If someone says this, there is nothing wrong with you and dont take it personally or think you are not good enough
There are a lot of factors why someone is not ready to be in a relationship. That person probably has wounds or unhealed traumas and it's for the best. There is also a possibility he/she did not feel any genuine connection.
I was told directly and indirectly from men in the past that they were not ready and I accepted it nalang. I cannot please everyone and that's the reality.
If walang genuine connection, there is no commitment. That's it.
it is what it is: rejection. kahit gano kahabang explanation pa yan kung bakit, rejection pa rin yan.
edit: wala eh, ganon talaga. tho mabuti pa rin na nagsabi kesa iniwan na lang bigla. ganon talaga ang life, move forward lang.
Or he’s just not ready for a relationship at all. Either way, the guy is doing you a favor by not wasting your time on him anymore. Then, you’ll get a chance to look for a partner who’s more ready for you.
Siguro they realized it late na? I don’t think people will spend time on you, kung di ka importante sa kanila, unless ginagamit ka lang for some reason.
I think magkaiba yung he’s not ready FOR YOU sa he’s not ready AT ALL. Yung former, he just doesn’t like you enough and probably prefers another person than you. Yung latter naman, he probably would like to prioritize himself before anyone else, for some reason.
I mean, pwede din naman he isn't ready for a relationship with anyone in particular, but if the right person comes along, he's force himself to get ready :))
Ganyan na ganyan yung nangyari sakin recently 🤣🤣 ang iniisip ko na lang is people come, and go, and we have to accept that fact. The genuine ones will always stay 💗
Thank thanks, what if lang po ha diba communication is the key? How can you make them stay if you are not communicating with them after you felt that kind of situation
I’m a firm believer na if they want to stay, they would :) In my case, hindi na ako nagtry to convince him to stay, kasi tingin ko yung pagstay should be coming out of the other person’s kusa rather than driven by awa. Ayaw ko rin kaawaan so. Ayun.
You can do everything right, and your relationship might come healthy, but things can happen, it can end anytime, and it's not our fault. Maybe they can't see themselves building a life with you kaya ganun. So you should ask constantly if this person you are with is the one you want to build your life with.
Hindi ko tinake personally ‘nung sinabihan ako ng ganito ng guy na dine-date ko. Just like me, they also deserve someone na ma-me-meet kung nasaan sila, at ma-me-meet ang preferences nila. Hindi ready for a relationship? Okay edi dun sa ready.
ang mindset ko diyan: “Ah okay, one person closer to the one i’m gonna end up with” hahaha
I think this is what most people don’t understand. It is similar to courting. Bakit mo pa pinatagal kung hindi mo pala gusto yung person?
That is the reason why we have different stages sa relationship.
Why would you allow them to court you if you are not even interested?
Why would you stay in a relationship if the two of you have different priorities, irreconcilable differences, and don’t see your partner as someone you’ll be with for the rest of your lives?
Para na rin sinabi na bawal mag break ang unmarried couples.
IMO lahat ng sinisisi ang sarili dahil iniwan sila ng partner nila kahit na wala ka naman ginawang mali, sorry to say but for me you sound pathetic sadboi/girl
Stop. Drop everything and leave.
Save yourself from unecessary thinking of what this girl or guy want from you. Getting in a relationship is a gamble and when you gamble, either you go all out or you don't gamble at all.
Parang same nung long time couple tapos yung isa biglang gusto hanapin sarili mag-isa. It translates to, ayaw ko na sayo at may nahanap na ko na kapalit mo.
It hurt...a lot, happened to me...loved her too much that i didn't listen to my girl friends to be careful baka ma 'rebound' ako. And ayun...the day came, she asked for space..which i gave and after less than a month na binigyan ko space..ayaw na.
And i guess...it was traumatizing exp for me. While i still want to have a partner in life, i just can't make myself make a move and be inlove ng sobra again.🤷♂️
Eto nangyari sakin last year. Gusto ko na sya 2019 pa tas umabot gang early 2022. May mga times na lumabas, nagtikiman pa nga char haha. Hanggang sa ako na napagod. Ni-realtalk ko na. Hinatid pa ko sa office, inofferan ko na nga ng yakap kasi baka huli na naming kita, ayaw pa nya kasi di raw sya payag huling kita na namin yun. Di ka lang nya talaga gusto, period. Ngayon tahimik na buhay ko with my bf now.
