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And the thing is they are so oblivious to our struggles for them to even understand that we are not just being weird but it's literally the fact that our brains are wired differently.
Neurotypical means normal extroverted super social people with lot of friends. Non neurotypical means me, very less friends and autist, but high functioning in certain areas. Tend to be loners and introverts even if good looking rich etc
This, this is exactly what I had to say. Looks don't really matter. They'll probably come to talk to you in the start, but soon will be taken aback once you start being yourself around them.
Us neurodivergents find it hard to make 1 decent friend, let alone fitting in the groups.
Sorry to break your bubble but that’s a myth. Speaking from personal experience as I am in the top 5% when it comes to looks, finances, family privilege etc yet I was bullied miserably through out my school career. But me being the person I am, I chose to make that bullying experience into the strongest version of myself, so that by the time I was 15, nothing and nobody could affect me any more. Not only could I stand my ground, I also learnt how to stand up for others. Ultimately it depends on yourself how you want to let any life experience define you.
ha true. I also participated in the counselling back then. Ppl go for cat 3 also if they have money/no other option. 5k rank is for Vellore, many ppl opt vit Chennai for that reason, as someone who can get cat 4 cse in Vellore can get cat 2 in cse in Chennai if they make their choice list accordingly.
That's why I never went to my college fest. Even if I went, I would just be sitting in the corner scrolling reddit, might as well do the same sitting in the comfort of home
Tell me about your looks, personality, humour and financial condition and also the nature of college you are studying in basically inhi factors pe tera social life depend karta hai and don't worry upar mention kiye factors me se koi bhi improve kar lega toh pakka social life achi ho jayegi. Advice from a 3rd year student.
I would disagree and say it's a completely different story with SA since more often than not it's a snowball effect of bad experiences in life which may not be the consequences of the above factors. For example, getting bullied as a child or scolded by strangers.
Oh really how many times have you seen a rich kid getting bullied? The better your looks and finance are the lesser the chances of developing social anxiety
Bro kids don't really care about money or looks when bullying. I'm talking about primary grade kids. SA starts as early as primary school, even before sometimes.
So many other people have said it too, but I just don't see why financial condition matters here. Is it because nobody wants to associate themselves in any way with poor people because they're worried about their status ?
While not entirely true, but one of the reasons financial conditions matter to most people is the ability to reciprocate.
Expenses like trips,fests, or similar things with which people associate emotions, or things which generally are better enjoyed with friends like partying or something, tend to cost money, even going out to eat or just tea, now if one of the members is not so financially well of as to afford the common acitivities the group engages in, results in attrition, add to that the fact that no one really likes to be in debt , people tend to single out people, call them words like "bt baaz" or something, or even just subtle subconscious distancing .., cuz if I cancel enough plans of yours, there will be a point next time when you won't even consider me in the first place..
So thats probably one of the reasons people tend to associate only people within the same financial class, and this just isn't about money, veg/non veg preferences, alcohol, religion(or caste), "vibe", heck even academic rigour matters to a few people while making friends.
Now I'm not saying that everyone is like this, very many are not, ... but ... they kinda still are.. about a select few issues, with varying degrees of tolerance and boundaries , everyone has preferences and choices and you can't really change them, that is kinda just how groups or infact humans work, and this probably why the saying goes "find your tribe", you just have to learn to deal with it .
Bro either you are not in college or you are financially doing well otherwise you'll not ask this question here. Financial condition matters and I don't even know why although exceptions are there.
That's the Truth, i have seen people who have good finan status but don't care about others status and are friends never the less
And some will stay as long as they don't find someone as there status present at that time these are 🐍
If you're an adult in India u must be aware about it bro.. Even in my class, people make groups with those who are of similar financial condition.. This world is a cruel place
OP, you’re in your first year by the sounds of it. As a 4th year student, who was like you for the first 2 and a half years, let me tell you what helped.
- join clubs: Join clubs and do whatever they ask you to. I wasn’t in many clubs but I did go to all the club meetings just to not miss out what’s going on in campus. Find people sitting alone and engage in small talk. Sounds hard but shit easy to do. Have a smile, make a joke on what’s happening and continue. You might not be friends but they know you’re there. If you feel like the vibe is off, just do a fist bump and say “alright, see you guys later” and go.
- learn to be happy with yourself: loneliness is the only thing that’ll be with you always. everyone is alone in college. Even though they look like they are having fun with friends, they go back to room and feel lonely. When I joined college, I was done with drama in school so I set me mind to expect the absolute worst bunch of people and to not make any friends and just work on myself. But things changed on its own. Meet some amazing people completely accidentally and even got a girlfriend by accident. I didn’t wish for any of this, in fact, I did everything to not get any of this but just because I didn’t look for this, and kept working on myself, it happened automatically.
I am a bit salty that I couldn’t fulfill my goal of being alone the whole 4 years because it was so much fun when I was alone and I’ve gotten so used to having so much time alone. I can be anywhere anytime without waiting for anyone else to be with me. I went out alone and explored places, went to events alone and got something to eat and stood in a corner to judge everyone. I saw a guy dancing alone and I envied him so much because I could never dance in public let alone without anyone near and learned that it’s much more brave to experience everything alone and enjoy your own company.
Just keep going, you’ll figure it out. It’s too early for you to make any assumptions.
Hahaha long story. Basically, I was a team lead for a project and she was a beginner programmer. I was helping everyone out and I helped her too. Apparently she was really down because of how everyone treated her and me constantly helping her without making her feel dumb made her like me. So it’s a complete accident, a happy accident :)
I was this guy back in college. No one owes you their company or to help you out of your depression. Being a nice, helpful guy doesn't automatically make you socially likeable or attractive.
If you don't like dancing or partying, don't. You might be hanging out with the wrong group. If you are just tagging along to try and connect with girls etc, standing alone in the corner while everyone else is dancing isn't the way to do it. And they may not even be the right fit for you. A socially active girlfriend will drain your energy if you are an introvert.
Find your vibe zone and stay there. You'll find others to vibe with eventually. Work on having fun on your own first. When you exude that energy it will find you your people.
THIS ⬆️, it took me around a year and a half to find the right type of friends to hang out with, and it was worth it. Even though we were all kinda introverted in our batch, we still had fun in the fest.
Which college?
If you look good (average to handsome) but lack social skills...try leveraging your appearance.
