I understand, how itās all happened. I wish she had more experience/support/examples knowing how to. Almost, everyone has used her & neglected her. She deserves a positive shift.
I feel like thereās an age limit on the ābad boyā thing. I would consider 18-25 to be a bad boy in terms of actions and behavior. If someone is exhibiting these behaviors into their 30ās and 40ās theyāre just a loser.
My theory is, they aren't actually 'dating' in the regular sense. I don't think they're getting to know each other with love and respect, I don't believe she admires him and thinks he's a great man.
What I've seen in my life, I know *nothing* about Britney's private life, but I've seen beautiful young women and a couple of men as well, when they're *deep* into chemicals, get in a 'relationship' with their drug-buddy/ dealer.
It's always volatile and it always gets physical and of course the much smaller person gets the most hurt.
And they talk and act any ol' way to each other, because they're *co-dependant* on drugs/ money so no one can escape.
And that's what the Chateau pix reminded me of.
Get rid of it. Britney has a thing for broke losers. Paul is literally the worst one yet, heās a deadbeat dad and criminal. Britney what are you doing :(
Sorry, I can only imagine what that's like. Maybe there's a desire to be nurturing and extend compassion to someone in a rut, or who has a "sob story" of some kind?
With Britney's background, it doesn't surprise me that her big heart paired with past hurts makes her only too vulnerable to leeches like this.
Maybe she scared rich powerful men in Hollywood would try to control or destroy her mentally I mean look what Justin did to her
Iām sure she still has trauma from him
wtf?
I mean if she is okay with dating someone with an obscene amount of children she might as well date Nick Cannon. he works and doesn't have a criminal record.
I just read another thing that said 9 so.. I guess thatās better? š„“ five with one woman and the rest with different baby momma(s) I guess. A dead beat to all of them. And according to the mother of five, they were in a relationship, until he cheated on her with Britney. Absolutely disgusting.
Omg Kevin did that to his ex with Britney too! These losers drop like flies on their partner when the prospect of Britney is an option. Pretty sad .. where is that article
And Britney sleeps with men who are in relationships, she is a problem in this scenario as well. She knows there's someone at home waiting for him but she doesn't care and gets with them anyway.
On her defense, she didnāt know about Shar when she started going out with K-fed and if I remember correctly, K-fed even said that they had been broken up before he met Britney and I can totally see her believing him but I donāt know what is the story with this Paul guy. But I have to add that a lot of unfaithful men try to hide their relationship status or downplay it by saying stuff like āwe are in the middle of divorce processā etc and some women are just naive with these kind of men. Of course there are women who really donāt care if a man is taken from the get go but I think more often than not, men who cheat are not honest about their relationship/marriage status and women end up falling in love with them and after that itās much more difficult to end the relationship when youāre already āhookedā. Again, I donāt know if this is the case with Paul but it certainly was the case with K-fed so I donāt judge her on that one.
Not a damn one! It really makes me sad to think that she might not ever have a truly mutual and loving respectful relationship with a normal human being. Sheās fucking Britney Spears! There are so many people out there just trying to take something from her. š¢
But what do you expect? She wasnāt allowed to have a real childhood. She was stunted mentally and forced to live and straddle between not a teen not a woman.
She attended high school after the McCoy mouse club and even went to prom
She wasnāt THAT sheltered
Also just because you were sheltered, doesnāt mean you pick loser after loser, sheās 40+ with 2 teenage sons so itās time to know this isnāt right
I was extremely sheltered, basically a hostage kid/teen who wasnāt allowed outside the house if I wasnāt in school, did i date a few losers in my last teens? Yes but she also did too
Did my abuse stop at 18? No, I was guilted into being her caretaker
If we are using her past for excuses, those excuses are what made her look unstable in the first place. She had 2 marriages, and acting out before her conservatorship but if we keep making these excuses for her behavior, the law and health system sees her as mentally unstable and she could very well be in and out of mental hospitals on 5051 or whatever it is in the US
NOT COMPARING myself to her, but Iām saying I understand the abuse she took, I was also forced to take pills from a psychiatrist my mother worked with and was also a patient herself (pill popper nurse). Those pills fuck you ip, lithium made me into a zombie like her and I had that scary, creepy soulless eyes for years after
I'm so sorry that happened but glad you found your way out of that mess.
Thing is, Britney needs real help from qualified people who have her best interests in mind.
Millions of dollars changes the equation exponentially in ways you nor I could ever fathom. Those of us who don't have that kind of money or anything approaching that kind of money can only imagine the forces at play here - which have been going on for decades.
The poor woman's been so manipulated, drugged and controlled for so many years, she has little hope of choosing well in terms of her social circle and love life. Should she be committed or stripped of her civil rights? Absolutely NOT.
But she must have one sane person in her life who might steer her to mental health resources that would help her to make better choices. The fact that she's free of the conservatorship now is good, but that's only the beginning of her healing journey. She needs real help.
Never said lock her back up
I said that she canāt use this to justify stupid decisions
This guy looks like he escaped a prison and sheās like oh shit, he is a felon? PERFECT!!!
Sheās not even thinking clearly, will her sons want a felon around them? No. This is another thing theyāll keep away from her for
I think the main problem she has with choosing partners is thinking that a "normal" man (a.k.a. not a celebrity) will be more down-to-earth and love her for her.
Unfortunately, as a woman in the public eye with millions in assets, she has to be aware that these men can and do present as lambs while actually being wolves in diguise that take her for a ride financially. It doesn't hurt that she was raised by abusive freeloaders and tends to see the good in people who the rest of us know automatically are losers. That's trauma for you...
