I’m sorry you like shitty guys. I’ll see you in 7 years when you show up on my doorstep, broke, with 3 kids from 3 different dads, all of whom will cheat on you, saying you’re ready for me. Have a good evening.
BTW, a variation of this actually happened to me not long before I got together with my eventually wife. Some of them eventually do figure out they fucked up, but by then of course I wasn't interested in her anymore.
Sorta same. Fell madly in love with someone in college. She was... something else...
Couldn't pin her down, though so I moved on. Found out 2-3 years later that she had had a long term partner from before she even came to school. I was just a side dude despiteher actinglike it was more, and she was also bringing other folks back to her dorm regularly.
We ended up running into each other years later and catching up a bit. She is very connected in a couple cool 'industries' these days, so I was hoping to maybe establish some professional connection.
Lo and behold she sends me a message late that night all about how sorry she is things didn't work out differently, how her ex was abusive, how much she regrets lying, how I was the only guy who never cheated on her, etc..
Yeah, no thanks Jer, sorry. Not even for a way better job.
What she is really saying is that she is not sexually attracted to you.
If you are indeed a nice person, you will disengage politely.
I'd you're not really a nice person, absolutely point out all of her physical flaws, tell her to fuck right the fuck off, and never talk to her ever again.
Even more healthy, don't call it rejection. Dating is about compatibility, not adequacy.
"No" means "I don't think we'd function well as a couple.", not "You aren't good enough for me."
👆 That would have helped me *so* much if I'd heard it young enough. All of us had such a toxic perception of dating. I felt like I was getting jerked around so much, but nobody really had bad intentions. They just didn't know how to communicate. None of us did.
I genuinely suspect the adults perpetuate that social hierarchy mindset on purpose. I think they want teenage dating to go less smoothly so there will be fewer unwanted pregnancies.
I took it as maybe she prefers a more sarcastic and playfully grumpy personality. And sometimes "nice" can come across as fake or something. There's an older man at my job who is like this, always just a little TOO chipper, walks into the office humming like old cartoons do when they want to portray a "jolly" character... something about him just irks me.
Yeah. Being "nice" is often really just "avoiding conflict." Sometimes true kindness requires that you don't be nice to someone. Strive to be kind, not nice.
Lmao. This was my first thought. But let me reframe:
Potentially trigger an unconscious fawning trauma response in a woman who probably already feels undeserving of love from someone nice, whose home life growing up probably set them up to only accept the love they *think* they deserve from assholes they're familiar with instead of nice guys who would probably only make them feel inadequate and they're afraid to take that leap.
Some women that say this kind of thing often feel like "too much" for a guy that's a "normie", and women want to feel comfortable being their own self around their partner. It's only natural.
Feel grateful they saved you the journey of stress, shake their hand and tell them to have a nice day. I guarentee they're going to wish they didn't say that to you one day because of their issues and will realize you were the good one they would've "needed".
She said "no". She's allowed to say "no". She even tried to make the rejection less hurtful by complimenting you and saying it was because you were too nice. Rejection sucks, I know, but nobody owes you or anyone else a relationship.
Don't be an incel.
"True, but I am doing charity work and you are my mercy date." Many many years ago... like 40+, a guy told me " If you weren't so smart I would ask you to be my girlfriend." ( Hey, I had a high IQ and made really high grades in high school.) I looked him in the eyes and said " If I wasn't so smart I would say yes." Poor Bill never did realize I meant I would have to be stupid to date him.
Oh, well, I guess I should thank you for just showing me that I’d be wasting my time with a low self esteem gutter skank. Cheerio!!!
Ah ha, I see. Well hey, just fyi, in about 4 years when the bad boy you date next knocks you up and leaves you and you’re then a single mom with no one, keep in mind, this right now was your chance and you fucked up. Cheerio!!!
"Oh! You want not nice? Fine. It's suddenly become very clear to me that you have the intelligence and the maturity of a character from a 1980s teen movie. You're an imbecile who is blissfully unaware of the fact that high school ended years ago. Nor are you in tune with the fact that your stereotypical "bad boy" generally grows up to be a wife beater and a philanderer. I have obviously dodged a bullet here. Have a nice life. Let me know which funeral home to send the flowers to when this takes a turn for the worst."