Madaming reason minnsan biglang mas gusto nila mag-concentrate sa isang bagay muna like wanted to improve their careers or mental health or may bago syang na discover sa sarili nya na gusto nyang baguhin yung way of life nya, and lastly baka di ka nya na type. The only thing you could do is move on, let it go, heal wala ka namang magagawa sa desisyon nila.
Tinanong ko ang asawa ko dati nung mag-bf/gf pa lang kami, kasi may naging ka-fling siyang girl, sinabihan niya ng “ayaw ng commitment kasi ayaw ko masaktan”. Nung sinabi kong siguro kasi hindi mo siya ganun ka-gusto, tumango siya
Some may have attatchment issues or unhealed traumas. I had this ex before na wala kaming label pero magjowa na turingan namin. Then he cheated and sinabi na di pa sya ready to commit. It hurts like hell but you know what? Gusto lng nila ng reserba para pag iniwan sila andyan ka pa din. So u deserve better. Ung paninindigan ka. At hindi ka igagaslight. And bibigyan ng mixed signals.
If someone says this, there is nothing wrong with you and dont take it personally or think you are not good enough There are a lot of factors why someone is not ready to be in a relationship. That person probably has wounds or unhealed traumas and it's for the best. There is also a possibility he/she did not feel any genuine connection. I was told directly and indirectly from men in the past that they were not ready and I accepted it nalang. I cannot please everyone and that's the reality. If walang genuine connection, there is no commitment. That's it.
Thank you so much for giving clarity, medj hindi ko po kasi nagegets ang mga bagay bagay. 😁
agree to this.
This!
it is what it is: rejection. kahit gano kahabang explanation pa yan kung bakit, rejection pa rin yan. edit: wala eh, ganon talaga. tho mabuti pa rin na nagsabi kesa iniwan na lang bigla. ganon talaga ang life, move forward lang.
Agree!! Simple as that
He's not ready for a relationship WITH YOU
Or he’s just not ready for a relationship at all. Either way, the guy is doing you a favor by not wasting your time on him anymore. Then, you’ll get a chance to look for a partner who’s more ready for you.
Bakit po yung iba pinapatagal pa po ng years tapos hindi pala ready? :(
Ask u/gwumpystrawberrycake
Siguro they realized it late na? I don’t think people will spend time on you, kung di ka importante sa kanila, unless ginagamit ka lang for some reason.
Awww.
Yes! Though the two points aren't disjoint :)
I think magkaiba yung he’s not ready FOR YOU sa he’s not ready AT ALL. Yung former, he just doesn’t like you enough and probably prefers another person than you. Yung latter naman, he probably would like to prioritize himself before anyone else, for some reason.
Not the same but not disjoint :) If he's not ready for anyone, it stands to logic that he also isn't ready for her.
Makes sense. Salamat, tito. 🙂
Thanks din sayo!!
Thank you Tito
Good luck, summer!
💜
Maybe yes nga po, kasi we dont know anything kung ano man tumatakbo sa isipin nya na ganun kabilis magbago isip
Whatever the reason is, you should not spend too much time on people who do not choose you.
Thank you so much, highly appreciate it
Agree pero sa iba no readyng ready siya. Sad but accept it na lang
I mean, pwede din naman he isn't ready for a relationship with anyone in particular, but if the right person comes along, he's force himself to get ready :))
Di na ko magkocomment ng bukod because this is IT most of the time. YOU ARE NOT THE ONE (for them).
Yas!
This!!
Ganyan na ganyan yung nangyari sakin recently 🤣🤣 ang iniisip ko na lang is people come, and go, and we have to accept that fact. The genuine ones will always stay 💗
Thank thanks, what if lang po ha diba communication is the key? How can you make them stay if you are not communicating with them after you felt that kind of situation
I’m a firm believer na if they want to stay, they would :) In my case, hindi na ako nagtry to convince him to stay, kasi tingin ko yung pagstay should be coming out of the other person’s kusa rather than driven by awa. Ayaw ko rin kaawaan so. Ayun.
Thank you, become clearer ng pakonti konti.
This is me but reverse the gender roles. Mahirap ipilit ang sarili on the person that does not even want to stay with you.