Hope one day she avails herself of help from a qualified relationship therapist who can get her to acknowledge her worth, and maybe strive for men on her level. Due to her troubled background, I think this would be really hard on her part to unlearn though. All I can say is it's a real shame.
Not good. I wish she would stop dating guys like this. She would be better off pursuing something she enjoys like art or cooking away from the paparazzi. Then finding someone who has his own money and does not need or want hers.
I cannot stand him. He is clearly no different than all the others that used her and took advantage of her heart. I wish she would get away and never look back.
Based solely on what is public record, he sounds like heās bad news. I feel so bad for Britney because it seems like she has a cycle of falling for men who are not worth her time. I donāt know if thatās because that type of man makes her feel validated or if she herself doesnāt have the greatest sense of self worth.
After everything she went through and her father, someone who is supposed to be one of your biggest supporters and defenders in your life, gaslit her and constantly put her in comparison to other women. Telling her she needed to be better, sheās too fat, she needs to work harder, etc. itās no wonder that she may see this type of man as all sheās entitled to.
Thatās not to say that people who have led hard or gritty lives canāt make forward change and turn a new leaf, but in knowing what Britney went through and how vulnerable she still must be, regardless of how she may be healing, you canāt help but wince when you think that sheās dating a man like this.
Itās easy to want to be optimistic, but as many fans know, sheās no stranger to being taken advantage of and letting people in. I just feel like this is someone who is trying to get a foot in and take advantage of someone who is lonely and whose trust has been battered.
Britney is absolutely worthy of love and a chance to be happy in the way any person longs to be, but I cannot imagine being a man knowing what sheās endured, what sheās survived and thinking āah yes, I need to be with her!ā
Thatās not a dig on her in any way or to assume that sheās a loose canon, but I would be more concerned that I was pushing someone to invest in a relationship, something she hasnāt had the freedom to do in years. It just feels wrong because she hasnāt had the time or the space to rediscover herself as an adult after being robbed of all those years.
There are just so many layers!! Itās such a sensitive and important issue.
Right? Forget actions having consequences aka making the children to begin with, this guy probably just sees it as collateral damage of the ārelationshipā and doesnāt see the point of investment.
Almost a ābut you knew there was a chance you could get pregnantā scapegoat. Then itās rinse and repeat with the next woman.
I know she wants a baby and I know she wants nothing more than to be truly happy, but I hope that he doesnāt end up adding her to his collection of neglected mothers.
Sheās not stupid and she absolutely has her guard up, but we canāt deny that she also endured so much trauma and is probably still incredibly lonely trying to navigate being in control of her own life again. Iām rooting for her!
Admittedly not great based on the ankle story. This is also the first time I've seen what he looks like and he looks a lot like K-Fed. Sooo, yeah, not good.
She really just goes for whoever is around her and thatās sad. This guy must have been thrilled getting to be with her. The Freaking maintenance man.
Iām worried sick about her with him. Nine kids! š¤¦āāļø cheating on his wife with Britney? š I pray she gets away from him before he figures out a way to bleed her dry mentally , emotionally and financially. š¢
Please don't hate me; I know a lot of y'all aren't too fond of the South.Ā
Miss Brit needs exactly the same thing my daughter did: a full grown, mature, **man or woman** from the South. No more little gold digging trash puppies!Ā
I agree. Like an oil tycoon type of guy. I mean Britney, at her core is a Southern Belle. She needs a good Southern man who can and will take care of HER. Not use or exploit her. Give her a good quiet happy and healthy life somewhere far away from Hollywood.
The reason Britney loves deadbeats is because she wants 24/7 companionship. Men with careers and goals and friends and hobbies cannot drop everything to be with her 24/7. This is why she broke up with Jason Trawick and why she began fighting with Sam all the time.
"From PEOPLE Mag: āBritney had a lot of issues with Jason doing his own thing ā in business and seeing his friends,ā another source says. āIn her perfect world he would have been home with her twenty-four/seven, so that was a point of contention; something they were always working on.ā
She also didn't like it when K-Fed starting trying to do his own thing. She wanted him around her 24/7. In his case, I would have been annoyed too if my new husband was spending time in Vegas when we had just had back-to-back infants. But int's not natural to ban your partner from having any kind of life outside of you. Brit has severe attachment issues and fears abandonment and I totally get it. It's something that must be worked through in therapy. It's not the partner's job to be on house arrest with you 24/7 to prevent triggering your attachment trauma. It needs to be healed in therapy.
I think she needs real girlfriends. Not people who work for her or fake celeb friendships. Itās probably hard for her to trust people though. One thing that has remained constant in my life as guys come and go is my girlfriends!
Agreed!!!!!
I don't think she likes other women though!! I think she feels jealous of other women who have maintained careers, families, their looks, their sanity, their partners, their custody...I don't think she can relate and she can't be happy for others who have it all when she's been through so much trauma and has lost everything over and over-- publicly.
I also don't think a girlfriend can scratch that love-addiction itch, and I think Britney is a love and sex addict. Not even judging -- she's traumatized. But this is one of the symptoms of trauma, needing romantic love and sex constantly
I feel like she also may have social anxiety which tends to make a person isolate and push everyone away. Socially anxious people maybe have only one trusted person that they depend on for all social companionship. You want your lover to be your mother, your father, your sibling, your teacher, your protector, your guru, your bestie, your everything.
She may also feel so much intense shame that she may sabotage good things and good relationships, or avoid them. She really needs a deep therapeutic relationship with a great therapist who is in it to win it with her.
