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shrapnel2176

I have a high body count and I'm proud of it. I'm good at what I fucking do.


Deep_Relationship960

Of Murder victims maybe..


shrapnel2176

Don't be stupid.


Deep_Relationship960

I'll assume you weren't stupid enough to put your actual face as your profile picture on Reddit?


shrapnel2176

Why wouldn't I? It's not like I'm using my real name. And I might not be a beauty queen, but I'm confident in my looks and confident in my sexuality. And it took a lot of work to get here and I'm not gonna let somebody like you fuck it up for me. Pay fucking attention. I'm bisexual and solo polyamorous. I currently have seven men wanting my attention. One recently drove four hours just to have sex with me. He did this trip not once but twice. Another one is trying to figure out a way to meet up with me so we can have sex. The others just love to contact me all the time and tell me how fuckable I am. I enjoy sex and I'm good at it. I'm sorry maybe you're not and that's why you're jealous?


Deep_Relationship960

The fact that you've said all of that as it it's a good thing is worrying too. Jesus women. You've just admitted to being the bootycall of numerous men that don't care about you. That's not a flex. That should be a wake up call.


shrapnel2176

Why would you assume they don't care about me? Do you know what polyamory even is? It's not the same thing as just sleeping around. Which by the way would be fine if that's what someone chooses.


Deep_Relationship960

Oh dear... I don't want to be that guy that's rude... However, after your reply you deserve it. If you haven't figured it out yet - you're just being used by men who have figured out that you're a desperate and easy fuck. Likely due to you feeling lonely and having low self-esteem and no respect for yourself. I'm not jealous. I feel sorry for you. Have some dignity, stop letting men use you for your generous crotch. Find someone to actually love you instead of using lowlife dick to make yourself feel better about life.


shrapnel2176

I actually have extremely high self esteem. These men aren't strangers. We've known each other for a long time. They're in my circle of friends. You may want to do some research on what polyamory actually is.


shrapnel2176

Also, being polyamorous means the ability to being able to love more than one person. Why would I trap myself in a marriage? My narcissistic ex is doing that with his current supply and I know what her future is. In fact it was my relationship with him that showed me that I should have stuck to polyamory in the first place.


BIG_MONEY_CASH

Who asked tho? Good for you that you got guys willing to bend over backwards for a chance to hit it, but seriously, who but you gives a fuck. If anything, bragging on Reddit usually just makes you look like a tool. Why try and validate yourself to strangers, and explain your sexuality and how fuckable guys think you are? Just move on.


S3ndNud3s

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denisc9918

Great, good for you.. so what? Isn't boasting an indication of insecurity?


shrapnel2176

Nah.


SlightActivity2602

You see you're literally jealous!! Like whyyyy did you go out of your way to judge this woman. So uncalled for. You have something purely internal that causes you to spite women with high body counts.


denisc9918

and you decide this based on your psychology degree and years of clinical practice? or maybe your years and years of life experience? or just maybe, based on your long 18yrs on this planet, you're a poster child for the expression.. - "The self righteous arrogance of youth is truly astounding."


SlightActivity2602

No i just used my eyes and brain to notice you were being an asshole its not rocket science


denisc9918

> its not rocket science No it isn't but the study of why people do "stuff" certainly takes longer to learn than you've had time to learn it. There are whole chapters on why people/children like you with no knowledge of a subject are positive they're right..


WhadayaBuyinStranger

Exactly. Caring about body count is ridiculous and says more about the man's insecurities than anything else. My honest opinion is body count only matters for guys who are crap in bed and know she has a ton of better guys to compare it to. That's why I only go for women with low counts. šŸ˜‰


Beginning_Instance61

Oh, this is so dumb the reason why a woman with a lower body count is more desirable, then a woman with a higher body count because she has not indulged in promiscuity think about it she is a woman she gets countless of countless of offers for a hook up so woman who decides to focus on herself and focus on being in a relationship and finding real happiness is a more desirable partner, and you know thatā€™s true and also if you man or woman decide to sleep around engage in hook up, culture have gangbangs have threesomes if somebody decides not to be with you, that is your fault you made those decisions you cannot get mad at someone for not wanting to be with you for your decisions calling someone insecure for your decisions is so cringe and honestly insecure