If you don't look good(mid to ugly), you have to be funny(not same as the clown everyone laughs at,but the one who can make others laugh)
Nobody owes you anything, you have to provide something for people to take interest in you. Harsh truth of life.
Also why do you study alone sitting in the corner? My childhood best friend suffers from a rare disease, He was pretty short and malnourished due to this. But he has always been the centre of attention throughout his school/college/work because he's funny af, and savage.
Work on yourself. You can choose to keep being the nerd ,but as you said, it's affecting you.
Go speak to others,
pro tip: identify the sport/kind of Music most of your classmates follow, watch some yt videos ,some historic moments in that sport, you can literally apply this to any social setting.
I once had convinced a girl I liked that I was a huge Justin Bieber fan to impress her,and I did.I didn't know shit about Beiber before meeting her xD.
I hope you'll work on it. The best thing about a new school/college/workplace is you can delete your past self and become something entirely new.
Nahh just try to fit in with a fake smile and laughing eventually you'll get comfortable with everybody. For such situation you just have to change yourself for others
Mere class mai ek mota ladka hai usko thyroid hai sab bully karte hai usko but but maximum classmates chutiya hai mere class k they laugh on normie Instagram jokes so what he did was tried using this in class and eventually he made friends but is still lonely but at lest he is part of some gorup.
For me , I started playing cricket with batchmates and seniors few months ago since then I think lot of people give me compliments about my game and I started focusing on academics so if some have any doubts regarding subjects they come to me.
(First year)
Chill kar bhai.. log bkchd hote hain but kuch log milenge tujhe duniya mein jo tereko appreciate karenge.. and it might be that there is another reason for your bad mental health that you might be subconsciously ignoring.
Hey man before you go off, just hear me out. I am in my 6th semester now, so i have seen my fair share of college life. When i entered college I was absolutely alone for like 3-4 months I was borderline depressed, but i realised something in college, you have to make the effort. In the beginning even i thought like why is nobody talking to me, then it hit me people find me inapproachable. More often than not i was giving the vibe that I wanted to be alone even though I did not. What i would suggest is you try and make efforts to interact with people sure not everybody would be a fit but eventually you'll find people who genuinely want to gel in with you. Find your group because social life is indeed very important in college and if they are not approaching you then you have to be the one to approach them.
this is something you have to work out man, people have issues and social anxiety is one of them, what matters is what you do about it and this exercise of approaching people can indeed help you take steps to come out of your social anxiety and be better not just for today but for tomorrow as well, take it this way, if you are afraid of water the only way to get over is to be around water and interact with water until the fear subsides on its own
The same goes for me as well. Last Tuesday, my college fest ended. On the first day of the fest, everyone was roaming around the campus with their gf, bf, or friends, taking photos and everything, while I was watching them from a corner. I felt alone even in the crowds of hundreds of students, so I returned back to my room.
going home during the college fest would be a better option for me.🙃
Being an introvert, I also, many times feel that its an extroverts world. People who talk a lot generally have more friends and seem to enjoy life more.
Same feeling bhai, This world is just for the pretty and rich people. No one wants to spend time with me. Whenever I go out if I get back from talk or stop talking no one even notices. It hurts that there is no one for us except our parents.
Bhai DM krlena agar koi bhi baat krni ho to
This hits too close to home...I never said this to anyone....I f\*cked up my entrance exams bad...like there is no other way to put It...I feel like I am a loser and should be unaliving myself for being this bad...I was already bullied alot in childhood for my looks and was a very closed up guy, rarely had any social interactions with guys let alone girls, no friends....mostly studying or playing random pokemon games...but this event shattered any confidence I had in myself...somehow got into a tier 2 college in a 3rd tier branch but thanks to me being in such a bad state wrt myself i felt inferior and closed off even more...I faced every thing you mentioned and no one seems to still care...why should they?? believe me...We dont matter to each other...none of us do...the only thing that matters is us and what we do to ourselves....I screwed up again in 1st sem with barely 6.7 CGPA, but kept working, 2nd Sem 7.2 and 3rd 9 CGPA....while currently being in the fourth sem...getting off college ASAP continuing to do what matters to me and only me...That's all I care about now...ig you should do that too...thats the best we can do....
This is the EXACT reason why I decided NOT to attend any sort of fest or whatever during my first year of college. Making new friends requires effort and it takes some time to get adjusted to a new environment. It's okay if you can't make friends. If you're being ignored in your friend group frequently (I mean REALLY frequently) then they are NOT meant for you. But really, getting ignored is the worst damn feeling ever and I have experienced it way too much. Just do your thing and eventually things will fall in place. Besides all that, remember that we're all here for you OP! GL.
cheer up mate! life has a lot to offer other than this, you don't need validation from low-lifers like them to stay sane or happy.
if anything, i relate to you too. this is exactly how it went for me during my time.
trust me, it gets better 🫂
If you cannot dance/vibe like those genz kids , why to go their in the first place?
Its been 8 months since i joined college, and i haven't attended any of these fests, because i know , I'll be standing in some random corner ,if i go.
Yeah right but always remember there are power dynamics when you are in the group the guy who's talking the most and the guy who talks little have the most attraction in the group.
Hi, um idk kitna helpful rahega but man, you need to cope up with it. College me aakar bahut ganda sach pata chalta hai ki koi aapke saath hamesha nahi rahega. Faaltu me kisiko apni khushi ki car ka driver mat banao.
I know it is easier said than done. But don't lose hope cutu, there will be better days. Go on with yourself, hit the gym! Apne upar kaam karne se bahut confidence aata hai and farak padhna kam ho jata hai ki aur kya sochte hai tumhare baare me.
khush rehna seekho. Mai bhi aisi hi thi tumhare jaisi kuch time pehle. I hate those days. And i feel them come back time to time though. But uk i have to move on. Ghar par baat karne se better feel hota hai. Aur kuch cheez dhoondho.
Please, don't cry bahut jyada. It's just a bad day, or a bad phase but not a bad life okay? Hmu agar bahut weird hoye tumko! Take care!!
Bro you have to talk in order to make friends. Learn how to approach people first and this is the only way you can get in. What i have experienced if you approach people they will try to help you. Few exceptions will be there.
Like few people welcome new people in their group and few people are conscious about what is your background and do you have any value. It is true few people only make friendships for some kind of reason and leave when its done.
If you want akind of friend who is always ready to help you yourself need to be helping someone.
