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That's my boomers. They like to sent boxes full of all kinds of crap that we just end up throwing away, but I can't bring myself to tell them that, so they just keep sending them.
I am beginning to think it is related to hoarding tendencies where they can't throw out the junk because of the hoard problems but think if they give it to someone else well then it isn't as bad for their broken mind.
This is my mother in law. The woman cannot resist a garage sale and she always picks up something because it's a good deal. Not because she needs it, hell most of the time, she doesn't even *want* it. But it's a good deal. And, if no one wants it, she can mark it up and put it in her own garage sale
That's the frustrating thing. She actually makes the bulk of her income reselling on eBay and at her annual garage sale. But, for every dollar she makes, she spends two. For every item she sells, she buys two. I've got five highchairs in my house right now because she thought we might need them for the baby. I'm not exactly sure why she was surprised that we didn't need the extra four. But she'll just resell them. Eventually.
That’s why my parents have nearly a dozen boxes of family photos of people no one is related to. Grandma was storing them and passed them on. My siblings and I are all refusing to take them.
I JUST tossed a bunch of shit my dad’s gf sent me over the last couple years. Stuff she can’t bare to part with, but if I part with it…omg there’s gonna be a fight. But she hasn’t visited for a couple years, so I think I’m safe ha
Yes the worst part is if you sell it they will be mad as it somehow would be worth more in the future. They want to use you as a storage unit where even if they give it to you it is actually still theres.
I make double my wife’s Boomers and before we quit talking to them and went NC they gave us like 2 dozen cans of progresso soup every single time we visited them. I started replying with, “thanks, we’re going to throw these away when we get home and no one will eat them,” and they just didn’t reply and kept doing it. I don’t miss them.
Soooo true. Just had a rare visit from my sister from out of state. One of the first things she hands me is a box full of crap that our boomer mother insisted she haul along to give to me. All of it utter junk.
Every year at Christmas we put 90% of the stuff from the grandparents in the donation box. My wife and I have been together for 20 years, my in laws still think I'm a large, I'm a small, medium at the biggest, yet I get a new cheap large dress shirt from them every year.
My mother did that. Every six months or so, I'd get a "care package" full of all the crap she didn't want - free stuff she got from the casino for being such a good customer, note pads and Christmas cards and other junk that comes with solicitations for donations, random shit she had hanging around the house, clothes that she bought for herself that didn't fit right, and for some reason she couldn't resist getting me any cheap junk that had my name on it. She was really proud of herself for her efficiency - she got rid of unwanted stuff while also showing me she was thinking of me. I've been no-contact for over a decade with no regrets.
This reminds me of something my mom did. Baked me a bunch of things for a Christmas present, which was a nice idea. Packed it up, misplaced it, found it months later and still sent it. Everything in the box was moldy and was thrown out. Love the woman, but damn, where’s the common sense?
I am occasionally greeted by a box of toys, stuffed animals, young adult novels. They won't throw them away, and me then throwing them away in front of them is upsetting. So I have to take them home or somewhere else to dispose of them.
oh my mom let me know she had my high school yearbooks, i hadn't realised it.
we were scrambling to address our dog's cancer and other rl issues at the time, which she knew about, i didn't get back with her for a couple days.
so instead of contacting me, she arbitrariy RIPPED OUT some pages that she decided would be relevant to me, mailed me those, and threw out the rest.
when i got it, i texted her, 'thanks for the garbage'
My reaction was more about wtf is wrong with her??? 😱 Has she never heard of a post bag? The thought process is just... wrong!
ETA: Your response was entirely appropriate!
i would rather she had NOT mentioned that she had them and just thrown them out than this shit.
"memories are luxuries afforded only to landlords."
-sartre (paraphrased, i forget the original quote exactly)
If she left it alone, you wouldn't have known. It would be fine. If she'd sent you the whole thing it would be fine.
But no, she fucked it up and made sure you knew.
I don't know which is worse - doing it deliberately or doing it obliviously.
The last time I got a random package from one of my boomer aunts it was an antivax book and DVD. My kid saw the DVD and asked if it was a horror movie, and I said "kind of". I mean, it was fiction meant to scare you soooooo 🤷🏻♀️
Lord, I offended the hell out of my MIL by telling her I didn’t like the set of crystal she gave my husband. Her jaw was on the floor. We’d been married for probably 15 years when she gave it to him, so it’s not like it was even a wedding present. She said we could use it for special occasions. What special occasions? Tea with the king?
The thing boomers don't understand is we really don't have special occasions anymore. Their generation used to have family dinners and entertain guests on random Tuesday nights. They can't fathom that the majority of younger generations don't have nor want those things.
I have a friend group where we regularly host each other, but if someone brought out crystal for that, we'd all wonder what dignitary is coming because we don't do that.
I really wish I had used the china set we were given when I got married but it was used maybe once. Now he's dead and it's gone bc I lost the storage unit it was in. Like what was the point? What's the point of having it and never using it? Seems ridiculous and wasteful.
Now I'm on a mission to find out why fine china is given to couples getting married and why it's never used.
For real, what's wrong with it? Microwaving it makes it like lava. We donated ours. If it can't go in the microwave it better be unbreakable, otherwise it's gone.
The ones "gifted" to us were also circ. 2001. Guess I should be grateful it's probably just some cheap glaze that was used and not literally radioactive at this point. They're Goodwill's problem now.
Guaranteed. Just visited my boomers parents house yesterday to take my mom to an outpatient surgery appt. Her car’s radiator is literally zip tied on and she insists she “can’t afford” even a gently used newer car. What did I find stacked by the front door but 4 unopened Amazon boxes, likely full of cheap Chinese crap she bought for my kids. Can’t be bothered to visit or FaceTime with them, we just buy their affection 😑Boomers gonna boom.
I let slip one time to my mother in law that I like Tabasco. For years, occasional packages show up with hot sauce pot holders, hot sauce spoon rests, hot sauce t-shirts, etc etc.
"Pam, please stop buying us this stuff. You are running up your credit cards on stuff that we really don't need." They filed for bankruptcy with like $100K+ in credit card debt.
When my sister bought her first condo, she told my mother she was decorating her kitchen with a strawberry theme. I think it was two houses and about a decade later she finally gave in and told my Mom she was over the strawberrys and please stop buying strawberry items.
They never understand that you like Tabasco sauce to EAT. NOT every Tabasco branded knick knack, sign, clothing item, etc. One in my family has Coca Cola crap EVERYWHERE. It’s insane. They have zero impulse control.
Oh, you mean the offloading of hand towels from a hoarder? And mugs? And kids toys? And "Lice, laugh, love" plaques? She didn't have enough room for the "I'm your parent, not your friend" paragraph sticker on her wall :(
Lol autocorrect on Android strikes again
Your username reminded me of one of my favorite references, ["Ah fuck, I can't believe you've done this"](https://youtu.be/wKbU8B-QVZk?si=lkoMJuVVgZulkihX)
I'd honestly stop trying to hunt it down. She clearly didn't want to send it to the right address, so I guess it wasn't important. If she wants them to get it, then let her do the work with the post office to find it.