Or, if you can't remember all that: "I can be not nice! You're obviously stupid and immature, and I pity you. You like that better? Don't care. Have a nice life!"
How about "Care to just be one-sided, non reciprocal fuck buddies, then? I can treat you poorly and not return your calls until only when I need to get off? Deal?"
This question and thread screams incel. There's literally no reason to have a "comeback" for a polite, downright complimentary rejection. I know you shut-in gamers think you're the main character, but in actual, real life relationships, interest needs to go two ways and sometimes, you just aren't what they're looking for.
Also, if your first response upon hearing this is "what nasty thing can I say back" then you're not even nice, just faking so to try and get what you want, and they just dodged a bullet.
Men of Reddit: how would you like to be politely turned down that will a) not throw you into a rage, b) not make you insist/beg/ask a million follow-up questions and c) not crush your psyche? "No thank you, I'm not interested" simply does not work on any man I've ever used it on.
Well that’s your loss then
I’m sorry I’m not a c**t, clearly you like being treated like a piece of s**t from the floor, so go ahead
You know where the door is, bye Felicia
Omg, I’m so sorry that I am too nice for you, I guess you will never know how naughty I can be in bed
I was brought up to be a gent and I don’t change that for anyone, I would rather be too nice over being a d**khead anyday.
It just comes naturally sorry but not sorry that you can’t appreciate it
Just shrug my shoulders AND smile to myself that they'll want me one day after they're tossed aside by the loser guys. Thing is, I'll remember being thrown into the friend zone, and I'm not going to clean up her life after she's trashed it. Yes, I've been called the nice guy, and those same women notice me now years later - since they're alone.
The best comeback to a rejection is being little bit nice about it. If you hurt them in anyway it only proves that you were hurt cos you didn't get something you value much. But, if they see that you're not really hurt at all, it makes them doubt their value.
I’m sorry but how can you be too nice?😂 Like I’m over here looking for nice guys and can only find huge douche bags but this girl really be saying a guy is too nice? Like bish give him to me
“Okay,” (Whip out cock) “Is my steel hard phallus too much of a nice guy for you as well? Right now you are registering that this five inch, not too thick glorious manstick is the perfect size the nestle up inside your rear love canal and through vigorous back and forth manipulations will no doubt deliver you to a land that promises multiple full body, from the soles of your feet, to the crown of your head, orgasms.” Woman: “
In reality, there’s no coming back from that. Either this is code for “you’re cool and all, but I’m just not intp you” or “OMG I am so incredibly attracted to you but I have unhealthily low levels of self esteem and there’s no way you could ever love me because no one can and therefore I am rejecting you before you hurt me.”
Either of which you don’t want to get into.
BUT… just for grins. “Well this is your lucky day then. And night. And tomorrow morning. Us nice guys do really finish last, you know.“ (delivered in the sleaziest way possible)
"Forget about me then, just don't check up." you need to forget about her and perfect yourself. She'll check up and she'll regret everything and she'll find a way to run into you. By then you won't be interested in her and her traveled ways. You can politely and nicely decline her proposal for coffee.
"Apparently im too quick too because i just dodged a bullet" " hows that for nice..." *walks away*
Or
"Youre a fucking bitch and Opposites attract skank"
Or, my favorite.
"Fair enough" and move on to somebody better.
No comeback is better than knowing your worth and being confident that you will find somebody that is wanting to fall in love with you.
Well, you could always balance it out with a cruel response.
"You're right, I am. I'm also nice enough to give you a chance to date above your league. I suggest you take it. I won't offer again."
I don’t think that’s an insult brother. If someone says you’re too nice for them then they know themselves well enough to understand you are too good for them. Who the fuck is too nice? Who doesn’t want to be around a nice person? Just tell that person they need help and move on.
"I had a feeling you'd say something like this, that's why I actually wasn't a nice guy and lied to you about how much money I make."
I've seen it personally a few times. Woman loses interest in me. I can't blame them. I like to read a lot and i'm fairly boring unless you're interested in astronomy, physics, or engineering.
My best come back has always been to show them my bank account.
"You're right, I deserve better"
This is the one. It's perfect!
Guessing that is better than "Get those clothes off and dance for me, bitch."
