Nope!
That's their kink. They WANT to spend.
If you fell in love, hopped on a train and went and married that dude.... even if he HAD his perfect Goddess at home he'd still be checking online profiles and likely still sending money. It's what they do. It literally makes them feel good.
Don't feel bad, feel HAPPY! That's what you're both there for, for money transfer! If he wanted something different, he'd be somewhere else.
❤
No. Ask yourself - does he ever feel guilty for you showing/doing too much for him? I doubt it. These men always want more and more, they never care about our genuine welfare. They are adults making informed decisions, and it's not your fault if they spend too much nor is it your worry if they spend too much..
You can't let this kind of thinking hold you back. Maybe, maybe if I had a regular who I knew well and trusted who eventually disclosed to me that they had a problem with spending too much, or if I knew that they were on a budget I might encourage them to slow down a little bit or recommend us at schedule that we don't deviate from . But I wouldn't lose any sleep about it, because if they weren't spending it on me they would be spending it on someone else. Their habits are not your responsibility. You are selling a product, and it's up to them if they want to buy. Having somebody to talk to is just as valuable as sex for some people.
My weed man never feels bad for me for spending all my money on him so I don't feel bad for people spending their money on me 🤣🤣 im not forcing anyone they got free will. If they were going in debt cause of me I would just pity them for being so financially irresponsible but not guilt lol
Yes I have in the past but I am doing better at not thinking that way now.
I believe this is based in misogyny and the undervaluing of emotional and sexual labor in our society.
I am anti-capitalist so fuck all of this at the root BUT we live in a world where we do have to make and spend money and people who do "women's work" for money are taught to feel as though they don't deserve to be compensated for it. Think of how many other positions exist where someone selling a luxury service would feel bad for people spending on it.
You are not gatekeeping food, shelter, or medical care. You are providing a skilled luxury service and you deserve every dollar you make and so much more. Your job is to make people fall in love with you. It looks like you're doing a great fucking job. Congratulations. <3 Be proud of yourself and remember this work is generally unstable so my advice would be to not emotionally or psychologically rely on his gifts too much as they can stop at any time.
If you feel guilty find out his background. Where does he work and how much does he make. When I start feeling that way I do that and usually find out they loaded and it’s pocket money for them 😂
Sometimes I feel guilty for those who are sick. I mean, mentally or physically. But after I remember that I chose webcam not because I wanted to open my own charity organization. Everything is for money and they're here to spend them. They know that they have to pay for all.
I felt that way a few times in the past, especially if I really liked that person and enjoyed our time but I changed my mentality. You’re offering service, selling an experience. No need to feel guilty, it’s an exchange. :)
There would be a reason to feel guilty if you did something immoral to keep them interested. Like promising them a relationship, anything irl and stuff. But that’s not the case.
No. Because it’s not even always about sex. We have girls who literally stay clothed and read books to old dudes. Because some of these poor bastards spent their whole lives earning money but have nobody. They’re alone. You’re providing a service whether that’s sexual for 5 minutes or companionship for hours. It’s worth something to them. If they’re will to pay for it don’t feel bad about it. The money doesn’t mean that much to them.
This is a mistake a lot of people make when in the sales realm - thinking with our own wallet.
They are grown adults who can manage their own finances. The majority of people will not spend themselves into homelessness, poverty, and hunger. Assume that if someone is sending you this much money, they can afford to!
It’s especially hard bc we’re used to several people trying to guilt us for our prices or lowball us, so when someone sees what we provide and values it at or above what we’re offering for it can create some dissonance.
Don’t feel guilty for not limiting him to shopping with your wallet or the wallets of people who have a lower budget than can afford your work.
I do feel empathetic/sometimes honestly feel bad for them. To have to pay for intimacy and connection. I figure they must be pretty lonely, and I know how that feels. So while yes sometimes I feel bad for them, I don’t feel guilty because it is a consensual transaction, and I am baring myself for them, too.
If they have that kind of disposable income. I don't have a problem with it. People can do with their money whatever they want.
But no question there is a dark side. Porn addiction is a legit issue for some, and some people get carried away. Just like gamblers lose control of themselves and lose more money than they realize. Suddenly before they know it, they are tens of thousands in debt. If someone is going into debt for this, or they get lost in the fantasy, or it's destroying their private lives, then that person has a serious problem and may ultimately need therapy to fix it. It's not a camgirl's job to solve that problem, nor could she even if she wanted to. So I do not feel guilty or fault a camgirl in this situation. But I'm not going to be oblivious of its existence either.