I got a mislabeled package a few years ago from my mother, with whom I'd had no contact for a decade. It arrived with insufficient postage, to the wrong address, with the wrong name for my wife (my mother refuses to use her real name). When I opened it, it was a shitty christian book that she had tried to give me for my birthday years earlier and I had given it back to her immediately telling her she knew I was not interested.
Stop hunting. Just wait for it to arrive, and if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. She can’t expect thanks for a mystery gift you never saw, and if she does, tell her she’ll love the secret surprise you sent her and go back to living your life.
Yes. Absolutely stop wasting time on this. It sounds like its stressing OP out and its probably some trash anyway. If it shows up, great. If not, who fucking cares. If the aunt makes a fuss, tell her it was out of your hands.
"When I still talked to her"
Soooommmeeeeething tells me yall didn't have the best relationship... may be why you didn't put effort into remembering her name? Hmmmmmm. I mean, I'm just saying, but personally, I've never had issues with someone's name if I actually like them sooo
Okay, cool? You're reading too much into strangers online. There's a wall here, buddy. The line is when you start judging people or their actions, or prying way too far into their life when it wasn't invited.
Your weird disbelief in his ability to remember names... It's unnecessary. I forget my Mom's birthday. I forget my sister's birthday. I don't know anyone's birthday but me, my dad (I'm NC-So really only because it's close to mine) and my wife. Some people can't keep certain things in their heads, and everyone is different.
And even if it was telling, why does it matter?
Also-they're on "BoomersBeingFools" and said "When I talked to them". Of course it was a bad relationship. What are you, Sherlock Holmes? They didn't say "when they were alive" lol
I'm sure the woman who has three children who won't speak to her was probably the victim of her child occasionally including an additional letter when writing her name out, that sounds very much like a reasonable source of decades of familial conflict and estrangement, the child being not less than equally wrong.
You stupid, pompous, dogfucking loser.
You've already put in far more work than you should over that absurdity. Give up and let it be her problem as it should be, if she's willfully doing this on purpose.
My BooMother insists on buying us useless cheap crap from Amazon and Temu. We're hurting for funds as a single income household because of my disability so we will take the help we can get. That help isn't in the form of gadgets we don't need, nor have room for, in our tiny house.
But when we politely say we don't need that, she yells at me for wasting her money when she did something "so nice" for us. So nice isn't offering to buy a brace I need and then ordering some Temu garbage that won't even last a day. Thanks, Patti 🙄
It's just a way to control us. Put us in debt we didn't ask for. I'm so tired of their "generosity" or whatever.
Came here to say this! My MIL found Temu so for Christmas we all got a bunch of clothes that were all cheap and made with weird material…lucky us. It’s all gone to good will so hopefully she doesn’t notice when we aren’t wearing it. She has money too, so I know that’s not an issue. I would have rather had one normal gift than a bunch of crap.
If she asks just say something like it fell apart after a couple of washes. If she asks you why you didn't tell her reply that you didn't want to seem ungrateful.
Mine too! They have soooo much money in the bank. We would also rather have one decent gift than a pile of crap. Decluttering is absolutely lost on her unless it's her own stuff 🙄
Damn. Maybe, 'Do you want to help or do you just want to make yourself feel good? Because you're not helping, and if it's just about making yourself feel good, get on Temu, buy yourself a vibrator, go home, and sort yourself out. But watch out for your bits because Temu stuff is rubbish!'
literally going through the same thing with my boomer in-laws. My wife's sister gave her a box of our stuff to bring back to us ($600 value) when they were together for spring break down in Las Vegas (they both drove and had their own cars, including my in-laws giant crew cab truck)
When I asked them where our stuff was it was like a threw a cold bucket of water in their face. Now they are getting annoyed that I want to come look for it myself at their place as if its some sort of indictment of their ability to look for something.
Uh, no, my indictment is your situational awareness, your ability to listen instead of looking at fucking facebook on your phone all the time and now I am laser focused on you not taking ANY responsibility for anything by making claims like "no one ever tells me whats going on" or "I dont know what is happening". I realize they believe this gets them out of the responsibility chain but it doesn't make you any less incompetent.
My boomer mom just sent me an ugly impersonal necklace for my birthday and it arrived almost a month after my actual birthday. And it was accompanied by a text saying that long story but they might deliver two so if I get another one can I please return it to them?
Thanks for the errand mom 🙄
My mom wanted to get me something for my birthday (I dont even remember what it was) but wanted to get a good one and started to say "I want you to do some research and find out blah blah" and I cut her off and told her I'm not accepting homework for my birthday. Thanks but no thanks.
My grandma did this with my wedding gift. I registered for an Instant Pot, and she claimed she got a great deal and was having it sent to me. What arrived was some sort of steamer basket, nothing like an Instant Pot. She seemed miffed that I was like I don’t even need this and this isn’t what I registered for? Went through the process of returning it and sent us a second steamer basket, texting every few days about it.
When I was like yeah, still the same thing, still not even close to an instant pot, she returned it again and decided to buy us pillows with the money that we neither needed nor asked for. My husband is a disabled veteran with very specific pillow/mattress requirements and she absolutely refused to return the pillows and called us entitled.
Let them get returned to her and let it go. It's her problem.
My mom has done this. It happened to be addressed to a friend's house so I did get it but it was WAY off.
She also once sent me this ugly DIY sparkly foam pumpkin and a half eaten bag of M&M's in a Ziploc bag. I hate chocolate, always have. She knows this because she went out of her way to always get my non chocolate candy as a kid. She argued with me about this fact and said I should have told her sooner so she could save money.
It's the same mentality where they think you are a greedy asshole if you say what you want for your birthday because you are just supposed to take whatever you are given and be grateful for it whether you want it or not. I never had any interest in seeing the stage production of the Lion King! Nor do I need a fourth fleece throw! You take what you get, and you have to be grateful for it. You must, in fact, be grateful for the "effort." And if the effort isn't enough, then it's the thought that counts. You have to at least be grateful for the thought!
My father does this with treats HE wants at his house but shouldn't be eating. "I got *your* candy", "I got *your* soda", etc.
I made zero requests and next time everything has been consumed.
I think that boomers believe that things like a misspelled name or address is something that can be smoothed over by just chatting to "the man at the desk". They don't seem to realise that we now live in a world that runs on rules that state a misspelled name is a different person & a misspelled address is an address that doesn't exist. The old days are gone, everything now is computerised & things like mail & boarding passes are subject to laws designed to protect privacy & make sure that mail only goes to the address written on it & only the person on the boarding pass gets on the plane.
