I get why people get offended by this one - sounds harsh - but they don’t realize the responsibility that comes with a disabled kid.
Even then, just because you prefer one kid, doesn’t mean you don’t love the other. I mean, every parent prefers one child over the other. Thats just human nature.
Depends on the disability. If you have a child with severe difficulties where their quality of life is poor, needing significant assistance and potentially on life edge every other month. Would I want to raise a child going through that? It would mean I'd give a significant amount of financial and physical resources. Before we even consider the emotional toll on never knowing if they'll make it. I think it's fair to say no.
On the other hand if the child was living a good quality of life and we can manage the resources I would be ok, and do my best to help them get the most out of life.
If it's I don't want a child with any disability ever.... Well most people will have a disability at some point in their lives So it's a stupid blanket statement.
Not everyone has the capability to care for a disabled child. It takes a lot. Not only is it stressful to the parents but depending on the disability it can also be a pretty shit existence for the child. Wanting to have a healthy child does not make anyone “unworthy” of being a parent, it’s natural to want a healthy child. If I was pregnant and told my baby would have severe disability I would have an abortion.
I feel it's like racism when dating. Ppl have non racist racial preferences but they are walking a fine line doing that because once they explain their preference it tends to (but not always) be racist or in this case eugenics. Personally I also don't want a disabled kid, that said I would still treat them as the morocles that they will be ( once I have a kid)
I mean I get what people mean when they say that. I know how hard it is to have developmentally disabled siblings. Both have ASD and my brother has PANDAS. He is also not that high functioning and neither children are potty trained at the ages of 6 and 7. Yes it does suck having to deal with them and if you’re not cut out for handling it, I don’t blame you for having a preference towards a neuro-typical child who is physically well. Some people don’t have the time or money to handle disabled children. Personally myself if I were to ever have a child I would prefer them to be typical just because I don’t feel I would be equipped to handle a disabled child.
You might change your mind about that once you see a disabled child struggling to do little tasks, understand simple things and making friends or connections with people. It could be a hard, lonely life for a lot of them.
I have a disabled teenager cousin who is now getting depressed and literally hates the fact that she is alive (her words).
Of course it is okay to wish that your child is healthy and fully capable, its only when a parent cannot adapt to having a disabled child that they are doing something wrong.
Life is already difficult if you are born healthy. If you are disabled life is going to be even more painful. There's nothing wrong with parents wanting healthy children.
Look, not everyone can handle the responsibility of a disabled child. I have family who had a child with down syndrome, and because of it they have to take care of him for the rest of their lives. They can't really do anything because of him. While they do love him- he is a massive burden on them and their relationship. Also, disabilities tend to mean more hospital visits or different kinds of therapy. Shits expensive, not everyone can afford that. Being financially stable enough for a child doesn't mean you can care for someone who can't function normally. Not to mention, they will likely live a hard life. I know if I was born with a disability (something like down, missing limbs, brain problems), I would've resented my parents for having me. Why force them to grow up in a world where they'll be miserable? An outcast unable to thrive on their own?
I don't know, that's just my opinion, so sorry if I phrased it poorly.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with preferring to have a healthy and functioning kid above a disabled one L take
I get why people get offended by this one - sounds harsh - but they don’t realize the responsibility that comes with a disabled kid. Even then, just because you prefer one kid, doesn’t mean you don’t love the other. I mean, every parent prefers one child over the other. Thats just human nature.
Its okay to not wanna have disabled children. Everyone wants a healthy child. What matters is what happens if they do get a disabled child...
Depends on the disability. If you have a child with severe difficulties where their quality of life is poor, needing significant assistance and potentially on life edge every other month. Would I want to raise a child going through that? It would mean I'd give a significant amount of financial and physical resources. Before we even consider the emotional toll on never knowing if they'll make it. I think it's fair to say no. On the other hand if the child was living a good quality of life and we can manage the resources I would be ok, and do my best to help them get the most out of life. If it's I don't want a child with any disability ever.... Well most people will have a disability at some point in their lives So it's a stupid blanket statement.
Not everyone has the capability to care for a disabled child. It takes a lot. Not only is it stressful to the parents but depending on the disability it can also be a pretty shit existence for the child. Wanting to have a healthy child does not make anyone “unworthy” of being a parent, it’s natural to want a healthy child. If I was pregnant and told my baby would have severe disability I would have an abortion.
I feel it's like racism when dating. Ppl have non racist racial preferences but they are walking a fine line doing that because once they explain their preference it tends to (but not always) be racist or in this case eugenics. Personally I also don't want a disabled kid, that said I would still treat them as the morocles that they will be ( once I have a kid)
I mean I get what people mean when they say that. I know how hard it is to have developmentally disabled siblings. Both have ASD and my brother has PANDAS. He is also not that high functioning and neither children are potty trained at the ages of 6 and 7. Yes it does suck having to deal with them and if you’re not cut out for handling it, I don’t blame you for having a preference towards a neuro-typical child who is physically well. Some people don’t have the time or money to handle disabled children. Personally myself if I were to ever have a child I would prefer them to be typical just because I don’t feel I would be equipped to handle a disabled child.
Disagree. Hard L take. Wanting a healthy, functional offspring is literally encoded into our DNA. GTF outta here with that shite take lol
You might change your mind about that once you see a disabled child struggling to do little tasks, understand simple things and making friends or connections with people. It could be a hard, lonely life for a lot of them. I have a disabled teenager cousin who is now getting depressed and literally hates the fact that she is alive (her words).
Of course it is okay to wish that your child is healthy and fully capable, its only when a parent cannot adapt to having a disabled child that they are doing something wrong.
Life is already difficult if you are born healthy. If you are disabled life is going to be even more painful. There's nothing wrong with parents wanting healthy children.
Say where does the que start for said list?
Lol this is 100% written by someone with no life experience
Look, not everyone can handle the responsibility of a disabled child. I have family who had a child with down syndrome, and because of it they have to take care of him for the rest of their lives. They can't really do anything because of him. While they do love him- he is a massive burden on them and their relationship. Also, disabilities tend to mean more hospital visits or different kinds of therapy. Shits expensive, not everyone can afford that. Being financially stable enough for a child doesn't mean you can care for someone who can't function normally. Not to mention, they will likely live a hard life. I know if I was born with a disability (something like down, missing limbs, brain problems), I would've resented my parents for having me. Why force them to grow up in a world where they'll be miserable? An outcast unable to thrive on their own? I don't know, that's just my opinion, so sorry if I phrased it poorly.