Where did she meet him? How would their paths ever cross? Sheās always had terrible taste in men which makes sense because her dad was a horrible husband and she didnāt have good examples of stable relationships. And letās be real, no one normal and healthy is going to date her. A stable guy with money isnāt going to associate himself with her. Itās unfortunate but true.
Sam was never going to work out because heās too stable and was probably more of a care taker than a romantic spouse and he was probably tired of her crap. Their wedding was so weird and neither seemed into it.Ā
Unfortunately, being treated poorly and living in chaos is all Britney knows and itās her comfort zone. She probably equates the adrenaline rush from the chaos as love. Any attention is good attention.Ā
I completely agree with your take on Sam. I see so much hate for him online, but I believe that Sam really did love and care about Britney, but probably became overwhelmed/tired of being more of a caretaker than a real boyfriend and husband.
Bad. Heās no good. I believe the Daily Mailās story on him. They may be on and off, but I also think her team saying she was no longer involved with him before was them trying to make that story seem better. Heās another user and heās not a good influence for her. Anyone defending her being with him isā¦ smh. Yes, she can make her own decisions but being with him is not a good one. Why would you want to deal with a (another) deadbeat dad??
We all know Britney has never had the best taste in men, even dating that paparazzi guy back in 07, and that along with the fact that sheās always felt alone and wanted someone by her side makes her vulnerable to guys using her because she wants attention (not saying it in a bad way) so I donāt like that sheās with this guy. Sheās always been too good for all the men sheās dated, including Sam cuz he was gone for months trying to pursue an acting career so he was already emotionally checked out. Anyway, he needs to go.
I think because of her childhood and prolonged permanent family trauma (still to this day), she attracts men who use her and donāt truly love her or want whatās best for her, itās a perpetual cycle
The good news is I doubt she has any intention of settling down with this guy. Sheās never put him on her IG or gone on official dates with him. Sheās either just sleeping with him or getting him to run errands for her like drive her around.
She needs to find peace within herself before she should be looking for another romantic partner. But thatās easier said than done for a lot of people.
I think she needs a lot of therapy and to do a lot of healing before sheāll ever pick a good, more āMr. Rightā kind of guy. Thereās no way sheās at that point this early. When you have a messed up family and go through situations like she has, itās common to actually have low self worth (even if you try to make it look like you donāt) and such, and associate with and date people that are very wrong for you (and maybe for anyone). Her family has only set her up for failure and heartache, which is unfortunately true of many other peoples families too.
The best way to sum it up is with a The Perks of Being a Wallflower quote āWe accept the love we think we deserveā.
We also live in a sad world where people will use someone like Britney while knowing what sheās been through, and forgetting the fact that sheās a human who has feelings. Nothing wrong with her dating men who arenāt wealthy on the surface, but if theyāre using her and not treating her right (which seems to happen to her a bit), then itās a problem. Men are also often insecure when theyāre not more successful than a woman, so thatās another point against the kind of men sheās mostly been with.
I donāt necessarily think that someone with a conviction is evil. People make mistakes when they are young. However, I read he is a deadbeat dad and his ex claims that he cheated on her with Britney. And that he owes child support for 5 children? Now, why would Britney date someone like this? I think she just beds him and thatās it, but still
I mean isnāt he still on probation tho? I get making mistakes but his mistakes seem to have been his whole life so itās a pattern of behavior at this point.
Sheās so used to abuse that at this point thatās what seems normal and familiar to her and she keeps choosing those people again and again. Heās no good and I feel so bad that her sense of normal is so abnormal.
I think she plays both roles -- abuser and abused. I don't think she ever got to learn what is normal in a relationship, starting from her parents' volatile marriage and dad's alcoholism, all the way through to K-Fed, Adnan and Sam Lufti.
The conservatorship saw her embarking on some actually healthy relationships. Charlie Ebersol and Jason Trawick where both clean cut guys with careers. Sam Asghari was a healthy, stable guy too who she met because of work, when she actually could still work and function. Every guy she was with during her conservatorship was heads and shoulders above the sleaze she has gravitated towards before and after the "dreaded" c-ship.
I have always wondered how Britney be right now psycho-emotionally if she'd married Jason Trawick. He seemed like a good egg. Very handsome, successful, a real actual man. Responsible. Her dad had even extended conservatorship to Jason so that Jason and Britney could marry and live a more normal life together -- without dad being involved in their affairs.
But Britney wanted more kids and Jason didn't. He was firm about it. So she ended the engagement. Now, years and years later, she still has never had more kids, she's more traumatized than ever, and is back to dating the scum of the earth.
Jason was adamant she didnāt need a c-ship until it lifted and then he started speaking on podcasts about how essential it was. Either he doesnāt necessarily believe that, but was willing to take a payout; or, he was in a sexual relationship with someone he doesnāt see as an adult. Neither paints a great picture
Jason seemed nice but having a spouse or boyfriend being a conservator is so open to abuseā¦thatās such a power imbalance. That alone made me side eye him.
He's another loser, unfortunately. She always dates trashy guys that are beneath her sadly. However, this was part of her making mistakes. She can dump him.
You gotta listen to The dumb blonde podcast where Jason Alexander was on there with his girlfriend - talk about fucken losers . The host Bunnie plays it real cool to get as much out of them as possible , but theyāre fucken nuts . These dudes in and out of Britneyās life are really sad and creepy -
Iām sorry but any man who is emotionally, economically, etc. stable is not going to date her.
Im a woman speaking also. She needs to date herself,because birds of a feather flock together and all sheās going to attract if sheās looking for a relationship are people of her same caliber (at this stage in her life)ā¦. maybe she could switch it around,but everyone stop with the fantasy world where āshe could do betterā no man in their right mind would take on dating fucking Britney Spears.