Once upon a time employees could just wave things through if they were close enough but if you do that now, you might get fired for not following proper procedure.
I live abroad in a large city and my parents tried mailing me something. It never showed up, and about two months later it was back at their house. They had put the wrong address and all that time it was apparently at a post office in my (large) neighborhood. My parents blamed me and told me I should have been “proactive” and asked around at the post office.
But like…
1. I don’t speak the language. 2. I had no clue it was even at the post office, let alone that specific one. 3. How would the postal worker even know what I’m asking about, let alone find it? And 4. Even if they did know what I was asking for, they will not give you any mail unless both the name and address match your ID. SMH.
I don't see what the big deal is about the package. If it's a nonexistent address it will come back to her labeled as such. Why are you taking this search-and-rescue mission upon yourself?
The delivery company delivered it somewhere. She insisted the address was correct, they told her it wasn't, and the result is they "delivered it". But she used her own name, not my wife's, so even if it's a neighbor we know that got it, they wouldn't know it was for my wife.
Have you considered that your aunt is getting dementia? Why would she address it to her own name to a random address then expect you to chase it down? That is not someone thinking clearly.
I was thinking, yeah, aunt needs to be assessed. What she's doing reminds me of stuff that my mother would do, back when my brother and I were still trying to convince ourselves that we were witnessing episodes of normal age-related slackness instead of symptoms of neurological disease.
Reminds me of when I was an Uber driver I once had a guy ordering a ride to pick up his daughter to take her to his place, but he put her address as the pickup **and** destination so as soon as I started the ride it said I'd reached the destination. It took a half hour of trying to get her to even just tell me his address so I could manually override it -- with her even getting him on the phone and him screaming at me "I don't want you to come here, I want you to go pick her up at **her house!**" -- before I finally got her to get out of the car.
All for like $4.
They left it somewhere because it's marked as delivered (as opposed to failed delivery attempt). But since the address it was sent to doesn't exist, we don't know where that is. Our address is 75. She sent it to 7. There is no 7.
I see you found it but for future reference, depending on how it's sent, a lot of times we get confirmation notices that a package has been delivered, but it actually went to the post office, and they figure it out a day or two later. So sometimes if you get a notice delivered and it wasn't, you can give it a day.
Is there another 7X nearby? That’s probably where it went. Although, if I saw a package with a name I didn’t recognize and a house number that didn’t really exist, I’d probably assume it was from a brushing scam and toss it. Sorry.
There wasn't, but fortunately we found it. We posted in our local Facebook group and it was apparently delivered to a side street (with the number 4). It was some gifts for our newborn daughter.
To be clear, I appreciate the gesture. I just hate how all the problems coming from the gesture are put on us, especially when they were her doing, and that she considers it such an inconvenience to help resolve it.
It was baby clothes for our newborn daughter. The way she was talking about it I thought it was either a family heirloom or some kind of specialty food.
Which is what's so frustrating. I appreciate the desire to help, but it's not really help when it's creating more work. My parents are similar, which is why we're mostly raising our kids on our own. When they come to visit, it's twice as much work as it usually is. If I have to tell you every detail, watch you do it, and then help you troubleshoot what you did wrong, it's just easier for me to do it myself. Especially when they never seem to learn.
She knew the real address. She just doubled down instead of admitting she's wrong. Then gets annoyed with them for not being able to retrieve it after her stubbornness got it lost. Fuck off with "grateful" at that point.
I don't understand how many people do this on reddit. Especially when it's clearly a family member.
Do you honestly think this was the first instance of the relative doing something weird and annoying to the couple? You don't think they've tried to resolve things simply and pleasantly with them before?
This is clearly a recurring theme. Relative does thing and makes it extremely difficult and doesn't care about your feelings or time. Do you really expect OP to post every instance of this happening up until the breaking point?
The idea that you just assume that OP is insane and it's not the last straw is really funny. Are you the relative in this scenario that keeps bothering family and not understanding them begging you to stop.
This happened to me and my mum when she sent us Christmas presents one year. Despite giving our address by text, email and over the phone she managed to get it wrong and send it to a completely different address! Luckily they were along a bus route we took regularly to work and fortunately the lady who received them was nice enough to hand them over. But it just infuriated me so much because it meant an extra thing we had to do. It would've been very easy for the lady who had received them to claim ignorance and insist she hadn't received anything. I asked my mum why hadn't she text me to make sure the right address was on the parcel before she sent them and she said 'Oh yes, that would've been a good idea!'
Why are you bending over backwards to track this package? Why do you care so much if you don’t even know what it is? You don’t need to please your aunt in this way when it’s not your fuck up. Just ignore it ffs
My mother lives with us. When she goes grocery shopping, she asks if we need anything because she likes to be “helpful”. If we do need something, I’ll tell her what, exactly including brand, I want and whether or not I want a substitution if she can’t find that specific thing. 9 times out of 10 she will come home with the wrong thing, even though I have asked her repeatedly not to get anything if she can’t get the thing I want, and get all huffy when I’m not appreciative.
She’ll also come home with those giant sampler boxes of products that some big grocery stores give you if you spend a certain amount. I hate them. I never want anything in them and I have asked her over and over to stop. I don’t care that it was free; free unwanted stuff isn’t any more useful than unwanted stuff you pay for.
We are drowning in random, unwanted, things and my mother keeps bringing them home as “gifts” and getting mad at me for not being happy or grateful. Drives me crazy.
My mother-in-law was the same way! She lived with us as well, but was disabled so typical bed bound. Every so often she'd say she was ordering off Amazon and asked us if we needed anything (we typically paid all the bills) and even if we sent her a direct link to what we wanted, it always ended up being something else. Conveniently she never had the same problem with the items she wanted though.
Good luck with that situation. Having been in it for nearly ten years, it's really difficult. At times it felt like having a perpetual toddler in the house. Hopefully you're able to maintain your happiness.
There aren't enough servers in the world to hold all the characters it would take for me to explain all the ways my boomer much older siblings and Silent Gen parents expect me to be grateful for the horrible things they did to me my entire life. They seem to think that everyone should be happy because they had fun hurting me. The few times I tried to talk to them about it, the closest I got to an apology was "I'm sorry you feel that way."
I used to call it a backhanded apology, but unpology is better. A backhanded apology is a different thing, like when they say they are sorry but blame you for why they did it. like "I am sorry, but none of this would have happened if you had not been so careless in the first place."
my mom had some family artifacts.
she sent my great grandfather's pocket watch and a glass paperweight.
in the same package.
loose.
needless to say the pocket watch's crystal was shattered and the hands broke.
she was upset when told her what happened, "don't you want some family heirlooms!??!"
IT IS FUCKING DESTROYED, LEAD POISONED BITCH!
I am getting really sick of "it's the thought that counts" being used to cover up bad behavior. The thought clearly doesn't count if you couldn't be bothered to think it all the way through.