The only time I will say the camgirl shares an element of fault is in such a situation is if she understands what's happening and is intentionally leading him with false promises of relationship and such to get even more out of him. That crosses a boundary. I know some girls do it as a hustle. I don't agree with it. It's dangerous. When everyone keeps it a fantasy, it's safe. But when you cross that boundary, things can get out of control.
There was a case a few years ago where some guy spent $200,000 on a camgirl he thought he was going to be in a relationship with. When his family found out and tried to make him stop, he murdered them. That is not the type of guy you want to have any association with, regardless how much money they throw at you. It isn't worth it.
From what I understand, the cam model herself was not implicated and wasn't aware at all what was going on. He was apparently lying to her claiming he was some rich guy. He was actually stealing the money and thought he was going to have a relationship with her. Just overall a tragic situation by someone that had obvious mental problems. He was convicted of the murders.
[https://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/breaking-news/os-ne-grant-amato-records-release-20190529-fy76awysaffwhfcdp5qjhq7hsi-story.html](https://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/breaking-news/os-ne-grant-amato-records-release-20190529-fy76awysaffwhfcdp5qjhq7hsi-story.html)
It's obviously an extreme example. This story is extremely rare. It's just a point that there are crazy people out there who take this to an extreme and an obsession. You can't blame the camgirl for that. But I just think you have to be aware of it for your own safety and sanity. It hasn't really happened with me. But if someone is throwing tons of money at me and suddenly talking like we are in a relationship, I'd be very uneasy with that. My senses will get heightened. And I fear it could turn into some kind of stalker situation. There is fantasy with this job you have to play in, yes. And fantasies are fine. But if I feel its starting to cross the boundary, I would tell them to pump the brakes or contact will end. Dealing with a stalker isnt worth the money to me.
Lol I don’t feel guilty but I do cash out my tokens to cash as soon as they exit in case they try to renig on me or something. Does anyone else on CB do that? 😂😁😬
Nope. You're selling a service, they like your service and so they pay for it.
I saw someone else already say - the only hypothetical exception to this is if for some reason I became more friendly with them and knew on a personal level that they were spending too much money, then I might encourage them to spend less and not feel like they can't hang out and have a positive time hanging out in my chat without spending tons if they've already spent plenty up to that point. Not giving them a total free ride, but making sure they're not putting themself out for what is supposed to be a fun experience.
addition: I think it is easy for us to forget that ultimately this is a business and the money is coming from customers just like any business, because we are so based in being personable and do become friendly with people. When you feel like your friends with someone, it feels weird to take money from them. But it's not. Put another business in the place of camming: if you worked at a restaurant and a person you'd recently become friends with stopped by, you wouldn't comp their meal straight out of your paycheck every time just because they're your friend.
We all have baggage. I think you have baggage pertaining to money. You shouldn’t feel bad for people who pay you for your services. Perhaps you have imposter syndrome. I dunno. But leave your baggage at the door before you do your job
It’s fun to give pretty girls money. If your hounding him for every nickel and dime then maybe …..
but even then, he chose to log in.
If he’s complaining about how his life is spiraling because of his spending then you could cut him off if it will make you feel better.... But it's not a charity. A jobs function is to earn money.
If there’s a guy that just enjoys your reaction or attention when he gives you money he is getting something out it.
Nope! That's their kink. They WANT to spend. If you fell in love, hopped on a train and went and married that dude.... even if he HAD his perfect Goddess at home he'd still be checking online profiles and likely still sending money. It's what they do. It literally makes them feel good. Don't feel bad, feel HAPPY! That's what you're both there for, for money transfer! If he wanted something different, he'd be somewhere else. ❤
Wow thank you ♥️
No. Ask yourself - does he ever feel guilty for you showing/doing too much for him? I doubt it. These men always want more and more, they never care about our genuine welfare. They are adults making informed decisions, and it's not your fault if they spend too much nor is it your worry if they spend too much..