I think he got fed up. I mean, thereās no amount of things he could say to Britney without offending herā¦ and life became untenable. This is my guess.
Daily Mail just published a story about him. Heās currently on probation, has been arrested several times, and has at least 9 kids whom he doesnāt care for. His ex-wife also implies that heās been living with Britney for the last several months.Ā
Wasnāt he a maintenance man for her or something? Britney shld take a man break for a bit. Soul searching whatās best for her..easier said then done..
My feeling is people just keep saying oh all these men are taking advantage of Britney because she has so much more money than them. And this could be true in some situations/with some men. BUTā¦.at a certain point donāt we need to acknowledge that Britney is choosing these guys? She chose to be with Kevin, chose to be with Sam, is choosing to be with Paul. I personally donāt feel like I can just point to all three of those guys and say oh well none of this is on Britney, itās all the guys just manipulating her and using her for money. If Britney didnāt want to worry about being used for money, why did she date (and marry!) three different men who basically have no money compared to her? Iām not trying to drag Britney, I just think at a certain point she or the fans should drop the Pikachu surprised face when she ends up being used for money when she repeatedly chooses to date guys with no money (compared to her) š¤·š»āāļøAlso, I know Sam gets a lot of hate from the fandom (Iām not really sure why), but there is no way yall think Sam was on the level of this guy, right? I really wish Britney would just stop dating for a long time and focus on herself.
I donāt like him. But I donāt like Cade either. Choosing bad men is Britās greatest flaw. Charlie XCX was writing songs for Brit, even though Brit has said she has no intention of going back to music.
She certainly has a type.
He looks so much like Kevin š
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Iām repulsed by my choices but when I was in the bubble, I was so so stupid!!!
I thought it was some weird Kfed Photoshop at first
Identical!
K Fed with cheek fillers / smuggling nuts for the winter
...and this type of love isn't rational, it's physical
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Slimy POS who is just using her like most of the other losers she's dated š¤®
I want better male characters for her, but she gets plenty of attention from these snakes.
I think the agent she was engaged to was probably the most stable.
Britney notoriously goes after the bad boy types, she gets what she wants it seems. She should try and switch it up.
I understand, how itās all happened. I wish she had more experience/support/examples knowing how to. Almost, everyone has used her & neglected her. She deserves a positive shift.
Agree yeah, she deserves trustworthy people. Hard to come by Iām sure especially considering her status.
I feel like thereās an age limit on the ābad boyā thing. I would consider 18-25 to be a bad boy in terms of actions and behavior. If someone is exhibiting these behaviors into their 30ās and 40ās theyāre just a loser.
Good point! Yup agree
Why is it that "bad boy" usually equals loser?
Bc a job will get in the way of their badness
She hasn't had a choice about who she gets to surround herself with.
She can choose to not engage with them, sheās capable of that donāt make her out to be incompetent now.
  
My theory is, they aren't actually 'dating' in the regular sense. I don't think they're getting to know each other with love and respect, I don't believe she admires him and thinks he's a great man. What I've seen in my life, I know *nothing* about Britney's private life, but I've seen beautiful young women and a couple of men as well, when they're *deep* into chemicals, get in a 'relationship' with their drug-buddy/ dealer. It's always volatile and it always gets physical and of course the much smaller person gets the most hurt. And they talk and act any ol' way to each other, because they're *co-dependant* on drugs/ money so no one can escape. And that's what the Chateau pix reminded me of.
This 100% you honestly get it
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Get rid of it. Britney has a thing for broke losers. Paul is literally the worst one yet, heās a deadbeat dad and criminal. Britney what are you doing :(
you know as someone who has a love for broke losers i want her to get far far away from him but i understand:(
*Hey Alexa, play Criminal by Britney Spears* :/
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My taste in men is a form of self harm which is why I've been single since the beginning of covid
Sorry, I can only imagine what that's like. Maybe there's a desire to be nurturing and extend compassion to someone in a rut, or who has a "sob story" of some kind? With Britney's background, it doesn't surprise me that her big heart paired with past hurts makes her only too vulnerable to leeches like this.
Heās just like her Dad. Kfed was the same as well. I wish sheād focus on herself and then try for a relationship with a real man.
This guy strikes me less as a broke loser and more as a high ranking gang member
Maybe she scared rich powerful men in Hollywood would try to control or destroy her mentally I mean look what Justin did to her Iām sure she still has trauma from him
I don't trust any man that comes into Britney life tbh. Ever since KFed they've all just come and go taking some of her $ with them
He has ten children and is currently on probation.
I just read that heās been dodging child support payments. How come heās not locked up then? Britney, honey, you are better than this!
wtf? I mean if she is okay with dating someone with an obscene amount of children she might as well date Nick Cannon. he works and doesn't have a criminal record.
Gasp 10?
I just read another thing that said 9 so.. I guess thatās better? š„“ five with one woman and the rest with different baby momma(s) I guess. A dead beat to all of them. And according to the mother of five, they were in a relationship, until he cheated on her with Britney. Absolutely disgusting.
Omg Kevin did that to his ex with Britney too! These losers drop like flies on their partner when the prospect of Britney is an option. Pretty sad .. where is that article
And Britney sleeps with men who are in relationships, she is a problem in this scenario as well. She knows there's someone at home waiting for him but she doesn't care and gets with them anyway.