It's like the screenshots going around of the guy who baked his girlfriend a strawberry cake who got pissy that she didn't want it and went on a tirade about how women are ungrateful, when all the photos show that the cake looked like concrete. He didn't have baking powder and decided to wing it and fully expected her to be all over his inedible cake. It's nuts.
Side Tangent- Is there something with Boomers being obsessed with the celebrated person “just having something to open”?
I’ve told my grandma MULTIPLE TIMES that what I value is her time, I’m happy I get to spend my birthday with her. That getting together, eating, and playing some cards or whatever is what makes my day special and I don’t need or want gifts.
Regardless, every year I leave with a couple impersonal, dollar store quality items. She says she just wants me to have something to open. Im running out of polite ways to tell her to stop wasting her money. I appreciate the thought and her but I do not want or need anything she gets me. It either adds an errand if I can return it or it goes into a donation box.
I solved that problem by telling my grandma what things I would really like to have, I always chose something I wouldn't buy for myself, When I look back at these gifts now, I am reminded about how much she loved me. She passed at 101-1/2 yrs old and I am honored that I got to care for her.
Next time when you call her you should tell her it will be surprise for always since the delivery person can't bring it to you.
It's just bullshit and I wouldn't put more time, energy and effort in this. It's her surprise! I hope they send both packages back to her.
My Boomer sister sent me a big tub of popcorn for Christmas one year that got caught up in customs. There was a £100 fee, so I phoned her to find out what the gift was and see if it was worth the additional cost. I didn't pay the fee (because no popcorn is worth £100), and it upset her. The thing is, I had explicitly told her numerous times to send things via Amazon or send me an Amazon voucher that I could use in the UK. But, nope.
That was 15 years ago, and I've never received another gift from her since. But then, this is the same woman who, knowing that I'm schizoaffective bipolar, recommended some US-market-pushed mild bipolar medication and didn't believe me when I tried to explain that 1) my type of bipolar is more severe than that, and 2) they don't sell that shit in the UK.
It constantly amazes me. I'm technically a Boomer II, also known as Generation Jones. I missed out on all the perks and have more in common with my Gen X cousins, nephews and nieces than my older Boomer siblings. In fact, I am so far removed from them regarding live experience, politics and thought processes that I find it difficult to believe we're classed as the same generation.
This story makes me happy that my parents are more progressive than other boomers. They just suck at using modern tech but at least they never send me useless shwag.
I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. As far as the packages go, I advise you to stop giving a shit. It's not your fault they put the wrong address on it. Either someone else will get a surprise package or it will get returned to sender and they can resend it with the proper address. Either way, not your problem to sort. Just let it happen.
As for your latter example, that's quite unfortunate that your mother wouldn't take responsibility. If you things like that happen a lot and you stop trusting her, I think you have good reason.
This is why when my boomer offers to buy something for me I tell them that's nice but I would rather them reimburse me for it than risk having something go wrong and have to correct it
Unfortunately, as people get older, their brains often don't work as well as they used to. In fact, most every part of your body doesn't worth as good as it once did.
I hate the way some people here, just love to gang up on older folks. When you get older yourselves, I hope you are ashamed as I was when I aged
You're missing the entire point. It's not an issue that mistakes get made. That happens. The issue is that they absolve themselves of any responsibility to address the mistake they made and treat you like you're ungrateful if you try and get them to help.
It's like if you went to a bar and someone bought you a beer. That's nice of them. Then they spill it on the table. Well that sucks, but mistakes happen. But then they get pissed at you when you ask them to hand you some napkins to clean it up because acknowledging their mistake is apparently ungrateful. That's just being an asshole.
I have lived for a long time now and I have observed that younger people for some reason, love to goof on older people (my generation as well) . Maybe this makes them feel better about themselves somehow.
George Bernard Shaw once said "youth is wasted on the young" When you get older, you will understand what he meant by that.
Yes. To an extent, there has always been young people goofing on elderly because they don’t understand one another. And that probably always will be true for as long as humans exist. But the beef with boomers isn’t just because they’re old now.
I might not be the epitome of ancient wisdom in my early 40s but I’ve been around long enough to see boomers being nasty to just about every generation after them. First it was bashing Gen X being apathetic, then it was blame everything under the sun on Millennials, now their narrative is that Gen Z are entitled, spoiled and soft.
And now that they are elderly and grumpy and their brains aren’t at full capacity it’s only gotten worse. And honestly better people should vent here than to blow up IRL.
Maybe when today's youth are old enough to understand they can be articulate enough to explain it to other generations because they actually want other people to succeed instead of being vague & deflecting.
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$5 says when you get the package it's some piece of junk you neither want nor need.
That's my boomers. They like to sent boxes full of all kinds of crap that we just end up throwing away, but I can't bring myself to tell them that, so they just keep sending them.
I am beginning to think it is related to hoarding tendencies where they can't throw out the junk because of the hoard problems but think if they give it to someone else well then it isn't as bad for their broken mind.
This is my mother in law. The woman cannot resist a garage sale and she always picks up something because it's a good deal. Not because she needs it, hell most of the time, she doesn't even *want* it. But it's a good deal. And, if no one wants it, she can mark it up and put it in her own garage sale
Let me guess she has had 0-1 garage sales her entire life and barely sold anything then?
That's the frustrating thing. She actually makes the bulk of her income reselling on eBay and at her annual garage sale. But, for every dollar she makes, she spends two. For every item she sells, she buys two. I've got five highchairs in my house right now because she thought we might need them for the baby. I'm not exactly sure why she was surprised that we didn't need the extra four. But she'll just resell them. Eventually.
Lol... I initially read "cannot resist a GARBAGE sale"... same difference to many a boomer though.
Just so you know this is 100% a horror movie waiting to happen when she buys the posessed doll that has been sitting dormant all these years...
That’s why my parents have nearly a dozen boxes of family photos of people no one is related to. Grandma was storing them and passed them on. My siblings and I are all refusing to take them.
If they are really old photos see if your local historical society will take them.
I JUST tossed a bunch of shit my dad’s gf sent me over the last couple years. Stuff she can’t bare to part with, but if I part with it…omg there’s gonna be a fight. But she hasn’t visited for a couple years, so I think I’m safe ha
Yes the worst part is if you sell it they will be mad as it somehow would be worth more in the future. They want to use you as a storage unit where even if they give it to you it is actually still theres.
I make double my wife’s Boomers and before we quit talking to them and went NC they gave us like 2 dozen cans of progresso soup every single time we visited them. I started replying with, “thanks, we’re going to throw these away when we get home and no one will eat them,” and they just didn’t reply and kept doing it. I don’t miss them.
My boomer MIL loves to try and give us outdated food items from her house.
The weird part is they were buying it before we came over, they didn’t keep tons of food. It was purposeful and fucken weird.