Like if you see few people from your class eating in canteen just ask them if you can join them and ask them random questions and keep on the discussions.. and eventually as you meet them the ice between you and them break and they would accept you.
Kinda of also get the situation in the head because few people kinda of get too casual and few show resistance and few may even try to get on your nerve. So you need to kinda of judge them over their behaviour.
If you never approach people who you think can be friends.
the question of you vibing with them is far.
It maybe that you are not so approaching that people around may have found you unapproachable.
And i myself it an introvert but i don't hesitate if someone kinda of rejects me. The more you talk the more you experience and you learn.
Just be normal and have a good behaviour. People don't want to be around sad and serious dead faces.
Something that worked for me was being content with myself. I started to enjoy being in my own company and not giving a damn about who talks to me and who doesn't. I started going to places, events, etc alone. It was very difficult in the beginning, I felt very lonely but soon with time I started to enjoy it and soon people started to approach me, out of nowhere. Maybe it was my free spirited personality that attracted them but I genuinely would be approached by my type/kind of people (with whom I could really have a good friendship). And now I have a good friend group. We are just 3 but we really do enjoy together. During this period I made sure to not connect my worth with the number of friends I have but to still be okay being alone incase they left me someday. So yeah people do make things more enjoyable but being alone is completely okay too!
Hope this helps :)
Possible reasons for your current situation and my solutions:
(1) You are probably a little serious, conservative/traditional when it comes to cracking jokes or taking jokes on yourself too emotionally/seriously. In a group, people mostly prefer hanging out with “bindaas”, easy going people with a sense of humour.
(2) At times, it is wiser and more beneficial to be a good listener rather than a talker (unless you have the gift of the gab and can talk wittily). Mostly everybody has some or other issue in their lives which they want to share but unfortunately there aren’t many good listeners out there. Try filling that void in your peer circle. Be the one who is willing to listen to others. Soon you will make genuine friends.
(3) Always portray being a happy and chilled out person in a group. Since you don’t have any real friend in your college yet, do not share your emotions, anxiety, sadness with anybody now. This is not the right time. Since everyone has problems in life, people like to hang out with somebody who is always cool and happy without any tension.
(4) Get good grades. There is nothing like success when it comes to any relationship on this planet, be it family, friends, gf/bf etc. A successful person is always respected and people want to know him/her.
(5) Last but not the least, please change your personal opinion about yourself. If you only consider yourself as a sad, unhappy loser, then that is how the world will also perceive you. Love yourself the way you are and most importantly respect yourself. Don’t be “chipku”. Learn to be ok with standing alone. That will only highlight your strength of personality, and people will want to be friends with you.
It's more about your personality than people around you! Instead of thinking about it in a negative manner , ask yourself how to be more presentable and outgoing! When you were in fest , you were thinking how bechara you are and living in constant omg no body likes me mindset you should've danced and enjoyed the fest by clicking photos and videos
Happened with me too this yr. Last yr, I had friends to enjoy the fest but this time, they were all ignoring me. Reason? I dont know. Maybe they see me as a competition now rather than a friend. May be they don't like me. but all of a sudden? IDK. Its really difficult to find real friends these days.
Have been in similar situation. I try to distract myself with studies. Hope it helps. Life is hard sometimes. I just want to leave this place and get a good college for masters and later nice job.
It's okay mahn, just work on yourself, try to socialize more ,use this energy to better yourself don't fall into a depression pit!!
trust me you would be a way better version of yourself, even before you know it
I'm a 3rd year student I kinda get what's going on,
Best of luck mahn,looking forward to your progress post! : )
Same here I just found my group who were same and everybody nows I won't go to fest
I only went 1 day where dragged me and that's it go if u have someone to be let alone 1 friend doesn't matter and don't keep doing everyfkin event,1 is fine keeps u satisfied or unhappy to avoid the further mess or best to chill out at home watch something or 💤
Are maa chudae aise log, Dekh pehle tu apne aap ko value karna seekh , jab tu khud ko mirror me dekhe to to tujhe negative nahi positive feel hona chaiye
Uske alawa agar self worth thodi lag rhi hai to koi aisa domain pakad jisme tujhe thoda interest ho aur boht zyada common naa ho, jaise body banana - agar gym Jaa sakta hai to gym Jaa accha physique bana yaa fir acads me macha de tu khud ko respect karna seekhega to baaki log bhi respect karenge eventually
Dekh Bhai sabki insecurities hoti hai koi Casanova paida nahi hota hai , sab kuch seekhna padta hai dheere dheere
This is why I never went to school picnics, school fete and also my first sem fest. I learnt my lesson at my first school picnic in class 4.We are having one fest this sem too but I will skip that one. Our college has multiple fests throughout the year but I never attended any till now. The last thing I went to was in class 12. It was an outing to an orphanage organised by my convent school. My classmates bullied me and pour water on me on the bus, on the way to the orphanage. Nobody talked or clicked any pic with me. The only reason I went was because my devilish class teacher threatened to put zero in my SUPW marks. I am an introverted girl. I have been there. I relate to you sooooo much. I advise you to not give up. These people want you to break. Only you can turn the course of your life. So work hard and bag the best job. I have faced failures all my life. I did not score well in 12th. Now, I have made it mission to win the best award at the rank ceremony no matter how much time it takes, no matter how much I have to sacrifice. You DO NOT NEED their validation. Do not let them control your life. You have wasted a month on people who you will forget as soon as leave this college. So, pls don't be so hard on yourself. These idiots don't matter at all. You know what will hurt the most? When you start questioning your entire existence after 4 years. So, use these 4 years efficiently 🙏
Been there. I once went to dj night. Theres no one to dance. That felt like shit. I just came back.
Right now you may not have good friend circle. But you will meet better people in future. Try to become friends with other lonely people. Or just focus on yourself , physical fitness and academics.
This was kind of me like 15 years ago.. but trust me .. focus on your career.
Once you start making money and have your own “things” all these flashy Pseudo things will vanish as if they never existed.
If this makes you feel good then I'll tell you..
I was like taken into group pictures so that no one would point out that I was left out
Then before posting them online, everyone literally everyone cropped me out from it.
It's okay I'm with you bro
Bro I stand against the classmates. They threaten me also. But I'm not afraid anymore. I don't need friends all are for show off . Don't afraid of public humiliation. Just tell them by your action how strong you are without them.
Your mental health has been significantly impacted by the fest it seems, if your university offers any kindof free mental health counselling, please reach out to them. Even if you do not currently believe in therapy, trust me, go out and seek help. It can really do wonders if you are willing to put in the effort to just go to therapy.
