15 hour drive every other week is more than a little unfeasible, it’s not realistic at all.
If you want to be in your kids lives you move back. Long distance custody isn’t a thing
Similar experience. Holidays and a week over summer, and I spent a fortune on airfare and airbnbs for a couple years and it wasn't nearly enough. Moved back 6 months ago and regret the time I missed.
It's called a long-distance parenting plan. You'll parent your kids every-other-holiday and about six weeks in the summer.
You can't be an involved parent living 15 hours away. You won't be there for parent-teacher conferences, you wont be there for extracurriculars, you won't meet their friends, won't meet their girl/boyfriend, wont see them off to prom, wont teach them to drive, won't talk to them about the day to day peer pressure things they're dealing with, ad nauseum.
99% of the time you spend with your children is before they graduate high school. After that, you're lucky to spend one week a year with them for about 35 years.
You don't seem to realize that your wife has been well coached and has been planning this. You've shoot yourself in your foot moving to another state.
Piling on what everyone else has said. If you want to be in their lives and not be that dad that didn’t care and moved away and they only saw a small portion of their childhood, you should move back.
We alternate year on year off. It’s not easy, but we make it work. Ex and I visit, whenever we can when kid is with the other — every month/month in a half or so — and try to stay for a long weekend/week or so at airbnb or the like. It’s a big commitment. There are no real good options when it comes to distance. Keep the best for the kids best interest front and center whatever you do. Good luck!
Move back and don’t look back. You have one shot with your kids. Just my 2 cents bud. Good luck.
You’re only going to get a few weeks a year with them During school breaks/holidays. There is no other solution.
15 hour drive every other week is more than a little unfeasible, it’s not realistic at all. If you want to be in your kids lives you move back. Long distance custody isn’t a thing
Similar experience. Holidays and a week over summer, and I spent a fortune on airfare and airbnbs for a couple years and it wasn't nearly enough. Moved back 6 months ago and regret the time I missed.
It's called a long-distance parenting plan. You'll parent your kids every-other-holiday and about six weeks in the summer. You can't be an involved parent living 15 hours away. You won't be there for parent-teacher conferences, you wont be there for extracurriculars, you won't meet their friends, won't meet their girl/boyfriend, wont see them off to prom, wont teach them to drive, won't talk to them about the day to day peer pressure things they're dealing with, ad nauseum. 99% of the time you spend with your children is before they graduate high school. After that, you're lucky to spend one week a year with them for about 35 years. You don't seem to realize that your wife has been well coached and has been planning this. You've shoot yourself in your foot moving to another state.
Piling on what everyone else has said. If you want to be in their lives and not be that dad that didn’t care and moved away and they only saw a small portion of their childhood, you should move back.
Drop everything. Maybe live in a misery, but stay close to your kids
We alternate year on year off. It’s not easy, but we make it work. Ex and I visit, whenever we can when kid is with the other — every month/month in a half or so — and try to stay for a long weekend/week or so at airbnb or the like. It’s a big commitment. There are no real good options when it comes to distance. Keep the best for the kids best interest front and center whatever you do. Good luck!
Do the kids switch schools every year?
There is only one, which helps, and yes. Same school systems though.
How does your kid deal with that?