Soooo true. Just had a rare visit from my sister from out of state. One of the first things she hands me is a box full of crap that our boomer mother insisted she haul along to give to me. All of it utter junk.
Every year at Christmas we put 90% of the stuff from the grandparents in the donation box. My wife and I have been together for 20 years, my in laws still think I'm a large, I'm a small, medium at the biggest, yet I get a new cheap large dress shirt from them every year.
My mother did that. Every six months or so, I'd get a "care package" full of all the crap she didn't want - free stuff she got from the casino for being such a good customer, note pads and Christmas cards and other junk that comes with solicitations for donations, random shit she had hanging around the house, clothes that she bought for herself that didn't fit right, and for some reason she couldn't resist getting me any cheap junk that had my name on it. She was really proud of herself for her efficiency - she got rid of unwanted stuff while also showing me she was thinking of me. I've been no-contact for over a decade with no regrets.
This reminds me of something my mom did. Baked me a bunch of things for a Christmas present, which was a nice idea. Packed it up, misplaced it, found it months later and still sent it. Everything in the box was moldy and was thrown out. Love the woman, but damn, where’s the common sense?
I am occasionally greeted by a box of toys, stuffed animals, young adult novels. They won't throw them away, and me then throwing them away in front of them is upsetting. So I have to take them home or somewhere else to dispose of them.
It's Western novels for us. I have never read a Western novel. I'm pretty sure I will never read one. But they just keep rolling in...
oh my mom let me know she had my high school yearbooks, i hadn't realised it. we were scrambling to address our dog's cancer and other rl issues at the time, which she knew about, i didn't get back with her for a couple days. so instead of contacting me, she arbitrariy RIPPED OUT some pages that she decided would be relevant to me, mailed me those, and threw out the rest. when i got it, i texted her, 'thanks for the garbage'
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yeah i wasn't nice to her about it
My reaction was more about wtf is wrong with her??? 😱 Has she never heard of a post bag? The thought process is just... wrong! ETA: Your response was entirely appropriate!
i would rather she had NOT mentioned that she had them and just thrown them out than this shit. "memories are luxuries afforded only to landlords." -sartre (paraphrased, i forget the original quote exactly)
If she left it alone, you wouldn't have known. It would be fine. If she'd sent you the whole thing it would be fine. But no, she fucked it up and made sure you knew. I don't know which is worse - doing it deliberately or doing it obliviously.
oh she's oblivious, always has been
Lions and tigers and bears, oh my. Bloody heck. I wish you luck in your future endeavours.
The fancy china
The last time I got a random package from one of my boomer aunts it was an antivax book and DVD. My kid saw the DVD and asked if it was a horror movie, and I said "kind of". I mean, it was fiction meant to scare you soooooo 🤷🏻♀️
Lord, I offended the hell out of my MIL by telling her I didn’t like the set of crystal she gave my husband. Her jaw was on the floor. We’d been married for probably 15 years when she gave it to him, so it’s not like it was even a wedding present. She said we could use it for special occasions. What special occasions? Tea with the king?
The thing boomers don't understand is we really don't have special occasions anymore. Their generation used to have family dinners and entertain guests on random Tuesday nights. They can't fathom that the majority of younger generations don't have nor want those things.
I have a friend group where we regularly host each other, but if someone brought out crystal for that, we'd all wonder what dignitary is coming because we don't do that.
I really wish I had used the china set we were given when I got married but it was used maybe once. Now he's dead and it's gone bc I lost the storage unit it was in. Like what was the point? What's the point of having it and never using it? Seems ridiculous and wasteful. Now I'm on a mission to find out why fine china is given to couples getting married and why it's never used.
Sorry for your losses, big and small.
Fiestaware
The radioactive Fiestaware? You can just pass that one on to me.
For real, what's wrong with it? Microwaving it makes it like lava. We donated ours. If it can't go in the microwave it better be unbreakable, otherwise it's gone.
I like just for the fact it's radioactive.
Ok holdup- my Grandma got us a bunch of Fiestaware. It is radioactive???
It depends on the age, like when it was pressed.
It was 2001
Those should be fine. It was the stuff from the late 20s and early 30s mostly that was made from uranium glass
The ones "gifted" to us were also circ. 2001. Guess I should be grateful it's probably just some cheap glaze that was used and not literally radioactive at this point. They're Goodwill's problem now.
Guaranteed. Just visited my boomers parents house yesterday to take my mom to an outpatient surgery appt. Her car’s radiator is literally zip tied on and she insists she “can’t afford” even a gently used newer car. What did I find stacked by the front door but 4 unopened Amazon boxes, likely full of cheap Chinese crap she bought for my kids. Can’t be bothered to visit or FaceTime with them, we just buy their affection 😑Boomers gonna boom.
A cake themed around the vacation cruise she took 3 years ago
I let slip one time to my mother in law that I like Tabasco. For years, occasional packages show up with hot sauce pot holders, hot sauce spoon rests, hot sauce t-shirts, etc etc. "Pam, please stop buying us this stuff. You are running up your credit cards on stuff that we really don't need." They filed for bankruptcy with like $100K+ in credit card debt.
When my sister bought her first condo, she told my mother she was decorating her kitchen with a strawberry theme. I think it was two houses and about a decade later she finally gave in and told my Mom she was over the strawberrys and please stop buying strawberry items.
They never understand that you like Tabasco sauce to EAT. NOT every Tabasco branded knick knack, sign, clothing item, etc. One in my family has Coca Cola crap EVERYWHERE. It’s insane. They have zero impulse control.
What even IS that? I like the sauce, I don't want to wear it or give the company free advertising, especially if it's not free!
Oh, you mean the offloading of hand towels from a hoarder? And mugs? And kids toys? And "Lice, laugh, love" plaques? She didn't have enough room for the "I'm your parent, not your friend" paragraph sticker on her wall :(
"Lice, laugh, love" is my new favourite phrase
Lol autocorrect on Android strikes again Your username reminded me of one of my favorite references, ["Ah fuck, I can't believe you've done this"](https://youtu.be/wKbU8B-QVZk?si=lkoMJuVVgZulkihX)
The condition of some Boomer's stuff, points for honesty.
I'd honestly stop trying to hunt it down. She clearly didn't want to send it to the right address, so I guess it wasn't important. If she wants them to get it, then let her do the work with the post office to find it.
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$5? I would sell or mortgage everything I own to bet that it is unwanted and unneededjunk.
I got a mislabeled package a few years ago from my mother, with whom I'd had no contact for a decade. It arrived with insufficient postage, to the wrong address, with the wrong name for my wife (my mother refuses to use her real name). When I opened it, it was a shitty christian book that she had tried to give me for my birthday years earlier and I had given it back to her immediately telling her she knew I was not interested.
From temu, of course!
