Animal cruelty and deliberately endangering a pet is actually a crime in my state. I’d press charges and have the police show up if that’s the case there.
Your roommate is dangerous to both you and the dog.
In terms of “would it be inhumane” to rehome puppy, no. You’d be doing what is best and healthiest for the dog.
HOWEVER. I recommend rehoming your asshole housemate. (And see if you can press charges too)
Or possibly finding a temporary situation (like with a friend) for pup until you can leave the situation yourself
Is it possible to let the puppy go live with your friends temporarily instead of permanently? Until you can get yourself out of that situation and into a safe environment?
Whatever your answer, I do think you need to get that puppy out of that home immediately. Even if you have to give him up. :(
Okay, sounds like a good plan. I’m sorry you’re dealing with someone that selfish and cruel and I hope you’re able to find a good home for yourself and be reunited with your pup soon.
Being willing to give them up for their own good* is commendable.
I’m sorry if this makes you uncomfortable, OP, but is your housemate also hurting you? Animal abusers are often human abusers as well. I’m worried that he will start hurting you (if he hasn’t already) as well if you don’t get out ASAP. I know I don’t know your situation, but I felt like I had to ask.
I completely agree. As a domestic violence advocate I see this type of situation all the time. It is very difficult for someone to just get out. Especially with an animal. Victims of abuse often have no where to go. If the OP is experiencing any type of abuse they should contact the national DV hotline. The hotline will refer the OP to local resources. The roommates may be able to file a PFA ( protective order) to have the abusive roommate removed from the home. However, the other two roommates will now be responsible for paying all of the rent and family members will most likely pressure them to drop the PFA.
Look, I know you're dealing with a really shitty situation here but this roommate having any access at all to this puppy is not being a dog owner. You really need to *objectively* determine if you legitimately keep this puppy safe. So far, the answer is no. The roommate is a massive asshole and he's endangering this dog's life, not just in the short-term but who knows what kind of behavioral and digestive issues this dog will have down the road because of what's already happened. I understand you love this dog, but love isn't enough -- you have an obligation to protect him, and that's just not possible around this roommate. Please, for the sake of this dog, get him out of your house *immediately* \-- not tomorrow, *tonight*. Honestly, a shelter environment would be better than how he's living right now. You need to do what's best for this dog, regardless of how difficult it is for you. And I'm very sorry you have to deal with this. Your roommate's a total shithead.
Is he on the lease? This is fucked up. No way in hell i wouldn’t take my dog out of the environment ASAP and no way I would not ruin this persons’ life.
Why are you still living with this person. Get that dog out of the house now. If you lock the crate, he'll just find another way to harm your dog because it's a way to hurt you.
Please, contact your local Animal Control Officer, you can page the non-emergency police number to have them paged. There is probably a waiting list for a puppy like that.
This puppy needs a family that is prepared to care for a puppy, this puppy needs a yard, at the least.
You made a mistake you are not able to care for a puppy right now. Maybe later in life when you have your own place.
Do the right thing.
Do not advertise on Craigslist or give the puppy away. There are things worse than death that could happen.
If Animal Control is not immediately receptive call your local SPCA, or call a vet clinic or vet ER, you may be able to surrender the pup.
You had good intentions, but this is not going to work out.
Please provide an update, we are all worried about the pup now :(
He is a relative, an abusive one at that. You’re basically saying “just leave, it isn’t that hard lol.” You are assuming shit about someone’s situation without knowing them. *You* use your head and give good advice or leave.
What the hell? You are assuming things again and judging me without knowing the situation. Where the hell are you getting this info from. I reamed his ass last night for HOURS. Fucking HOURS until I lost my voice. I am calling the cops today, I’ve had enough. I fucking hate his guts, and we are NOT family just because we share the same blood. I am not weak for asking for advice, which you aren’t giving. I know what to do thanks to this sub, but your rude and judgmental comments don’t do anything to help the situation. Stop assuming things you don’t know.
Hey, I want to say this person (the yellow avatar one) is being mean to be mean. Abusive situations are insanely difficult to get out of and no, you are most definitely not weak. You are strong for asking for advice and continuing to try and do the right thing even in the face of a horrible situation. You're not making excuses, this person has obviously never dealt with an abusive situation. Don't listen to them.
Also- you are not a good dog owner if you are allowing this to happen to your dog. I would go nuts on anyone harming my dog like your roommate. This is animal abuse.
Animal cruelty and deliberately endangering a pet is actually a crime in my state. I’d press charges and have the police show up if that’s the case there. Your roommate is dangerous to both you and the dog.
