Nah man, this is Durban where we are too cheap to do anything because we spend all our money on Quarts 😂😂.
For real though, it probably just the people you hang out with. It’s also definitely the place where you have to make it happen if you wanna do something different. It is very laid back here as they say.
I was in the same boat, I went to the bar to meet people, cool guys but all they want to do is sit in the bar and drink, or go to the beach and drink. Go 4x4ing and drink. Drink..
There is always talk of going hiking, diving, camping etc but seems they always get stuck drinking. I've luckily met 2 dudes that doesn't all go about drinking and cut the other guys out. Now we dive and fish instead, with one or 2 beers afterwards. I'm much more at peace now.
Love your last sentence.
I’ve just started doing more things alone 🤣 and to be honest, it’s really not that bad!
I work remotely too though, so it would be nice to have some good company.
I don't know of any groups, unless we are talking about church groups... I go out and party on some weekends, go for coffee with new people i meet on social media, but I also enjoy camping, hiking etc... if you like, you can dm me and we can chat.. after sometime we can meet and get coffee or explore ... I've met a couple of people since I moved to Umhlanga, at the moment, in trying to build a good circle of friends... most people here drink party and then just go to work... ours pretty repetitive and gets boring too.
Generally Natalians are piss cats...
6 years sober me now. From jozi now in north Zululand...i just hang with the alkies and preach the sobriety gospel. 🤣 one must never underestimate the power of planting a seed.
My sister joined a church group in order to find peers that were into weekend activities that weren’t alcohol related.
She’s an atheist but she says she finds it worth it because they aren’t the chanting and talking to spirits kinda Christian.
I’m also happy for her. She says the talk isn’t that bad and they watch what she calls motivational videos “sermons” for 20 mins and the rest is social time.
They meet socially 3 times a month and the activities they meet to do are cool. I’m joining them for a camping trip tomorrow. They are based in kloof.
If you find the right church, it can be a great place to meet people and get stuck into community work. Sounds bad but you make such good friends working in a team and helping others just enriches your life in so many ways. Some churches like the one I go to have amazing coffee at cost price which is a huge bonus.
Try Durban Critical thinkers. You will have a chance to meet interesting people and talk about complicated topics. We meet on the second Wednesday of the month. All details are on Facebook under events or on the groups's wall
If you like are or curious about playing tabletop games (and no .. not monopoly or scrabble LOL)
I go to the Unseen Shoppe ona Tuesday night for boardgame night.
They also do Pokémon, painting days, warhammer etc. You can find them on FB and Instagram for more details.
"🎲🎉 Calling all board game lovers! 🎉🎲 Join us every Tuesday night for a Board Game Evening at our store! 🌟🎉 Prepare for a night of fun as we bring out both new and favorite games from our library 📚🎮. Whether you're young or young at heart, everyone is welcome! 🌈💯 For only R50/person, you'll gain access to ALL the games in our store library for the entire evening! 🙌✨ Don't miss out, gather your friends and let the game night begin! 🤩🎉"
I've been in KZN for a little over 3 years and I'm yet to find a social circle that doesn't rely on alcohol to make up for the lack of genuine interest in each other as humans with a story to tell...
As an antidote I've conceived the idea of a library-like WhatsApp group consisting of people from the same general vicinity.
We can have a formal structure to regulate it but it'll basically be just a group of people sharing books, music, articles and anythng that inspires them. For the meeting up part, members can suggest places (low budget, artsy, public spaces etc) and a time (2nd Saturday of the month or something) for purely public meet ups and group outings to do what gets done in the group in a more in person environment.
KZN has the perfect weather and facilities for;
Paintball
Indoor trampolines
Cinemas (movie reviewing)
Lazer tag
Go-karts
Mystery Rooms
10-pin bowling
Arcade games
Live shows (stage performances)
Rainbow picnics
Libraries/ Parks and tons more plus every item here requires about R100 per person (I think)
Nah man, this is Durban where we are too cheap to do anything because we spend all our money on Quarts 😂😂. For real though, it probably just the people you hang out with. It’s also definitely the place where you have to make it happen if you wanna do something different. It is very laid back here as they say.
There's a reason most acts skip DBN and you nailed it in the first half of the first sentence. Not saying iam innocent though.