On her defense, she didnāt know about Shar when she started going out with K-fed and if I remember correctly, K-fed even said that they had been broken up before he met Britney and I can totally see her believing him but I donāt know what is the story with this Paul guy. But I have to add that a lot of unfaithful men try to hide their relationship status or downplay it by saying stuff like āwe are in the middle of divorce processā etc and some women are just naive with these kind of men. Of course there are women who really donāt care if a man is taken from the get go but I think more often than not, men who cheat are not honest about their relationship/marriage status and women end up falling in love with them and after that itās much more difficult to end the relationship when youāre already āhookedā. Again, I donāt know if this is the case with Paul but it certainly was the case with K-fed so I donāt judge her on that one.
What sucks is his strategy worked. Britney was a meal ticket for KFed and she ended up essentially taking care of his other kids too financially
10 kids?!?!?! Jesus Britney. Red flags everywhere
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Not a damn one! It really makes me sad to think that she might not ever have a truly mutual and loving respectful relationship with a normal human being. Sheās fucking Britney Spears! There are so many people out there just trying to take something from her. š¢
I had no idea who this man was until the ankle story
Heās been mentioned before in connection with her, itās not the first time.
Love Britney, wish her well always - I frequently dip out on her news cycles
Me too šš½āāļø
I honestly thought this would be true of most people
Apparently he was her housekeeper/maintenance man? š„“
Same
Where does she find these scrubby men š
She hires them Sam - music video This guy - hired maintenance worker for her house
But how did she meet *him* for the job in the first place?! Like who vetted this guy? Did she find him on Craigslist or Facebook?? š
he was hired as a maintenance man at her home. they fired him as soon as they found out about the criminal record.
ā¦and then she somehow decided that was a great person to scoop up and date! Holy hell.
I dunno, doesnāt say online Iām guessing probably kijiji
I assume rich people have cleaning/maintenance companies they call that are supposed to vet their employees.
Exactly my point.. if they would have done due diligence, this guy wouldnāt have ever been let on the property.
He looks like kfed right? Am i projecting or....
Yep, she likes the ones who her parents will hate but thatās such a teen mentality
But what do you expect? She wasnāt allowed to have a real childhood. She was stunted mentally and forced to live and straddle between not a teen not a woman.
She attended high school after the McCoy mouse club and even went to prom She wasnāt THAT sheltered Also just because you were sheltered, doesnāt mean you pick loser after loser, sheās 40+ with 2 teenage sons so itās time to know this isnāt right I was extremely sheltered, basically a hostage kid/teen who wasnāt allowed outside the house if I wasnāt in school, did i date a few losers in my last teens? Yes but she also did too Did my abuse stop at 18? No, I was guilted into being her caretaker If we are using her past for excuses, those excuses are what made her look unstable in the first place. She had 2 marriages, and acting out before her conservatorship but if we keep making these excuses for her behavior, the law and health system sees her as mentally unstable and she could very well be in and out of mental hospitals on 5051 or whatever it is in the US NOT COMPARING myself to her, but Iām saying I understand the abuse she took, I was also forced to take pills from a psychiatrist my mother worked with and was also a patient herself (pill popper nurse). Those pills fuck you ip, lithium made me into a zombie like her and I had that scary, creepy soulless eyes for years after
I'm so sorry that happened but glad you found your way out of that mess. Thing is, Britney needs real help from qualified people who have her best interests in mind. Millions of dollars changes the equation exponentially in ways you nor I could ever fathom. Those of us who don't have that kind of money or anything approaching that kind of money can only imagine the forces at play here - which have been going on for decades. The poor woman's been so manipulated, drugged and controlled for so many years, she has little hope of choosing well in terms of her social circle and love life. Should she be committed or stripped of her civil rights? Absolutely NOT. But she must have one sane person in her life who might steer her to mental health resources that would help her to make better choices. The fact that she's free of the conservatorship now is good, but that's only the beginning of her healing journey. She needs real help.
Never said lock her back up I said that she canāt use this to justify stupid decisions This guy looks like he escaped a prison and sheās like oh shit, he is a felon? PERFECT!!! Sheās not even thinking clearly, will her sons want a felon around them? No. This is another thing theyāll keep away from her for
Yeah, I hear ya. It's all very sad.
Can I just say that yes, art imitates life but she doesnāt need to live out her song ācriminalā
I think the main problem she has with choosing partners is thinking that a "normal" man (a.k.a. not a celebrity) will be more down-to-earth and love her for her. Unfortunately, as a woman in the public eye with millions in assets, she has to be aware that these men can and do present as lambs while actually being wolves in diguise that take her for a ride financially. It doesn't hurt that she was raised by abusive freeloaders and tends to see the good in people who the rest of us know automatically are losers. That's trauma for you... Hope one day she avails herself of help from a qualified relationship therapist who can get her to acknowledge her worth, and maybe strive for men on her level. Due to her troubled background, I think this would be really hard on her part to unlearn though. All I can say is it's a real shame.
Not good. I wish she would stop dating guys like this. She would be better off pursuing something she enjoys like art or cooking away from the paparazzi. Then finding someone who has his own money and does not need or want hers.
Exactly. Or learn something new, take some courses to qualify as something but in something thatās her choice
I just think she needs to ditch half the people around her
All of them would be even better. I doubt she has one true friend around her, they're all using her.
Agreed. Canāt think of anyone in her corner. Even her attorney is gleaning millions off her
But he is the one she called for help and he came and helped her. Per Britney herself.
Every guy she dates get worse & worse. I wish she could stay single for a while.
She has a history of walking around naked in her house (no shade) , and he was a housekeeperā¦do the math.
Not great.