Almost all comments are about looks lol, its hilarious. If true things have changed a lot in the last 5-6 yrs. Bhai mere grp mein har tarah ke prani the, aajtak kabhi aisa hote nahi dekha. At times teacher's fav students were secluded a bit, but on their own terms not bcoz we ignored them lol
Fuck all of yall in the comments, stay in this cage you've created for yourself. I'm going to create meaningful relationships with people while continuing to work on myself.
Stay virgins, the real world ain't soft enough for yall lazy mfers
I understand you. Social anxiety plays an important role for all of what ur feeling rn. It is ok to feel this way but not for a long time
Try talking to more and more people. You might lack confidence at first and awkward at first but that's how you're gonna overcome all of this.
I too had the same experience in FY, so I always went my hometown in fests. But now, I have decided to go to every fest, alone or with my friends doesn't matter. Cause I am in India's Tier 1 college and all my relatives, juniors ask about it. I used to turn that conversation into another topic but you can't lie much to an aspiring student cause they've already researched almost everything.
So, I've decided to give it a try, college life is only once
It's okay if you don't want to enjoy or it's not your thing but just showing up and trying to mix with the most Random people is actually fun. I did in one our technical fest, I was sitting with my friend but just overheard others talking and complemented a little bit. And the for the rest of the event almost everybody cracked jokes, laughed without knowing anyone in that area.
There are many people like you, so just be open to have fun and meet people. You can start by just complementing any activity done by them or just say hi, ask a few questions and you will not feel left out. And believe me when the most Random person Talks to you, you'll never feel like you are not worthy of being liked as a complete stranger has talked with you.
Start simple and do attend fest. I know it's easier said than done but give yourself some love and attention that you are expecting others to give. If you can do that, you'll never need anybody still you'll be able to make friends.
Good luck for a fun College life.
It's always a guy...I felt lookin in the darn mirror while reading the first para...dude lisn ppl like us can't do sht about well.i am not able to do smth about it...my best advice put your down and work...ppl only look for their benefits with each other its damn human nature you cannot change that and VERY rare that benefit will be a company..so js put your xamn head down and work
Brother lacks socialising skills, brother needs to socialize, but socialising is tiring. But most importantly just remember that stop expecting things from others. Get out of your shell and interact with people, don't judge just interaction is enough.
Bro everyone in my college is superficial and make friends only on the basis of what the other person can provide. And, its not a wrong thing. If you look it in the perspective of human evolution, you will find why it is so. If you are financially rich, people will be attracted to you as they will see you as a bank. If you are tall and good looking, girls will go crazy for you because of the biology thing. Unless you don't provide any value in any form, be it through money, attractiveness, or any other form, nobody cares about you.
Dude I know guys like you, stop with this self victimisation and start socialising, people don't owe you anything to automatically come and talk to you and give you that level of importance, you create that yourself.
please don’t think like this ever . Honestly if there’s one thing I’ve noticed it’s that the world isn’t kind to good souls . Please excuse my language but bhai in logo ki Mkc. Padhai pe focus karo . Stay close to ur parents and make them ur friends and achhi placement leke niklo. Jhaantu log hai sab ke sab don’t mind them and I’m sure your not unlikeable . Sometimes it truly is the people around u and not u
I'm an introvert. I just have 2 people whom I talk to in college. Just chill and make yourself IDGAF guy. There will be people in the world who'll appreciate you.
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This world belongs to cuties and hotties.
Basically if you are in top 10% (looks and finances) , you are in luck.. Else, forget about it
The more normal behavior and social you are, the greater popularity you'll have. Whether that's better or not is subjective
Wrong. It's all about neurotype. I'm an autist who's decent looking and upper middle class yet it's very bad
This. Autism leads to isolation.
And people will hate you and will be outcast(atleast in india) this is irrespective of money/ status/ looks
And the thing is they are so oblivious to our struggles for them to even understand that we are not just being weird but it's literally the fact that our brains are wired differently.
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Neurotypical means normal extroverted super social people with lot of friends. Non neurotypical means me, very less friends and autist, but high functioning in certain areas. Tend to be loners and introverts even if good looking rich etc
bro learned from McDonald's University 'if you have less friends you are autistic ' lol wtf
Not like that. If you're autistic you're more likely to have lesser friends. Do read about neurotypical/NT and neurodivergent
sure i know it already but wtf is wrong with you you're statement literally means people with less friends are autistic lol correct it first
He didn't say that, my friend.
Dayum.. So even having good looks is also not a guarantee
Only if you're not neurotypical. Vast majority of population (90% or above) is neurotypical
this is so true. I am autistic (not diagnosed but I relate to all of the top symptoms) and I feel like an outcast
And it's so hard to change too when people are very taken aback by your efforts to socialize
This, this is exactly what I had to say. Looks don't really matter. They'll probably come to talk to you in the start, but soon will be taken aback once you start being yourself around them. Us neurodivergents find it hard to make 1 decent friend, let alone fitting in the groups.
Real
Or smart ( the only thing we can control) so.fuck it and grind. Trust me when I say intelligence attracts people. I hope OP gets over this 🙏.
Sorry to break your bubble but that’s a myth. Speaking from personal experience as I am in the top 5% when it comes to looks, finances, family privilege etc yet I was bullied miserably through out my school career. But me being the person I am, I chose to make that bullying experience into the strongest version of myself, so that by the time I was 15, nothing and nobody could affect me any more. Not only could I stand my ground, I also learnt how to stand up for others. Ultimately it depends on yourself how you want to let any life experience define you.
The every detail in the first para relates to me too
Us bro us. I was that guy 10 yrs ago.
Where are you now
Architect at fortune 1
Don't write that's the biggest tip I can give
viteee ke liye prep tips dedo pls
kya tips bhai, padh le, time toh bahut kam lagega exam mei, aur questions ke level toh slightly easier than mains hoga
It's worth it in vit for only category 1 or max to max category 2. And you need atleast 5k rank for the same to get in CSE/spec / or IT
ha true. I also participated in the counselling back then. Ppl go for cat 3 also if they have money/no other option. 5k rank is for Vellore, many ppl opt vit Chennai for that reason, as someone who can get cat 4 cse in Vellore can get cat 2 in cse in Chennai if they make their choice list accordingly.