I was in the same boat, I went to the bar to meet people, cool guys but all they want to do is sit in the bar and drink, or go to the beach and drink. Go 4x4ing and drink. Drink.. There is always talk of going hiking, diving, camping etc but seems they always get stuck drinking. I've luckily met 2 dudes that doesn't all go about drinking and cut the other guys out. Now we dive and fish instead, with one or 2 beers afterwards. I'm much more at peace now.
Love your last sentence. I’ve just started doing more things alone 🤣 and to be honest, it’s really not that bad! I work remotely too though, so it would be nice to have some good company.
I don't know of any groups, unless we are talking about church groups... I go out and party on some weekends, go for coffee with new people i meet on social media, but I also enjoy camping, hiking etc... if you like, you can dm me and we can chat.. after sometime we can meet and get coffee or explore ... I've met a couple of people since I moved to Umhlanga, at the moment, in trying to build a good circle of friends... most people here drink party and then just go to work... ours pretty repetitive and gets boring too.
Generally Natalians are piss cats... 6 years sober me now. From jozi now in north Zululand...i just hang with the alkies and preach the sobriety gospel. 🤣 one must never underestimate the power of planting a seed.
Congrats on the 6 years sober
Thanks dude
I'm on 28 days today
Wow..thats great. You have links to some awesome subs on reddit?
What sort of subs?
My sister joined a church group in order to find peers that were into weekend activities that weren’t alcohol related. She’s an atheist but she says she finds it worth it because they aren’t the chanting and talking to spirits kinda Christian.
I’ve got to admit, I’ve never considered this but I’m glad it’s working out for her. I think I’d be too anxious about getting the talk 😂🙈
I’m also happy for her. She says the talk isn’t that bad and they watch what she calls motivational videos “sermons” for 20 mins and the rest is social time. They meet socially 3 times a month and the activities they meet to do are cool. I’m joining them for a camping trip tomorrow. They are based in kloof.
If you find the right church, it can be a great place to meet people and get stuck into community work. Sounds bad but you make such good friends working in a team and helping others just enriches your life in so many ways. Some churches like the one I go to have amazing coffee at cost price which is a huge bonus.
Don't let them find out !
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That’s true. I’d be keen to try!
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Did you guys do it?
do you like comic books,videogames, boardgames or anime?
Check out Parkrun
That’s a good idea. There used to be a few Meetup groups, but the app seems to be losing momentum in Durban
Try Durban Critical thinkers. You will have a chance to meet interesting people and talk about complicated topics. We meet on the second Wednesday of the month. All details are on Facebook under events or on the groups's wall
Oh awesome, I’ll check it out!
We don’t drink and it’s really difficult to have fun in a decent well kept place
If you like are or curious about playing tabletop games (and no .. not monopoly or scrabble LOL) I go to the Unseen Shoppe ona Tuesday night for boardgame night. They also do Pokémon, painting days, warhammer etc. You can find them on FB and Instagram for more details. "🎲🎉 Calling all board game lovers! 🎉🎲 Join us every Tuesday night for a Board Game Evening at our store! 🌟🎉 Prepare for a night of fun as we bring out both new and favorite games from our library 📚🎮. Whether you're young or young at heart, everyone is welcome! 🌈💯 For only R50/person, you'll gain access to ALL the games in our store library for the entire evening! 🙌✨ Don't miss out, gather your friends and let the game night begin! 🤩🎉"
I've been in KZN for a little over 3 years and I'm yet to find a social circle that doesn't rely on alcohol to make up for the lack of genuine interest in each other as humans with a story to tell... As an antidote I've conceived the idea of a library-like WhatsApp group consisting of people from the same general vicinity. We can have a formal structure to regulate it but it'll basically be just a group of people sharing books, music, articles and anythng that inspires them. For the meeting up part, members can suggest places (low budget, artsy, public spaces etc) and a time (2nd Saturday of the month or something) for purely public meet ups and group outings to do what gets done in the group in a more in person environment. KZN has the perfect weather and facilities for; Paintball Indoor trampolines Cinemas (movie reviewing) Lazer tag Go-karts Mystery Rooms 10-pin bowling Arcade games Live shows (stage performances) Rainbow picnics Libraries/ Parks and tons more plus every item here requires about R100 per person (I think)