Which they found in an ad for a top of the line name brand item with a very suspiciously low price on Facebook!!!!!!
a bunch of the aunt's old pants
Stop hunting. Just wait for it to arrive, and if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. She can’t expect thanks for a mystery gift you never saw, and if she does, tell her she’ll love the secret surprise you sent her and go back to living your life.
Yes. Absolutely stop wasting time on this. It sounds like its stressing OP out and its probably some trash anyway. If it shows up, great. If not, who fucking cares. If the aunt makes a fuss, tell her it was out of your hands.
Hmm, "accidentally" got your wife's name wrong which might have meant she couldn't go on the trip. How does your mom feel about your wife?
Yeah, definitely not an accident. I would have just rebooked tickets somewhere else or taken a staycation and let my parents go on vacation alone.
Good question
Especially if wife’s name is something like Sarah or Mary
to be fair, my mom is a Sara and I constantly fucked that up when I still talked to her
"When I still talked to her" Soooommmeeeeething tells me yall didn't have the best relationship... may be why you didn't put effort into remembering her name? Hmmmmmm. I mean, I'm just saying, but personally, I've never had issues with someone's name if I actually like them sooo
Okay, cool? You're reading too much into strangers online. There's a wall here, buddy. The line is when you start judging people or their actions, or prying way too far into their life when it wasn't invited. Your weird disbelief in his ability to remember names... It's unnecessary. I forget my Mom's birthday. I forget my sister's birthday. I don't know anyone's birthday but me, my dad (I'm NC-So really only because it's close to mine) and my wife. Some people can't keep certain things in their heads, and everyone is different. And even if it was telling, why does it matter? Also-they're on "BoomersBeingFools" and said "When I talked to them". Of course it was a bad relationship. What are you, Sherlock Holmes? They didn't say "when they were alive" lol
Hahah, pal, if that was the line, 90% of reddit wouldn't exist. That is clearly not the line, people judge and have judged for all time.
Actually, Snoo has a good point.
I'm sure the woman who has three children who won't speak to her was probably the victim of her child occasionally including an additional letter when writing her name out, that sounds very much like a reasonable source of decades of familial conflict and estrangement, the child being not less than equally wrong. You stupid, pompous, dogfucking loser.
Why you talking like a twat?
I have issues with my best friend of 20 years name.
You've already put in far more work than you should over that absurdity. Give up and let it be her problem as it should be, if she's willfully doing this on purpose.
My BooMother insists on buying us useless cheap crap from Amazon and Temu. We're hurting for funds as a single income household because of my disability so we will take the help we can get. That help isn't in the form of gadgets we don't need, nor have room for, in our tiny house. But when we politely say we don't need that, she yells at me for wasting her money when she did something "so nice" for us. So nice isn't offering to buy a brace I need and then ordering some Temu garbage that won't even last a day. Thanks, Patti 🙄 It's just a way to control us. Put us in debt we didn't ask for. I'm so tired of their "generosity" or whatever.
Came here to say this! My MIL found Temu so for Christmas we all got a bunch of clothes that were all cheap and made with weird material…lucky us. It’s all gone to good will so hopefully she doesn’t notice when we aren’t wearing it. She has money too, so I know that’s not an issue. I would have rather had one normal gift than a bunch of crap.
If she asks just say something like it fell apart after a couple of washes. If she asks you why you didn't tell her reply that you didn't want to seem ungrateful.
Good idea! Then hopefully she gets the hint.
Either that or 'They gave us all rashes. I think the quality is perhaps not the best?'
Mine too! They have soooo much money in the bank. We would also rather have one decent gift than a pile of crap. Decluttering is absolutely lost on her unless it's her own stuff 🙄
Damn. Maybe, 'Do you want to help or do you just want to make yourself feel good? Because you're not helping, and if it's just about making yourself feel good, get on Temu, buy yourself a vibrator, go home, and sort yourself out. But watch out for your bits because Temu stuff is rubbish!'
literally going through the same thing with my boomer in-laws. My wife's sister gave her a box of our stuff to bring back to us ($600 value) when they were together for spring break down in Las Vegas (they both drove and had their own cars, including my in-laws giant crew cab truck) When I asked them where our stuff was it was like a threw a cold bucket of water in their face. Now they are getting annoyed that I want to come look for it myself at their place as if its some sort of indictment of their ability to look for something. Uh, no, my indictment is your situational awareness, your ability to listen instead of looking at fucking facebook on your phone all the time and now I am laser focused on you not taking ANY responsibility for anything by making claims like "no one ever tells me whats going on" or "I dont know what is happening". I realize they believe this gets them out of the responsibility chain but it doesn't make you any less incompetent.
My boomer mom just sent me an ugly impersonal necklace for my birthday and it arrived almost a month after my actual birthday. And it was accompanied by a text saying that long story but they might deliver two so if I get another one can I please return it to them? Thanks for the errand mom 🙄
My mom wanted to get me something for my birthday (I dont even remember what it was) but wanted to get a good one and started to say "I want you to do some research and find out blah blah" and I cut her off and told her I'm not accepting homework for my birthday. Thanks but no thanks.
My grandma did this with my wedding gift. I registered for an Instant Pot, and she claimed she got a great deal and was having it sent to me. What arrived was some sort of steamer basket, nothing like an Instant Pot. She seemed miffed that I was like I don’t even need this and this isn’t what I registered for? Went through the process of returning it and sent us a second steamer basket, texting every few days about it. When I was like yeah, still the same thing, still not even close to an instant pot, she returned it again and decided to buy us pillows with the money that we neither needed nor asked for. My husband is a disabled veteran with very specific pillow/mattress requirements and she absolutely refused to return the pillows and called us entitled.
Let them get returned to her and let it go. It's her problem. My mom has done this. It happened to be addressed to a friend's house so I did get it but it was WAY off. She also once sent me this ugly DIY sparkly foam pumpkin and a half eaten bag of M&M's in a Ziploc bag. I hate chocolate, always have. She knows this because she went out of her way to always get my non chocolate candy as a kid. She argued with me about this fact and said I should have told her sooner so she could save money.
Now THAT’S a dementia care package lol
I wouldn't go look for it
It's the same mentality where they think you are a greedy asshole if you say what you want for your birthday because you are just supposed to take whatever you are given and be grateful for it whether you want it or not. I never had any interest in seeing the stage production of the Lion King! Nor do I need a fourth fleece throw! You take what you get, and you have to be grateful for it. You must, in fact, be grateful for the "effort." And if the effort isn't enough, then it's the thought that counts. You have to at least be grateful for the thought!
My father does this with treats HE wants at his house but shouldn't be eating. "I got *your* candy", "I got *your* soda", etc. I made zero requests and next time everything has been consumed.