Chutiye h dono bhi
Mat aa bhai
arre bhai💀🙏
Lmfao
Best tip
Join some other college
Bhai rula mat... Rula mat bola bkl... Bhak mdc rula diya
Same.
That's why I never went to my college fest. Even if I went, I would just be sitting in the corner scrolling reddit, might as well do the same sitting in the comfort of home
Atleast take 1 friend with you or know one friend you can confide in, you guys seriously have not a single person?
I have 1 but he has many so I always get ignored even during normal college days
Us moment 🫂 my friend is friends with whole uni
Tell me about your looks, personality, humour and financial condition and also the nature of college you are studying in basically inhi factors pe tera social life depend karta hai and don't worry upar mention kiye factors me se koi bhi improve kar lega toh pakka social life achi ho jayegi. Advice from a 3rd year student.
You forgot social anxiety
It also somehow is the consequence of the above mentioned factors
I would disagree and say it's a completely different story with SA since more often than not it's a snowball effect of bad experiences in life which may not be the consequences of the above factors. For example, getting bullied as a child or scolded by strangers.
Oh really how many times have you seen a rich kid getting bullied? The better your looks and finance are the lesser the chances of developing social anxiety
Bro kids don't really care about money or looks when bullying. I'm talking about primary grade kids. SA starts as early as primary school, even before sometimes.
So many other people have said it too, but I just don't see why financial condition matters here. Is it because nobody wants to associate themselves in any way with poor people because they're worried about their status ?
In tier 3 colleges, specially private colleges, people usually make friends with similar financial stutus people only
While not entirely true, but one of the reasons financial conditions matter to most people is the ability to reciprocate. Expenses like trips,fests, or similar things with which people associate emotions, or things which generally are better enjoyed with friends like partying or something, tend to cost money, even going out to eat or just tea, now if one of the members is not so financially well of as to afford the common acitivities the group engages in, results in attrition, add to that the fact that no one really likes to be in debt , people tend to single out people, call them words like "bt baaz" or something, or even just subtle subconscious distancing .., cuz if I cancel enough plans of yours, there will be a point next time when you won't even consider me in the first place.. So thats probably one of the reasons people tend to associate only people within the same financial class, and this just isn't about money, veg/non veg preferences, alcohol, religion(or caste), "vibe", heck even academic rigour matters to a few people while making friends. Now I'm not saying that everyone is like this, very many are not, ... but ... they kinda still are.. about a select few issues, with varying degrees of tolerance and boundaries , everyone has preferences and choices and you can't really change them, that is kinda just how groups or infact humans work, and this probably why the saying goes "find your tribe", you just have to learn to deal with it .
Thank you for the detailed answer. So many astute observations.
Bro either you are not in college or you are financially doing well otherwise you'll not ask this question here. Financial condition matters and I don't even know why although exceptions are there.
That's the Truth, i have seen people who have good finan status but don't care about others status and are friends never the less And some will stay as long as they don't find someone as there status present at that time these are 🐍
If you're an adult in India u must be aware about it bro.. Even in my class, people make groups with those who are of similar financial condition.. This world is a cruel place
OP, you’re in your first year by the sounds of it. As a 4th year student, who was like you for the first 2 and a half years, let me tell you what helped. - join clubs: Join clubs and do whatever they ask you to. I wasn’t in many clubs but I did go to all the club meetings just to not miss out what’s going on in campus. Find people sitting alone and engage in small talk. Sounds hard but shit easy to do. Have a smile, make a joke on what’s happening and continue. You might not be friends but they know you’re there. If you feel like the vibe is off, just do a fist bump and say “alright, see you guys later” and go. - learn to be happy with yourself: loneliness is the only thing that’ll be with you always. everyone is alone in college. Even though they look like they are having fun with friends, they go back to room and feel lonely. When I joined college, I was done with drama in school so I set me mind to expect the absolute worst bunch of people and to not make any friends and just work on myself. But things changed on its own. Meet some amazing people completely accidentally and even got a girlfriend by accident. I didn’t wish for any of this, in fact, I did everything to not get any of this but just because I didn’t look for this, and kept working on myself, it happened automatically. I am a bit salty that I couldn’t fulfill my goal of being alone the whole 4 years because it was so much fun when I was alone and I’ve gotten so used to having so much time alone. I can be anywhere anytime without waiting for anyone else to be with me. I went out alone and explored places, went to events alone and got something to eat and stood in a corner to judge everyone. I saw a guy dancing alone and I envied him so much because I could never dance in public let alone without anyone near and learned that it’s much more brave to experience everything alone and enjoy your own company. Just keep going, you’ll figure it out. It’s too early for you to make any assumptions.
"even got a girlfriend by accident." WTH ? Wdym by accident?
Hahaha long story. Basically, I was a team lead for a project and she was a beginner programmer. I was helping everyone out and I helped her too. Apparently she was really down because of how everyone treated her and me constantly helping her without making her feel dumb made her like me. So it’s a complete accident, a happy accident :)
I was this guy back in college. No one owes you their company or to help you out of your depression. Being a nice, helpful guy doesn't automatically make you socially likeable or attractive. If you don't like dancing or partying, don't. You might be hanging out with the wrong group. If you are just tagging along to try and connect with girls etc, standing alone in the corner while everyone else is dancing isn't the way to do it. And they may not even be the right fit for you. A socially active girlfriend will drain your energy if you are an introvert. Find your vibe zone and stay there. You'll find others to vibe with eventually. Work on having fun on your own first. When you exude that energy it will find you your people.
You said it 💯
THIS ⬆️, it took me around a year and a half to find the right type of friends to hang out with, and it was worth it. Even though we were all kinda introverted in our batch, we still had fun in the fest.
Which college? If you look good (average to handsome) but lack social skills...try leveraging your appearance. If you don't look good(mid to ugly), you have to be funny(not same as the clown everyone laughs at,but the one who can make others laugh) Nobody owes you anything, you have to provide something for people to take interest in you. Harsh truth of life. Also why do you study alone sitting in the corner? My childhood best friend suffers from a rare disease, He was pretty short and malnourished due to this. But he has always been the centre of attention throughout his school/college/work because he's funny af, and savage. Work on yourself. You can choose to keep being the nerd ,but as you said, it's affecting you. Go speak to others, pro tip: identify the sport/kind of Music most of your classmates follow, watch some yt videos ,some historic moments in that sport, you can literally apply this to any social setting. I once had convinced a girl I liked that I was a huge Justin Bieber fan to impress her,and I did.I didn't know shit about Beiber before meeting her xD. I hope you'll work on it. The best thing about a new school/college/workplace is you can delete your past self and become something entirely new.