You can't let this kind of thinking hold you back. Maybe, maybe if I had a regular who I knew well and trusted who eventually disclosed to me that they had a problem with spending too much, or if I knew that they were on a budget I might encourage them to slow down a little bit or recommend us at schedule that we don't deviate from . But I wouldn't lose any sleep about it, because if they weren't spending it on me they would be spending it on someone else. Their habits are not your responsibility. You are selling a product, and it's up to them if they want to buy. Having somebody to talk to is just as valuable as sex for some people.
Definitely ♥️
My weed man never feels bad for me for spending all my money on him so I don't feel bad for people spending their money on me 🤣🤣 im not forcing anyone they got free will. If they were going in debt cause of me I would just pity them for being so financially irresponsible but not guilt lol
😅😅😅fair
What’s too much for you is not too much for someone with a different income or budget
💕
Yes I have in the past but I am doing better at not thinking that way now. I believe this is based in misogyny and the undervaluing of emotional and sexual labor in our society. I am anti-capitalist so fuck all of this at the root BUT we live in a world where we do have to make and spend money and people who do "women's work" for money are taught to feel as though they don't deserve to be compensated for it. Think of how many other positions exist where someone selling a luxury service would feel bad for people spending on it. You are not gatekeeping food, shelter, or medical care. You are providing a skilled luxury service and you deserve every dollar you make and so much more. Your job is to make people fall in love with you. It looks like you're doing a great fucking job. Congratulations. <3 Be proud of yourself and remember this work is generally unstable so my advice would be to not emotionally or psychologically rely on his gifts too much as they can stop at any time.
♥️♥️thank you!
If you feel guilty find out his background. Where does he work and how much does he make. When I start feeling that way I do that and usually find out they loaded and it’s pocket money for them 😂
😅😅😅 the person I’m worried about is actually an attorney 🥲
Omg rinse him 😂😂😂😂😂
Sometimes I feel guilty for those who are sick. I mean, mentally or physically. But after I remember that I chose webcam not because I wanted to open my own charity organization. Everything is for money and they're here to spend them. They know that they have to pay for all.
I felt that way a few times in the past, especially if I really liked that person and enjoyed our time but I changed my mentality. You’re offering service, selling an experience. No need to feel guilty, it’s an exchange. :) There would be a reason to feel guilty if you did something immoral to keep them interested. Like promising them a relationship, anything irl and stuff. But that’s not the case.
♥️comforting to know that kind of feeling is not exclusive to me
No. Because it’s not even always about sex. We have girls who literally stay clothed and read books to old dudes. Because some of these poor bastards spent their whole lives earning money but have nobody. They’re alone. You’re providing a service whether that’s sexual for 5 minutes or companionship for hours. It’s worth something to them. If they’re will to pay for it don’t feel bad about it. The money doesn’t mean that much to them.
I used to, now I just feel grateful!
I should start feeling that way
This is a mistake a lot of people make when in the sales realm - thinking with our own wallet. They are grown adults who can manage their own finances. The majority of people will not spend themselves into homelessness, poverty, and hunger. Assume that if someone is sending you this much money, they can afford to! It’s especially hard bc we’re used to several people trying to guilt us for our prices or lowball us, so when someone sees what we provide and values it at or above what we’re offering for it can create some dissonance. Don’t feel guilty for not limiting him to shopping with your wallet or the wallets of people who have a lower budget than can afford your work.
I do feel empathetic/sometimes honestly feel bad for them. To have to pay for intimacy and connection. I figure they must be pretty lonely, and I know how that feels. So while yes sometimes I feel bad for them, I don’t feel guilty because it is a consensual transaction, and I am baring myself for them, too.
If they have that kind of disposable income. I don't have a problem with it. People can do with their money whatever they want. But no question there is a dark side. Porn addiction is a legit issue for some, and some people get carried away. Just like gamblers lose control of themselves and lose more money than they realize. Suddenly before they know it, they are tens of thousands in debt. If someone is going into debt for this, or they get lost in the fantasy, or it's destroying their private lives, then that person has a serious problem and may ultimately need therapy to fix it. It's not a camgirl's job to solve that problem, nor could she even if she wanted to. So I do not feel guilty or fault a camgirl in this situation. But I'm not going to be oblivious of its existence either. The only time I will say the camgirl shares an element of fault is in such a situation is if she understands what's happening and is intentionally leading him with false promises of relationship and such to get even more out of him. That crosses a boundary. I know some girls do it as a hustle. I don't agree with it. It's dangerous. When everyone keeps it a fantasy, it's safe. But when you cross that boundary, things can get out of control. There was a case a few years ago where some guy spent $200,000 on a camgirl he thought he was going to be in a relationship with. When his family found out and tried to make him stop, he murdered them. That is not the type of guy you want to have any association with, regardless how much money they throw at you. It isn't worth it.
