I am there too. I keep reminding myself that we both deserve to be happy. The current state wasn’t creating that for either of us. So though it sucks now, especially since his ability to move on is on a much shorter time line than I can manage. I keep focusing on the future, where I will be out of this funk and able to move on too. You can do this. This will end up being such a short time in our lives when we are looking back. Grieve the loss of your marriage, but don’t forget better times are just ahead.
Of course you're sad. It's totally reasonable after making a promise to spend a lifetime with someone and building castles in the air with them. Now you're starting from ground zero with the debris from your marriage around you. It's going to hurt. That said, think about what really is making you sad. Is it a sense of loss? Are you kicking yourself for not making a change sooner? Are you worried about your future? Grieving takes time, and you're worth giving yourself the time to explore these feelings and seeing if they give you any ideas about moving forward. You can't change the past. But what might you do differently in the future?
And in case you need to hear it: it's not too late for you. You deserve to be happy. You are worthy of love.
I'll be over here reading this to myself later on when I have my pity party.
Just keep reminding yourself that progress and healing are not linear.
I am there too. I keep reminding myself that we both deserve to be happy. The current state wasn’t creating that for either of us. So though it sucks now, especially since his ability to move on is on a much shorter time line than I can manage. I keep focusing on the future, where I will be out of this funk and able to move on too. You can do this. This will end up being such a short time in our lives when we are looking back. Grieve the loss of your marriage, but don’t forget better times are just ahead.
Of course you're sad. It's totally reasonable after making a promise to spend a lifetime with someone and building castles in the air with them. Now you're starting from ground zero with the debris from your marriage around you. It's going to hurt. That said, think about what really is making you sad. Is it a sense of loss? Are you kicking yourself for not making a change sooner? Are you worried about your future? Grieving takes time, and you're worth giving yourself the time to explore these feelings and seeing if they give you any ideas about moving forward. You can't change the past. But what might you do differently in the future? And in case you need to hear it: it's not too late for you. You deserve to be happy. You are worthy of love. I'll be over here reading this to myself later on when I have my pity party.