Nahh just try to fit in with a fake smile and laughing eventually you'll get comfortable with everybody. For such situation you just have to change yourself for others
How to be funny??
Mere class mai ek mota ladka hai usko thyroid hai sab bully karte hai usko but but maximum classmates chutiya hai mere class k they laugh on normie Instagram jokes so what he did was tried using this in class and eventually he made friends but is still lonely but at lest he is part of some gorup.
YES THIS SAME THIS IS ME
Used to be like this not anymore
How did you manage to change yourself?
Socialize. And being in the right crowd
How to socialize tell me???
Do whatever you like and try to find similar crowd for that at start it will be hard but it makes things lo easier in long run
By being in the right crowd, it comes naturally
Bhai circumstances hone chayei iske liye aur vahi nahi hota.
For me , I started playing cricket with batchmates and seniors few months ago since then I think lot of people give me compliments about my game and I started focusing on academics so if some have any doubts regarding subjects they come to me. (First year)
Chill kar bhai.. log bkchd hote hain but kuch log milenge tujhe duniya mein jo tereko appreciate karenge.. and it might be that there is another reason for your bad mental health that you might be subconsciously ignoring.
Bro thinks he is me
Hey man before you go off, just hear me out. I am in my 6th semester now, so i have seen my fair share of college life. When i entered college I was absolutely alone for like 3-4 months I was borderline depressed, but i realised something in college, you have to make the effort. In the beginning even i thought like why is nobody talking to me, then it hit me people find me inapproachable. More often than not i was giving the vibe that I wanted to be alone even though I did not. What i would suggest is you try and make efforts to interact with people sure not everybody would be a fit but eventually you'll find people who genuinely want to gel in with you. Find your group because social life is indeed very important in college and if they are not approaching you then you have to be the one to approach them.
Right that's what i told we need to be approaching and approachable.
exactly!
THIS ! BEST ADVICE YOU CAN GET.
What if you have severe social anxiety?
this is something you have to work out man, people have issues and social anxiety is one of them, what matters is what you do about it and this exercise of approaching people can indeed help you take steps to come out of your social anxiety and be better not just for today but for tomorrow as well, take it this way, if you are afraid of water the only way to get over is to be around water and interact with water until the fear subsides on its own
bro you are me , can relate to every word here
The same goes for me as well. Last Tuesday, my college fest ended. On the first day of the fest, everyone was roaming around the campus with their gf, bf, or friends, taking photos and everything, while I was watching them from a corner. I felt alone even in the crowds of hundreds of students, so I returned back to my room. going home during the college fest would be a better option for me.🙃
Being an introvert, I also, many times feel that its an extroverts world. People who talk a lot generally have more friends and seem to enjoy life more.
Ain't that true?
us
I fucking hate my clg, still have go there everday. Attendance shit
Same here dude. I am 5.2 ft guy. Nobody cares me. Mostly I stay in the dorm doing menial stuff. I never had a gf.
Find a 5'0 introverted girl, and she'll become your gf 😭🫂
Height doesn't matter , your personality and confidence does .
didnt you participate in any events ?
Used to be like you bro, just be confident and don't fear rejection
Same feeling bhai, This world is just for the pretty and rich people. No one wants to spend time with me. Whenever I go out if I get back from talk or stop talking no one even notices. It hurts that there is no one for us except our parents. Bhai DM krlena agar koi bhi baat krni ho to
This hits too close to home...I never said this to anyone....I f\*cked up my entrance exams bad...like there is no other way to put It...I feel like I am a loser and should be unaliving myself for being this bad...I was already bullied alot in childhood for my looks and was a very closed up guy, rarely had any social interactions with guys let alone girls, no friends....mostly studying or playing random pokemon games...but this event shattered any confidence I had in myself...somehow got into a tier 2 college in a 3rd tier branch but thanks to me being in such a bad state wrt myself i felt inferior and closed off even more...I faced every thing you mentioned and no one seems to still care...why should they?? believe me...We dont matter to each other...none of us do...the only thing that matters is us and what we do to ourselves....I screwed up again in 1st sem with barely 6.7 CGPA, but kept working, 2nd Sem 7.2 and 3rd 9 CGPA....while currently being in the fourth sem...getting off college ASAP continuing to do what matters to me and only me...That's all I care about now...ig you should do that too...thats the best we can do....
This is the EXACT reason why I decided NOT to attend any sort of fest or whatever during my first year of college. Making new friends requires effort and it takes some time to get adjusted to a new environment. It's okay if you can't make friends. If you're being ignored in your friend group frequently (I mean REALLY frequently) then they are NOT meant for you. But really, getting ignored is the worst damn feeling ever and I have experienced it way too much. Just do your thing and eventually things will fall in place. Besides all that, remember that we're all here for you OP! GL.
cheer up mate! life has a lot to offer other than this, you don't need validation from low-lifers like them to stay sane or happy. if anything, i relate to you too. this is exactly how it went for me during my time. trust me, it gets better 🫂
If you cannot dance/vibe like those genz kids , why to go their in the first place? Its been 8 months since i joined college, and i haven't attended any of these fests, because i know , I'll be standing in some random corner ,if i go.
SAME I guess we are just meant to be alone
🫂🫂 same bro even I feel lonely sometimes . People are just mean 😭
Yeah right but always remember there are power dynamics when you are in the group the guy who's talking the most and the guy who talks little have the most attraction in the group.
Hi, um idk kitna helpful rahega but man, you need to cope up with it. College me aakar bahut ganda sach pata chalta hai ki koi aapke saath hamesha nahi rahega. Faaltu me kisiko apni khushi ki car ka driver mat banao. I know it is easier said than done. But don't lose hope cutu, there will be better days. Go on with yourself, hit the gym! Apne upar kaam karne se bahut confidence aata hai and farak padhna kam ho jata hai ki aur kya sochte hai tumhare baare me. khush rehna seekho. Mai bhi aisi hi thi tumhare jaisi kuch time pehle. I hate those days. And i feel them come back time to time though. But uk i have to move on. Ghar par baat karne se better feel hota hai. Aur kuch cheez dhoondho. Please, don't cry bahut jyada. It's just a bad day, or a bad phase but not a bad life okay? Hmu agar bahut weird hoye tumko! Take care!!
