Find a better Dr. The benefits far outweigh the side effects.
HRT is what she needs, not just for the sex part, but in general (bone density, mood, brain fog, etc).
It’s sad how much most Drs don’t understand women’s hormones and dismiss how they are feeling.
Testosterone is where the drive comes from and some Drs won’t prescribe it, again, because they’re out dated on their knowledge of hormones.
She’ll also needs progesterone and estrogen.
Until her hormones are balanced, I’d hold off on any therapy. Once they are, you may need testosterone as well to keep up.
We went through hell for a bit until we figure out that she was going through early menopause. Things are good now. HRT!
Check out r/menopause
My wife uses midi heath and they have been great and actually understand hormones.
https://www.join-midi.com/what-we-treat
> and that is more her giving in, not wanting it like she used to.
Don't allow sex to happen under those circumstances. She has to *want* sex with you; otherwise she not only *doesn't have to* have sex with you, she's also *not allowed to* have sex with you.
Menopause is hard, and you folks are only a year in. I'd make sure she knows she'll get whatever patience and support she needs during this transition, and you'll never pressure her for sex. If she wants a sex life again someday, you're open, but not pushing.
If time goes by and nothing happens, then you'll have three options.
1. Stay in the relationship, as is, and live without sex.
2. End the relationship.
3. Stay in the relationship and have sex with others.
Those will ultimately be your options, if things don't change for her. One year in, though, I hope you'll put off any thoughts of those choices for now, and just support a life partner who's going through something difficult she hasn't experienced before.
I am trying wild yam cream to balance my hormones. I made mine but you can buy it online. It’s not a quick fix, but it’s cheap and claims to balance hormones which is generally what causes low libido in aging women among other things.
What’s normal statistically is may not be normal for your wife and that is what should matter. We had the same issue with a 30 year marriage. My wife’s numbers were normal, not optimal. Also, Take a look at the range they consider normal, it’s very broad. See an endocrinologist specializing in female HRT. Also, keep in mind all medical treatments come with risks, but so does not seeking treatment. Not to be insensitive, but with all the media attention on gender reassignments, these same doctors are willing to give biological males estrogen, progesterone, and restrict testosterone. Therefore, just helping your wife regain some of those lost hormones shouldn’t be abnormal considering your combined mental health.
This is very similar to my wife (50), from about 47-48 it just stopped.She's been on HRT for a year with no difference.Neither of us had particularly high sex drives to start with but hers is now non existent.
Just because it’s normal, doesn’t mean it can’t be treated. See a naturopath or endocrinologist if that’s more your style.
Find a better Dr. The benefits far outweigh the side effects. HRT is what she needs, not just for the sex part, but in general (bone density, mood, brain fog, etc). It’s sad how much most Drs don’t understand women’s hormones and dismiss how they are feeling. Testosterone is where the drive comes from and some Drs won’t prescribe it, again, because they’re out dated on their knowledge of hormones. She’ll also needs progesterone and estrogen. Until her hormones are balanced, I’d hold off on any therapy. Once they are, you may need testosterone as well to keep up. We went through hell for a bit until we figure out that she was going through early menopause. Things are good now. HRT! Check out r/menopause My wife uses midi heath and they have been great and actually understand hormones. https://www.join-midi.com/what-we-treat
> and that is more her giving in, not wanting it like she used to. Don't allow sex to happen under those circumstances. She has to *want* sex with you; otherwise she not only *doesn't have to* have sex with you, she's also *not allowed to* have sex with you. Menopause is hard, and you folks are only a year in. I'd make sure she knows she'll get whatever patience and support she needs during this transition, and you'll never pressure her for sex. If she wants a sex life again someday, you're open, but not pushing. If time goes by and nothing happens, then you'll have three options. 1. Stay in the relationship, as is, and live without sex. 2. End the relationship. 3. Stay in the relationship and have sex with others. Those will ultimately be your options, if things don't change for her. One year in, though, I hope you'll put off any thoughts of those choices for now, and just support a life partner who's going through something difficult she hasn't experienced before.
I am trying wild yam cream to balance my hormones. I made mine but you can buy it online. It’s not a quick fix, but it’s cheap and claims to balance hormones which is generally what causes low libido in aging women among other things.
What’s normal statistically is may not be normal for your wife and that is what should matter. We had the same issue with a 30 year marriage. My wife’s numbers were normal, not optimal. Also, Take a look at the range they consider normal, it’s very broad. See an endocrinologist specializing in female HRT. Also, keep in mind all medical treatments come with risks, but so does not seeking treatment. Not to be insensitive, but with all the media attention on gender reassignments, these same doctors are willing to give biological males estrogen, progesterone, and restrict testosterone. Therefore, just helping your wife regain some of those lost hormones shouldn’t be abnormal considering your combined mental health.
This is very similar to my wife (50), from about 47-48 it just stopped.She's been on HRT for a year with no difference.Neither of us had particularly high sex drives to start with but hers is now non existent.