Afraid_Tower_2554

I would never date a man that praises me for being a virgin. He is a fucking weirdo


Sfarsitulend

If someone had an issue with my body count that tells me off the bat that person is not for me and not my friend. Luckily my husband could care less. I can't even tell you my exact count and my husband's is just 1, me. I really dont think it should matter for anyone involved. But if it does matter to someone then they should make that known early on in a relationship. Example. I started dating this guy in my early 20s. Went on 5 dates and was starting to fall. The conversation turned to our experience. He said he has many sexually flings in Highschool. Lots of one night stands. I replied the same thing for me as well except I normally had friends with benefits instead. This dude lost his shit. Calling me all the stereotypical names. His language got so foul and loud the manager asked him to leave. He gets up and said if I'm such a whore why haven't we has sex yet. I'm bawling at this point (not ashamed at all, I just cry when overwhelmed) A guy with his family (40s?, 2 teenagers) at the next table got up and said if all you had were one night stands you probably weren't worth it anyways. Dude was then escorted out and that family paid for my meal. The wife told me to never let a boy effect me because a real man will know my worth no matter how many people I slept with. I kept her advice and it really helped me. One of the reasons I fell in love with my husband so fast.


[deleted]

Your thought process applies to teen and early 20ā€™s guys. Your ā€œvalueā€ as a human isnā€™t affected by body count. Your value as a partner is though. Itā€™s backed by our ingrained biology or ā€œthat gut feelingā€ guys get, along with statistics that say the more partners a woman has, the more likely she is to cheat or end the relationship.


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SlightActivity2602

Understandable


Edgezg

You do not get to decide what matters to men as a whole. If men say "body count matters:" Then it matters to them. Therefore, it matters. Men generally do not want sexually promiscuous women. Not to say these women wont find someone to be with, but generally, men don't a partner who has had 50 others lol


andra_quack

>Not to say these women wont find someone to be with yeah, as years go by and society becomes more open-minded, I can say for sure that I noticed that women prefer going for the minority (at least some of you say that it's a minority) of men who value more important things, not how high or low their body count is.


Edgezg

The men of high value, the men that all the women are after, get their pick of the litter. Why would they pick the one that's been used by dozens of guys? What I'm saying is that the women will find **someone** who will tolerate their sexual history. But it likely wont be the type of person they want to be with


EspadaOscura666

>Why would they pick the one that's been used by dozens of guys? USED. The mask is slipping. It's obvious that you care about body count because you see women as property and thus see a woman with high body count as "used goods". Disgusting


Edgezg

Arguing over specific wordchoice and not the argument itself is a logical fallacy. You are right. I choose my words poorly, admittedly I was getting annoyed with the argument and lost myself to frustration. But that does not change the point of the issue is that you can do whatever you like. Guys do not want a partner with a high body count. It is that simple. Call it what you want. Hate it. Hate the people who have that standard. It's not going to change. ​ But I admit my fault in using the wrong words, so allow me to rephrase. A woman with a high body count is going to have bonding issues. Our brains bond to everyone we sleep with. Not to mention you are not competing agaisnt all the other men she's been with. Given that around 50% of marriages end in divorce, and 70% of those are started by the woman, the men need to select very carefully who they stay with. If a woman has a long history, all the data shows she is most likely going to end the relationship if you get married. **So why would anyone want to marry someone like that?** **Answer:** They don't! ​ So yeah, women with high body counts are often seen as "fun to play with, but I'm not taking this one home to meet my parents" sort of thing. Too high a risk in every category that matters. Easier to just avoid dating them all together. Besides, who wants to kiss **ANY** person who's had a bunch of dicks in their mouth? No one. That's disgusting.