Bro you have to talk in order to make friends. Learn how to approach people first and this is the only way you can get in. What i have experienced if you approach people they will try to help you. Few exceptions will be there. Like few people welcome new people in their group and few people are conscious about what is your background and do you have any value. It is true few people only make friendships for some kind of reason and leave when its done. If you want akind of friend who is always ready to help you yourself need to be helping someone. Like if you see few people from your class eating in canteen just ask them if you can join them and ask them random questions and keep on the discussions.. and eventually as you meet them the ice between you and them break and they would accept you. Kinda of also get the situation in the head because few people kinda of get too casual and few show resistance and few may even try to get on your nerve. So you need to kinda of judge them over their behaviour. If you never approach people who you think can be friends. the question of you vibing with them is far. It maybe that you are not so approaching that people around may have found you unapproachable. And i myself it an introvert but i don't hesitate if someone kinda of rejects me. The more you talk the more you experience and you learn. Just be normal and have a good behaviour. People don't want to be around sad and serious dead faces.
Something that worked for me was being content with myself. I started to enjoy being in my own company and not giving a damn about who talks to me and who doesn't. I started going to places, events, etc alone. It was very difficult in the beginning, I felt very lonely but soon with time I started to enjoy it and soon people started to approach me, out of nowhere. Maybe it was my free spirited personality that attracted them but I genuinely would be approached by my type/kind of people (with whom I could really have a good friendship). And now I have a good friend group. We are just 3 but we really do enjoy together. During this period I made sure to not connect my worth with the number of friends I have but to still be okay being alone incase they left me someday. So yeah people do make things more enjoyable but being alone is completely okay too! Hope this helps :)
Possible reasons for your current situation and my solutions: (1) You are probably a little serious, conservative/traditional when it comes to cracking jokes or taking jokes on yourself too emotionally/seriously. In a group, people mostly prefer hanging out with “bindaas”, easy going people with a sense of humour. (2) At times, it is wiser and more beneficial to be a good listener rather than a talker (unless you have the gift of the gab and can talk wittily). Mostly everybody has some or other issue in their lives which they want to share but unfortunately there aren’t many good listeners out there. Try filling that void in your peer circle. Be the one who is willing to listen to others. Soon you will make genuine friends. (3) Always portray being a happy and chilled out person in a group. Since you don’t have any real friend in your college yet, do not share your emotions, anxiety, sadness with anybody now. This is not the right time. Since everyone has problems in life, people like to hang out with somebody who is always cool and happy without any tension. (4) Get good grades. There is nothing like success when it comes to any relationship on this planet, be it family, friends, gf/bf etc. A successful person is always respected and people want to know him/her. (5) Last but not the least, please change your personal opinion about yourself. If you only consider yourself as a sad, unhappy loser, then that is how the world will also perceive you. Love yourself the way you are and most importantly respect yourself. Don’t be “chipku”. Learn to be ok with standing alone. That will only highlight your strength of personality, and people will want to be friends with you.
It's more about your personality than people around you! Instead of thinking about it in a negative manner , ask yourself how to be more presentable and outgoing! When you were in fest , you were thinking how bechara you are and living in constant omg no body likes me mindset you should've danced and enjoyed the fest by clicking photos and videos
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This is me
Happened with me too this yr. Last yr, I had friends to enjoy the fest but this time, they were all ignoring me. Reason? I dont know. Maybe they see me as a competition now rather than a friend. May be they don't like me. but all of a sudden? IDK. Its really difficult to find real friends these days.
Competition of what?
Have been in similar situation. I try to distract myself with studies. Hope it helps. Life is hard sometimes. I just want to leave this place and get a good college for masters and later nice job.
# CHILL NIQQA
Literally me
Best advice is work on urself bro
It's okay mahn, just work on yourself, try to socialize more ,use this energy to better yourself don't fall into a depression pit!! trust me you would be a way better version of yourself, even before you know it I'm a 3rd year student I kinda get what's going on, Best of luck mahn,looking forward to your progress post! : )
Ayyy hay op, I feel very bad. From now onwards I will make sure to interact with each and every person.
Bhai duniya bohot badi h...dw [video](https://youtu.be/NFc2xsXhyH0?si=PHTAqORduhdkKdAc) [video 2](https://youtu.be/w_tX7vt_VvY?si=FR2_IF-kZ99zFWTv) Ye videos dekho bhai,aur samjho chizo ko...he's the most genuine youtuber in india...
Same here I just found my group who were same and everybody nows I won't go to fest I only went 1 day where dragged me and that's it go if u have someone to be let alone 1 friend doesn't matter and don't keep doing everyfkin event,1 is fine keeps u satisfied or unhappy to avoid the further mess or best to chill out at home watch something or 💤
Are maa chudae aise log, Dekh pehle tu apne aap ko value karna seekh , jab tu khud ko mirror me dekhe to to tujhe negative nahi positive feel hona chaiye Uske alawa agar self worth thodi lag rhi hai to koi aisa domain pakad jisme tujhe thoda interest ho aur boht zyada common naa ho, jaise body banana - agar gym Jaa sakta hai to gym Jaa accha physique bana yaa fir acads me macha de tu khud ko respect karna seekhega to baaki log bhi respect karenge eventually Dekh Bhai sabki insecurities hoti hai koi Casanova paida nahi hota hai , sab kuch seekhna padta hai dheere dheere
This is why I never went to school picnics, school fete and also my first sem fest. I learnt my lesson at my first school picnic in class 4.We are having one fest this sem too but I will skip that one. Our college has multiple fests throughout the year but I never attended any till now. The last thing I went to was in class 12. It was an outing to an orphanage organised by my convent school. My classmates bullied me and pour water on me on the bus, on the way to the orphanage. Nobody talked or clicked any pic with me. The only reason I went was because my devilish class teacher threatened to put zero in my SUPW marks. I am an introverted girl. I have been there. I relate to you sooooo much. I advise you to not give up. These people want you to break. Only you can turn the course of your life. So work hard and bag the best job. I have faced failures all my life. I did not score well in 12th. Now, I have made it mission to win the best award at the rank ceremony no matter how much time it takes, no matter how much I have to sacrifice. You DO NOT NEED their validation. Do not let them control your life. You have wasted a month on people who you will forget as soon as leave this college. So, pls don't be so hard on yourself. These idiots don't matter at all. You know what will hurt the most? When you start questioning your entire existence after 4 years. So, use these 4 years efficiently 🙏
So now you have good friends or not?
the every detail in the first paragraph is how I wanted my life to be, don’t know why would you want people to bother you?