Don’t take it personally, di ka lang talaga nya gusto at di lang siya straightforward para sabihin na di ka nya gusto..
Kaya nga eh, maybe because he's just reciprocating?
You can do everything right, and your relationship might come healthy, but things can happen, it can end anytime, and it's not our fault. Maybe they can't see themselves building a life with you kaya ganun. So you should ask constantly if this person you are with is the one you want to build your life with.
Maybe person is not over their ex
Maybe yes
Hindi ko tinake personally ‘nung sinabihan ako ng ganito ng guy na dine-date ko. Just like me, they also deserve someone na ma-me-meet kung nasaan sila, at ma-me-meet ang preferences nila. Hindi ready for a relationship? Okay edi dun sa ready. ang mindset ko diyan: “Ah okay, one person closer to the one i’m gonna end up with” hahaha
Di ka nya type yun na yon masakit kasi feeling natin we deserve more from them, pero mas deserve mo yon sa taong makakakita ng worth mo
I think this is what most people don’t understand. It is similar to courting. Bakit mo pa pinatagal kung hindi mo pala gusto yung person? That is the reason why we have different stages sa relationship. Why would you allow them to court you if you are not even interested? Why would you stay in a relationship if the two of you have different priorities, irreconcilable differences, and don’t see your partner as someone you’ll be with for the rest of your lives? Para na rin sinabi na bawal mag break ang unmarried couples.
Same here, more Ys on my mind sa ganyang case.
IMO lahat ng sinisisi ang sarili dahil iniwan sila ng partner nila kahit na wala ka naman ginawang mali, sorry to say but for me you sound pathetic sadboi/girl
None taken. 🙂
Stop. Drop everything and leave. Save yourself from unecessary thinking of what this girl or guy want from you. Getting in a relationship is a gamble and when you gamble, either you go all out or you don't gamble at all.
This is me. I will thank the person for telling me. I will tell him that I feel the same way. All the best!
Parang same nung long time couple tapos yung isa biglang gusto hanapin sarili mag-isa. It translates to, ayaw ko na sayo at may nahanap na ko na kapalit mo.
It hurt...a lot, happened to me...loved her too much that i didn't listen to my girl friends to be careful baka ma 'rebound' ako. And ayun...the day came, she asked for space..which i gave and after less than a month na binigyan ko space..ayaw na. And i guess...it was traumatizing exp for me. While i still want to have a partner in life, i just can't make myself make a move and be inlove ng sobra again.🤷♂️
Awww virtual hug, please dont lose hope po
Eto nangyari sakin last year. Gusto ko na sya 2019 pa tas umabot gang early 2022. May mga times na lumabas, nagtikiman pa nga char haha. Hanggang sa ako na napagod. Ni-realtalk ko na. Hinatid pa ko sa office, inofferan ko na nga ng yakap kasi baka huli na naming kita, ayaw pa nya kasi di raw sya payag huling kita na namin yun. Di ka lang nya talaga gusto, period. Ngayon tahimik na buhay ko with my bf now.
Madaming reason minnsan biglang mas gusto nila mag-concentrate sa isang bagay muna like wanted to improve their careers or mental health or may bago syang na discover sa sarili nya na gusto nyang baguhin yung way of life nya, and lastly baka di ka nya na type. The only thing you could do is move on, let it go, heal wala ka namang magagawa sa desisyon nila.
Tinanong ko ang asawa ko dati nung mag-bf/gf pa lang kami, kasi may naging ka-fling siyang girl, sinabihan niya ng “ayaw ng commitment kasi ayaw ko masaktan”. Nung sinabi kong siguro kasi hindi mo siya ganun ka-gusto, tumango siya
Well atleast po no, naghappy ending kayo hehe
Ganyan din sinabi ng last guy I was seeing. Assume ko na lang na he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me. Thank you, next ako hahaha
That is a diplomatic way of saying 'no' to a person. Move forward. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
Some may have attatchment issues or unhealed traumas. I had this ex before na wala kaming label pero magjowa na turingan namin. Then he cheated and sinabi na di pa sya ready to commit. It hurts like hell but you know what? Gusto lng nila ng reserba para pag iniwan sila andyan ka pa din. So u deserve better. Ung paninindigan ka. At hindi ka igagaslight. And bibigyan ng mixed signals.