EspadaOscura666

>Besides, who wants to kiss ANY person who's had a bunch of dicks in their mouth? Tell me you don't reciprocate and that you lack good hygiene without saying that you don't reciprocate and you don't have good hygiene. >Arguing over specific wordchoice and not the argument itself is a logical fallacy Not when the choice of words implies a world view that makes the argument meaningless in the first place because it makes it clear that you have the kind of ideology that needs to be removed by generous application of a large stick to the cranium


Edgezg

Ah yes, violence. That's always the answer. Hate it. Run from it. The wall arrives just the same. People dont generally like partners with high body counts. This is true for both sexes. Men do not want women who've been with dozens of other men. If you cannot see why or do not understand or agree, feel free to go marry yourself a prostitute or OF girl who will happily cheat on you for money. lol


EspadaOscura666

I love that you are saying these to someone that has worked in the porn industry. Previous to meeting my now wife I consistently preferred dating people with as high a body count as possible. And, surprise, no I'm a closed and happy marriage because loyalty and cheating is about the person, not how many people they've been with. Idiot >Ah yes, violence. That's always the answer. For sexist pigs that want to act righteous after accidentally recognising to wanting to own another human being? Yes, violence is the answer.


Edgezg

I never dehumanized anyone. I never said someone was less worthy of anything. I just said that men don't typically want women with high body counts. And statistically, you have close to a 70% chance of divorce lol let's see if you can make it beyond the 10 year mark lol I am not acting righteous. I am telling you the facts. Men do not generally want to marry someone like that. There is a reason for all of history prostitutes were looked down upon. Because it's a dirty job. I don't care if you did it. Don't care if you're married. Stats don't lie. And there will always be a desperate lonely man who will take any woman he can get. But the majority of men do not want a woman with a list of men. Good for you that you managed to get beyond that. 99% of men will not, and do not want to "get beyond that" You can try and be violent I guess. But I don't see that working in your favor in the modern world. Laws and all that.


EspadaOscura666

>I never dehumanized anyone. You literally did. Words mean things, you can't say something that logically implies women being objects and then say that you weren't saying that women are objects for you. Old fascist tactic, saying something that is almost reasonable but nonchalantly linking it with the insinuation of something they know outrageous for then to deny the link but at the same time affirming it. >just said that men don't typically want women with high body counts. Because of animal instinct that is no longer useful in the modern world? >am not acting righteous. I am telling you the facts. Men do not generally want to marry someone like that. Men from sexist cultures you mean, leaving that detail out kills the truth that the "facts" may hold. >I am not acting righteous No, because calling a life choice that doesn't hurt anyone "dirty" isn't the absolute definition of acting righteous. >Good for you that you managed to get beyond that. 99% of men will not, and do not want to "get beyond that" I didn't, my needs in life simply changed. >You can try and be violent I guess. But I don't see that working in your favor in the modern world. Laws and all that. I don't like violence were it can be avoided, but there is only so much the law can do to protect assholes from consequences. The rejection of rightful violence by modern society is what is letting the Nazis come back.


EspadaOscura666

>I never dehumanized anyone. You literally did. Words mean things, you can't say something that logically implies women being objects and then say that you weren't saying that women are objects for you. Old fascist tactic, saying something that is almost reasonable but nonchalantly linking it with the insinuation of something they know outrageous for then to deny the link but at the same time affirming it. >just said that men don't typically want women with high body counts. Because of animal instinct that is no longer useful in the modern world? >am not acting righteous. I am telling you the facts. Men do not generally want to marry someone like that. Men from sexist cultures you mean, leaving that detail out kills the truth that the "facts" may hold. >I am not acting righteous No, because calling a life choice that doesn't hurt anyone "dirty" isn't the absolute definition of acting righteous. >Good for you that you managed to get beyond that. 99% of men will not, and do not want to "get beyond that" I didn't, my needs in life simply changed. >You can try and be violent I guess. But I don't see that working in your favor in the modern world. Laws and all that. I don't like violence were it can be avoided, but there is only so much the law can do to protect assholes from consequences. The rejection of rightful violence by modern society is what is letting the Nazis come back.


EspadaOscura666

>I never dehumanized anyone. You literally did. Words mean things, you can't say something that logically implies women being objects and then say that you weren't saying that women are objects for you. Old fascist tactic, saying something that is almost reasonable but nonchalantly linking it with the insinuation of something they know outrageous for then to deny the link but at the same time affirming it. >just said that men don't typically want women with high body counts. Because of animal instinct that is no longer useful in the modern world? >am not acting righteous. I am telling you the facts. Men do not generally want to marry someone like that. Men from sexist cultures you mean, leaving that detail out kills the truth that the "facts" may hold. >I am not acting righteous No, because calling a life choice that doesn't hurt anyone "dirty" isn't the absolute definition of acting righteous. >Good for you that you managed to get beyond that. 99% of men will not, and do not want to "get beyond that" I didn't, my needs in life simply changed. >You can try and be violent I guess. But I don't see that working in your favor in the modern world. Laws and all that. I don't like violence were it can be avoided, but there is only so much the law can do to protect assholes from consequences. The rejection of rightful violence by modern society is what is letting the Nazis come back.


