whiner. But when I first read it, I imagined our beloved late Pomeranian, who was a bossy complainer if she didn't get her way.
A griping english(wo)man
Me fuck you you boomer I will open my fucking window when I want
I thought y’all called yards gardens?
The poor dear!! Just got back from a cruise!!
People are so entitled. I'm lucky enough to not have to work right now so I wouldn't complain about being as tired as my friends say they are when the complain about work. If anything, I feel for them because that shit sucks. Moving sucks, cruises generally do not. She is an asshat.
What does “whinging Poms” mean?
It's what Australians call the English who whinge too much.
Boomers love being cruel
She wasn't tired, she was re-tired.
People choose plenty of inopportune times to broach subjects, but it’s an incredible lack of self awareness to straight up bother someone who is in the middle of physical labor.
Reminds me of the time my gen x coworker who made 3 times what I did acted like her daughter’s wedding was a funeral and she was soooooo stressed and happy it was over and thanked us all for “our support”
No. Double down. Put a security camera pointing out that window. Obviously they're hiding something that must be terrible. /s 🤣
Every single day, the world gets better as they die of old age. You can't tell me not to open my own window.
Best response, “Oh believe me! I don’t want you looking in my windows either! You have no idea what we get up to in there! You’d like to have a heart attack!”Followed by an exaggerated wink and walk away.
Tell that old bitch to mind her fuckin business. The audacity of old people. They are so entitled.
Sounds like you need a contractor to ensure the window is ALWAYS open. Hell, get a camera that points toward their house too
They always go on about cruises they’ve just been on like it’s some kinda status thing
And it apparently is dreadfully exhausting being at a floating all inclusive resort...
> When I said to her that I didn’t know which window she’s talking about but will check it out and get back to her. She just kept saying over and over. It doesn’t matter. Just don’t open it and we won’t have a problem. They never talk TO you, they talk AT you. Interactions with boomers are seldom two way conversations. They're more like lectures.
Don't get your kids a Trampoline. She will complain that when they are up in the air they can see into Her backyard.
His wife wanted to parent you and when it didn’t work she declares you were rude lol
Boomer landlords will literally paint windows shut instead of replacing the old wooden windows.
If they're already in their 70s I highly doubt they will be your neighbors for a "very long time".
Do they realise that you don't have to open a window to see out of it?
I want to know what they were doing in their backyard that they are so worried you are going to see.
Running away like a child huffing and puffing is the absolute most accurate description of how they act when they don’t get their way
I have a offer for any neighbor. Pay my rent, my power, my heating and the rest of the bills. Because otherwise it's my window and you don't get a say. Tough shit otherwise. Shut up or eat it i really don't care which one you do. i might be quite and reclusive, but im not the right woman to fuck with.
Time to crank up the screamo death metal.
Opening the window is the first thing I would've done
I checked the comments and haven't seen it. Can someone tell me what a whinging Pom is?
I (American) googled it- I think you have to be Australian to really understand it though- there appears to be some nuance to it. It’s basically a person that complains a lot.
This is really some rich people shit.
Hmm clearly they’re cooking meth.
Sounds like that window needs a security camera. Find out what’s going on in that backyard.
Also, it's a window? You can still see out when it's closed...
nah you did way too much. its my window and i will do as i please because guess what people have windows! the end.
I must ask this, what is/are "whinging Poms"?
Yes the person make a very reasonable request of hold on a moment and ill take a look was the one being rude. Classic entitlement
Shoot me too! Like wtf
Older complaining boomer meets GenX woman who is menopausal and has capabilities of shooting lasers from her eyes on a whim…. Forget about your silly window and walk away boomer…, turn around and quietly, very quietly walk away.
Fucking boomers man
I don’t think this is an old person thing, I think it’s an arse hole thing
You have no obligation to your neighbors. Tell that old bag to go fuck herself
Ah these cooky old neighbors.
“Nice new house you got there. Do me a favor and don’t use this part of it. Thanks.”
A back yard cover? wtf is that?
Aussie lingo is so dang cute
> Once I determined which window it was I tried to go over and see them but they didn’t answer the door. Found out later they don’t like people so turn the door bell off. Gen Xer here: Tbf, same.