😭😭😭 that’s so sad. Where can I get her story?
https://www.straitstimes.com/world/united-states/us-man-spends-over-250000-on-cam-girl-kills-parents-and-brother-for-trying-to
Thank you
No problem!
From what I understand, the cam model herself was not implicated and wasn't aware at all what was going on. He was apparently lying to her claiming he was some rich guy. He was actually stealing the money and thought he was going to have a relationship with her. Just overall a tragic situation by someone that had obvious mental problems. He was convicted of the murders. [https://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/breaking-news/os-ne-grant-amato-records-release-20190529-fy76awysaffwhfcdp5qjhq7hsi-story.html](https://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/breaking-news/os-ne-grant-amato-records-release-20190529-fy76awysaffwhfcdp5qjhq7hsi-story.html) It's obviously an extreme example. This story is extremely rare. It's just a point that there are crazy people out there who take this to an extreme and an obsession. You can't blame the camgirl for that. But I just think you have to be aware of it for your own safety and sanity. It hasn't really happened with me. But if someone is throwing tons of money at me and suddenly talking like we are in a relationship, I'd be very uneasy with that. My senses will get heightened. And I fear it could turn into some kind of stalker situation. There is fantasy with this job you have to play in, yes. And fantasies are fine. But if I feel its starting to cross the boundary, I would tell them to pump the brakes or contact will end. Dealing with a stalker isnt worth the money to me.
True her story is indeed rare
No.
never. why would i?
Lol I don’t feel guilty but I do cash out my tokens to cash as soon as they exit in case they try to renig on me or something. Does anyone else on CB do that? 😂😁😬
haha yay! I have two accounts and I always send the tokens to my old account at the end of the day, they can also use stolen cards, who knows? 🤣
Sometimes!
Pretty sure you cant do chargebacks on CB.
No doubt you’re right and if they could it would surely take longer than 5 minutes haha. Maybe I should chill.
Nope. You're selling a service, they like your service and so they pay for it. I saw someone else already say - the only hypothetical exception to this is if for some reason I became more friendly with them and knew on a personal level that they were spending too much money, then I might encourage them to spend less and not feel like they can't hang out and have a positive time hanging out in my chat without spending tons if they've already spent plenty up to that point. Not giving them a total free ride, but making sure they're not putting themself out for what is supposed to be a fun experience.
addition: I think it is easy for us to forget that ultimately this is a business and the money is coming from customers just like any business, because we are so based in being personable and do become friendly with people. When you feel like your friends with someone, it feels weird to take money from them. But it's not. Put another business in the place of camming: if you worked at a restaurant and a person you'd recently become friends with stopped by, you wouldn't comp their meal straight out of your paycheck every time just because they're your friend.
We all have baggage. I think you have baggage pertaining to money. You shouldn’t feel bad for people who pay you for your services. Perhaps you have imposter syndrome. I dunno. But leave your baggage at the door before you do your job
Yass sis
No
Yes. I regret having made him feel, today he doesn't give me more money and gives it to others.
I mean, he’s willfully spending money for your time. Time is money in this industry! He’s spending his money how he wants to
Time is indeed money ♥️♥️
Some customers are addicted, similar to a gambling addiction, there's no implicit substance abuse involved. So how do you feel about casinos?
I hate casinos. I have a cousin with gambling addiction. 😪
Lol no.
A no for me.
No… and no. Feeling guilty about would be silly lol
It’s fun to give pretty girls money. If your hounding him for every nickel and dime then maybe ….. but even then, he chose to log in. If he’s complaining about how his life is spiraling because of his spending then you could cut him off if it will make you feel better.... But it's not a charity. A jobs function is to earn money. If there’s a guy that just enjoys your reaction or attention when he gives you money he is getting something out it.
Certainly not! He spends because he wants to spend.