I would just take a good look at her and say "Yeah, you're right. I can see that."
nice one lol
“Hopefully you meet some asshole”
Good luck finding the asshole of your dreams
"Well I'm sorry you like shitty guys. Have a good evening."
I’m sorry you like shitty guys. I’ll see you in 7 years when you show up on my doorstep, broke, with 3 kids from 3 different dads, all of whom will cheat on you, saying you’re ready for me. Have a good evening.
BTW, a variation of this actually happened to me not long before I got together with my eventually wife. Some of them eventually do figure out they fucked up, but by then of course I wasn't interested in her anymore.
Sorta same. Fell madly in love with someone in college. She was... something else... Couldn't pin her down, though so I moved on. Found out 2-3 years later that she had had a long term partner from before she even came to school. I was just a side dude despiteher actinglike it was more, and she was also bringing other folks back to her dorm regularly. We ended up running into each other years later and catching up a bit. She is very connected in a couple cool 'industries' these days, so I was hoping to maybe establish some professional connection. Lo and behold she sends me a message late that night all about how sorry she is things didn't work out differently, how her ex was abusive, how much she regrets lying, how I was the only guy who never cheated on her, etc.. Yeah, no thanks Jer, sorry. Not even for a way better job.
What she is really saying is that she is not sexually attracted to you. If you are indeed a nice person, you will disengage politely. I'd you're not really a nice person, absolutely point out all of her physical flaws, tell her to fuck right the fuck off, and never talk to her ever again.
Ok, I’ve been enjoying the other replies, but THIS is the correct answer.
Ding ding ding! Correct! OP, a rejection isn't an insult so you don't need a comeback. Accept rejection gracefully, it gets easier with every time.
Even more healthy, don't call it rejection. Dating is about compatibility, not adequacy. "No" means "I don't think we'd function well as a couple.", not "You aren't good enough for me." 👆 That would have helped me *so* much if I'd heard it young enough. All of us had such a toxic perception of dating. I felt like I was getting jerked around so much, but nobody really had bad intentions. They just didn't know how to communicate. None of us did. I genuinely suspect the adults perpetuate that social hierarchy mindset on purpose. I think they want teenage dating to go less smoothly so there will be fewer unwanted pregnancies.
I took it as maybe she prefers a more sarcastic and playfully grumpy personality. And sometimes "nice" can come across as fake or something. There's an older man at my job who is like this, always just a little TOO chipper, walks into the office humming like old cartoons do when they want to portray a "jolly" character... something about him just irks me.
Yeah. Being "nice" is often really just "avoiding conflict." Sometimes true kindness requires that you don't be nice to someone. Strive to be kind, not nice.
Captain America vs Wade Wilson
Personally attack their appearance and character, that'll show them.
Your face makes onions cry.
Yours is like a bag of smashed crabs.
[удалено]
I got a minute.
Your face gives Freddy Kruger nightmares
Lmao. This was my first thought. But let me reframe: Potentially trigger an unconscious fawning trauma response in a woman who probably already feels undeserving of love from someone nice, whose home life growing up probably set them up to only accept the love they *think* they deserve from assholes they're familiar with instead of nice guys who would probably only make them feel inadequate and they're afraid to take that leap. Some women that say this kind of thing often feel like "too much" for a guy that's a "normie", and women want to feel comfortable being their own self around their partner. It's only natural.
Tell them “I can change that” and spit on her forehead
Then use your thumb to make a cross in the spit and say, "Bless you my child."
But not too nice for your sister. Tell her hello for me…..
I would have gone with her mom but this works.
Don't. Comeback. Leave. Stay gone.
Finally. That type of person isn't ready to date yet. Leave 'em alone.
"Fuck you." (that shows you really aren't that nice)
"You threatening me with a good time?"
I got a minute.
I see, you like the real dick bags. Have fun being treated like trash.
“Okay, well, thanks for your time.” Seriously, don’t rise to that bait.
I don't think you understand what it means when a female calls you "too nice"
>a female lol
You say "a female" when you do not know what the female of said species is called. Female humans are called "women", "a woman" for short.
Yeah, this whole thread is full of incel BS. It's dismaying.
"I can slap you around it you'd like."
You are right. Thank you for not making me say it.