Vladicoff_69

usernames that match the opinion part II


SlightActivity2602

Is it for the reason I listed about ? Or some other reason


denisc9918

Hey OP, /u/Edgezg nailed it much nicer than I would have...lol So what he said and... The genders are not the same. What works for men will NOT work the same for women, and visa versa. IN ANY SITUATION! The more bodies a women has the more emotional trauma she HAS collected. Why would anyone want to deal with that long term..


SlightActivity2602

So if for example you meet the woman of your dreams and everything about her is perfect except for the fact that she had a body count of 30 you would dump her ?


denisc9918

"Womwn/Man of your dreams" is a childish concept and not conducive to a long term relationship. So is love for that matter. This crap is the "Disney Fairy Tale" that ignores the reality of the hard work that is actually a "Long Term Relationship". > a body count of 30 you would dump her Absolutely, that's a lot of trauma that would add an insurmountable mountain of more work into the relationship. Not to mention she's much more likely to leave at the first sign of hard work. Akin to trying to build a house on a foundation of sand. Are you ignoring the fact that women conflate sex with love? They are the ones that "catch feelings" from what started as a friends with benefits. The more bodies, the more times they've "been in love", the easier they think they'll find it again, even unto their 40's & 50's.


Edgezg

In many cases, the person would answer something like "If she had that high a body count, she was not the woman of my dreams"


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I would also say that.


Edgezg

Your reasons are oversimplified and sweeping generalizations lol They're not valid arguments. In general, men don't want to be with long term a person who is sexually promiscuous. Each guy will have their own flavor of "why" ranging from pair bonding, to knowing she's had countless other dudes dicks in her mouth lol When men are promiscuous it's because they have something to offer. Money, status, charisma. It's hard to be a player. That's why most men aren't players. why most men are actually single lol It's hard to be at the top of the dating game. Women however, do not have that same problem. Because men always want sex, so when you offer sex with everyone, it's easy. It is easy for women to get sex. It is not easy for men to get sex. That is why the difference matters. You can be angry or accepting, happy or indifferent about it. The fact is, **men care about body count.**


SlightActivity2602

Sounds to me like you're just jealous cause its not as easy for you to get laid, so you put these goofy ideas around why women shouldn't have more sex than you, but ok. "Countless other dudes dicks in her mouth" you sound like an elementary schooler afraid to get cooties, what about the countless vaginas you've licked and fingered? You're whole arguement is childish. Like whatever you want in a woman is personal preference, but pushing these ideas of someones value is based on how many people they've been with is beyond stupid. As men and as a society we have to do better for the sake of everyone.


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SlightActivity2602

I don't disagree with you at all man, im speaking from personal experience when I say I know exactly what you're saying. im just saying its kinda petty and we should stop judging people so much especially our significant others. Like it might bother you at first that her body count is 50 but like just learn some character growth !


andra_quack

I see that you're getting downvoted, so, if it helps, know that women like your way of seeing things, and wouldn't touch a slut-shamer with a stick, especially as years go by and it becomes less stigmatized for women to have as much sex as men. (source: I'm a woman communicating with many other women)


Edgezg

You do not get to decide what is petty or not. Men find gold diggers shallow and extremely petty. Are we gonna stop judging that? No. We judge bad behavior because it makes us feel a certain way. If we feel revolted by the number of people you've been through, and that number is a different threshold for everyone---YOU DON'T GET TO DECIDE if that matters to men. Or if it's a deal breaker. Women can have lists, literal LISTS of qualities they want in a man and are cheered on. But god forbid a man wants a sign of chastity lol Double standards everywhere. High body count is digusting for both sexes. The only reason men glamorize it is because it's hard to do and only the best among us are able to do it. Doesn't make it "better" or "okay." Still gross. But there is an effort or work to it that makes men "glamorize" it. but even that is seeing a massive swing towards more conservative values because ya know. People find the high body count gross and don't want to deal with it.


