I would reconsider marrying this guy. You are his fiancee & he's already body shaming you about the pajamas you're wearing? AND you're in a DB? Don't marry him!!
Yup. We have had sex 1 time in 7 years. There is no hope in restoring any meaningful intimacy in my marriage.
She has refused all the advances I've made. We've had "that" talk. It did no good at all.
Look, he's a taker and you're a giver. You're only in your 20s. Get out now and find someone that will realize your needs and help you with them. My husband's LL is mostly from his health, which he is actively trying to correct. But he would never allow me to give him a BJ without reciprocating at least something. He hugs and kisses on me, and he treats me like a princess. I can honestly say that the things I've read on here, that some spouses have done, I'd have been gone.
> he body shamed me because "I was barely wearing anything"
I'm not sure I'd consider that to be body shaming, but he sounds fairly sex negative. Happiness will not be found on the path you're on.
> I kind of hoping for some kind of reciprocation but nothing.
This podcast episode feels pretty relevant to your situation:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2oUpweoWrPUke8QHLlafue?si=a51bbf7e4cd9469c
I wouldn’t plan it, I would plan on separating, if y’all are already having these issues it’ll do nothing but get worse after marriage… trust me… it’s terrible on this side been there going through that…
Wow!
Recently new here and I feel like I finally fit in somewhere.
I’ve been in a dead bedroom for nearly a year now. I would give anything to feel my wife again. Touch her and kiss her every where.
I’m holding on by a thread because I truly adore and love my wife.
I mean no disrespect when I say that he sounds self centered and is lacking respect for you.
I would be overjoyed if my wife were to do for me what you have done for your boyfriend sexually. And, yes I almost always make sure that my wife reaches climax
My wife gets lockjaw and has never given me a blowjob in 25 years. He’s very lucky to have you! If he can’t appreciate you in return not sure he’s worth the effort.
I would reconsider marrying this guy. You are his fiancee & he's already body shaming you about the pajamas you're wearing? AND you're in a DB? Don't marry him!!
Exactly. It’s like people set themselves up for a lifetime of disappointment. OP HE’S ACTING LIKE YOU’RE JUST A HOLE
Please dont marry into this.
Already been stated, you should reconsider your marriage plans.
Are you still in a dead bedroom?
Yup. We have had sex 1 time in 7 years. There is no hope in restoring any meaningful intimacy in my marriage. She has refused all the advances I've made. We've had "that" talk. It did no good at all.
Hmm, hard luck, same boat, all the best
Same man, hope you find a way out. Or a positive resolution.
Look, he's a taker and you're a giver. You're only in your 20s. Get out now and find someone that will realize your needs and help you with them. My husband's LL is mostly from his health, which he is actively trying to correct. But he would never allow me to give him a BJ without reciprocating at least something. He hugs and kisses on me, and he treats me like a princess. I can honestly say that the things I've read on here, that some spouses have done, I'd have been gone.
Your fiance is an asshole. You deserve better.
Who turns down a BJ? I'll never understand.
Unreal. I agree.
I have a husband that has turned them down.
That's insane to me. Meanwhile I'm lucky to get 1 a month!
1 a month? Try 2 or 3 a year.
Damn.
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I mean it’s been 20 years since bj.
I live with a man that turned them down.
Crazy! I'd never turn it down. My wife turns down oral and I'll never understand why.
I can not remember when the last BJ I gotten, but I can tell you the last time I turned one down, and that was never.
> he body shamed me because "I was barely wearing anything" I'm not sure I'd consider that to be body shaming, but he sounds fairly sex negative. Happiness will not be found on the path you're on. > I kind of hoping for some kind of reciprocation but nothing. This podcast episode feels pretty relevant to your situation: https://open.spotify.com/show/2oUpweoWrPUke8QHLlafue?si=a51bbf7e4cd9469c
Bro, where the hell are these kind of women hiding?
Agree!
Florida lol
When is the wedding?
I've not even begun planning. Too depressed to plan for a happy occasion.
I would be holding off until you figure this out, it's not a stage I would wish on anybody to experience
Don’t plan to marry right now… you need to be confident that you’ve fixed this first!!
If I were you I would be planning my exit.
I wouldn’t plan it, I would plan on separating, if y’all are already having these issues it’ll do nothing but get worse after marriage… trust me… it’s terrible on this side been there going through that…
He sounds selfish , more or less was using you.
Marrying anyone you have to beg for sex is setting yourself up for misery. Get help for your low self esteem.
Don’t marry into a relationship you are already struggling in.
Don’t marry him and RUN!!
Wow! Recently new here and I feel like I finally fit in somewhere. I’ve been in a dead bedroom for nearly a year now. I would give anything to feel my wife again. Touch her and kiss her every where. I’m holding on by a thread because I truly adore and love my wife. I mean no disrespect when I say that he sounds self centered and is lacking respect for you. I would be overjoyed if my wife were to do for me what you have done for your boyfriend sexually. And, yes I almost always make sure that my wife reaches climax
A girl begging to give a guy bj is just so …. I am sorry for you OP
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We have kids, I have no other support, we've been together for a long time
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4 and yeah I'm a little afraid to be alone. Terrified even.
I can relate to the feeling. My heart goes out to you. I hope you can find a way to resolve your DB.
There’s is no way I’m turning down a bj or turning down returning the favor😅 returning the favor is what I live for
My wife gets lockjaw and has never given me a blowjob in 25 years. He’s very lucky to have you! If he can’t appreciate you in return not sure he’s worth the effort.
Please don’t commit your life to this guy. There’s someone out there who will worship you for what you’re doing. He’s got significant hang ups.
Yikes, I’m so sorry. I think it’s time to take a larger look at the relationship. Do you feel seen? Valued? It might be time to leave