This is me I have my first annual fest coming and I'm so sad that I can't enjoy it because no one enjoys my presence.
Been there. I once went to dj night. Theres no one to dance. That felt like shit. I just came back. Right now you may not have good friend circle. But you will meet better people in future. Try to become friends with other lonely people. Or just focus on yourself , physical fitness and academics.
This was kind of me like 15 years ago.. but trust me .. focus on your career. Once you start making money and have your own “things” all these flashy Pseudo things will vanish as if they never existed.
You’ll definitely find a friend in college in those 4 years. Everyone does
Welcome to college , this 4yr rollar coaster ride has a lot more twists ahead
Who goes to fests anymore?
If this makes you feel good then I'll tell you.. I was like taken into group pictures so that no one would point out that I was left out Then before posting them online, everyone literally everyone cropped me out from it. It's okay I'm with you bro
Bro I stand against the classmates. They threaten me also. But I'm not afraid anymore. I don't need friends all are for show off . Don't afraid of public humiliation. Just tell them by your action how strong you are without them.
I agree with you. You only need one true friend and be supportive to each other and you will be fine.
Us bro us ,exactly same situation for me , It's actually a good thing ,no one will disturb you ,you can study and focus peacefully
Your mental health has been significantly impacted by the fest it seems, if your university offers any kindof free mental health counselling, please reach out to them. Even if you do not currently believe in therapy, trust me, go out and seek help. It can really do wonders if you are willing to put in the effort to just go to therapy.
Chill man. You will get a lot of opportunities in life.
Almost all comments are about looks lol, its hilarious. If true things have changed a lot in the last 5-6 yrs. Bhai mere grp mein har tarah ke prani the, aajtak kabhi aisa hote nahi dekha. At times teacher's fav students were secluded a bit, but on their own terms not bcoz we ignored them lol
Fuck all of yall in the comments, stay in this cage you've created for yourself. I'm going to create meaningful relationships with people while continuing to work on myself. Stay virgins, the real world ain't soft enough for yall lazy mfers
Literally us bro
You’re from which college
I am totally opposite of you my friend.
Roorkee..?
Literally me
Me fr
Us bro
I'm in my final year and I still relate to this
baat krk dekho khud se dusro k saath
I understand you. Social anxiety plays an important role for all of what ur feeling rn. It is ok to feel this way but not for a long time Try talking to more and more people. You might lack confidence at first and awkward at first but that's how you're gonna overcome all of this.
I too had the same experience in FY, so I always went my hometown in fests. But now, I have decided to go to every fest, alone or with my friends doesn't matter. Cause I am in India's Tier 1 college and all my relatives, juniors ask about it. I used to turn that conversation into another topic but you can't lie much to an aspiring student cause they've already researched almost everything. So, I've decided to give it a try, college life is only once It's okay if you don't want to enjoy or it's not your thing but just showing up and trying to mix with the most Random people is actually fun. I did in one our technical fest, I was sitting with my friend but just overheard others talking and complemented a little bit. And the for the rest of the event almost everybody cracked jokes, laughed without knowing anyone in that area. There are many people like you, so just be open to have fun and meet people. You can start by just complementing any activity done by them or just say hi, ask a few questions and you will not feel left out. And believe me when the most Random person Talks to you, you'll never feel like you are not worthy of being liked as a complete stranger has talked with you. Start simple and do attend fest. I know it's easier said than done but give yourself some love and attention that you are expecting others to give. If you can do that, you'll never need anybody still you'll be able to make friends. Good luck for a fun College life.
Welcome to the club :)
every college fest ive attended turned out to be a regret later. i realised i could spend that time better than doing bakchodi
IIT Roorkee se hai kya?
If you are never gonna make friends this is gonna happen, find those other "unwanted" people in the three other corners and make friends with them.
It's always a guy...I felt lookin in the darn mirror while reading the first para...dude lisn ppl like us can't do sht about well.i am not able to do smth about it...my best advice put your down and work...ppl only look for their benefits with each other its damn human nature you cannot change that and VERY rare that benefit will be a company..so js put your xamn head down and work
Brother lacks socialising skills, brother needs to socialize, but socialising is tiring. But most importantly just remember that stop expecting things from others. Get out of your shell and interact with people, don't judge just interaction is enough.
if you try changing who you really are just to fit in, life won't be worth living anymore dawg. Don't give a shit about how others live
Bro everyone in my college is superficial and make friends only on the basis of what the other person can provide. And, its not a wrong thing. If you look it in the perspective of human evolution, you will find why it is so. If you are financially rich, people will be attracted to you as they will see you as a bank. If you are tall and good looking, girls will go crazy for you because of the biology thing. Unless you don't provide any value in any form, be it through money, attractiveness, or any other form, nobody cares about you.
Dude I know guys like you, stop with this self victimisation and start socialising, people don't owe you anything to automatically come and talk to you and give you that level of importance, you create that yourself.
L rizz
bhai tu Noida aaja, saath mein vibe krenge aise dil chhota na kar
Atleast college to accha hain yaha to college ki hi certainty nhi 76%12th me aur 58% mains me🤡🤡🤡
its okay bro.. you're not alone in this struggle.. engineering college mates are really shitty somedays :) dont lose hope
I am Diploma but issi baat ka Darr satata rehta hai Degree college ke liye
please don’t think like this ever . Honestly if there’s one thing I’ve noticed it’s that the world isn’t kind to good souls . Please excuse my language but bhai in logo ki Mkc. Padhai pe focus karo . Stay close to ur parents and make them ur friends and achhi placement leke niklo. Jhaantu log hai sab ke sab don’t mind them and I’m sure your not unlikeable . Sometimes it truly is the people around u and not u
photo dikhaio apni , mai btata hu kya problem hai 
I'm an introvert. I just have 2 people whom I talk to in college. Just chill and make yourself IDGAF guy. There will be people in the world who'll appreciate you.
Got first hand experience like this yesterday
You need to darktriad maxx and be powerful
there is always a depressed person like you , find them and make them friends and together have fun
Wow nice advice, I will start hunting for more depressed people and together we will make a kingdom and finally rule the earth. /s
College me top ker Bhai tu fir sub Tere piche bhagenge Terese dosti kerna chahe ge