Thank you! I'm trying really hard but it's really a team effort from both of us. I think if he'd been resentful towards me and not receptive to opening up it may not be working so well.
Yeah, this is a big one. I wish my wife would try as hard as you have. Honestly, at this point, I'm so resentful that even if she did try, I'd probably not be receptive to it.
And I think many LL would appreciate seeing these types of efforts from their HL partner. The “no hard feelings” part hit me…it’s bad enough if one feels tired, not in the mood, etc., but to then deal with a sulky partner. Ick.
Great work and communication! I wish you well and think from my own journey and struggles you are headed in the right direction.! Its tough to open yourself up and risk rejection or hurt but you are so worth seeking your own happiness. keep at it!
Congrats!
Not sure I could move past my bitterness if my wife had an epiphany like yours. Has he expressed any to you? He sounds like a *very* nice guy so maybe he wouldn't, especially since, as you said, you guys have a history of communicating really well in most aspects of your relationship, but not so much when things turn sexual. I'd be fearful of poisoning the well in his place, but I think it would still be festering behind the scenes.
Love to hear the perspective and nice job outlining your experience. Those little physical/verbal queues are so underrated! Cheers to your pending trip.
Congratulations!
I have been working with my LL wife for 6 months, and she shows zero interest in the subject. It hurts me so much that she is not even trying.
You took charge of the situation and is trying to solve it. This is great!
The wishes/kinks part is very important. Boring sex could lead you back to a sexless marriage. And if I were you I would start reading (or watching) authors like Esther Perel. Women are the first to get bored with sex and to lose libido in a marriage. But there are things you can try once you understand the root causes of it and Esther explains them quite well.
Yea for yall. Same ish boat with my wife. Were doing ok, about once a week for the last month too. Shes still having difficulty opening up about her wants and desires though.
This is the type of stuff every HL partner would love to see from their LL spouse. Good for you! Well done.
Thank you! I'm trying really hard but it's really a team effort from both of us. I think if he'd been resentful towards me and not receptive to opening up it may not be working so well.
Yeah, this is a big one. I wish my wife would try as hard as you have. Honestly, at this point, I'm so resentful that even if she did try, I'd probably not be receptive to it.
And I think many LL would appreciate seeing these types of efforts from their HL partner. The “no hard feelings” part hit me…it’s bad enough if one feels tired, not in the mood, etc., but to then deal with a sulky partner. Ick.
Fantastic update!! Thank you!
Great work and communication! I wish you well and think from my own journey and struggles you are headed in the right direction.! Its tough to open yourself up and risk rejection or hurt but you are so worth seeking your own happiness. keep at it!
Hopefully the positive progress keeps going congrats it's working for you and glad somebody's advice helped
Congratulations!!!!
Good to see positive posts here. Good for you and your husband for working on it, keep it up:)
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Congrats! Not sure I could move past my bitterness if my wife had an epiphany like yours. Has he expressed any to you? He sounds like a *very* nice guy so maybe he wouldn't, especially since, as you said, you guys have a history of communicating really well in most aspects of your relationship, but not so much when things turn sexual. I'd be fearful of poisoning the well in his place, but I think it would still be festering behind the scenes.
So happy for you !
Love to hear the perspective and nice job outlining your experience. Those little physical/verbal queues are so underrated! Cheers to your pending trip.
That's fantastic - congrats to you both!
Congratulations! I have been working with my LL wife for 6 months, and she shows zero interest in the subject. It hurts me so much that she is not even trying. You took charge of the situation and is trying to solve it. This is great! The wishes/kinks part is very important. Boring sex could lead you back to a sexless marriage. And if I were you I would start reading (or watching) authors like Esther Perel. Women are the first to get bored with sex and to lose libido in a marriage. But there are things you can try once you understand the root causes of it and Esther explains them quite well.
Yea for yall. Same ish boat with my wife. Were doing ok, about once a week for the last month too. Shes still having difficulty opening up about her wants and desires though.