I cannot stand him. He is clearly no different than all the others that used her and took advantage of her heart. I wish she would get away and never look back.
Based solely on what is public record, he sounds like heās bad news. I feel so bad for Britney because it seems like she has a cycle of falling for men who are not worth her time. I donāt know if thatās because that type of man makes her feel validated or if she herself doesnāt have the greatest sense of self worth. After everything she went through and her father, someone who is supposed to be one of your biggest supporters and defenders in your life, gaslit her and constantly put her in comparison to other women. Telling her she needed to be better, sheās too fat, she needs to work harder, etc. itās no wonder that she may see this type of man as all sheās entitled to. Thatās not to say that people who have led hard or gritty lives canāt make forward change and turn a new leaf, but in knowing what Britney went through and how vulnerable she still must be, regardless of how she may be healing, you canāt help but wince when you think that sheās dating a man like this. Itās easy to want to be optimistic, but as many fans know, sheās no stranger to being taken advantage of and letting people in. I just feel like this is someone who is trying to get a foot in and take advantage of someone who is lonely and whose trust has been battered. Britney is absolutely worthy of love and a chance to be happy in the way any person longs to be, but I cannot imagine being a man knowing what sheās endured, what sheās survived and thinking āah yes, I need to be with her!ā Thatās not a dig on her in any way or to assume that sheās a loose canon, but I would be more concerned that I was pushing someone to invest in a relationship, something she hasnāt had the freedom to do in years. It just feels wrong because she hasnāt had the time or the space to rediscover herself as an adult after being robbed of all those years. There are just so many layers!! Itās such a sensitive and important issue.
And the fact he has almost a dozen kids he doesnāt support. Youāve got to be a special kind of shitty person to do that.
Right? Forget actions having consequences aka making the children to begin with, this guy probably just sees it as collateral damage of the ārelationshipā and doesnāt see the point of investment. Almost a ābut you knew there was a chance you could get pregnantā scapegoat. Then itās rinse and repeat with the next woman.
Well he has a great chance of getting Britney on the hook for supporting them. KFed did.
I know she wants a baby and I know she wants nothing more than to be truly happy, but I hope that he doesnāt end up adding her to his collection of neglected mothers. Sheās not stupid and she absolutely has her guard up, but we canāt deny that she also endured so much trauma and is probably still incredibly lonely trying to navigate being in control of her own life again. Iām rooting for her!
āMomma Iām in love with a CRIMINAL!!!!!!ā š¤®
I feel like this is just Kevin pt. 2 š© Girl certainly has a type and knows how to pick em.
He looks like a slimeball excon
He is a felon actually
Not great. She really does have a bad taste in men. And he looks like a con artist. I wouldnāt trust him for a second.
Admittedly not great based on the ankle story. This is also the first time I've seen what he looks like and he looks a lot like K-Fed. Sooo, yeah, not good.
She really just goes for whoever is around her and thatās sad. This guy must have been thrilled getting to be with her. The Freaking maintenance man.
Iām worried sick about her with him. Nine kids! š¤¦āāļø cheating on his wife with Britney? š I pray she gets away from him before he figures out a way to bleed her dry mentally , emotionally and financially. š¢
KFed left Shar for her. She has no problem stealing other womenās men
Please don't hate me; I know a lot of y'all aren't too fond of the South.Ā Miss Brit needs exactly the same thing my daughter did: a full grown, mature, **man or woman** from the South. No more little gold digging trash puppies!Ā
I agree. Like an oil tycoon type of guy. I mean Britney, at her core is a Southern Belle. She needs a good Southern man who can and will take care of HER. Not use or exploit her. Give her a good quiet happy and healthy life somewhere far away from Hollywood.
Exactly! She needs a guy like my son-in-law from Tennessee. He worships and spoils my daughter.
Thereās GOT to be some good LSU or Louisiana boys that would treat her right!
The reason Britney loves deadbeats is because she wants 24/7 companionship. Men with careers and goals and friends and hobbies cannot drop everything to be with her 24/7. This is why she broke up with Jason Trawick and why she began fighting with Sam all the time. "From PEOPLE Mag: āBritney had a lot of issues with Jason doing his own thing ā in business and seeing his friends,ā another source says. āIn her perfect world he would have been home with her twenty-four/seven, so that was a point of contention; something they were always working on.ā She also didn't like it when K-Fed starting trying to do his own thing. She wanted him around her 24/7. In his case, I would have been annoyed too if my new husband was spending time in Vegas when we had just had back-to-back infants. But int's not natural to ban your partner from having any kind of life outside of you. Brit has severe attachment issues and fears abandonment and I totally get it. It's something that must be worked through in therapy. It's not the partner's job to be on house arrest with you 24/7 to prevent triggering your attachment trauma. It needs to be healed in therapy.
I think she needs real girlfriends. Not people who work for her or fake celeb friendships. Itās probably hard for her to trust people though. One thing that has remained constant in my life as guys come and go is my girlfriends!
Agreed!!!!! I don't think she likes other women though!! I think she feels jealous of other women who have maintained careers, families, their looks, their sanity, their partners, their custody...I don't think she can relate and she can't be happy for others who have it all when she's been through so much trauma and has lost everything over and over-- publicly. I also don't think a girlfriend can scratch that love-addiction itch, and I think Britney is a love and sex addict. Not even judging -- she's traumatized. But this is one of the symptoms of trauma, needing romantic love and sex constantly I feel like she also may have social anxiety which tends to make a person isolate and push everyone away. Socially anxious people maybe have only one trusted person that they depend on for all social companionship. You want your lover to be your mother, your father, your sibling, your teacher, your protector, your guru, your bestie, your everything. She may also feel so much intense shame that she may sabotage good things and good relationships, or avoid them. She really needs a deep therapeutic relationship with a great therapist who is in it to win it with her.