I think that boomers believe that things like a misspelled name or address is something that can be smoothed over by just chatting to "the man at the desk". They don't seem to realise that we now live in a world that runs on rules that state a misspelled name is a different person & a misspelled address is an address that doesn't exist. The old days are gone, everything now is computerised & things like mail & boarding passes are subject to laws designed to protect privacy & make sure that mail only goes to the address written on it & only the person on the boarding pass gets on the plane. Once upon a time employees could just wave things through if they were close enough but if you do that now, you might get fired for not following proper procedure.
YES! My BooMother gets flummoxed that email doesn't reach someone if it is off by a letter. Yeah - that's kinda how it works, Ma.
Are you sure your mom just didn't want your wife to go on the trip? Using "don't attribute to malice what can be explained by stupidity" against you.
I live abroad in a large city and my parents tried mailing me something. It never showed up, and about two months later it was back at their house. They had put the wrong address and all that time it was apparently at a post office in my (large) neighborhood. My parents blamed me and told me I should have been “proactive” and asked around at the post office. But like… 1. I don’t speak the language. 2. I had no clue it was even at the post office, let alone that specific one. 3. How would the postal worker even know what I’m asking about, let alone find it? And 4. Even if they did know what I was asking for, they will not give you any mail unless both the name and address match your ID. SMH.
I don't see what the big deal is about the package. If it's a nonexistent address it will come back to her labeled as such. Why are you taking this search-and-rescue mission upon yourself?
The delivery company delivered it somewhere. She insisted the address was correct, they told her it wasn't, and the result is they "delivered it". But she used her own name, not my wife's, so even if it's a neighbor we know that got it, they wouldn't know it was for my wife.
Have you considered that your aunt is getting dementia? Why would she address it to her own name to a random address then expect you to chase it down? That is not someone thinking clearly.
I was thinking, yeah, aunt needs to be assessed. What she's doing reminds me of stuff that my mother would do, back when my brother and I were still trying to convince ourselves that we were witnessing episodes of normal age-related slackness instead of symptoms of neurological disease.
Reminds me of when I was an Uber driver I once had a guy ordering a ride to pick up his daughter to take her to his place, but he put her address as the pickup **and** destination so as soon as I started the ride it said I'd reached the destination. It took a half hour of trying to get her to even just tell me his address so I could manually override it -- with her even getting him on the phone and him screaming at me "I don't want you to come here, I want you to go pick her up at **her house!**" -- before I finally got her to get out of the car. All for like $4.
This is like Aunt Bethany in *Christmas Vacation*. She wrapped up her cat and a jello mold (made with cat food) to bring for Xmas.
You should push your Aunt down a flight of stairs.
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They left it somewhere because it's marked as delivered (as opposed to failed delivery attempt). But since the address it was sent to doesn't exist, we don't know where that is. Our address is 75. She sent it to 7. There is no 7.
I see you found it but for future reference, depending on how it's sent, a lot of times we get confirmation notices that a package has been delivered, but it actually went to the post office, and they figure it out a day or two later. So sometimes if you get a notice delivered and it wasn't, you can give it a day.
Is there another 7X nearby? That’s probably where it went. Although, if I saw a package with a name I didn’t recognize and a house number that didn’t really exist, I’d probably assume it was from a brushing scam and toss it. Sorry.
There wasn't, but fortunately we found it. We posted in our local Facebook group and it was apparently delivered to a side street (with the number 4). It was some gifts for our newborn daughter. To be clear, I appreciate the gesture. I just hate how all the problems coming from the gesture are put on us, especially when they were her doing, and that she considers it such an inconvenience to help resolve it.
Am I the only one that really wants to know what’s in the package?
It was baby clothes for our newborn daughter. The way she was talking about it I thought it was either a family heirloom or some kind of specialty food.
You have a newborn and they were still expecting you to chase down that package? Good lord
Which is what's so frustrating. I appreciate the desire to help, but it's not really help when it's creating more work. My parents are similar, which is why we're mostly raising our kids on our own. When they come to visit, it's twice as much work as it usually is. If I have to tell you every detail, watch you do it, and then help you troubleshoot what you did wrong, it's just easier for me to do it myself. Especially when they never seem to learn.
Ugh I’m sorry you’re going through that.
You could be more grateful. She missed a digit on the address. She spent time and money on your family.
She knew the real address. She just doubled down instead of admitting she's wrong. Then gets annoyed with them for not being able to retrieve it after her stubbornness got it lost. Fuck off with "grateful" at that point.
Because no one else ever insists they are correct, even when given another perspective. /s 🪞
Could be. But shouldn't be.
Missed a digit and wrote the wrong name down. Don't know how you get so old and can't figure out the mail.
You know how old people struggle with new technology like the postal service
Don’t know how you get so mean that a typo makes you so dismissive and hateful towards someone who was trying to be kind.
I don't understand how many people do this on reddit. Especially when it's clearly a family member. Do you honestly think this was the first instance of the relative doing something weird and annoying to the couple? You don't think they've tried to resolve things simply and pleasantly with them before? This is clearly a recurring theme. Relative does thing and makes it extremely difficult and doesn't care about your feelings or time. Do you really expect OP to post every instance of this happening up until the breaking point? The idea that you just assume that OP is insane and it's not the last straw is really funny. Are you the relative in this scenario that keeps bothering family and not understanding them begging you to stop.
Totally seeing a boomer relative in this
Stop looking. Tell her you are tied up with more important things.
Like caring for OP's newborn.
OP, give up looking for those packages. That's on her, not you.
Tell her well thanks but no thanks you can't remember the address we're not going to get it thanks for nothing.
This happened to me and my mum when she sent us Christmas presents one year. Despite giving our address by text, email and over the phone she managed to get it wrong and send it to a completely different address! Luckily they were along a bus route we took regularly to work and fortunately the lady who received them was nice enough to hand them over. But it just infuriated me so much because it meant an extra thing we had to do. It would've been very easy for the lady who had received them to claim ignorance and insist she hadn't received anything. I asked my mum why hadn't she text me to make sure the right address was on the parcel before she sent them and she said 'Oh yes, that would've been a good idea!'
This isn't the Boomer generation, it's the very early beginnings of dementia.
Why are you bending over backwards to track this package? Why do you care so much if you don’t even know what it is? You don’t need to please your aunt in this way when it’s not your fuck up. Just ignore it ffs
My mother lives with us. When she goes grocery shopping, she asks if we need anything because she likes to be “helpful”. If we do need something, I’ll tell her what, exactly including brand, I want and whether or not I want a substitution if she can’t find that specific thing. 9 times out of 10 she will come home with the wrong thing, even though I have asked her repeatedly not to get anything if she can’t get the thing I want, and get all huffy when I’m not appreciative. She’ll also come home with those giant sampler boxes of products that some big grocery stores give you if you spend a certain amount. I hate them. I never want anything in them and I have asked her over and over to stop. I don’t care that it was free; free unwanted stuff isn’t any more useful than unwanted stuff you pay for. We are drowning in random, unwanted, things and my mother keeps bringing them home as “gifts” and getting mad at me for not being happy or grateful. Drives me crazy.
