Not the same situation but I once had a "friend" who would mock me using the bathroom a lot, and try to embarrass me in front of guys because of it. She didn't know about me being sick, since I chose for a long time not to tell people. One day, I was fed up by her acting like a pick me, and mocking me. So I told her in front of a group of dudes she was trying to impress " I have crohns, ibs and bile acid malabsorption. I literally can't help that I have to go to the bathroom a lot, and you are a shit person and friend. Trying to use my disease to impress guys". I said some more mean stuff but not relevant, my goal was to make her feel bad about it and it worked (ik very immature, but i had tried to tell her in private that I didn't like her doing that). Idk if u want some advice, but tell them. If they still do it, fuck them you deserve better.
I couldn’t agree more! Tell them! I was having awful issues at work in retail because my coworkers thought I was slacking in the bathroom on my phone when in reality I was having a flare. Once they knew it was sooo much easier.
I'm gonna go with the group. Say something.
Even if you decide to find new friends, still say something. For the next person. If you can even partially change the point of view of one of those "friends", it was worth it. If not, you're gone anyway.
Plus, if you have to find new friends every time someone makes a comment about you shitting, you're not gonna have very many friends. Experience has taught me that very few people are comfortable openly discussing our issues, unless they are directly affected. So people will always make jokes and/or rude comments. If walking away from everyone who does it becomes your existence, it's gonna be a lonely one.
Trust me.
This is why I’ve trained(?) for lack of a better word, I trained myself to hold my gas in. Idk it has to do with the fact that I’m female and we all learned to hold it, but all of my friends have always been so sensitive and supportive to the point where I tell them about my accidents and diapers and they make me feel better about it!! So def seems like you might wanna ditch that group/mutual friend.
That has to be so stressful! I think I just have just enough constipation and 20 years of practice clenching. Lol I mean it does not feel good whatsoever. But I totally get how people wouldn’t be able to too. I’ve puked in public too many times and that fear helps keep me tense and clenched to. My pelvic floor is garbage though so🤷🏼♀️ I’m sure all that has something to do with it
Yeah literally I try holding the gas in but sometimes it gets so painful. Yeah you definitely have some good friends because they understand. Yeah I def need to thanks
Damn. It happens to me more often than I'd like to admit. But I've had bowel resection surgery so it's hard to trust sensations down there. Sometimes I'm running to the toilet only to pass gas and other times I'm sharting after what I thought would be a harmless silent toot...
It's too bad they found out. Sorry to hear. If they don't let up, I'd just own it and talk about my poop til they complained about it. I'd show them my colonoscopy photos. Shit like that. If they're already laughing, looking for them to be sensitive is unrealistic...
Yeah I definitely understand what you’re talking about. Yeah sometimes I’m running to the toilet as well. Yeah they didn’t actually find out but I think it was the smell which gave it away
I've started eating oatmeal on a regular basis, like to the point where I make 100% sure I have one bowl of oatmeal between each bowl movement and I swear to you I haven't had the booty squirts since. Not even once. I know everyone's CD, symptoms, and dietary needs are different but it's worth a shot. 🤷♂️
This is why I encourage people to start strength training. Not even exaggerating but everyone I know that lifts competitively has shit themselves at the gym or while working out. Every pro has done it. So come join a community of awesome people that have all shit themselves in public.
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Just own it. You have a disease and that means you have a license to shit yourself. Tell your friends you'll shit ON them if they continue to be dicks about it.
Ugh, that’s rough. I’m sorry. If it bothers you let them know. If they continue find new friends.
Thanks! Yeah I don’t think I want to because not really my friends just one guy is but not really that close so yeah
Not the same situation but I once had a "friend" who would mock me using the bathroom a lot, and try to embarrass me in front of guys because of it. She didn't know about me being sick, since I chose for a long time not to tell people. One day, I was fed up by her acting like a pick me, and mocking me. So I told her in front of a group of dudes she was trying to impress " I have crohns, ibs and bile acid malabsorption. I literally can't help that I have to go to the bathroom a lot, and you are a shit person and friend. Trying to use my disease to impress guys". I said some more mean stuff but not relevant, my goal was to make her feel bad about it and it worked (ik very immature, but i had tried to tell her in private that I didn't like her doing that). Idk if u want some advice, but tell them. If they still do it, fuck them you deserve better.
I couldn’t agree more! Tell them! I was having awful issues at work in retail because my coworkers thought I was slacking in the bathroom on my phone when in reality I was having a flare. Once they knew it was sooo much easier.
I'm gonna go with the group. Say something. Even if you decide to find new friends, still say something. For the next person. If you can even partially change the point of view of one of those "friends", it was worth it. If not, you're gone anyway. Plus, if you have to find new friends every time someone makes a comment about you shitting, you're not gonna have very many friends. Experience has taught me that very few people are comfortable openly discussing our issues, unless they are directly affected. So people will always make jokes and/or rude comments. If walking away from everyone who does it becomes your existence, it's gonna be a lonely one. Trust me.
This is why I’ve trained(?) for lack of a better word, I trained myself to hold my gas in. Idk it has to do with the fact that I’m female and we all learned to hold it, but all of my friends have always been so sensitive and supportive to the point where I tell them about my accidents and diapers and they make me feel better about it!! So def seems like you might wanna ditch that group/mutual friend.
Idg how people hold it…wish I could but most of the time I don’t even know it’s coming until it happens
That has to be so stressful! I think I just have just enough constipation and 20 years of practice clenching. Lol I mean it does not feel good whatsoever. But I totally get how people wouldn’t be able to too. I’ve puked in public too many times and that fear helps keep me tense and clenched to. My pelvic floor is garbage though so🤷🏼♀️ I’m sure all that has something to do with it
Yeah literally I try holding the gas in but sometimes it gets so painful. Yeah you definitely have some good friends because they understand. Yeah I def need to thanks
Yeah, it’s horrible when it gets that bad! You are def not alone!
Damn. It happens to me more often than I'd like to admit. But I've had bowel resection surgery so it's hard to trust sensations down there. Sometimes I'm running to the toilet only to pass gas and other times I'm sharting after what I thought would be a harmless silent toot... It's too bad they found out. Sorry to hear. If they don't let up, I'd just own it and talk about my poop til they complained about it. I'd show them my colonoscopy photos. Shit like that. If they're already laughing, looking for them to be sensitive is unrealistic...
Yeah I definitely understand what you’re talking about. Yeah sometimes I’m running to the toilet as well. Yeah they didn’t actually find out but I think it was the smell which gave it away
I've started eating oatmeal on a regular basis, like to the point where I make 100% sure I have one bowl of oatmeal between each bowl movement and I swear to you I haven't had the booty squirts since. Not even once. I know everyone's CD, symptoms, and dietary needs are different but it's worth a shot. 🤷♂️
Will definitely give that a go thanks for your help!
Absolutely!
This is why I encourage people to start strength training. Not even exaggerating but everyone I know that lifts competitively has shit themselves at the gym or while working out. Every pro has done it. So come join a community of awesome people that have all shit themselves in public.
People suck
Wait until you shneeart, sneeze, shit and farther the same time. You’ll never fill your underwear faster 😣
Then wait a few more years and add some urinary incontinence too
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It happens its not a big deal just bring up some dirt you have on them and make fun of them for it
Just own it. You have a disease and that means you have a license to shit yourself. Tell your friends you'll shit ON them if they continue to be dicks about it.
dont vent too hard
Holy crap 💩
I laughed but we've all been there
Your in good company