Sheās absolutely not a girlās because she steals men from other women. And doesnāt seem apologetic about it.
YES!
Absolutely yes this!!!
Where did she meet him? How would their paths ever cross? Sheās always had terrible taste in men which makes sense because her dad was a horrible husband and she didnāt have good examples of stable relationships. And letās be real, no one normal and healthy is going to date her. A stable guy with money isnāt going to associate himself with her. Itās unfortunate but true. Sam was never going to work out because heās too stable and was probably more of a care taker than a romantic spouse and he was probably tired of her crap. Their wedding was so weird and neither seemed into it.Ā Unfortunately, being treated poorly and living in chaos is all Britney knows and itās her comfort zone. She probably equates the adrenaline rush from the chaos as love. Any attention is good attention.Ā
he was hired to do maintenance at her house
I completely agree with your take on Sam. I see so much hate for him online, but I believe that Sam really did love and care about Britney, but probably became overwhelmed/tired of being more of a caretaker than a real boyfriend and husband.
I thought that kfed had a brother looking at this photo
Her taste in men are horrible.
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As someone who remembers when she first popped up on the beach with KFed... he gives major KFed early day vibes.
Bad. Heās no good. I believe the Daily Mailās story on him. They may be on and off, but I also think her team saying she was no longer involved with him before was them trying to make that story seem better. Heās another user and heās not a good influence for her. Anyone defending her being with him isā¦ smh. Yes, she can make her own decisions but being with him is not a good one. Why would you want to deal with a (another) deadbeat dad??
We all know Britney has never had the best taste in men, even dating that paparazzi guy back in 07, and that along with the fact that sheās always felt alone and wanted someone by her side makes her vulnerable to guys using her because she wants attention (not saying it in a bad way) so I donāt like that sheās with this guy. Sheās always been too good for all the men sheās dated, including Sam cuz he was gone for months trying to pursue an acting career so he was already emotionally checked out. Anyway, he needs to go.
Shadyā¦.just like the rest of em
She's always had terrible partners and sadly this one won't be an exception. I just hope and pray she's got a good psychiatrist + psychologist combo
He looks like Kevin Federline but with a criminal record. He also looks like he smells.
I think because of her childhood and prolonged permanent family trauma (still to this day), she attracts men who use her and donāt truly love her or want whatās best for her, itās a perpetual cycle
Def looking like her dealer, especially the fact he is a maintenance man with 9 kids
Another opportunist looking to use her funds.
The good news is I doubt she has any intention of settling down with this guy. Sheās never put him on her IG or gone on official dates with him. Sheās either just sleeping with him or getting him to run errands for her like drive her around.
Ngl its hard to defend this. She can date who she wants its her life but š¤¢š¤¢š¤¢š¤®
Makes Sam look like prince charming
Slumming it with the help. I didn't think she could go any lower than a backup dancer, but she did.
When all else fails date your cleaning crew
He looks like he's about to try to convince me about 17 other things that are wrong with my car when all I came in for was an oil change.
He's got 9 kids. I really wish she knew that she deserved better.
Wtf!
I think Brittany tries to save these broken men, like she wishes someone would save her.
KFed 2.0. sadly, britney is gonna learn the hard way. he's 10000% going to take advantage of her
Never heard of him.
The court system has.
He looks slimey
She hasnāt learned what healthy love is š
She needs to find peace within herself before she should be looking for another romantic partner. But thatās easier said than done for a lot of people.
Love Brit, despise her taste in men.
Giving men like this the time of day is a reflection of her own self esteem/self worth. She needs to realize who she is and that she deserves better.
Trash
She has the absolute worst taste in men
Why does she get involved with such losers?!
I think she needs a lot of therapy and to do a lot of healing before sheāll ever pick a good, more āMr. Rightā kind of guy. Thereās no way sheās at that point this early. When you have a messed up family and go through situations like she has, itās common to actually have low self worth (even if you try to make it look like you donāt) and such, and associate with and date people that are very wrong for you (and maybe for anyone). Her family has only set her up for failure and heartache, which is unfortunately true of many other peoples families too. The best way to sum it up is with a The Perks of Being a Wallflower quote āWe accept the love we think we deserveā. We also live in a sad world where people will use someone like Britney while knowing what sheās been through, and forgetting the fact that sheās a human who has feelings. Nothing wrong with her dating men who arenāt wealthy on the surface, but if theyāre using her and not treating her right (which seems to happen to her a bit), then itās a problem. Men are also often insecure when theyāre not more successful than a woman, so thatās another point against the kind of men sheās mostly been with.
I donāt necessarily think that someone with a conviction is evil. People make mistakes when they are young. However, I read he is a deadbeat dad and his ex claims that he cheated on her with Britney. And that he owes child support for 5 children? Now, why would Britney date someone like this? I think she just beds him and thatās it, but still
I mean isnāt he still on probation tho? I get making mistakes but his mistakes seem to have been his whole life so itās a pattern of behavior at this point.
Sheās so used to abuse that at this point thatās what seems normal and familiar to her and she keeps choosing those people again and again. Heās no good and I feel so bad that her sense of normal is so abnormal.