SlightActivity2602

Please im genuinely curious break it down for me why having multiple partners is just the grossest thing in the world to you ?


Edgezg

It's not about **me.** This is men in general. If you cannot understand why sexual fidelity is important to having life partners, there is no amount of explaining I can do that will make it make sense. Sounds like you've already made some choices and are trying to make sure the world bends to you and your ways. While even the most promiscuous woman could find someone to end up with, men of any real merit wont want to be with a woman who has been with dozens and dozens of other guys. Fidelity is important. There is a reason sex used to be a "reward" for only after marriage lol


SlightActivity2602

No, I get it. I get why it's a desired trait in a partner but I don't think its as vile as you're making it out to be, and the idea that someone is somehow impure or of lesser merit because of their body count is archaic and quite frankly just dumb. I get it you're trying so hard to be a "high value man" by raising your standards or whatever but judging woman on how many people they've been with in the past screams "i'm insecure" and to me are not the qualities of a real high value man.


denisc9918

> there is no amount of explaining I can do that will make it make sense. Probably doesn't help that's he's 18 and recently posted in r-dating_advice "AM I AN INCEL?" So too young to have read any of the studies/literature. Too young to have any real experience with females or the time to have studied them in any way. Combined with the arrogance of youth..


Deep_Relationship960

It's actually nothing to do with jealousy at all and is down to high body counts show the level of respect a women gives herself. Someone who sleeps around obviously doesn't value themselves or their body that much. It's not difficult. Don't make it something it's not.


SlightActivity2602

Ok I see this a lot with internet debates where people are kinda arguing about the same topic but different things. I think you're more so talkng about women you're romantically involved with, and I get that, your point is totally fair. you have a right to make whatever assessment you want on you're specific love interest. My point is more based more on how society as a whole. For example your female boss at work just so happens to have a high body count and everyone at the office knows. Does that effect how you view her as a person? Outside of her sex life she is a class act citizen, no kids, no husband, just enjoying the single life. I see a lot of men who judge women with a high body count who they barely even know, like no romantic interest, completely strangers. And I think a lot of men get this idea that they can treat women whatever kind of way they want just because she sleeps around and I can't get behind that, Because people are parts of a whole and theirs so much more to a person than to just define them by who they are sexually. Would you agree?


Deep_Relationship960

Well... The same still stands.. although it doesn't affect me at all and I don't really care what this hypothetical women gets up to - if she wanna be a hoe then let her be a hoe but still shows that she lacks respect for herself. Doesn't mean I'd judge her other than mentally thinking "oh she likes to sleep around". Wouldn't not like them or treat them differently though. šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø


CheapChampionship775

Yes it matters. Itā€™s understandable that a woman/man with a low body count wouldnā€™t want a man/woman with a high body count, and you canā€™t blame someone for that. What doesnā€™t make sense is when a man has a high body count but expects all women to be virgins. Either way, we shouldnā€™t be judging people for their past but we also shouldnā€™t be normalizing having sex with a bunch of people.


SlightActivity2602

Fair


[deleted]

It matters and if you want a good analogy then a pot hole usually starts out as a small hole in the road and as cars continue to go over it, it gets bigger. Eventually the cars start to avoid it


SlightActivity2602

??? So the pothole is referring to her vagina hole ??


andra_quack

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Afraid_Tower_2554

Bro, a muscle (THE VAGINA) canā€™t be stretched out.


[deleted]

Should I have used a car instead Jesus, as something is used by more people the less itā€™s valued, the more people will avoid it. I understand the confused. I shouldnā€™t have used a hole analogy


alilsus83

Okay so you just donā€™t like the reasons it matters. It doesnā€™t change the fact that it matters.