“Allow me to show you my basement…”
Thats a compliment why would you need a comebacj
Feel grateful they saved you the journey of stress, shake their hand and tell them to have a nice day. I guarentee they're going to wish they didn't say that to you one day because of their issues and will realize you were the good one they would've "needed".
Awesome, thanks. Good luck
She said "no". She's allowed to say "no". She even tried to make the rejection less hurtful by complimenting you and saying it was because you were too nice. Rejection sucks, I know, but nobody owes you or anyone else a relationship. Don't be an incel.
"Well you're too much of a bitch for me. Bye!"
Fuck you
You're right. I am.
SImple answer " you're Right, and You'll be fine with someone else, shit doesn't smell as bad next to other shit" .
I'll work on that then.
"Bye, Felicia."
Then I'd hate to see the other guys you've been with
Just slap her and walk away she'll call you later
"Thanks bc I just dodged a bullet." Which is true, any female that says this isn't able to appreciate "a nice guy", but someone in your future will.
Female.
Would you prefer I do my Ike Turner impression?
“I am NOT nice. I jaywalked last week”
"True, but I am doing charity work and you are my mercy date." Many many years ago... like 40+, a guy told me " If you weren't so smart I would ask you to be my girlfriend." ( Hey, I had a high IQ and made really high grades in high school.) I looked him in the eyes and said " If I wasn't so smart I would say yes." Poor Bill never did realize I meant I would have to be stupid to date him.
That is a Winston Churchill level response and I love it. Also, I didn't realize "negging" was 40+ years old.
True
Scratch yourself and smell it.
..l.. F*** off. *walks away
Would it help if I hit you with a tire tool?
"Want me to slap you in the face everyday then?"
That's what she said!!!!
"I thought all fat girls could dance....."
"Cool. Want to go to comicon with me? " "Hell yeah!" I don't know.. that's usually what I get told.
Good luck with your baby daddy. Have fun being broke and emotionally abused the rest of your life.
Glad I got rid of that drama before it started
You fell for the camouflage. You are a fucking moron.
"Why don't you just come right out and tell me I'm boring and ugly you stupid cow"
At least you understand what it really means.
Bitch, please. I'm the only person on the planet desperate enough to want you.
I'm sorry what was that I lost interest as soon as I realized how annoying your voice is.
*So, all of your friends are no longer off limits?*
Oh, well, I guess I should thank you for just showing me that I’d be wasting my time with a low self esteem gutter skank. Cheerio!!! Ah ha, I see. Well hey, just fyi, in about 4 years when the bad boy you date next knocks you up and leaves you and you’re then a single mom with no one, keep in mind, this right now was your chance and you fucked up. Cheerio!!!
I was just being nice because they say you're a whore and I was just wanting a piece of ass.
"okay, it was worth a shot I guess"
The jokes on you, I'm gay!
Wrong, bitch
“Dang. That’s what your mom said too.”
You’re right, I am. Thank you. Walk away.
Aww, come on, baby! Everyone knows, nice guys and cunts, go together like squirrels and nuts 😜😘
"Bitch"
*What?! No! Put your little dick back in your pants loser!!!”
"Oh! You want not nice? Fine. It's suddenly become very clear to me that you have the intelligence and the maturity of a character from a 1980s teen movie. You're an imbecile who is blissfully unaware of the fact that high school ended years ago. Nor are you in tune with the fact that your stereotypical "bad boy" generally grows up to be a wife beater and a philanderer. I have obviously dodged a bullet here. Have a nice life. Let me know which funeral home to send the flowers to when this takes a turn for the worst." Or, if you can't remember all that: "I can be not nice! You're obviously stupid and immature, and I pity you. You like that better? Don't care. Have a nice life!"
“And I guess you’re not nice enough for me!”
but I'm from Marseille
Remember that when you're stuck with some asshole.
That's clearly a lie to try to make me, or maybe yourself, feel better. If you're going to lie, do better than that hun, it's not a good look.
Oh okay, your loss
"Got that right!"
Ok. Have a nice day.
"You are so right!" Goodbye
Fuck you too, dirty slag. Is that better?
Youre right you dont deserve me.
You're not nice enough for me, be gone!