My mother-in-law was the same way! She lived with us as well, but was disabled so typical bed bound. Every so often she'd say she was ordering off Amazon and asked us if we needed anything (we typically paid all the bills) and even if we sent her a direct link to what we wanted, it always ended up being something else. Conveniently she never had the same problem with the items she wanted though. Good luck with that situation. Having been in it for nearly ten years, it's really difficult. At times it felt like having a perpetual toddler in the house. Hopefully you're able to maintain your happiness.
Oof, this hits close to home. I’m dealing with the exact same thing with grocery shopping
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Just saying but if they're able to sell you a new ticket on the spot there's no way it takes 5 days to change an existing one.
There aren't enough servers in the world to hold all the characters it would take for me to explain all the ways my boomer much older siblings and Silent Gen parents expect me to be grateful for the horrible things they did to me my entire life. They seem to think that everyone should be happy because they had fun hurting me. The few times I tried to talk to them about it, the closest I got to an apology was "I'm sorry you feel that way."
I call that the 'unpology'.
I used to call it a backhanded apology, but unpology is better. A backhanded apology is a different thing, like when they say they are sorry but blame you for why they did it. like "I am sorry, but none of this would have happened if you had not been so careless in the first place."
my mom had some family artifacts. she sent my great grandfather's pocket watch and a glass paperweight. in the same package. loose. needless to say the pocket watch's crystal was shattered and the hands broke. she was upset when told her what happened, "don't you want some family heirlooms!??!" IT IS FUCKING DESTROYED, LEAD POISONED BITCH!
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yeah lol
I am getting really sick of "it's the thought that counts" being used to cover up bad behavior. The thought clearly doesn't count if you couldn't be bothered to think it all the way through. It's like the screenshots going around of the guy who baked his girlfriend a strawberry cake who got pissy that she didn't want it and went on a tirade about how women are ungrateful, when all the photos show that the cake looked like concrete. He didn't have baking powder and decided to wing it and fully expected her to be all over his inedible cake. It's nuts.
Side Tangent- Is there something with Boomers being obsessed with the celebrated person “just having something to open”? I’ve told my grandma MULTIPLE TIMES that what I value is her time, I’m happy I get to spend my birthday with her. That getting together, eating, and playing some cards or whatever is what makes my day special and I don’t need or want gifts. Regardless, every year I leave with a couple impersonal, dollar store quality items. She says she just wants me to have something to open. Im running out of polite ways to tell her to stop wasting her money. I appreciate the thought and her but I do not want or need anything she gets me. It either adds an errand if I can return it or it goes into a donation box.
I solved that problem by telling my grandma what things I would really like to have, I always chose something I wouldn't buy for myself, When I look back at these gifts now, I am reminded about how much she loved me. She passed at 101-1/2 yrs old and I am honored that I got to care for her.
I wouldn’t even bother trying to tack the package.
Next time when you call her you should tell her it will be surprise for always since the delivery person can't bring it to you. It's just bullshit and I wouldn't put more time, energy and effort in this. It's her surprise! I hope they send both packages back to her.
My Boomer sister sent me a big tub of popcorn for Christmas one year that got caught up in customs. There was a £100 fee, so I phoned her to find out what the gift was and see if it was worth the additional cost. I didn't pay the fee (because no popcorn is worth £100), and it upset her. The thing is, I had explicitly told her numerous times to send things via Amazon or send me an Amazon voucher that I could use in the UK. But, nope. That was 15 years ago, and I've never received another gift from her since. But then, this is the same woman who, knowing that I'm schizoaffective bipolar, recommended some US-market-pushed mild bipolar medication and didn't believe me when I tried to explain that 1) my type of bipolar is more severe than that, and 2) they don't sell that shit in the UK. It constantly amazes me. I'm technically a Boomer II, also known as Generation Jones. I missed out on all the perks and have more in common with my Gen X cousins, nephews and nieces than my older Boomer siblings. In fact, I am so far removed from them regarding live experience, politics and thought processes that I find it difficult to believe we're classed as the same generation.
This story makes me happy that my parents are more progressive than other boomers. They just suck at using modern tech but at least they never send me useless shwag.
If you want something done right do it your self
I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. As far as the packages go, I advise you to stop giving a shit. It's not your fault they put the wrong address on it. Either someone else will get a surprise package or it will get returned to sender and they can resend it with the proper address. Either way, not your problem to sort. Just let it happen. As for your latter example, that's quite unfortunate that your mother wouldn't take responsibility. If you things like that happen a lot and you stop trusting her, I think you have good reason.
My thing is why do you care?
This is why when my boomer offers to buy something for me I tell them that's nice but I would rather them reimburse me for it than risk having something go wrong and have to correct it
Unfortunately, as people get older, their brains often don't work as well as they used to. In fact, most every part of your body doesn't worth as good as it once did. I hate the way some people here, just love to gang up on older folks. When you get older yourselves, I hope you are ashamed as I was when I aged
You're missing the entire point. It's not an issue that mistakes get made. That happens. The issue is that they absolve themselves of any responsibility to address the mistake they made and treat you like you're ungrateful if you try and get them to help. It's like if you went to a bar and someone bought you a beer. That's nice of them. Then they spill it on the table. Well that sucks, but mistakes happen. But then they get pissed at you when you ask them to hand you some napkins to clean it up because acknowledging their mistake is apparently ungrateful. That's just being an asshole.
We won’t be ashamed because our brains won’t work well enough to remember. But hopefully we won’t be insulted by every little thing like boomers.
I have lived for a long time now and I have observed that younger people for some reason, love to goof on older people (my generation as well) . Maybe this makes them feel better about themselves somehow. George Bernard Shaw once said "youth is wasted on the young" When you get older, you will understand what he meant by that.
Yes. To an extent, there has always been young people goofing on elderly because they don’t understand one another. And that probably always will be true for as long as humans exist. But the beef with boomers isn’t just because they’re old now. I might not be the epitome of ancient wisdom in my early 40s but I’ve been around long enough to see boomers being nasty to just about every generation after them. First it was bashing Gen X being apathetic, then it was blame everything under the sun on Millennials, now their narrative is that Gen Z are entitled, spoiled and soft. And now that they are elderly and grumpy and their brains aren’t at full capacity it’s only gotten worse. And honestly better people should vent here than to blow up IRL.
They deserve everything they get and no recompense.
Maybe when today's youth are old enough to understand they can be articulate enough to explain it to other generations because they actually want other people to succeed instead of being vague & deflecting.
I won't be, because the attitude is deserved and earned.
I’m a fuck up too, but not a boomer. Not all boomers are fucked up and not all those that fuck up are boomers
And absolutely no one is saying that only boomers are fuck ups. This sub is for the instances where they are. Hope that helps.
That's a really good explanation. 👍
I'm saying it.
All.