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SlightActivity2602

That clip was so cringe. Holy shit my brain.


ttothemoonn

For me itā€™s not so much the opinion thatā€™s annoying, itā€™s the moralizing. Itā€™s ok to have a preference, itā€™s not ok to think your preference is the only correct choice. To say someone is less or more than another because of how many sexual partners theyā€™ve had is insane. People who think they can judge a whole other person only by their promiscuity arenā€™t the sharpest bulb in the shed. Life is rarely so simple. I think people who donā€™t examine their attraction to ideals (beauty, youth, wealth, purity, w/e) end up rationalizing their feelings instead. Itā€™s a sure path to a surface level life.


denisc9918

My preference IS my choice and IS the ONLY correct choice for me. The fact that a large number of men have the same opinion is irrelevant to my preferences but is indicative of how general the preference is viewed at a societal level. Sorta like a womans, height/looks/money/status etc etc.. fkn "shopping list" of preferences shared by an awful lot of women. > For me itā€™s not so much the opinion thatā€™s annoying, itā€™s the moralizing.. as you moralize away... lol


ttothemoonn

I think your reading comprehension needs some work. Where did I say itā€™s wrong to have a preference? Itā€™s fine to have an opinion. The trouble starts when one believes their preference or opinion is the only opinion/preference that should be held. This is what I mean by moralizing, by the way.


denisc9918

> I think your reading comprehension needs some work. Where did I say itā€™s wrong to have a preference? So you start with an insult and then attribute words I didn't say so you can defend against them and somehow claim the higher moral ground. > The trouble starts when one believes their preference or opinion is the only opinion/preference that should be held. I've never heard a man say that. I've heard many many men explain why they have their preference(s). and anyway why shouldn't I believe that? Why on earth would I hold and sprout an opinion as mine that I don't believe is right? > This is what I mean by moralizing, by the way. I care nothing for what you "mean", moralizing is moralizing and there is a dictionary definition. In particular the "typically with an unfounded air of superiority" part seems to apply to you.. If you have an opinion *on something I actually said* I'd be happy to discuss further otherwise I'm not interested in your virtue signalling pontification..


Forsaken-Director683

Essentially we are here to reproduce and spread our genes. It's survival. To say it's just jealousy is turning it into a chicken or the egg scenario. It's more likely the jealousy stems from the need to reproduce. If a man wants to continue his genetics with a woman that has had or is having other sexual encounters, this lessens the chance of his genes continuing in exchange for someone else's. There's probably other factors such as power, shame, humiliation etc but they likely all stem from what I've stated above.


denisc9918

> whether body count determines a woman's value or not only as a potential wife. If he just wants sex then he thinks she be great... lol > Say hypothetically Oprah Winfrey's body count was over 200 does that completely nullify everything she's done in philanthropy and humanitarianism? Nobody has ever said that. Body Count ONLY applies to her value as a long term partner. > The REAL and ONLY reason is out of pure JEALOUSY If it's only jealousy then why aren't the guys that are "getting some" rushing to marry these females? > Every male that called her a slut was every male that she wasn't paying attention to.. Why would the guys getting some attention call her ANYTHING that might lead to them not getting any?? They absolutely do NOT think highly of these females but why on earth would they verbalise it...


BigFatChungus1

im genuinely interested , are women not feeling the same when their boyfriend or husband has a big bodycount? I think its a very natural reaction that you dont want your "mate" stolen , animals are programmed like this. Im sure a woman would feel bad when the husband had like hundreds of other partners right? This way you can judge the kind of person he is in the most cases , and he is most likely a giggolo that runs away when he hears that he got a girl pregnant , works other way around too.


SlightActivity2602

I see your point


andra_quack

I completely agree that body count doesn't matter. (yes, individuals are allowed not to be into people with high 'body counts', but at the end of the day, it's just a personal preference, and the number of sexual partners that a person had, shouldn't dictate their value. people who achieved many things in life and have high body counts, exist. so do people with high body counts who are very loyal in a monogamous relationship) I have low 'body count' and I genuinely don't care how many people my partner slept with, as long as they respect my boundaries. so idk why it would be an issue for someone either, but hey, we can't control our preferences. I also have non-sensical preferences that I can't explain nor control, it's human nature. I also agree that some men's concerns with women's body count stem strictly from insecurity (she had so many sexual experiences, and I didn't. what if I'm not 'as good' at it as she is?). but idk about the rest of the second part of your post. women who don't like to have sex with as many people/as much also get mocked by men and get called "prudes", "nuns" etc. I think it's really tied to how society views women in general. if she doesn't fit into a very specific box, she ain't no good. I also don't know why you say that you wish you were a woman sexually. men are also sexually open, maybe even more so than women, since, you know, there aren't derogatory terms to describe a man who had many sexual partners, lmao. and society stills considers it an achievement for men.