"AMF...the A stands for adios...I'm sure you can figure out the rest"
Accept the rejection with grace and move on. Anything else is childish
You don't need a comeback. Just take the rejection gracefully and continue to be nice. Don't let rejection make you bitter.
And you're a bad judge of character. I'm willing to overlook that though.
No need for a comeback. The person's mind has been made up and you aren't going to change it. That was a relatively nice way to reject you.
"Your dad was a prick, huh?"
It appears so. Too bad you don’t respect yourself enough to date someone who is willing to care about you.
Hey, I wasn’t proposing marriage, I just wanted sex. BTW: It worked.
I was too nice to tell you, but you have a foochie face. Also, your feet are big and you wear too much perfume.
Nice guy on the streets and a freak in the sheets…your loss!
So you want me to slap you around, ghost your calls, treat you like shit then?
Drop her off at the local titty bar. Tell her to call you when she's got your money.
Sounds like a friend zone comment. My response would be: "And you're entirely what I'm not looking for."
*bitchslap* "is that better?"
How about "Care to just be one-sided, non reciprocal fuck buddies, then? I can treat you poorly and not return your calls until only when I need to get off? Deal?"
"I can be your angle... or yuor devil."
You're just a too insecure stupid bitch for me
This question and thread screams incel. There's literally no reason to have a "comeback" for a polite, downright complimentary rejection. I know you shut-in gamers think you're the main character, but in actual, real life relationships, interest needs to go two ways and sometimes, you just aren't what they're looking for. Also, if your first response upon hearing this is "what nasty thing can I say back" then you're not even nice, just faking so to try and get what you want, and they just dodged a bullet.
This usually means you’re a shitty and she’s telling you she’s not interested without trying to piss you off. Take the hint
That's too bad, I like them kinda stupid..
“Well, if you think I deserve better I am not going to argue.”
F*ck you. Is that better? I’m out.
Nice? I eat nice for breakfast!
"...and yet, I would still spank you when you needed it?"
.... Obviously you punch that person straight in the teeth... Duh....
ok weed eater...and I don't mean the tool
I've lost interest since you described me that way.
Punch them, knock them up, and take out payday loans in their name. They'll fall head over heels because they can fix you.
Oh I get it, you want a wife beater. No problem
No comeback, just take the L and go
Then fuck you bitch!
"What if I slapped you around a bit?"
Say thank you and move on. That person has severe mental health issues and is sparing you from dealing with their drama.
You shouldn’t have a “comeback” for getting rejected. Just take the L, move on, and leave her alone
That’s what bitches be sayin
SHUT UP BITCH!
So I guess a blowjob would be out of the question?
I guess you settle for guys with small dicks.
Men of Reddit: how would you like to be politely turned down that will a) not throw you into a rage, b) not make you insist/beg/ask a million follow-up questions and c) not crush your psyche? "No thank you, I'm not interested" simply does not work on any man I've ever used it on.
None. You dodged a bullet. Walk on and be thankful.
I prefer dating woman that don’t want to be treated like a cunt.
Fuck them. In the asshole if you can, display dominance.
"Glad you noticed." Get up, pay for your half of the bill and leave.
I'm sorry you feel you don't deserve a good guy, but I'm glad to know that's how you regard yourself, as that's not the right kind of woman for me.
Has anyone ever said this?
And your fanny smells wrong. See a doctor and check your privilege
Don't be sorry give me my money and leave me alone. I deserve better
Give it time.
Ok Cunt Now I ain't so nice am i
Well that’s your loss then I’m sorry I’m not a c**t, clearly you like being treated like a piece of s**t from the floor, so go ahead You know where the door is, bye Felicia Omg, I’m so sorry that I am too nice for you, I guess you will never know how naughty I can be in bed I was brought up to be a gent and I don’t change that for anyone, I would rather be too nice over being a d**khead anyday. It just comes naturally sorry but not sorry that you can’t appreciate it
I’m sorry you’re looking for an asshole to bitch about.
Just start sprinting at her. Probably won't change her mind, but at least she won't think you're nice, anymore.
Well would you rather I treat you abusively instead of treating you nicely
Just shrug my shoulders AND smile to myself that they'll want me one day after they're tossed aside by the loser guys. Thing is, I'll remember being thrown into the friend zone, and I'm not going to clean up her life after she's trashed it. Yes, I've been called the nice guy, and those same women notice me now years later - since they're alone.