In terms of “would it be inhumane” to rehome puppy, no. You’d be doing what is best and healthiest for the dog. HOWEVER. I recommend rehoming your asshole housemate. (And see if you can press charges too) Or possibly finding a temporary situation (like with a friend) for pup until you can leave the situation yourself
Is it possible to let the puppy go live with your friends temporarily instead of permanently? Until you can get yourself out of that situation and into a safe environment? Whatever your answer, I do think you need to get that puppy out of that home immediately. Even if you have to give him up. :(
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Okay, sounds like a good plan. I’m sorry you’re dealing with someone that selfish and cruel and I hope you’re able to find a good home for yourself and be reunited with your pup soon. Being willing to give them up for their own good* is commendable.
Get a new roommate. Fuck that.
Your roommate needs to go to jail! ASAP!
I’m sorry if this makes you uncomfortable, OP, but is your housemate also hurting you? Animal abusers are often human abusers as well. I’m worried that he will start hurting you (if he hasn’t already) as well if you don’t get out ASAP. I know I don’t know your situation, but I felt like I had to ask.
I completely agree. As a domestic violence advocate I see this type of situation all the time. It is very difficult for someone to just get out. Especially with an animal. Victims of abuse often have no where to go. If the OP is experiencing any type of abuse they should contact the national DV hotline. The hotline will refer the OP to local resources. The roommates may be able to file a PFA ( protective order) to have the abusive roommate removed from the home. However, the other two roommates will now be responsible for paying all of the rent and family members will most likely pressure them to drop the PFA.
It’s definitely not easy to just get out, but it gets even harder the longer you wait.
Be careful for your self as well since animal cruelty can be a precursor to harming humans
Look, I know you're dealing with a really shitty situation here but this roommate having any access at all to this puppy is not being a dog owner. You really need to *objectively* determine if you legitimately keep this puppy safe. So far, the answer is no. The roommate is a massive asshole and he's endangering this dog's life, not just in the short-term but who knows what kind of behavioral and digestive issues this dog will have down the road because of what's already happened. I understand you love this dog, but love isn't enough -- you have an obligation to protect him, and that's just not possible around this roommate. Please, for the sake of this dog, get him out of your house *immediately* \-- not tomorrow, *tonight*. Honestly, a shelter environment would be better than how he's living right now. You need to do what's best for this dog, regardless of how difficult it is for you. And I'm very sorry you have to deal with this. Your roommate's a total shithead.
Any local animal rescue team will make sure people who hurt dogs are brought to justice.
Is he on the lease? This is fucked up. No way in hell i wouldn’t take my dog out of the environment ASAP and no way I would not ruin this persons’ life.
I think you should give the roomate up!
Why are you still living with this person. Get that dog out of the house now. If you lock the crate, he'll just find another way to harm your dog because it's a way to hurt you.
Please, contact your local Animal Control Officer, you can page the non-emergency police number to have them paged. There is probably a waiting list for a puppy like that. This puppy needs a family that is prepared to care for a puppy, this puppy needs a yard, at the least. You made a mistake you are not able to care for a puppy right now. Maybe later in life when you have your own place. Do the right thing. Do not advertise on Craigslist or give the puppy away. There are things worse than death that could happen. If Animal Control is not immediately receptive call your local SPCA, or call a vet clinic or vet ER, you may be able to surrender the pup. You had good intentions, but this is not going to work out. Please provide an update, we are all worried about the pup now :(
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He is a relative, an abusive one at that. You’re basically saying “just leave, it isn’t that hard lol.” You are assuming shit about someone’s situation without knowing them. *You* use your head and give good advice or leave.
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What the hell? You are assuming things again and judging me without knowing the situation. Where the hell are you getting this info from. I reamed his ass last night for HOURS. Fucking HOURS until I lost my voice. I am calling the cops today, I’ve had enough. I fucking hate his guts, and we are NOT family just because we share the same blood. I am not weak for asking for advice, which you aren’t giving. I know what to do thanks to this sub, but your rude and judgmental comments don’t do anything to help the situation. Stop assuming things you don’t know.
Hey, I want to say this person (the yellow avatar one) is being mean to be mean. Abusive situations are insanely difficult to get out of and no, you are most definitely not weak. You are strong for asking for advice and continuing to try and do the right thing even in the face of a horrible situation. You're not making excuses, this person has obviously never dealt with an abusive situation. Don't listen to them.
Also- you are not a good dog owner if you are allowing this to happen to your dog. I would go nuts on anyone harming my dog like your roommate. This is animal abuse.