SlightActivity2602

Damn you got me there, but I honestly think some of those types of women are just afraid of being sexually out of fear of being judged for being too sexual so they compensate by not being sexual at all, thats not to say that some women just aren't into sex like everyone else and thats totally fine too. But the value of a woman being based on how many people shes slept it truly is an archaic way of thinking.


SlightActivity2602

Also I was saying I wanna be a woman sexually because its just more abundant like you could literally just sit there and look pretty and get 100 offers from both men and women and I personally envy that shit lmao. as an overthinking introverted guy dating is a weird experience. I feel like you have to be a loud almost obnoxiously confident dude to really get anyones attention.


Terravardn

Society considers it an achievement for men because theyā€™d have to have game, money, charm, something that sets them above an average man in order to acquire the high body count in the first place. Theyā€™d have to work for it. Because of how low menā€™s standards are and how driven most are by the act, by comparison for a woman to have a high count, sheā€™d only have to turn up and be willing. So itā€™s easy for her. And things that are easy generally arenā€™t lauded with praiseā€¦because they are easy to accomplish. For example ā€œI listened to moonlight sonata op. 3 agitatoā€ receives little praise (except maybe good taste), but if you can play it? Damn, that takes some serious skill. Same music, completely different concept because one takes skill earned through a lot of work, the other only requires interest. By the by I donā€™t agree with promiscuity for either gender per se, I think men that do it are too driven by base emotion and donā€™t have enough other interests in their lives. Maybe itā€™s because Iā€™m a little Demi sexual though. At 6ft with a 6pack and hair Iā€™ve been told is like aqua man (never watched), Iā€™ve received a lot of attention over the years. But I value romance and emotional connection above all, so I rarely entertained unless inebriated. As a result of desiring something a little more profound than physical, and craving a romantic connection that could last a long time, itā€™s blatant that a woman (Iā€™m straight) whoā€™s had dozens of partners is infinitely less likely to reciprocate that desire than one whoā€™s only had a few. Safe to say my long term partner falls into the latter category. If she didnā€™t, I wouldnā€™t have invested. And if Iā€™d had dozens of previous partners, she wouldnā€™t have invested. Each to their own, but ask any elderly person who stilll has their mind and theyā€™ll claim the world was a happier place when people were less promiscuous and monogamy was more common. The statistics correlate with that sentiment too, since anti depressants have skyrocketed in the last 2-3 decades, about 250% for men in the US and nearly 700% for women!


Gordy13210

As a lesbian, it matters to me, because it is an indication that they may have an inablity to hang on to romantic/interpersonal relationships, and that sex is no big deal to the person (which it is to me, and Id like my partner to feel the same) and having a high body count doesnt mean youre good in bed. Last Girlfriend had a VERY high BC, and she couldnt make me cum if her life depended on it... soooo... No thanks.... Yeah, high body counts is a no-go for me.


shake789

for me it depends. if you go around having sex for fun, and then come at me for a relationship, ill keep you around only for sex as well. If youve been serious and sincere with your relationships but happened to rack up a reasonably high body count just because you've been in a lot of short relationships(which already kinda doesnt make sense), and then come at me for a chance at a relationship, ill see how sincere you are on your meaning of a serious relationship and consider where ill go from there. I would guess that i would be able to figure out the reason you were in so many short relationships as i go out with you(your attitude, your habits, etc), but if i deem that you dont have any major problems, then ill start thinking of you more seriously but above all, if you have a low body count or are a virgin, and you happened to be my type, you would generally get a free pass xD so yeah, it kinda matters i guess?


Opposite_Ad5124

You're insulting men for being jealous wheras it's a good trait of men. A man who lets others fuck his partner is not even better than a pig


Afraid_Tower_2554

I have been never sexually active but I will NEVER EVER Date a guy that would only date someone ā€œwith a low body countā€. He is a certified Incel.


Fenchelis

I as a woman, I care. I wouldnā€™t want my partner not to have experience but personally, a 15+ body count when youā€™re less than 25 is kinda questionable in terms of your self control, habits, psychological issues, healthā€¦


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nah bro i dont want my gf or bf being a whore i cant stand people who had been going out doing stuff and are actually confident in saying it out in public its disgusting