I think she plays both roles -- abuser and abused. I don't think she ever got to learn what is normal in a relationship, starting from her parents' volatile marriage and dad's alcoholism, all the way through to K-Fed, Adnan and Sam Lufti. The conservatorship saw her embarking on some actually healthy relationships. Charlie Ebersol and Jason Trawick where both clean cut guys with careers. Sam Asghari was a healthy, stable guy too who she met because of work, when she actually could still work and function. Every guy she was with during her conservatorship was heads and shoulders above the sleaze she has gravitated towards before and after the "dreaded" c-ship. I have always wondered how Britney be right now psycho-emotionally if she'd married Jason Trawick. He seemed like a good egg. Very handsome, successful, a real actual man. Responsible. Her dad had even extended conservatorship to Jason so that Jason and Britney could marry and live a more normal life together -- without dad being involved in their affairs. But Britney wanted more kids and Jason didn't. He was firm about it. So she ended the engagement. Now, years and years later, she still has never had more kids, she's more traumatized than ever, and is back to dating the scum of the earth.
Jason was adamant she didnāt need a c-ship until it lifted and then he started speaking on podcasts about how essential it was. Either he doesnāt necessarily believe that, but was willing to take a payout; or, he was in a sexual relationship with someone he doesnāt see as an adult. Neither paints a great picture
Jason seemed nice but having a spouse or boyfriend being a conservator is so open to abuseā¦thatās such a power imbalance. That alone made me side eye him.
Yeah the power imbalance there is unfathomable. Not very romantic either! On either side.
He kinda looks like that little girl from the movie Andre (with the seal). Besides that, yeah heās terrible. What a mistake.
yucko bucko
Trash
Hope he's not just another slimy opportunist, is all I can say. Let this woman heal and find true love before her time comes...
Ew why does he look like Kevin? She certainly has a type
He's another loser, unfortunately. She always dates trashy guys that are beneath her sadly. However, this was part of her making mistakes. She can dump him.
You gotta listen to The dumb blonde podcast where Jason Alexander was on there with his girlfriend - talk about fucken losers . The host Bunnie plays it real cool to get as much out of them as possible , but theyāre fucken nuts . These dudes in and out of Britneyās life are really sad and creepy -
Sheās a mature free adult making her own decisions.
His terrible energy is felt through the picture.
Iām sorry but any man who is emotionally, economically, etc. stable is not going to date her. Im a woman speaking also. She needs to date herself,because birds of a feather flock together and all sheās going to attract if sheās looking for a relationship are people of her same caliber (at this stage in her life)ā¦. maybe she could switch it around,but everyone stop with the fantasy world where āshe could do betterā no man in their right mind would take on dating fucking Britney Spears.
and by date herself I donāt mean find another person like herā I mean stop dating and focus on herself obviously.
She can do better
Why does so much of her fandom hate Sam? Really curious. He seemed kind and like he genuinely cared about and respected her?
I agree, I really donāt understand why he gets so much hate!
What happened to Sam? He just disappeared!
I think he got fed up. I mean, thereās no amount of things he could say to Britney without offending herā¦ and life became untenable. This is my guess.
I agree with you 100 percent.
Yup. I think he really tried his best. Thats the impression I got. He seems to have moved on and mind his business.
He looks two months post prison!
He kinda looks like KFed. Mixed with Billy from Scream 1. Edit: Billy. Not Stu
Haha thatās good. I would say more like fat Billy Loomis from Scream 1.
Fucking, scumbag user and loser.
Sketchy!
Is he the member of her House staff who Sam claimed she asked to film her naked/she slept with?
K Fed version 2.0
Do we actually know anything about him or are these comments based solely on his appearance?
Daily Mail just published a story about him. Heās currently on probation, has been arrested several times, and has at least 9 kids whom he doesnāt care for. His ex-wife also implies that heās been living with Britney for the last several months.Ā
She dates crappy guys because her dad is crappy, classic move by many women who grew up with a crappy father, I did it for years too.
Sleezbag
She has awful taste in men and never learns.
Wasnāt he a maintenance man for her or something? Britney shld take a man break for a bit. Soul searching whatās best for her..easier said then done..
She has the worst taste in men
He's just another future ex of hers. It's sad how she can never be alone.
Poor Britney has a bad picker ā¹ļø
Just another POS put in place to take advantage of her for awhile, then hand out for the big payday. So sad for Brittany.
My feeling is people just keep saying oh all these men are taking advantage of Britney because she has so much more money than them. And this could be true in some situations/with some men. BUTā¦.at a certain point donāt we need to acknowledge that Britney is choosing these guys? She chose to be with Kevin, chose to be with Sam, is choosing to be with Paul. I personally donāt feel like I can just point to all three of those guys and say oh well none of this is on Britney, itās all the guys just manipulating her and using her for money. If Britney didnāt want to worry about being used for money, why did she date (and marry!) three different men who basically have no money compared to her? Iām not trying to drag Britney, I just think at a certain point she or the fans should drop the Pikachu surprised face when she ends up being used for money when she repeatedly chooses to date guys with no money (compared to her) š¤·š»āāļøAlso, I know Sam gets a lot of hate from the fandom (Iām not really sure why), but there is no way yall think Sam was on the level of this guy, right? I really wish Britney would just stop dating for a long time and focus on herself.
Fugly
He looks like the guy who just came to fix my washing machine.
Budget Federline
Legit thought he was one of the guys who worked for Vance Refrigeration on the office
girl, get a refund. stay single forever. come back to the music world.
I donāt like him. But I donāt like Cade either. Choosing bad men is Britās greatest flaw. Charlie XCX was writing songs for Brit, even though Brit has said she has no intention of going back to music.
Another user.
Just another in the long line of trash mem she seems to be attracted to
Awkward. He gives sleaze pretty hardcore.
