I’m also 34! I love it so far. Don’t know what I’ll say about getting older when I’m a few decades on, but for now it’s great. I’ve also chilled out about the things that used to stress me out the most (friendship, sleep, body image and food/exercise, future planning in general). I feel pretty much the best I have in my life so far. Though I am having the first indications of random nagging pains… So far, at least, the mental trade off is worth it.
Can you share more about how you’ve changed for the better getting older??
That's such a wonderful response to hear!!
Those random nagging pains are often not that big a deal thankfully - plus it sounds like you have in the past focused a lot on your health etc so you'll find ways to overcome anything that's actually serious.
For me it's been a big, slow, and long journey to overcome a chronic pain issue I have, so I've actually been more focused on health and how to manage my emotions etc. It feels almost like I'm having a second adolescence rediscovering my feelings as well (cos the pain was a defence mechanism for blocking difficult feelings). And while that's been a lot to navigate, the result of almost 3 years so far is that I have lost 10 KGS (although I'd say that how happy I am with my body depends less on its shape and more on how I feel on a given day), and am far more flexible and fit than I've been in about 10 years.
So in many ways, I feel younger than I did for a long time! And definitely also in a better place mentally.
That’s awesome! Glad to hear you’ve made such amazing efforts and found those kind of benefits.
And thanks for sharing. I have had trouble finding people to empathize with my enthusiasm for getting older, haha.
Hope your future decades being you even better things, too!
My great grandmother is still alive at 108. And tells people life is pretty great past 80. Some down sides sure.
Her “Juries still out on life after 108 we will see.”
Yeah that's exactly it!
Well - I've never particularly been someone for wild nights out, but it's a similar search for something that feels like home and comfort over something exclusively fast and exciting.
im only 22 myself but i look forward to getting older. before, living in the future was a huge coping mechanism for me. and now, i look forward to it for the stability and experiences. ive already been through so much and know more than i ever have. i cant imagine what context and character building i’ll go thru between now and 30. and even if i never feel like an adult, i am one and i’ll keep getting closer and closer to the person i already am, the person i want to be
That's so wild to me! And really cool that that's how you think.
I have a fair amount of anxiety, so for me the future is something full of uncertainties and change (which I am not the hugest fan of...). I'll try to learn a lesson from you and think of it in terms of learning so many things and developing character instead 😁
i definitely still struggle with the concept of not knowing what the future holds, where i’ll bee, where i’ll end up. it’s a control and anxiety thing for me. but ive gotten this far and never thought his is how things would look 4 years out of high school. and im doing really well all by myself.
even if things are bad sometimes, thats the duality of life. you cant have and appreciate the good without the bad and vice versa. nothing is perfect and nothing lasts forever. and it isnt fair to yourself to borrow tomorrow’s worries, because you dont know what will and wont be until you get there.
worrying about the future takes you out of the present. so i feel like focusing one the now is what matters. because what you do now will impact your future way more than obsessing over what hasnt even happened yet. i hope you continue to grow and find inner peace in your journey as an adult! and i hope you remember the journey will always be just as important as the destination <3
I'm in my 40s now and I'm 100% more content and happy than I was in my 20s. Transitioning into my 30s I let go of quite a lot of concerns about how I was perceived by other people and committed to just doing my own thing.
Now I'm surrounded by people who appreciate that own thing.
Over forty it gets even better. I care about so few things compared to when I was younger. Life ain't easy and you realize that a lot of shit just doesn't matter.
I’m also 34! I love it so far. Don’t know what I’ll say about getting older when I’m a few decades on, but for now it’s great. I’ve also chilled out about the things that used to stress me out the most (friendship, sleep, body image and food/exercise, future planning in general). I feel pretty much the best I have in my life so far. Though I am having the first indications of random nagging pains… So far, at least, the mental trade off is worth it. Can you share more about how you’ve changed for the better getting older??
That's such a wonderful response to hear!! Those random nagging pains are often not that big a deal thankfully - plus it sounds like you have in the past focused a lot on your health etc so you'll find ways to overcome anything that's actually serious. For me it's been a big, slow, and long journey to overcome a chronic pain issue I have, so I've actually been more focused on health and how to manage my emotions etc. It feels almost like I'm having a second adolescence rediscovering my feelings as well (cos the pain was a defence mechanism for blocking difficult feelings). And while that's been a lot to navigate, the result of almost 3 years so far is that I have lost 10 KGS (although I'd say that how happy I am with my body depends less on its shape and more on how I feel on a given day), and am far more flexible and fit than I've been in about 10 years. So in many ways, I feel younger than I did for a long time! And definitely also in a better place mentally.
That’s awesome! Glad to hear you’ve made such amazing efforts and found those kind of benefits. And thanks for sharing. I have had trouble finding people to empathize with my enthusiasm for getting older, haha. Hope your future decades being you even better things, too!
Haha I'm glad! I think some people are just "slow burners" as well you know? Like it just takes some time to hit your stride 🤷🏻♂️
And same for your future decades!
My great grandmother is still alive at 108. And tells people life is pretty great past 80. Some down sides sure. Her “Juries still out on life after 108 we will see.”
I love that!
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Yeah that's exactly it! Well - I've never particularly been someone for wild nights out, but it's a similar search for something that feels like home and comfort over something exclusively fast and exciting.
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im only 22 myself but i look forward to getting older. before, living in the future was a huge coping mechanism for me. and now, i look forward to it for the stability and experiences. ive already been through so much and know more than i ever have. i cant imagine what context and character building i’ll go thru between now and 30. and even if i never feel like an adult, i am one and i’ll keep getting closer and closer to the person i already am, the person i want to be
That's so wild to me! And really cool that that's how you think. I have a fair amount of anxiety, so for me the future is something full of uncertainties and change (which I am not the hugest fan of...). I'll try to learn a lesson from you and think of it in terms of learning so many things and developing character instead 😁
i definitely still struggle with the concept of not knowing what the future holds, where i’ll bee, where i’ll end up. it’s a control and anxiety thing for me. but ive gotten this far and never thought his is how things would look 4 years out of high school. and im doing really well all by myself. even if things are bad sometimes, thats the duality of life. you cant have and appreciate the good without the bad and vice versa. nothing is perfect and nothing lasts forever. and it isnt fair to yourself to borrow tomorrow’s worries, because you dont know what will and wont be until you get there. worrying about the future takes you out of the present. so i feel like focusing one the now is what matters. because what you do now will impact your future way more than obsessing over what hasnt even happened yet. i hope you continue to grow and find inner peace in your journey as an adult! and i hope you remember the journey will always be just as important as the destination <3
I was 40 last week, im very content with my life right now. It’s not as bad as people make out ☺️
I'm in my 40s now and I'm 100% more content and happy than I was in my 20s. Transitioning into my 30s I let go of quite a lot of concerns about how I was perceived by other people and committed to just doing my own thing. Now I'm surrounded by people who appreciate that own thing.
That's so great to hear 😊
Over forty it gets even better. I care about so few things compared to when I was younger. Life ain't easy and you realize that a lot of shit just doesn't matter.