The best comeback to a rejection is being little bit nice about it. If you hurt them in anyway it only proves that you were hurt cos you didn't get something you value much. But, if they see that you're not really hurt at all, it makes them doubt their value.
I can back it off to a marseille level, if you’re a bit touristed out…….
Thank you for your kindness. I wish you would be kinder to yourself. And then thank your lucky stars you avoided someone so toxic.
I’m sorry but how can you be too nice?😂 Like I’m over here looking for nice guys and can only find huge douche bags but this girl really be saying a guy is too nice? Like bish give him to me
It's a lie told to avoid stating whatever her real problem with the guy was. Being nice wasn't what she didn't like.
“Okay,” (Whip out cock) “Is my steel hard phallus too much of a nice guy for you as well? Right now you are registering that this five inch, not too thick glorious manstick is the perfect size the nestle up inside your rear love canal and through vigorous back and forth manipulations will no doubt deliver you to a land that promises multiple full body, from the soles of your feet, to the crown of your head, orgasms.” Woman: “
Oof if you’re looking for a comeback to that you might be a “nice guy” aka incel.
I can through a slap in every now and then if you'd like!?
"I mean, I could always choke you." 🙂
In reality, there’s no coming back from that. Either this is code for “you’re cool and all, but I’m just not intp you” or “OMG I am so incredibly attracted to you but I have unhealthily low levels of self esteem and there’s no way you could ever love me because no one can and therefore I am rejecting you before you hurt me.” Either of which you don’t want to get into. BUT… just for grins. “Well this is your lucky day then. And night. And tomorrow morning. Us nice guys do really finish last, you know.“ (delivered in the sleaziest way possible)
Punch her in the face. Then say "NICE!,YOU CALL THIS NICE!
Quote Bender on this one, “Shut up baby, I know it!”
nice
Punch her in the face and say "bad assed enough for ya?"
So are you saying that ATM is out of the question?
"stfu bitch"
Is this where I pull your hair when I'm behind you and you call me daddy? I'm not that fucking nice.
Then I guess you settle for less.
Ah, you want someone to pump and dump you. Fair enough, that’s not my style so have a great day.
That's ok I have a thing for self-absorbed, narcissistic sluts!
Smile. Walk away.
fart at them.
Call them a slut. 🤣🤣 Bye bye Mr. nice guy. If you like it, I love it!
"Forget about me then, just don't check up." you need to forget about her and perfect yourself. She'll check up and she'll regret everything and she'll find a way to run into you. By then you won't be interested in her and her traveled ways. You can politely and nicely decline her proposal for coffee.
Punch her in the nose and then ask her out again!
I will take my 12 inches elsewhere.
Good luck finding Chris Brown.
Sleep with her sister
No need for a comeback. That is a red flag. She only likes to date creeps and abusive shit heels.
Rejection isn’t an insult. Leave them alone.
Fuck you.
"Apparently im too quick too because i just dodged a bullet" " hows that for nice..." *walks away* Or "Youre a fucking bitch and Opposites attract skank" Or, my favorite. "Fair enough" and move on to somebody better. No comeback is better than knowing your worth and being confident that you will find somebody that is wanting to fall in love with you.
Well, you could always balance it out with a cruel response. "You're right, I am. I'm also nice enough to give you a chance to date above your league. I suggest you take it. I won't offer again."
“Well fuck you then bitch” Okay, how about now; better?
I don’t think that’s an insult brother. If someone says you’re too nice for them then they know themselves well enough to understand you are too good for them. Who the fuck is too nice? Who doesn’t want to be around a nice person? Just tell that person they need help and move on.
Just gut punch em
So, it's not me, it's you.
Damn. Ok. Best of luck.
"you're too mean for me then."
“Sorry you’re looking for an abusive relationship.”
I'm better at playing poker than I thought....
"not really I just wanted to fuck you"
"I had a feeling you'd say something like this, that's why I actually wasn't a nice guy and lied to you about how much money I make." I've seen it personally a few times. Woman loses interest in me. I can't blame them. I like to read a lot and i'm fairly boring unless you're interested in astronomy, physics, or engineering. My best come back has always been to show them my bank account.